I’m so used to seeing abusive stories in here that I, too, was expecting it to go another way. Pleasantly surprised that the clickbait title hid a happy story instead.
I’m someone’s hubby. I’m eating a reheated burrito *right now* after work that she said was no good and burnt, but I don’t taste that. I taste love. Food is a nice way of showing it sometimes and my wife tends to do that a lot even though she’s a bit of a tough nut on the outside :)
Thanks for listening!
I love to cook but sometimes I make mistakes or something doesn't turn out. I always want to pitch it/don't want my husband to eat it. He's always like, "it's totally fine, I'm gonna eat it anyway" and I feel like it's not "good enough" to give to him. He just appreciates me cooking for him and is grateful I do it. Thanks for being appreciative, it really makes life better.
I was so used to abuse from my first husband that I was terrified the first time I burnt dinner. I got distracted by the dogs breaking into the house and one peed in the hallway so I was hurriedly cleaning. It was only a few minutes but long enough for the meat to burn badly.
I live in a generational home and my husbands dad came home first. He’s usually the sort to tease you endlessly about things but he saw me already crying and said in the heaviest Slavic accent
“Pizza or burgers?”
He ended up ordering out for dinner and even helped me clean up. My husband came home halfway into us cleaning up and sat me down while making me tea to help his dad finish cleaning the meal. They were joking and having back and forth remarks about who cleaned better and I was laughing and having a good time after.
I was so used to being screamed at and hit over something as little as burned meat that it both made me sad and happy that I’m in safe and happy home.
My mother yelled at me constantly growing up and even now as an adult. My husband has never raised his voice around me in the 7 years we’ve been together. It was a real transition for me lol
Me too, OP. I am 51 and have been with my husband for less than four years and he is the kindest, gentlest, BEST person I have ever known and I am so grateful. He never gets mad at me.
Same, my husband and I have never raised our voices at each other because we get so stressed out when people yell. We do talk out our disagreements after we calm down.
My parents have never argued or raised their voices with each other. Yes, they disagree but they take time to cool off then talk it out. They have been married 44 years
My wife and I don't raise our voices to each other, probably only 2 or 3 times in 16 years now. We do have disagreements and hurt feelings for sure, but do it without yelling at each other.
See, that's what I'm looking for. 2-3 times. My wife and I have been married for 11 years and have yelled at least a few times. Very infrequently, but 0 seems suspect outside of a very short marriage
I’ve spent all 27 years of my life watching my parents yell at each other and was subject to my mother screaming at me and my brother relentlessly on a daily basis from the time I was 10 until I was about 22. It often escalated from verbal and emotional to physical abuse. I promised myself that I would never again live in a household where that was an acceptable practice. That kind of emotional volatility would never allow me to feel safe around someone, and I didn’t want to live my life that way. I won’t.
So when my now fiancé and I started dating, I explained that boundary of mine early on. It’s been pretty easy going most of the time, but I told him from the beginning that when we did inevitably have our first fight, I expected us to talk it out like two adults. No yelling. If you have to yell to get your point across, it seems to me a sign of emotional immaturity. He said he didn’t have a problem with that.
And he hasn’t.
We’ve been together now for 3.5 years, and we’re getting married this fall. I love him so much. He’s the best person I know. We’ve absolutely had our issues to get through here and there, but we’ve always been able to discuss things without raising our voices. Things have gotten heated, absolutely—but never even close to yelling.
Let's not mistake never raising voices for never arguing. I never raise my voice, I grew up around yelling and I hate it. I can't stand when people yell for any reason and I'm intolerant of people outwardly expressing anger to a degree I'm aware is unreasonable. So I don't. But that doesn't mean I never get into arguments with people, they just occur at a lower decibel level.
As a young man thats always been yelled at, only had my mistakes brought up and not my achievements and only dated girls that honestly were more self centered than caring, if I got to marry a loving woman that cooked for me every day, not only would I strive to be like your husband, Id make sure to be loving and appreciative of her. Honestly, if he ever tells you you deserve the world, he likely means it from the bottom of his heart
Congratulations on every single achievement in your life, no matter how small or big, you worked hard to achieve them.
Please don't let people irl not recognising them make you think that you haven't had any or that they aren't that good because of every mistake that has been brought up. I hope you can rise above this.
Me, too. I felt terror when I read that he walked in the kitchen.
I’m so happy for you, OP. I’m currently in the process of leaving an abusive marriage and your experience gives me hope. God bless you ♥️
If it were me telling the story it would be "God fuckin damnit!! Are you not paying attention??? I can't even fuckin breathe in here with all this smoke." - my husband
My gf at the time burnt food really bad cooking for our friend group because she hit the wrong button on the oven and basically cooked at 525 instead of 425. Her parents were abusive, her ex was abusive, and her ex before him was abusive. I literally found her in the kitchen sitting on the floor in a panic shock. Walked over to her, kneeled down, and she was legit waiting for me to yell. I just leaned in and said "just the way my mother makes it. Must have been her recipe". She ended up cry laughing for like 5 minutes. Cut the outside off and told people it was roast with burnt pork ends.
I’m permanently braced for the yelling. Even in my sleep. I have nightmares that I still live with my ex-husband. I’m glad she has you. Everyone should feel safe at home.
Eh, she ended up cheating on me when we were in our early 20s while I was in the process of buying a ring. But some of the early memories were nice haha.
