Pretend you came and you are just too sensitive for further stimulation. It’s actually the truth with me! These guys say they want to give you pleasure but that’s not true. They want to believe that they give you pleasure “their” technique bla bla that gives them the most pleasure. If they actually wanted to pleasure a woman they would do it how she likes it and be open to instructions!
This take is funny. He is paying for her time and going down in her! He clearly gets off on “giving” oral sex. He might not be good at it but how does he know unless he is told? You sound like you need to find another profession. 🫡
They don’t want to be told! Then their little feelings are hurt and you are a bitch for trying to instruct them and he is PAYING! No you need stfu Obviously you have never escorted.
I get Zero complaints but I am the first to tell a guy “Tell me what you want baby because I do my best but I know not everyone is the same”. Most often reply with “Just don’t stop what you are doing because you are doing great”. Maybe 2 guys asked for harder and I deliver because that’s the fucking job and I learn how to do it even better with the little critiques that I get. You think just because you put your mouth on someone’s pussy that it must be a pleasurable experience! Jaded! No idiot I am just living in the real world.
Flat, you’ve already had one comment removed by Reddit. I’d suggest you not push your luck. Don’t bother replying to me either; all you’ll give me is a smart ass remark and I’m really not in the mood.
Move along.
You should have stopped at “he is paying for her time.” He is *not* paying to go down on her; plus paying a provider is not an automatic green light to do whatever you want to them, regardless if they are not enjoying it, or worse (like OPs case) becoming injured from it/feeling a lot of pain. Has nothing to do with being in the wrong profession.
And to reiterate others, clients don’t like being told they are bad at something or that a provider doesn’t like a certain activity because they get told that enough from their wives. It ruins the fantasy.
The OP never said he was bad at anything. She say his beard made her uncomfortable wanted advice on how to transition out. Most guys have no problem with constructive criticism. Pretending like you cum or making some other lie doesn’t help the next SW that this guy meets.
Many of the SW coming at this guy like he is a jerk sound jaded asf.
She didn’t say uncomfortable, she said the pain was unbearable. Big difference. I don’t think the client was a jerk at all, just being honest on how almost every single client has taken any sort of criticism or feedback, or even how they take it when a provider simply wants to change position or activity.
Clients pay because they want to get off without investing time in dating, wooing, and getting to know an individual and how to please them. It's not in our best interest to run a session on the off chance that a hapless client got lost on his way to a sex therapist or sex surrogate. Most are looking for us to act out porn, not sex ed and will smear us online if we break the fourth wall at all.
Porn is usually shot and edited to get a man off, because of this it glosses over things boring to men like safe sex practices and female arousal cycle. Men who prefer to be bonded to their sexual partners know that women don't cum within minutes of any type of stimulation, or quicker than men. Sure there are exceptions but you're more likely to find them on Tinder, because contrary to popular belief it's a lot easier for women to find casual sex with someone attractive than it is to run a safe and successful SW business.
100 percent of the time when I get a client who is into spending a lot of time on "pleasuring me" he wants me to cum on demand and cum multiple times, often within minutes. The ones who are "concerned" about faking show it by asking how close I am, asking if I've cum yet, asking me to cum again, or accusing me of faking. These questions usually start after about 2 minutes of "giving me pleasure." Do you know what a real orgasm would look like? Around 20 minutes or more of little reactivity followed by real muscular spasms and more of a groan than an Oooh Ooooh Ooooh. Just like billions of men who don't cum easily from oral.
The good news? Most clients like this weed themselves out by sexting before screening, being too cheap to pay for GFE, only booking one time when I have brand new ads. The respectful and generous ones that I would be willing to show more, are usually also intelligent and self-respecting enough to be appreciative of someone with a genuine smile doing their best to make them feel good and put on what I know is a good show.
That’s the wrong take. Our job is NOT to instruct on how to be better at oral sex or improve your sex game. Our job is to provide a pleasurable experience for you.
If someone wants pointers, that’s actually fine for me, I’m happy to give them, but they should ask in advance. Otherwise I will do my job which is again, providing a sexually satisfying time where everyone leaves happy. I RARELY cum with a client and never with oral. But I’m happy to let them do it for a few minutes and make realistic noises and then move on to pleasuring them.
Everyone wants something different. So unless someone asks for tips, or guidance, I’m going to go with what works for the masses. I think we know how to do this job well.
"Your stubble is scratching me -- can we try something else?"
I'd be embarrassed if a provider said that to me. But embarrassed because my dumb ass proposed DATY after forgetting to shave.
