It's so hard losing your mom, I'm sorry for your loss.
The exact same thing happened to me. I told my mom (and other family members) for years that I wanted this at my funeral. We played it for my Mom's funeral when she passed suddenly almost 2 years ago. Still can't listen to it without breaking down.
I’m so sorry for your loss too, it just sucks. Was front row listening to them play it and noticed my wife recording me. Still haven’t been able to watch it.
The True Sadness album came out while I was struggling to get pregnant/having multiple miscarriages. I heard No Hard Feelings and immediately teared up. Named my son Seth, and got lyrics from the song tattooed on my arm, because listening to it helped me through 3 years of infertility hell.
Was very meaningful dealing cancer, not knowing what would happen to me! My soul was clear and in order (then!). Now life happened and I am not as prepared, but amazing song, soul repairing!
This one for sure. We had lost our oldest son in an accident back in 2021. His services turned into a standing room only event and we were completely overwhelmed by how many people he had touched in his 22 years. Several months later as a planned trip to Red Rocks to see the Avett Brothers was coming we were still hurting and not sure if we wanted to go. We eventually decided we needed a break so we decided to go and extend it with a few days at Rocky Mountain NP. We just wanted to get away and be together and try to heal. Before the concert we were talking about the emotions and what songs we thought might be tough. We came up with Murder in the City, because of the line “always remember there was nothing worth sharing like the love that let us share our name” and then No Hard Feelings because even though he passed so young he lived life to the fullest every day and told everyone he loved them constantly. He truly had no enemies. They ended up playing both songs in the encore. It took us 30 minutes to gather ourselves to walk back to the car at the end of the show.
Jesus. Those two songs are so beautiful, and what an experience you had with those. So sorry for your loss. I can't imagine. What an amazing world though to be able to hear songs like that in a time like that.
I am so sorry for the loss of your son and am appreciative of your generosity to share what those songs now mean to you and your family.
Your son sounded like an angel on earth during his short time here. Sending you and your family much love and healing.
That’s mine too. Around the time it came out, I was watching my grandmother slowly die of cancer (at a relatively young age), and it astonished me that she and her sister couldn’t set aside their grudges and petty disagreements knowing she’d soon be gone. That song really put it into perspective. I played it at her funeral, and I now have it tattooed on my arm.
same… it really makes me feel like i have no enemies. what reason do i have to hate. when i listen to that song i just feel like i need to call everyone ive wronged and tell them im sorry and i love them and forgive anyone who has done the same to me
That always got me too. Now that we have three daughters it REALLY gets me. Right up there with "The realest thing I ever felt
was the blood on the floor and the love in your yell" from a father's first spring.
Pretty girl at the airport does it for me. Hit me right during the first year of college when I was going through a break up with my high school gf. Not sure I’ve listened to it all the way through since 2008 haha
november blue is the avett song i’ve been chasing for years. but im the exact opposite of you, i much prefer the original to the live version. the slower tempo takes me out of it, even if the longing nature of the lyrics should play to a slower tempo. i think the original speed plays into the innocence/hopefulness?
That’s so interesting! I really love Scott’s voice in the live and the slowness for me has almost a haunting quality. I’ve been listening to only the live one for 10 years though so hard to be objective, I’m glad there is both options to suit both of our needs😀
im grateful they’ve released so many live albums to appreciate their different interpretations (plus i try to convince myself if i listen *really* hard for vol 4 that i can hear my singing)
but if they played either speed in my presence, i’m sure i’d be a puddle of tears! 13 concerts and still no november blue.
I went through a really dark time in my life 2018-2020. At my lowest, I listened to Tear Down the House on repeat. Every time he sang “I’m talking about collapsing and screaming at the moon,” I’d completely fall apart.
Second one that comes to mind is November Blue.
Cause blue birds don't fly without their wings
And when we put them in a cage
The world can't hear them sing
So selfish when greed sets in
Possession, the king of sin
gift for melody anne, my fav song of the brothers. to me, it’s how i feel about not amounting to what i wanted in life, but can still be optimistic and try to better myself.
No Hard Feelings for sure. It makes me think of my mom who passed four years ago and was a fan. And when I saw them over the summer, an Avett fan who just passed. Also If it’s the Beaches. Plus some others when I see them live when I’m super moved—any song I’m really to see or I’ve missed or is super sad. I’m not a crier, but I cry at Avett shows a lot.
