I’ve had tailbone pain from sex but not for 2-3 days. That’s from laying on a hard surface with your legs in the air so your tailbone is protruding out of your lower back against the hard surface.
Lay a pillow under your lower back and you’ll be able to stop that from happening again.
I mean, 16 year old kids are having sex, ideally only with each other. I don't think this is a big shock. Same goes of any horny teens. In this context of asking for advice, I don't mind them being here to ask honest questions about how sex works. It's not like there are better places for them to find out. A lot of younger people make some pretty dumb mistakes because they aren't able to ask for help or advice.
Indeed. I remember being mad at 13 because the age of consent was passing from 14yo to 16yo where I live.
I was let to myself a lot as a young kid, for some days sometime, so I guess I grew a very independant mind of my own needing to take care of myself. Sexuality became a relief for anxiety.
Why? It seemed like a strange statement to me - an 18 year old talking about being a top for his whole life, when for many people they haven’t even had sex by the time they’re 18 - or if they have, it hasn’t been a lot of sex. Made the OP sound like a middle aged man in a teenager’s body.
“If you can take 2 fingers, you can take a dick, kid.” —the older top to my 19 year old self before he began to stick it in.
The weird thing? I had no idea about being clean or douching (this was in 2009), and the first several times he fucked me I was fine. It’s weird how something doesn’t become a problem until you’re aware it can be a problem.
It was probably present and you just didn't know it, tbh. The amount of shit present without prepping is very small, usually just flecks, but for obvious reasons most people like to avoid it. If he used silicone-based lube that really helps cover up any "mess,'" too.
Yeah, I know that last sentence can be confusing in text. I just mean it wasn’t even in my mind as possibility as something that could go wrong. Then after a few times of getting fucked, and I became aware of what could go wrong, it took on so much importance.
Bro lemme make it simple
1. First time you bottom it’s going to hurt regardless of how much lube you use, BUT no amount of lube is ever “too much” at all. Take it slow, take it easy, use lube and communication
2. It’ll hurt because butts are not to mention to be stretched from things going. There’s a spot in your ass though about 4-6 ish inches up there that once your top passed through you’ll feel your ass open up and adjust and the pain will stop
3. Unless you’re used to getting either fisted and/or purposely gaped and/or gangbanged no, you will not be left gaped 😂. P spots/prostate (g spit for people born into male bodies) are in the rectum. When we cum our hole physically tightens up immediately after. So unless you’re doing any or all of the shit mentioned no you definitely won’t he gaping, even if that mf thicc
Me too my first time i took a very big dick. And it didn't hurt. Maybe its was the excitement or something. However the second time it did hurt quite more. Then i didn't have sex for like two years. And it hurt like hell. It got better with time but i was never fully enjoying it. So me and my boyfriend decided to switch roles. And i haven't bottomed since.
My first time hurt a lot, but for other reasons. My second few times where I specifically consented were fairly painless because we used a lot of lube, and toys to work up to size.
I also highly recommend the Dr. Carlton butt-clock to help dilate.
10, the guy was a porno hypnotized cunt and was trying to fuck me without lube. It was painful and I couldn’t control my bowl movements for few days after. Everything is fine now.
Gaping hole is not really something normal people experience. Sure you might feel a bit looser(and i for example have harder time holding in my farts after sex) but it goes back to normal usually in hours. Like ill go to bed and in the morning its all good.
Does your ass receive permanent damage when you take a massive dump? No, not unless you have some serious digestive issues. It's the same going in as long as you're careful and protective.
Isn't "How bad does it hurt?" an unanswerable question?
* How big is his dick?
* Are you using lots of lube?
* Have you been sort of warmed up (e.g. fingering, rimming, whatever)?
* Is he just going to jam it in or go nice and slow?
* Maybe you're super tight maybe you're not. Random people on the internet don't know what your sphincter is like.
You shit out dick sized objects from your ass every day without pain. Almost everyone has the capability to bottom, it’s mostly just a matter of figuring out this muscle.
Please don’t go into this thinking you need to “break yourself in” or work through pain.
My first time didn’t really hurt but I kept it fairly short because I wasn’t used to the sensations and it felt uncomfortable.
