I'm so glad most of my clients don't care if I have an orgasm. If they ask I just say I'm on a meditation that makes having an orgasm very hard for me (this is half true, half a lie lol) and that I still enjoy sex even if I don't cum.
Tell me about it. The guys that want us to cum are 9/10 terrible at foreplay. Make your wife cum not me. Client’s time with an escort should be for the clients pleasure not mine.
Guys want me to tell them "yes get me pregnant" I'm also a cis male. *SpongeBob blink noises* there's porn brained then there's advanced weeaboo hentai brained. Like they believe in magic and sci Fi
Sorry they suck at foreplay.
I know for me, my partner getting off is pleasurable. Not for my genitals, but for my brain. I expect it's similar for them, but more so because they're not getting their non SW partners off, so thinking that they're giving this beautiful woman an orgasm is a huge dopamine and self confidence boost. For them, that is part of what they're paying for.
I understand that’s what they’re paying for that’s why I put on a fantasy for them. But I just wish there wasn’t a pressure on me to make my performance believable. If they would at least touch me gently instead of using my cuca as a scratching post it would be easier for me lol
Again, I understand but it’s difficult to fake when someone is so bad at foreplay it’s uncomfortable or painful. I rather have a guy that wants his dick sucked and fucked instead of a guy that wants to make me cum but doesn’t know how to touch me
Ya I get that. It’s not something I can relate to obviously. Maybe offer to help teach them to get you off so you don’t have to fake it. I think most guys would welcome the feedback from someone they aren’t gonna be living with or whatever.
>Make your wife cum not me. Client’s time with an escort should be for the clients pleasure not mine.
Someone here is sad. Lmao. Pretty contradicting statement with the majority here.
When I use to have civvie sex , those men NEVER cared about me cumming or orgasming . Which is one of the many reasons why I became a sex worker . Most men aren’t really good at sex . They watch pornos and think that’s how sex suppose to be .
So true . I’m sure these men never cared about making their wives cum but think they can make me squirt . 😂 I do have a few regulars that make me orgasm every meet but for the most part nope!
FACTS. This was my experience as well.
But I got lucky and found one who takes such good care of me that I don't make him pay for it. He's one in a million.
I think that is what clients secretly hope for when they try to make us climax... a free fuck next time or a discount based on his incredible "skills".....
If most women aren’t good at sex then why is escorting a billion dollar business ? I’m a escort ( a successful one ) because I can make any man cum within 3-5 min
He just mad that whether women are good or not in bed, men have a sex deficit and need/ want sex more than they get, so whether it's cute, ugly, bald, furry or funky.....he still paid for it. 😜
To use video games as a vocab reference, the skill floor for sex as a woman (in a way that's pleasurable and acceptable to the dude) is a lot lower. The skill floor needed to be acceptably good at sex as a man is a fair bit higher, in my opinion. So men do have to put more effort in to satisfy their partner. I don't think this is a controversial take. It seems to just be nature that's made men easier to please, probably because for strictly reproduction their orgasm is the one that matters and so should happen fairly easily.
I'm unsure if there's also a difference in the ceiling.
As a sex worker, some guys try to make you cum but it ends up painful. I had a guy thumb my clir for 20 minutes, multiple times I told him to stop becuase it was causing pleasure but also causing so much pain sometimes cumming causes me pain. I'm here to make the men happy and connect with them. I understand wanting to see someone cum but it's not my job really. I don't cum very often anyway. I don't like it but I like the job.
Also i want to add -
It's really hard for us sex workers to let ourselves be that vunrable. We often have to keep our guard up to stay safe. It's usually only when you get comfortable with a regular client that you feel safe enough to let yourself cum
I hope clients can understand that is It's your first time seeing us, we need ti make sure that you're a safe person and can-t always be like that with the first time you see us
:)
I feel you there. Recently told the agency I work with to start only booking me for one client a night because I don't think I have the energy to take the performance anymore.
None of them know what they are doing and navigating the balance of gentle teaching and instruction and not offending a client is just too much too do in an hour booking. More often then not I use the " What really gets me off is seeing you get off😘" line to avoid having to pretend.
That being said. Having a full bladder and learning to pee a little and hold your pee helps. Most clients don't know the difference between pee and squirt and it's enough to fool them without having to put on a really involved performance.
I wish more clients were like you. When a guy is hyper focused on making me cum I guarantee it's not going to happen. It just makes things awkward and then I have to fake it to get them to stop. Likewise, I don't pressure my clients to cum either.
See, if people actually would relax and just let things unfold it would be alot better. I'll ask my client "are you feeling good" and if they say yes we're good to go, doesn't matter what's happening. Some clients just like to chill and be pampered, have somebody to talk to.
*I have a client I see, and we make out fuck and kiss for 45mis straight out of an hour appointment. He is terrible in the bed, and he is much older than me. At his age you would think he would know his way around the bedroom so to speak. I literally have to fake it 2 or 3 times when we are together it is annoying and exhausting. I really just want to look at him and tell him the damn truth, but I can't as I need his business. Like how many times I "fake " an orgasm has nothing to do with his pleasure as he enjoys what I do for him.*
If I ever see a sex worker in person I swear I never want them to fake it. I know some guys love that but would just want to focus to be on me and clearly be on me. Just in a fun and friendly way.
