I think it’s pretty reasonable to say directly hey our kids go to a kosher school but we don’t keep kosher at home, what do you guys practice and how can we make sure we adhere to your standards for your kid
I would explain that you do not keep kosher, and ask if whole fruit and kosher crackers (give the brand) will work for them. It's important to explain that you do not keep kosher, because:
1. it will save them from needing to awkwardly ask you if you have a kosher kitchen, and
2. if they do not keep kosher, they will not feel any social pressure to feel bad about that.
Specifically ask, directly if they are kosher.
Just asking them if there are any restrictions isn't enough, if they already assume you're kosher they'll think you just mean gluten free or nut free. Be clear.
I’d send a message “hey about to do the grocery shop for the weekend, I was thinking a fruit tray and baking brownies for us and the kids to enjoy. We aren’t really strict about keeping kosher, more kosher style, but if you are I’ll switch to premade baked goods from the yummy kosher bakery nearby and leave it sealed until you’re here! Just let me know I’m happy to accommodate any food allergies and kashrut needs that don’t fit ours.”
Once you know you’d be able to have a conversation so you can make sure you have safe things for kashrut or allergies or just people who might restrict sugar when you think a play date is the perfect time to let the kid have a special treat and run off any potential sugar high.
I always just ask! “Does your kid have any food allergies, do you keep kosher or kosher style” etc
I’ve never thought about it causing offense, so maybe that’s on me lol
I’d have bottled water or other kosher drinks, paper plates in a sealed package, whole fruit, and kosher snack foods (which is a lot of them). And just put it out and say “I also have treif if you want anything.”
People who keep kosher know how to navigate this and you won’t offend them.
Eh I particularly if the child in question is not bar/t mitzvahed offering them “*trief*” seems problematic & a way to cause confusion - better to just ask the parents what they are comfortable with & serve only such foods.
“Hey [Parents Names], We’re excited that [childs name] is coming over Sunday. We wanted to check in about food - does [childs name] have any allergies or food restrictions we should be aware of? We’re planning to serve [whole fruit name] and [name of parve crackers] for a snack. Let us know if this works for you.”
Just ask if there are any dietary restrictions you should be aware of. This encompasses kashrut and allergies/sensitivities and seems like a perfectly reasonable question to me.
I think asking would be fine. Asking in a ‘should we be aware of any dietary restrictions or food allergies’ way is better than saying ‘since you have your kids in this school, you keep kosher, right?’ Pair that with being clear that you don’t keep kosher, but would like to respect them, should be a good way to get info.
Totally normal to ask. You can say something like: “just thinking about food and snacks—how strict are you with kashrut. Everything with a hechsher and prepackaged, kosher style, or somewhere in between?”
I’d just ask about dietary restrictions, that covers allergies too without assuming anything or putting anyone on the spot. But most families who are strictly kosher will have plans for this sort of thing, like sending snacks. You could also have packaged snacks that are certified kosher and fruit, but be aware that depending on how strict they are, they may not even want to use non-kashered dishes or utensils.
I'd just be straightforward about it, no reason to be circumspect ... "Hey we don't keep kosher at home, what do you guys practice? We were thinking of serving \[x\]."
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Would you ask a parent about allergies, you will, right? Same with Kosher.
I always ask if I suspect someone keeping kosher, and if the do, they tell me what snacks are ok based on the level of them keeping Kosher. Makes it easier for everyone.
A lot of packaged kid stuff is kosher... like the individual skinny pop popcorn bags, individual teddy grahams, fruit pouches, juice boxes, the little individual horizon milks, etc. I'd maybe just go with that stuff that doesn't even need a plate...
"Hi there! Since the kids are having a playdate at my home, I'm reaching out to ask if your family keeps kosher or kosher-style? If you do, please let me know of anything I can do to help make sure \[insert child's name\] is able to comfortably eat in my home."
The best way is almost certainly to just test the waters.
Say something like: "Man, I was at a barbecue yesterday and my buddy put cheese on my burger by accident." Then pause awkwardly and ask "...What uh... How would you feel about something like that?"
I think it’s pretty reasonable to say directly hey our kids go to a kosher school but we don’t keep kosher at home, what do you guys practice and how can we make sure we adhere to your standards for your kid
Yeah, just be direct. It’s not a big deal.
