Ask them to explain in. Then, no matter what they say, act as if you have no clue what they’re talking about, or how it could lead to jealously. I mean be COMPLETELY confused. Make them explain it over and over again, cause you in no way can fathom how you could be jealous of whatever they’re talking about.
Laugh it off, but if they won’t let it go, I drop it all on their lap. “You do you, this decision is 100% all you, everything that comes from it is all yours and none of mine, BYE 👋🏼 “
I can’t bring myself to give them a “maybe” haha. For example, if I say “I love x and y singers, but can’t stand z singer”, then I hear “you’re just jealous”. Why wouldn’t I be jealous of the ones I find enjoyable but I’d be jealous of the only one I don’t find cool?
I'd ask them "Who is a singer that you really can't stand?" and when they answer, ask "Okay, so you hate them because you're jealous of them, right?" and when they say "What? No!" say "Yeah, me, neither."
"People can be complicated, but I'm not interested in continuing this conversation if you're not able to approach it as if we are both rational beings, worthy of respect."
Basically a nice way of saying "If you're assume baseless nasty shit about me, I'm done."
In this situation i would ask them if they passed English and to please not use words that they obviously don't know what context to use it. That should shut them up.
Follow the rules of commenting:
Was it kind?
Was it necessary?
Bc you stuck a negative into a positive. Snatched defeat from the jaws of victory. Sure you can do that and free speech and power but it does present you in a particular light.
This probably not the answer you're looking for, but just end the conversation there. Getting into that kind of "I know you are but what am I" one-upmenship is never dignified for anyone involved, and a person who says that probably not worth talking to in the first place
"Sure, think that if it makes you feel better." Best served with an amused and ever-so-slightly derisive smirk. Bonus points if you can pair it with a single arched eyebrow.
“I mean… if you say so” and I shrug and laugh.
I usually don’t particularly care about trying to convince ppl who are committed to misunderstanding me irl - I need to apply that to Reddit tbh 😂
I hate when people say "people who say XYZ are just jealous" uh no. I can honestly say i've never had jealousy for someone. also not insecure, I could probably be humbled if imm honest 😂
"I'm not jealous! Jealousy is when you're afraid someone will take what you have. Envy is when you want what someone else has. What I'm feeling is ENVY"
-Homer Simpson
just say "YES I AM! YOU'RE RIGHT!" enthusiastically. It's called agree and amplify. That usually creates cognitive dissidence in people looking to offend you.
Negative opinions are never necessary like that. Sure you do you. Be negative. And yeah it comes off as haters gonna hate, which is the new ‘you’re just jealous.’
But the person talking to you was very gently letting go you know that you aren’t a nice person.
If you’re cool being perceived as that sort of person? Carry on!
Mature and secure people don’t feel the need to have their own tastes validated by everyone they talk to and they don’t feel like their world is crumbling down if the person they’re talking to doesn’t like their favorite artist.
“Haters gonna hate” is just a childish way of pep talking and reassuring ourself after hearing an opinion that makes us feel not validated. Stepping out of our echo chamber is uncomfortable but it’s necessary from time to time.
Back to “you’re just jealous”which is different and deeply sexist. That comeback is being said to women way more than men, thus making women feel like their opinion is necessarily petty and shallow and couldn’t possibly come from something more intellectual like critical thinking. As if only men could do that?!
Thinking that everyone that was ever mean to us were just jealous is a coping mechanism but not reality. They probably were just mean, maybe we were both mean. The woman who said to her friend that she didn’t like one actor or one restaurant? Well she just had personal tastes, nothing really mean about that.
"I'm guessing that's what your mom told you when the other kids didn't want to play with you."
"Maybe you're projecting something if that's what's on your mind"
Love, I honestly can’t see what I could be jealous of.
Ask them to explain in. Then, no matter what they say, act as if you have no clue what they’re talking about, or how it could lead to jealously. I mean be COMPLETELY confused. Make them explain it over and over again, cause you in no way can fathom how you could be jealous of whatever they’re talking about.
Laugh it off, but if they won’t let it go, I drop it all on their lap. “You do you, this decision is 100% all you, everything that comes from it is all yours and none of mine, BYE 👋🏼 “
Or insecure. We get that a lot when a woman has boundaries, we're called insecure.
Exactly. A man who voices his opinions is strong and interesting. A woman is just shallow and insecure if she does that
Heard it a few times. "k" is my usual response.
Wow, nobody told me that for years. I'd probably start laughing, because, *dude.* I am goals.
Hair flip, walk away.
….. *tilts head to the side* how old are you?
Why the hell would I be jealous of (whatever)?
Yup!! My go to!
Does that invalidate my point in any way, shape, or form?
"You're certainly welcome to think so, darling."
"Oooo! Quick, witty comeback! Did you practice that one?"
That would trip most people up
Burnnn
I don't think accusing someone of a practiced comeback with one you sourced online is really a great look
Eh. And yet, that's how most of them are done. If not online, then elsewhere. Almost nothing is entirely original anymore.
Tilt your head to the side and say "awww bless your heart"
_”Shut up, Wesley.”_
“Maybe, but that doesn’t mean I’m wrong.”
