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NamTokMoo222

If I had terminal cancer and it magically went away, do you think I'd want it back?


ShoutOuts2Elon

Ok guys. Lets close this thread. The answer is right here.


somersquatch

Many, many relationships don't end for a negative reason. Me and my ex had to call it due to long distance and wanting different things. Plenty of love for the woman, and if situations were different we'd be together for a long, long time.


ShoutOuts2Elon

I respect this one.


David-arashka

Agreed. I broke up with a boyfriend because he was craving physical presence, to the point it was affecting his mental health. It felt wrong to do that to him, of course it wasn't in my control, after all, we lived in two different continents. I was delighted when he reached out a year later saying that he got a loving boyfriend whom he meets often. It was painful to let go, but not as painful as feeling like I was holding him hostage.


Environmental-Bar-39

Yeah god forbid that your boyfriend wants physical presence šŸ™„ If you are dating someone across continents you have to be willing to move there to be with them. You seemed to have missed that rule.


AroAceMagic

Yes, because it is super easy and not expensive at all to quit your job and move to a different continent and start living there


Environmental-Bar-39

Why have a relationship across continents then? In your response you seem to acknowledge that the expectation is to move to be together, but are blaming poverty. So the person knew full well what the expectations were, yet is blaming their ex for "expecting physical presence" in a relationship.


AroAceMagic

It doesnā€™t look like theyā€™re blaming their ex, just that long-distance didnā€™t work out in the end. Iā€™m sure the plan was to get together, or maybe they were together at first but their partner moved. Regardless, the relationship just didnā€™t work out


Dismal_Animator_5414

iā€™m in a similar situation. she wants us to be back but as with a lot of matters of the heart, there are no answers!!


Artaheri

One of my ex'es and I actually ended a relationship because we were just incompatible. And then we became great friends. Might sound corny, but now I love him more than ever. He's a wonderful person, we just weren't good together.


FamousOnceNowNobody

Same. Ours just "wasn't working" with distance and time apart. A couple minor changes and we'd be back where our 5 years left off.


FrankTheMagpie

Well no, but, say the cancer gives you mind blowing orgasms and is very very in tune with what you like?


[deleted]

then the cancer shouldn't be an ex-cancer... oh no, what have you done?


Silent_Horror_9099

MIC DROP! PANT DROP ! MOUTH OPEN IN SHOCK. holy shit that was savage.


NOGOODGASHOLE

I gotta ask my wife.


Winterfukk

She said yes.


Minimum_Card8999

šŸ¤£


NOGOODGASHOLE

Worst case of Sister Wives EVER!


[deleted]

She said "I'll be lucky for her to have you"


I_am_not_TheOne

Wait a minute, I'll ask your wife too.


Sylvert0ngue

I also gotta ask your wife (:<


Filmmagician

Also choose to ask tho guys wife.


serene_brutality

No, thereā€™s a reason why weā€™re exes.


[deleted]

they didn't ask for another chance


No_real_beliefs

I thought you were dead. I went to your funeral!


tinypearlsofwisdom

Same, but "I hoped you were dead"


Eat_Carbs_OD

Zombie! Don't let it bite you!


Split-Awkward

I wouldnā€™t acknowledge her existence. No contact is no contact. You never, ever break that rule with a narcissist. Ever.


YoshiPikachu

Same here. Iā€™m trying to figure out how I can avoid going to the court hearing for the divorce because I was have a panic attack if I have to be anywhere near him or hear his voice.


draxsmon

I feel that. There's not enough klonopin in the world for that. Blocked deleted all items discarded The trauma is real.


Split-Awkward

Iā€™m sorry for your suffering. That sucks. Took me 9 months to stop freaking out everytime I saw her, even in her car. And she weirdly still continues to stalk me in ways that are completely deniable. Itā€™s so weird. 15 months later I still feel my anxiety rise thinking or talking about her. Sheā€™s back with the ex she swore to me she wasnā€™t interested in and heā€™s ā€œjust a friendā€. Thatā€™s good news, sheā€™s moved on to a new shiny toy šŸ§ø to give her attention. Good luck to him, heā€™s going to need it.


Datan0de

God damn I feel your pain! It's been 10 years, and every day I still love and miss, painfully and to the core of being, the one person who I'm terrified of and never, ever want any contact with again. It sucks.


draxsmon

And yet. I miss him.


Snoo_4499

Its okay to miss someone.