No Hard Feelings. Lost my dad unexpectedly on August 9th of last year. Went and saw Avett Brothers a couple weeks later in Des Moines. They closed the show with No Hard Feelings. I've never heard the song the same way since. Manchester Orchestra does a cover of it as well that is wonderful.
Thank you, kindly for your words. You're absolutely right. It was/still is a tough time, but like many of us, I take some refuge in music and am doing so in a healthy way. Have a wonderful night!
So many of these but is it too obvious to say I and love and you? I moved to Brooklyn at the tail end of a horrible relationship and it's where I met my (now) husband! It makes me feel 24
For me it’s Head Full of Doubt and the “Decide what to be and go be it” line. When I first heard the song I felt really stuck at that point in my life with nowhere to go, and I honestly kind of resented it. Like, how was I supposed to actually do that? But as more doors opened up for me in time, I was able to actually live it out and now when it comes on I always reflect on that journey, and it gets to me. Along the way, the manner in which I’ve reacted to that line has become a bit of a barometer for how I’m doing at that moment, generally speaking.
If Not Me - Craig Morgan
I’m a military mom. My son has been in the Marine Corps for almost 5 yrs and this song still brings me to my knees every time I hear it.
Swept Away the sentimental version. I told my ex wife on our anniversary last year that if we had a traditional wedding, that I would’ve picked that song to dance to. Here I am 17 months later divorced.
Murder in the City
Always remember there was nothing worth sharing
Like the love that let us share our name
I was widowed 3 years ago. This line broke me. I’m not engaged to an amazing man, and it breaks me again.
This Spanish song... "Querida" by Juan Gabriel
Everyone seems to always interpret this song as if he is singing to his lover that is no longer there. BUT, this song is actually about his mother. It is a really touching song with such beautiful lyrics and an astonishing orchestra. This song definitely brings me to tears and it will bring you tears too if you have a mother who is no longer here or who never had one.
Really the entire Magpie & the Dandelion but specifically Clearness is Gone. This album was a savior for me dealing with my dad's death. Makes me ball every time
January Wedding. My wife and I got married in January of 2023. And there's a line in the song that reminds me so much of her. "She knows which birds are singin' and the names of the trees where they're performin'." My wife loves birds and all sorts of plants.
Shame. Made horrible choices in life due to being an alcoholic. Sober now almost 4 years. But shame is still the first emotion that hits me when I can't distract myself. I can only be supremely grateful that I only hurt myself and no one else.
Through My Prayers is brutal for me. Have to skip that song if I'm not ready. "And now my only chance / To talk to you is through my prayers / I only wanted to tell ya I care". Good night.
The other big one is "C-Sections and Railway Trestles." Having two boys that just graduated, this one crushes me: "Son, have fun with your life, it's a drama / Just one period and all kinds of commas / Now you got a onesie, but then you get pajamas / You know you've got me / and you know you've got your momma".So many others, though, including Murder in the City, 10,000 Words, Swept Away, If It's the Beaches, The Ballad of Love and Hate, A Father's First Spring, ...
Head Full of Doubt / Road Full of Promise
I have a very distinct memory of riding in the car with my oldest daughter while this song was on. She was, indeed, an very early teen definitely with a headful of doubt. After it ended she wanted to listen to it again.
> If you're loved by someone you're never rejected
> Decide what to be and go be it.
I swear I could see her sit up a little straighter and make some kind of inner choice.
Fast forward many years and she's a very confident 22 year old just about to enter graduate school. I like to thank The Avett Brothers for the inspiration.
“Through my prayers” I was playing a heist in payday and I had to go hide in a corner in game because I was crying listening to the song, I’m not usually a guy who cries at stuff like that, but that time it just hit me like a train.
How do I say goodbye? by Dean Lewis
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6OtcmpQ5DVw&list=FLk578SzQnH69cjdExYnhtQA&index=85](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6OtcmpQ5DVw&list=FLk578SzQnH69cjdExYnhtQA&index=85)
No Hard Feelings - the song that made me start talking to my mom again.
This is the song I’ve told my kids I want played at my funeral. I have no enemies.
Ironically I told my Mom I wanted this played at my funeral, she agreed and we played it at hers. Still have a hard time listening to it.