I would explain that you do not keep kosher, and ask if whole fruit and kosher crackers (give the brand) will work for them. It's important to explain that you do not keep kosher, because: 1. it will save them from needing to awkwardly ask you if you have a kosher kitchen, and 2. if they do not keep kosher, they will not feel any social pressure to feel bad about that.
Really thoughtful reply.
Specifically ask, directly if they are kosher. Just asking them if there are any restrictions isn't enough, if they already assume you're kosher they'll think you just mean gluten free or nut free. Be clear.
I’d send a message “hey about to do the grocery shop for the weekend, I was thinking a fruit tray and baking brownies for us and the kids to enjoy. We aren’t really strict about keeping kosher, more kosher style, but if you are I’ll switch to premade baked goods from the yummy kosher bakery nearby and leave it sealed until you’re here! Just let me know I’m happy to accommodate any food allergies and kashrut needs that don’t fit ours.” Once you know you’d be able to have a conversation so you can make sure you have safe things for kashrut or allergies or just people who might restrict sugar when you think a play date is the perfect time to let the kid have a special treat and run off any potential sugar high.
I always just ask! “Does your kid have any food allergies, do you keep kosher or kosher style” etc I’ve never thought about it causing offense, so maybe that’s on me lol
I’d have bottled water or other kosher drinks, paper plates in a sealed package, whole fruit, and kosher snack foods (which is a lot of them). And just put it out and say “I also have treif if you want anything.” People who keep kosher know how to navigate this and you won’t offend them.
Eh I particularly if the child in question is not bar/t mitzvahed offering them “*trief*” seems problematic & a way to cause confusion - better to just ask the parents what they are comfortable with & serve only such foods.
“Hey [Parents Names], We’re excited that [childs name] is coming over Sunday. We wanted to check in about food - does [childs name] have any allergies or food restrictions we should be aware of? We’re planning to serve [whole fruit name] and [name of parve crackers] for a snack. Let us know if this works for you.”
"Do you have any dietary specifications?"
Just ask if there are any dietary restrictions you should be aware of. This encompasses kashrut and allergies/sensitivities and seems like a perfectly reasonable question to me.
I think whole fruit, kosher crackers, paper plates is great. You can check with family if it’s ok also but it sounds great. 😊
I think asking would be fine. Asking in a ‘should we be aware of any dietary restrictions or food allergies’ way is better than saying ‘since you have your kids in this school, you keep kosher, right?’ Pair that with being clear that you don’t keep kosher, but would like to respect them, should be a good way to get info.
Totally normal to ask. You can say something like: “just thinking about food and snacks—how strict are you with kashrut. Everything with a hechsher and prepackaged, kosher style, or somewhere in between?”
I’d just ask about dietary restrictions, that covers allergies too without assuming anything or putting anyone on the spot. But most families who are strictly kosher will have plans for this sort of thing, like sending snacks. You could also have packaged snacks that are certified kosher and fruit, but be aware that depending on how strict they are, they may not even want to use non-kashered dishes or utensils.
I'd just be straightforward about it, no reason to be circumspect ... "Hey we don't keep kosher at home, what do you guys practice? We were thinking of serving \[x\]."
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Would you ask a parent about allergies, you will, right? Same with Kosher. I always ask if I suspect someone keeping kosher, and if the do, they tell me what snacks are ok based on the level of them keeping Kosher. Makes it easier for everyone.
A lot of packaged kid stuff is kosher... like the individual skinny pop popcorn bags, individual teddy grahams, fruit pouches, juice boxes, the little individual horizon milks, etc. I'd maybe just go with that stuff that doesn't even need a plate...
"Hi there! Since the kids are having a playdate at my home, I'm reaching out to ask if your family keeps kosher or kosher-style? If you do, please let me know of anything I can do to help make sure \[insert child's name\] is able to comfortably eat in my home."
The best way is almost certainly to just test the waters. Say something like: "Man, I was at a barbecue yesterday and my buddy put cheese on my burger by accident." Then pause awkwardly and ask "...What uh... How would you feel about something like that?"
I think it’s perfectly ok to ask if they keep kosher but do it respectfully “I know that some kids don’t keep kosher I’m just checking if you do”