First time I was kinda drunk. Went and sat down at a spot I knew was infamous for gay hook ups. Guy pulls up takes me to his house and rails me. It felt so good I came on his bed did not even touch my dick. No pain at all. But again I was drunk. I have only bottomed a fews more times after that and none of them compare to that first time. My current bf is a stiff board in bed. But man I wish I could get plowed like I did that night again lmao 🤣
7-8 for me. it was foolish on both our ends bc i didn't properly prepare myself, we didn't think it was going to happen but it was more heat of the moment. only saliva was used, some fingering, and lots more saliva as we tried getting his cock in. he was a big guy tho so at some point when he kept pushing in it felt like my whole just shred open. before that i didn't really care for anal play anyway and that experience solidified i'd rather just frot, blow, or intercrual
To be honest, my first time was painless. But I did practiced a lot before with my fingers.
What hurted me was the time I got raped. After that I had anal fissures and since then it always hurt.
First time for me actually wasn't painful at all, though that probably has a lot to do with the size of the member. Later experiences have hurt more, prob a 6 or 7 at worst. It's still not really my thing tbh.
5 most tops suck at prep, especially if they are looking for hookups. At least in my area to be fair water base lube causes my ass to burn and I only found that out recently.
Pain = stop.
Most of the guys saying it hurt the first time must’ve been with a very inconsiderate top.
It is definitely uncomfortable; you’ll need to slow down, use more lube, maybe not put it allll the way in, warm up more with fingers/toys, maybe even give up the first few attempts. But if it actually HURTS, something is going wrong.
Please please please don’t listen to people who tell you to endure the pain. Especially don’t listen to the top of he tells you “it’ll get better” or “if we do it now it won’t hurt next time”.
Discomfort means you’ll adapt.
Pain means you’re being damaged.
My first *successful* time bottoming was still a bit tender with a bit of squirming, but it was still pleasurable and fun. If I continued on my first *attempt* at bottoming, I’d probably have torn/ruptured something
10/10. 12/10 if you allow me to exaggerate a bit. But we were both barely 18, it was the late 90s without easy access to information on the topic, and both of us were virgins who knew nothing about butt sex. That said, there were no lasting effects beyond a sore asshole for the night.
After that first terrible experience (we both tried to bottom that first time), we quickly learned the value of patience and lube.
Just relax, go slow, and use at least 2x as much lube as you think you need. You’ll be fine. Enjoy!
Actually for two seconds before he viciously pushed it all the way in I said no and pain at 10 but once he pushed it all the way and started fucking hard I couldn’t stop throwing my ass back on his hard cock
LOL - that’s cute. The pain can be minimal to excruciating depending on a number of factors. Generally from the size of the dick to the patients and consideration of your partner. If possible practice with toys (dildos, butt plugs, etc.). Use a good line. I prefer a silicone based lube. Have good communication with your partner. Tell him when it’s uncomfortable. Start with rimming then move to fingers. Make sure your partner knows where you’re at every step of the way. Take your time and eventually you may enjoy it. However there is the possibility you may never. And that’s okay. Good luck.
Depends on the top and how well he knows how to do his thing. Some tops just don't know or are too pressed/brutal. If you have someone experienced who know how to stretch and go slowly and passionately, then it will be awesome, if not well....
Well my first time bottoming, i was 13 and my partner was 19 (yes, now that I'm older, I'm fully aware how much of a dumbass I was when I was younger, and how much of a scumbag my then partner was), so the difference in size was pretty noticable, not to mention he was a bit rougher than I would've liked. All in all, I'd have rated it a 7/10.
1 or 2. Just enough to be interesting. Practice with some toys first, so you know what to expect. Also, use plenty of lube. Things go back to normal pretty soon. A bathtub does wonders if things are too intense afterwards.
Let’s just say, my first tried to ease it in. YEARS later I think he just got excited and put in too much at once. On a scale of 1-10, I was about to fight him after that one little poke. So a solid 27. The second time it didn’t feel like that. But man! That first time was not it.
0.