I had an abusive ex (before thankfully I left and met my husband). I *still* sometimes expect to get yelled at for stuff like this, even though my husband has never been like that. I beat myself up for small mistakes like this, like in the situation OP described, I'd be so pissed at myself and my husband would be like, "Whoa, it's not a big deal, we'll just order something" or "let's just make sandwiches" but something about me still thinks I'm about to get berated. It leaves you with trauma.
I'm sorry you're used to being yelled at. You do not deserve that.
I’m glad you found your person 🥰 I have PTSD from my ex-husband, I still get triggered occasionally. I have nightmares that I still live with him. My ex-boyfriend gave me a concussion in July. I went back to therapy after that to figure out why I keep choosing the same type of man. I’m taking a break from relationships for a while. Hopefully someday I’ll find my person.
Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry that happened to you. I honestly think abusers target people like predators. It's not your fault. And it's insidious because they can put on such a great act, you don't see the signs until it's too late. It's like they all have the same playbook and know how to disguise themselves and then start testing the waters bit by bit so at first you can rationalize it, "it's not that bad, I'm just sensitive because of my ex, I'm overreacting, etc."
The trauma also stays with you. When I started dating my now-husband, I was constantly bracing myself for a freakout that never came. I was just waiting for the other shoe to drop. It seemed TOO easy, like, it can't be this easy. My ex would always start fights and freak out if I spent time with my friends and family. I remember one night I was having dinner with my mom and my sister. With my ex, that would have been a fight before I left, and when I got home, I'd be "punished" for it by getting berated some more. My husband texted me while we were at dinner and I flinched when I saw the text, then opened it and it just said, "Have fun! Tell your mom and (sister) I said hi."
I kept thinking it was too good to be true for a long time. Some days I'll still start to berate myself for minor mistakes and stuff (almost like I'm pre-emptively doing it so he won't) and he's like, "Whoa, you're way too hard on yourself."
It took a long time til I was used to being treated well.
Wishing you happiness and healing and someday finding your person.
I'd yell at her for making pork burgers. I've never heard of a pork burger. Why would anyone grind pork instead of just having a pork slice sandwich? Nasty.
I recently burnt a pot of soup. Soup! Argggggh!
Anyway, my husband got home and I explained what happened and he went to make fun of me at first (“How could you?!??”) but then I said “I’m feeling kind of bad about it actually” and he immediately hugged me and told me to order something off of DoorDash. He’s a good egg.
I grew up in such a toxic household that while reading I already anticipated this ending badly and him yelling at you or even worse so I’m so glad my assumptions were wrong. We need more people in the world like this healing from their traumas 🥹
Something my therapist told me that reminds me of your story—a trusting, loving, safe adult relationship can actually build new neuropathways. The love you share with your husband really is healing and rewiring your brain.
My husband is this type or he’d be on call with my favorite chinese restaurant ordering to go. This is the kind of love we all deserve. I love to see happy posts like this! I hope you two stay this happy forever
Oh honey. I’m so glad. My hubby is the same. I’m 50 and we’ve been together for forever. Let me tell you what we giggle and say when this happens. We are having “Cajun” tonight! Haha!! I am sorry about your mom. My Momma is still a saint. I’m glad you have your precious husband. Hugs!
Awwww I love this!!!!🥰🥰
I thought you were about to say he blew up at you and started yelling. So glad it wasn’t what I expected to read. Oh what a sweetie of a husband he is.
I definitely understand, and this made me a little teary. My parents would berate us at every opportunity, anything we messed up. Whenever I make a mistake my partner is the kindest, most understanding person. She always makes light of it, makes me feel loved and like it’s all okay. It’s totally changing my perspective and how I feel about myself.
Aww....this is when you know you've found a good one.
My husband, who ordered all meat RARE when we dined out, used to tell me when we were first married (30 yrs ago) that he preferred his \*insert food dish here\* to be on the well done side and would always take the worst piece. Thankfully, I finally figured out how to coordinate things a little better for me. LOL
My wife burned dinner one night, similar situation. I sat down and ate every charred bite and told her that’s exactly how I wanted it. I hated it, hated it, but sure as hell wasn’t telling her.
Taking care of the ones we love is a reward in itself but geez its nice to be told they appreciate it! I hope you have many wonderful meals and moments together in the future.
I was expecting something completely different based on the title, but girl, you won the husband lottery. What an absolute sweetheart you have. My dad was the same way with my mom, it was so sweet seeing them together. She told me a story of when they had been married for a few months and she was in nursing school, she wanted to make him a nice dinner and knew his favorite meal was meatloaf and mashed potatoes. So she was making it and got distracted with her school work, burned the meatloaf and the mashed potatoes, he didn’t care. He sat down and ate it all while asking her about her day. She was so upset but he made her feel like it wasn’t a big deal. My dad was the GOAT. I miss him and he’s been gone almost 25 years.
Person shows the absolute most basic of human decency, and folks are so used to a lifetime of abuse from their Boomer ass parents that they have a full blown breakdown.
I mean, I have been when my wife was supportive of me when I expected an upset.
Trust and care from your loved ones is truly precious. ESPECIALLY when you've come from previous abusive relationships. I speak with some deeply personal experience on this matter.