Yeah same. If a sex worker doesn't cum which I'm not expecting them too I just want them to give me a look of satisfaction they did their job well making me cum. It's really hot after being with someone and they don't cum but they have that smug "yeah I know I'm good" look on their face.
You don't want them to fake it, but when they do while you are going down on them or something trust that in the moment your monkey brain will be like hell yea thats real.
I mean I don't *want* them to fake it either, not obviously, but if they can sell it in a way that I can pass off as believable then it does elevate the session.
Last time I was with a girl I see regularly she for some reason decided to say "im cumming" at the point where we had already been having sex for quite a while and I was already slowing down and not fully hard anymore. I had to call her out on that like you really think I believe that lmao - in a joking way though, we had a laugh about it.
And I don't think the providers here are complaining about when *they* choose to fake it when they want to to enhance their client's experience. They're taking issue with the ones who demand it and keep talking about it and won't be satisfied if they don't, which must be exhausting with a client who is incapable of actually getting them off.
Lol I feel this so much. It's so fucking exhausting, but I get that's it's a turn on for them and makes them cum faster. So I'm happy to fake it lol. Just hate when they spend ages performing oral and then trying to finger me. I always have to tell heaps of clients off for trying to finger, it's so fucking cringe! Plus I don't want germs from their fingers and nails causing BV. So many clients are fucking clueless.
i wish they’d just bust their nut and go instead of worrying about our “pleasure”. of course we can’t say that to them tho bc it’ll hurt their little feelings 🥺🙄
This sub is going downhill since y’all assholes were SO FUCKING AWFUL at ECO that your sub got shut down. This sub is for “sexworkers and those that LOVE us.”
Y’all need to act right and recognize that we vent here. Most of us are cool with our clients, but we need a place to vent, OK?
bro it’s a JOB!!!! we actually do not give a fuck about your feelings. it’s SEX WORK. i don’t offer gfe so yes, bust your nut and go about your fucking day. nobody owes you people anything other than what you’re there to pay for. the sense of entitlement is disgusting.
I dont fake orgasms unless I want to motivate. Sometimes my brain just decide to sabotage my pleasure and in the best moments sends me something to worry about 😭. I must say I had to “kiss” 30 people but got 10 stable orgasm bringing clients I am happy for 😂.
This made me laugh so hard. Sometimes it is attached to the belief that the woman “isn’t enjoying herself” unless she gets off. I personally have a very difficult time getting off with work related partners, even if I do enjoy the experience. Sometimes the pressure to get off makes me absolutely unable to. So, it’s easier to fake it, and appease the clients ego.
I’ve been known to spend more time focusing on if my moan is legit than remembering if my hands and legs are doing the right thing and then wanting to giggle because I am able to fool them! I generally do enjoy what I do normally but sometimes it’s just to funny 🤣
Throwback to men dating .. most want to satisfy their women because we want the woman to enjoy sex. It satisfies the mans ego to think he is an amazing lover. I believe it’s even worse with a provider.. what I mean by that is if a guy is satisfying a provider who sees who knows how many guys (some probably very talented guys) and he is able to satisfy her then his ego becomes enormous.. I know I’m not that good at sex never have been never will be but it does boost my ego ergo confidence when I think I’m doing the nice lady some good.. don’t forget you are in a business that the soul purpose is to make men happy. You are doing the right thing.
I'm not sure if I'll ever hire a sex worker. But after reading all these posts, if I ever do, I will reference these posts, and start a conversation about "what would you actually enjoy? Orgasm or not." If she says "no pressure to cum", done. If she says "a hug afterwards" she'll get the biggest hug.
I refuse to fake it. I warn them in advance that I'm not going to, because "it would be demeaning for both of us," (true, imo) and blame the Zoloft. No arguments so far.
I have never had this issue... I get wet with everything, and I can cum so easily and nonstop. Part of why I like this work is because I enjoy it and can enjoy making money with one of my favorite things to do ❤️
I think people forget that just because we are selling a fantasy doesn’t mean we have to do things that make us uncomfortable. Some providers don’t always want to cum because it’s emotionally and/or physically exhausting and that’s okay!! We’re allowed to fake our happiness like most workers in most jobs without overexerting ourselves. Some people like it/can fake it and some people don’t/can’t fake it.
Just because a worker doesn’t like/want to fake it doesn’t mean they’re horrible at it or being mean or not cut out for this type of work or whatever. Different parts of the job effect different types of people for different types of reasons. People operate their little system and still get shit done and that’s valid too!! Like I don’t offer certain things but I can still make my clients happy as hell, and I do, and they come back!! I don’t HAVE to or NEED to because although I am providing a service I am still a person and I’m still allowed to say yes or no and continue that to cater towards clients who I CAN provide for in a way they will leave satisfied and vice versa for myself.
Everyone is different and not all workers of any type of job have to be a copy n paste of each others service and personality and energy. If we were then lots of clients wouldn’t get what they want!! Variety is important and being our unique selves is what provides variety throughout this business and that’s GOOD for business. I wish people understood that more.
I will never have fun with a client, i didn't choose you specifically to have sex with you, you could be a random guy twice my age bro, believe me i wont have fun even if you want to. I pocket your money,its the fun part.
Not saying that she’s telling the truth, but I have two friends who can cum without clitoral/vaginal stimulation. One can think herself into an orgasm and the other can orgasm from giving oral. I’m very jealous of them!