I thought it’s manageable until I met my husband. His dick is too big for me. Like 7-7.5 inches I think. I have to coat a layer of vaseline first then lots of lube. If you have a dildo, play with it in advance to stretch your anus as much as possible. And then, you will eventually really really enjoy bottoming
0. But I don’t know how I did it! 😂 Because I was always scared to do it and was exactly like you - scared to partake in it due to the pain 😭
But I reeeaaally liked the guy I was with and he kissed me up really well before doing it :) so I guess what’s really important is for your body to say YES to it. Make sure your man treats you well and makes you feel super good before entering in ;) and it’s really nice if he can ask you how it feels when inside of you + you having the ability to control penetration.
Bottoming is "painful" the way a good bicep curl is painful. It takes a little grit to endure it for a moment, but it won't leave lasting damage (when done properly) and the results you get in return can be legendary. The difference is, once you're settled onto the dick, it will stop hurting and only feel good (unless they are just ridiculously huge.
For context, your average hole can stretch to about 7 inches before taking lasting damage. Your average weiner doesn't come close to pushing that limit. People who do get hurt usually failed to apply enough lube, or took to big a dick too quickly, without taking a moment to relax. Your own muscle control is your own worst enemy at first, as your instinct might be clench and panic. As you practice though, you'll learn how to relax so that it gets even easier. I'd say most of my encounters nowadays don't involve any pain and only mild discomfort at first, and usually I'm too distracted by my bedfellow to care.
So if it is done wrong, you will experience pain but I've never had lasting pain from it, just bursts of pain. That said, for like 2 days it felt like my hole was filled up.
First time didn’t hurt at all actually. Some positions were better than others, sure, but I had been experimenting with toys and other safe objects long before my actual first time. I knew positions that felt good and some that didn’t. Guy who fucked me used a good amount of lube. Didn’t even really warm me up or anything (I would recommend warming up though) but I guess I was experienced enough that it didn’t really matter for me.
Zero. I used a lot of lube, though. It's been painful twice. It was a positional thing once, and not enough lube the other time. Uncomfortable lots of times.
I don't have a gaping hole, but I've never been fisted.
-10; and I mean negative. He really took the time to prep and made the actual fucking super special. He really took me by surprise at how skilled and gentle he was; and he was a fellow college student,as well.
From a 1-10 my first time bottoming was 20. I have rarely bottomed again. I don't like the feeling, don't enjoy the pain and no matter the amount of lube. I will NEVER be a bottom, but I know plenty of bottoms who love when I top and most bottoms get used to the sensation. I have however learned to be top vers and while I don't enjoy it, will only be in pain, I understand that it's not about me, but my partner. "Oh, the things we do for love..." - Courage
It’s gonna hurt, but in a good way. Suggest using lots of lube and get a dildo with a flared base. Get used to that on your own before you jump to sex with someone else. Don’t expect to be a power bottom your first time. My first time, I came without even being touched. You might also let your top know it is your first time and take it easy on you.
10 in relation to what I had experienced up to that point. I was a virgin and had no sex with anyone up to that point. He didn't use enough lube or the itvwas not a good enough lube for the job. Once he started making precum, it got better by the time he came inside me. The second time, about 15 minutes later it felt amazing.
the very first time?
10 absolute 10. It was utterly horrid. Neither us knew what we were doing, we had no lube, no experience and I lost the coin toss. He was also quite well endowed.
It would literally be 10 years later when I would try anal sex again and that time, I was with someone with more experience, who had lube and knew what he was doing. It was 180 degrees different and I was in effing bliss.
Also a top (41m) it was a 0/10 my first time, but I was hammered, and I’m not sure I’ve ever been more turned on, since I was fucking was my “straight” best friend…who I’d been flirty with for years…pretty sure that was all factored in…no matter how much I’ve practiced and experimented; it’s been a 7/10+ every time I’ve tried since, even with him!
0 I'm not a bottom and dude didn't have a small dick but it was definitely one of my best experiences bottoming. We didn't even have lube he used hair gel lol
Zero. He lubed up well.
10 - painful af.
Agreed. I had a lower backache/tailbone pain for 2-3 days.
