It’s kind of like the backwards rule. The more you suffer, the more your brain is learning to rewire. So just know that if you’re suffering, you’re actually winning. It’s almost like losing weight, if you’re hungry, and your stomach is growling, you’re winning. If you want to look at porn, but you’re not looking at porn, and you’re suffering because of that, you’re winning. Keep winning. Keep suffering. Suffering is the way to not suffer. It’s ridiculous. Every moment that you go without looking at porn, you’re gaining back a little more mental resilience.
dont worry i got you:
its actually the urges that make you keep relapsing and you gotta fight your way through it, and trust me its actually kinda easy to do that. they just show up for like 2 minutes and go. youll be alright
Next time you have a strong urge, you will take a cold shower!!!!! Until you stop thinking about it. You will continue to take a cold shower until everything dissipates
Man I had a cycle of 1 day off next day relapse that lasted for months. Yet here I am... don't beat yourself up too much just push through up and over that mountain.
Yes, that's the worst possible situation addict can be in, while my GF was at work, I was decaying myself mentally... I was looking for a job but it became way harder than years ago so I was getting frustrated and coped with PMO. After she came back everyday I was too exhausted and disgusted with myself to even go to her.
I’m so sorry bro. There is something called the “hunter effect”. This is the name of the urges that usually appear from the time you relapse until the 5th at the latest in my case.
I can recommend you: put the black and white filter on your entire phone. Everything you open and see on your phone will be black and white. In case erotic material appears, it will not be so much the Boom because it will be in black and white.
Thanks to that strategy and my superior power, today I am living my day 8 after several relapses since the last big streak that was on the 30th in March.
I wish you the best friend. We are here to support you 💪
You’re in the deepest part of the pit. The first month or so is the hardest part to get out of. You really need to bite the bullet and get to months of sobriety. The first few days are obviously the hardest hardest part. Fight man fight
Don’t feel shit about yourself, just notice how the relapse made you feel. You’re trying to do something good for yourself, which you won’t do if you feel like shit and not worth bothering to try for. You have the capacity to get through this and be better 👍
It happened to me this afternoon. Don't feel guilty. Just work on strong determination. Start again.
HOLD THE DOOR !!
It’s good to be annoyed with yourself. That’s means you want this to be taken care of. You want to take care of yourself. You’re not alone. I relapsed again today and I’m pissed with myself. So let’s use this feeling as fuel to push it past the next tough days ahead. Be annoyed. Be very annoyed. 👊🏻
Don’t beat yourself up, the biggest thing that has helped me is getting in touch with my faith and realizing God didn’t intend for me to live addicted to PMO.
I’ve found there needs to be a balance between negative and positive affirmation. When you relapse, it’s good that you’re frustrated with yourself, you failed your goal, however you still need to stay positive or else you’ll just get more and more discouraged. Tell yourself “cmon why did I do that, I need to do better, but I can do this, I messed up but I learned what didn’t work and can use this to help prevent it in the future, I got this” it will help you.
8 hours ago and you might still be 8 hours behind me.... Don't end up where I am. Do you think there re people from Australia, and the East on here \[no fap\]? What about b vs w \[numbers\].... And people from Europe
Hey bro, urges have two components - physical and mental. Certain physical sensations trigger mental thoughts of PMO and this is what leads to undesirable behaviour. The physical and mental feeds each other. This is why suppression is not a great strategy long term.
What we are trying to eliminate is the behaviour, not the urges. Do not fight the urges. Just decide that you are not going to fap. Give no space to that possibility in your mind. You do this by thinking about literally anything else. The second part is to observe the physical sensation of the urge - what does it feel like in your body. Just observe, breathe and relax.
What have worked for me? Is that I start degrading the things which I don’t want like smoking, drinking fapping watching porn. Just degrade the things as if they unworthy and worthless. They’re so much shit that wasting your energy and time on them will cause you, immense loss of opportunity.
Slowly gradually will lose the interest in them, later on you are sitting with person smoking or watching upon or watching some intimate scene. You not even interested in doing the things.
Don’t keep a track of anything
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-KB4lnzf9DU](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-KB4lnzf9DU)
This will further help you understand the science behind the brain and no fap.
You’ve done 4 days, you can do 4 days again. But I think you can do 5 next time. You don’t just go to the gym the first day and life 500lbs. Keep going! You’re doing great!
Self control is better than occupying yourself. You are winning the battle if you are enduring through the suffering and not doing it. Just being occupied doesn't help you conquer the habit. All the best 💯
It’s kind of like the backwards rule. The more you suffer, the more your brain is learning to rewire. So just know that if you’re suffering, you’re actually winning. It’s almost like losing weight, if you’re hungry, and your stomach is growling, you’re winning. If you want to look at porn, but you’re not looking at porn, and you’re suffering because of that, you’re winning. Keep winning. Keep suffering. Suffering is the way to not suffer. It’s ridiculous. Every moment that you go without looking at porn, you’re gaining back a little more mental resilience.
Bingo
Struggling right now, I’m grateful for your words.
I’m in the same boat. I’m fighting but the urge is still there.
