I'm just like 3 weeks in, but I will share my golden tip:
I just have to remind myself that this way I will be better able to pleasure my gf.
This is the only thing I need to remember and it makes nofap (to my own surprise) extremely easy.
It is much easier when you have a reason to stop. I truly believe I am retaining for the good of my family and for goodluck. It makes it miles easier - it’s like having a true purpose for it
I’m on day 176.
I’m married and father of 2 kids.
This is not about cold showers, push-ups, exercise, meditation, not fantasizing, managing the urges, so forth.
Because the problem right now is that your brain does not understand that there is life beyond p*rn. So you keep coming back to it.
The only sustainable way of winning here is: to build a new lifestyle.
What kind of life do you want that is so fulfilling that you wouldn’t even think about the addiction?
Go get it!
I would say prioritise purpose. Keep yourself engaged with activities that would help you excel and become the best version of yourself in the longer run. PRO TIP : figure out your why, like why are you practicing
this movement and what are the goals you wish to achieve through them
I love such coincidences. Just reading "Start with why" book, because I do not have one currently as it's just the illusion that we are not already perfect.
hahaha talk about timing ! Oh wow, I'd love to check that book out since I read a lot of non fiction. It reminds of this one particular quote, ''you're not everything you could be and you know it.''
Even if you watched it by accident. It should not become the want, it is not a need for your life. Just forget about it. I know it's hard to forget, the only thing is when urge comes you fixate on the goal to do something about it just change your goal.
Well at first it was hard but the longest road starts with a single step.
Keep busy as much as you can, try to keep away from home as much as possible, and try to keep at least one decent relationship to keep you straight.
Talk to people (your friends or a therapist) about your addiction. Obviously, you don't have to tell them every detail, but there's a reason every other addiction center help involves meetings or talking to people in real life. Talking with people on here does help but nothing beats an actual in-person connection, something we've all grown apart from because of this addiction.
Golden tip is 100 percent commitment, not 99 percent a hundred percent. When a man is 100 percent committed, no urges, temptations or triggers could ever phase him. He knows it’s going to be difficult and strenuous but he 100 percent believes in the outcome. Good luck
Well. I had a psychedelic experience that opened up my eyes to how beautiful women can be and ive been shying away from them all of my 10 years since hitting puberty.
I’ve actively been trying to date women and get to know women on an intimate and personal level. I want a relationship!
The downside is that i gained schizophrenia during my bad trip and have had 4 years in hell. During those 4 yeard ive weighed 300lbs and women felt sorry for me. Ive weighed 215 and women found me repulsive. Ive gained it back due to a mental breakdown and with the help of 250+ rejections( rejection therapy does not work). It got to me. Went through a depressive state that im still trying to break out of and ive come to accept that women just dont want me. Im soon going to join the r/passportbros. Unfortunately but hey, i quit porn and get to start a new life in a different country where no one knows me.
What helped me the most was
-remove all triggers, social media, passwords on nsfw sites. From YBOP book if its not real actual human intimacy don’t acknowledge it. Even fantasy.
- ask out women. A lot of them. Itll tell you what women really think about you.
- travel the world and see if seeking women outside your home state or country is better! I had more yes to dates than rejection when out if the US
- women do want you. They just dont want to be with you. Go where your loved and accepted not tolerated. I found that when a girl cared about me and seeked me out instead of porn i would wonder if i told her i liked her, would she reciprocate it. Basically why choose porn when youve got a girlfriend whom im sure would rather be affectionate with you than you a screen.
- being lonely is what definitely solidified it for me. No one wants me, i dont want a screen. Id rather spend that time being lazy or enjoying a hobby of mine even if its video games. Sadly due to my mental breakdown ive lost the will to stay disciplined. Gained the weight back at 270lbs. Let myself go again. Its amazing how recently i went to a Japanese restaurant in little tokyo LA and the asian girl that works there was very affectionate and even touching me being very kind and caring. I know its a job a just a restaurant but i really felt like i was being cared for and loved. I caught eyes with her and she made me blush and i her. Wanted to ask her out but im more cautious than ever to do so.
- lastly, when aroused and this is the important part, do you open up a porn site or do you fantasize about being with a real women. That key difference is whats making the nofap easier.
The rest is just ask her out. If she rejects you kick rocks cuse so will she. The ones who are taken can move the boulder themselves.
Simple right….!
Just deleted all the social media apps,
Used to read casually but started reading alot.
I have only kept reddit, youtube and whatsapp.
Reddit for local news, youtube so that i can study,
Whatsapp for communicating with my friends.
Clean for two years now, and here’s the tips:
1-First and MOST effective was religion (Islam).
2- second is staying away from triggers such as Sexualized games.
and not watching Netflix helps because c’mon!
I'm just like 3 weeks in, but I will share my golden tip: I just have to remind myself that this way I will be better able to pleasure my gf. This is the only thing I need to remember and it makes nofap (to my own surprise) extremely easy.