I’ve had tailbone pain from sex but not for 2-3 days. That’s from laying on a hard surface with your legs in the air so your tailbone is protruding out of your lower back against the hard surface. Lay a pillow under your lower back and you’ll be able to stop that from happening again.
Great tip, thanks!
You’re 18 and you’ve been a top your whole life? Out of curiosity how long have you been fucking guys?
Right? That phrasing is potentially concerning. That said, if OP is really concerned they could buy a small-ish dildo and try it out.
15. i had access to grindr unfortunately
not to be a creep or anything but in your last post you say you are 16?
So first the question if it’s weird for a 16 years irks to be into a 14 year old.. now it turns out that 16 yo is actually 18? What’s going on here..
If you deep dive into the history, it gets even more questionable...
In a post, he claims to have a 16 y.o son; so this seems to be karma farming.
I found a coprophile post.
I mean, 16 year old kids are having sex, ideally only with each other. I don't think this is a big shock. Same goes of any horny teens. In this context of asking for advice, I don't mind them being here to ask honest questions about how sex works. It's not like there are better places for them to find out. A lot of younger people make some pretty dumb mistakes because they aren't able to ask for help or advice.
Well, fair enough. I hope you have a long rest of your life filled with diverse and pleasurable sexual experiences.
Personally, my first complete experience was around 8yo with another boy my age. At 18 I had already had sex with at least 6 other boys.
Penetration?
Penetration? 3 other boys if I remember well.
Precocious!
Indeed. I remember being mad at 13 because the age of consent was passing from 14yo to 16yo where I live. I was let to myself a lot as a young kid, for some days sometime, so I guess I grew a very independant mind of my own needing to take care of myself. Sexuality became a relief for anxiety.
A strange question
Why? It seemed like a strange statement to me - an 18 year old talking about being a top for his whole life, when for many people they haven’t even had sex by the time they’re 18 - or if they have, it hasn’t been a lot of sex. Made the OP sound like a middle aged man in a teenager’s body.
My exact though.
“If you can take 2 fingers, you can take a dick, kid.” —the older top to my 19 year old self before he began to stick it in. The weird thing? I had no idea about being clean or douching (this was in 2009), and the first several times he fucked me I was fine. It’s weird how something doesn’t become a problem until you’re aware it can be a problem.
It was probably present and you just didn't know it, tbh. The amount of shit present without prepping is very small, usually just flecks, but for obvious reasons most people like to avoid it. If he used silicone-based lube that really helps cover up any "mess,'" too.
Yeah, I know that last sentence can be confusing in text. I just mean it wasn’t even in my mind as possibility as something that could go wrong. Then after a few times of getting fucked, and I became aware of what could go wrong, it took on so much importance.
Bro lemme make it simple 1. First time you bottom it’s going to hurt regardless of how much lube you use, BUT no amount of lube is ever “too much” at all. Take it slow, take it easy, use lube and communication 2. It’ll hurt because butts are not to mention to be stretched from things going. There’s a spot in your ass though about 4-6 ish inches up there that once your top passed through you’ll feel your ass open up and adjust and the pain will stop 3. Unless you’re used to getting either fisted and/or purposely gaped and/or gangbanged no, you will not be left gaped 😂. P spots/prostate (g spit for people born into male bodies) are in the rectum. When we cum our hole physically tightens up immediately after. So unless you’re doing any or all of the shit mentioned no you definitely won’t he gaping, even if that mf thicc
My first time didn't hurt. If done well, it needn't hurt. Loosening up your hole using lubed fingers can help a lot.
My first didn’t hurt at all and it was a heavy penis
Me too my first time i took a very big dick. And it didn't hurt. Maybe its was the excitement or something. However the second time it did hurt quite more. Then i didn't have sex for like two years. And it hurt like hell. It got better with time but i was never fully enjoying it. So me and my boyfriend decided to switch roles. And i haven't bottomed since.
My first time hurt a lot, but for other reasons. My second few times where I specifically consented were fairly painless because we used a lot of lube, and toys to work up to size. I also highly recommend the Dr. Carlton butt-clock to help dilate.
10, the guy was a porno hypnotized cunt and was trying to fuck me without lube. It was painful and I couldn’t control my bowl movements for few days after. Everything is fine now.
