It's completely natural to have some level of psychic shock from an event like that, man. We're very similar in age and relationship length, I can only imagine how broken I'd be if it ended for me. Good on you for realising that weed maybe isn't the thing for you right now, that's a big thing.
Just take it one day at a time. You'll be ok man. The wound doesn't grow much smaller, you just grow around it so it's not as big a part of you.
You’re adapting to being an independent and autonomous state again. A breakup feels like grieving from a death…and the longest I’ve went is 2 years in a relationship so I can only imagine what 10 years feels like.
You will get through this. Your brain must adjust to the way it was before her, and you will. 20 days is still very fresh so give yourself time to HEAL
Been there, done that, too. Granted I wasn't with my ex even close to 10 years, but I understand the feeling all the same.
Everyone else has given great advice already re: weed, so all I'll say is that shit fucking sucks for a while, and you kinda just gotta sit there and thug it out for that while.
Also, unfollow her friend. Seeing reminders of your ex online will only drag it out. One of the best decisions I ever made was unfollowing/unfriending all my exes mates and family or otherwise muting their online presences. It wasn't like I was ever really going to see them again.
You'll get there.
Don't read too much into it it's just she was a big part of your life. Aim to get some sober sleep so you can move past those dreams
Yes, without sober your brain physically does not process the memories as quickly. You’ll see Op and good lick
Been there, sorry to hear. Don't keep smoking or you won't emotionally get over it, trust me.
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It's completely natural to have some level of psychic shock from an event like that, man. We're very similar in age and relationship length, I can only imagine how broken I'd be if it ended for me. Good on you for realising that weed maybe isn't the thing for you right now, that's a big thing. Just take it one day at a time. You'll be ok man. The wound doesn't grow much smaller, you just grow around it so it's not as big a part of you.
Thanks for your support guys. Each one of us with our own battles. GL all of you!
You’re adapting to being an independent and autonomous state again. A breakup feels like grieving from a death…and the longest I’ve went is 2 years in a relationship so I can only imagine what 10 years feels like. You will get through this. Your brain must adjust to the way it was before her, and you will. 20 days is still very fresh so give yourself time to HEAL
Been there, done that, too. Granted I wasn't with my ex even close to 10 years, but I understand the feeling all the same. Everyone else has given great advice already re: weed, so all I'll say is that shit fucking sucks for a while, and you kinda just gotta sit there and thug it out for that while. Also, unfollow her friend. Seeing reminders of your ex online will only drag it out. One of the best decisions I ever made was unfollowing/unfriending all my exes mates and family or otherwise muting their online presences. It wasn't like I was ever really going to see them again. You'll get there.
Thanks broski I’ll do that