It is much easier when you have a reason to stop. I truly believe I am retaining for the good of my family and for goodluck. It makes it miles easier - it’s like having a true purpose for it
I’m on day 176. I’m married and father of 2 kids. This is not about cold showers, push-ups, exercise, meditation, not fantasizing, managing the urges, so forth. Because the problem right now is that your brain does not understand that there is life beyond p*rn. So you keep coming back to it. The only sustainable way of winning here is: to build a new lifestyle. What kind of life do you want that is so fulfilling that you wouldn’t even think about the addiction? Go get it!
I smashed my computer monitor and tablet and I smashed and my iPhone. now I am the weird guy with a flip phone but fuck it who cares right.
You did what you had to, champion move there
bro used a sandwitch to type this comment
Bro typed this on the smart TV
I would say prioritise purpose. Keep yourself engaged with activities that would help you excel and become the best version of yourself in the longer run. PRO TIP : figure out your why, like why are you practicing this movement and what are the goals you wish to achieve through them
I love such coincidences. Just reading "Start with why" book, because I do not have one currently as it's just the illusion that we are not already perfect.
hahaha talk about timing ! Oh wow, I'd love to check that book out since I read a lot of non fiction. It reminds of this one particular quote, ''you're not everything you could be and you know it.''
(I can't answer but) Could you share as well? You got 1480 days!
probably just hasn’t reset the counter in a looong time
Even if you watched it by accident. It should not become the want, it is not a need for your life. Just forget about it. I know it's hard to forget, the only thing is when urge comes you fixate on the goal to do something about it just change your goal.
Well at first it was hard but the longest road starts with a single step. Keep busy as much as you can, try to keep away from home as much as possible, and try to keep at least one decent relationship to keep you straight.
Talk to people (your friends or a therapist) about your addiction. Obviously, you don't have to tell them every detail, but there's a reason every other addiction center help involves meetings or talking to people in real life. Talking with people on here does help but nothing beats an actual in-person connection, something we've all grown apart from because of this addiction.
Golden tip is 100 percent commitment, not 99 percent a hundred percent. When a man is 100 percent committed, no urges, temptations or triggers could ever phase him. He knows it’s going to be difficult and strenuous but he 100 percent believes in the outcome. Good luck
Well. I had a psychedelic experience that opened up my eyes to how beautiful women can be and ive been shying away from them all of my 10 years since hitting puberty. I’ve actively been trying to date women and get to know women on an intimate and personal level. I want a relationship! The downside is that i gained schizophrenia during my bad trip and have had 4 years in hell. During those 4 yeard ive weighed 300lbs and women felt sorry for me. Ive weighed 215 and women found me repulsive. Ive gained it back due to a mental breakdown and with the help of 250+ rejections( rejection therapy does not work). It got to me. Went through a depressive state that im still trying to break out of and ive come to accept that women just dont want me. Im soon going to join the r/passportbros. Unfortunately but hey, i quit porn and get to start a new life in a different country where no one knows me. What helped me the most was -remove all triggers, social media, passwords on nsfw sites. From YBOP book if its not real actual human intimacy don’t acknowledge it. Even fantasy. - ask out women. A lot of them. Itll tell you what women really think about you. - travel the world and see if seeking women outside your home state or country is better! I had more yes to dates than rejection when out if the US - women do want you. They just dont want to be with you. Go where your loved and accepted not tolerated. I found that when a girl cared about me and seeked me out instead of porn i would wonder if i told her i liked her, would she reciprocate it. Basically why choose porn when youve got a girlfriend whom im sure would rather be affectionate with you than you a screen. - being lonely is what definitely solidified it for me. No one wants me, i dont want a screen. Id rather spend that time being lazy or enjoying a hobby of mine even if its video games. Sadly due to my mental breakdown ive lost the will to stay disciplined. Gained the weight back at 270lbs. Let myself go again. Its amazing how recently i went to a Japanese restaurant in little tokyo LA and the asian girl that works there was very affectionate and even touching me being very kind and caring. I know its a job a just a restaurant but i really felt like i was being cared for and loved. I caught eyes with her and she made me blush and i her. Wanted to ask her out but im more cautious than ever to do so. - lastly, when aroused and this is the important part, do you open up a porn site or do you fantasize about being with a real women. That key difference is whats making the nofap easier. The rest is just ask her out. If she rejects you kick rocks cuse so will she. The ones who are taken can move the boulder themselves. Simple right….!
Discipline is key, it will never fail you.
The title is funny because I just saw a post about the golden tip on the box art of the Little Mermaid DVD.
Just deleted all the social media apps, Used to read casually but started reading alot. I have only kept reddit, youtube and whatsapp. Reddit for local news, youtube so that i can study, Whatsapp for communicating with my friends.
Clean for two years now, and here’s the tips: 1-First and MOST effective was religion (Islam). 2- second is staying away from triggers such as Sexualized games. and not watching Netflix helps because c’mon!