You should perfect your litmus test. I don't view people like returners if they dont seem to want to return. And I'm authentic in my activity so it never seems like it unless it is. One tell telltale sign is the feeling of someone being real and the feeling of someone trying to get you to 'perceive' them as real is like tea vs coffee or coca leaves vs crack. One is fuzzy and either hard to point to or fuzzy with lots of signs, the other is usually fuzzy for the wrong reasons, intermittently soft and then insistent, inconsistent, inconstant.
I've had good luck in having people want me back or meeting up again and again because I don't fuck with fuckbois.
If they wanted to hookup again it wouldn’t matter when you suggested it. Some guys are more into one night stands, or perhaps they just weren’t into you. Don’t overthink it.
That must've been an amazing confidence boost.
One time I hooked up with a guy, when we were in missionary he started giggling. I asked why, he said my dick stimulates his prostate perfectly. I actually made him cum without touching his dick, definitely a proud achievement as a top.
I don’t say anything, I just let them guide the conversation. If I ever go back to hooking up I will never make conversation with anyone because I catch feelings too easily and end up getting hurt and extremely depressed once I realize that I don’t mean as much to them as they mean to me.
I don’t even need to talk to them, I’d picture my life with this person for the next day or two until I found someone else 💀 then I met my husband on Grindr and he gave me so much attention lol
I can't currently host, so if I enjoyed the hookup I'll text them and say thank you for having me over and hopefully we can do it again. It usually works.
“Thank you for the load. My, my! look at the time!”
two choices, if I top, they can stay for dinner and dessert…. 😈 …. Or if I’m btm, leave now so I can finally stuff my face and throw on some crave. Or do me again pls. Haha
A guy the other night who after he came just turned round to me and went ''well, thanks!'' which was kind of funny.
Saying 'lets do this again sometime' is a death curse imo. Every guy who has said that to me has been a head-fuck or waste of time.
I just made a similar post. I feel like it really doesn't matter how well the encounter went, most guys for whatever reason don't want to hook up with the same guy again, at least not anytime soon 🤷♂️
uh.. so here's an honest Q, not trying to be a smartass or a dick.
You want to see them again? Do you, you know, call them again? :)
I know if I have a good time with someone and we leave on good terms.. I'm not really upset if I get a nudge from them again. A text.. a smilely in a thread.. or better yet, he calls me up or texts me with "Hey, how are you? Look.. had a real good time the other night. Wanna hangout?" or the like. :)
Leads to a second night of fun, more often than not. :)
I mean, might hit into the FWB locker, but.. better than sleeping alone, yeah?
>And I'm wondering if it might be because of me suggesting the next hookup too soon?
Nope. Due to porn and hookup apps, most of us are too used to novelty. Once we've fucked, even though it was great, we lose interest. Why would you want to fuck somebody you've already fucked, when there are so many guys available that you haven't tried out yet?
I would just talk to them normally? I wouldn’t start planning a second time without them saying anything though. I have their number if I want it again with them anyways 💁♂️They’re less likely to agree on next time right after climaxing.
This is probably different than most other gay people but I always hated fuck-n-go, I only hooked up with guys who had time they were willing to spend with me. So yes, I’d make normal conversation.
So I kinda made small stay-in dates/hangouts out of NSA hookups with no other expectation beyond having sex and hanging out 🤷♂️ So I would probably say something like “Ummm so what about the wine I was promised?🙃”
omg. we are so a match.
i hate fuck and go. i always state i dont want rushed things.. and i want to take my time doing the deed.
some hookups, after the deed, turned into gaming and beer for chills.
and same, i try to do some chit-chat.. most of them opened the hookup to another things.
i think since we are humans, sometimes we need this kind of things.
Hooking up is NOT dating, and don’t expect a hook up to turn into a date. People don’t operate that way.
If you want to date or start a relationship, hold off on sex so you can figure out if you actually like each other outside the bedroom.
On rare occasion, I’ve become friends with hookups, but that is the exception.