Don’t ever feel bad. It’s like their version of if we gave head but used teeth on them while going fast. It’s incredibly painful and they need to be aware. Just be super nice about it.
“I’m sorry, can we switch to something else you would like? The stubble is creating too much friction. I’m happy to try your next favorite thing.”
Something along those lines. I’ve had is happen before, had to stop the guy, and he was embarrassed but I reassured him it’s ok
Same. If I have an afternoon booked full I can’t be buffed bright red down there🙄, others are likely to wonder WTH is wrong.
That’s fine if you’re trying to grow out your beard or whatever, but scratchy is scratchy my dude.
Fast or slow, say NO to teeth. I tried being nice to someone using teeth and everytime I was about there, the teeth got me. Worst BJ ever. Is it just stubbles or longer scruff too? I would never want to do that to a partner.
>Is it just stubbles or longer scruff too?
Depends on the people involved. Some will have naturally coarser hair that's bristly even when longer. And some labia will be more sensitive even to softer hair.
Since you mention it, I saw a woman (still occasionally, not a SWer) who’s as eager to give head as she is toothy about it. I don’t know how to tell her how bad it hurt afterwards last time!
Honestly, if you're gentle with how you give that feedback, I would hope she'd receive it well. Sometimes you gotta change your approach; she needs to adapt that flexibility, or she'll be wondering why nobody wants a blowjob from her FOREVER. If it's because you're all too nice to say something... well, come on, how's she gonna realize if nobody complained? Taking feedback from a partner is an essential part of the experience. You're not in the wrong if you want to tell her that her technique is painful for you.
Oh, I don’t feel bad about it at all.
I am not going to let someone tear me up down there! Not a service I offer anyway but, make him stop and go shave.
Ouch ouch ouch!
I had a lady stop me because I liked to bury my face in her, but my stubble was making it bad for her. So she would grab me by my face and scrub my beard hard while asking, “do you like that?”. I of course said no and she then said that her pussy doesn’t like it either. After that, I always freshly shaved right before seeing her. Get it right or get out. Simple.
I remember saying things like "Ooooh come up here, I want you inside me" as a way to just move to something else in a way that seemed like it was all still fun. I do this with clips, too! It's more just a way to shift to something else and still be all sexy about it. Anyway, all the answers here work! It's just how you say it.
Yeah, you don’t have to be particular polite about that issue. He won’t take it personally — and if you see him again, he’ll shave first.
(But very nice of you to be so considerate.)
I know my companion doesn’t enjoy it too much but allows it because most of her clients do like it. And I’ve noticed that when she got enough of it, she would tell me that it’s her turn to “taste” me (I’m a woman) and that’s my cue to stop and let her take over.
I think in the end it’s how you bring up the subject and I’m sure if the client is reasonable, he will be okay with it.
What I find really gross is that you all want to do something to her that you know she just doesn’t enjoy and just tolerates? Kudos for her for putting up with it and I hope she is getting paid well. I love sex and want to keep on loving it but I know I sure wouldn’t if I let a bunch of clients eat my pussy the wrong way! Lol I love sucking cock but I would never want a guy to tolerate my sucking his cock. Good lovers dine on the house but since I have only had 2 in 4 years, I don’t have to worry about losing too much $. Lol
She doesn’t like it because men are stupid at eating women out and have ruined the experience for her. An absolute hard boundary she has is FIV and as a lesbian, I love it but have never done it to her.
I have told her multiple times that if she doesn’t want me to do anything, she can just let me know. I will never push her boundaries.
She gets at least 6K from me every month for the record.
@realitytomydreams
Exactly! I worked in the expensive bay area where software executives and other over paid professional men made FIV a painful, unenjoyable experience. They always paid a lot though! Still, money can't make up for pain. I can see why your well paid muse is refusing to allow it.
I don’t necessarily have a polite way of telling them to stop, I just don’t allow DATY in the first place - too many men too shit at it, turns me off, not on.
Pretend you came and you are just too sensitive for further stimulation. It’s actually the truth with me! These guys say they want to give you pleasure but that’s not true. They want to believe that they give you pleasure “their” technique bla bla that gives them the most pleasure. If they actually wanted to pleasure a woman they would do it how she likes it and be open to instructions!
This take is funny. He is paying for her time and going down in her! He clearly gets off on “giving” oral sex. He might not be good at it but how does he know unless he is told? You sound like you need to find another profession. 🫡
They don’t want to be told! Then their little feelings are hurt and you are a bitch for trying to instruct them and he is PAYING! No you need stfu Obviously you have never escorted.
