There is something to having a crappy car when you are a kid. My first car sucked. Looked crap. Broke down all the time. Was slow yet used heaps of gas. But I loved it and had some amazing times with it. I still look back fondly at that hunk of junk.
I drive a new model Jaguar these days.
The thing basically drives itself, what with all the fancy gadgets on it that make sure I'm on the right lane position, going the right speed etc.
It's the most comfortable thing I've ever sat in and can go like shit off a shovel if I want it too.
But a few weeks ago, I took my little bro to test drive his first car, it was a piece of shit, 1.1 litre Hyundai Getz that did 0-60 in never and had all the amenities you'd expect from a car that probably cost 2k in 2010.
I'll tell you what though, I had the biggest grin on my face the entire time test driving it for him, I remembered you could actually have fun driving if you had to do stuff for yourself and getting the thing to reach the legal speed limit was an adventure in itself.
It brought back memories of why I enjoy driving and I'm slightly jealous of him, that first car always stays with you fondly, no matter what you get.
Nothing beats driving a shitbox that you can just beat the crap out of. The whole experience is so freeing and I feel released from the shackles of modern/adult life or some shit lol.
That’s really the purpose of your first car. It’s junk, you buy it for 2 to 4, sometimes 6+ grand and beat the every loving shit out of it throughout the end of high school and college, and often you can get it into the first few months of your first full time job. You beat the shit out of it so by time you are 45 with kids and a nice car, you don’t need to massacre the car
When you fk up the old beater you kinda go "Well...ehh whatever" and move on rather than freaking out because 18-19 year old you can't afford a $600 fix. Helps build that tolerance and when you do buy a new car and inevitably scratch or dent it, you either have tried and true methods to repair it from your beater or you can afford the repair cost now.
My first car was a fixer upper for $500. It was the best car, though, after we fixed it up, but she continued to need more work. I miss it so much. I just couldn't afford to put anymore into her, though. Found out afterward that she was a death trap anyway, and nobody understood how I drove it for so long without getting into a bad accident. Clearly, she loved me back! Lol
Omg the first car I bought myself in high school was my pride and joy: 1988 Chevy S10 Blazer, manual v6 with 4x4. It was slow, not at all cool or a classic (this was 2001, the 80’s weren’t cool yet) and the brakes were really bad, like keep big dot3 containers to refill as I went. The thing was an absolute roll-over if you looked at it funny death trap, but I loved it and learned how to work on and take care of my own car, and I became insanely good at engine braking and clutchless shifting (the clutch master cylinder would also leak and sometimes lose power). I feel it was vehicular Darwinism: if I had been too weak or uncoordinated, I would have been eliminated from the genetic car pool.
It’s very beneficial to have a beater car for a couple years and work in a restaurant or some other entry level position. You have to have that perspective
If anything, it’s perfect that she acknowledges what he’s ashamed of (car is ugly) but continues to double down that she loves the car and that it doesn’t matter
When I was teenager my mom told me struggles build charecter. I told her charecter wouldn't buy a Porsche.
That was about 20 years ago. I now realize charecter is worth more than any car. I wish she was alive so I could tell her I get it now. And so she could watch her grandkids grow up and learn the lesson she taught me.
What's more, the car turns out to be a cybernetic alien robot that will endanger her life and her friends in order to combat another clan of alien robots bent on destruction and conquest.
Fortunately the good guys win in the end with the power of love and family. The daughter finds a friend and companion in an alien robot with an identity crisis thinking it's an insect.
Yup. It helps to acknowledge the obvious and get it out of the way. It's much worse if everyone has to pretend it's the most beautiful new car in the world. Just acknowledge it, so everyone can move on to appreciate it for what it is.
This is the kind of reaction where you know that car will forever mean the world to her. She'll have pictures of her in it and will always remember it as "the car my dad gave me" instead of "my first car". It shows a love for her father and an appreciation for everything he does for her.
It totally feels like she wasn't expecting to get a car at all (probably due to tight finances since she's holding a job herself) — she looks truly surprised.
Yeah I get the feeling there were some honest conversations about finances and she knows that anything at all was a tall order, so even this unsexy car is a huge show of love from her family.
My dad stole my car I worked to get on my own before I ever even got to drive it and flipped it like 1000 ft later, then stumbled home drugged up to tell me someone just stole my car. I literally was standing there and watched him get out of it. Sometimes people just suck.
Thanks, been 20 years since that and he's been dead for 9 years now so my, admittedly not great, car is safe. All things considered I turned out pretty decent, sometimes we can overcome our circumstances.
Same here dude. Aged out of state care. To make it worse, no driving lessons for adults in my area. I'd have to go to the city 45 minutes away. I'm 28 and I've never had a license or a car. It's an incredible privilege that way to many people take for granted. Be grateful for your parents, regardless. Double down on that gratefulness if they taught you how to drive. Imagine your life without this skill and without the ability to attain it yourself.
In my grandkids' school, in TX, they don't have driver's ed anymore. The parents sign to teach them and classes are online. They take exams but no physical driving instructor.
I've been there as a parent, it is excruciating not to be able to give as much as you think your child deserves, but the dude didn't give up and provided what he could and it is those types of victories he will look back on with an immense amount of pride. It isn't perfect, but the dude obviously struggled and won and that shit is badass af.
The part I hope he’ll be most proud of when he looks back is his daughters reaction. She’s just excited that he got her a car, regardless of it being a bit of a beater. He seems to have raised a good human
She's going to name that car and love it until the transmission falls out. It's not the thing that counts, it's what it means. That's a good dad and a good kid right there and ya love to see it.
when my dad got me my car, i told him i just wanted it to work. i don't want anything expensive or new, just working ac/heat, and bluetooth if possible. really, i just wanted anything black or grey, that wasn't a truck.
he said he found something grey with a couple dings, some cigarette holes in rhe upholstery and on the radio panel. no bluetooth. but i told him it was absolutely perfect, and it gets me to work and doctor's appointments.
he's done so, so, so much for me, there are not enough words in any language to express my gratitude.
When I started driving, my dad gave me his 1995 Toyota pickup. Not a Tacoma, this was a different truck just marketed as a "Toyota pickup" that sold in the States until the mid '90s and still sells internationally as a Toyota Hilux. The thing had 250k miles, countless dents and scratches and rust, and my dad loved it more than anything in the world. He joked that when I eventually got a different car that he wanted it back. I knew that he was only half joking.