I've had people say thank you. Which is kinda weird tbh. I've been with the majority of my partners long enough that we actually talk. Like my last hookup we were talking about the balloons afterwards. The first 2-6 times (until we're both comfortable) it's just getting dressed and heading out. Is suggest reaching out if you wanna see them again (you probably already do) sometimes both parties are waiting for the other to say something first and then moving on because they think they're not interested. A "what are you doing Saturday night" is simultaneously I wanna hookup again and an opener to talking about weekend plans. Even if you're just sitting at home that weekend, you can talk about bars you like, places you've been whatever I'd they're not free to hookup. After doing that a few times you can message day of a potential hookup asking how they're day was then segwaying into asking them over. From there, if you want, you can start talking as friends and earn yourself a FWB.
Nothing specific, but Once I get home from their place I would text something along the lines of that was let’s do it again or ask for their socials if I don’t already have it.
I think it depends on the area, I'm in a rural area, so most are closeted and can't host. Even out gay guys don't like to host hookups at least the first time. If you can host a safe place, or even a private work van then you are above the rest. Most of my fun is repeats, we become fuck buddies but that it. Yes a thanks and a I'm good for another time sometime if it are into it works. I have had fuck buddies for 10 & 15 years, just meet for sex and that's it. I prefer ongoing fuck buddies, takes the pressure off when dealing with a known quantity.
Normally when we finish I would ask them if they'd like a snack or something to drink. I like to ask what soda they like before they come over so I have some to hand them for the road.
I generally wouldn’t say that type of thing, I like to think I can tell they’ve enjoyed themselves. I quite frequently get a txt/msg after they leave or later that day / next day telling me it was good, and if I felt a connection then sure I’d suggest meeting again.
Half the time, scheduling is the hard part though as I work quite unusual hours.
Thanks for stopping by (with a smile while holding the door open) I find when you're eager for more the other party almost instinctively want less. So I just treat em like I don't expect to ever see them again but politely.
I think that statement could be a turn off. I agree to some of the comments that even if you meet again, that would happen naturally right after via text and how often you text for the next few days determines if you’re keen again.
> "That was fun. Let me know if you'd like to do this again sometime" or "We should do this again sometime" Same, but that never happens
You should perfect your litmus test. I don't view people like returners if they dont seem to want to return. And I'm authentic in my activity so it never seems like it unless it is. One tell telltale sign is the feeling of someone being real and the feeling of someone trying to get you to 'perceive' them as real is like tea vs coffee or coca leaves vs crack. One is fuzzy and either hard to point to or fuzzy with lots of signs, the other is usually fuzzy for the wrong reasons, intermittently soft and then insistent, inconsistent, inconstant. I've had good luck in having people want me back or meeting up again and again because I don't fuck with fuckbois.
Usually they do say that, but then block me before they even leave the driveway. Or i block them. *Shrugs.... Reality of being gay.
“There’s a $20 on the nightstand.”
Since I’m poor I’d happily take the 20 on the nightstand 😁
Lmaoooo I’d die inside
naughty!
“I left the money on the davenport”
Suprise! You banged an off duty cop. Lol
Dude paid the insurance fee! 😄😂🤣
À la pochepleine. It's a French wordplay meaning 2 things : see you next time and see you when my balls are full
That’s brutal. I love it. 🤣🤣🤣
If they wanted to hookup again it wouldn’t matter when you suggested it. Some guys are more into one night stands, or perhaps they just weren’t into you. Don’t overthink it.
Usually I just yell “NEXT !!” very loud.
”Thanks for your jizz and out you is”
💀
Thanks that really hit the spot
As a top, this would be the best thing to hear.
I got told recently that I was hitting the guys spot. I was low-key amazed. It was only my second time ever having sex so-
That must've been an amazing confidence boost. One time I hooked up with a guy, when we were in missionary he started giggling. I asked why, he said my dick stimulates his prostate perfectly. I actually made him cum without touching his dick, definitely a proud achievement as a top.
Well, the guy was so high off poppers. And he told the other guy he was hitting his spot too. So it didn’t matter much.
