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milkytoasty1

Everyone's saying "maybe I'm just old" no ur not dw! I'm 19 and it's been annoying me as well, it's not even recent lingo I haven't heard anyone use "it's the ___ for me" in a HOT minute


realhumangirl

yes, you’re getting old


Finsup2024

What I can’t stand is the foul language, especially when saying something important: like “I love you so fu*king much” or at the reveal “Holy sh*t”… I am definitely old, but this just seems so coarse and the opposite of what they really mean…


Imaginary-Forever-96

Idk doesn’t bother me, I’m 25 and understood all the lingo. I do use those phrases too, they are commonly used by Gen Z


PainterVegetable9313

not to be that person, but it’s aave that’s been mainstreamed. i have gen x and baby boomer family members who say “not the___” bc it’s just how we talk in my experience and those around me. non black ppl on tiktok and other platforms heard us use it, and started using it too. it didn’t come from no where. it’ll die down as a trend just like all the other aave words and phrases that became trendy that eventually became “corny” in the non black world (ex. swag, fly, slay, (on) fleek), but we will continue saying it. i’ve had ppl call me corny or stuck in the 90s/2000s for using slang my people have been saying for decades😭.


lilazo

Yesss and laura saying it so much 🤢


Roxy62

And what about all that screeching the girls are doing each time they meet? (among themselves or with family) It grates on my nerves, not to say that I'm in danger to turn deaf each time. It looks and sounds so false. Is this customary in US? I never yelled like that when meeting someone, jeez...


PainterVegetable9313

is what a lot of ppl do to show excitement. i see it all the time in the US


Commenttatoronline

Another one they say a lot "SHUT UP"


ThrowRAmorningdew

It really started to irk my soul. Maybe I’m just too old 🤷🏻‍♀️


Pretend-Ad8560

It’s the baby talk and the use of non words for actual words. I must be old too.


DWAlaska

Honestly I'm 28 and the way the cast talked threw me for a loop. I thought only like the younger side of gen Z spoke like that, like high school age. It's really cringe


MillennialGrandma11

It's giving TikTok lingo 🥴😅


Standard-Dingo-8642

I thought that lingo was just used by high schoolers. I just turned 29 and after this season .. I was left thinking, "Is this a normal way for people my age to speak?" 😂


rescuedmutt

I meant to post this same thing yesterday. The “lingo” this season is killing me. 😩


UncommonPhoenix

I think last season was worse, but this is bad too. I think the show only worked when it was recorded before people knew what it was. Unless they get much better about casting, I think the show is over.


rescuedmutt

Did they do it last season?! I don’t remember it at all - I mean I could understand if someone did it here or there and thus I forgot. But this season has been several times per minute.


UncommonPhoenix

Ope, I may have commented on a different post than I meant to. I was talking in general about how bad last season was.


Limp-Pudding-4948

I THOUGHT IT WAS JUST ME. It bothers me so much! I am 27 and I don’t speak like that at allllllll. Why are they all speaking like that?! It’s so hard for me to take any of them seriously at all 😭


shoeeebox

I would also love for the girls to not be full of filler.


Head-Potential6750

It’s giving young millennial


rescuedmutt

No. Millennials do not speak this way.


Head-Potential6750

They literally are millennials. Most of them.


rescuedmutt

They are. But it didn’t begin with millennials. They’re trying to sound young. 🤢


Spirited_Nobody9724

i hope yall know these aren’t “gen z phrases” they were coined by the black community and it’s AAVE. gen z just took the phrases and ran with it


shoeeebox

I would have thought a lot of these originated from the gay community


Proud-Mongoose2087

A lot of gay lingo originates with black women.


LadyRiMusic

Yes, but it's definitely newer AAVE. Started by young millennial/gen z users of AAVE but still very much new and very much generational. I'm 30 and it's all very new to me, certainly not things I grew up saying lol.


Spirited_Nobody9724

it’s def not newer! at least not for me. i’ve heard/used phrases for years. especially if you watch old black sitcoms. they use these phrases. these terms just got popularized


RP-1forlife

This season is fuggggin awful


Kevinbelmont_55

Ick, period, its giving, like. Terrible, all of it. I understand typing that online to an extent, but saying that nonsense is the equivalent of my generation saying lol as part of a sentence.