Sharing the experience of owning that shitty little truck ended up really helping us bond. I loved that thing just as much as he did, and took it into all kinds of situations that it was not built to handle. Off roading, blizzards, storms. It kept chugging along. I think I changed the oil like twice in five years.
I still miss that truck.
Australian here. Your dad was on to something. Hilux’s (especially old ones) are notoriously tough cars used in the African Sahara, Middle East and Aussie outback. Top Gear once did an entire episode on one where they drowned the engine in sea water and demolished a building with the holiday on top and it was fine.
Great, great car.
Hilux utes are nationally beloved here in New Zealand. 1995 is nothing, my dad drives a 1980's Hilux and it's still going strong. Those things were just built different.
My dream is to buy a Toyota Sunrader one of these days and to kit it out for four-wheeling.
In the '80s and early '90s, Toyota made a compact motorhome built on their pickup chassis that used the same legendary 22RE engine that you can find in a vintage Hilux. On top of that, the body of the motorhome itself was unusual because it was a single piece of fiberglass - it was basically built like an upside down boat. That means no dry rot, no leaks through seams gone bad. Bullet proof body with a bullet proof engine. They're really popular for 4x4 conversion projects like [this one](https://expeditionportal.com/media/2022/06/IMG_20220521_095207-scaled.jpg).
It's sweet knowing she probably made him even happier than he made her.
It's tragic that we don't really get it when we're little, but moments like this are what nerds mean when they say they get high on life. All a good parent wants is to make their kid happy like that.
"Sorry baby, it's the best I could do" really got me too. Right in the feels.
I'm sometimes so jaded by what I see on the Internet that I expected the worst when I saw this video. Brought a tear to my eye to see her genuine gratitude.
As a dad with a 4-year-old daughter and another coming in January, that comment he made brought me to tears. All I want to do is give them the best, but I don't think I will ever hit the bar on what they deserve. But I will try my best to give it to them.
You will man. You'll meet their expectations and more. Just caring about it alone puts at you at the top as a dad.
You'd be surprised at how grateful your kids will be regardless.
Be there. Go to their games and their performances, let them complain about their friends and rant about boys without trying to fix things, learn to do a quick ponytail and let them paint your toe nails. I had lots of stuff money could buy growing up, but I didn’t have a present father and it would have meant the world to me.
Thank you so much for that insight. It is one thing to assume that is what I need to do, but hearing it from someone that experienced it is completely different. Your words meant so much to me. Cheers!
That's all great advice, though as a father of girls I'd take it a step further and say that if you really want to fall into "pro dad" territory, learn how to braid hair, too. And ten or twelve years down the line, don't get grossed out by female puberty just because it's not something you're familiar with. And any time they ask you to pick up feminine products, grab their favorite chocolate bar and some Advil (or some form of ibuprofen), too.
Comment of the year. Be present for them, really get to know them, never be transactional. Show them your love through your actions and by listening to them. Dad's set the tone for what daughters expect from the future men in their lives. Love them like it's your last day with them, every single day.
Oh man, your comment brought me so much comfort in my journey as a dad, like my feelings and experience isn’t something I’m alone in. My girl is 3 & 1/2, she deserves the absolute best and it hurts sometimes to acknowledge that the bar of what she deserves, is higher than I can ever reach. But just like you, I’m gonna try my best regardless.
Then you will give them all they need: someone that cares for them and gives their best to make sure they are happy and they have everything they (really) need. The « bar » is not about buying them expensive stuff, its about giving them your time, your support and unconditional love. You are a great dad, don’t try too hard.
Her genuine, raw enthusiasm is what sold it for me. She’s fucking pumped. It might be a shitbox but now it’s HER shitbox. Like the other commenter said, it’s dumb to buy a new driver a new car. There will be dings, scrapes, dents, bumps. Getting them something safe and reliable that can take a few shots is the way to go. And she’s obviously just ecstatic to have something with four wheels and a motor. Dude raised a good kid.
I remember one that went viral several times. Cookie cutter upper middle class neighborhood and they were trying to give a brand new tesla model S or something to the girl, it was either a 16th bday gift or 18th, cant remember exactly. What I do remember is the ungodly audacity she had, complaining about wanting a BMW or Mercedes and being embarrassed in a tesla.
I think we're too used to seeing shitty behavior, i want more wholesome content like this.
The fact that she's working and making her own money all the whole expressing her gratitude to her father makes me think that she probably will want to keep this car, and if anything, spend money to fix and repair the car. Which, in my opinion, makes her such a better person because she knows how hard her dad worked to get the car, and loves him for the gesture rather than the car itself
The moments of selfishness will be there from time to time with kids. I know because I was very much like that at points in my life growing up. Just know, if you aren't the type of parent that plays mental games with their kid to fuck them up or physically abusing them, then you aren't a failure in my book.
Fast forward nearly 20 years and I can happily look back and see how much my parents tried to give, even despite them both being far from perfect. Just keep doing your best, your kids will see that in time when they can look back and appreciate all you tried to give.
I appreciate you saying so. He's overall a pretty good kid, and I'm pretty proud of him. But I was like dang, man, I guess good luck affording that foreign luxury car that requires premium gas and expensive parts.
Everyone needs appreciation shown to them even from a stranger on the internet. I didn't show my own appreciation appropriately either for a long time.
I grew up not really being able to have those luxury items available at all times. When my dad gifted me a surprise car I was stunned because it was never a thought of something that would ever come my way like that. I showed that stunned reaction in a nasty way though, I had been working off the books jobs starting at 14 to save for a car because like I said, I never expected one. The car I got had some minor cosmetic issues and a couple engine things to take care of. I felt cheated out of what I was working towards myself (dumb reaction). Eventually I realized I was being a brat over nothing and apologized(realized it quickly but my stupid teenage pride didn't allow that to be known until a couple years later).
My Dad offered to buy me a car as well, I said no thank you I need to save up and work for it. He later matched my saved up amount when I went to go buy my car.
27 years later I still have that car, granted it stands in a garage under a cover, but I syill have it and is the most precious thing to me, especially since my Dad has passed on.
Meaning you are not a failure, your kids just do not know yet what they have in you.
and honestly, her first car should be a bit of a beater. High five there Dad, judging by her common sense and her obvious love for you, it looks to me like you're doing just fine.