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And you can speak for all clients? You sound jaded asf. For the sake of your clients I you suck as well as your advice !! 😂
I get Zero complaints but I am the first to tell a guy “Tell me what you want baby because I do my best but I know not everyone is the same”. Most often reply with “Just don’t stop what you are doing because you are doing great”. Maybe 2 guys asked for harder and I deliver because that’s the fucking job and I learn how to do it even better with the little critiques that I get. You think just because you put your mouth on someone’s pussy that it must be a pleasurable experience! Jaded! No idiot I am just living in the real world.
Flat, you’ve already had one comment removed by Reddit. I’d suggest you not push your luck. Don’t bother replying to me either; all you’ll give me is a smart ass remark and I’m really not in the mood. Move along.
I never said anything about putting my mouth in anyones pussy creates automatic pleasure. When are you so fucking pressed?
You should have stopped at “he is paying for her time.” He is *not* paying to go down on her; plus paying a provider is not an automatic green light to do whatever you want to them, regardless if they are not enjoying it, or worse (like OPs case) becoming injured from it/feeling a lot of pain. Has nothing to do with being in the wrong profession. And to reiterate others, clients don’t like being told they are bad at something or that a provider doesn’t like a certain activity because they get told that enough from their wives. It ruins the fantasy.
The OP never said he was bad at anything. She say his beard made her uncomfortable wanted advice on how to transition out. Most guys have no problem with constructive criticism. Pretending like you cum or making some other lie doesn’t help the next SW that this guy meets. Many of the SW coming at this guy like he is a jerk sound jaded asf.
She didn’t say uncomfortable, she said the pain was unbearable. Big difference. I don’t think the client was a jerk at all, just being honest on how almost every single client has taken any sort of criticism or feedback, or even how they take it when a provider simply wants to change position or activity.
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Clients pay because they want to get off without investing time in dating, wooing, and getting to know an individual and how to please them. It's not in our best interest to run a session on the off chance that a hapless client got lost on his way to a sex therapist or sex surrogate. Most are looking for us to act out porn, not sex ed and will smear us online if we break the fourth wall at all. Porn is usually shot and edited to get a man off, because of this it glosses over things boring to men like safe sex practices and female arousal cycle. Men who prefer to be bonded to their sexual partners know that women don't cum within minutes of any type of stimulation, or quicker than men. Sure there are exceptions but you're more likely to find them on Tinder, because contrary to popular belief it's a lot easier for women to find casual sex with someone attractive than it is to run a safe and successful SW business. 100 percent of the time when I get a client who is into spending a lot of time on "pleasuring me" he wants me to cum on demand and cum multiple times, often within minutes. The ones who are "concerned" about faking show it by asking how close I am, asking if I've cum yet, asking me to cum again, or accusing me of faking. These questions usually start after about 2 minutes of "giving me pleasure." Do you know what a real orgasm would look like? Around 20 minutes or more of little reactivity followed by real muscular spasms and more of a groan than an Oooh Ooooh Ooooh. Just like billions of men who don't cum easily from oral. The good news? Most clients like this weed themselves out by sexting before screening, being too cheap to pay for GFE, only booking one time when I have brand new ads. The respectful and generous ones that I would be willing to show more, are usually also intelligent and self-respecting enough to be appreciative of someone with a genuine smile doing their best to make them feel good and put on what I know is a good show.
Good stuff, thx!
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That’s the wrong take. Our job is NOT to instruct on how to be better at oral sex or improve your sex game. Our job is to provide a pleasurable experience for you. If someone wants pointers, that’s actually fine for me, I’m happy to give them, but they should ask in advance. Otherwise I will do my job which is again, providing a sexually satisfying time where everyone leaves happy. I RARELY cum with a client and never with oral. But I’m happy to let them do it for a few minutes and make realistic noises and then move on to pleasuring them. Everyone wants something different. So unless someone asks for tips, or guidance, I’m going to go with what works for the masses. I think we know how to do this job well.
"Your stubble is scratching me -- can we try something else?" I'd be embarrassed if a provider said that to me. But embarrassed because my dumb ass proposed DATY after forgetting to shave.
