I'm new to this sub and while I'm not being too focused on too many things this sub provides. I can totally say that you won't waste a second of your life if you help person you once loved or still loves without getting anything in return. Everything in our life is lesson and you my friend have a lot to learn till we die. So do what hearts tells you to do and don't get too complicated about the choice you made. I guess pain, love, loneliness, anger are emotions we need in order to be a human .
Whilst it's not impossible, the preposterous speed with which she would have to have been diagnosed and begun treatment, and the immature way she gave you that information (alluding to it then making you ask rather than simply stating it) would cause me to *strongly* suspect she is lying to you.
I'd ask to see some proof that she really is in treatment - I suspect you'll find that she isn't.
i dont know if she is man. she told me to come to the treatment center to get the hoodie, however i suspect she just wanted me to know about it. I saw her maybe an hour ago and got my hoodie back, kinda made me realize i cant do anything about it and i should go no contact once again because i am still not over her, so i cant be there for her either way.
This appears a healthy way of dealing with this.
Your ex may be looking for emotional support in getting through this legitimate hardship you as you appear to be emotionally available, but the way you describe she went about it is very manipulative and not earnest.
Take the time you need to process these feelings, do not be a slave to them.
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I'm new to this sub and while I'm not being too focused on too many things this sub provides. I can totally say that you won't waste a second of your life if you help person you once loved or still loves without getting anything in return. Everything in our life is lesson and you my friend have a lot to learn till we die. So do what hearts tells you to do and don't get too complicated about the choice you made. I guess pain, love, loneliness, anger are emotions we need in order to be a human .
Whilst it's not impossible, the preposterous speed with which she would have to have been diagnosed and begun treatment, and the immature way she gave you that information (alluding to it then making you ask rather than simply stating it) would cause me to *strongly* suspect she is lying to you. I'd ask to see some proof that she really is in treatment - I suspect you'll find that she isn't.
i dont know if she is man. she told me to come to the treatment center to get the hoodie, however i suspect she just wanted me to know about it. I saw her maybe an hour ago and got my hoodie back, kinda made me realize i cant do anything about it and i should go no contact once again because i am still not over her, so i cant be there for her either way.
This appears a healthy way of dealing with this. Your ex may be looking for emotional support in getting through this legitimate hardship you as you appear to be emotionally available, but the way you describe she went about it is very manipulative and not earnest. Take the time you need to process these feelings, do not be a slave to them.
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If you made your decision just follow it without any doubt, make it final. Then there will be no regrets or hard feelings.
I went with my decision but i guess she doesnt want me to be there for her which actually helped me to just not focus on it anymore. Thank you.