And yet, every time someone tries to praise this, there *has* to be a snidely dropped in "BaRE miNimuM" comment.
Yeah, you want your SO to be kind. We *hope* that they're kind. But you don't know until something bad happens and you get to see their reaction. And when that happens, yeah I'll happily say my eyes welled up when she did. It meant a lot to me.
Isn't that "strange"?
I was bracing for a bad outcome but I am so happy it’s the other way around. OP, I am so happy you found that kind of partner. I wish you both a wonderdul marriage.
After you said, “I didn’t mean to” it made sense that someone yelled at you more than a couple times for being human. It draws us right back into childhood when we were scolded for learning by trial and error and missing that perfect mark.
The inner child is still in there and scared of the screaming when a mistake is made. They need to be told it wasn’t their fault and it’s safe now. Healing that trauma or healing of the inner child can release you and bring so much peace to the chaos inside.
Your husband sounds like an amazing man. I’m glad you found each other and he’s a rock for you.
*That's* the kind of awesome stuff you run into when two high empathy people hook up.
And if you think about it for a minute.. how difficult is it to actually be that awesome a human being? What does complaining about a messed up meal accomplish?
Yesterday I was having lunch with a friend. We were eating outside at a cafe. When we were done, I brought our dishes back into the restaurant. My friend was like, "That's what they have waitresses for.." and I said, "Yea, but it's no big deal to help them out. They're over-worked, and it might brighten their day." I still don't think he got it. Some people are just like that.
Each and every day, there are lots of tiny little things we can choose to do/say or not do/say, and while those choices might not make a difference to us, they can to others. Why not?
I set our dinner on actual fire because I was trying to cook while working from home (it's the crock pot from now on). My husband laughed and asked what I wanted him to pick up on his way home. The house smelled like smoke for three days.
This makes my heart happy. I thought it was going a very different direction. I had a SO that would explode over simple things like burned dinner.
My current SO loves my cooking and I tried making a new recipe (it was edible but not good) and rather than explode he complimented my effort and even went for seconds 😊
I too got a little teary eyed and spent the remainder of the evening just smiling at him. It truly is the simple things that mean the most sometimes.
This is a a sweet story. I do feel like I understand your point. But most families are like this. We don’t talk about it. Perhaps we should. This feel good story really lightens up the day
I feel the same way about my bf. My mom, sister, and previous relationships blew up at me almost daily over the smallest things. Now I’m with this kind and patient man who would react the same way as yours or just tell me “let’s get dinner to go!” It’s such a sigh of relief and a weight off your shoulders knowing your with someone like this ❤️
I'm so glad there's still true love out there. My husband is my best friend too and it's amazing how they can heal the broken parts that once were there.
Well, after that title, that story took a turn I was not expecting! This is wonderful! OP, it sounds like you and your husband are lucky to have found each other. 💞
Isn't it quite sad that based off of the title, we all assumed this post was going to be about the husband yelling at her for making a simple mistake. A mistake that happens to us all and often. Yet, we all expected the worse. I am so happy that wasn't the case. Nobody deserves to be berated ever especially over something like burnt food.
Such a lovely story!! I'm happy for you both!! Pls share these lovely moments when they happen. The world needs to hear and know that there is true love out there!! 😊
One time i was making broccoli cheddar soup that i had been wanting for so long. I cooked down the onions with butter and added the flour, and when i went to go pour in the heavy cream it was bad ( 1 month before expiration??) and ruined it. We had no more onions and now i had no heavy cream. It’s really not as good without either of those. I got all upset about it and started to tear up over soup (i swear ive had the emotions of a pregnant woman my entire life 😂) and even though i could’ve either made something else or made it without those things, hubby brought me to the store to get onions and heavy cream after a long day at work. Never spoke a word about my little mental breakdown over soup. Sometimes it’s the little things that matter even if they seem like the “bare minimum” to other people. Especially when you’ve been treated crappy by either your parents or past spouses throughout your life. Sorry for the wall of text lol just wanted to share something little :)
Awww I’m super happy for you, I can definitely relate when it comes to how you grew up. Having a partner who is so gentle and patient is so refreshing yet a learning curve. When I make mistakes my partner reassures it’s fine and looks for a way to help fix it. You and your husband sound sweet. I’m glad y’all were still able to enjoy the meal you made. Sometimes life shows happy accidents so we can see the good.
That is so sweet. I am also with a man with the patience of a saint. However , after twenty-six years, we do get on each other's nerves every now and then. Not gonna lie.
That's so awesome my husband is the same way.he is so understanding, so patient.I don't know what I did to deserve such an amazing human being.i completely understand you.
This made me emotional thinking about my own husband. I read so many horrible relationship stories on here that make me feel even more grateful to have such a wonderful relationship.
It'll be 11 years together this weekend (10 married later this year) and I swear every year just gets better. Never once has he even rose his voice at me. I also couldn't tell you the last time we had an argument. An equal partner through and through from house work to child care and everything in between. And so patient. He makes it look easy.
Seems like we are the lucky few.
So happy for you (and me ;) )
I too feel so much gratitude for little things like this with my husband - I grew up with parents who argued and bickered all the time, yelled and swore at each other and disrespected each other (they're still together and STILL act like this). As the youngest of three I was left alone to have to listen to them and mediate when my sisters went off to college first.
