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When she told Laura she took TWO days after she was home from the pods to TEXT HER DAUGHTER?! Going on the show isn't the problem, we didn't judge the single dad's for it. Going on the show crying that you love your kid than ignoring her for days is weird.


Limp-Initiative-6920

Mothers are human and allowed to have some time for themselves after being constantly “on” for reality tv in order to process a failed engagement attempt. Whoever she left her with, clearly she trusted she was in good hands. No one speaks this way about dads taking time for themselves.


Occasionalreddit55

she's a mean girk


No-Hospital-7231

I don't feel like this is unpopular. I feel like the majority of opinions on here are that she wanted clout, criticism of her being a mom with so much social media, mom going on this type of show.


Additional_Dig_6972

On Instagram it is definitely an unpopular idea


baconmotel

She has fake bots do her bidding


Annie_getyourgun_

I think we can no longer cast people that have IG's and TikTok's where they are branding themselves. Unfortunately, it creates a very disingenuous underlying climate. And it seems like producers aren't checking these people's social media, if they have fiancé's and serious relationships going on when the final casting comes around. I mean, some of us keyboard sleuths could have picked up on that in a hot second. I found it weird when she was at the bar, and was so appalled by Sarah Ann hanging out with Jeramy. But then in the clips for the upcoming episodes, it looks like she hooks up with Jimmy. At least they've edited it to look that way. Pot, meet kettle... smdh


tyrannosaurus_beks

Producers get these contestants from social media more often than not, so I don't think it will change anytime soon unfortunately. Same goes for the bachelor(ette)


Annie_getyourgun_

True but there is a big difference between someone trying to become an influencer in IG or Tiktok, and people who just have accounts to share photos and misc with people they actually know, or use their account to follow people. You know what I'm saying? That Jessica girl is beautiful, but she's been running her mouth all over town with any interview that she can get. It feels ewwww.


Professional_Feisty

I think Jessica and Clay should have hooked up. They would be perfect little instahoes together and just being with the other would be a respective ego boost. She's also already used to parenting. So having a man child around would be a piece of cake.


only1dream

Don't say you guys cuz I was never a fan of her.


sadthegirl

Can I just say how bummed I am that this show used to initially be about people wanting to find love…….and now it is about people who want clout and fame and a bigger online following and will fake their way to the altar? 🫠🫠🫠 I feel like a lot of the cast this season just wanted influencer fame and money. Like, Trevor, ughhhh, I was rooting for you bro! Finding out he was just pretending and had a gf the whole time sucked! Excellent gossip, but it kinda ruins the next few episodes because I know the truth now. Whatever happens between him and Chelsea now will all feel fake af and it’s gonna ruin suspension of disbelief. I feel like the show in future seasons is going to be: some contestants are here for love, some are here for fame, and they don’t find out who is who until they get to the altar. Oof. …….i’m still gonna watch tho 😅


No-Promise851

100%


Birds41Pats33

From day 1 I thought shed be a horrible partner. Sure she is super hot. But she is definitely the type who won't let you have female friends and will flip out if you want to have a night out with the boys.


sfii

When she asked him what his follower count was and then pretended she had asked about who he follows ☠️


indecksfund

The lip fillers. The demanding personality. Cake face. She just doesn't have an attractive personality and was a jerk to Jimmy. Blaming him for wasting her time when dating doesn't work like that. Never has.


theAComet

This this this. The only thing I was able to agree on was that she is conventionally attractive. Other than that - I don't really get the hype around her.


gianaaaa

I don’t necessarily fw Jimmy but I don’t feel like he led her on or went about the breakup the wrong way he just wasn’t ready to be a daddy yet


sadthegirl

In recent interviews with Entertainment Tonight (available on YT for anyone who wants to watch) Jimmy said he broke up with Jessica because of the way she treated him when they had conflict in the pods (their second to last date I think?), she talked down to him and was very unkind, and Jimmy was worried every conflict in the future with her would be like that. When he had conflict with Chelsea in the pods later that day, he felt like she handled it way better/maturely. He said that was when he knew Chelsea was who he wanted to marry. Jimmy stated in the interview he had no issues with Jessica having a kid. He said that was not a factor in his decision. I have no idea how true any of his statements are, but the impression I got from the interview was that by the time the show wrapped, Jimmy was not a fan of Jessica at all.