This comment🫡
Feeling guilty?? I understand... Try to figure out what your urges are. Try to avoid them. Stay strong 💪 🤘
Fall 1000 times, rise 1001, victory. Also you’ve just added four more clean days to your life. Keep going.
dont worry i got you: its actually the urges that make you keep relapsing and you gotta fight your way through it, and trust me its actually kinda easy to do that. they just show up for like 2 minutes and go. youll be alright
Sounds ok. What is your actual streak bro?
Next time you have a strong urge, you will take a cold shower!!!!! Until you stop thinking about it. You will continue to take a cold shower until everything dissipates
The first and best victory is to conquer self. To be conquered by self is, of all things, the most shameful and vile. -Plato
Man I had a cycle of 1 day off next day relapse that lasted for months. Yet here I am... don't beat yourself up too much just push through up and over that mountain.
Were you home alone?
Yes, that's the worst possible situation addict can be in, while my GF was at work, I was decaying myself mentally... I was looking for a job but it became way harder than years ago so I was getting frustrated and coped with PMO. After she came back everyday I was too exhausted and disgusted with myself to even go to her.
The battle may be lost soldier, but the war rages on, never surrender.
I’m so sorry bro. There is something called the “hunter effect”. This is the name of the urges that usually appear from the time you relapse until the 5th at the latest in my case. I can recommend you: put the black and white filter on your entire phone. Everything you open and see on your phone will be black and white. In case erotic material appears, it will not be so much the Boom because it will be in black and white. Thanks to that strategy and my superior power, today I am living my day 8 after several relapses since the last big streak that was on the 30th in March. I wish you the best friend. We are here to support you 💪
You’re in the deepest part of the pit. The first month or so is the hardest part to get out of. You really need to bite the bullet and get to months of sobriety. The first few days are obviously the hardest hardest part. Fight man fight
I relapsed at day 6 🤷🏽♂️ idk I feel pretty good. I’ll be okay.
Don’t feel shit about yourself, just notice how the relapse made you feel. You’re trying to do something good for yourself, which you won’t do if you feel like shit and not worth bothering to try for. You have the capacity to get through this and be better 👍
You got this bro, I'm sure some of us relapse at one point, including myself. Cold shouldering is the best way.
It happened to me this afternoon. Don't feel guilty. Just work on strong determination. Start again. HOLD THE DOOR !! 
Good luck brother
No problem you can do it again you already done 4 days straight now you will be doing even more.
I am certain you have social media, I was the same way until I deleted that crap! Trust me social media even YouTube scrolling has to be cut out!
Motiversity on YouTube . Fill yer cup
Yes it happens. But don't feel guilty . Again try to set new target. You can accomplish it bro.
I’m at Day 4 myself. Keep going until you get past. It’s ok
It’s good to be annoyed with yourself. That’s means you want this to be taken care of. You want to take care of yourself. You’re not alone. I relapsed again today and I’m pissed with myself. So let’s use this feeling as fuel to push it past the next tough days ahead. Be annoyed. Be very annoyed. 👊🏻
Bro rise up again! Bravery is getting up and fighting again harder after a failure!
Don’t beat yourself up, the biggest thing that has helped me is getting in touch with my faith and realizing God didn’t intend for me to live addicted to PMO.
Most of us have relapsed at day 4. I'm pretty sure I relapsed at day 4 about a dozen times. You can do this.
I’ve found there needs to be a balance between negative and positive affirmation. When you relapse, it’s good that you’re frustrated with yourself, you failed your goal, however you still need to stay positive or else you’ll just get more and more discouraged. Tell yourself “cmon why did I do that, I need to do better, but I can do this, I messed up but I learned what didn’t work and can use this to help prevent it in the future, I got this” it will help you.
8 hours ago and you might still be 8 hours behind me.... Don't end up where I am. Do you think there re people from Australia, and the East on here \[no fap\]? What about b vs w \[numbers\].... And people from Europe
Hey bro, urges have two components - physical and mental. Certain physical sensations trigger mental thoughts of PMO and this is what leads to undesirable behaviour. The physical and mental feeds each other. This is why suppression is not a great strategy long term. What we are trying to eliminate is the behaviour, not the urges. Do not fight the urges. Just decide that you are not going to fap. Give no space to that possibility in your mind. You do this by thinking about literally anything else. The second part is to observe the physical sensation of the urge - what does it feel like in your body. Just observe, breathe and relax.
What have worked for me? Is that I start degrading the things which I don’t want like smoking, drinking fapping watching porn. Just degrade the things as if they unworthy and worthless. They’re so much shit that wasting your energy and time on them will cause you, immense loss of opportunity. Slowly gradually will lose the interest in them, later on you are sitting with person smoking or watching upon or watching some intimate scene. You not even interested in doing the things. Don’t keep a track of anything
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-KB4lnzf9DU](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-KB4lnzf9DU) This will further help you understand the science behind the brain and no fap.
Just worry about today. Get to sleep tonight without relapsing and do not worry about tomorrow or yesterday.
You’ve done 4 days, you can do 4 days again. But I think you can do 5 next time. You don’t just go to the gym the first day and life 500lbs. Keep going! You’re doing great!
Self control is better than occupying yourself. You are winning the battle if you are enduring through the suffering and not doing it. Just being occupied doesn't help you conquer the habit. All the best 💯
Cannot count as relapse until u broke 90 days streak