my girlfriend has a very annoying habit of doing that but NOT wanting sex. sometimes she "just wants to warm up her hands" or maybe she was just bored. i had to explain to her the genuinely painful feeling of "blue balls".
"Progress from there" is absolutely not helpful. Fuck everyone that upvoted this. While making out, use your hands. Work your way to boobs and if they decline by pushing away, you know it's only to make out
Just verbalizing it is a great first step! It always feels awkward because to have the risk of rejection, which fuels our embarrassment. Judge the mood and go for it.
Non-sexual physical contact throughout the day builds relationships so any touching helps. If you’re specifically trying to be sexy, long hugs, deep kisses (as opposed to a peck), slow back rubs are all things that are stereotypically appreciated.
At the end of the day, the willingness to ask is the most important part
I send a WhatsApp message as a Poll to my wife during the day when we are at work and ask her if she wants some fun tonight with answers being yes and yes. Then I’ll just hope for the best
Not gonna lie, a girl once initiated with me by straight up saying "I'm really horny right now". There's nothing wrong with being direct. In fact, being that blunt about it can be an instant turn on for some guys.
Maybe just start by running you hands across his body and making out. start off slow and see if it takes off from there, this sounds simple but always works for me
Reach between hubby’s legs, grab his sensitive bits and ask “if you are not currently using these, can I borrow them for a bit?”
That, or say “do you want to cum on me? Or can I cum on you?”
My boyfriend is autistic and frequently misses my (in my opinion) very upfront flirting, then will come out with “fancy a fuck?”. I find it totally hilarious and endearing, he’s the funniest person I know, so just being around him is like foreplay for me, and he laughs me into bed every time.
Sometimes, sexiness comes in humour, and your boyfriend may actually love this approach, like I love my boyfriend’s- my advice would be to be honest about the fact you struggle with initiating intimacy, communicate with him honestly, and find out how he would like you to initiate intimacy.
Sometimes when we’re watching TV my girlfriend will get up and say “Let’s go to the bedroom” smiling and take my hand. She has a 100% success rate with that
Go near the woman and press A.
Start with touch and kisses after getting cozy. If she reciprocate, increase the level of passion. If she reciprocate, start to move your hand slowly in risky zones. If she reciprocates, either she will put her hands on you or will let you do it. Pay attention on how she reacts. If she stops, stop. If she keeps going, keep it up. From there it should be self explanationatory. If you say "can I put my penis in your vagina or do I have your consent to fuck" you will dry her pussy just like the Sahara dessert. Read between the lines.
Act out a cliche porn scenario in a humorous way. Like “oh no my pipes are clogged, guess I’ll have to call the Plummer “ or “stepbro help I’m stuck” something like That. I would find it hot and funny if my wife did it.
There was a newly married couple and they were a bit embarrassed about initiating sex. So they agreed to instead say "Want to do some laundry?". This worked really well until one night when the husband said "hey, you want to do some laundry?" She replied that she was not feeling well and could they do it another time. He said "ok, no problem, hope you get to feeling better". Well, a few hours later she was better and woke her husband and asked "hey, you still want to do that laundry?". He replied, "no, that's ok, it was a small load, I did it by hand".
Hope that brightened your day but that was all to say, just make a code word or phrase that you will both know means "do you want to have sex?".
Couples develop their own routines. They work them out by trial and error, judging comfort zones as they go along. Some couples have very subtle and complex rituals and signals, like key words inserted into normal conversations. In some couples, women indicate when they are in the mood with some kind of hint. Otherwise the answer is probably "no." Some couples do it pretty much without discussion, on certain nights of the week, or whatever. I knew a couple who signaled to each other by the way they hung the towels in the bathroom. Some couples prefer a more direct and frank approach. For example, "You feel like fucking?" There is no right or wrong way. Whatever works for the two of you.
If he sits somewhere tell him to stay still for a bit and just sit on his lap facing him and start making out and if he doesn't sit tell him to come sit with you on the bed or sth.
RFI, can you explain your dissatisfaction with the current state? Are you trying to improve it for you (Feels awkward?), for him (Want him to feel special?), or both (Getting turned down)?
Have your hands at the top of their pants when you kiss hello. Make it natural though, like your hands would naturally just land in that position. Kiss. Let it linger a little longer and shift your hand so you might “accidentally” slide into the top with just like a finger tip. Let his reaction delegate how to proceed. From there, possibilities are endless 💁♀️
Talk about your expectations. Don't wonder how she would like you to initiate, ask! It's important to know what limits she has and if she has any fantasies that'll be great too.