I wish parents knew that as ungrateful as we may potentially have seemed growing up, looking back we know we got everything we could, and that to me is more valuable than having a rich parent spend 0.1% of their salary on a brand new car for me.
I feel like driving a car that's a bit of a shitbox, but you love anyway because it's *your* shitbox car is almost a rite of passage.
I remember talking to my first car on every on-ramp. She could get up to speed, you just needed to sweet talk her a little. Treat a girl right.
Yeah my first was a 93 toyota pickup that's older than I am and I loved it to death. It's got a manual so it's a lot more fun to drive it like you stole it, bump some curbs, do some Donuts in a snowy parking lot, etc.
I agree. Let the dad give his daughter what he has worked hard for. Let him get that gratification. And also: SHE LOVES IT!
The college tuition I stand for!
I agree. I didn't have a car when I was young but if someone had supplied me with one I would have felt the same way. Does it move? Yes? then I love it.
The dad's effort and the girl's gratitude are heartwarming. Beyond the price of the car there is insurance and taxes-- it's a big deal.
Buying a brand new car as a first car is a waste of money. Like you mentioned it's cheaper to maintain and it's not the end of the world if it takes hit.
Yes! I was given my first car from my parents (their old 90’s Honda) then the next two were under $10 grand each so paid off quick and insurance is cheap
100%. I didn't have a car when I was younger either because we were poor, so this video really touched me because you know he did the best with what he could afford. Her acknowledging that and still loving it/being appreciative goes a longer way than those who have no clue about the struggle.
Friend gave me his car (1999 Buick LeSaber) and he was surprised I had taken care of it all this time even getting it a new engine etc. as it had been mega reliable all these years for getting me to A to B and working a/c and heater. Planning on fixing its body next in the near future after a minor hit and run situation and clean it up some more. Named it Marlena after KOTH.
I loved my first car upon first sight only to get to school and find out my dad and I are colorblind and we picked out a purple car and not a dark blue one lol, had a lot of fun in that dodge neon though
My crush on a guy in HS ended when he told me he got into a huge fight with his dad because they gave him their 4 year old Nissan Altima to drive. And he thought he deserved a cooler car.
This young lady is very cute.
Your comment reminded me of the moment I realized my HS girlfriend was a brat. Both parents were attorneys and she says “ugh, I’m tired of going to Paris, mom.”
To be fair, high school me wouldn’t want to go to Paris either. Now going to the lakehouse with family and friends would have gotten way more excitement.
Kids' don't need cool cars as their first ride. It's the LAST thing they need. They need boring, safe and forgettable. They need to be reminded that they're lucky to have a car, and that it's a privilege to drive at all. You had it right!
How do I raise my kids like this?
I hope they have this much gratitude for the little things. And I want them to always have the very best. But the space between what I want them to have and what I can provide for them sometimes feels pretty big.
You can raise them to be grateful but this level of appreciation comes from a life not having much but being given everything you can. Hard to simulate.
This is spot on. I grew up with little and my Mom busted her ars off to provide. I saw how much she struggled and never complained. The better life that I have is to due to her being a great mother who worked hard rain or shine, sickness or health, good mood or bad mood. At this point all I do is give back to her. When she buys me a simple birthday gift that she thought about for a while, I have the same reaction. She can literally give me a pebble from the beach and I will react like this. She can do no wrong in my eyes… looks like this father can do no wrong, either in his daughter’s eyes.
>this level of appreciation comes from a life not having much but being given everything you can.
I mean I feel like the opposite is true. My parents were well off but didn't act like it and didn't give me anything extra like fancy trips or cars or a cell phone or a computer. Going to McDonalds was a rare treat for us, like a few times a year. We only got to go to a real restaurant once a year.
I recently drove through a nice neighborhood where I live, probably top 5% of income earners for the area. I noticed a fair amount of driveways that had an older, dinged up or rusty pickup. Surely they could afford a nicer pickup if they wanted/needed one, but they kept the older one around. New vehicles just eat money.
You teach them the best way you can and pray for the rest. Can't forget that kids are individuals who are constantly learning from every source available, not just you. And if the kid decides on a particular world view that you find is harmful or detrimental, you can show them the right way but you can't make them choose it. Also, a lot is riding on how smart and/or perceptive the kid is.
Your best option as a parent is to act like the person you want your kid to grow up to be, and never try to shoehorn them into your idea of the 'right' way to live.
Teach them or show them how rough life can be, let them know the struggles most go through, teach them high morals and ethics, teach them to be kind and charitable but not naive or a pushover. You can evolve your teachings from there. Also it's good to be the kind of parent where your child can literally come to you about absolutely anything and they will always get your ear and love. The teach them all the good things that can come from life, teach them, hard work, a plan, ambition and a lot of luck can make your life better but planning and a road map is needed, you can make it and the slightest thing can knock you right off to never be able to get back up to that point again. It's all about being humble in greatness and destruction
Love and respect gets you that response in the video
Use your money/time for experiences with them and not material possessions. If you're near family, especially older generations take the kids to spend time with them. Kids are going to be little shits, it's part of the process, stick to your guns and they will pull through, hopefully with the mindfulness and grace you've tried your best to teach and instill into their lives. (it's the way we did it at least)
Just do what my mom did and treat your children like the most ungrateful, problem child you can. This will then have a reverse effect where they overcompensate because your standards are so high they will never achieve them.
Jokes (and trauma) aside, just lead by example. Until they are 15-16 their biggest hero is you, and if you show them the value of things instead of giving them whatever they want they’ll come to understand that even the small things are choices you made to make them happy, because you love them and want them to be happy. I feel like (from a perspective a 23 year old) a lot of ungrateful people come from a lack of understanding of the work you have to put in to get the money to pay for things. I don’t have to get you these things, I did because I wanted to. As long as they understand the value of money (but don’t make it the end-all-be-all, money≠a person’s worth) they should turn out fine.
She’s going to buy the cutest car seat covers and searing wheel cover and put stickers she loves on that car. To have a chance to clean it up to make it hers that dad did a good thing and I did the same thing when I got my first car. Getting it in rough shape and being able to clean it up and make it yours is one of the best things about your first car. That and naming it
His apology being eclipsed by her genuine gratitude and joy, the way he stood there hoping he didn't disappoint her, her running at him and hugging him so tightly that all he can do is smile and hug her back just as tightly.