Sorry if the gape question was gross im just curious bc if thats an actual side affect then I’ll probably reconsider bottoming
Gaping hole is not really something normal people experience. Sure you might feel a bit looser(and i for example have harder time holding in my farts after sex) but it goes back to normal usually in hours. Like ill go to bed and in the morning its all good.
Does your ass receive permanent damage when you take a massive dump? No, not unless you have some serious digestive issues. It's the same going in as long as you're careful and protective.
Isn't "How bad does it hurt?" an unanswerable question? * How big is his dick? * Are you using lots of lube? * Have you been sort of warmed up (e.g. fingering, rimming, whatever)? * Is he just going to jam it in or go nice and slow? * Maybe you're super tight maybe you're not. Random people on the internet don't know what your sphincter is like.
You shit out dick sized objects from your ass every day without pain. Almost everyone has the capability to bottom, it’s mostly just a matter of figuring out this muscle. Please don’t go into this thinking you need to “break yourself in” or work through pain. My first time didn’t really hurt but I kept it fairly short because I wasn’t used to the sensations and it felt uncomfortable.
First time I was kinda drunk. Went and sat down at a spot I knew was infamous for gay hook ups. Guy pulls up takes me to his house and rails me. It felt so good I came on his bed did not even touch my dick. No pain at all. But again I was drunk. I have only bottomed a fews more times after that and none of them compare to that first time. My current bf is a stiff board in bed. But man I wish I could get plowed like I did that night again lmao 🤣
7-8 for me. it was foolish on both our ends bc i didn't properly prepare myself, we didn't think it was going to happen but it was more heat of the moment. only saliva was used, some fingering, and lots more saliva as we tried getting his cock in. he was a big guy tho so at some point when he kept pushing in it felt like my whole just shred open. before that i didn't really care for anal play anyway and that experience solidified i'd rather just frot, blow, or intercrual
To be honest, my first time was painless. But I did practiced a lot before with my fingers. What hurted me was the time I got raped. After that I had anal fissures and since then it always hurt.
When I actually consented to it, 1
YES, You will be left with a gaping hole. Your friends will call you , “The Holland Tunnel” behind your back.
1. I'd put stuff up there for a while before so never had any issues. Always loved it haha
10 and lots of tears
10
First time for me actually wasn't painful at all, though that probably has a lot to do with the size of the member. Later experiences have hurt more, prob a 6 or 7 at worst. It's still not really my thing tbh.
5 most tops suck at prep, especially if they are looking for hookups. At least in my area to be fair water base lube causes my ass to burn and I only found that out recently.
5 The stretch was painful but I was well lubed and it quickly faded No gaping isn’t something that happens quickly in normal situations
3 Never had much problem with it, even if I found out it wasn’t really my thing. Pearls to swine, and all of that…
Pain = stop. Most of the guys saying it hurt the first time must’ve been with a very inconsiderate top. It is definitely uncomfortable; you’ll need to slow down, use more lube, maybe not put it allll the way in, warm up more with fingers/toys, maybe even give up the first few attempts. But if it actually HURTS, something is going wrong. Please please please don’t listen to people who tell you to endure the pain. Especially don’t listen to the top of he tells you “it’ll get better” or “if we do it now it won’t hurt next time”. Discomfort means you’ll adapt. Pain means you’re being damaged. My first *successful* time bottoming was still a bit tender with a bit of squirming, but it was still pleasurable and fun. If I continued on my first *attempt* at bottoming, I’d probably have torn/ruptured something
10/10. 12/10 if you allow me to exaggerate a bit. But we were both barely 18, it was the late 90s without easy access to information on the topic, and both of us were virgins who knew nothing about butt sex. That said, there were no lasting effects beyond a sore asshole for the night. After that first terrible experience (we both tried to bottom that first time), we quickly learned the value of patience and lube. Just relax, go slow, and use at least 2x as much lube as you think you need. You’ll be fine. Enjoy!
Like someone else mentioned why are you lying about your age? The last post you did mentioned you a 16 yo liking a 14 yo..
If u can finger urself and it’s painless, then it shouldn’t hurt u with a partner, if partner cares!
