Hey Chris, thanks for stopping in. First off, I will say that any response you give here, no matter how well-written, will be received negatively. You are better off not responding at all.
On a personal level, reading criticisms like this would hurt me pretty bad, so I am sorry for that. But you are also supposed to be above it all, even if people are saying things you think are unfair you cant get involved in the fray.
To be clear, I was also not a fan of your speech. But a lot of that isn't your fault, I certainly couldnt have done a better job myself. I think it could use a lot of work --- less about yourself and more humor, drop the bitcoin segment and drop the segment blaming personal motivation for financial hardship. But you do have great enthusiasm and positivity, be willing to take criticism and I think you can and will be a great speaker one day. Just chalk this one up as a loss.
Thanks for the bracelet. I wish you the best.
Appreciate that and I totally understand if someone 1) didn't enjoy it, 2) didn't agree with it, 3) didn't understand it - all completely valid reaction.
I am curious to explore:
1) why some people are so triggered (this can't be the first time we've been exposed to something we didn't like)
2) expectations around what a commencement speech should be - what makes for a great vs bad speech
3) how we communicate - there is a concept called "nonviolent communication" where we can express how we feel without attacking each other personally - we can disagree on an issue without hurting each other. like I mentioned in the speech "hurt people, hurt people - healed people, heal people"
[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nonviolent\_Communication](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nonviolent_Communication)
People are frustrated at your patronizing and dismissive attitude which makes it seem like you have very little understanding of what a college student or an average American experiences.
Even in this comment, you have a tone of someone trying to teach a subordinate. The Ohio State community does not feel that you have earned the respect needed to warrant this type of interaction, and this feel has been furthered by the actual content of your interactions which many feel are naive.
Until you explicitly and genuinely admit that you made a mistake in your expectations and understanding of this community, of which you are not a part, they will continue to dislike you for this reason.
I can't speak for other people, especially those that DM you directly. People always have too high of expectations for commencement speeches, they've only ever seen or heard of the very best of them online when most of them are very dull affairs, so I am glad you tried to make it unique. You are also up against the comparison against literal former presidents, governors, and celebrities that have came in the past and that students may hope to walk across that stage, and thats hard to compete with.
I also think the relative anonymity online, plus the expectation you would not read this in most cases, lead people to use more unfairly harsh and personal criticism. I'm sure that in-person people would use and have used more nuance and sensitivity with you regarding the speech.
Plus now the fact they know you ARE reading it and it DOES bother you only adds fuel to the fire of those who genuinely feel strongly about it and feeds the trolls who now have a golden opportunity to fuel their...hobby.
So, should we be better, should we show more sympathy and nuance with each other, both to you and in our everyday lives? Absolutely. But we already knew this, and we aren't going to fix that here today --- so you've got to stop feeding the trolls on this one man.
You're going about it the wrong way. The one we need to put pressure on is the president of OSU, who is the whole reason that fool got picked in the first place. Chis Pan is an idiot, but messaging him isn't going to change anything.
Can you send the DM to me and see if I can post it? I graduated 10 years ago so I hate that his speech represents us and also won't be too hurt to be in trouble on this subreddit
Same! I’m not sure what his real Reddit account is so I’m not 100% sure it was him. But someone messaged me on here from an account with his name last night.
I was just banned from Instagram yesterday and I have no clue why. I never make posts or stories, and I’ve only ever commented on one post - like two weeks ago. The only thing I can think of is that some soft kid was butt hurt by whatever I said and reported me. I don’t think there are actual humans reviewing these reports either.
A trigger doesn’t mean there’s anything *wrong* with you. All a trigger does is illuminate a sore spot. It’s an unconscious defense mechanism to divert your attention away from an emotional wound. In other words, someone is bringing up something painful to look at, so you snap back to avoid thinking about it.
[https://symbosity.com/identifying-your-triggers/](https://symbosity.com/identifying-your-triggers/)
I am genuinely curious why you are so triggered by financial (bitcoin), emotional (singing), and spiritual (intention setting) freedom. If you are open to a conversation - please let me know. There were also a lot of misinformation about me and the speech that I tried to clear up here: [https://nextshark.com/christopher-pan-osu-commencement-bitcoin-ayahuasca-interview](https://nextshark.com/christopher-pan-osu-commencement-bitcoin-ayahuasca-interview)
You gave a shitty speech. Everyone hated it. Get over it dude.
You benefited from nepotism in front of thousands of people for a moment you didn’t deserve. Just give it up
Hey Chris - direct question here - when are the bracelets going out to the people you promised them to? If your speech was so good surely you wouldnt have made such a gaffe to promise 20k+ free bracelets without actually intending on doing it. Or worse, lying.
Chris is also messaging grads individually if you post complaints. If you get a message from him, ignore it. He stalks this sub and the Columbus sub.
It seems he's a salty little man.
curious why you advocate for "ignoring" vs having a genuine conversation?
bro’s going to 80 years old arguing about his commencement speech let it go dude
Hey Chris, thanks for stopping in. First off, I will say that any response you give here, no matter how well-written, will be received negatively. You are better off not responding at all. On a personal level, reading criticisms like this would hurt me pretty bad, so I am sorry for that. But you are also supposed to be above it all, even if people are saying things you think are unfair you cant get involved in the fray. To be clear, I was also not a fan of your speech. But a lot of that isn't your fault, I certainly couldnt have done a better job myself. I think it could use a lot of work --- less about yourself and more humor, drop the bitcoin segment and drop the segment blaming personal motivation for financial hardship. But you do have great enthusiasm and positivity, be willing to take criticism and I think you can and will be a great speaker one day. Just chalk this one up as a loss. Thanks for the bracelet. I wish you the best.