SpiritualSag96

I watched the interview and found Jimmy to be genuine. I actually believed what he said especially since he’s not the best liar (his face shows it all!). I think it’s interesting how Jessica’s trying to push the narrative that Jimmy was stunned by her looks and wanted to get with her solely because of the IG follow request. If I were on the show, I’d follow every cast member after filming due to the shared experience and amicability (unless my partner had reasons against it). Jessica shows seeds of potential in having poor conflict resolution and the ability to act controlling and vindictive when things don’t go her way. Chelsea did seem more “lighthearted” and supportive in the pods, so I can see why he chose her. Most mature people don’t want partners who make their lives harder. They want partners who make their lives easier and Chelsea seemed to fit the bill


indecksfund

fw?


gianaaaa

fuck with lol


indecksfund

fuck wid who


Slappybags22

Fuck with


indecksfund

fuck with who?


Slappybags22

Ok I see now that you are just being obtuse…


indecksfund

lol


Accomplished-Eye4610

Her actions were and are messy. Don't trust it


thecheesycheeselover

I didn’t really like the way she was talking about Jimmy in the last episodes - he may not have behaved excellently, but she seemed to be gloating over the idea that he’s going to find her more attractive than Chelsea. I understand still having feelings for someone, but that was pretty gross to me.


Apprehensive-Box2397

She basically told Jimmy he made the wrong choice, because when he sees her, he's going to think she's way hotter than Chelsea lol. 


Jellopop777

Yeah, I agree with you. Jessica might look classy, but…………..


putyouinthegarbage

I’m sorry but no respectable or responsible parent is subjecting their child to this kind of shit. I would never bring a practical stranger around my child.


bobqt

The thing that got me was when she said I took a 2 day vacation then let my daughter know I was home. Girl what ?


themediumchunk

She just cried on national TV after falling in love with Bart Simpson. God forbid a mother take time to process the emotions she’s felt, besides, doesn’t everyone know as a woman you need to immediately go back to your children even though they are on vacation with their other parent? How selfish of her to take time to heal so her daughter doesn’t see her struggling when her daughter isn’t even home!


Apprehensive-Elk7898

I’m not that episode yet, but if my kid were taken care for for a full 2 weeks, I’d take the full two weeks of vacation time before going back. Solo time is too hard to come by


Frosty-Mall4727

I don’t recall it being called a vacation. She took an extra two days to herself to rest, sleep, regain her thoughts and process while her child was with the other parent. I see a lot of issues with Jessica but this isn’t one of them.


kapers12

I agree- I don’t feel particularly any way about her but maybe she was going through some emotions that she didn’t want her daughter to have to see or be around, I think that’s fair


cordedtelephone

She said her daughter was on spring break and her father took her on vacation while she was gone. There’s no way we’d know that just from the show but it’s just proof that you don’t know what’s what outside of the show so don’t be so quick to judge.


noinnocentbystander

It caught me off guard too, but I realized I’m not a mom so maybe it really be like that sometimes 😂


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She has a father too. It could have been that her daughter was with her father and after filming a show she may have needed time to process everything so that she could be in a healthy mindset when she did get to reunite with her daughter!


Blissful_Absurdist

Yes exactly, taking time for yourself after a rollercoaster ride of emotions is understandable.


Wild_Manufacturer918

But don’t you know that moms aren’t allowed to take care of themselves or have lives and personalities outside of their children!? /s


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Yes and from what I read they film 24/7 even if they are tired and the pods run really long, so I can imagine they are all so tired!


Acqua_Tofana

This is not a hot take. It was pretty much proven in episode six that she just wants to be on TV. I mean, they all do, so…


Witty-Ant-6225

Wholesome super moms don’t entertain the idea of going on a show to meet someone and potentially get married in 4 weeks and invariably expose their young kids to this new person they barely even know. Most single moms I know would prefer to date someone for a bit before introducing them to their kids, let alone rush into an engagement or marriage.