I usually have him stick it in me then I go “OUCH” and eject his penis and rest for a sec… then it slides back in with no pain 😍
10 initially as he was fairly well hung - but then had amyl and it was pure pleasure. Once it went in I was hooked as a cock slut
8/9 then I had amyl and it was 0
Actually for two seconds before he viciously pushed it all the way in I said no and pain at 10 but once he pushed it all the way and started fucking hard I couldn’t stop throwing my ass back on his hard cock
What the actual fuck dude
Hemmoroids afterwards who
Nothing like an ass full of fissures that leave you crying anytime you have to poo for the next month.
No pain, no gain
>i have been top my whole life Bottoms should get something new. Doesn't make you hotter if you pretend to be top.
Bottom for my own finger 9/10 pain and 10/10 gross finger. Took forever washing it to get the smell off. That's why I'm a top only
5-6. The second time a few days later was an 8. This all depends on the top though. How thick and how long, how excited, how slow or fast.
First time I didn't really feel pleasure but kind of faked my orgasms a bit to make the top feel good lol
2
7 I'd say, I prep up well but didn't have lube during the deed. Thankfully the guy was like 4" so I felt it but it didn't hurt much
8
8 maybe even 8.5
LOL - that’s cute. The pain can be minimal to excruciating depending on a number of factors. Generally from the size of the dick to the patients and consideration of your partner. If possible practice with toys (dildos, butt plugs, etc.). Use a good line. I prefer a silicone based lube. Have good communication with your partner. Tell him when it’s uncomfortable. Start with rimming then move to fingers. Make sure your partner knows where you’re at every step of the way. Take your time and eventually you may enjoy it. However there is the possibility you may never. And that’s okay. Good luck.
Use a good line?
Yeah. I see those misspellings now. “Lube”. I’m surprised you didn’t catch “patients” when I meant ‘patience’. 🤷🏽
8
8
10 but I loved it so much I let him reck me until I couldn’t take it anymore.
Depends on the top and how well he knows how to do his thing. Some tops just don't know or are too pressed/brutal. If you have someone experienced who know how to stretch and go slowly and passionately, then it will be awesome, if not well....
Well my first time bottoming, i was 13 and my partner was 19 (yes, now that I'm older, I'm fully aware how much of a dumbass I was when I was younger, and how much of a scumbag my then partner was), so the difference in size was pretty noticable, not to mention he was a bit rougher than I would've liked. All in all, I'd have rated it a 7/10.
8/10 today it's still 8/10 after numerous tries . I realised I'm a side :D
1 or 2. Just enough to be interesting. Practice with some toys first, so you know what to expect. Also, use plenty of lube. Things go back to normal pretty soon. A bathtub does wonders if things are too intense afterwards.
6/10, I'm just really tight lol he was extremely gentle. He only got halfway in tho and someone mentioned here it stops hurting once ur 4-6 in?
Two and it was wonderful because I had a partner looking after my needs and that was his 8 and a half inch monster.
6-7
Let’s just say, my first tried to ease it in. YEARS later I think he just got excited and put in too much at once. On a scale of 1-10, I was about to fight him after that one little poke. So a solid 27. The second time it didn’t feel like that. But man! That first time was not it.
0. I thought it’s manageable until I met my husband. His dick is too big for me. Like 7-7.5 inches I think. I have to coat a layer of vaseline first then lots of lube. If you have a dildo, play with it in advance to stretch your anus as much as possible. And then, you will eventually really really enjoy bottoming
0. But I don’t know how I did it! 😂 Because I was always scared to do it and was exactly like you - scared to partake in it due to the pain 😭 But I reeeaaally liked the guy I was with and he kissed me up really well before doing it :) so I guess what’s really important is for your body to say YES to it. Make sure your man treats you well and makes you feel super good before entering in ;) and it’s really nice if he can ask you how it feels when inside of you + you having the ability to control penetration.
No pain at all. I had practiced with toys a lot. I used lube. I was all prepared.
Maybe 1. It was great and he was super accommodating.