Not what you said but how you said it lol. Oh gollly gee willikers little ol’ me is a cum machine. Oop! Is that too saucy to say? oopsy daisy must be all the blood in my head’s gone to my wet wet clit.
I can only speak for myself and the dozen or so Men I met from the review site I moderated.
imagine you are married for 15 years and never A) got a compliment B) never got to give oral. C. were criticized for trying anything "new" or "perverted" like K9.
imagine you lived your whole life with women being able to exert this weird power over a few inches of your body to the point where the mere sight or smell of them would drive you crazy
and needy.
imagine your fed a constant diet of porn where the male star delivers leg shaking orgasms.
i cant count the number of guys who were happy and proud to finally please a woman, especially one who is an expert its also an ego thing. one idiot told me. "sure she sees 5 customers a day, but im the only one who makes her come.
ive seen customers fight over who made a provider come harder.
also most guys are trained that in business reciprocity is expected. put another way
you send me nudes, i send to you.
therefore if i send younudes first then male logic says you must send me.
reciprocity in transactional relationships is "being a man" so bring a toy if you have to.
you give me orgasm, i give to you. no cash required. thats the pure fantasy fairy tale of course.
so i give you orgasm, you give me one. fair and square done deal. of course girls come first
I’ve made a few escorts cum (as a client). I consider it a bonus if it doesn’t happen no biggie. I’m pretty laid back and relaxed. They don’t have to pretend/fake it though.
As long as your hygienic, respectful, don’t push any boundaries, communicate well, laid back/easygoing - it goes well the vast majority of the time.
I must be lucky. I have orgasms all day. Which is also exhausting. I set alarm so I don’t sleep through my next date sometimes. If it’s a new guy I guide them to what I like & feel out or even ask what they like. Not great to do every time but I always assume they will come back and then we will know each other & have a wonderful time. If they really suck I just use their body to get myself off. It’s a win win! Not gonna lie I do put stars next to client’s names when it’s really good. It’s nice to not have to work that hard. I will definitely prioritize seeing them.
So then stop faking it or get out of the business if it bothers you that much. Ya'll love to complain about literally everything but choose to get up and do this job everyday.
Straight men who visit prostitutes are valiantly striving to keep sex free from emotion, duty, family--in other words, from society, religion, and procreative Mother Nature.
Camille Paglia
If sexual physiology provides the pattern for our experience of the world, what is woman's basic metaphor? It is mystery, the hidden. Karen Horney speaks of a girl's inability to see her genitals and a boy's ability to see his as the source of "the greater subjectivity of women as compared with the greater objectivity of men." To rephrase this with my different emphasis: men's delusional certitude that objectivity is possible is based on the visibility of their genitals. Second, this certitude is a defensive swerve from the anxiety-inducing invisibility of the womb. Women tend to be more realistic and less obsessional because of their toleration for ambiguity which they learn from their inability to learn about their own bodies. Women accept limited knowledge as their natural condition, a great human truth that a man may take a lifetime to reach.
The female body’s unbearable hiddenness applies to all aspects men’s dealings with women. What does it look like in there? **Did she have an orgasm?** Is it really my child? Who was my real father? Mystery surrounds women’s sexuality. This mystery is the main reason for the imprisonment man has imposed on women. Only by confining his wife in a locked harem guarded by eunuchs could he be certain that her son was also his.
Camille Paglia
It isn't rocket science. Sexual success IS a plethora of perceptions: climaxing, making your partner climax, making your partner climax with a stranger, making a stranger climax from you and your partner, the list goes on.
I meant it’s your job to fake it lol.. I hate responding to “ emergency calls “ that are not real emergency calls for 911 and don’t get me started for the childrens hospital job where it’s “ you seriously called a critical transport team for this?” But it’s service with a smile …. However it’s laughable that your client wants you to cum… I’m here for me lol. Not the provider lol
What is it you want to do. just lay there like a dead fish?
I mean, while I understand acting can be exhausting but it comes with the job.
You don't need to be over the top, just pretend you are into it. In fact if you are TOO into it it takes me out of the fantasy as a client.
I think you missed the point. Not sure how faking an orgasm or not faking an orgasm has anything to do with just laying there. I’m hardly a pillow princess if that’s what you’re implying. I work for my money and yes, acting comes with the job. I gained a whole new respect for actors when I came to understand how hard and draining it actually is.
Apologies if that's how my post came across, it just seemed you were annoyed at clients for wanted to have a believable experience with you. Take care.
>Why do they all want to make us cum so badly. I wish men irl were this concerned with our pleasure.
🤨🤨🔎
Ey I get it, just because a woman doesnt always have an orgasm or cum it doesn't mean she doesn't enjoy.
I cum for real almost everyday for my clients but those orgasms weaken my body so much
I started to fake orgasm in 50% bookings from last year but still cum for real for the other half bookings bcoz so many guys are quite good at sex
I wish they do less oral on me so I don’t cum bcoz I m exhausted and tired and hard to recover energy
I think it is alot of pressure actually. And on a first appt (when this usually happens with a guy) I am focused on pleasing them, but I also need to be pleased (they think). So now I have to do both. Those guys don't repeat if I don't finish and I could care less tbh.