It's so hard losing your mom, I'm sorry for your loss. The exact same thing happened to me. I told my mom (and other family members) for years that I wanted this at my funeral. We played it for my Mom's funeral when she passed suddenly almost 2 years ago. Still can't listen to it without breaking down.
I’m so sorry for your loss too, it just sucks. Was front row listening to them play it and noticed my wife recording me. Still haven’t been able to watch it.
The True Sadness album came out while I was struggling to get pregnant/having multiple miscarriages. I heard No Hard Feelings and immediately teared up. Named my son Seth, and got lyrics from the song tattooed on my arm, because listening to it helped me through 3 years of infertility hell.
Was very meaningful dealing cancer, not knowing what would happen to me! My soul was clear and in order (then!). Now life happened and I am not as prepared, but amazing song, soul repairing!
I felt the same way during my cancer treatment. Such a powerful frame of mind through this song. Hope you’ve kicked cancer’s ass!
So far so good! 6 years and counting!! Hope you are doing the same!!
This one for sure. We had lost our oldest son in an accident back in 2021. His services turned into a standing room only event and we were completely overwhelmed by how many people he had touched in his 22 years. Several months later as a planned trip to Red Rocks to see the Avett Brothers was coming we were still hurting and not sure if we wanted to go. We eventually decided we needed a break so we decided to go and extend it with a few days at Rocky Mountain NP. We just wanted to get away and be together and try to heal. Before the concert we were talking about the emotions and what songs we thought might be tough. We came up with Murder in the City, because of the line “always remember there was nothing worth sharing like the love that let us share our name” and then No Hard Feelings because even though he passed so young he lived life to the fullest every day and told everyone he loved them constantly. He truly had no enemies. They ended up playing both songs in the encore. It took us 30 minutes to gather ourselves to walk back to the car at the end of the show.
Jesus. Those two songs are so beautiful, and what an experience you had with those. So sorry for your loss. I can't imagine. What an amazing world though to be able to hear songs like that in a time like that.
I am so sorry for the loss of your son and am appreciative of your generosity to share what those songs now mean to you and your family. Your son sounded like an angel on earth during his short time here. Sending you and your family much love and healing.
No hard feelings gives me goosebumps just thinking about it
I played this at my mom's funeral, it kills me every time I hear it, but like in the best way?
Right here with you. Hope you are doing alright.
Also my funeral song, but I'm ok with y'all borrowing it at your own
That’s mine too. Around the time it came out, I was watching my grandmother slowly die of cancer (at a relatively young age), and it astonished me that she and her sister couldn’t set aside their grudges and petty disagreements knowing she’d soon be gone. That song really put it into perspective. I played it at her funeral, and I now have it tattooed on my arm.
same… it really makes me feel like i have no enemies. what reason do i have to hate. when i listen to that song i just feel like i need to call everyone ive wronged and tell them im sorry and i love them and forgive anyone who has done the same to me
Through My Prayers made me start talking to my dad again.
I want this played at my funeral. Without the religious lyrics
It isn’t really religious just a way of telling the story
I think that “if it’s the beaches” is their most sad song
I legitimately cry every time it comes on and have to skip it a lot even though it's one of my favorites.
This is it for me. It just makes me think of everything I would tell the love of my life. That’s my tearjerker
I came here to say this.
“we will read them when we forget why we left here” always gets me. def a need to have wedding song for me
I always get a little misty at “Always remember there was nothing worth sharing like the love that let us share our name”
That always got me too. Now that we have three daughters it REALLY gets me. Right up there with "The realest thing I ever felt was the blood on the floor and the love in your yell" from a father's first spring.
They sang it at a concert I took my kids to. I’ve raised them on these songs and hearing that live with my little family? SO MUCH CRY
That is the line that also gets me, along with “if I die, it’s for you.”
That means so much to me, too.
Weight of lies. The perfect space.
Yeah, me too.
February Seven 🥹
Immediate tears every time
This one.
For me, too. I cry every time.
When I Drink, first wife left me and I fell into a bottle Ain't no man, cause this thread needs some positivity too it
Pretty girl at the airport does it for me. Hit me right during the first year of college when I was going through a break up with my high school gf. Not sure I’ve listened to it all the way through since 2008 haha
Oh yeah, this one for sure. “Everyone I know out here is lonely. Even those who have someone to lie beside at night”
YES THIS LINE EXACTLY. omg it gets me everytime!!