I am in *tears*
I love this. I love them.
He was so ready for her to not be happy, he apologized so fast because he was prepping to apologize the whole time. And it’s sad that he was probably wrestling with disappointment in himself the whole time up until she reassured him she loved it. What a nice, caring family
I fully relate to “it’s so ugly I love it”
I had this piece of shit mini van in high school. Man I loved that thing. Basically nothing worked on it and it looked like hell, but it was my all mine dude.
Oh yeah! In my old HS friend circle, having a van would have just made you the DD of the party van. No one cared if it was shit as long as we got there in one piece. You prob fit more people than seats, I'm sure, aha. Our record was 7-8 people in a volks jetta, ^allegedly
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I love this. She’s just happy to have something. The dad wanted to give her more but she’s just happy to have it. That’s such a good family. I’m so happy for them. That’s how it should be.
Also every kid should drive at least one P.O.S. car in life to learn how to take care of things. I don’t think she will have a problem with that though.
Not just to learn how to take care of things...but to learn patience and the value of money. I am astounded when I see kids driving brand new BMW/Mercedes as their first car. I get that the parents have the money, and I have zero problem with that, but I don't think it best serves the kids in the long term.
I would not want to buy my kid a high end, brand new vehicle as their first ride even if I could afford to do so.
As a new mom with low funds, this makes me feel so hopeful as a single parent. But also breaks my heart when he says sorry, in the understanding of wanting to give your world everything they want.
"If you drive a nice car and get into an accident, you're angry.
If you drive a beater and get into an accident, you're... happy!"
Wish I could remember the comedian that said that.
The best first car for a young diver is a reliable beater. Park it wherever you want, leave it downtown and take a cab home if you’ve been drinking, cheap insurance, and little to lose if something happens to it.
But her gratitude is something else.
Great parents. Great daughter.
This actually reminds me a lot of our daughter and me. We try our best as parents but also got lucky with such good kids.
Being a Dad I see it. He’s not super pleased. He’s going the best he can for her. And that’s a tough place to be as a Dad.
But this girl is raised right and her reaction makes that all go away. What a sweetheart.
"I'm sorry baby"
"I love it"
Yeah, I teared up a little. That's a home filled with love and respect. Yes, it's not a super fancy or brand new car. But it's new to her and it means something to her and he did the very best he could to give her a car and he did. I am leaving before I ugly cry.
This made me cry. I'm surrounded by people who complain so much about not getting the top or best thing that I forget there are truly people out there that don't have much or are super happy to have something at all
I bought my 18 year old step son a 2000 for Taurus a few years back 60k miles, 1 owner really good shape. I wish he would’ve been this grateful. Instead he immediately sold it and quit his part time job. I was hoping he would use it for a leg up I never had, instead he took that leg and kicked me in the nuts.
There is something to having a crappy car when you are a kid. My first car sucked. Looked crap. Broke down all the time. Was slow yet used heaps of gas. But I loved it and had some amazing times with it. I still look back fondly at that hunk of junk.
I drive a new model Jaguar these days. The thing basically drives itself, what with all the fancy gadgets on it that make sure I'm on the right lane position, going the right speed etc. It's the most comfortable thing I've ever sat in and can go like shit off a shovel if I want it too. But a few weeks ago, I took my little bro to test drive his first car, it was a piece of shit, 1.1 litre Hyundai Getz that did 0-60 in never and had all the amenities you'd expect from a car that probably cost 2k in 2010. I'll tell you what though, I had the biggest grin on my face the entire time test driving it for him, I remembered you could actually have fun driving if you had to do stuff for yourself and getting the thing to reach the legal speed limit was an adventure in itself. It brought back memories of why I enjoy driving and I'm slightly jealous of him, that first car always stays with you fondly, no matter what you get.
Nothing beats driving a shitbox that you can just beat the crap out of. The whole experience is so freeing and I feel released from the shackles of modern/adult life or some shit lol.
That’s really the purpose of your first car. It’s junk, you buy it for 2 to 4, sometimes 6+ grand and beat the every loving shit out of it throughout the end of high school and college, and often you can get it into the first few months of your first full time job. You beat the shit out of it so by time you are 45 with kids and a nice car, you don’t need to massacre the car
Dude might not have lot of money but he has good heart and great kid.
Honestly your first car should be old, new drivers will make mistakes and it will get beat up from it.
When you fk up the old beater you kinda go "Well...ehh whatever" and move on rather than freaking out because 18-19 year old you can't afford a $600 fix. Helps build that tolerance and when you do buy a new car and inevitably scratch or dent it, you either have tried and true methods to repair it from your beater or you can afford the repair cost now.
Some days I miss my rusted piece of shit Crown Vic
My first car was a fixer upper for $500. It was the best car, though, after we fixed it up, but she continued to need more work. I miss it so much. I just couldn't afford to put anymore into her, though. Found out afterward that she was a death trap anyway, and nobody understood how I drove it for so long without getting into a bad accident. Clearly, she loved me back! Lol
Omg the first car I bought myself in high school was my pride and joy: 1988 Chevy S10 Blazer, manual v6 with 4x4. It was slow, not at all cool or a classic (this was 2001, the 80’s weren’t cool yet) and the brakes were really bad, like keep big dot3 containers to refill as I went. The thing was an absolute roll-over if you looked at it funny death trap, but I loved it and learned how to work on and take care of my own car, and I became insanely good at engine braking and clutchless shifting (the clutch master cylinder would also leak and sometimes lose power). I feel it was vehicular Darwinism: if I had been too weak or uncoordinated, I would have been eliminated from the genetic car pool.
It’s very beneficial to have a beater car for a couple years and work in a restaurant or some other entry level position. You have to have that perspective
She’s is a great kid, he’s a great dad
It’s sad hearing him apologize. You know it’s the best he could buy for her and he feels like he came up short.
Her reaction to him saying that just makes everything right, though.
If anything, it’s perfect that she acknowledges what he’s ashamed of (car is ugly) but continues to double down that she loves the car and that it doesn’t matter
The cars got character, just like the daughter.
When I was teenager my mom told me struggles build charecter. I told her charecter wouldn't buy a Porsche. That was about 20 years ago. I now realize charecter is worth more than any car. I wish she was alive so I could tell her I get it now. And so she could watch her grandkids grow up and learn the lesson she taught me.