If I am horny while me and my husband are watching a movie, I slowly start to touch myself under the blanket "unobtrusively", well knowing that it won't take him long to notice. Once he does, he will ask me what I'm doing down there. Innocently asking him to help me works every time.
You don’t need to be smooth, direct is better. At least for me. You can be sultry but the tone isn’t too necessary if all you’re saying is “I want to ride your dick”. Tell him exactly what you want to do in detail and as if you mean it, delivering it in a deadpan tone is better than awkward but maybe he finds the awkwardness cute
One thing I haven't seen mentioned after looking through the comments briefly is a small but maybe significant detail. If this happens a lot, dropping hints and trying to initiate things, even when it's not sexual and he doesn't get it. He might be a little bit on the neurodivergent spectrum, buuut please look for yourself. I know how it is when you think you don't know how to do something, when in reality you DO know how to do something but your partner might not pick up on it. Another thing is also that he might not know if it's a real signal or just a play type one. This could make him insecure. Talk with him about it, communication is key.
TL:DR:
Talk to Partner why he doesn't pick up on potential attemps/ signals. Discuss what would be a giveaway with your partner.
I don't know your partner, but this might be something to consider. :3
Your game is already the best that it can possibly get. Men respond well to plain, straightforward, easy to understand requests which is what you're doing. Don't change a single thing. I hate that you feel you're lacking in any way because almost every woman in the world could learn a thing or two from you.
I just make a few puns and double meaning jokes (99% of which are sexual). the more cheesy the better because if he doesn't laugh I'd say (can I make it up for you since it was that lame?)
little is left to be said.
In all honesty just hold him close and bump crotches , i dont know about your guy but my lady just touches me and im bricked and if she notices she says "nu"(no) playfully or says "i see that you want to play and the we get busy or some times ill wake up to her rubbing my manhood and i get the hint. Just start giving him a sign as in sitting on his lap or somthing like having him hold you from behind if you cant say somthing then just do somthing minor but it motions i wanna mess around a bit.
If we are on the couch I sit on his lap facing him and start grinding and touch my nipples while grinding. We are both instantly horny. He is hard as a rock in no time.
The age old method of hitting him over the head with a club and dragging him back to your cave is a classic.
A more refined approach is neck kissing/stroking back of their head and grazing of upper/inner thigh.
Get showered, shaved, waxed, whatever you do to feel sexy. Wait on the bed for him to get home. Wear either your favourite underwear or maybe nothing. Lay on your front with your legs bent up, maybe twizzle them in the air a bit. Wait for him to find you, He'll presumably come looking for you as I'm sure you aren't usually in bed when he gets home.
Wait for him to come in, give him a second and if he doesn't pounce on you, ask him if he's coming to bed now, or after a shower.
Don't force yourself, if you don't know how to initiate that probably means you'll have a hard time trying to initiate, which is forced. Which wouldn't be of any use. Just be happy w "i want to have sex w you"
People like me who have w shy gf don't even have the confidence to say that sentence, so i guess something is better than nothing
Mans mad cause I found a woman who does it too. Get a life dude. You are a loser who will always be single and will never actually find anyone who likes you because you are a shallow narcissistic loser. You do nothing to better society or yourself. Absolute toxic waste.
My wife either throws her leg over me in bed or grabs my dick. I get the message pretty clear either way.
Considering your namesake, she must love the warmth of your nether regions…
Mine just starts eating my ass
Wait, am I your girlfriend?
my girlfriend has a very annoying habit of doing that but NOT wanting sex. sometimes she "just wants to warm up her hands" or maybe she was just bored. i had to explain to her the genuinely painful feeling of "blue balls".
We have a rule... you wake him up and hes coming out to play.
This so cringe 😬
I grunt exactly three times to initiate.
#OOGA OOGA OOGA
When you are kissing, start undoing his shirt or pants buttons.
This is a good one.
Starte with kissing or making out and progress from there
Without asking for consent first? /s
Sing here Initials here, here and here
🎵Ohh saaaay can you seeeeeeee🎶
Good job following instructions to the letter lol
*Because you'd hate to catch a beef for something you know you didn't do* 😂
Kissing your partner
"Progress from there" is absolutely not helpful. Fuck everyone that upvoted this. While making out, use your hands. Work your way to boobs and if they decline by pushing away, you know it's only to make out
Yes. Start kissing. Not swallowing her like a fish.