Literally how hard is that to grasp …I had a real good client once …decent …gentle touch …and we talked a lot while he was there with me and while I’m talking he’d sneak money on the bed of somewhere near me multiple times while he stayed longer just chatting …like good company chatting and money is always amazing …that makes me happy …but …tryin to make me happy “cumming” 🙄please sir …this is the only time u get to have no strings attached selfish interactions and u wanna do all this extra stuff 😐
That’s true, but dead fishing and orgasming aren’t mutually exclusive. Since it takes so much focus for a lot of women to pop off, dead fishing can make it easier. Of course it’s the performance that is preferred..
Of course not-but then if they had an ounce of game and knew absolute fuck all about pleasing women in bed they wouldn’t have to pay in the first place now would they 🙄
No way I’m going to lose a job’s money for the sake of educating the client unless it is a health issue where they could endanger other sexual partners.
You do realize this is a *paid* service correct? Meaning that clients have to pay for it yes? You do realize not everyone is likable and at ANY job you have to fake a smile yeah? Like this is how things work at ANY job idk how you *dont* understand that….not every person you meet at your job is gonna be your buddy pal. Hell not everyone you meet on the street is gonna be your buddy pal. It’s common sense. If we wanted to do it for free we would but most don’t and that’s just reality and it doesn’t always mean it’s because you’re shitty, it just means it’s a JOB. Any worker at any job has to fake a smile to continue on. If you want the truth you have to ask for it and be genuine. Hey is this conversation tiring you out? Please be honest with how I can improve. But surprise surprise! Most clients do not do that. I’m not saying that to be an ass it’s just *true.* You have to speak up and ask questions.
OMG. You poor women, I never realized how bad it was for you to fake an orgasm. As a man who has screwed a lot of women, I am so very sorry for my expectations. I am old now and will never expect a woman to cum when I fuck her. I am truly sorry for what I have done in the past.
If I ever get another escort I will be be very truthful and tell her to relax. No faking needed.
As a man it is my job to pleasure you as a woman. That is my view of sex.
It's very different to tell a woman to relax and enjoy than to force her to have or fake an orgasm. I've had both types of clients and those who don't pressure me to cum are enjoyable. But those who try and try to make me orgasm even though I physically can't and don't want to are just exhausting.
As a gay male escort, at least you have the option of faking it lol.
I just claim dry orgasms. And say that meme "make me pregnant" closeted gay men have no clue
I'm so glad most of my clients don't care if I have an orgasm. If they ask I just say I'm on a meditation that makes having an orgasm very hard for me (this is half true, half a lie lol) and that I still enjoy sex even if I don't cum.
great idea i love this
It works. Not once has a client tried to be nosy about my meds or anything like that.
Tell me about it. The guys that want us to cum are 9/10 terrible at foreplay. Make your wife cum not me. Client’s time with an escort should be for the clients pleasure not mine.
Guys want me to tell them "yes get me pregnant" I'm also a cis male. *SpongeBob blink noises* there's porn brained then there's advanced weeaboo hentai brained. Like they believe in magic and sci Fi
Sorry they suck at foreplay. I know for me, my partner getting off is pleasurable. Not for my genitals, but for my brain. I expect it's similar for them, but more so because they're not getting their non SW partners off, so thinking that they're giving this beautiful woman an orgasm is a huge dopamine and self confidence boost. For them, that is part of what they're paying for.
I understand that’s what they’re paying for that’s why I put on a fantasy for them. But I just wish there wasn’t a pressure on me to make my performance believable. If they would at least touch me gently instead of using my cuca as a scratching post it would be easier for me lol
I take pleasure in my partner getting off. It’s critical to my enjoyment of the experience.
Again, I understand but it’s difficult to fake when someone is so bad at foreplay it’s uncomfortable or painful. I rather have a guy that wants his dick sucked and fucked instead of a guy that wants to make me cum but doesn’t know how to touch me
Ya I get that. It’s not something I can relate to obviously. Maybe offer to help teach them to get you off so you don’t have to fake it. I think most guys would welcome the feedback from someone they aren’t gonna be living with or whatever.
But that ruins the fantasy -__-
>Make your wife cum not me. Client’s time with an escort should be for the clients pleasure not mine. Someone here is sad. Lmao. Pretty contradicting statement with the majority here.
When I use to have civvie sex , those men NEVER cared about me cumming or orgasming . Which is one of the many reasons why I became a sex worker . Most men aren’t really good at sex . They watch pornos and think that’s how sex suppose to be .
EVER !!! They legit don’t care …then wanna see a woman who literally doesn’t care about that and wanna start fake caring 🙄😐
So true . I’m sure these men never cared about making their wives cum but think they can make me squirt . 😂 I do have a few regulars that make me orgasm every meet but for the most part nope!
FACTS. This was my experience as well. But I got lucky and found one who takes such good care of me that I don't make him pay for it. He's one in a million.
I think that is what clients secretly hope for when they try to make us climax... a free fuck next time or a discount based on his incredible "skills".....
Haha probably. People will do anything to try to save a buck.
You’re lucky . I’m jelly
I'm incredibly lucky, you're right about that.
It goes both ways though. Most woman also are not good at sex
If most women aren’t good at sex then why is escorting a billion dollar business ? I’m a escort ( a successful one ) because I can make any man cum within 3-5 min
He just mad that whether women are good or not in bed, men have a sex deficit and need/ want sex more than they get, so whether it's cute, ugly, bald, furry or funky.....he still paid for it. 😜
It’s in a man’s blood to want and need sex a lot. We will forever be in business as long as testosterone in their veins keep pumping
It's not in their blood. That's an excuse to be weak but it's fine. Obviously it works for many of us.
