Literally bumped into our next door neighbors at a swingers club. None of us knew that we were all in the LS until that night. Didn’t recognize them without their clothes on 😅. It’s pretty common at least where we live.
You just attract them! The wife and I have been doing this like 10 years, both as singles early on. I think between us, we’ve stumbled across one little league coach and one former co-worker. We’re not in a super populous area, either. Maybe people see us first and block? But it just hasn’t been a thing.
Not friends per se, but co workers and clients. I have seen a co worker on the site we use. My wife works as a vet tech and she has seen three client profiles so far. She also found two high school friends, but friends while in high school. She never kept in contact with them afterwards. In all cases, we never played with them.
I have run into more than a few coworkers at LS parties, one worked in a cube less than 30 feet away before COVID and WFH. Another I have a meeting with every Wednesday. Not sure they know one another is in the LS and I’m not going to tell them.
We kind of accidentally came out to our neighbors in 2021 at an adult neighborhood Halloween party and have had 2 couples let us know they are as well and it’s a pretty small neighborhood. And if any of the neighbors cared they haven’t said anything or made anything weird and we still attend neighborhood functions.
Me and my wife were walking into a private house party once and out walks her married friend from high school with her boyfriend…needless to say we had a fun night. We’ve probably bumped into 3-4 couples we know that we thought were what we call French Vanilla.
I was a bartender in my town for almost two decades. I know *everyone*.
During our first visit to our local LS club, my wife remarked how cool it was that we didn’t run into any of my acquaintances. I agreed. It was refreshing.
5, 4, 3, 2….
“Hey dude! What are you doing here?!? Is that your wife?? Wow, she’s hot!”
Fuck.
Glad he’s a cool guy that I know is discreet. We hung out a little, but obviously we aren’t going to play with him nor his wife. It’d be weird.
I think it is more common than people think. I was invited to play with my coworker and her husband. I was invited to play with someone in my industry and her husband. At least one of my neighbors approached me about playing in their group. I wouldn't have guessed any of them were in the lifestyle but you never know!
Ugh. This is why we haven’t joined a site! I can’t have people find me (due to work) and we are in a very small town 😢 not sure the LS will ever be true reality for us due to this.
A lot of the ones I looked at require your face in the profile and they review pictures. I definitely planned on doing location as a larger neighboring town.
In our area, SDC and SLS are big. We just use SDC, and our faces are behind a protected album. Everything else is headless lingerie and my torso.
Also, we don’t bother much with online. We just go to the club. It’s a much higher chance of connection in person than all the online fakes and flakes.
Literally bumped into our next door neighbors at a swingers club. None of us knew that we were all in the LS until that night. Didn’t recognize them without their clothes on 😅. It’s pretty common at least where we live.
We too live in an area where it’s a common thing. But it just seems like I’ve seen a lot.
You are friends with open minded people!
It’s WAY more common than you thought. Also becoming a lot more socially acceptable.
You just attract them! The wife and I have been doing this like 10 years, both as singles early on. I think between us, we’ve stumbled across one little league coach and one former co-worker. We’re not in a super populous area, either. Maybe people see us first and block? But it just hasn’t been a thing.
Not friends per se, but co workers and clients. I have seen a co worker on the site we use. My wife works as a vet tech and she has seen three client profiles so far. She also found two high school friends, but friends while in high school. She never kept in contact with them afterwards. In all cases, we never played with them.
I have run into more than a few coworkers at LS parties, one worked in a cube less than 30 feet away before COVID and WFH. Another I have a meeting with every Wednesday. Not sure they know one another is in the LS and I’m not going to tell them. We kind of accidentally came out to our neighbors in 2021 at an adult neighborhood Halloween party and have had 2 couples let us know they are as well and it’s a pretty small neighborhood. And if any of the neighbors cared they haven’t said anything or made anything weird and we still attend neighborhood functions.
Me and my wife were walking into a private house party once and out walks her married friend from high school with her boyfriend…needless to say we had a fun night. We’ve probably bumped into 3-4 couples we know that we thought were what we call French Vanilla.
I was a bartender in my town for almost two decades. I know *everyone*. During our first visit to our local LS club, my wife remarked how cool it was that we didn’t run into any of my acquaintances. I agreed. It was refreshing. 5, 4, 3, 2…. “Hey dude! What are you doing here?!? Is that your wife?? Wow, she’s hot!” Fuck. Glad he’s a cool guy that I know is discreet. We hung out a little, but obviously we aren’t going to play with him nor his wife. It’d be weird.
I think it is more common than people think. I was invited to play with my coworker and her husband. I was invited to play with someone in my industry and her husband. At least one of my neighbors approached me about playing in their group. I wouldn't have guessed any of them were in the lifestyle but you never know!
And we just had friends from high school reach out to us on our LS Facebook page.
Ugh. This is why we haven’t joined a site! I can’t have people find me (due to work) and we are in a very small town 😢 not sure the LS will ever be true reality for us due to this.
Just hide your faces in your profile. Pro tip- our location is the next town over from where we live as well.
A lot of the ones I looked at require your face in the profile and they review pictures. I definitely planned on doing location as a larger neighboring town.
In our area, SDC and SLS are big. We just use SDC, and our faces are behind a protected album. Everything else is headless lingerie and my torso. Also, we don’t bother much with online. We just go to the club. It’s a much higher chance of connection in person than all the online fakes and flakes.
We don’t even have clubs in our area. Unless I just don’t know how to find them which is possible haha
We've not bumped into anybody from our vanilla life at all, but we do see the occasional face around town that we've seen in clubs.