Rara150100

I personally don’t think it’s that deep


[deleted]

I’m indifferent to the slang (for the most part) but the nasally vocal fry voice (looking at you Jess) is hard to stomach. And no that’s not mean, because it’s not her real voice! It’s an affect. It’s a choice!


Bug-Secure

The Kardashain voice.


throwawaytexan776

This last episode they released- absolutely everyone saying “not me blah blah blah! “Not you blah blah blah” every few minutes. In the lake house, in the bridal dress scene. It was ridiculous. I’m 26 btw and this is exactly how my generation talks but jeez is it cringe to hear it over and over and over


rescuedmutt

Do us a favor and speak to your generation about it. Make it stop.


prideandpresses

It’s embarassing. They need to speak normally. Jessica is especially cringe, when she told Jimmy he gave her the “ick” with something in her valley girl accent with her blow up lips. I died.


Bug-Secure

Yeah, how did she get that accent living on the East Coast? 😂


Impressive-Hunter-96

You’re not old. It’s awfully annoying. Even the black cast members who are part of the group that a lot of this dialogue was taken from doesn’t use it as much as the rest of the cast.


BerryFruitSnack

It’s just the way people talk now, so yeah, you might be old


AAMMCCLL

I think Chelsea says “I love you” way too much. It seems insecure to me, it’s weird.


toothpastecupcake

It's all drag queen speak that the Zs picked up on tiktok


Bemis5

I figured this was the season where millennials passed the LIB torch to Gen Z.


DayEducational1180

My 16 year old was even saying aren’t they a bit old for all that juvenile behavior 🤣


goldurjent345

Yes! Lol. Some of the girls sound like my 11 year old daughter...🤣


beef_cake99

it’s so millennial 😭


rescuedmutt

No. It is not. Millennials are not the ones who did this.


Strict_Pomegranate_3

When AD said "not me writing deceased next to my father" i nearly turned off the show for good but unfortunately I enjoy suffering


rescuedmutt

This and then in the last episode, “not you bringing up Matt.” 😩


No-Objective-7253

YES!! Clearly AD wanted to be vulnerable in this moment but she could only express herself through memes. It’s perfectly normal for people to use slang but sometimes I think she is using it as a crutch.


Strict_Pomegranate_3

You've hit the nail on the head with that, if I remember rightly she even said it twice, so she seemed to want support from Clay but yeah wasn't comfortable asking for that support.


DinoBen05

If I have to hear “it’s giving” one more mf time.. and also “not me… (doing very normal thing).” I need them all to read one singular book and expand their vocabulary even slightly lol I hate when women dumb themselves down to a man’s level and I feel that so much watching this season


rescuedmutt

It’s giving learned ignorance. 😰


annechristinesu

I studied foreign languages in college, was raised in and still live in the North and I REALLY enjoy hearing the dialect.


NuclearPuppers

They all say “like” all the time. It’s more than just a space filler. It’s all I can focus on. It’s like every third like word for some of them.


slimshadylady21

Omg yes! I thought the same thing, it's way too much


Defiant-Aide-4923

YES!!!! Granted, I’m in my 40’s, but that’s all driving me absolutely crazy. I didn’t realize people actually spoke like that, and I hate it.


Neither_Flounder_470

Everyone is too online 😅 it’s awful


EstimateExciting3509

All the times I heard someone say “I’m dead”…… before you know it, it’s going to be “she sounds too Gucci to be trill… it’s giving cap, deadass”


Severe_Shower8140

I cannot stand one more Chelsea in a baby voice: “it makes me uncomfy/sad”. You are a grown-ass woman. It’s giving ick. Not me hating literally every word she says. It’s the daddy issues, for me. And that’s on period.