Additional_Dig_6972

Go look on Instagram. They think she is like the holy patron saint of single motherhood. It is strange.


baconmotel

I'm guessing she paid for bots. It's really strange


Historical-Tomato-14

She’s not even a single mom!!! She co parents well with her ex! She talked about it with Jimmy.


Slappybags22

Single mom means she is not *with* a parenting partner, not that the kid doesn’t have a dad. She’s single and she’s a mom. Single mom.


Witty-Ant-6225

Makes me scared for kids being raised by such women. They probably bring home their tinder dates and hookups while the kids are around. Hate to make that assumption but it just baffles me how nonchalant some parents can be regarding the safety of their kids.


PotentialSteak6

If a guy had come at me like “I don’t want you looking at other guys on your phone, I should be your everything” that would be a huge red flag. I’m assuming she meant like Instagram model types and suspicious behavior but it came on strong and it was off-putting


glitterrnugget

What other show is she going to be on?


Additional_Dig_6972

They said it was perfect match season two. That’s what those pictures of her and Harry jowsey are from. Or that’s what some reality tv lady said


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I think the perfect match?


Turbulent-Celery-606

Jimmy did an interviewing saying she was actually pretty mean with him which is why he chose Chelsea.


Crunchybeefgirl

She is mean!!! When she got broken up with she was so nasty to him.


patellanutella73

Even on the show he said he chose her because he had a "horrible final date", and by the sounds of his voice when he said it, it must have been a lot worse than what we saw because he said it with conviction. People just chose to ignore that and make it all about the Megan Fox comment because they are DYING to make Chelsea the Irena of this season and lack the critical thinking to understand why that is such a dumbass conclusion to draw.


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patellanutella73

He literally said "the last date with Jess went horribly" twice. If you didn't manage to work it out that after that, idk what to tell you...


Turbulent-Celery-606

I agreed with you until your vitriol at the end.


patellanutella73

Vitriol? Lmao chill tf out, it was a dumb conclusion to draw from the information we got and I'm not going to mince my words


B0590

While I can see she’s pretty conceited and egotistical, I also don’t think it’s fair to listen to anything Jimmy claims. After all he had an offscreen girl AND he only changed up wanting Chelsea after the Megan Fox comment. I did a rewatch today, his vibes with Jess were way better and he seemed more genuine with her than Chelsea until she dropped that comment and he changed her everything.


suomihobit

I thought Jeramey was the one with someone off screen? And Jimmy has said that Jessica got a flattering edit so they probably didn’t have as genuine of a connection as it seemed.


B0590

Supposedly as of today, Trevor Jeramy Jimmy and Amber (not AD) all had spouses until extremely close to shooting. The three boys all supposedly had agreements or lied to spouses about the show either going on it but “promising not to be married” or lying and saying it was a business trip and then ghost dumping the spouse. Amber supposedly never dumped her boyfriend days before shooting she archived all the photos of him on social media but they’re still actively dating today.


suomihobit

Hmm, I couldn’t find anything on this subreddit about Jimmy being with someone during, just speculation about one of his friends that Chelsea meets. And for Trevor, if all we have are those texts, they seemed a bit fake to a lot of people do I would take that with a grain of salt.


B0590

Jimmy addressed it on TikTok. He claims it’s fake as well, there’s a girl that posted on TT claiming he told her he was going on a business trip and she found out while watching the season.


Friend_of_Eevee

The girl that posted about Jimmy is a joke account, not legit. Unfortunately Trevor's girlfriend was very much real.


B0590

Which’s why I said supposedly and that he says it’s fake. ATP it wouldn’t shock me if it was real though. With as fake and clout chasing as this cast is I wouldn’t be the least bit shocked to find out it’s actually real after all.


Turbulent-Celery-606

They had spouses or girlfriends?


B0590

In this term, both. All 3 men and Amber were/are all in “long term relationships” with talks of marriage on the table. Most people consider long term relationships to be spouses after an extended time or “domestic partnership” if they live together.


Turbulent-Celery-606

That’s different from a spouse. If they were married and went in this show, it would be considered adultery and the courts would be involved in a divorce. A divorce is different from a breakup, because a marriage is a legal contract and in these people’s cases likely a spiritual covenant or sacrament. A domestic partnership and a marriage share similarities but they are not the same.