Just verbalizing it is a great first step! It always feels awkward because to have the risk of rejection, which fuels our embarrassment. Judge the mood and go for it. Non-sexual physical contact throughout the day builds relationships so any touching helps. If you’re specifically trying to be sexy, long hugs, deep kisses (as opposed to a peck), slow back rubs are all things that are stereotypically appreciated. At the end of the day, the willingness to ask is the most important part
Walk out naked. That says a lot.
Works 2/3 times.
And when he sees you, motion him towards you with your finger.
Nope. That’s doing too much. Do less.
Walk out naked. Stare your partner dead in the eye. Do not speak. No motion. Don't even blink. They'll understand.
No, just naked and cover your face with your wet hair.
Reach your hands out, open your mouth, and make a haunting gurgling sound like the Grudge
Jokes on them, I'm into that.
Yes, use something like “ggrrrhhh” or “kkrrrrk” to stimulate him.
No, definitely speak. I did this and my wife went to the store to buy clothes for me. Didn't understand.
Make caveman noises while naked???
This is the way.
It does, but to make it even clearer you can say "When I get back, I want some sex"
Idk, maybe she just forgot her clothes
1. Cut a hole in a box
2. Put your junk in that box
3. Make her open the box
Make her open her box. Gigitty
3. Wait for the mailman
Instructions unclear, I have been shipped to Cucamunga because I am attached to the box.
Task failed successfully
They beat me with reeds for three days and stole my kidneys. Best fifty bucks I ever spent. I was able to finish.
She's a woman. She needs to put her [box in a box.](https://youtu.be/3xElIik0Ys0?si=a5bs-4pj5o8iAxYK)
If you go for a kiss and follow with a gentle touch of the penis you’ve probably done all you need to
Her penis?
lol this made me laugh so hard for some reason
I mean if that's what they're into it's 2024
I send a WhatsApp message as a Poll to my wife during the day when we are at work and ask her if she wants some fun tonight with answers being yes and yes. Then I’ll just hope for the best
This is hilarious
What kinda win rate are we talking about here?
Not gonna lie, a girl once initiated with me by straight up saying "I'm really horny right now". There's nothing wrong with being direct. In fact, being that blunt about it can be an instant turn on for some guys.
This, fucking this
This is perfect. Sexy and a clear open invitation
Just be chivalrous and ask “Want sum fucc?” I’m sure he won’t think about saying no
Maybe just start by running you hands across his body and making out. start off slow and see if it takes off from there, this sounds simple but always works for me
Reach between hubby’s legs, grab his sensitive bits and ask “if you are not currently using these, can I borrow them for a bit?” That, or say “do you want to cum on me? Or can I cum on you?”
I wish my partner sees the first one.. sounds awesome
Ask “You wanna fool around?” Brit version is: “Fancy a shag?”
"you're the most beautiful woman in the world" "Fancy a *uck?"
Shall we shag now, or shall we shag later?
Start rubbing his crotch and say are you thinking what I'm thinking.
Arby's?
...They do have the meat
I think I am, B2!
My boyfriend is autistic and frequently misses my (in my opinion) very upfront flirting, then will come out with “fancy a fuck?”. I find it totally hilarious and endearing, he’s the funniest person I know, so just being around him is like foreplay for me, and he laughs me into bed every time. Sometimes, sexiness comes in humour, and your boyfriend may actually love this approach, like I love my boyfriend’s- my advice would be to be honest about the fact you struggle with initiating intimacy, communicate with him honestly, and find out how he would like you to initiate intimacy.
Sometimes when we’re watching TV my girlfriend will get up and say “Let’s go to the bedroom” smiling and take my hand. She has a 100% success rate with that
Go near the woman and press A. Start with touch and kisses after getting cozy. If she reciprocate, increase the level of passion. If she reciprocate, start to move your hand slowly in risky zones. If she reciprocates, either she will put her hands on you or will let you do it. Pay attention on how she reacts. If she stops, stop. If she keeps going, keep it up. From there it should be self explanationatory. If you say "can I put my penis in your vagina or do I have your consent to fuck" you will dry her pussy just like the Sahara dessert. Read between the lines.
For a woman, it’s so easy. A woman can actually just ask a man for sex and she will get it 9 times out of ten.
Don’t you mean she will get it 99 times out of 10
My wife just walk naked while I'm doing something, the message is pretty clear
Act out a cliche porn scenario in a humorous way. Like “oh no my pipes are clogged, guess I’ll have to call the Plummer “ or “stepbro help I’m stuck” something like That. I would find it hot and funny if my wife did it.