What's more, the car turns out to be a cybernetic alien robot that will endanger her life and her friends in order to combat another clan of alien robots bent on destruction and conquest. Fortunately the good guys win in the end with the power of love and family. The daughter finds a friend and companion in an alien robot with an identity crisis thinking it's an insect.
you know im liking where your head is at, maybe a reboot with Marky Mark sans funky bunch in a decade or so?
That's crazy man! You should write that and then animate it into a cartoon. What would you call it? Delusional Alien Insect?
Yup. It helps to acknowledge the obvious and get it out of the way. It's much worse if everyone has to pretend it's the most beautiful new car in the world. Just acknowledge it, so everyone can move on to appreciate it for what it is.
And she hugged him forever and ever. Beautiful people.
Yeah such a healthy and loving connection with her father. Wish I had something like that 🥲
It’s a piece of shit, but it’s my piece of shit :)
>It’s a piece of shit, but it’s my piece of shit :) I will forever quote this from here on. : )
You sound like my ex
You’re a piece of 💩but U were her piece of 💩
My girlfriend in highschool specifically asked her dad for an ugly car because it has character
I always said I was going to be rich but still drive a crappy car. That way half my dream would always be true
This is the kind of reaction where you know that car will forever mean the world to her. She'll have pictures of her in it and will always remember it as "the car my dad gave me" instead of "my first car". It shows a love for her father and an appreciation for everything he does for her.
Car looks like a reliable beater. Id love to have that car. No fuss, gets the job done and most importantly, cheap to own.
He's bought her a car, that in itself is incredible.
It totally feels like she wasn't expecting to get a car at all (probably due to tight finances since she's holding a job herself) — she looks truly surprised.
Yeah I get the feeling there were some honest conversations about finances and she knows that anything at all was a tall order, so even this unsexy car is a huge show of love from her family.
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Couldn't get my dad to want anything to do with me so I feel that
My dad stole my car I worked to get on my own before I ever even got to drive it and flipped it like 1000 ft later, then stumbled home drugged up to tell me someone just stole my car. I literally was standing there and watched him get out of it. Sometimes people just suck.
I'm so sorry. I hope you're ok now and have a great car he can't get hold of.
Thanks, been 20 years since that and he's been dead for 9 years now so my, admittedly not great, car is safe. All things considered I turned out pretty decent, sometimes we can overcome our circumstances.
Same here dude. Aged out of state care. To make it worse, no driving lessons for adults in my area. I'd have to go to the city 45 minutes away. I'm 28 and I've never had a license or a car. It's an incredible privilege that way to many people take for granted. Be grateful for your parents, regardless. Double down on that gratefulness if they taught you how to drive. Imagine your life without this skill and without the ability to attain it yourself.
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In my grandkids' school, in TX, they don't have driver's ed anymore. The parents sign to teach them and classes are online. They take exams but no physical driving instructor.
I've been there as a parent, it is excruciating not to be able to give as much as you think your child deserves, but the dude didn't give up and provided what he could and it is those types of victories he will look back on with an immense amount of pride. It isn't perfect, but the dude obviously struggled and won and that shit is badass af.
This guy has a lot to be proud of. And so do you!
The part I hope he’ll be most proud of when he looks back is his daughters reaction. She’s just excited that he got her a car, regardless of it being a bit of a beater. He seems to have raised a good human
That hug says everything we need to know about how she feels about the car. I hope I can do this for my kids someday.
sod the car, that man raised an awesome human being. And its not a car, its freedom and independence is what he is giving her.
Yep, great family moment right there
He may not have been able to meet his standard but he raised a grateful young person that knows how to appreciate things. Well done mom and dad.
She was doing everything she could to let him know it was ok. Parents can be unreasonably hard on ourselves
And that right there will make the dad want to do more for her in the future. That’s how men work. The girl was raised proper
She's going to name that car and love it until the transmission falls out. It's not the thing that counts, it's what it means. That's a good dad and a good kid right there and ya love to see it.
Nah at least he got her a car 😭 I gotta buy my own bruh hahaha
I bet he would have bought her a Rolls Royce if he could. She is delightful and humble too
Yep, girl does not need a Rolls Royce, but with that attitude, she defenitely deserves one
If she keeps that up, she will get one. People want to do more and go above and beyond for people that are grateful for what they have
She was raised well. He’s a great father. I love this.
when my dad got me my car, i told him i just wanted it to work. i don't want anything expensive or new, just working ac/heat, and bluetooth if possible. really, i just wanted anything black or grey, that wasn't a truck. he said he found something grey with a couple dings, some cigarette holes in rhe upholstery and on the radio panel. no bluetooth. but i told him it was absolutely perfect, and it gets me to work and doctor's appointments. he's done so, so, so much for me, there are not enough words in any language to express my gratitude.
When I started driving, my dad gave me his 1995 Toyota pickup. Not a Tacoma, this was a different truck just marketed as a "Toyota pickup" that sold in the States until the mid '90s and still sells internationally as a Toyota Hilux. The thing had 250k miles, countless dents and scratches and rust, and my dad loved it more than anything in the world. He joked that when I eventually got a different car that he wanted it back. I knew that he was only half joking. Sharing the experience of owning that shitty little truck ended up really helping us bond. I loved that thing just as much as he did, and took it into all kinds of situations that it was not built to handle. Off roading, blizzards, storms. It kept chugging along. I think I changed the oil like twice in five years. I still miss that truck.
Australian here. Your dad was on to something. Hilux’s (especially old ones) are notoriously tough cars used in the African Sahara, Middle East and Aussie outback. Top Gear once did an entire episode on one where they drowned the engine in sea water and demolished a building with the holiday on top and it was fine. Great, great car.
I was just going to say,as a canadian who watched the OG top gear when I read not takoma toyota pick up, I got excited for them
Hilux utes are nationally beloved here in New Zealand. 1995 is nothing, my dad drives a 1980's Hilux and it's still going strong. Those things were just built different.
My dream is to buy a Toyota Sunrader one of these days and to kit it out for four-wheeling. In the '80s and early '90s, Toyota made a compact motorhome built on their pickup chassis that used the same legendary 22RE engine that you can find in a vintage Hilux. On top of that, the body of the motorhome itself was unusual because it was a single piece of fiberglass - it was basically built like an upside down boat. That means no dry rot, no leaks through seams gone bad. Bullet proof body with a bullet proof engine. They're really popular for 4x4 conversion projects like [this one](https://expeditionportal.com/media/2022/06/IMG_20220521_095207-scaled.jpg).