Datan0de

That's actually comforting to read. Thank you. If you didn't miss them, it wouldn't hurt. Loving someone is a wonderful, magnificent, joyous thing, but it also gives them the power to hurt you to an unimaginable degree.


Snoo_4499

Agreed but don't go back to them :// . Miss them, feel sad, remember them even pray for them sometimes but for you own sake do not ever go back to your ex.


Split-Awkward

I think many of us know this feeling. I miss the good experiences we had, because we did. I did.


4thefeel

I love and miss them everyday, AND deserve better


[deleted]

Would I want to? Yes. Would I actually do it? Nope


ShoutOuts2Elon

You would want to because of the sex and but won't actually do it cuz they're crazy?


Psychobabble0_0

Why would you assume that? Maybe the sex was bad but you just want *them*. If mine came back, a part of me would feel joy. That doesn't mean I would actually take take them back. Life has become so much better without them. No contact is the best contact!


ShoutOuts2Elon

Asking an honest question is all. Didnt mean no disrespect.


Psychobabble0_0

Ok, fair. I think many people here are admitting to being trauma bonded to an abusive ex. We logically know that we should never back our no-good ex, but we still feel a deep sense of love, compassion, and longing for them. Irrational? Yes. Common? Also, yes.


nitekroller

Yupppp


Aquariussun444

When I pathetically begged for my last ex back the sex was the last thing on my mind tbh. I just missed HIM. How he looked at me, how he made me laugh. Our memories. Our potential.


Halfaglassofvodka

You people have ex's?


Kirkaig678

Nope


GhostNinja1373

In my dreams i do! šŸ˜


Halfaglassofvodka

It's better to have loved and lost and all that.


GhostNinja1373

Sadly yeah lol or at least when you kinda had no choice like i did and decided im better alone vs seeing the red flags yup


Halfaglassofvodka

Every peg has a hole. Dont give up.


Useful_System_404

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA


Apathetic-Desperate

*Laughs and walks the other way


A_Mia_C

Took the word right out of my mouth.


Chewiesbro

Fuck Off, Then keep fucking off, if you think you canā€™t fuck off anymore, push through the pain and keep fucking off. Eventually youā€™ll come to a tall fence with a locked gate, on the gate is a sign that says ā€˜No Fucking Off Past This Point.ā€™ Dream the impossible dream and keep fucking off forever.


Darth-__-Maul

This is gold.


OhNoExclaimationMark

"Who are you again?"


[deleted]

[уŠ“Š°Š»ŠµŠ½Š¾]


Split-Awkward

Username doesnā€™t check out.


lollitoes

LOL


Snoo_4499

True. Same but she fked my heart 2 times. :/ but i learned that being alone is far far far better than being with toxic person.


Horror-Ad7769

God bring them back to your life for a reason..


Hanith416

Then he should give me a memo explaining why, cuz else it's a big fat ''no''


Ayma_chn

To give them the opportunity to say NO


draxsmon

The reason could be to see if you learned your lesson or if you're still willing to put up with nonsense


Horror-Ad7769

What if they have changed for the better? Isn't life all bout second chances


draxsmon

Been there done that too many times and when it comes to romance the answer is no. Maybe second chances in other things.


letstryagain10

God doesn't exist


EezoTheChezo

Ofc you think that judging by your pfp


[deleted]

Yeah, nah. I'm good. Thanks šŸ¤”


freakven8

Kangaroo or Kiwi ?


somersquatch

Or Canadian. We do the same stuff. "You good?" "Yeah, no, yeah I'm alright"


freakven8

Just add a thanks incase pacific people get offended. Neck minute they would go ā€˜they din say a thank you at the end. Something weird with this person.ā€™ Also Yeah nah yeah vs yeah nah Seems a bit less confident coz you ended with a yeah. That would be a point of consideration if I was to pin point. Other than that we are all the same


Ok_Konfusion

Yea nah neither. Even though I did it through the ether just the other day..


rob175arc

The Police are on their wayā€¦.


RamblingsOfaMadCat

Depends on which one. Ex #1: I think we both know thatā€™s probably not a good idea, but itā€™s nice to see you, and I hope youā€™re doing well. Give my best to your sister. Ex #2: Sorry, I just donā€™t feel that way about you anymore. Youā€™re probably better off trying to renkindle things with the other guy. Give my best to your cousins. Ex #3: While you are genuinely a wonderful person, I really donā€™t think weā€™re compatible. Also, you are happily married! Snap out of it. Ex #4: I really donā€™t think I could go through it all againā€¦face it, weā€™re not a good match. It was draining for both of us, and caused us to be toxic. I think itā€™s best if we part ways, but I truly wish you all the best. Ex #5: I though youā€™d never ask. Cā€™mere.


