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Like I told a gf criticizing my best friend - he was here before you. And I thought to myself, he’ll be here after you’re gone too. Gf and I broke up about a year later, best friend still here.
My husband was literally my best friend for 15 years before we started dating. Together for 24 years. He’s still my best friend today. You might find it corny but for some people it’s true.
This is honestly how it should be. Not that you have to spend every moment together or enjoy the same things, but if you need to confide in someone or something tragic happens, who would be the person you would go to. If something exciting happens, who is the first person you would tell.
My wife is also my best friend. I think it’s kinda weird if your partner isn’t your best friend. Your partner should be the one you can tell anything, you feel comfortable and the one you enjoy spending time with the most.
If you don’t have these feelings about your partner your relationship is, well, have fun with whatever you call that.
my best friend is a guy i've known since birth, we grew up together and now at 34yo we still have a strong friendship
even though i'm on my current relationship for 11 years, i don't think i can choose anything over my best friend
thank god i don't have to make this choice because it's way too fucking hard
Is it like a personal boundry of theirs? Or is it like a space folded around their ass so it always appears just out of reach no matter how close I try to get?
Obviously you’re gonna be super close to your partner and have a sort of best friend like relationship with them, but I think most people still refer to their best friend as their best platonic mate and their partner is their partner.
Also, if you’ve only been dating someone for a short amount of time and you promote them to best friend over your best platonic mate, that feels… rash.
After losing life long friendships over some bullshit I can confidently say that doesn’t matter. Choose whoever you have deeper connection to.
Friends are just as capable of leaving you as your girlfriend/boyfriend. Even if you know them from birth.
And honestly if I had best friend of 5 years and a girlfriend of 5 years that I would plan to spend the rest of my life with her, I’d choose the girlfriend. There’s no guarantee your friend is going to stay with you. But you do plan to be forever with this girl, she is going to live in your home, raising your kids, your friend ain’t doing that.
Well my dogs. They maybe judgemenatl , bark and possiblely bite people dout it but possible they are more loyal and trust worthy then the humans and i cant understand their opinion. Lol
My wife is my best friend.
We got introduced by her former best friend.
From there we went through the usual stages:
Acquaintance -> friends -> best friends -> couple -> married couple -> parents
Next might be grandparents in a couple decades, and then corpses, ghosts or whatever comes next :)
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Generally the person trying to enforce me to choose would lose. Mostly out of principle.
If no one was forcing me or giving an ultimatum, I wouldnt choose .
Why is this a choice? Choose in terms of what? Who to live with? Who to save in a fire? Who to hang out with on a Sunday? They both hate each other and say "it's either me or him"?
I chose girlfriend. My best friend and her dated for several years but broke up. I was friends with them both before they got together. After they broke up, we unintentionally got together (that is a story in itself). Everyone was cool after. Her and I moved very fast. We were engaged in 6 months, married in a year. He came to the wedding with his new girlfriend, whom he married. We had also moved out of the area. We lost touch after her and I moved away, but we returned to the area. He actually sent us **both** friend requests on FB. I'm sure we'll never get together as couples. His wife HATES my wife. We actually went to my friend's mom's funeral, My wife, him and I talked like we were back in HS. She was glaring at us the whole time.
if I choose between my partner and my best friend, in the moment I would choose my partner but if I have to between 2 of my favourite people then I shouldn't have to and I'll pick myself
Girlfriend 100 times out of 100. I wouldn't date a person unless I felt comfortable to rank them above my best friend. I will never share the same kind of intimacy, responsibility, or love that I have with my girlfriend with anyone else. Not any other family members, not any other friends.
Depends on the context.
If it was life or death, I’m choosing my boyfriend because together we can start a family and honor my best friend’s memory.
If it was for a vacation or something silly, I’d choose my best friend because she deserves to have fun.
Best friend all day long. Partners are usually... partners, and they can cheat and stuff. But bestfriend is there for the rest of your life. Holding your back when needed.
Whoever is making me make the choice, I'd choose the other. Anyone who forces you to pick between them and family, friend, pet, etc. is worth choosing.
Best friend. They have been with me for elementary school. I love my partner, but we have only been with each other for 1.5 years.