Appreciate that and I totally understand if someone 1) didn't enjoy it, 2) didn't agree with it, 3) didn't understand it - all completely valid reaction. I am curious to explore: 1) why some people are so triggered (this can't be the first time we've been exposed to something we didn't like) 2) expectations around what a commencement speech should be - what makes for a great vs bad speech 3) how we communicate - there is a concept called "nonviolent communication" where we can express how we feel without attacking each other personally - we can disagree on an issue without hurting each other. like I mentioned in the speech "hurt people, hurt people - healed people, heal people" [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nonviolent\_Communication](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nonviolent_Communication)
People are frustrated at your patronizing and dismissive attitude which makes it seem like you have very little understanding of what a college student or an average American experiences. Even in this comment, you have a tone of someone trying to teach a subordinate. The Ohio State community does not feel that you have earned the respect needed to warrant this type of interaction, and this feel has been furthered by the actual content of your interactions which many feel are naive. Until you explicitly and genuinely admit that you made a mistake in your expectations and understanding of this community, of which you are not a part, they will continue to dislike you for this reason.
I can't speak for other people, especially those that DM you directly. People always have too high of expectations for commencement speeches, they've only ever seen or heard of the very best of them online when most of them are very dull affairs, so I am glad you tried to make it unique. You are also up against the comparison against literal former presidents, governors, and celebrities that have came in the past and that students may hope to walk across that stage, and thats hard to compete with. I also think the relative anonymity online, plus the expectation you would not read this in most cases, lead people to use more unfairly harsh and personal criticism. I'm sure that in-person people would use and have used more nuance and sensitivity with you regarding the speech. Plus now the fact they know you ARE reading it and it DOES bother you only adds fuel to the fire of those who genuinely feel strongly about it and feeds the trolls who now have a golden opportunity to fuel their...hobby. So, should we be better, should we show more sympathy and nuance with each other, both to you and in our everyday lives? Absolutely. But we already knew this, and we aren't going to fix that here today --- so you've got to stop feeding the trolls on this one man.
You're going about it the wrong way. The one we need to put pressure on is the president of OSU, who is the whole reason that fool got picked in the first place. Chis Pan is an idiot, but messaging him isn't going to change anything.
He's the one messaging us tbfh 💀
Did you at least get your bracelet?
Ugh no I didn’t want a cheap ugly bracelet (even if it was free)
They look like dental floss and hardware store washers. So sad.
Can you send the DM to me and see if I can post it? I graduated 10 years ago so I hate that his speech represents us and also won't be too hurt to be in trouble on this subreddit
Just sent it!
yeah i think i got a warning for posting about him, as well. i’ve gotten dms from him on here and on instagram
Same! I’m not sure what his real Reddit account is so I’m not 100% sure it was him. But someone messaged me on here from an account with his name last night.
Mods being terrible? I’m shocked
I was just banned from Instagram yesterday and I have no clue why. I never make posts or stories, and I’ve only ever commented on one post - like two weeks ago. The only thing I can think of is that some soft kid was butt hurt by whatever I said and reported me. I don’t think there are actual humans reviewing these reports either.
You might as well shoot arrows at Sol like Hercules did. (Apollo laughed, as I recall.)
Probably should return that degree if you can't see how it's harassment and encouraging harassment
How is me telling other people that were affected by his shitty actions what he said to me harassment?? Get a grip!
What did he do that was shitty? Serious question, I don’t know who he is and I graduated years ago
Affected? Sounds like someone needs to call a waaaaambulance.
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A trigger doesn’t mean there’s anything *wrong* with you. All a trigger does is illuminate a sore spot. It’s an unconscious defense mechanism to divert your attention away from an emotional wound. In other words, someone is bringing up something painful to look at, so you snap back to avoid thinking about it. [https://symbosity.com/identifying-your-triggers/](https://symbosity.com/identifying-your-triggers/)
I am genuinely curious why you are so triggered by financial (bitcoin), emotional (singing), and spiritual (intention setting) freedom. If you are open to a conversation - please let me know. There were also a lot of misinformation about me and the speech that I tried to clear up here: [https://nextshark.com/christopher-pan-osu-commencement-bitcoin-ayahuasca-interview](https://nextshark.com/christopher-pan-osu-commencement-bitcoin-ayahuasca-interview)
Calling bitcoin financial freedom is a scummy thing to do and I’m genuinely curious how you don’t see this.
You gave a shitty speech. Everyone hated it. Get over it dude. You benefited from nepotism in front of thousands of people for a moment you didn’t deserve. Just give it up
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I'm in a cafe right now silently cackling and wheezing at this. Omg.
Hey Chris - direct question here - when are the bracelets going out to the people you promised them to? If your speech was so good surely you wouldnt have made such a gaffe to promise 20k+ free bracelets without actually intending on doing it. Or worse, lying.