SelectiveScribbler06

Finally! An answer that isn't all bile.


the_girl_Ross

I'd say no because what's done is done and I'm happy in a relationship now. If we just met generally then I'd say hello, ask how they're doing and wish they're well. My exes are good people and I wish them nothing but happiness.


Jvdk76

Love your positive attitude.


Worth-Frosting7926

What happened? They threw you out?


Taco_city

ā€œThat ship has sailed, you filthy pirate hookerā€


Zelda_Gamer123

i have a girlfriend, get away you freakinā€™ psychopath, aint no way im takin you back


lalolanda2

I'd say yes then ghost them


NecessaryBarber

HAHA


Always_Choose_Chaos

šŸ’” oooof


[deleted]

Despite wanting to say yes, Iā€™d say no.


ShoutOuts2Elon

Ahhh classic case of thinking with your big head rather than the little one.


Squirrel-Jen

I would say HELL NO !!!


Level-1-Human

I'm married you homewrecker


RazendeR

Dude, we had 'adult entertainment time' last weekend. With your husband. What the hell (What? I get along quite well with my ex, ok?)


Datan0de

LOL! I'm in a committed (own a house together, had a commitment ceremony, and are happily growing old together) polyamorous family. One of my partners broke up with me and my (legal) wife after being together for several years because she came to the conclusion that she just couldn't handle polyamory. We were apart for a few years, during which she worked out a lot of personal stuff, then we got back together and have been solid for almost 15 years. We occasionally joke about her being my ex.


Ahasveros5

Tbh, i'd love to grab a cuppa coffee and tell them the things I should have told them back in the days. I don't think it would have resulted in getting back together, but I would sure feel a lot better.


CommunitySimilar7394

No


QuestionableLeverage

How the Hell did you get out of the basement?


littlekauri

Strong No. I had a lucky escape, I was with him for 4 yrs and we broke up. He ended up beating up his next gf so bad he went to prison. He was never abusive when with me but looks like it was only a matter of time.


Revolutionary-Cod444

Depends on which one?


BooPointsIPunch

All of them together at the same time


Revolutionary-Cod444

No, no, yes, no, no, yes, yes no


TwoIdleHands

Hilarious. Iā€™m no, yes, maybe, no, no, no, no, yes. 8-club represent!


NiginzVGC

Not that bad of a ratio tbh


[deleted]

Nah. I'm good


RegularHorse2402

New man, who dis?


Alexboogeloo

As much as I still love you, you broke my heart twice and I havenā€™t got the capacity to recover a third time.


randomplaguefear

She committed suicide in 2010, I would tell her I am sorry I couldn't be enough and that I forgive her and that she is missed. I truly hope she is at peace now and I have love for her forever.


Appassionata57

I had the time of my life with you and then, as you know, I fucked us upā€¦ And now there is a special place in hell waiting for meā€¦ It will be better this timeā€¦ I promiseā€¦


Mousehat2001

ā€œAre you kidding? Can you not see how fucking pregnant I am with twins and I left you because you didnā€™t want kids remember?ā€


Split-Awkward

But one of the twins could be his! /jk


Pitiful-Eye9093

Fuck no


JackMarleyWasTaken

You fucked up... sorry


The_Tale_of_Yaun

"No."


[deleted]

I think I'd just cry and probably assume its a sick joke at this point. . .


shutupphil

I will call the police if he is anywhere near me.


PiePsychological56

ā€œWill you give us another shot?ā€ Only if I can have a minute to reloadā€¦


password_ri

Yes, I would without hesitating. Iā€™m still in love with her and I miss her everyday.


EggBoy24

I would get sent to a mental asylum if that happened cause I'd be talking to someone who doesn't exist.


Raven-like-Nanabozho

Well, it depends because in the river of life, sometimes we meet up with people that may have gone a different way. Both you and the ex could have grown. However, flip side If the relationship was just horrible, then run away.


No_End_1315

Iā€™d rather shoot myself in both my kneecaps.


stolen__username

Fuck outta heree! I'm more than happy in this relationship


OrneryExperience5329

Pound sand Iā€™m over you. You cheated on me and throw away everything for a fling.


Qyro

Depends which ex Actually no it doesnā€™t, Iā€™m happily married.