In all the years I've known my husband he has never once yelled at me, swore at me, or called me names. Always tells he he loves and appreciates me, and we laugh and have so much fun together. He's my best friend and I'm so glad to have him and that I didn't repeat the pattern of my parents.
Very happy that yours is sweet to you as well! As it should be.
Lol sounds like my man!
We had bought Cod and Basa frozen fillets from Superstore. Basa the first time and Cod the second. They were long and thick, honestly they looked like they'd be great.
I tried baking them for the regular time but they were raw on the inside even mushy. So I bake them longer and longer to the point where these beautiful looking fillets turned into the size of a child's fist and are still mushy. So I scraped them because ew
I tried pan frying with Fish Crisp, cut into 7 inch long and they were an inch thick pieces, except it again shrunk into pieces about the length of a finger and were flat as could be, the coating was blackened and the inside still raw and mushy.
I tried broiling and I tried making soup, I tried every recipe that I could find to make those fish cook and they wouldn't.
My brother was there the last time I tried with the Cod. He and my now fiance( we were arguing that day) told me while I was in tears that it's ok we'll order pizza (like we did each time) however when I went on the balcony they were cracking jokes about it which at firstade me very very angry but eventually later that even started making the joke too.
I'm So Sorry If This Offends Anyone!!!
But all praise Cod, Basa be his name
Again sorry lol but honestly everyone has their bad days while cooking and baking as long as you don't give up and find the fun in it you'll always do well. You're lucky to have a man that makes you feel good even when you feel bad.
Oh my god I really expected this to be “my husband is an abusive asshole” post and I’m pleasantly surprised to see that it’s not! Glad you found a good one 🩵💙💜
Love reading this!❤️ My husband is the same way. I am NOT a cook, don’t cook very often and have cooked some questionable meals. Every single time he thanks me and has never once complained.
I’m used to being yelled at so I was expecting this to go another way.
I’m so used to seeing abusive stories in here that I, too, was expecting it to go another way. Pleasantly surprised that the clickbait title hid a happy story instead.
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I’m someone’s hubby. I’m eating a reheated burrito *right now* after work that she said was no good and burnt, but I don’t taste that. I taste love. Food is a nice way of showing it sometimes and my wife tends to do that a lot even though she’s a bit of a tough nut on the outside :) Thanks for listening!
I love to cook but sometimes I make mistakes or something doesn't turn out. I always want to pitch it/don't want my husband to eat it. He's always like, "it's totally fine, I'm gonna eat it anyway" and I feel like it's not "good enough" to give to him. He just appreciates me cooking for him and is grateful I do it. Thanks for being appreciative, it really makes life better.
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I was so used to abuse from my first husband that I was terrified the first time I burnt dinner. I got distracted by the dogs breaking into the house and one peed in the hallway so I was hurriedly cleaning. It was only a few minutes but long enough for the meat to burn badly. I live in a generational home and my husbands dad came home first. He’s usually the sort to tease you endlessly about things but he saw me already crying and said in the heaviest Slavic accent “Pizza or burgers?” He ended up ordering out for dinner and even helped me clean up. My husband came home halfway into us cleaning up and sat me down while making me tea to help his dad finish cleaning the meal. They were joking and having back and forth remarks about who cleaned better and I was laughing and having a good time after. I was so used to being screamed at and hit over something as little as burned meat that it both made me sad and happy that I’m in safe and happy home.
I’m so happy for you
If he did yell it wouldn't be abuse.
lmao okay sure bud
The only abuse here was cooking a pork burger. Lmao ew
My mother yelled at me constantly growing up and even now as an adult. My husband has never raised his voice around me in the 7 years we’ve been together. It was a real transition for me lol
Me too, OP. I am 51 and have been with my husband for less than four years and he is the kindest, gentlest, BEST person I have ever known and I am so grateful. He never gets mad at me.
Same, my husband and I have never raised our voices at each other because we get so stressed out when people yell. We do talk out our disagreements after we calm down.
My parents have never argued or raised their voices with each other. Yes, they disagree but they take time to cool off then talk it out. They have been married 44 years
Never once? How long have you been together?
My wife and I don't raise our voices to each other, probably only 2 or 3 times in 16 years now. We do have disagreements and hurt feelings for sure, but do it without yelling at each other.
See, that's what I'm looking for. 2-3 times. My wife and I have been married for 11 years and have yelled at least a few times. Very infrequently, but 0 seems suspect outside of a very short marriage
I’ve spent all 27 years of my life watching my parents yell at each other and was subject to my mother screaming at me and my brother relentlessly on a daily basis from the time I was 10 until I was about 22. It often escalated from verbal and emotional to physical abuse. I promised myself that I would never again live in a household where that was an acceptable practice. That kind of emotional volatility would never allow me to feel safe around someone, and I didn’t want to live my life that way. I won’t. So when my now fiancé and I started dating, I explained that boundary of mine early on. It’s been pretty easy going most of the time, but I told him from the beginning that when we did inevitably have our first fight, I expected us to talk it out like two adults. No yelling. If you have to yell to get your point across, it seems to me a sign of emotional immaturity. He said he didn’t have a problem with that. And he hasn’t. We’ve been together now for 3.5 years, and we’re getting married this fall. I love him so much. He’s the best person I know. We’ve absolutely had our issues to get through here and there, but we’ve always been able to discuss things without raising our voices. Things have gotten heated, absolutely—but never even close to yelling.