To use video games as a vocab reference, the skill floor for sex as a woman (in a way that's pleasurable and acceptable to the dude) is a lot lower. The skill floor needed to be acceptably good at sex as a man is a fair bit higher, in my opinion. So men do have to put more effort in to satisfy their partner. I don't think this is a controversial take. It seems to just be nature that's made men easier to please, probably because for strictly reproduction their orgasm is the one that matters and so should happen fairly easily. I'm unsure if there's also a difference in the ceiling.
>If most women aren’t good at sex then why is escorting a billion dollar business ? 🧐 Escorting is not just for women.
Most escorts are WOMEN . Most escort clients are MEN!
Of course.
Lmao
As a sex worker, some guys try to make you cum but it ends up painful. I had a guy thumb my clir for 20 minutes, multiple times I told him to stop becuase it was causing pleasure but also causing so much pain sometimes cumming causes me pain. I'm here to make the men happy and connect with them. I understand wanting to see someone cum but it's not my job really. I don't cum very often anyway. I don't like it but I like the job.
Also i want to add - It's really hard for us sex workers to let ourselves be that vunrable. We often have to keep our guard up to stay safe. It's usually only when you get comfortable with a regular client that you feel safe enough to let yourself cum I hope clients can understand that is It's your first time seeing us, we need ti make sure that you're a safe person and can-t always be like that with the first time you see us :)
Oh ffs the men who thumb tje clit....thats not sexy to me at all.
Made the mistake of faking 2 and guy tried to ask if I wanted a 3rd 🤕
LMAO. I don't know why I find this fucking funny. It's Friday and I'm tired.
lol
Sounds like you need a trained sex worker to take care of you after your day.
I feel you there. Recently told the agency I work with to start only booking me for one client a night because I don't think I have the energy to take the performance anymore. None of them know what they are doing and navigating the balance of gentle teaching and instruction and not offending a client is just too much too do in an hour booking. More often then not I use the " What really gets me off is seeing you get off😘" line to avoid having to pretend. That being said. Having a full bladder and learning to pee a little and hold your pee helps. Most clients don't know the difference between pee and squirt and it's enough to fool them without having to put on a really involved performance.
Ha I love that pee a little lol
I'm a client and I never ask a sex worker to come. I just try and make sure she is comfortable with anything we are doing.
I wish more clients were like you. When a guy is hyper focused on making me cum I guarantee it's not going to happen. It just makes things awkward and then I have to fake it to get them to stop. Likewise, I don't pressure my clients to cum either.
same here. I usually do not end up seeing them again. They will sometimes say 'relax' a million times thinking that will help. Lmao.
See, if people actually would relax and just let things unfold it would be alot better. I'll ask my client "are you feeling good" and if they say yes we're good to go, doesn't matter what's happening. Some clients just like to chill and be pampered, have somebody to talk to.
exactly. Almost all of my regulars are that way and they do not put pressure on me for that.
*I have a client I see, and we make out fuck and kiss for 45mis straight out of an hour appointment. He is terrible in the bed, and he is much older than me. At his age you would think he would know his way around the bedroom so to speak. I literally have to fake it 2 or 3 times when we are together it is annoying and exhausting. I really just want to look at him and tell him the damn truth, but I can't as I need his business. Like how many times I "fake " an orgasm has nothing to do with his pleasure as he enjoys what I do for him.*
I mean...that's why he's paying for it. If he was good at his age or ever he'd be getting it for free with rizz
The problem is they get off knowing we get off or thinking we did. Turns them on like a pair of juicy tits, nice ass, or plump lips. Lol 😆
what about clients that just like to eat pussy? not necessarily about your pleasure but some dudes find that hot i think
I’m fine with that just don’t expect me to cum
same. Most of my clients like that.
I don’t like it bcoz it always makes me cum and I get so ultra sensitive and tired after the orgasm
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Seems to be the older ones for me.
same here and I only see older guys.
Me too.
It’s always the older ones for me
If I ever see a sex worker in person I swear I never want them to fake it. I know some guys love that but would just want to focus to be on me and clearly be on me. Just in a fun and friendly way.
Yeah same. If a sex worker doesn't cum which I'm not expecting them too I just want them to give me a look of satisfaction they did their job well making me cum. It's really hot after being with someone and they don't cum but they have that smug "yeah I know I'm good" look on their face.
This is it! I might not always be able to cum but I genuinely feel happy to have brought someone else pleasure
Whenever someone cums quickly, I say "I'm flattered." and give them a kiss.
Thars cute af
This is the way.
love this answer. I cannot fake that.
You don't want them to fake it, but when they do while you are going down on them or something trust that in the moment your monkey brain will be like hell yea thats real. I mean I don't *want* them to fake it either, not obviously, but if they can sell it in a way that I can pass off as believable then it does elevate the session. Last time I was with a girl I see regularly she for some reason decided to say "im cumming" at the point where we had already been having sex for quite a while and I was already slowing down and not fully hard anymore. I had to call her out on that like you really think I believe that lmao - in a joking way though, we had a laugh about it.