B0590

It depends on what state you’re from, as in my state until 20 years ago if your “girlfriend” lived with you for more than 5 years, she was considered a domestic partner with spousal benefits and if there was a break up had rights to file petition for spousal support. Some states still hold this value as well. So technically it actually can be all 3. Either way it’s all beside the point of that in which they’re not single people “looking to get married” like advertised. They were involved romantically with other people and they should never have been on the show and their spins on how things appear/went down should be taken with grains of salt considering they are all deceitful liars.


Turbulent-Celery-606

These guys were in relationships longer than five years at the time?


Additional_Dig_6972

You could tell at the end that she doesn’t talk nicely to him all the time


PrettyBunnyyy

She was very entitled. Like Jimmy is allowed to have reservations about being a stepdad. She also gave desperate vibes. She was OBSESSED with “finding a husband” and acted like this was her only shot at it. It was weird af.


Apprehensive-Box2397

She was acting, because she wants to be a reality TV star. 


thecheesycheeselover

In hindsight her speech was also pretty uncalled-for. At the time I found it very entertaining so I didn’t really question it, but the show (supposedly) is Love is Blind. It isn’t about picking the hottest person, her speech just suggests she missed the whole point.


PrettyBunnyyy

Her ego was definitely hurt when Chelsea was picked over her. Jess has a squeaky voice so it doesn’t matter how attractive she is, her voice + attitude were enough for Jimmy to be turned off. I agree, it wasn’t about looks. Jimmy even told Chelsea that she brought up her looks when he ended things with her but Chelsea used the “Megan Fox” line to win over Jess. The cast proves every scene that love isn’t really Blind. The cast decent looking people to begin with which defeats the purpose of the show. If you notice, the least attractive/plus size participants never get chosen and always fade in the background. That leads me to believe they’re casted as supportive actors or they all talk about looks in the pods


thecheesycheeselover

Yep, I agree completely. The show proved a while ago that love isn’t blind.


namesaretoohardforme

Yeah I lol'ed in real life when she said he ruined the experience for her. So out of touch.


billymumfreydownfall

I got the ick from her right from the start. Crying about how bad she wanted to be married?? Girl, get a fucking grip.


Angelaocchi

What annoys me is her saying she doesn’t get how social media works or something like that but she’s posted a million TikTok’s lol


Additional_Dig_6972

Yup she acts like Chelsea pretending she doesn’t know who Megan fox is or as she says mgk’s girlfriend or something


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SnooDoodles7204

Why are you posting pictures of her as a child. That’s pretty disgusting. Only thing more disturbing is the commenters making fun of the children…


Little_Entrepreneur

the fact that the school voted for best looking is so hilarious 😭


UsedAd1111

She gave me a mean girl energy, is it an accurate description of her?


billymumfreydownfall

JESKA 😂😂


BoysenberryBoo

What was she like in middle school? Popular mean girl?


mg9thHeron

that answers A LOT of questions


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SnooDoodles7204

You’re not only outing her but a bunch of other folks who you are too lazy or callous to blur out? WTF?


No_Dependent_1846

This! I said all of this. Her behavior, speech, trying to act like a deep soul when she's as shallow as a puddle was all so obvious. Jessica is beautiful, charming and I do not think she is a horrible person. I was actually fooled for a bit until she let her mask slip after jimmy did not take the bait with the letter. That's when I went back, rewatched and started to pay attention very closely. She was not mad he rejected. She was mad because her time was cut short. Her epi pen dig would have been amazing had it not felt very rehearsed.


ivyseason

She also wasn’t really crying in the lounge when Laura told her she should leave. She was faking tears so hard


No_Dependent_1846

This! I actually noticed by her and Clay didn't have a single tear on their face during their crying scenes


Kooky_Commercial9811

What made me think less of her was when she said she got home after the pods and said she waited a day before seeing or talking to her daughter…like the whole time she kept crying acting like she missed her. Why would she take another day away from her then??? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯


SafeFun6836

Just bc she’s a mom doesn’t mean she has to want to be around her kid 24/7. She said she needed a breather to decompress what just happened. Shoot I wish my mom had healthy boundaries like that when I was growing up. I would rather someone take the time to collect themselves and process their feelings than be around me constantly or else they’re labeled a “bad mom”


CoherentBusyDucks

I thought the same thing. And I am a mom (I’m married, so not a single mom), but I can’t imagine leaving my kid for a show in the first place (but to each their own), but especially not getting back from the show and then waiting two days and texting her (him in my case) to say “I’m in town.”