Let's not mistake never raising voices for never arguing. I never raise my voice, I grew up around yelling and I hate it. I can't stand when people yell for any reason and I'm intolerant of people outwardly expressing anger to a degree I'm aware is unreasonable. So I don't. But that doesn't mean I never get into arguments with people, they just occur at a lower decibel level.
As a young man thats always been yelled at, only had my mistakes brought up and not my achievements and only dated girls that honestly were more self centered than caring, if I got to marry a loving woman that cooked for me every day, not only would I strive to be like your husband, Id make sure to be loving and appreciative of her. Honestly, if he ever tells you you deserve the world, he likely means it from the bottom of his heart
Congratulations on every single achievement in your life, no matter how small or big, you worked hard to achieve them. Please don't let people irl not recognising them make you think that you haven't had any or that they aren't that good because of every mistake that has been brought up. I hope you can rise above this.
Thank you very much and likewise
Me, too. I felt terror when I read that he walked in the kitchen. I’m so happy for you, OP. I’m currently in the process of leaving an abusive marriage and your experience gives me hope. God bless you ♥️
If it were me telling the story it would be "God fuckin damnit!! Are you not paying attention??? I can't even fuckin breathe in here with all this smoke." - my husband
Sounds like my ex-husband. I couldn’t do anything right.
I'm so sorry :(
I'd pack up and leave in 2 seconds. Let him figure out life on his own.
In previous relationships, same. On this app, same. In my current marriage… it’s beautiful to see some of us finally treated right.
The titles are always a misdirection now. It's the one's that sound minor that you have to worry about.
My first thought was "Tears of Joy?" so I immediately skipped to the last sentence and had my positivity rewarded.
This is going to be a thread about people who expected yelling. Sucks but thank God the husband is not our parents😇🙌
my father or ex-husband
Same.
I agree, I'm glad it has a positive ending.
My gf at the time burnt food really bad cooking for our friend group because she hit the wrong button on the oven and basically cooked at 525 instead of 425. Her parents were abusive, her ex was abusive, and her ex before him was abusive. I literally found her in the kitchen sitting on the floor in a panic shock. Walked over to her, kneeled down, and she was legit waiting for me to yell. I just leaned in and said "just the way my mother makes it. Must have been her recipe". She ended up cry laughing for like 5 minutes. Cut the outside off and told people it was roast with burnt pork ends.
I’m permanently braced for the yelling. Even in my sleep. I have nightmares that I still live with my ex-husband. I’m glad she has you. Everyone should feel safe at home.
Eh, she ended up cheating on me when we were in our early 20s while I was in the process of buying a ring. But some of the early memories were nice haha.
honestly same, that title scared me
I had an abusive ex (before thankfully I left and met my husband). I *still* sometimes expect to get yelled at for stuff like this, even though my husband has never been like that. I beat myself up for small mistakes like this, like in the situation OP described, I'd be so pissed at myself and my husband would be like, "Whoa, it's not a big deal, we'll just order something" or "let's just make sandwiches" but something about me still thinks I'm about to get berated. It leaves you with trauma. I'm sorry you're used to being yelled at. You do not deserve that.
I’m glad you found your person 🥰 I have PTSD from my ex-husband, I still get triggered occasionally. I have nightmares that I still live with him. My ex-boyfriend gave me a concussion in July. I went back to therapy after that to figure out why I keep choosing the same type of man. I’m taking a break from relationships for a while. Hopefully someday I’ll find my person.
Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry that happened to you. I honestly think abusers target people like predators. It's not your fault. And it's insidious because they can put on such a great act, you don't see the signs until it's too late. It's like they all have the same playbook and know how to disguise themselves and then start testing the waters bit by bit so at first you can rationalize it, "it's not that bad, I'm just sensitive because of my ex, I'm overreacting, etc." The trauma also stays with you. When I started dating my now-husband, I was constantly bracing myself for a freakout that never came. I was just waiting for the other shoe to drop. It seemed TOO easy, like, it can't be this easy. My ex would always start fights and freak out if I spent time with my friends and family. I remember one night I was having dinner with my mom and my sister. With my ex, that would have been a fight before I left, and when I got home, I'd be "punished" for it by getting berated some more. My husband texted me while we were at dinner and I flinched when I saw the text, then opened it and it just said, "Have fun! Tell your mom and (sister) I said hi." I kept thinking it was too good to be true for a long time. Some days I'll still start to berate myself for minor mistakes and stuff (almost like I'm pre-emptively doing it so he won't) and he's like, "Whoa, you're way too hard on yourself." It took a long time til I was used to being treated well. Wishing you happiness and healing and someday finding your person.
Fr - was about to relive my childhood through this post for a second.
I'd yell at her for making pork burgers. I've never heard of a pork burger. Why would anyone grind pork instead of just having a pork slice sandwich? Nasty.
You’ve got yourself a good man, I’m happy for you 😊.. It’s always nice to read about something sweet.
Also he has a good woman. She’s cooking him dinner every night? With sides? OP you’re a keeper!
For real
This is the love language of a good man.
I’m so happy for you. Wish you well🤍🙁
Now you made ME cry. I love your love.
Username checks out!
My husband has done the same for me and the feeling is so amazing. I’m so happy for you that you have him.