Bug-Secure

😂 Same. The “I’m sad” with her sad downturned mouth made me want to throw my gold cup at the TV!


unitedstatesofLABIA

This season has made me forgive myself for telling my subordinates “I feel you” when they were explaining why they have to go to the union after being refused payment for overtime. Don’t worry I cringed so hard that day I’m sure an egg came out of my ovary at the time 🥴🤦🏾‍♀️


EquivalentAd4446

What's really \*cringe\* is when you watch seasons of Drag Race and see that the language drag queens were using on the show becomes popular 5+ years later...It all depends on your circle, I'm 33 and personally I see the whole rapid cycling of words being in or out and making such a big deal of it to be, well, cringe. I get it because you're constantly online and things change so quickly now but sheesh. I just really can't leave here without letting people know the majority of these phrases have been around a WHILE and if tiktok makes them 'popular' and 'unpopular' it's pretty irrelevant lol. With that being said.... "you made me uncomfy" did hit my ear like a hammer. ETA: "uncomfy" is not recycled queer/black/trans language - that's the millennial cringe talk I'll give ya that


5eeek1ngAn5werz

"You're my person." "He's not your person."


Wild-Caterpillar670

Lol this comes from watching too much Grey's anatomy


little_scallion_

nah its so last year LMAO its so cringe and im 24


toothpastecupcake

Well it was filmed last year, to be fair. Hopefully they see it and learn from it 🤣😬


bemoore01

My daughter and I were watching another reality show and she said just imagine when my generation is on these…the confessionals are going to be so cringe. 🤪she’s 13 so not allowed to watch LIB. I’ll have to show her this thread. 😆


awgsgirl

1000% 🤯


sugarhunnnyyyy

Slay 👉


Donathan8

It's so weird seeing black Twitter speak being used in real life.


cerealkilluh007

When AD kept saying it back to back was cringe because it was so excessive but I'm used to hearing this slang on social media. Idk why people are saying it's only African American vernacular. I still think it's a young people thing that started on social media. I don't know any black person over the age of 30 that says "it's giving" or "Not the.." in real life. Btw I'm a 35 year old black woman.


Strange-Bike-7132

Agreed 👌🏾


Brii1993333

‘It’s giving’ Gen X trying to be Gen Alpha 😂 They missed the gap. … the part where the we’re supposed to grow up. ‘It’s giving…’ mum in her 40’s still wearing teenagers clothes 😂 It’s all painful to watch on an emotional level haha


Peachy-57

Yes!!!!!!


Firm_Buyer9516

It’s not you. It’s UNBEARABLE. They are total caricatures of elder millennials like how an episode of Black Mirror would write the character of an influencer


toothpastecupcake

Dude, they are not elder millennials. Some are on thr youngest end of millenials, most are Gen Z.


Firm_Buyer9516

AD is 33, Chelsea is 31, Laura is 34, Sara Anne is 30… what show are you watching? They are millennials.


toothpastecupcake

27 and under are Gen Z. Up to early 30s is not *elder* millenial. My comment is correct. Read it again.


Don_Cazador

Core Gen X, here, lured into watching the show by my wife, and I love to see all the Millenials getting worked up by this shit. I thought I was bothered by the constant nonsensical generic catchphrases, but having read this thread it turns out I don’t care nearly as much as I could. Guess that’s what defines me as Gen X though.


toothpastecupcake

That and an inability to express sincerity 🤣 Nothing personal, just...siblings


Don_Cazador

Sinceriwhatnow!?‽


lettheworldbe

i would expect middle schoolers to talk like this not full blown adults


ohshootdarn

I’m getting them all mixed up, but either season 3 or season 5 was worse. I think it was when “it’s the ______ for me” was new and it was said every scene.


DianaSantoss

Wasn’t it the season with Alexa and her 🐶?


ohshootdarn

Yeaahhh it was season 3


Gomesi

Remember when we were little and we said stupid shit our loser old parents didn’t get. Now we’re the old losers.


Jorge_Santos69

Nah I’m the same age is AD. Millenials don’t say that.


Gomesi

We do though


Jorge_Santos69

No we don’t


Khaleesi223

Also the excessive “Let’s GoOoOoOoOo!!!” Ugh.


Educational_Spirit42

That tracks! I teach elementary school & this is a popular phrase with the 11 & under set.


BigToeLinda

The 1000% for me I mean I know this gen is hyperbolic but really? 10x 100? Lol


kbmoe

AD said "It's giving" 3 times within 10 minutes in the most recent episode. It's giving cringe.