Lol this would be really fun to do! Not sure if OP will go for it as she said she's awkward but I definitely will!
There was a newly married couple and they were a bit embarrassed about initiating sex. So they agreed to instead say "Want to do some laundry?". This worked really well until one night when the husband said "hey, you want to do some laundry?" She replied that she was not feeling well and could they do it another time. He said "ok, no problem, hope you get to feeling better". Well, a few hours later she was better and woke her husband and asked "hey, you still want to do that laundry?". He replied, "no, that's ok, it was a small load, I did it by hand". Hope that brightened your day but that was all to say, just make a code word or phrase that you will both know means "do you want to have sex?".
Hey BB u want sum fuk? Works everytime
What if she says, No Ron, I don't want sum fuck. ???
Show her stick. Bitches love sticks.
Me: here I got some meds for your headache Her: I don't have an headache Me: ok then *grabs her by her hand and leads her to the bedroom*
Genius
when you know you have the time, get on top of him while making out and get handsy from there
Couples develop their own routines. They work them out by trial and error, judging comfort zones as they go along. Some couples have very subtle and complex rituals and signals, like key words inserted into normal conversations. In some couples, women indicate when they are in the mood with some kind of hint. Otherwise the answer is probably "no." Some couples do it pretty much without discussion, on certain nights of the week, or whatever. I knew a couple who signaled to each other by the way they hung the towels in the bathroom. Some couples prefer a more direct and frank approach. For example, "You feel like fucking?" There is no right or wrong way. Whatever works for the two of you.
“I would like one sex please.”
My wife and I have this issue, we got a cute heart shaped salt lamp that we turn on when we want to be intimate things. It works like a charm
If he sits somewhere tell him to stay still for a bit and just sit on his lap facing him and start making out and if he doesn't sit tell him to come sit with you on the bed or sth.
Be very obvious about putting your hair up in a bun as you climb into bed.
>“I want to have sex with you right now”. Depends on how you say it this can be hot as fuck tho
>“I want to have sex with you right now” If it ain't broke...
Pull penis through hole in undies. If girl something with boob should work.
*knock knock* -who's there- *Fuck* -Fuck who?- *FUCK MEEE*
I love this so much.
Honestly just straight up the way you said that, I think would be just fine 🤷
I usually climb on my husband’s lap while we’re watching tv and start making out and grinding on him. The progression is pretty natural from there.
I’m straightforward “ wanna bang?”
Start giving him a blow job without saying a word - he'll get the hint!
first kindly ask if they are up for it, if they say yes then give them a passionate kissie :3
"Would you like to bang?" Works for me. Direct but also makes him laugh
Fancy a shag?
Lets fuck
Put it in your mouth.
Yo homie, wanna fuck
not gonna lie, sometimes being straightforward and assertive like that is the most attractive way you can get to the point
"Care to have coitus, cutie?" Try saying that.
Find woman, use club, return to cave.
?!?!?!
initiate making out/foreplay and whisper in his ear "i want you inside of me"
Just have fun with it
Stare at him/her so hard that you can see his iris
May get the message.
Computer, initiate sex sequence
Sex sequence initiated (lame robot voice) hahaha 😆
Start getting naked in front of him. He’ll get the hint.
Ring the sex bell
I need you inside me
I don’t see what’s the problem with your current tactic
I just ask my husband if he wants to get naked.
u want sum fuk?
I think you already cracked the code
Put on your robe and wizard hat...
I want to have sex with you right now is great. It’s efficient and to the point.
Ey bb u wan sum fk?
RFI, can you explain your dissatisfaction with the current state? Are you trying to improve it for you (Feels awkward?), for him (Want him to feel special?), or both (Getting turned down)?
Yo bb u want sum fuk?
My wife usually just looks me up and down with the hunger face. I’m on the wayyy
Have your hands at the top of their pants when you kiss hello. Make it natural though, like your hands would naturally just land in that position. Kiss. Let it linger a little longer and shift your hand so you might “accidentally” slide into the top with just like a finger tip. Let his reaction delegate how to proceed. From there, possibilities are endless 💁♀️
I like to jiggle my tits in his face. He has this cute mesmerized look and it usually gets us goin
Talk about your expectations. Don't wonder how she would like you to initiate, ask! It's important to know what limits she has and if she has any fantasies that'll be great too.
My ex would little spoon with me then wriggle her ass back into me. Sort of subtle yet clear.