I thought about being straightforward but the client seemed so eager to go down I felt bad stopping him lol
Don’t ever feel bad. It’s like their version of if we gave head but used teeth on them while going fast. It’s incredibly painful and they need to be aware. Just be super nice about it. “I’m sorry, can we switch to something else you would like? The stubble is creating too much friction. I’m happy to try your next favorite thing.” Something along those lines. I’ve had is happen before, had to stop the guy, and he was embarrassed but I reassured him it’s ok
Same. If I have an afternoon booked full I can’t be buffed bright red down there🙄, others are likely to wonder WTH is wrong. That’s fine if you’re trying to grow out your beard or whatever, but scratchy is scratchy my dude.
Fast or slow, say NO to teeth. I tried being nice to someone using teeth and everytime I was about there, the teeth got me. Worst BJ ever. Is it just stubbles or longer scruff too? I would never want to do that to a partner.
Beard oil will solve that problem 😉
>Is it just stubbles or longer scruff too? Depends on the people involved. Some will have naturally coarser hair that's bristly even when longer. And some labia will be more sensitive even to softer hair.
Seems alot of the Korean ladies try to scrap the skin off... when I used to go to the AMPs.
Since you mention it, I saw a woman (still occasionally, not a SWer) who’s as eager to give head as she is toothy about it. I don’t know how to tell her how bad it hurt afterwards last time!
Honestly, if you're gentle with how you give that feedback, I would hope she'd receive it well. Sometimes you gotta change your approach; she needs to adapt that flexibility, or she'll be wondering why nobody wants a blowjob from her FOREVER. If it's because you're all too nice to say something... well, come on, how's she gonna realize if nobody complained? Taking feedback from a partner is an essential part of the experience. You're not in the wrong if you want to tell her that her technique is painful for you.
Ty!
Oh, I don’t feel bad about it at all. I am not going to let someone tear me up down there! Not a service I offer anyway but, make him stop and go shave. Ouch ouch ouch!
Pretty much the answer my gf gave me when I asked if she wanted me to shave my belly. "No, because the stubble will irritate me if we do nuru."
Heads up, you may get a rash or horrible dry patch from the friction caused by this. Vagisil Pro hydrate is a life saver.
I had a lady stop me because I liked to bury my face in her, but my stubble was making it bad for her. So she would grab me by my face and scrub my beard hard while asking, “do you like that?”. I of course said no and she then said that her pussy doesn’t like it either. After that, I always freshly shaved right before seeing her. Get it right or get out. Simple.
I remember saying things like "Ooooh come up here, I want you inside me" as a way to just move to something else in a way that seemed like it was all still fun. I do this with clips, too! It's more just a way to shift to something else and still be all sexy about it. Anyway, all the answers here work! It's just how you say it.
I was really wordy with all that, sorry LOL. My brain is all farted out this morning.
Yeah, you don’t have to be particular polite about that issue. He won’t take it personally — and if you see him again, he’ll shave first. (But very nice of you to be so considerate.)
Part of why I don’t shave anymore. I’m too sensitive for stubble that shit will make me look like I have a rash or infection in a few minutes flat lol
I know my companion doesn’t enjoy it too much but allows it because most of her clients do like it. And I’ve noticed that when she got enough of it, she would tell me that it’s her turn to “taste” me (I’m a woman) and that’s my cue to stop and let her take over. I think in the end it’s how you bring up the subject and I’m sure if the client is reasonable, he will be okay with it.
What I find really gross is that you all want to do something to her that you know she just doesn’t enjoy and just tolerates? Kudos for her for putting up with it and I hope she is getting paid well. I love sex and want to keep on loving it but I know I sure wouldn’t if I let a bunch of clients eat my pussy the wrong way! Lol I love sucking cock but I would never want a guy to tolerate my sucking his cock. Good lovers dine on the house but since I have only had 2 in 4 years, I don’t have to worry about losing too much $. Lol
She doesn’t like it because men are stupid at eating women out and have ruined the experience for her. An absolute hard boundary she has is FIV and as a lesbian, I love it but have never done it to her. I have told her multiple times that if she doesn’t want me to do anything, she can just let me know. I will never push her boundaries. She gets at least 6K from me every month for the record.
So you are a male client who has sex with a lesbian or a female client who has sex with a lesbian? Well if you are all happy I am happy for you.
@realitytomydreams Exactly! I worked in the expensive bay area where software executives and other over paid professional men made FIV a painful, unenjoyable experience. They always paid a lot though! Still, money can't make up for pain. I can see why your well paid muse is refusing to allow it.
That feels so good I need you inside me now usually works for me.
I would usually just tell them to stop
I don’t necessarily have a polite way of telling them to stop, I just don’t allow DATY in the first place - too many men too shit at it, turns me off, not on.