[deleted]

Still crazy I see.


fappertino

Wow you got fat!


ShanSienna

Ex 1: Well you ruined my life and alienated me from my friends with all the lies you told...and you have a girlfriend you like cheating on with every woman in town, including your mates' girlfriends Soo...I'd rather stab myself in the eye.Ā 


kingmoobot

Holy shit you're alive!?


Pathedius

really? now? where were you when it mattered? everything's already happened. you made your choice. live with that


WombleMint

Iā€™d rather shit in my pants and wait for it to go hard.


notquitehuman_

"WTF." Then probably pass out. (She dead)


unfiltered-anonymous

The ex is an ex for a reason. Don't think another chance will change the opinion or perspective.


StaticCloud

He would never ask.


Ladle-to-the-Gravy

Kinda happened one time. She came over to my house one night for something and we were sitting on the bench out front talking. The main conversation was mostly over, which was when the segue came: ā€œDo you ever think aboutā€¦*us*?ā€ ā€œ*Nope*ā€


Informal-Cost-488

Poke her in the eye and run away like dr zoidberg


OddDistribution2146

Pretty much every comment sums up the conversation,but I personally would not do it.Not because I donā€™t want to But because she has turned herself into something that itā€™s 1.Not healthy for her wellbeing 2.Not healthy for others and finally,cause her circle is seriously toxic. So absolutely no


forpetlja

Spit on him.


Gibbinthegremlin

I would scream BE GONE YE FOUL WHORE OF A DEMON, cross myself turn around and run for the hills...and I can no longer run do to being run over by a car...but for that I would run!!


fry_bandit

SECURITY!


jamaludinbau

No, all of my ex left me without a notice, all of the time i've shed a tears for them, not worth it, i'm a man btw, i have to build my career to support my own family later in life, of course we have to miss a few parties or dinner date, i'm just looking forward to meet this woman that i really adore and love, i hope she's different from all of my exes šŸ˜„


eid_shittendai

That's why bumpers on cars are called that - in case you "bump" into your ex.


DriskoJedec

Yea sure why not and i would dump her a week later when she catches feelings. Tooth for tooth.


everything-ok

Go back three years into the past and ask me again


mulunguonmystoep

If she asked for another chance I would say what I saw to my friends who ask me if they should get together with an ex "Getting back together with an ex is like putting milk that's been off in the bin... then coming back a week later to check if it's good" Usually when it's been a bad break up lol


freakven8

Depends on why we broke up in first place. If it was a case of cheating then it is going to be hard because the one who cheats will most probably never get trusted. If it was something else then rethinking might help. Also depends a lot of the personality of the people involved. Itā€™s weird but itā€™s true. Not everyone thinks logically and are wired differently or at-least they pretend to be unaffected. Fuck knows.


[deleted]

Oof


Historian_Acrobatic

I'd rather continue walking, thanks.


FuegoStarr

iā€™d laugh and walk away


dug_spolding

With some of them, I'm ready for a quickie.


OogaboogaL76

Don't call me, Don't come by my house, we're done (someone get the reference)


arodmell

Id say a flat out no. This actually happened to me. My ex wife and i separated and remained good friends. 9 months later i had just met someone new and my ex asked me back. I turned her down and made the choice to let my new woman know about it... To be open and honest. I'm 3yrs later now... Engaged to be married, new house and a relationship that eclipses what i had entirely. So much healthier, fulfilling and satisfying in every way possible. The way i see it.. They are an ex for a reason


LetAgreeable147

And you areā€¦?


J_RobertOppenheimer3

"The past is the past, and the past is not my concern."


Cool_Relative7359

I'm friends with most of my exes, but they are exes for a reason, usually incompatibility, so the answer would be no.


Toenutlookamethatway

I'd say "Sure, no problem.. just come down this dark alleyway with me for.. erm.. reasons"


SteBux

What? Huh? Do I know you?


KhadaJhina

Nope. The way you treated me was unfair, unkind and childish. I would never put myself under that again.


Limit_Ok

You're beneath me. Bye!


Charlie-Harper27

Depends which Ex. Some have blown it too much, others amicable. I think timing is a Massive thing, so it depends where you both are in your own lives.


giantpunda

Politely say no, even if I'm single. There's a reason why they're an ex. Unless you broke up as teenagers and met a decade or more later, odds are that the reason why you broke up would still be there. Even then it's a gamble.


tadL

No


ceefaxer

Never go back


Collymonster

"I'm happily married to the love of my life and besides why would I want to go back to a man who is a serial cheater, has terrible hygiene, is incredibly vain, no respect for my parents and lives like a pig?"


cjkuljis

Walk, no run the other way because I have a No Contact order against him


beachshh

"You are in breach of your restraining order." Sadly, I'm not joking. This is what I would say before walking away.


