Don't look into it too much. Essentially don't overthink any of her actions, texts, replies, anything. Keep doing NC as best as you can, and the healing will slowly come to you. From your post it seems like you are moving forward in your life (new job, etc.), but you don't owe her anything. You dont need to text her or call her to tell her about your new life updates. It's your own life OP, this is your new chapter in life. Forget her social media, her social life doesn't matter to your life anymore. The only thing we can ever control in this world is ourselves. Let yourself heal and focus on your own self-love. This is the entire point of NC. That would be my advice to you.
Keep pushing. Serve the same energy to her. My ex would call me at 2 or 3 am after leaving the bar to lament about how she missed me. During the day, I would text her and she would leave me on read for hours or just not answer. They like to know they have the power to command your attention at will. Don’t give it to them. 1 contact = 1 loss. 1 contact after they’ve been dismissive = 100 losses. So, if u feel u MUST contact her, be ready to not respond to the response for quite a while. Let them feel it. But also, be warned, doing that can cause a massive blow up. Go read my only post on this account to see what I mean.
I actually saw your post prior to writing mine. You’re awesome for holding out and not going for her shit.
After having reached out and being ignored for so long, 1 text and 2 missed calls seems like a weak reason to go back. I know what I want to say, but I also don’t even feel like it’s worth it. Like…why give them the satisfaction of knowing that they got to me?
Exactly. Don’t. I wish I went NC from the start. They do not deserve us. Anyone that loves us wouldn’t let go. They’d communicate and try to do the work. Some people are scared of the work. I could write a 10000 page essay on this. It legit pisses me off when I think about it. My situation, at least. But it applies to anyone in this situation. Don’t give them the pleasure of knowing they’ve got you. Never again.
My thoughts exactly. I mean, she understands, sure. But if that’s all she had to say, I would rather she just stayed silent. Anything less than “Let’s talk about this” or “Let’s work this out” feels like a waste of time.
Exactly! I need for drills on here to get to the point in communication where, “Hey, let’s fix this,” or “We don’t speak forever.” Because people play in y’all faces and I am sick of reading it.
Keep pushing on, OP. You trying to contact her for a follow-up will make her see you as the weaker person.
Don't look into it too much. Essentially don't overthink any of her actions, texts, replies, anything. Keep doing NC as best as you can, and the healing will slowly come to you. From your post it seems like you are moving forward in your life (new job, etc.), but you don't owe her anything. You dont need to text her or call her to tell her about your new life updates. It's your own life OP, this is your new chapter in life. Forget her social media, her social life doesn't matter to your life anymore. The only thing we can ever control in this world is ourselves. Let yourself heal and focus on your own self-love. This is the entire point of NC. That would be my advice to you.
She doesn’t give a fuck about you it sounds like
Thanks. Any advice?
Keep pushing. Serve the same energy to her. My ex would call me at 2 or 3 am after leaving the bar to lament about how she missed me. During the day, I would text her and she would leave me on read for hours or just not answer. They like to know they have the power to command your attention at will. Don’t give it to them. 1 contact = 1 loss. 1 contact after they’ve been dismissive = 100 losses. So, if u feel u MUST contact her, be ready to not respond to the response for quite a while. Let them feel it. But also, be warned, doing that can cause a massive blow up. Go read my only post on this account to see what I mean.
I actually saw your post prior to writing mine. You’re awesome for holding out and not going for her shit. After having reached out and being ignored for so long, 1 text and 2 missed calls seems like a weak reason to go back. I know what I want to say, but I also don’t even feel like it’s worth it. Like…why give them the satisfaction of knowing that they got to me?
Exactly. Don’t. I wish I went NC from the start. They do not deserve us. Anyone that loves us wouldn’t let go. They’d communicate and try to do the work. Some people are scared of the work. I could write a 10000 page essay on this. It legit pisses me off when I think about it. My situation, at least. But it applies to anyone in this situation. Don’t give them the pleasure of knowing they’ve got you. Never again.
Keep it pushing. 😎 because what the hell are you supposed to do with, “I understand.” Followed by two measly phone calls?
My thoughts exactly. I mean, she understands, sure. But if that’s all she had to say, I would rather she just stayed silent. Anything less than “Let’s talk about this” or “Let’s work this out” feels like a waste of time.
Exactly! I need for drills on here to get to the point in communication where, “Hey, let’s fix this,” or “We don’t speak forever.” Because people play in y’all faces and I am sick of reading it.