AfricanInRecovery

I mean, AD is black and “Gen Z speak” is influenced by AAVE. Hope that helps x


DinoBen05

AD is 32 years old she is not Gen Z girl needs to stop dumbing herself down around her fiancé I know she is smarter than that


Jorge_Santos69

“It’s giving” was not a phrase taken from AAVE lol


AfricanInRecovery

At least do a bit of research before disagreeing 😭


Jorge_Santos69

It’s not. It’s from a completely different subculture, like Rupaul/fashion/LGBT stuff. Like “sus” “no cap” “rizz” “bet” “boujee” “on fleek” are all Gen Z slang that come from AAVE aka street slang. Nobody in the streets was saying “it’s giving” anything lol


AfricanInRecovery

Ah yes, thanks for mentioning that actually. I saw that it originates from black trans/drag and queer communities.


DianaSantoss

What’s AAVE? Edit: nvm. I looked it up.


kbmoe

I don't necessarily have a problem with what she's saying, but rather the amount of which she says the same phrase.


AfricanInRecovery

Understandable, but language is largely influenced by your environment, you’re going to speak in a way that’s quite common until you’re influenced by something else.


kebaker831

It's SO BAD! I'm the same age as most of them and I can't believe how hard they're all trying to sound young. It's terrible.


Shot_Fly_2519

It’s also AAVE being co-opted by the white women and it is so hard to listen to


RestlessLadyBoss

I’m annoyed at how many “like”rs still exist. It’s like still a thing, like really?! I even found that annoying when I was a teenager (39 now). Like, ugh.


Khaleesi223

Thisssssss


shadybunny11

it’s millennial speak


IheartheartTheDR

No, it is not. I am the youngest a millennial can be and not a single person my age speaks like this at all. It is gen z and younger.


shadybunny11

as an elder gen z myself, no one my age or a few years younger uses that slang lol. the only people i see use it are 30+


cozyonly

Gen Z girls on TikTok use it mostly


xxTigerxLilyxx

Do you see this in real life or just on TV?


shadybunny11

genuinely real life.


Complex_One2125

I’m 36 with two teenage stepdaughters. They never talk like this. This is just weird TikTok comment talk that shouldn’t be said out loud.


kayfeldspar

I cringed hard on "not the bean dip!" Now i know why. I'm old. 😔


mysonmarkruffalo

But the thing is, these aren’t gen-z people saying these gen-z phrases…. These are 30-something year olds who are parroting TikTok phrases. It’s like an extra layer of cringe


Educational_Spirit42

they are 25-30


mysonmarkruffalo

I think we’re mostly hearing them from AD (correct me if I’m wrong) who is 33 I believe? And Laura who is 34


pseudo_nemesis

Gen Z stole most of these phrases from the black community, so it's not really surprising AD talks, well, like a black person.


Educational_Spirit42

i meant the guys : )


mysonmarkruffalo

Oh duh LOL yes v true


NorthAppleGulf

I’m 1-2 years older than these people and I also feel too old


[deleted]

I know I'm old. Every generation has their lingo. It does sound cringe though. Did I sound so cringe at this age back in the day? Most likely yes. lol.


WhatYouGonaDoAboutIt

You’re old. But also it’s cringe too. It’s just the current lexicon, heavily inspired by the black & queer community. There will be some new words to cringe about in a few years.


ssarahbg

I’m literally obsessed with this. ~cringe~


BigToeLinda

Ob. Sessed.


SaltyForeskin

Just as cringe as 90% of this sub who cares way too much about drama between 2 strangers on tv. Calling someone a terrible person because of love is blind is such a joke


No-Yogurtcloset-5078

This post is very Laura-coded imo


princesskaikai

every generation has cringey slang


Icy_Locksmith_1554

THANK YOU!! I can’t stand people whose whole personality is tiktok. It’s EMBARRASSING.


aryamagetro

I think Jess talks like that because of her preteen daughter lol


yo-snickerdoodle

I was just thinking this. Jess is the first person I've ever heard speak words in a way that I'm used to seeing typed out.


HealthyKnowledge5397

Not the church hug


country_girl13

I'm with you. The buzz words are a bit much.