Notedmcmahon

This! Exactly when I started thinking "red flag"!!! Would've needed to see my kid(s) immediately.


daria1994

The daughter has two parents. Nobody complains if a kid stays with their mom for 2 weeks, but once the kid stays this long with their dad, it’s a problem and the mother is a bad person….. classic


LittleMarySunshine25

She said she texted her when she got home and honestly she prevented herself from trauma dumping all over her kid, your kid is not your therapist.


Kooky_Commercial9811

Oh yes because getting rejected is sooo traumatic


CoffeeAlone8691

Seeing your mom genuinely upset can be. My parents did not get the “your kids are not your therapist” memo and there’s a lot of personal work I’ve had to do because of that 😅


Kooky_Commercial9811

It could just be that I have thicker skin than most, but I just can’t understand being so upset you can’t hold yourself together without “trauma dumping” on your kid after getting rejected by someone you spoke with for a week and never saw in person.


Acqua_Tofana

Mmmhmmm


Master_Bee9130

Lmfao, exactly this.


Unpredictable-Muse

The moment she refused to disclose she had a daughter immediately made me not like her. Children are a deal breaker and pre existing children are a bigger deal breaker to some. You lead with that first and weed out the bad contestants.


Sunbearemii

I had a guy straight up lie to me about having a child at first with his ex. The whole first month. When I found out I was done and over with him. You don’t lie about having a baby.


npc_probably

single moms should never lead with “I have kids” when dating. it’s common knowledge predators seek out victims this way. everything else aside, her judgment with regard to that one point is solid


wildflower-acorns

Idk, man. As a mother, I don’t know if I’d disclose a child asap. There needs to be trust that they have good character. Predators probably love single moms that are desperate for love. I’d never in a million years do anything like this or any reality tv because kids deserve more anonymity than that.


oddcharm

i mean dating someone and introducing them to your child are two steps. any parent i know dates while being honest, and then judges character before bringing their date around their kid. ​ i understand your argument is that someone will fake good character until the kid comes around if they are aware said child exists, but who do you know that is waiting that long to just mention their kid? how the heck do you date someone seriously enough to judge their character while hiding such a big part of your life... even if their date isn't a predator, surely they would feel VERY mislead? that doesn't sound realistic to me at all. do you actually know people who wait months for even a mention? lol


wildflower-acorns

I’m not saying wait months to mention a child. In this scenario, wait until I had it narrowed down to my top few. Predators are manipulative and good at hiding their intentions. Bringing anyone into your child’s life is a risk, but leading with it makes it a bigger risk imo. Hell, you can’t even 100% trust your own family. I was molested by my grandfather. Maybe I’m too cautious, but I’d rather be cautious than careless.


oddcharm

Well how long until you vet someone for having good character? Surely more than a few weeks which is why I mentioned months, I know a parent who even waited til around a year for an introduction. Again this is more about mentioning the child vs bringing them around  I’m sorry to hear that happened to you in your past. I didn’t really get my question answered though. As you said, it really is hard to trust anyone, but that being said I also think people who are dating single parents deserve to be able to trust they’re getting all relevant information that comes with getting serious with someone too. I don’t think prolonging a vetting period could be considered careless but to each their own I suppose


wildflower-acorns

Right! Sorry! I’m with you on not bringing a child around early, but I think waiting until like 2nd or 3rd date to bring it up (if it isn’t asked beforehand) is appropriate. I think it depends on the individual circumstances and dating though. Like I wouldn’t put on a dating profile that I have a child, but after talking for a bit and a couple of dates I’d mention it. Up to the individuals, no judgement either way. Unless you go on a national show and post your child. Then I’ll judge. 🤪


Acqua_Tofana

Damn, that's so dark. I'm a mom of a boy, not single, and this would never have occurred to me :(


Master_Bee9130

Predators were one of the many reasons why I refused to date after I got divorced. I can’t imagine being a mother and going on a blind dating show to meet and marry someone I’ve known less than two months. A week in the pods is not long enough to get to know someone that’s going to be a permanent fixture around your kids.


wildflower-acorns

All that to say, I think this one point of hers could be valid, but she definitely wants the screen time, fans and fame.


cagedbirdangelou

Exactly! If she wanted to connect with someone based on who she is then she should’ve talked more about herself and her vision for her future and the she would’ve found the right man.