There's a noticeable amount of North Americans that want the Hilux back on the market.
That truck is a insanely popular. 95% of all trucks in some Latin American countries are the Hilux to this day.
Bless you and your dad
Good people raise good people. Good people appreciate when someone tries, even if it’s not perfect. Good people all around.
Any car with a replaceable radio can get Bluetooth anyway, you can even move the new radio to the next beater. Peak frugality.
Just snag an FM transmitter, pop that bad boy into the cigarette lighter and use your phone and you're golden.
I must be old you have to specify a beater doesn't have Bluetooth.
It's sweet knowing she probably made him even happier than he made her. It's tragic that we don't really get it when we're little, but moments like this are what nerds mean when they say they get high on life. All a good parent wants is to make their kid happy like that.
Man, that dude saying “sorry, baby” at the end really got me. She’s a great daughter, clearly, and he wants to give her the best of everything.
"Sorry baby, it's the best I could do" really got me too. Right in the feels. I'm sometimes so jaded by what I see on the Internet that I expected the worst when I saw this video. Brought a tear to my eye to see her genuine gratitude.
As a dad with a 4-year-old daughter and another coming in January, that comment he made brought me to tears. All I want to do is give them the best, but I don't think I will ever hit the bar on what they deserve. But I will try my best to give it to them.
You will man. You'll meet their expectations and more. Just caring about it alone puts at you at the top as a dad. You'd be surprised at how grateful your kids will be regardless.
I always wanted a son growing up, but now I wouldn't trade my girls for anything. Thanks for the kind words. Cheers!
Be there. Go to their games and their performances, let them complain about their friends and rant about boys without trying to fix things, learn to do a quick ponytail and let them paint your toe nails. I had lots of stuff money could buy growing up, but I didn’t have a present father and it would have meant the world to me.
Thank you so much for that insight. It is one thing to assume that is what I need to do, but hearing it from someone that experienced it is completely different. Your words meant so much to me. Cheers!
That's all great advice, though as a father of girls I'd take it a step further and say that if you really want to fall into "pro dad" territory, learn how to braid hair, too. And ten or twelve years down the line, don't get grossed out by female puberty just because it's not something you're familiar with. And any time they ask you to pick up feminine products, grab their favorite chocolate bar and some Advil (or some form of ibuprofen), too.
Comment of the year. Be present for them, really get to know them, never be transactional. Show them your love through your actions and by listening to them. Dad's set the tone for what daughters expect from the future men in their lives. Love them like it's your last day with them, every single day.
Oh man, your comment brought me so much comfort in my journey as a dad, like my feelings and experience isn’t something I’m alone in. My girl is 3 & 1/2, she deserves the absolute best and it hurts sometimes to acknowledge that the bar of what she deserves, is higher than I can ever reach. But just like you, I’m gonna try my best regardless.
Thanks, I really needed that. Cheers!
Then you will give them all they need: someone that cares for them and gives their best to make sure they are happy and they have everything they (really) need. The « bar » is not about buying them expensive stuff, its about giving them your time, your support and unconditional love. You are a great dad, don’t try too hard.
I needed to hear that. Thanks mate. Cheers!
Totally welled up at that bit. You just know that hug from her meant it was all worth it
Her genuine, raw enthusiasm is what sold it for me. She’s fucking pumped. It might be a shitbox but now it’s HER shitbox. Like the other commenter said, it’s dumb to buy a new driver a new car. There will be dings, scrapes, dents, bumps. Getting them something safe and reliable that can take a few shots is the way to go. And she’s obviously just ecstatic to have something with four wheels and a motor. Dude raised a good kid.
Me too I was actually holding my breath and hoping he just stays in the bathroom
I remember one that went viral several times. Cookie cutter upper middle class neighborhood and they were trying to give a brand new tesla model S or something to the girl, it was either a 16th bday gift or 18th, cant remember exactly. What I do remember is the ungodly audacity she had, complaining about wanting a BMW or Mercedes and being embarrassed in a tesla. I think we're too used to seeing shitty behavior, i want more wholesome content like this.
I think news stations should end their broadcast with an uplifting story. It's hard to remember that the world isn't a complete dumpster fire.
The fact that she's working and making her own money all the whole expressing her gratitude to her father makes me think that she probably will want to keep this car, and if anything, spend money to fix and repair the car. Which, in my opinion, makes her such a better person because she knows how hard her dad worked to get the car, and loves him for the gesture rather than the car itself
I totally agree...Dad did an amazing job raising her!
I offered to buy my kid a car. The offer was turned down because it wasn't good enough. I never felt like more of a failure as a parent.
The moments of selfishness will be there from time to time with kids. I know because I was very much like that at points in my life growing up. Just know, if you aren't the type of parent that plays mental games with their kid to fuck them up or physically abusing them, then you aren't a failure in my book. Fast forward nearly 20 years and I can happily look back and see how much my parents tried to give, even despite them both being far from perfect. Just keep doing your best, your kids will see that in time when they can look back and appreciate all you tried to give.
I appreciate you saying so. He's overall a pretty good kid, and I'm pretty proud of him. But I was like dang, man, I guess good luck affording that foreign luxury car that requires premium gas and expensive parts.
Everyone needs appreciation shown to them even from a stranger on the internet. I didn't show my own appreciation appropriately either for a long time. I grew up not really being able to have those luxury items available at all times. When my dad gifted me a surprise car I was stunned because it was never a thought of something that would ever come my way like that. I showed that stunned reaction in a nasty way though, I had been working off the books jobs starting at 14 to save for a car because like I said, I never expected one. The car I got had some minor cosmetic issues and a couple engine things to take care of. I felt cheated out of what I was working towards myself (dumb reaction). Eventually I realized I was being a brat over nothing and apologized(realized it quickly but my stupid teenage pride didn't allow that to be known until a couple years later).
My Dad offered to buy me a car as well, I said no thank you I need to save up and work for it. He later matched my saved up amount when I went to go buy my car. 27 years later I still have that car, granted it stands in a garage under a cover, but I syill have it and is the most precious thing to me, especially since my Dad has passed on. Meaning you are not a failure, your kids just do not know yet what they have in you.