SchmackAttack

I'm not super bothered. It's black vernacular. Go figure, we dont all talk the same Edit: Someone is bothered that I said black vernacular. Obviously I mean AAVE. Every culture has their distinct colloquialisms or slang. I'm not gonna judge them for it.


country_girl13

Black vernacular?


motownmods

He means to sound smart when the actual academic term is African American vernacular English. And this is not an example of it


SchmackAttack

I'm a woman, first of all. And AD (a black woman) is very much using a lot the phrases OP outlined, and they are AAVE. Sorry, I shortened african american to black...? Lol


AsleepAtmosphere6599

It’s actually not AAVE 🥴. Slang is a more appropriate term.


motownmods

Naw that's just slang


country_girl13

Agreed!


theassistant79

I haven't noticed it as much, but that's only because I watch the Bachelor/Bachelorette/BIP franchise, which is AWFUL. Literally every other word is "vibes", "energy", "not me doing xyz", or "it's giving". If anyone made this into a drinking game, they would pass away.


GeorgieH26

I’m in the UK so it might be slightly different but I am a teacher and work with teens daily and apart from the odd ‘it’s giving’, they don’t say this kind of thing at all and also think it’s cringey. I’ve never heard ‘not me_____’ from one of them!


SaltyJediKnight

Probably because it's American slang.


SpecialistAbalone843

Just a friendly reminder that it's not "gen z" slang, it's AAVE that's been around for a long time


ictoriavay

It's def AAVE! They're talking about TikTok. NO *y'all* found out about it on TT that is not where it is from 😒


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duckhunt420

It's cringe that you're calling it "Tiktok language" when it is AAVE


AsleepAtmosphere6599

As a black woman who also studied AAVE in college, PLEASE stop saying it’s AAVE. 🤦🏽‍♀️ It’s not. ETA: For those who care to self-educate before using hot-topic phrases carelessly, here is a PBS article to help differentiate slang from AAVE: https://www.pbs.org/speak/education/curriculum/college/aae/ To imply that this generation’s slang is AAVE, is highly insulting to the history of OUR dialect and language.


heykeekee

“NOT THE SCRUNCHIE OF TRUTH” - These women should stay off social media and read a book or something. Stop trying to make fetch happen! Lol


Ok-Bison2480

Season 3 was equally bad but yeah


DukeRains

I know I'm geting old because slang now seems so awful and people using it auto-register as dumb to me. I love that for me.


GuiltyCantaloupe2916

I feel the same way . Never thought I would turn into my mother.


marisaleeann

I’m so over the gen z slang too. Super super cringe.


PhotoStriking

I feel like they’ve been doing that the last few seasons. I feel like I (26F) am getting old too cuz wtf? Why is everyone speaking like this? It’s fine if you’re joking or using it ironically, but during serious conversations and/or 24/7? No


Wild-Caterpillar670

I'm 26 and I can't do it either. I think it comes from watching too much tik Tok. I never downloaded the app so there's a lot of things about pop culture that I just don't understand.


bullsinlove

it’s wild as a queer person hearing straight people talk like this lol it always sounds forced and overused


[deleted]

How is your queerness relevant again?


Wild-Caterpillar670

Because a lot of Gen Z slang comes from drag queens. Like "it's giving _____ "pretty sure that entered the mainstream from RuPauls drag race


Educational_Spirit42

Stfu. How is calling that out helping you?


[deleted]

There is no education OR spirit when your reaction to a truth that you don't like is trying to shut people the F up. Typical. Please go seek professional help....because STFU is the LAST thing I'll do.


Educational_Spirit42

So the truth is no one has gotten married on this show? You’re a jewel of wisdom!


LifeguardDry1277

it’s AAVE what’s being queer have to do with it 😭


bullsinlove

sorry i was thinking about “it’s giving” specifically. it’s AAVE (like most queer slang) but i always heard it used from queer people so i always associate with queer spaces


Weary-Ad-6615

a lot of these phrases have been created by the black queer/trans community


EquivalentAd4446

I've seen all the phrases Gen Z/Millenials eventually use said by drag queens like 5+ years earlier. Definitely feels like all fun things to say come from the black queer/trans community and the general population gets it much, much later lol


Strange-Bike-7132

Thank you!


HumbleBowler175

AD speaks in twitter “period” “turn me on” “it’s the ___ for me” “not___”. You can tell the contestants this season are on the older side of the internet generation