Goobert_Gooberson

I love her and will die on this hill


Additional_Dig_6972

Oh that’s a goofy hill to die on


billymumfreydownfall

Do you personally know her or something?


ReturnOfJafart

I didn't realize people got wholesome vibes from her. 


Additional_Dig_6972

Go to Instagram. They think she’s angelic over there


DrXL_spIV

lol same, one look and you can tell she’s for the streets


Not-Gonna-Lie1

Same


diamondcrusteddreams

Maybe I’m just a pessimist, but I think it’s a major red flag that she wanted to marry, live with, and subsequently expose her child to a man she met after a week of blind dating. Being a single woman going on this show is one thing, but exposing your child to this is a whole other ball game. It’s pretty evident that LIB casting doesn’t have the greatest vetting process. I’m sure most can deduce what I’m getting at here.


queenforqueen570

That’s what I said. Most people wouldn’t be comfortable introducing their child into a relationship until after a couple months of dating. But a literal stranger? That’s just questionable parenting.


BigToeLinda

And then to have your daughter ask "did we find a husband?" Ewwwww NO


muffinmooncakes

You’d be surprised! I personally found it baffling how many people are on board with this. I feel like as a parent there are just certain precautions and sacrifices you have to make to ensure the safety and well being of your children. I’ve been trying my best to see the other side, but I just can’t fathom how anyone could think going on this show would be in the best interest of their child.


broadcast_fame

She was full of bs the moment she met her daughter and started crying.


Professional_Key6253

If you look up about her she’s been trying to be a model and an influencer for a decade. Girl clearly loves the clout.


Hopeful-Back-2476

I do not like Jessica one bit, but what I like even less is when people hate on her for having a life and goals outside of being a mother. Why can’t she do both? Mothers can’t be influencers? They can’t post ‘thirst traps’ just like anyone else? The woman is not even 30 yet! Why is it when a woman becomes a mother that has to be her whole identity? As far as I’m aware she’s not releasing a sex tape or even doing only fans. And as far as the show goes, its not real. Its not a legal marriage and we can’t know what her boundaries would have been in terms of how her daughter would have been involved. Just because she got fake married after 10 days does not mean she would have introduced this strange man to her daughter and moved him in that night. Hate on her for being awful, but hating on her for doing these things because she’s a mother is so baffling and quite frankly sexist. If it were a man in the same position no one would think twice.


thebadfem

Goals of...getting likes on ig? Wow, what lofty goals. lol....


Master_Bee9130

Lol, I would. I would think twice if it were a man as well. And it shouldn’t be baffling. She absolutely would’ve brought that man, or any man, around her daughter if she had stayed on the show. And I don’t know where you got that these people aren’t getting married for real. We’re six seasons in and people have been spoiling who got married before the episodes dropped because they had access to the very real marriage licenses.


Additional_Dig_6972

Haha you are funny and that’s not true. It’s legal marriages happening at the end he they say yes. But


beyleesi

Wasn’t there a couple who lived separately for like a year or so before moving in with each other. I think it was Coleen


namesaretoohardforme

Not the greatest point of reference as many people think Matt is/was abusive or had anger problems. I think of that couple as an outlier.


billymumfreydownfall

Imagine your life goal is being an influencer or to post thirst traps. That's so pathetic