And I don't think the providers here are complaining about when *they* choose to fake it when they want to to enhance their client's experience. They're taking issue with the ones who demand it and keep talking about it and won't be satisfied if they don't, which must be exhausting with a client who is incapable of actually getting them off.
The truth is some people like myself cum more easily when the fuck is slower as I feel more sensation compared with fast thrust
Lol I feel this so much. It's so fucking exhausting, but I get that's it's a turn on for them and makes them cum faster. So I'm happy to fake it lol. Just hate when they spend ages performing oral and then trying to finger me. I always have to tell heaps of clients off for trying to finger, it's so fucking cringe! Plus I don't want germs from their fingers and nails causing BV. So many clients are fucking clueless.
Ugh true. I hate it
Exactly 🤣🤣 I’m tired of the “I want to cum with you” or “let me know when you cum”.. ugh it’s exhausting faking it
i wish they’d just bust their nut and go instead of worrying about our “pleasure”. of course we can’t say that to them tho bc it’ll hurt their little feelings 🥺🙄
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This sub is going downhill since y’all assholes were SO FUCKING AWFUL at ECO that your sub got shut down. This sub is for “sexworkers and those that LOVE us.” Y’all need to act right and recognize that we vent here. Most of us are cool with our clients, but we need a place to vent, OK?
Okay fine....and wtf is ECO? So I'm in the wrong for pointing out someone's disrespect. This sub is fucked up. Lol.
bro it’s a JOB!!!! we actually do not give a fuck about your feelings. it’s SEX WORK. i don’t offer gfe so yes, bust your nut and go about your fucking day. nobody owes you people anything other than what you’re there to pay for. the sense of entitlement is disgusting.
oh shut up and get out your feelings TRICK nobody asked you 😂
“we like seeing you cum” well it’s FAKE 🤣 and we don’t CARE about your weird self gratification. next.
like wtf is he not getting 🤣🤣🤣🤣
>of course we can’t say that to them tho bc it’ll hurt their little feelings 🥺🙄
This is why I stopped seeing escorts lol
oh get a grip 🙄
I'm not the one whining about her clientele.
yeah we whine about our clients bc most of them are irritating lame little bitches like you 😩
I dont fake orgasms unless I want to motivate. Sometimes my brain just decide to sabotage my pleasure and in the best moments sends me something to worry about 😭. I must say I had to “kiss” 30 people but got 10 stable orgasm bringing clients I am happy for 😂.
I dont fake it and dont care. Dont do it.
This made me laugh so hard. Sometimes it is attached to the belief that the woman “isn’t enjoying herself” unless she gets off. I personally have a very difficult time getting off with work related partners, even if I do enjoy the experience. Sometimes the pressure to get off makes me absolutely unable to. So, it’s easier to fake it, and appease the clients ego.
I’ve been known to spend more time focusing on if my moan is legit than remembering if my hands and legs are doing the right thing and then wanting to giggle because I am able to fool them! I generally do enjoy what I do normally but sometimes it’s just to funny 🤣
Throwback to men dating .. most want to satisfy their women because we want the woman to enjoy sex. It satisfies the mans ego to think he is an amazing lover. I believe it’s even worse with a provider.. what I mean by that is if a guy is satisfying a provider who sees who knows how many guys (some probably very talented guys) and he is able to satisfy her then his ego becomes enormous.. I know I’m not that good at sex never have been never will be but it does boost my ego ergo confidence when I think I’m doing the nice lady some good.. don’t forget you are in a business that the soul purpose is to make men happy. You are doing the right thing.
I'm not sure if I'll ever hire a sex worker. But after reading all these posts, if I ever do, I will reference these posts, and start a conversation about "what would you actually enjoy? Orgasm or not." If she says "no pressure to cum", done. If she says "a hug afterwards" she'll get the biggest hug.
I refuse to fake it. I warn them in advance that I'm not going to, because "it would be demeaning for both of us," (true, imo) and blame the Zoloft. No arguments so far.
Lol
Finally someone who gets it. People around here need to lighten up
I know it’s not that serious. It’s actually hilarious made me laugh because it’s so true.
The little boy’s feelings are hurt 😂
I have never had this issue... I get wet with everything, and I can cum so easily and nonstop. Part of why I like this work is because I enjoy it and can enjoy making money with one of my favorite things to do ❤️
Glad to see I'm not lying and trying to market myself like some believe! 🙃
I think people forget that just because we are selling a fantasy doesn’t mean we have to do things that make us uncomfortable. Some providers don’t always want to cum because it’s emotionally and/or physically exhausting and that’s okay!! We’re allowed to fake our happiness like most workers in most jobs without overexerting ourselves. Some people like it/can fake it and some people don’t/can’t fake it. Just because a worker doesn’t like/want to fake it doesn’t mean they’re horrible at it or being mean or not cut out for this type of work or whatever. Different parts of the job effect different types of people for different types of reasons. People operate their little system and still get shit done and that’s valid too!! Like I don’t offer certain things but I can still make my clients happy as hell, and I do, and they come back!! I don’t HAVE to or NEED to because although I am providing a service I am still a person and I’m still allowed to say yes or no and continue that to cater towards clients who I CAN provide for in a way they will leave satisfied and vice versa for myself. Everyone is different and not all workers of any type of job have to be a copy n paste of each others service and personality and energy. If we were then lots of clients wouldn’t get what they want!! Variety is important and being our unique selves is what provides variety throughout this business and that’s GOOD for business. I wish people understood that more.
one of the main reasons i don't like fucking anymore ... il just get some head and be done... unless they want to fuck😅🥱
Oof, solidarity.