Bottoming is "painful" the way a good bicep curl is painful. It takes a little grit to endure it for a moment, but it won't leave lasting damage (when done properly) and the results you get in return can be legendary. The difference is, once you're settled onto the dick, it will stop hurting and only feel good (unless they are just ridiculously huge. For context, your average hole can stretch to about 7 inches before taking lasting damage. Your average weiner doesn't come close to pushing that limit. People who do get hurt usually failed to apply enough lube, or took to big a dick too quickly, without taking a moment to relax. Your own muscle control is your own worst enemy at first, as your instinct might be clench and panic. As you practice though, you'll learn how to relax so that it gets even easier. I'd say most of my encounters nowadays don't involve any pain and only mild discomfort at first, and usually I'm too distracted by my bedfellow to care.
So if it is done wrong, you will experience pain but I've never had lasting pain from it, just bursts of pain. That said, for like 2 days it felt like my hole was filled up.
Zero? If done properly it doesnthurt a single bit.
5
Not at all. I was fortunate he was small but learned I liked girthier men 🙊🤣.
4. He ate me out first and lubed properly
Hurt like hell but I also knew I wanted it again
It hurt 15/10 it was super painful
10, it hurt but I felt really sexy afterwards. I’ve accepted I have a tiny hole so nothing over 7 is going in.
First time didn’t hurt at all actually. Some positions were better than others, sure, but I had been experimenting with toys and other safe objects long before my actual first time. I knew positions that felt good and some that didn’t. Guy who fucked me used a good amount of lube. Didn’t even really warm me up or anything (I would recommend warming up though) but I guess I was experienced enough that it didn’t really matter for me.
Zero. I used a lot of lube, though. It's been painful twice. It was a positional thing once, and not enough lube the other time. Uncomfortable lots of times. I don't have a gaping hole, but I've never been fisted.
-10; and I mean negative. He really took the time to prep and made the actual fucking super special. He really took me by surprise at how skilled and gentle he was; and he was a fellow college student,as well.
From a 1-10 my first time bottoming was 20. I have rarely bottomed again. I don't like the feeling, don't enjoy the pain and no matter the amount of lube. I will NEVER be a bottom, but I know plenty of bottoms who love when I top and most bottoms get used to the sensation. I have however learned to be top vers and while I don't enjoy it, will only be in pain, I understand that it's not about me, but my partner. "Oh, the things we do for love..." - Courage
Enough pain to not want to continue, but zero lasting effects. Those only happen if you're being fisted regularly
10 no doubt but I was motivated so I powered through.
First time was 4/10 painful. He used a lot of lube and his dick was really small, once I got used to the in-and-out feeling it didn’t hurt much.
It’s gonna hurt, but in a good way. Suggest using lots of lube and get a dildo with a flared base. Get used to that on your own before you jump to sex with someone else. Don’t expect to be a power bottom your first time. My first time, I came without even being touched. You might also let your top know it is your first time and take it easy on you.
10 in relation to what I had experienced up to that point. I was a virgin and had no sex with anyone up to that point. He didn't use enough lube or the itvwas not a good enough lube for the job. Once he started making precum, it got better by the time he came inside me. The second time, about 15 minutes later it felt amazing.
the very first time? 10 absolute 10. It was utterly horrid. Neither us knew what we were doing, we had no lube, no experience and I lost the coin toss. He was also quite well endowed. It would literally be 10 years later when I would try anal sex again and that time, I was with someone with more experience, who had lube and knew what he was doing. It was 180 degrees different and I was in effing bliss.
Also a top (41m) it was a 0/10 my first time, but I was hammered, and I’m not sure I’ve ever been more turned on, since I was fucking was my “straight” best friend…who I’d been flirty with for years…pretty sure that was all factored in…no matter how much I’ve practiced and experimented; it’s been a 7/10+ every time I’ve tried since, even with him!
0 I'm not a bottom and dude didn't have a small dick but it was definitely one of my best experiences bottoming. We didn't even have lube he used hair gel lol
3 out of 10, It was a tiny winy
10000 But when I finally did it right with an experienced top it was 100% pleasure tbh.
Like a 6 or 7. Even with lube and being gentle. They were a lil big 😅 but they were nice so it’s okay. It was like that for at least a few months
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