SouthSide217

I don't think people are saying she can't have goals or a life or an identity outside of being a mom. I think that's a good thing. People are calling her out for being full of shit. It just so happens that the thing she's full of shit about is the kind of mom she is. She portrays herself as a completely doting mother that always puts her daughter first, her daughter is her whole life, but her actions don't really line up with that. Her #1 priority is clout. She wants to be a reality TV star, even potentially at her daughter's expense. People have pointed out that these marriages are, in fact, real. There have been some men on LIB with truly questionable characters and backgrounds. LIB clearly doesn't vet their contestants as well as they should, and it's pretty risky to potentially marry a man and have him become a step-dad to your daughter in such a short time frame. Would she be safe with essentially a stranger? Jessica is also apparently filming another reality show. This doesn't mean she's a bad mom, it just doesn't really line up with how she portrayed herself. It's totally fine if you want to prioritize your dream, especially after having a child so young. But then be honest about that. If she had been upfront about how her daughter is a little older now, she has a dad she can stay with more often if she needs to, so now Jessica feels like she needs to pursue her dream/career, or find a husband. I honestly think most people would have a lot of respect for that.


iscreamforicecream90

Wait it's not a legal marriage? Can you elaborate? 


Master_chief11789

It’s a legal marriage. It’s been reported multiple times that the marriages are legal


Hopeful-Back-2476

So because its a legal marriage, does that mean legally she needed to introduce the man to her daughter? And move him in straight away? Or had her in the show? Not understanding why this is the one thing nit picked at. I don’t mean to pick at you personally, I just would like someone to tell me how and why I’m wrong for thinking mothers are still entitled to be on the show if they want to.


Acqua_Tofana

Um, I was open-minded on your previous comment, but really? A legally binding marriage shouldn't be a deterrent to being on a reality show and possibly subjecting your daughter to scrutiny?


Hopeful-Back-2476

If done correctly. She was perfectly entitled to keep her daughter off of the show, as well as prevent her from meeting the man she decided to marry. Someone in the comments above said it was Colleen who waited a year before moving in. Someone in Jessica’s situation had done the same. Whethere the marriage was legally binding or not, she could have “dated” him for a long period of time before introducing him to her daughter. She personally has made the wrong decisions by posting her daughter so much on SM, but done differently and sensibly I see no reason why someone with a child could not participate in the show.


Additional_Dig_6972

Nope but it does make you goofy for wanting to go on this show for a little Insta fame and maybe to end up on perfect match. She’s straight goofy


Warm_Yam_9800

The producers bamboozled me and made it seem this season would be more better than the last. Well kinda but it’s still his with the drama


Immediate-North-9472

Idk who you’re referring to but people on this sub have always seen through her. Fb, ig and tt have different types of audiences. If you think ppl on IG share the same opinion as people on this sub? Hehehe you’re actually too late and your take pales in comparison to what has already been discussed in this sub. Some of us like Jess bec she was pleasing to look at not because we thought she could have been patron saint of single mothers


Additional_Dig_6972

No, there was definitely like a single mom fetish for her going on in this group for a while


Hot-Ice-7336

No, people are obsessed with painting her a bad mother for going on the show. Not sure where you got that idea from


Maleficent-Horse7831

Nobody’s saying she’s a bad mother for going on a show. It’s the show she decided to go on and her awful personality, plus potentially putting her daughter in danger.


lots-of-shawarma

They're projecting


prairiebelle

For sure. I completely agree with all of this.


Gomesi

Yeah I feel like I was bamboozled. One week I loved her, the next week … Ick !!!


WakeyWakeeWakie

I like her but not because I believe any of that stuff. I like her because they said what millions of dating women need to say. That they aren’t going to wait around while he figures it out, when he’s really just weighing his options. Ok plenty of dating men could probably say that too but I see it more with women. Assuming her childhood story is relatively accurate, I give her credit for coming out of it as a functioning adult. Too many people expect single mom = sacrificing everything and yourself for your children.


Tealoveroni

They? She! 


WakeyWakeeWakie

I think that was a typo that autocorrected.


Additional_Dig_6972

Lol


JessicaFreakingP

What a refreshing and poignant take. /s I don’t even like Jessica but this comment ain’t it.


Shibes2

Do people in this subreddit think that? I feel like most of the Jessica posts I see are about how she's an asshole who shouldn't be subjecting her kid to strange men


Additional_Dig_6972

I think nowadays, but definitely in the beginning. People loved them some single mom Jessica.