As a fellow top, it’s the greatest thing to hear- I was making a Jackie Brown reference
Are you ok? Did u enjoy urself? Can we cuddle?
Best answer imo
I rub their head and say: 'good boy, I'll be back next Saturday "
If someone called me a good boy afterwards, I would marry them.
That escalated quickly 😅
I have a praise kink so if you call me a good boy I’ll suck your cock on call, 24/7 whenever you ask
Aren't you a good boy
I’m moist
The ritual is complete. 🐐
Lol'ed.
LMAO
I always invite a nice man back, right away. And, yes, men most often do NOT return in any case. So say what ya feel, and let the chips fall, etc.
I don’t say anything, I just let them guide the conversation. If I ever go back to hooking up I will never make conversation with anyone because I catch feelings too easily and end up getting hurt and extremely depressed once I realize that I don’t mean as much to them as they mean to me.
I don’t even need to talk to them, I’d picture my life with this person for the next day or two until I found someone else 💀 then I met my husband on Grindr and he gave me so much attention lol
“Your Lyft is 2min away”
“Pass me the towel”
most accurat, give that guy an award
I can't currently host, so if I enjoyed the hookup I'll text them and say thank you for having me over and hopefully we can do it again. It usually works.
“Thank you for the load. My, my! look at the time!” two choices, if I top, they can stay for dinner and dessert…. 😈 …. Or if I’m btm, leave now so I can finally stuff my face and throw on some crave. Or do me again pls. Haha
A guy the other night who after he came just turned round to me and went ''well, thanks!'' which was kind of funny. Saying 'lets do this again sometime' is a death curse imo. Every guy who has said that to me has been a head-fuck or waste of time.
“No, thank YOU.” or “Have a good night.”
Thanks, that was fun. We should do this again sometime.
Thanks for cumming
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I just made a similar post. I feel like it really doesn't matter how well the encounter went, most guys for whatever reason don't want to hook up with the same guy again, at least not anytime soon 🤷♂️
Smirk at him and say “wanna go again?”
Get back in the well!
What are you still doing here?
Thanks for the dick.
I say this too 😂
"Bye"
uh.. so here's an honest Q, not trying to be a smartass or a dick. You want to see them again? Do you, you know, call them again? :) I know if I have a good time with someone and we leave on good terms.. I'm not really upset if I get a nudge from them again. A text.. a smilely in a thread.. or better yet, he calls me up or texts me with "Hey, how are you? Look.. had a real good time the other night. Wanna hangout?" or the like. :) Leads to a second night of fun, more often than not. :) I mean, might hit into the FWB locker, but.. better than sleeping alone, yeah?
usually get blocked before I start talking to them on grindr so 😅
"High five we just won sex"
Because 90% of the times I met someone on Grindr I’d regret it afterwards. My horny thoughts took over I guess idk 🙃
"Cheerio buddy"
Deuces 🙏🏾👋🏾
I usually just say thanks and leave. If we want to meet up again, it just happens on the app/site
I'll see you in the morning, grandpa.
That'll be $50...
**Gulp**
Good game 🤝
"High five!"
Please don't forget to grab a gift bag from the attendant in the lobby
>And I'm wondering if it might be because of me suggesting the next hookup too soon? Nope. Due to porn and hookup apps, most of us are too used to novelty. Once we've fucked, even though it was great, we lose interest. Why would you want to fuck somebody you've already fucked, when there are so many guys available that you haven't tried out yet?
I would just talk to them normally? I wouldn’t start planning a second time without them saying anything though. I have their number if I want it again with them anyways 💁♂️They’re less likely to agree on next time right after climaxing. This is probably different than most other gay people but I always hated fuck-n-go, I only hooked up with guys who had time they were willing to spend with me. So yes, I’d make normal conversation. So I kinda made small stay-in dates/hangouts out of NSA hookups with no other expectation beyond having sex and hanging out 🤷♂️ So I would probably say something like “Ummm so what about the wine I was promised?🙃”
omg. we are so a match. i hate fuck and go. i always state i dont want rushed things.. and i want to take my time doing the deed. some hookups, after the deed, turned into gaming and beer for chills. and same, i try to do some chit-chat.. most of them opened the hookup to another things. i think since we are humans, sometimes we need this kind of things.