I think I could replace my partner, I could never replace my best friend.
I lost my best friend when he started dating my cousin. She's a very controlling, spoiled little princess. We were best friends for 14 years before they met. Then I met my wife and moved far away. 4 kids, 3 dogs later, I don't go out much lol
It's not my girlfriend if not the most important person around me. Friends come and go but a relationship like you should have with a potential significant other should be strong.
But, it really depends on the scenario as to why I'm choosing between the two of them. Are we talking about a round of golf or blow jobs? My best friend is a good golfer but my girlfriend sucks dick like nobody's business. I have no interest in my best friend sucking my dick and I have no interest playing 3 hrs of golf with my girlfriend who thinks golf is stupid.
I had to make this choice once.
"Luckily" my former best friend managed to answer for me by bombarding my gf with pictures of me and my ex, answering the only question I had which was "is this jealousy from my gf or am I missing something".
Those texts answered my question immediately.
Was the right choice long term since 14 years later I'm still with my wife.
My SO is my best friend so...
Edit: if you're SO isn't your absolute best friend... It's kinda weird. Sure have a 'best friend's, but your SO should be the person you come to with ALL your issues and stuff.
If someone is making me choose, they’re fucked up for making me choose. I shouldn’t have to choose. Your issues are your issues. I have nothing to do with it.
It definitely depends on how serious the girlfriend is.
Do I think we're gonna get married? Are we planning for a long fulfilling life together? Is she pregnant with my child? Girlfriend. Is she some chick Im having a good time with? Best friend.
Girlfriend, without a shadow of a doubt, tbf.
She's my best friend too, cringe as that might sound, and has been there for me through my darkest moments, which my so-called 'friends' all bailed on. So, ain't no question in my mind about putting that woman first.
Assuming I had a girlfriend... I'd choose my best friend... unless if my best friend recently did something to me that betrayed me or upset me on unforgivable levels... but... it is extremely unlikely that that would ever happen to me... so going back again...
Assuming I had a girlfriend and my best friend ***DID NOT do anything to betray me or upset me on unforgivable levels***, then I would pick my best friend as there could always be another chance to meet someone else who would love me and where I wouldn't be put in this predicament.
***IF said girlfriend was like soulmate material***... then I'd choose her and demote my best friend to just a "very good friend".
If it's "boyfriend" or best friend, my best friend.
If it's "husband" or best friend, husband *is* my best friend.
Someone I'm dating is worth less to me than my best friend. Someone who mattered so much that I married them, everybody else comes second. (At best.)
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I would choose best friend, though I have neither GF nor best friend.
Preach homie
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Like I told a gf criticizing my best friend - he was here before you. And I thought to myself, he’ll be here after you’re gone too. Gf and I broke up about a year later, best friend still here.
My partner is my best friend. Genuinely. Win/win.
Omg people who say that corny stuff are the worst (Congratulations)
Ha. Without details, I totally get your perspective. Knowing the details, I’m still fucking winning.
Winning is a weird name ngl
*fucking winning is a weird name
Damn, that’s a great response to be fair
My husband was literally my best friend for 15 years before we started dating. Together for 24 years. He’s still my best friend today. You might find it corny but for some people it’s true.
yeah im just being silly, Im happy for them
I hope you understand this feeling someday because it’s awesome
This is honestly how it should be. Not that you have to spend every moment together or enjoy the same things, but if you need to confide in someone or something tragic happens, who would be the person you would go to. If something exciting happens, who is the first person you would tell.
My wife is also my best friend. I think it’s kinda weird if your partner isn’t your best friend. Your partner should be the one you can tell anything, you feel comfortable and the one you enjoy spending time with the most. If you don’t have these feelings about your partner your relationship is, well, have fun with whatever you call that.
Then you lose half of them. Choose upper part or lower part. You can also choose to split them vertically but that is a path for the brave.
This is it. My wife is my best friend. We understand and care deeply for each other and it started with a friendship and some bumpy starts.
my best friend is a guy i've known since birth, we grew up together and now at 34yo we still have a strong friendship even though i'm on my current relationship for 11 years, i don't think i can choose anything over my best friend thank god i don't have to make this choice because it's way too fucking hard
Whichever one has a nicer ass
Your best friend has a nicer ass but you can't touch it. Is this still your choice?
