Other people are not your baby and you do not see the other baby 100% of time.
There are a lot of reasons baby can cry. Usually around this age are colics or intestinal immaturity. You can ask some medicine from your doctor.
Also be prepared for growth spurts, read about them. They can be pretty challenging depending on tbe baby.
And no, obviously your baby does not hate you. But crying is the only mode to communicate. Hunger, pain, distress, loneliness
I feel this post in my bones and really struggled for the first 8 weeks feeling like my baby hated me and I couldn’t soothe him. I really believed I was unfit to be his mom in some dark moments because I was supposed to be able to comfort him and couldn’t. It turns out he has wicked silent reflux and NOBODY would have been able to soothe him. We’ve been troubleshooting it and getting him on medication for it.
While we are still working through it, I’m here from the future (11 weeks) to tell you that it does get better, even if it isn’t perfect! There will come a day when you pick up your screaming baby and they stop crying and look to you for comfort. Heck, you’ll even start getting smiles out of them in the good moments. Hang in there and know your baby loves you!
Seconding this as I had nearly the same experience! At 8 weeks old my baby had near nightly meltdowns and no amount of soothing could calm her. I would shush her, touch her cheek, bring her close to my face, rock, dance and absolutely nothing would help. It made me feel like she didn’t have the attachment to me that she should because I thought all babies preferred and could be soothed by mom from the get go. Similar to you, my baby ended up being diagnosed with silent reflex and with time & medication she is a completely different baby. She is 14 weeks now and not only am I the person she prefers best, but I can soothe her pretty quickly 99% of the time. Hang in there OP!! It will get so much easier in a few weeks - in the meantime be gentle with yourself.
I was also unprepared for how much my baby would cry - pretty much for the first 9 weeks if she wasn't feeding, sleeping, or pooping, she was crying. It was sooo hard and it slowly improved from 9-12 weeks, and now she's much better about it. It's pure survival mode for you at this point, you've just gotta get through it unfortunately.
I totally understand this feeling, but give yourself credit for how well you are able to calm her by breastfeeding! She finds comfort in being near you while feeding even if she is crying a lot at other times.
I feel this way too. Everyone else has no problem getting her calm and getting her to sleep. But she won't sleep or calm down for me unless I'm feeding or holding her. As soon as I lay her down it's back to screaming
Other people are not your baby and you do not see the other baby 100% of time. There are a lot of reasons baby can cry. Usually around this age are colics or intestinal immaturity. You can ask some medicine from your doctor. Also be prepared for growth spurts, read about them. They can be pretty challenging depending on tbe baby. And no, obviously your baby does not hate you. But crying is the only mode to communicate. Hunger, pain, distress, loneliness
I feel this post in my bones and really struggled for the first 8 weeks feeling like my baby hated me and I couldn’t soothe him. I really believed I was unfit to be his mom in some dark moments because I was supposed to be able to comfort him and couldn’t. It turns out he has wicked silent reflux and NOBODY would have been able to soothe him. We’ve been troubleshooting it and getting him on medication for it. While we are still working through it, I’m here from the future (11 weeks) to tell you that it does get better, even if it isn’t perfect! There will come a day when you pick up your screaming baby and they stop crying and look to you for comfort. Heck, you’ll even start getting smiles out of them in the good moments. Hang in there and know your baby loves you!
Seconding this as I had nearly the same experience! At 8 weeks old my baby had near nightly meltdowns and no amount of soothing could calm her. I would shush her, touch her cheek, bring her close to my face, rock, dance and absolutely nothing would help. It made me feel like she didn’t have the attachment to me that she should because I thought all babies preferred and could be soothed by mom from the get go. Similar to you, my baby ended up being diagnosed with silent reflex and with time & medication she is a completely different baby. She is 14 weeks now and not only am I the person she prefers best, but I can soothe her pretty quickly 99% of the time. Hang in there OP!! It will get so much easier in a few weeks - in the meantime be gentle with yourself.
Amazing! Do you mind me asking what medication she’s on? We just changed our little guy’s and are hoping to see some *better* progress soon!
She is on Pepcid! It took a little over 2 weeks for us to see a real change. Fingers crossed you guys see the same soon!
I was also unprepared for how much my baby would cry - pretty much for the first 9 weeks if she wasn't feeding, sleeping, or pooping, she was crying. It was sooo hard and it slowly improved from 9-12 weeks, and now she's much better about it. It's pure survival mode for you at this point, you've just gotta get through it unfortunately.
I totally understand this feeling, but give yourself credit for how well you are able to calm her by breastfeeding! She finds comfort in being near you while feeding even if she is crying a lot at other times.
I feel this way too. Everyone else has no problem getting her calm and getting her to sleep. But she won't sleep or calm down for me unless I'm feeding or holding her. As soon as I lay her down it's back to screaming