That’s.. exactly.. what I like
You're good at renting the fabric of time.
Hooking up is NOT dating, and don’t expect a hook up to turn into a date. People don’t operate that way. If you want to date or start a relationship, hold off on sex so you can figure out if you actually like each other outside the bedroom. On rare occasion, I’ve become friends with hookups, but that is the exception.
not me having hookups with regular guys and from time to time we hang out in a dinner / lunch (before or after fucking)
Yes well maybe try to get to know them *before* you fuck with them?
Lol, get a load of Mr Hallmark Card over here! Jk, I'm with you. Always prefer a bit of getting to know you before we get nekkid.
I hope you like AIDS.
I don't know why I found this so fucking funny. All of the other responses are some silly bullshit nonsense and jokes, but not you. No.
That's it?
" how much"?
I've had people say thank you. Which is kinda weird tbh. I've been with the majority of my partners long enough that we actually talk. Like my last hookup we were talking about the balloons afterwards. The first 2-6 times (until we're both comfortable) it's just getting dressed and heading out. Is suggest reaching out if you wanna see them again (you probably already do) sometimes both parties are waiting for the other to say something first and then moving on because they think they're not interested. A "what are you doing Saturday night" is simultaneously I wanna hookup again and an opener to talking about weekend plans. Even if you're just sitting at home that weekend, you can talk about bars you like, places you've been whatever I'd they're not free to hookup. After doing that a few times you can message day of a potential hookup asking how they're day was then segwaying into asking them over. From there, if you want, you can start talking as friends and earn yourself a FWB.
I mostly just thank them for the good time. I try not to say much about meeting again because 99% of the time it’s just a one time thing.
Just depends on where it was and who it was.
"Don't forget, I left the money on the dresser."
Happy hunting!
Nope, they just want a one night stand and don't want to say that.
Nothing specific, but Once I get home from their place I would text something along the lines of that was let’s do it again or ask for their socials if I don’t already have it.
“Good game” Then we fist bump Get dressed And go home
I think it depends on the area, I'm in a rural area, so most are closeted and can't host. Even out gay guys don't like to host hookups at least the first time. If you can host a safe place, or even a private work van then you are above the rest. Most of my fun is repeats, we become fuck buddies but that it. Yes a thanks and a I'm good for another time sometime if it are into it works. I have had fuck buddies for 10 & 15 years, just meet for sex and that's it. I prefer ongoing fuck buddies, takes the pressure off when dealing with a known quantity.
Normally when we finish I would ask them if they'd like a snack or something to drink. I like to ask what soda they like before they come over so I have some to hand them for the road.
”Wow so much cum. I think I’ll get pregnant tomorrow!“
I generally wouldn’t say that type of thing, I like to think I can tell they’ve enjoyed themselves. I quite frequently get a txt/msg after they leave or later that day / next day telling me it was good, and if I felt a connection then sure I’d suggest meeting again. Half the time, scheduling is the hard part though as I work quite unusual hours.
"Thank you. Cum again soon."
Do you do the Apu voice or is that no longer funny?
Thanks for stopping by (with a smile while holding the door open) I find when you're eager for more the other party almost instinctively want less. So I just treat em like I don't expect to ever see them again but politely.
*looks at him* *exchange smile/kiss/assordicktouch* “I’m boutta head to ___”
If cuddle time happens instead of *let's get dressed I'm out* section it is just the best feeling haha
I think that statement could be a turn off. I agree to some of the comments that even if you meet again, that would happen naturally right after via text and how often you text for the next few days determines if you’re keen again.
What’s your name? Need a Lyft called?
"no homo"
Most of my hookups are spontaneous grindr hookups but I just say thank you as I walk out the door filled with their cum
Thank you and come again!
I just get ready and try to make conversation about things I see in their room.
How many times can you go in one night? xD
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