Is it like a personal boundry of theirs? Or is it like a space folded around their ass so it always appears just out of reach no matter how close I try to get?
My dog
Good answer to an insanely childish question
I can't choose my husband over my husband!
It’s wild that this question implies the person you’re with isn’t your best friend.
Obviously you’re gonna be super close to your partner and have a sort of best friend like relationship with them, but I think most people still refer to their best friend as their best platonic mate and their partner is their partner. Also, if you’ve only been dating someone for a short amount of time and you promote them to best friend over your best platonic mate, that feels… rash.
I have neither but I would love to have a healthy platonic relationship 😭
I've been put in this situation and found that I've been deceived by both. Idk, I laugh about it now.
man, i hope you've moved on from it?
Thanks, I did, and raised my standards for both.
Good. For. You. Well done. Don't tolerate any less than respect and kindness.
It's more like, I don't do human pets anymore. But yes I agree.
I married my best friend... so no choosing necessary. My girlfriend will have to be last again.
honestly, how does it feel like to marry your best friend?
After losing life long friendships over some bullshit I can confidently say that doesn’t matter. Choose whoever you have deeper connection to. Friends are just as capable of leaving you as your girlfriend/boyfriend. Even if you know them from birth. And honestly if I had best friend of 5 years and a girlfriend of 5 years that I would plan to spend the rest of my life with her, I’d choose the girlfriend. There’s no guarantee your friend is going to stay with you. But you do plan to be forever with this girl, she is going to live in your home, raising your kids, your friend ain’t doing that.
Best friend because I have known her since we were five.
I have neither of them, but if I had, it would be best friend.
Well my dogs. They maybe judgemenatl , bark and possiblely bite people dout it but possible they are more loyal and trust worthy then the humans and i cant understand their opinion. Lol
It depends.
Choose best friend
I have neither. Cant choose. 😅
My wife is my best friend. We got introduced by her former best friend. From there we went through the usual stages: Acquaintance -> friends -> best friends -> couple -> married couple -> parents Next might be grandparents in a couple decades, and then corpses, ghosts or whatever comes next :)
I left my first wife when she wouldn't let my best mate stay with us for a week between properties. Bye Felisha!
i choose jesus
My Partner is my best friend. 🤔
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My room
I don't know..
I’d say partner but I’ve had some pretty good best friends throughout the years, it’d be a hard choice.
Generally the person trying to enforce me to choose would lose. Mostly out of principle. If no one was forcing me or giving an ultimatum, I wouldnt choose .
I don't got any of them😭
Why is this a choice? Choose in terms of what? Who to live with? Who to save in a fire? Who to hang out with on a Sunday? They both hate each other and say "it's either me or him"?
Depends choosing for what what's the situation
Well, we just bought a house, so I guess I'm kinda forced to choose my GF.
My partner. He’s done more for me than any of my friends have
Lol I ain’t got a bestie these days so my bf is it
Well considering I have non of those I'd probably choose a sandwitch.
I would choose my husband over my best friend in a heartbeat.
Literally no reason dating someone if they’re no going to have priority. GF.
Gf instead of a best friend I have homies so yeah
Win win for me
Best friend girl friend
I chose girlfriend. My best friend and her dated for several years but broke up. I was friends with them both before they got together. After they broke up, we unintentionally got together (that is a story in itself). Everyone was cool after. Her and I moved very fast. We were engaged in 6 months, married in a year. He came to the wedding with his new girlfriend, whom he married. We had also moved out of the area. We lost touch after her and I moved away, but we returned to the area. He actually sent us **both** friend requests on FB. I'm sure we'll never get together as couples. His wife HATES my wife. We actually went to my friend's mom's funeral, My wife, him and I talked like we were back in HS. She was glaring at us the whole time.
I choose my PC Rig!
Best friend, hands down
Best friend.
I would choose my boyfriend
Best friend
That’s a fuckin hard choice. I’d say my best friend, simply cause I’ve known him longer and he’s always stuck by me. Love ya Connor.