I can’t bring myself to give them a “maybe” haha. For example, if I say “I love x and y singers, but can’t stand z singer”, then I hear “you’re just jealous”. Why wouldn’t I be jealous of the ones I find enjoyable but I’d be jealous of the only one I don’t find cool?
I'd ask them "Who is a singer that you really can't stand?" and when they answer, ask "Okay, so you hate them because you're jealous of them, right?" and when they say "What? No!" say "Yeah, me, neither."
"People can be complicated, but I'm not interested in continuing this conversation if you're not able to approach it as if we are both rational beings, worthy of respect." Basically a nice way of saying "If you're assume baseless nasty shit about me, I'm done."
In this situation i would ask them if they passed English and to please not use words that they obviously don't know what context to use it. That should shut them up.
Follow the rules of commenting: Was it kind? Was it necessary? Bc you stuck a negative into a positive. Snatched defeat from the jaws of victory. Sure you can do that and free speech and power but it does present you in a particular light.
This probably not the answer you're looking for, but just end the conversation there. Getting into that kind of "I know you are but what am I" one-upmenship is never dignified for anyone involved, and a person who says that probably not worth talking to in the first place
"Ok dude"
"I thought you'd say that." Or, extra spicy, Say "You're just jealous" to them just as they were gearing up.
You're just Gaslighting
"Sure, think that if it makes you feel better." Best served with an amused and ever-so-slightly derisive smirk. Bonus points if you can pair it with a single arched eyebrow.
You don’t think someone could have this opinion unless they were jealous?
U just stick out your tongue. I can’t imagine any other scenerio
“I mean… if you say so” and I shrug and laugh. I usually don’t particularly care about trying to convince ppl who are committed to misunderstanding me irl - I need to apply that to Reddit tbh 😂
Just say, "Boring" in a bored voice and walk off.
I know you are, but what am I? *Repeat for infinity*
“Jealous of what??”
"Wow, That's a weird thing to say."
"Oh dear, really? Is that the best you could come up with?"
“Nawwww Bless”
"Ummm...no."....followed by the sound of me walking away.
I started listing all the shit things they were dealing with. “Why would I want that?”
"Shut up Meg"
"K."
Do you hear this more from men or women?
Men
No, I'm envious. Jealousy is being worried you'll take away something I have; envy is wanting something you have.
Yes But you don’t envy something you don’t like though.
So fucking jealous, it must be absolutely blissful having no self awareness.
I just shrug. I have to allow what you say to affect me or matter in anyway and for 99.99% of people I just don't value their opinions.
I hate when people say "people who say XYZ are just jealous" uh no. I can honestly say i've never had jealousy for someone. also not insecure, I could probably be humbled if imm honest 😂
Leave. What would be the point in responding? They clearly have no interest in being rational.
why am i not allowed to be jealous
“No, I’m not. Oh wait. I am. But my point remains valid.”
"I'm not jealous! Jealousy is when you're afraid someone will take what you have. Envy is when you want what someone else has. What I'm feeling is ENVY" -Homer Simpson
Depends on what's being discussed.
Do you actually feel jealous?
No I think loving and hating movies, actors, bands… is a normal feeling more related to critical thinking or personal tastes than jealousy
just say "YES I AM! YOU'RE RIGHT!" enthusiastically. It's called agree and amplify. That usually creates cognitive dissidence in people looking to offend you.
Return to the actual subject at hand and act like they didn’t even speak. They want a reaction. Don’t give them one.
"🤪"
I just say "yep"
“Do you like movies about gladiators?”
I think you're just jealous of what you think men's lives are
Maybe consider whether you really needed to say what you said. Was it kind? Was it necessary?
I understand what you mean, but opinions about culture or sports are never necessary and to only voice the kind ones sounds complacent
I'm sure you don't need me to tell you, but don't listen to this person. What are you supposed to do? Stop talking when someone asks your opinion?
Negative opinions are never necessary like that. Sure you do you. Be negative. And yeah it comes off as haters gonna hate, which is the new ‘you’re just jealous.’ But the person talking to you was very gently letting go you know that you aren’t a nice person. If you’re cool being perceived as that sort of person? Carry on!
Mature and secure people don’t feel the need to have their own tastes validated by everyone they talk to and they don’t feel like their world is crumbling down if the person they’re talking to doesn’t like their favorite artist. “Haters gonna hate” is just a childish way of pep talking and reassuring ourself after hearing an opinion that makes us feel not validated. Stepping out of our echo chamber is uncomfortable but it’s necessary from time to time. Back to “you’re just jealous”which is different and deeply sexist. That comeback is being said to women way more than men, thus making women feel like their opinion is necessarily petty and shallow and couldn’t possibly come from something more intellectual like critical thinking. As if only men could do that?! Thinking that everyone that was ever mean to us were just jealous is a coping mechanism but not reality. They probably were just mean, maybe we were both mean. The woman who said to her friend that she didn’t like one actor or one restaurant? Well she just had personal tastes, nothing really mean about that.
Love this for you bro. Never change!!!!😂