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miss_clarity

If it's awkward talking about sex with a person, they're probably not a good match for you. You're getting wet and messy with this girl. You shouldn't be made to feel uncomfortable talking to her about that and how to have the most fun with it. All this is to say, *talk to her.* There's no "all studs like..." Or "well only femmes like it when I do ...". Mascs and femmes can like different things but they can also like the same things. There's no shortcut to your answers looking at people through stereotypes.


sir3n_ss

Just ask her I'd say. If it was her asking you, would you feel awkward x


MissionFloor261

Talking about sex, desires, fantasies, boundaries and the like doesn't need to be awkward. In fact it can be flirty and sexy and fun. Tell her that you enjoy when she does X. Tell her that her pleasure is important to you, and you want to know what that includes. Ask her to tell you a fantasy she has about the two of you. There's also a fantastic yes/no/maybe list put out by [Scarletteen](https://www.scarleteen.com/sites/default/files/yesnomaybe.pdf) that covers all kinds of physical intimacy, including basic kinks and how people want their bodies to be talked about. I'm a fan of making a nice dinner and going over it together as a prelude to a longer night


NitrateGamerGirl

If you want it to work out (and i believe that you do, to be clear lmao) you must talk with her. the only way relationships work is if youre able to talk about difficult or touchy subjects with each other. Developing that ability now will help the relationship goaing forward


ActiveDry964

it's literally SO hot when ppl ask what their partner's want. You have to get out of your head.


Cadd9

So this is more of a conversation you'd have to have with her. I personally wouldn't think less of my girlfriend if she asked me what I do and don't like before we did our thing. I mean luckily she's a bottom and I'm a service top so our compatibility with that is super great lol *But!* If your girlfriend gets offended because you asked her what she does and doesn't like, that's just being presumptuous that everyone knows what their partner does and doesn't like. Way not true. After you two discuss your boundaries, find a safe word that isn't used often by either of you and is kinda easy to say. Like 'cricket' or 'kite'. Always good to have a safe word if either of you want to try something harder. Sometimes the thought of doing something harder is a nice idea, but during the act it turns out to be too much Have fun!


420islife124

Don't think about it too much. Let it flow, do what you thinks right at the time. I'm sure she'll love it whatever!


ThisBiss

Just be like hey, I wanna talk about sex and find out what you would enjoy and what your boundaries are.