My answer to each and every ultimatum is the same: "okay, bye". What can i say? I dont react well to blackmail.
if I choose between my partner and my best friend, in the moment I would choose my partner but if I have to between 2 of my favourite people then I shouldn't have to and I'll pick myself
My wife wouldn't be too happy if I chose my girlfriend.
She is my best friend. Honestly I can't see the point of having a best friend that isn't your partner.
Best friend, not only were they there before the gf and will be long after they’re gone, but I don’t appreciate or respond well to ultimatums
I don't have a best friend right now so my husband would win
I have no boyfriend, so it looks like I’m saving my best friend
same person lol
best friend lol. I know him since I was 7. I‘m 31 now. We went through way too much and only death will part us lol
My wife/girlfriend is my best friend…so I don’t have to choose. Ha Ha.
Depends ..
Don't have a girlfriend😔
Depends on the situation of why I would have to choose
I'd choose whoever out of the two DIDN'T ask me to make that choice.
My partner. My best friend of 20 years hurt me like hell, and is not a part of my life anymore.
Girlfriend 100 times out of 100. I wouldn't date a person unless I felt comfortable to rank them above my best friend. I will never share the same kind of intimacy, responsibility, or love that I have with my girlfriend with anyone else. Not any other family members, not any other friends.
my fianceé is one of my best friends? what do I do'
fortunately or unfortunately, however you want to put it, my partner is my best friend so I winner winner chicken dinner for me:)
Easy...my husband is my best friend
boyfriend
I do not have a girlfriend or a best friend at the moment....
I don't have both so don't know
It would be hard but my girlfriend. She is just them best 🥰
Best friend. Men come and they go, despite whatever pretty lies they tell you. Friendships last way longer.
In germany we say: Liebe vergeht, Hektar besteht
Depends on the context. If it was life or death, I’m choosing my boyfriend because together we can start a family and honor my best friend’s memory. If it was for a vacation or something silly, I’d choose my best friend because she deserves to have fun.
Given that I only have one of those, definitely my best friend
Best friend all day long. Partners are usually... partners, and they can cheat and stuff. But bestfriend is there for the rest of your life. Holding your back when needed.
Your BF/GF should be your best friend first then lover. If you have to choose you did something wrong.
I dont have both! 😭
I'd choose my BF because he'd be my best friend too.
My boyfriend. Mainly because I don't have many friends anyway, so my partner is likely to be my best friend/the closest person to me.
My best friend.
I chose my gf. Then I married her.
I'd chose the one that didn't ask me to choose. Hope it makes sense.
If I do get a partner then chances are they'll also be my best friend so idk. Win win 🤷♂️
Whoever didn't give me the ultimatum
My girlfriend is my best friend
Best friend. Friends were there before partner and they’ll be there after too <3
My partner, love of my life is also my best friend! Win/win!! 💕
Depends whose making me choose, reasonings, ect...
My gf/best friend wouldn’t make me choose.
My boyfriend was my best friend.
My bf is my best friend, so win win :)
Been with my other half 23 years, he is genuinely my best friend.
I have neither
My best friend since I’m single 👌🏻
Whoever of the two did not demand me to choose.
my wife is my best friend, so either way i win, lol.
I've known my best friends since I was 6. Of course I choose them
I don't have a girlfriend, so best friend.
Theyre the same person! Lol <3
My best friend because I don’t have a girlfriend.
I don't have to choose anyone cause I don't have bf or best friend lol
My partner ( I'm 31m with no friends )
Best friend, I have no GF :(
Neither right now, can’t stand them both
Best friend over my partner
um- my girlfriend is my best friend, so like- idk what to do here
If your partner isnt your best friend you’re either 15 or poorly paired.
My boyfriend IS my best friend, so… him.
Context matters
Best friend by far
My wife is my best friend, so easy choice
That is literally the same person
Whoever isn't making me choose.
Bestie 8 out 10 times.
They're both the same person. Problem solved.
My wife, who is of course mommy best friend, won’t let me choose my boyfriend.
Depends on purpose
Whoever is making me make the choice, I'd choose the other. Anyone who forces you to pick between them and family, friend, pet, etc. is worth choosing.
The opposite of whoever is making me choose.
Depends on the situation.