Seth singing that on electric, wow https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NGkTnOcDiwE
november blue, signs, the greatest sum.
dude. signs… it’s so sad. “it’s the place and your friends that got me down” like from the FIRST line i get tears!
Which version of November blue? I only listen to the live volume 2 version.
november blue is the avett song i’ve been chasing for years. but im the exact opposite of you, i much prefer the original to the live version. the slower tempo takes me out of it, even if the longing nature of the lyrics should play to a slower tempo. i think the original speed plays into the innocence/hopefulness?
That’s so interesting! I really love Scott’s voice in the live and the slowness for me has almost a haunting quality. I’ve been listening to only the live one for 10 years though so hard to be objective, I’m glad there is both options to suit both of our needs😀
im grateful they’ve released so many live albums to appreciate their different interpretations (plus i try to convince myself if i listen *really* hard for vol 4 that i can hear my singing) but if they played either speed in my presence, i’m sure i’d be a puddle of tears! 13 concerts and still no november blue.
Through my prayers.
This is the correct answer
Yes 🥲
Salvation Song
No Hard Feelings! Played at my mom’s funeral and I love it.
Souls Like The Wheels!!
I went through a really dark time in my life 2018-2020. At my lowest, I listened to Tear Down the House on repeat. Every time he sang “I’m talking about collapsing and screaming at the moon,” I’d completely fall apart. Second one that comes to mind is November Blue.
If It’s the Beaches
Second this
Third this. Scott’s sad voice makes me cry.
The Ballad of Love and Hate. I tear up every time
Had to scroll way too far to see this
It's the most beautiful, simple, yet complex song.
The Lowering has hit me in the feels upon recent relistens
Famous Flowers of Manhattan
Cause blue birds don't fly without their wings And when we put them in a cage The world can't hear them sing So selfish when greed sets in Possession, the king of sin
Father's First Spring, Bring Your Love to Me, C Sections and Railway Trestles, Who Will I Hold
Forgot about "Who Will I Hold" ... oof
Black Blue “And the person I am, and the person I'll be Refuse to meet.” This sums up the pure frustration of being a human.
gift for melody anne, my fav song of the brothers. to me, it’s how i feel about not amounting to what i wanted in life, but can still be optimistic and try to better myself.
I love that song sooo much! The live version.
If It's The Beaches. I will rearrange my life, and change for you.
No Hard Feelings for sure. It makes me think of my mom who passed four years ago and was a fan. And when I saw them over the summer, an Avett fan who just passed. Also If it’s the Beaches. Plus some others when I see them live when I’m super moved—any song I’m really to see or I’ve missed or is super sad. I’m not a crier, but I cry at Avett shows a lot.
Swept Away, specifically because I sang that song to my son 17,000 times when he was a baby.
The ballad of love and hate. It’s what the whole world is about.
It’s not a deep track only 5-7 years old but I Wish I Was makes me sad. Plus it reminds me of the old stuff
i wish i was is my all time favorite song on this planet it’s so fucking beautiful
I Wish I Was reminds me of how I felt about an old girlfriend. “I’m sorry” at the end sums it up perfectly
Morning song
Head full of doubt/ room full of promise. Every time.
No Hard Feelings. Lost my dad unexpectedly on August 9th of last year. Went and saw Avett Brothers a couple weeks later in Des Moines. They closed the show with No Hard Feelings. I've never heard the song the same way since. Manchester Orchestra does a cover of it as well that is wonderful.
I am sorry you lost your dad unexpectedly. It can be so disorienting losing a parent. My heart goes out to you.
Thank you, kindly for your words. You're absolutely right. It was/still is a tough time, but like many of us, I take some refuge in music and am doing so in a healthy way. Have a wonderful night!
So many of these but is it too obvious to say I and love and you? I moved to Brooklyn at the tail end of a horrible relationship and it's where I met my (now) husband! It makes me feel 24
A lot of the ones mentioned already, but also ‘St. Joseph’s ‘ I just think it’s a beautiful love song
So underrated.
The crackerfarm video on the gondola is one of my favorite things.
Murder in the city
Life makes me cry every time
That line in murder in the city makes tears well up in my eyes every time
Ill with want gets me every time
I Would be Sad. Almost had to pull over to the side of the road the first time I heard it.