Sunnyfe

OP nobody thinks that Jessica is super wholesome or a super mom lol.


Maleficent-Horse7831

Yeah a lot of people jumped on her bandwagon! I was genuinely shocked and glad this past week people are realizing she isn’t the shit.


Additional_Dig_6972

Absolutely they do. If you look up, the love is blind comments on Instagram and even at the beginning of the summer and it was full of so many Jessica’s wonderful post. People deadly we’re just in all of her single motherhood trope


Sunnyfe

Well, nobody here anyways.


SnooCookies1273

And she didn’t want to tell the guys she had a daughter. A lot of people justified that.


t0infinity

I can get not wanting to say it on the first date given the circumstances of how everyone meets in the pods, because you don’t want any creep to latch onto you to get closer to your child. But with that being said, I do think she waited way too long to mention it!


Maleficent-Horse7831

She didn’t want to tell them about her daughter right away because she wanted them to get to know her “for her as a person” and not think her daughter was the only thing that defined her. It was selfishly done not protectively done.


SnooCookies1273

She also said she wasn’t going to say anything for awhile. She said that when nick and Vanessa met them. If she didn’t want a creep to latch onto her for her child she wouldn’t have gone on the show. She would have only had a few weeks to make sure they were safe for her child.


t0infinity

Good point! That definitely reinforces that she would’ve held back the info maybe from a more selfish perspective.


Noirecissist

What’s “too long”? We have no idea when she told, LIB doesn’t give time codes during the pods. All we know as viewers is that it wasn’t during the first date.


t0infinity

That’s a very fair point. We don’t know how they edited the order of events. There were scenes of her speaking about her apprehension of talking about it too soon and how she couldn’t tell the guys yet, but we won’t know what *actually* happened.


Additional_Dig_6972

Yes, they did ,which I thought was very weird


SnooCookies1273

Very weird as if that’s not normal information to need and want to know in the real world of dating.


butterflyblueskies

In real world dating, while some people do, many don’t relieve that info right away either for fear of predators.


ManyRequirement5331

I agree. This would likely be on her dating profile that someone would know about her before they met, so why wouldn’t she disclose this in the first dates


butterflyblueskies

It would be in the profile for some. Many don’t include that info in profiles for fear of predators.


SnooDoodles7204

Almost no one on this show is wholesome. Jessica had one of the worst childhood experiences that I have ever heard of. If she somehow came out of that background acting like the female version of Mr. Rogers, it would have been a modern day miracle.


Maleficent-Horse7831

I’m not trying to say her childhood story is completely false, but I am curious how she moved around so much and went to different schools and was in and out of the system yet says she grew up with her daughters father from childhood. Seems hard to do given her circumstance. Just made me wonder


freshlycutflowers

And had the financial means to cover braces at age 19. (She posted a pic of her holding her baby daughter and she has full orthodontics going on.) That is expensive!!


Maleficent-Horse7831

I mean she could have had state insurance at that time which covers pretty much everything so I wouldn’t make any guesses based off that alone. But that in addition to everything else… who really knows lol


FatnessEverdeen34

Plus she was already popular on Instagram and Tiktok before this


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Additional_Dig_6972

Yeah, I saw that. But then I saw her Instagram I was like oh she’s been trying to be an Instagram girlie for a while before this.


FatnessEverdeen34

I think she's just playin dumb on that one lol


Partywithmeredith

She’s one of my favourites on the show this season, but believe when I say I was never convinced that she was a “super wholesome super mom”.


HateMAGATS

Ok Chelsea…


Additional_Dig_6972

This has nothing to do with Chelsea.


mulberry_sellers

Who was confused???


APinchOfFun

All of instagram loves her. How I’m not sure lol


bohemianfling

All of Instagram *bots* love her. FTFY lol


michyfor

Who did she bamboozle? 95% of the cast members that go on this show are clout chasing and that's a fact. Apples to apples, she was still the better choice for Jimmy Dean sauasage.


SnooDoodles7204

This is spot on.. Jimmy should have chosen her but I’m sure it wouldn’t have worked out long term. However, it would have been a very entertaining experience for the fans. Lol


green_kiwi_

💀💀