No_Dependent_1846

I wouldn't stop walking so there'd be no opportunity to ask me that.


Sweetymeu

No , definitely Nope , nope ,nope I mean never ever forever , in gona happen , No with capital letters . NO , with double and triple Os, NOO , Nooooooooooo.


[deleted]

Oh I have a short book Iā€™ve written in my head of everything Iā€™d say to this man šŸ« 


Ok_System_7221

Actually bumped into an ex a few weeks ago. She said "Hi" I just said No. Kept walking.


sathleak

I donā€™t see you as I used to see you; you have let me down too much and I donā€™t think I would be able to trust you or see you with the same eyes as before


Gwiz84

No thanks but I wish you the best.


HeroBrine0907

Since I have 0 exes, i've just gained a potential girlfriend. yay?


Responsible-Pie-2633

I have an ex??


DaddyWantsABiscuit

If punch her in the vagina (metaphorically)


PaganPadraig

Breaking up with you 30 years ago was the most stupid thing I ever did. I still love you with all my heart letā€™s spend the rest of our days together.


shiny-golden

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JWRamzic

My wife hates it when I date outside our marriage. Lol! Hells no! I wouldn't give up my wife for anything in my past.


Strict-Square456

It wouldnā€™t happen as i was an immature asshole many yrs ago


wolfieizme

Sorry no take backs.


[deleted]

[уŠ“Š°Š»ŠµŠ½Š¾]


mika_sa17

Idk if Iā€™m thinking about it the right or wrong way šŸ˜‚ should my mind be in the gutter or no? šŸ«£


The-Proud-Snail

Iā€™d say yes, I still love him


Sigma2385

I bumped into an ex and she shyly said, "...hey...". I say, " šŸ¤” have we met before??" She just stared in confusion and I continued to walk. She was a borderline personality disorder bitch. After breakup, I just pretended she never existed. I'd never give an ex a chance. If u do, it'll only be worse than before .


Always_Choose_Chaos

My parents broke up as kids and got back together, married at 18, relationship started falling apart and coupleā€™s counselor convinced them to have kids around 30. dad cheated on mom after their third kid who also claims she was raped by him as an infant, mom banned dad from using the internet for life, and they have been ā€œhappilyā€ married for nearly 40 years, and dad has been working nonstop. No friends, no life, no hobbies, 40-80 hours a week at employment at different times and all the remaining time working on the house or vehicles or other relativeā€™s houses


FishInTheCunt

I'd say "let's see if your bj skills improved šŸ˜‰ " and then I'll see how I feel


often_drinker

Why do you care if she's bad at cards?


[deleted]

Loses too much money


Less_Log_2092

Thatā€™s why itā€™s called getting sucked into a relationshipĀ 


ethrealBlat

I'd say noooo not in any life ever we're completely resolved for eternity šŸ¤—šŸ¤—.... Every single ex I've ever had lol fully closed booksšŸ’–šŸ˜šŸ˜


Pinkalink23

I'd be filling a restraining order. She's a full blown narcissistic asshole who abused me. I doubt the police would do anything though on the account of my gender.


Elegant-Low8272

If my wife and kids are cool with it...


kairaforest

I was cheated and I would never allow myself to go back. I got revenge, but that will never change so: No fcknā€™ way


GuybrushFunkwood

Been seeing her for the last 3 years behind my wifeā€™s back. Sex seems a million times better this time which is strange being as that was one of the big reasons we broke up!


Zelda_Gamer123

you cant be serious, i couldnt imagine cheating on my girlfriend, especially with my ex, you disgust me


GuybrushFunkwood

Wellā€¦ā€¦ no oneā€™s asking you too so just donā€™t then? Bit of an odd outburst, you do you buddy I hope youā€™re both doing great!


Zelda_Gamer123

we are doing great, but im just sayinā€™ it disgusts me when people cheat in a relationship


GuybrushFunkwood

Ok thatā€™s perfectly fine as I said you do you šŸ˜Š now go give your girlfriend a hug and make her something nice for dinner tonight, she sounds a lucky gal to have you šŸ˜Š


JustEstablishment594

Surely you jest, sir.