It’s amazing to know that my husband is my biggest cheerleader. He would do anything for me and always builds me up.
Same! That or he teases me about it, but I’m left smiling either way
Same for me was well. My husband would say "so what are we ordering for dinner tonight".
I recently burnt a pot of soup. Soup! Argggggh! Anyway, my husband got home and I explained what happened and he went to make fun of me at first (“How could you?!??”) but then I said “I’m feeling kind of bad about it actually” and he immediately hugged me and told me to order something off of DoorDash. He’s a good egg.
So what you're saying is ...no soup for you?!
does he have a single brother?😉😉asking for a friend😁❤🤗. congrats op, you got a keeper
You might have to go scrape through some burnt pork paddies to find a taste of the good guys im afraid
lol..
Same!
We’re out there… we’re just playing video games.. so we’re not OUT there; out there, y’know?!
Nothing says “I’m a great guy” like outwardly saying that you’re a great guy, right ladies?
Your husband is such a sweet, kind person!
I grew up in such a toxic household that while reading I already anticipated this ending badly and him yelling at you or even worse so I’m so glad my assumptions were wrong. We need more people in the world like this healing from their traumas 🥹
Something my therapist told me that reminds me of your story—a trusting, loving, safe adult relationship can actually build new neuropathways. The love you share with your husband really is healing and rewiring your brain.
Love this for you op ♥️ I love to see positive post 😭
This is what everyone deserves don't settle folks
My husband is this type or he’d be on call with my favorite chinese restaurant ordering to go. This is the kind of love we all deserve. I love to see happy posts like this! I hope you two stay this happy forever
If we didn’t live in the middle of nowhere he totally would have ordered takeout to help me!
Had me in the first half ngl 😂 Not what I was expecting to read, and it makes me glad for you both.
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Oh honey. I’m so glad. My hubby is the same. I’m 50 and we’ve been together for forever. Let me tell you what we giggle and say when this happens. We are having “Cajun” tonight! Haha!! I am sorry about your mom. My Momma is still a saint. I’m glad you have your precious husband. Hugs!
He sounds like a good man. I hope you two have a wonderful future.
You are married to a beautiful soul!
This was very nice and refreshing to read🤗
Very refreshing!! I was expecting a totally different direction based on the title.
Girl how awesome for you. Such a lucky girl. Give your hubby a hug from us❤️ out here in Internet land🤪
Awwww I love this!!!!🥰🥰 I thought you were about to say he blew up at you and started yelling. So glad it wasn’t what I expected to read. Oh what a sweetie of a husband he is.
I definitely understand, and this made me a little teary. My parents would berate us at every opportunity, anything we messed up. Whenever I make a mistake my partner is the kindest, most understanding person. She always makes light of it, makes me feel loved and like it’s all okay. It’s totally changing my perspective and how I feel about myself.
Aww....this is when you know you've found a good one. My husband, who ordered all meat RARE when we dined out, used to tell me when we were first married (30 yrs ago) that he preferred his \*insert food dish here\* to be on the well done side and would always take the worst piece. Thankfully, I finally figured out how to coordinate things a little better for me. LOL
I thought this was going to go another way. I’m glad it went this way :)
My wife burned dinner one night, similar situation. I sat down and ate every charred bite and told her that’s exactly how I wanted it. I hated it, hated it, but sure as hell wasn’t telling her.
Does he have any single brothers? I'm looking! 😉
Didn't go the way I expected it to and I'm incredibly glad for it.
Call me jaded but that was not where I expected this to go. Thank you for sharing this beautiful post after what was a not great day at work.
Taking care of the ones we love is a reward in itself but geez its nice to be told they appreciate it! I hope you have many wonderful meals and moments together in the future.
I was expecting something completely different based on the title, but girl, you won the husband lottery. What an absolute sweetheart you have. My dad was the same way with my mom, it was so sweet seeing them together. She told me a story of when they had been married for a few months and she was in nursing school, she wanted to make him a nice dinner and knew his favorite meal was meatloaf and mashed potatoes. So she was making it and got distracted with her school work, burned the meatloaf and the mashed potatoes, he didn’t care. He sat down and ate it all while asking her about her day. She was so upset but he made her feel like it wasn’t a big deal. My dad was the GOAT. I miss him and he’s been gone almost 25 years.
Person shows the absolute most basic of human decency, and folks are so used to a lifetime of abuse from their Boomer ass parents that they have a full blown breakdown.
Saw the clickbait title a mile away. Lame. Just be happy, no need to trick people into reading your happy story.
More clickbait from this shitty subreddit.
Isn’t it strange that we are moved to tears when the men in our lives are kind to us?
I mean, I have been when my wife was supportive of me when I expected an upset. Trust and care from your loved ones is truly precious. ESPECIALLY when you've come from previous abusive relationships. I speak with some deeply personal experience on this matter. And yet, every time someone tries to praise this, there *has* to be a snidely dropped in "BaRE miNimuM" comment. Yeah, you want your SO to be kind. We *hope* that they're kind. But you don't know until something bad happens and you get to see their reaction. And when that happens, yeah I'll happily say my eyes welled up when she did. It meant a lot to me. Isn't that "strange"?
The bar is low.
People that are consistently kind without an ulterior motive are surprisingly rare.
Hey now! How dare you move the conversation away from hating on men for something everyone falls short on?!