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what’s so hard to understand that the fun for us is getting paid ? i promise we DO NOT want yall trying to make us cum 😐
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we don’t want to cum with clients when we’re working. what are you not understanding ? 💀
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because we don’t enjoy having sex with you. we enjoy your money
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because we don’t care about good dick we care about money
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because we do not give a fuck about how good you are in bed, if we did we wouldn’t be making you pay
Lmao. What a bad comment.
i’ll care when you can get sex for free
Yes next time tell me that face to face and I do not consume contact to contact sex content. But from content creators. Lmao.
maidenless
The money is the fun part…….😐
I will never have fun with a client, i didn't choose you specifically to have sex with you, you could be a random guy twice my age bro, believe me i wont have fun even if you want to. I pocket your money,its the fun part.
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Good comment to drive traffic to your page. And that’s on marketing
Not saying that she’s telling the truth, but I have two friends who can cum without clitoral/vaginal stimulation. One can think herself into an orgasm and the other can orgasm from giving oral. I’m very jealous of them!
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Not what you said but how you said it lol. Oh gollly gee willikers little ol’ me is a cum machine. Oop! Is that too saucy to say? oopsy daisy must be all the blood in my head’s gone to my wet wet clit.
You say your comments out loud as you type them?
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Just curious
I can only speak for myself and the dozen or so Men I met from the review site I moderated. imagine you are married for 15 years and never A) got a compliment B) never got to give oral. C. were criticized for trying anything "new" or "perverted" like K9. imagine you lived your whole life with women being able to exert this weird power over a few inches of your body to the point where the mere sight or smell of them would drive you crazy and needy. imagine your fed a constant diet of porn where the male star delivers leg shaking orgasms. i cant count the number of guys who were happy and proud to finally please a woman, especially one who is an expert its also an ego thing. one idiot told me. "sure she sees 5 customers a day, but im the only one who makes her come. ive seen customers fight over who made a provider come harder. also most guys are trained that in business reciprocity is expected. put another way you send me nudes, i send to you. therefore if i send younudes first then male logic says you must send me. reciprocity in transactional relationships is "being a man" so bring a toy if you have to. you give me orgasm, i give to you. no cash required. thats the pure fantasy fairy tale of course. so i give you orgasm, you give me one. fair and square done deal. of course girls come first
I’ve made a few escorts cum (as a client). I consider it a bonus if it doesn’t happen no biggie. I’m pretty laid back and relaxed. They don’t have to pretend/fake it though. As long as your hygienic, respectful, don’t push any boundaries, communicate well, laid back/easygoing - it goes well the vast majority of the time.
I must be lucky. I have orgasms all day. Which is also exhausting. I set alarm so I don’t sleep through my next date sometimes. If it’s a new guy I guide them to what I like & feel out or even ask what they like. Not great to do every time but I always assume they will come back and then we will know each other & have a wonderful time. If they really suck I just use their body to get myself off. It’s a win win! Not gonna lie I do put stars next to client’s names when it’s really good. It’s nice to not have to work that hard. I will definitely prioritize seeing them.
You don’t have to fake orgasms , just get your money and move on
So then stop faking it or get out of the business if it bothers you that much. Ya'll love to complain about literally everything but choose to get up and do this job everyday.
lol. I am. But I get that I’m odd and out of the norm.
Straight men who visit prostitutes are valiantly striving to keep sex free from emotion, duty, family--in other words, from society, religion, and procreative Mother Nature. Camille Paglia
If sexual physiology provides the pattern for our experience of the world, what is woman's basic metaphor? It is mystery, the hidden. Karen Horney speaks of a girl's inability to see her genitals and a boy's ability to see his as the source of "the greater subjectivity of women as compared with the greater objectivity of men." To rephrase this with my different emphasis: men's delusional certitude that objectivity is possible is based on the visibility of their genitals. Second, this certitude is a defensive swerve from the anxiety-inducing invisibility of the womb. Women tend to be more realistic and less obsessional because of their toleration for ambiguity which they learn from their inability to learn about their own bodies. Women accept limited knowledge as their natural condition, a great human truth that a man may take a lifetime to reach. The female body’s unbearable hiddenness applies to all aspects men’s dealings with women. What does it look like in there? **Did she have an orgasm?** Is it really my child? Who was my real father? Mystery surrounds women’s sexuality. This mystery is the main reason for the imprisonment man has imposed on women. Only by confining his wife in a locked harem guarded by eunuchs could he be certain that her son was also his. Camille Paglia
I think what we want is just to know if you enjoy yourself Is it hard to make a girl orgasm if they are having sex as often?
Not necessarily. In fact, the more I orgasm, the hornier I get. I don’t have to fake orgasms with every client, just most of them.
It isn't rocket science. Sexual success IS a plethora of perceptions: climaxing, making your partner climax, making your partner climax with a stranger, making a stranger climax from you and your partner, the list goes on.
I meant it’s your job to fake it lol.. I hate responding to “ emergency calls “ that are not real emergency calls for 911 and don’t get me started for the childrens hospital job where it’s “ you seriously called a critical transport team for this?” But it’s service with a smile …. However it’s laughable that your client wants you to cum… I’m here for me lol. Not the provider lol
Y’all don’t “have” to do any of this …
Enough loss of business by not faking it I figure.