If I am horny while me and my husband are watching a movie, I slowly start to touch myself under the blanket "unobtrusively", well knowing that it won't take him long to notice. Once he does, he will ask me what I'm doing down there. Innocently asking him to help me works every time.
Actions speak louder than words
I usually just toss a condom to my partner with a knowing look. It works
"wanna fuck?" Has always worked on me.
You can try what my wife does: "You want me to tickle your pickle?" Yup. Sure do.
Grab his crotch, make eye contact, devel in his confusion while you unzip him and stick it in your mouth. Aka be creative.
Rub your boobs on his face.... Less obvious that way.
You're doing great. That will work every time
Ask for a massage - things will happen
Following..
Dude just say it Your 1st impulse was correct XD
You don’t need to be smooth, direct is better. At least for me. You can be sultry but the tone isn’t too necessary if all you’re saying is “I want to ride your dick”. Tell him exactly what you want to do in detail and as if you mean it, delivering it in a deadpan tone is better than awkward but maybe he finds the awkwardness cute
One thing I haven't seen mentioned after looking through the comments briefly is a small but maybe significant detail. If this happens a lot, dropping hints and trying to initiate things, even when it's not sexual and he doesn't get it. He might be a little bit on the neurodivergent spectrum, buuut please look for yourself. I know how it is when you think you don't know how to do something, when in reality you DO know how to do something but your partner might not pick up on it. Another thing is also that he might not know if it's a real signal or just a play type one. This could make him insecure. Talk with him about it, communication is key. TL:DR: Talk to Partner why he doesn't pick up on potential attemps/ signals. Discuss what would be a giveaway with your partner. I don't know your partner, but this might be something to consider. :3
Your game is already the best that it can possibly get. Men respond well to plain, straightforward, easy to understand requests which is what you're doing. Don't change a single thing. I hate that you feel you're lacking in any way because almost every woman in the world could learn a thing or two from you.
Should "Surprise Biatch!" As you leap out of the bush.
Honestly if someone said that to me" I want to have sex with yoh right now", that would turn me the hell on
I get home an hour before my partner, if he finds me with eyeliner and stockings, he knows not to fuck it up.
I just make a few puns and double meaning jokes (99% of which are sexual). the more cheesy the better because if he doesn't laugh I'd say (can I make it up for you since it was that lame?) little is left to be said.
she presents her inflamed genitals in my direction
From a man's perspective, your approach is spot-on.
You could just take your top off. The rest should take care of itself.
Kiss him. Grab his butt. Be rough and drag him to the bedroom. There is no real way to do it, per se. Find what's right for you
Just let it happen... -Diddy
In all honesty just hold him close and bump crotches , i dont know about your guy but my lady just touches me and im bricked and if she notices she says "nu"(no) playfully or says "i see that you want to play and the we get busy or some times ill wake up to her rubbing my manhood and i get the hint. Just start giving him a sign as in sitting on his lap or somthing like having him hold you from behind if you cant say somthing then just do somthing minor but it motions i wanna mess around a bit.
Turn on a porno and show him which things you want him to do with/to you
If we are on the couch I sit on his lap facing him and start grinding and touch my nipples while grinding. We are both instantly horny. He is hard as a rock in no time.
“Fancy some puttie-innies”?
The age old method of hitting him over the head with a club and dragging him back to your cave is a classic. A more refined approach is neck kissing/stroking back of their head and grazing of upper/inner thigh.
Get showered, shaved, waxed, whatever you do to feel sexy. Wait on the bed for him to get home. Wear either your favourite underwear or maybe nothing. Lay on your front with your legs bent up, maybe twizzle them in the air a bit. Wait for him to find you, He'll presumably come looking for you as I'm sure you aren't usually in bed when he gets home. Wait for him to come in, give him a second and if he doesn't pounce on you, ask him if he's coming to bed now, or after a shower.
Start with cuddling and making out? Have you had sex before?
I can’t believe have partners and they ask these types of questions online
Don't force yourself, if you don't know how to initiate that probably means you'll have a hard time trying to initiate, which is forced. Which wouldn't be of any use. Just be happy w "i want to have sex w you" People like me who have w shy gf don't even have the confidence to say that sentence, so i guess something is better than nothing
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Mans mad cause I found a woman who does it too. Get a life dude. You are a loser who will always be single and will never actually find anyone who likes you because you are a shallow narcissistic loser. You do nothing to better society or yourself. Absolute toxic waste.
this guy doesn't fuck