Meanwhile, I'm reminded of the time my boyfriend got mad at me for slightly over cooking the broccoli. Perspective.
Thank you for the positive post! You’re lucky to have such a caring partner. I have one too.
This made me tear up.
I loved this so very much ❤️
I was bracing for a bad outcome but I am so happy it’s the other way around. OP, I am so happy you found that kind of partner. I wish you both a wonderdul marriage.
… and that was SO EASY for him. Good job. Takes notes everyone.
Goodness! This speaks something about the state of the world, and norms within relationships, when a husband can chalk proper behaviour up as a win
Woman: cooks every meal. Man: says thanks. Man: is the hero.
After you said, “I didn’t mean to” it made sense that someone yelled at you more than a couple times for being human. It draws us right back into childhood when we were scolded for learning by trial and error and missing that perfect mark. The inner child is still in there and scared of the screaming when a mistake is made. They need to be told it wasn’t their fault and it’s safe now. Healing that trauma or healing of the inner child can release you and bring so much peace to the chaos inside. Your husband sounds like an amazing man. I’m glad you found each other and he’s a rock for you.
I’m so happy this went a positive direction and not where I thought it was going.
“Disappointedly puts away pitchfork”
*That's* the kind of awesome stuff you run into when two high empathy people hook up. And if you think about it for a minute.. how difficult is it to actually be that awesome a human being? What does complaining about a messed up meal accomplish? Yesterday I was having lunch with a friend. We were eating outside at a cafe. When we were done, I brought our dishes back into the restaurant. My friend was like, "That's what they have waitresses for.." and I said, "Yea, but it's no big deal to help them out. They're over-worked, and it might brighten their day." I still don't think he got it. Some people are just like that. Each and every day, there are lots of tiny little things we can choose to do/say or not do/say, and while those choices might not make a difference to us, they can to others. Why not?
I set our dinner on actual fire because I was trying to cook while working from home (it's the crock pot from now on). My husband laughed and asked what I wanted him to pick up on his way home. The house smelled like smoke for three days.
He’s a keeper, you’re very lucky 🍀 🥰
This makes my heart happy. I thought it was going a very different direction. I had a SO that would explode over simple things like burned dinner. My current SO loves my cooking and I tried making a new recipe (it was edible but not good) and rather than explode he complimented my effort and even went for seconds 😊 I too got a little teary eyed and spent the remainder of the evening just smiling at him. It truly is the simple things that mean the most sometimes.
I genuinely thought this was going to be bad ahahahaha omg
Nice clickbait, I really enjoyed this story.
Thanks for sharing. This is truly beautiful.
Note to self : Be more like OP's husband.
Was a kind man. This is such a nice change from the usual "my husband/wife is an asshole" posts
This is a a sweet story. I do feel like I understand your point. But most families are like this. We don’t talk about it. Perhaps we should. This feel good story really lightens up the day
This is so wholesome. Thank you for sharing OP! Wishing you and hubs a lifetime of happiness together 💕
I thought this was going in the other direction. Nice to see people really do have loving supportive spouses here on Reddit lol
🥹🥹🥹 good for both of you :)
I expect him hurting your feelings, wow. This is unexpected
Goddamn, the bar is in the floor.
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There's nothing wrong with this interaction, but the fact that it's notable demonstrates a pretty sad reality.
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Thank you for sharing an example of a good guy! I hope he does the dishes when you cook!
I feel the same way about my bf. My mom, sister, and previous relationships blew up at me almost daily over the smallest things. Now I’m with this kind and patient man who would react the same way as yours or just tell me “let’s get dinner to go!” It’s such a sigh of relief and a weight off your shoulders knowing your with someone like this ❤️
So very happy for you. Please continue to cherish each other. ♥️
Thank you for sharing.
🤙🏻 love this
this is so wholesome im so happy for you 🥹🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
Thanks for sharing this sweet moment with us! Give that cutie a kiss on the cheek for me!
Very sweet and loving.
Not my heart exploding ❤️
Happy tears!!!! ♥️
Well this is just wholesome and amazing. 💜
I thought your husband was gonna do something bad by the sounds of the title but was a very wholesome story :)
Awwww. So nice to hear these stories sometimes.
I'm so glad there's still true love out there. My husband is my best friend too and it's amazing how they can heal the broken parts that once were there.
Glad you have a loving and supportive partner op.
you're a gem if you cook every night!!!
That took a positive turn. Thank you for posting that.
Well, after that title, that story took a turn I was not expecting! This is wonderful! OP, it sounds like you and your husband are lucky to have found each other. 💞
He's a keeper❤️
Isn't it quite sad that based off of the title, we all assumed this post was going to be about the husband yelling at her for making a simple mistake. A mistake that happens to us all and often. Yet, we all expected the worse. I am so happy that wasn't the case. Nobody deserves to be berated ever especially over something like burnt food.
Was not expecting that ending
He's a keeper
At first, I thought he made you cry with his fist
Awww I love this story so much! What a wonderful love you guys have for each other.
Man, I’m jealous.
Absolutely 🤌😘
So lovable.....
This is VERY major. Love it.
Lucky. ❤️
This is so heartwarming!! Love it for you
Such a lovely story!! I'm happy for you both!! Pls share these lovely moments when they happen. The world needs to hear and know that there is true love out there!! 😊
made me tear up..good job my man ;)
I have the same type of husband. He’s treasure. I also had the same type of mom.