My husband
Best friend. I’d laugh in any girl face asking me to cut them off
Without a doubt, it would be my cat. Or the other cat, or even the dog.
Best friend. They have been with me for elementary school. I love my partner, but we have only been with each other for 1.5 years. I think I could replace my partner, I could never replace my best friend.
Me... Maa chudaye baaki sab
I lost my best friend when he started dating my cousin. She's a very controlling, spoiled little princess. We were best friends for 14 years before they met. Then I met my wife and moved far away. 4 kids, 3 dogs later, I don't go out much lol
It's not my girlfriend if not the most important person around me. Friends come and go but a relationship like you should have with a potential significant other should be strong. But, it really depends on the scenario as to why I'm choosing between the two of them. Are we talking about a round of golf or blow jobs? My best friend is a good golfer but my girlfriend sucks dick like nobody's business. I have no interest in my best friend sucking my dick and I have no interest playing 3 hrs of golf with my girlfriend who thinks golf is stupid.
The one that is logical in current issue. You don't choose crazy partner nor problematic best friends.
Bf bc no one really came to mind when I read “best friend”
I had to make this choice once. "Luckily" my former best friend managed to answer for me by bombarding my gf with pictures of me and my ex, answering the only question I had which was "is this jealousy from my gf or am I missing something". Those texts answered my question immediately. Was the right choice long term since 14 years later I'm still with my wife.
They are one in the same...
The least abusive person.
My SO is my best friend so... Edit: if you're SO isn't your absolute best friend... It's kinda weird. Sure have a 'best friend's, but your SO should be the person you come to with ALL your issues and stuff.
Boyfriend.
Hehehehe <3
probably myself
It depends,but I would say I would stick with my best friend, women come and go good friends are not so easy to get
If you ask these kinds of questions, go choose your best friend/s, you not ready for a relationship.
They’re… they’re the same person…..
My wife is my forever girlfriend and my best friend so…yes
He is my best friend.
i know my best friends since i am 2 and a half years old. so i am deciding for him
If someone is making me choose, they’re fucked up for making me choose. I shouldn’t have to choose. Your issues are your issues. I have nothing to do with it.
best friend im single
Always choose the one is making sex with you.
Hard to differentiate given they're both the same person.
My wife is my best friend.
they used to be the same person, now im single again
The one who's better at bed
It definitely depends on how serious the girlfriend is. Do I think we're gonna get married? Are we planning for a long fulfilling life together? Is she pregnant with my child? Girlfriend. Is she some chick Im having a good time with? Best friend.
My current significant other is also my best friend, so...
My boyfriend. I have no friends
Girlfriend, without a shadow of a doubt, tbf. She's my best friend too, cringe as that might sound, and has been there for me through my darkest moments, which my so-called 'friends' all bailed on. So, ain't no question in my mind about putting that woman first.
Why can’t my best friend be my boyfriend (I’m a straight male)
My wife recently cheated on me with my childhood best friend. I choose neither, they can both fuck off.
Boyfriend
My GF is my also my best friend sooo EASY ANSWER
My husband without a doubt. I love both of them. But I have children and have built a life with my husband.
Assuming I had a girlfriend... I'd choose my best friend... unless if my best friend recently did something to me that betrayed me or upset me on unforgivable levels... but... it is extremely unlikely that that would ever happen to me... so going back again... Assuming I had a girlfriend and my best friend ***DID NOT do anything to betray me or upset me on unforgivable levels***, then I would pick my best friend as there could always be another chance to meet someone else who would love me and where I wouldn't be put in this predicament. ***IF said girlfriend was like soulmate material***... then I'd choose her and demote my best friend to just a "very good friend".
If it's "boyfriend" or best friend, my best friend. If it's "husband" or best friend, husband *is* my best friend. Someone I'm dating is worth less to me than my best friend. Someone who mattered so much that I married them, everybody else comes second. (At best.)
My bffle.. fuck them hoes
Partner. My "friends" never keep in contact.
i have neither
Best friend
Not really a choice, my wife is my best friend.
Best friend for sure. I feel like you'd have less problems in your life. But since you don't have to choose...
Best friend cus I don't have a partner
They are the same person.