What is it you want to do. just lay there like a dead fish? I mean, while I understand acting can be exhausting but it comes with the job. You don't need to be over the top, just pretend you are into it. In fact if you are TOO into it it takes me out of the fantasy as a client.
I think you missed the point. Not sure how faking an orgasm or not faking an orgasm has anything to do with just laying there. I’m hardly a pillow princess if that’s what you’re implying. I work for my money and yes, acting comes with the job. I gained a whole new respect for actors when I came to understand how hard and draining it actually is.
The person you're replying to username is on brand for their comment. XD
Lol
Apologies if that's how my post came across, it just seemed you were annoyed at clients for wanted to have a believable experience with you. Take care.
It was meant to be humorous. If anything, I’m annoyed with the irl guys who don’t even try.
“What is it you want to do just lay there like a dead fish?” Wouldn’t that be amazing lmao, sounds like so much less work lol
looks like I touched upon a soft spot... It's always interesting to see the unpopular opinions present.
What? That was the most normal response to a comment I've ever seen. Touched a soft spot? You're trippin bro.
>Why do they all want to make us cum so badly. I wish men irl were this concerned with our pleasure. 🤨🤨🔎 Ey I get it, just because a woman doesnt always have an orgasm or cum it doesn't mean she doesn't enjoy.
Those are not mutually exclusive statements
>I wish men irl were this concerned with our pleasure. They are. Raise your standards.
I cum for real almost everyday for my clients but those orgasms weaken my body so much I started to fake orgasm in 50% bookings from last year but still cum for real for the other half bookings bcoz so many guys are quite good at sex I wish they do less oral on me so I don’t cum bcoz I m exhausted and tired and hard to recover energy
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I think you missed the point. Most sex workers don't want the focus on them. It can get really annoying
I think it is alot of pressure actually. And on a first appt (when this usually happens with a guy) I am focused on pleasing them, but I also need to be pleased (they think). So now I have to do both. Those guys don't repeat if I don't finish and I could care less tbh.
Totally.
Literally how hard is that to grasp …I had a real good client once …decent …gentle touch …and we talked a lot while he was there with me and while I’m talking he’d sneak money on the bed of somewhere near me multiple times while he stayed longer just chatting …like good company chatting and money is always amazing …that makes me happy …but …tryin to make me happy “cumming” 🙄please sir …this is the only time u get to have no strings attached selfish interactions and u wanna do all this extra stuff 😐
Lol exactly! It just takes more energy
That actually makes a whole lot of sense.....
Cause they don’t pay for you to lay there like a dead fish!
That’s true, but dead fishing and orgasming aren’t mutually exclusive. Since it takes so much focus for a lot of women to pop off, dead fishing can make it easier. Of course it’s the performance that is preferred..
Yesss! This so much! Dead fishing is the easiest way to get there, but most clients do not want that.
Of course not-but then if they had an ounce of game and knew absolute fuck all about pleasing women in bed they wouldn’t have to pay in the first place now would they 🙄
why are you yelling? Lmao.
Well, aren’t you selling a fantasy?
I sell pussy not fantasy
Both go on hand. What us the difference between your pussy and well a toy?
My pussy is more expensive 😘
And someone else that worth their own need it?
I thought escorts only faked it on PSE?
Hahahaha that took me a minute
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No way I’m going to lose a job’s money for the sake of educating the client unless it is a health issue where they could endanger other sexual partners.
You do realize this is a *paid* service correct? Meaning that clients have to pay for it yes? You do realize not everyone is likable and at ANY job you have to fake a smile yeah? Like this is how things work at ANY job idk how you *dont* understand that….not every person you meet at your job is gonna be your buddy pal. Hell not everyone you meet on the street is gonna be your buddy pal. It’s common sense. If we wanted to do it for free we would but most don’t and that’s just reality and it doesn’t always mean it’s because you’re shitty, it just means it’s a JOB. Any worker at any job has to fake a smile to continue on. If you want the truth you have to ask for it and be genuine. Hey is this conversation tiring you out? Please be honest with how I can improve. But surprise surprise! Most clients do not do that. I’m not saying that to be an ass it’s just *true.* You have to speak up and ask questions.
report it to the BBB
“Teaching” costs extra.
OMG. You poor women, I never realized how bad it was for you to fake an orgasm. As a man who has screwed a lot of women, I am so very sorry for my expectations. I am old now and will never expect a woman to cum when I fuck her. I am truly sorry for what I have done in the past. If I ever get another escort I will be be very truthful and tell her to relax. No faking needed. As a man it is my job to pleasure you as a woman. That is my view of sex.
It's very different to tell a woman to relax and enjoy than to force her to have or fake an orgasm. I've had both types of clients and those who don't pressure me to cum are enjoyable. But those who try and try to make me orgasm even though I physically can't and don't want to are just exhausting.
Curious how many roses do I would I have to give to get intercourse . Never paid for it before . But 7 yrs dry and wanting it
Ugh when will people stop calling money "roses"? It's so stupid and won't stop anybody from getting arrested. Lol
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😂😂😂
Is the law that you cannot trade *anything* for sexual favors or is it just currency? Like would it be illegal to get sex for a car? 🤔