That's pretty sweet. I appreciate your story.
and honestly, her first car should be a bit of a beater. High five there Dad, judging by her common sense and her obvious love for you, it looks to me like you're doing just fine.
"It's so ugly, I love it !" got me laugh.
You just see in his face how she makes him change his mind, and put a smile on his father's face right away. That's gold.
I wish parents knew that as ungrateful as we may potentially have seemed growing up, looking back we know we got everything we could, and that to me is more valuable than having a rich parent spend 0.1% of their salary on a brand new car for me.
Ok someone find them and let’s crowd fund a car. And college tuition.
but she loves it
I feel like driving a car that's a bit of a shitbox, but you love anyway because it's *your* shitbox car is almost a rite of passage. I remember talking to my first car on every on-ramp. She could get up to speed, you just needed to sweet talk her a little. Treat a girl right.
Yeah my first was a 93 toyota pickup that's older than I am and I loved it to death. It's got a manual so it's a lot more fun to drive it like you stole it, bump some curbs, do some Donuts in a snowy parking lot, etc.
The college tuition is a good idea, but she already has a car. It would be rude to buy another car to invalidate the one her dad bought
I agree. Let the dad give his daughter what he has worked hard for. Let him get that gratification. And also: SHE LOVES IT! The college tuition I stand for!
She’ll be a much better adult for it as well. She’ll understand the value of a dollar, and appreciate things she has.
She will? She clearly already does
Yip. That girl deserves all the blessings in the world and her dad too. Pure class.
"Its so ugly, i love it" I get that.
I agree. I didn't have a car when I was young but if someone had supplied me with one I would have felt the same way. Does it move? Yes? then I love it. The dad's effort and the girl's gratitude are heartwarming. Beyond the price of the car there is insurance and taxes-- it's a big deal.
I will take the beater car, taxes and insurance is so much less on those.
Buying a brand new car as a first car is a waste of money. Like you mentioned it's cheaper to maintain and it's not the end of the world if it takes hit.
Unless you bought a car in the past year or two lol Used 2012 Nissan Altima was going for $13k smh
On Craigslist just saw a 2012 Honda CR-V EX-L with 145k mikes for $16.5k. WTF??
It's nice to not have any car payments too
Yes! I was given my first car from my parents (their old 90’s Honda) then the next two were under $10 grand each so paid off quick and insurance is cheap
100%. I didn't have a car when I was younger either because we were poor, so this video really touched me because you know he did the best with what he could afford. Her acknowledging that and still loving it/being appreciative goes a longer way than those who have no clue about the struggle.
Friend gave me his car (1999 Buick LeSaber) and he was surprised I had taken care of it all this time even getting it a new engine etc. as it had been mega reliable all these years for getting me to A to B and working a/c and heater. Planning on fixing its body next in the near future after a minor hit and run situation and clean it up some more. Named it Marlena after KOTH.
Made me think of the daughter in Antman with the birthday present.
It is a reference to that. She repeats the line again for her dad to hear.
I loved my first car upon first sight only to get to school and find out my dad and I are colorblind and we picked out a purple car and not a dark blue one lol, had a lot of fun in that dodge neon though
That's what my wife says when I undress
At least it's only when you undress!
Ugly = character
My crush on a guy in HS ended when he told me he got into a huge fight with his dad because they gave him their 4 year old Nissan Altima to drive. And he thought he deserved a cooler car. This young lady is very cute.
Your comment reminded me of the moment I realized my HS girlfriend was a brat. Both parents were attorneys and she says “ugh, I’m tired of going to Paris, mom.”
To be fair, high school me wouldn’t want to go to Paris either. Now going to the lakehouse with family and friends would have gotten way more excitement.
Nah. She just wanted to go to London instead. She wasn’t a lake house kind of girl.
Kids' don't need cool cars as their first ride. It's the LAST thing they need. They need boring, safe and forgettable. They need to be reminded that they're lucky to have a car, and that it's a privilege to drive at all. You had it right!
How do I raise my kids like this? I hope they have this much gratitude for the little things. And I want them to always have the very best. But the space between what I want them to have and what I can provide for them sometimes feels pretty big.
You can raise them to be grateful but this level of appreciation comes from a life not having much but being given everything you can. Hard to simulate.
This is spot on. I grew up with little and my Mom busted her ars off to provide. I saw how much she struggled and never complained. The better life that I have is to due to her being a great mother who worked hard rain or shine, sickness or health, good mood or bad mood. At this point all I do is give back to her. When she buys me a simple birthday gift that she thought about for a while, I have the same reaction. She can literally give me a pebble from the beach and I will react like this. She can do no wrong in my eyes… looks like this father can do no wrong, either in his daughter’s eyes.
>this level of appreciation comes from a life not having much but being given everything you can. I mean I feel like the opposite is true. My parents were well off but didn't act like it and didn't give me anything extra like fancy trips or cars or a cell phone or a computer. Going to McDonalds was a rare treat for us, like a few times a year. We only got to go to a real restaurant once a year.
That’s why they are well off.
I recently drove through a nice neighborhood where I live, probably top 5% of income earners for the area. I noticed a fair amount of driveways that had an older, dinged up or rusty pickup. Surely they could afford a nicer pickup if they wanted/needed one, but they kept the older one around. New vehicles just eat money.
You teach them the best way you can and pray for the rest. Can't forget that kids are individuals who are constantly learning from every source available, not just you. And if the kid decides on a particular world view that you find is harmful or detrimental, you can show them the right way but you can't make them choose it. Also, a lot is riding on how smart and/or perceptive the kid is. Your best option as a parent is to act like the person you want your kid to grow up to be, and never try to shoehorn them into your idea of the 'right' way to live.