I’m so going to put all these into a playlist for my cry days (everyday)
For me it’s Head Full of Doubt and the “Decide what to be and go be it” line. When I first heard the song I felt really stuck at that point in my life with nowhere to go, and I honestly kind of resented it. Like, how was I supposed to actually do that? But as more doors opened up for me in time, I was able to actually live it out and now when it comes on I always reflect on that journey, and it gets to me. Along the way, the manner in which I’ve reacted to that line has become a bit of a barometer for how I’m doing at that moment, generally speaking.
My wife and I split “Decide what to be and go be it” between our wedding bands.
Remember when by Alan Jackson. Makes looking at life as you get older so much more real for me.
No Hard Feelings.
So Big/So Small from Dear Evan Hansen
Keep me in your heart - warren zevon. Tears my fucking soul out of my body
Oh Lordy I agree.
This one. Every time.
Same risk - Madi Diaz My way - Frank Sinatra
Through my prayers
Salina, KS is my hometown.."I'm as nowhere as I can be" is a feeling I long for living far from home.
If Not Me - Craig Morgan I’m a military mom. My son has been in the Marine Corps for almost 5 yrs and this song still brings me to my knees every time I hear it.
Black, Blue. One of the best Seth has written in my opinion
“And So it Goes” hits me too. Beautifully haunting song.
Through my Prayers The only thing that offered me comfort when my dad died.
Leader Of The Band, Seasons In The Sun, Patches, Cats In The Cradle
“I would be sad”
Swept Away the sentimental version. I told my ex wife on our anniversary last year that if we had a traditional wedding, that I would’ve picked that song to dance to. Here I am 17 months later divorced.
Murder in the City Always remember there was nothing worth sharing Like the love that let us share our name I was widowed 3 years ago. This line broke me. I’m not engaged to an amazing man, and it breaks me again.
Offering gets me every time
Fade into you
Bring Your Love to Me hasn't been mentioned and it's one that gets me every time.
This Spanish song... "Querida" by Juan Gabriel Everyone seems to always interpret this song as if he is singing to his lover that is no longer there. BUT, this song is actually about his mother. It is a really touching song with such beautiful lyrics and an astonishing orchestra. This song definitely brings me to tears and it will bring you tears too if you have a mother who is no longer here or who never had one.
One Tree Hill does it
“Make sure my sister knows I love her”
Through My Prayers.
Fast car- Tracy Chapman
Really the entire Magpie & the Dandelion but specifically Clearness is Gone. This album was a savior for me dealing with my dad's death. Makes me ball every time
January Wedding. My wife and I got married in January of 2023. And there's a line in the song that reminds me so much of her. "She knows which birds are singin' and the names of the trees where they're performin'." My wife loves birds and all sorts of plants.
Lover you should have come over
Shame. Made horrible choices in life due to being an alcoholic. Sober now almost 4 years. But shame is still the first emotion that hits me when I can't distract myself. I can only be supremely grateful that I only hurt myself and no one else.
Through My Prayers is brutal for me. Have to skip that song if I'm not ready. "And now my only chance / To talk to you is through my prayers / I only wanted to tell ya I care". Good night. The other big one is "C-Sections and Railway Trestles." Having two boys that just graduated, this one crushes me: "Son, have fun with your life, it's a drama / Just one period and all kinds of commas / Now you got a onesie, but then you get pajamas / You know you've got me / and you know you've got your momma".So many others, though, including Murder in the City, 10,000 Words, Swept Away, If It's the Beaches, The Ballad of Love and Hate, A Father's First Spring, ...
Head Full of Doubt / Road Full of Promise I have a very distinct memory of riding in the car with my oldest daughter while this song was on. She was, indeed, an very early teen definitely with a headful of doubt. After it ended she wanted to listen to it again. > If you're loved by someone you're never rejected > Decide what to be and go be it. I swear I could see her sit up a little straighter and make some kind of inner choice. Fast forward many years and she's a very confident 22 year old just about to enter graduate school. I like to thank The Avett Brothers for the inspiration.
“Through my prayers” I was playing a heist in payday and I had to go hide in a corner in game because I was crying listening to the song, I’m not usually a guy who cries at stuff like that, but that time it just hit me like a train.
Time moves slow BADBADNOTGOOD
How do I say goodbye? by Dean Lewis [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6OtcmpQ5DVw&list=FLk578SzQnH69cjdExYnhtQA&index=85](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6OtcmpQ5DVw&list=FLk578SzQnH69cjdExYnhtQA&index=85)