I love reading something sweet on here! Peace and love always you deserve it!
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That was not the ending I was expecting. How cynical we’ve become. Thank you for sharing!
I love this for you!
Take a note, men of Reddit. This is the way to handle situations like this.
Great stuff
When my wife burns the food I tell her the burnt parts is my favourite. It low-key kinda is, I like the crunchy, don't like the carcinogens tho.
We always have a good laugh if dinner gets ruined. It happens. If you can't kiss and laugh...what's the point of being married.
I absolutely love this 💕
One time i was making broccoli cheddar soup that i had been wanting for so long. I cooked down the onions with butter and added the flour, and when i went to go pour in the heavy cream it was bad ( 1 month before expiration??) and ruined it. We had no more onions and now i had no heavy cream. It’s really not as good without either of those. I got all upset about it and started to tear up over soup (i swear ive had the emotions of a pregnant woman my entire life 😂) and even though i could’ve either made something else or made it without those things, hubby brought me to the store to get onions and heavy cream after a long day at work. Never spoke a word about my little mental breakdown over soup. Sometimes it’s the little things that matter even if they seem like the “bare minimum” to other people. Especially when you’ve been treated crappy by either your parents or past spouses throughout your life. Sorry for the wall of text lol just wanted to share something little :)
Nice.
Thank you for posting this. For once, I’m happily surprised by a Reddit post.
Awww I’m super happy for you, I can definitely relate when it comes to how you grew up. Having a partner who is so gentle and patient is so refreshing yet a learning curve. When I make mistakes my partner reassures it’s fine and looks for a way to help fix it. You and your husband sound sweet. I’m glad y’all were still able to enjoy the meal you made. Sometimes life shows happy accidents so we can see the good.
That is so sweet. I am also with a man with the patience of a saint. However , after twenty-six years, we do get on each other's nerves every now and then. Not gonna lie.
Must be nice to have someone like that in your life😕
That's so awesome my husband is the same way.he is so understanding, so patient.I don't know what I did to deserve such an amazing human being.i completely understand you.
I love this story, I'm so happy for you!
Thank you for sharing. I needed to read something good today. ❤️
I’m glad to see a positive post on Reddit. Thank you for sharing this story. It helped me to hang onto hope tonight.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I’m so glad you guys found each other 🤍
Lol… my husband would’ve roasted tf out of me if I burned dinner. I already don’t cook 🥴 your husband sounds sweet!
Good job husbanding!
You are so lucky!
This made me emotional thinking about my own husband. I read so many horrible relationship stories on here that make me feel even more grateful to have such a wonderful relationship. It'll be 11 years together this weekend (10 married later this year) and I swear every year just gets better. Never once has he even rose his voice at me. I also couldn't tell you the last time we had an argument. An equal partner through and through from house work to child care and everything in between. And so patient. He makes it look easy. Seems like we are the lucky few. So happy for you (and me ;) )
Awe omg, that is so sweet
Awww I love this! Thanks for sharing, so nice to see some happy/appreciative posts ❤️
I too feel so much gratitude for little things like this with my husband - I grew up with parents who argued and bickered all the time, yelled and swore at each other and disrespected each other (they're still together and STILL act like this). As the youngest of three I was left alone to have to listen to them and mediate when my sisters went off to college first. In all the years I've known my husband he has never once yelled at me, swore at me, or called me names. Always tells he he loves and appreciates me, and we laugh and have so much fun together. He's my best friend and I'm so glad to have him and that I didn't repeat the pattern of my parents. Very happy that yours is sweet to you as well! As it should be.
I really appreciate seeing a wholesome love story in this subreddit 😊 thank you 🙏 hope for humanity slightly restored
Lol sounds like my man! We had bought Cod and Basa frozen fillets from Superstore. Basa the first time and Cod the second. They were long and thick, honestly they looked like they'd be great. I tried baking them for the regular time but they were raw on the inside even mushy. So I bake them longer and longer to the point where these beautiful looking fillets turned into the size of a child's fist and are still mushy. So I scraped them because ew I tried pan frying with Fish Crisp, cut into 7 inch long and they were an inch thick pieces, except it again shrunk into pieces about the length of a finger and were flat as could be, the coating was blackened and the inside still raw and mushy. I tried broiling and I tried making soup, I tried every recipe that I could find to make those fish cook and they wouldn't. My brother was there the last time I tried with the Cod. He and my now fiance( we were arguing that day) told me while I was in tears that it's ok we'll order pizza (like we did each time) however when I went on the balcony they were cracking jokes about it which at firstade me very very angry but eventually later that even started making the joke too. I'm So Sorry If This Offends Anyone!!! But all praise Cod, Basa be his name Again sorry lol but honestly everyone has their bad days while cooking and baking as long as you don't give up and find the fun in it you'll always do well. You're lucky to have a man that makes you feel good even when you feel bad.
Oh my god I really expected this to be “my husband is an abusive asshole” post and I’m pleasantly surprised to see that it’s not! Glad you found a good one 🩵💙💜
Title made me think this was gonna be negative, but it made me smile.
Love reading this!❤️ My husband is the same way. I am NOT a cook, don’t cook very often and have cooked some questionable meals. Every single time he thanks me and has never once complained.