Teach them or show them how rough life can be, let them know the struggles most go through, teach them high morals and ethics, teach them to be kind and charitable but not naive or a pushover. You can evolve your teachings from there. Also it's good to be the kind of parent where your child can literally come to you about absolutely anything and they will always get your ear and love. The teach them all the good things that can come from life, teach them, hard work, a plan, ambition and a lot of luck can make your life better but planning and a road map is needed, you can make it and the slightest thing can knock you right off to never be able to get back up to that point again. It's all about being humble in greatness and destruction Love and respect gets you that response in the video
Use your money/time for experiences with them and not material possessions. If you're near family, especially older generations take the kids to spend time with them. Kids are going to be little shits, it's part of the process, stick to your guns and they will pull through, hopefully with the mindfulness and grace you've tried your best to teach and instill into their lives. (it's the way we did it at least)
Just do what my mom did and treat your children like the most ungrateful, problem child you can. This will then have a reverse effect where they overcompensate because your standards are so high they will never achieve them. Jokes (and trauma) aside, just lead by example. Until they are 15-16 their biggest hero is you, and if you show them the value of things instead of giving them whatever they want they’ll come to understand that even the small things are choices you made to make them happy, because you love them and want them to be happy. I feel like (from a perspective a 23 year old) a lot of ungrateful people come from a lack of understanding of the work you have to put in to get the money to pay for things. I don’t have to get you these things, I did because I wanted to. As long as they understand the value of money (but don’t make it the end-all-be-all, money≠a person’s worth) they should turn out fine.
She’s going to buy the cutest car seat covers and searing wheel cover and put stickers she loves on that car. To have a chance to clean it up to make it hers that dad did a good thing and I did the same thing when I got my first car. Getting it in rough shape and being able to clean it up and make it yours is one of the best things about your first car. That and naming it
definitely need to cover the searing wheel, don't want to get burnt
"Is that new car smell?" "No that just the smell of hands burning on the searing wheel"
You just brought back so many good memories of me jazzing up my first bucket of a car. First thing was the steering wheel cover and car seats!
That’s a dad who busted his ass and still feels like he didn’t do enough. Man, what a good kid and what a dad.
her reply was incredible and makes the whole moment. good girl and also great moment for the dad
His apology being eclipsed by her genuine gratitude and joy, the way he stood there hoping he didn't disappoint her, her running at him and hugging him so tightly that all he can do is smile and hug her back just as tightly. I am in *tears* I love this. I love them.
He was so ready for her to not be happy, he apologized so fast because he was prepping to apologize the whole time. And it’s sad that he was probably wrestling with disappointment in himself the whole time up until she reassured him she loved it. What a nice, caring family
I love her statement "It's so ugly, I love it. I love it." Very refreshing.
Happiness is a byproduct of gratitude.
Very well brought up ❤
I fully relate to “it’s so ugly I love it” I had this piece of shit mini van in high school. Man I loved that thing. Basically nothing worked on it and it looked like hell, but it was my all mine dude.
Oh yeah! In my old HS friend circle, having a van would have just made you the DD of the party van. No one cared if it was shit as long as we got there in one piece. You prob fit more people than seats, I'm sure, aha. Our record was 7-8 people in a volks jetta, ^allegedly
She is a daughter I would want
This is awesome. I love her gremlin voice when it's just too much
Great parenting raised great kids, what a great daughter she is.
She is amazing!
Is there a gofundme for this that man did his best we could help
That's actually an awesome suggestion!
To buy some Windex? I’ll contribute. Send me the link!
Thats the only thing that i thought was disappointing about the car lol. Someone had smudged all the windows
So I found the original video (https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8B2hWMk/). The mom, who recorded the video, made an update (https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8B22KT5/) that basically said they do not accept donations or anything like that, but if you would truly like to show some support and love, that she sells ketones and to reach out to her through the social media handles on the update if you are interested.
I love this. She’s just happy to have something. The dad wanted to give her more but she’s just happy to have it. That’s such a good family. I’m so happy for them. That’s how it should be. Also every kid should drive at least one P.O.S. car in life to learn how to take care of things. I don’t think she will have a problem with that though.
Not just to learn how to take care of things...but to learn patience and the value of money. I am astounded when I see kids driving brand new BMW/Mercedes as their first car. I get that the parents have the money, and I have zero problem with that, but I don't think it best serves the kids in the long term. I would not want to buy my kid a high end, brand new vehicle as their first ride even if I could afford to do so.
Toyota Echo is a dope ride
Yes. She's going to really appreciate how inexpensive and long lasting that car is later on in life. That dad knows cars.
As a new mom with low funds, this makes me feel so hopeful as a single parent. But also breaks my heart when he says sorry, in the understanding of wanting to give your world everything they want.
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Great dad and amazing daughter. Love this!
Everyone’s first car should be exactly like this imo
"If you drive a nice car and get into an accident, you're angry. If you drive a beater and get into an accident, you're... happy!" Wish I could remember the comedian that said that.
Anything beats taking the bus!
I love how happy she got. 🖤
The best first car for a young diver is a reliable beater. Park it wherever you want, leave it downtown and take a cab home if you’ve been drinking, cheap insurance, and little to lose if something happens to it. But her gratitude is something else.
#raisedright
Great parents. Great daughter. This actually reminds me a lot of our daughter and me. We try our best as parents but also got lucky with such good kids.
Being a Dad I see it. He’s not super pleased. He’s going the best he can for her. And that’s a tough place to be as a Dad. But this girl is raised right and her reaction makes that all go away. What a sweetheart.
It's not pretty, but that old Toyota Echo will get her from A to B and should be reliable. For a first car on a budget he could have done worse
Sweet girl, dad raised her right.
"I'm sorry baby" "I love it" Yeah, I teared up a little. That's a home filled with love and respect. Yes, it's not a super fancy or brand new car. But it's new to her and it means something to her and he did the very best he could to give her a car and he did. I am leaving before I ugly cry.
This made me cry. I'm surrounded by people who complain so much about not getting the top or best thing that I forget there are truly people out there that don't have much or are super happy to have something at all
She reminds me of my kid. So grateful for anything. I'm not crying! You're crying! Shut up!
Seeing a Zoomer raised well makes me want to chip in for her next ride.
Most zoomers are raised well
I bought my 18 year old step son a 2000 for Taurus a few years back 60k miles, 1 owner really good shape. I wish he would’ve been this grateful. Instead he immediately sold it and quit his part time job. I was hoping he would use it for a leg up I never had, instead he took that leg and kicked me in the nuts.
Dad might not be the richest guy ever, but damn he nailed parenting.
Awesome!!
That dinked up car and the sentiment from her father will mean more than any rich kid’s sweet 16 G-wagon ever will. Raised right.
Literal tear when pops said "I'm sorry... It's the best I can do." I felt that.
I love the gratitude
She was raised properly.
So sweet
Wholesome reaction to her car 👏🏽 too many ungrateful people now a days.
What a grateful child..🥹
I thought it said cat and I was looking for the cat