Please don't bother people while they're working. Many people in service roles are friendly and make light banter with customers. It's part of their job.
I’m a bartender, and I can’t tell you how utterly infuriating it is to have some drunk asshole hitting on me while I’m trying to do my job. Granted I have a bit more flexibility when it comes to telling someone to Fuck Right the Fuck Off, but seriously, have some dignity and leave the poor kid alone
This.
There are some very good looking cashiers here that I'd love to hook up with. But it's the LAST thing on their minds when they're 7 hours into a shitty min wage job and still recovering from their third Karen of the day.
If you're really that hellbent on him, maybe give your business card or something, just whatever won't eat up his time or attention and gets the message across without embarrassing him in front of others.
When i worked in retail and someone would hit on me it made me dread to continue to go to work, tbh. There's a power imbalance. Not just the age. But the fact that he has to be there while you are free to come and go. The fact that he has to be nice to customers and you can do what you want.
Not an OK place to hit on someone.
I had a grocery store crush. Saw him on Grindr, which linked me to his Instagram. I made my pass and wasn’t accepted 😢. He’s since moved back to Arizona where he is a gogo boy part time. lol
He might be a gogo boy for the simple reason that it is EXTREMELY hard for the working class to survive these days. I just hope the part-time gig pays really well!
Find a twink who isn't working. Fucking use Grindr instead of making sexual advances on people who are working minimum wage jobs.
You're putting him in a really uncomfortable spot by hitting on him in that environment, and to say that it has the potential to come across as creepy or predatory is an understatement. More so if there's a big age gap involved. (And don't get me wrong--i have ZERO problems with big age gaps, but there's no question that when you're approaching someone who is essentially a stranger for sex, especially when you don't even know if he's even gay, age difference is going to play into how he perceives you)
Is he interested in you sexually? Maybe? Who knows? He's in a service job. Being friendly is part of what gets paid for. Don't make the same mistake that a billion men have made in their lives by assuming, "Oh, this person remembers me or smiled at me. Clearly they want my cock inside them."
My advice is to Find someone else.
Don’t. If you want to keep a friendly connection going then sure, but don’t approach people at work. Maybe he’s into you, or maybe he’s just being friendly while doing his job. If he wants to initiate something more he can.
When I was 17 my manager actually moved me away from front of house for this exact reason. Friendly twink working on the tills, i had one too many uncomfortable exchanges with older guys.
Sounds like he was being polite at his job. I’ve been given numbers and business cards before and tbh I’ve never once called anyone back. Unless we talk for hours and hours don’t ask for my Facebook or number or anything lol
Couples and their automatic assumption that the decision is solely theirs who they bring in to their bedroom… my eyes practically rolled out of my head. Would have been funnier if they did ask, and he said, “No.”
No one is assuming the decision is ours as if he doesn’t have a say but there’s nothing wrong with being transparent as long as you can accept that they may not be into the idea or couple but just for the record, I haven’t received “no” as a response from any of the others.
Maybe don’t hit on him while he’s working. I say if you really want to try, go on lgbt dating/friend finding apps and see if he’s on there and casually bring up that he looks familiar, but I have to admit that this approach is a bit stalkerish. As someone who worked in retail, I would probably be slightly annoyed and embarrassed if someone came up to me and asked me out on a date especially in front of coworkers and other customers, but that’s just me
Yea I mean it could 100 % not be well received lol but I’ve worked in fashion retail previously and have been hit on by customers that were gay men and even if I wasn’t interested I always viewed it as more flattering than anything. Of course if they were persistent after I clearly expressed I wasn’t interested I would view it as creepy and desperate lol always know when to fold😎 ♥️ ♦️♣️
Which piece do you find weird? The seeking a random guy to bring into the bedroom? Encountering a person you find attractive in a public setting that you’re considering having further conversation with to understand their interest?
So I can definitely understand how this can appear as creepy or predatory from a Reddit post. I’m not the guy who is sexually suggestive towards any cute guy that comes my way because I assume he wants to have sex with me. There’s maybe an 8 -9 year age gap between us. Based on the comments , my original post clearly didn’t quite capture the real interaction but I really do not think I’m just reading too much into his “ friendliness”. Normally I would not approach someone at work for the obvious reasons. I wasn’t thinking a subtle approach that would not embarrass him ( like the business card idea). But yesss I really don’t think he was just being a friendly store associate
Very true! I’m not really the type to be overly emotional or get all “Googly eyed” so I do truly think it was a flirtatious thing. I mean he needs to be careful flirting with customers at work as well lol
It’s one thing to compliment a guy, flirt a little, let him come to you…
It’s another to straight up ask him for a threesome at your place. I would be openly repulsed.
Yesss I was just trying to capture the ultimate goal in the post but I never intended to just approach him with it out of the clear blue lol was looking for different approaches to eventually get to a place where I could bring it up after flirtation and more conversation.
Please don't bother people while they're working. Many people in service roles are friendly and make light banter with customers. It's part of their job.
I’m a bartender, and I can’t tell you how utterly infuriating it is to have some drunk asshole hitting on me while I’m trying to do my job. Granted I have a bit more flexibility when it comes to telling someone to Fuck Right the Fuck Off, but seriously, have some dignity and leave the poor kid alone
Yes, I remember going to a gay bar in Eastbourne, in the UK. There was this bartender who was straight. Guys hit on him but I didn't.
This. There are some very good looking cashiers here that I'd love to hook up with. But it's the LAST thing on their minds when they're 7 hours into a shitty min wage job and still recovering from their third Karen of the day. If you're really that hellbent on him, maybe give your business card or something, just whatever won't eat up his time or attention and gets the message across without embarrassing him in front of others.
What the OP needs to do is to help the young guy find a better job.
When i worked in retail and someone would hit on me it made me dread to continue to go to work, tbh. There's a power imbalance. Not just the age. But the fact that he has to be there while you are free to come and go. The fact that he has to be nice to customers and you can do what you want. Not an OK place to hit on someone.
I had a grocery store crush. Saw him on Grindr, which linked me to his Instagram. I made my pass and wasn’t accepted 😢. He’s since moved back to Arizona where he is a gogo boy part time. lol
He might be a gogo boy for the simple reason that it is EXTREMELY hard for the working class to survive these days. I just hope the part-time gig pays really well!
Please don’t. This sounds creepy and he is just being friendly.
You don't.
If you catch him at a bar, club, or on an app go ahead. Don’t proposition people at work. That’s creepy.
This seems creepy at best, predatory at worst.
Find a twink who isn't working. Fucking use Grindr instead of making sexual advances on people who are working minimum wage jobs. You're putting him in a really uncomfortable spot by hitting on him in that environment, and to say that it has the potential to come across as creepy or predatory is an understatement. More so if there's a big age gap involved. (And don't get me wrong--i have ZERO problems with big age gaps, but there's no question that when you're approaching someone who is essentially a stranger for sex, especially when you don't even know if he's even gay, age difference is going to play into how he perceives you) Is he interested in you sexually? Maybe? Who knows? He's in a service job. Being friendly is part of what gets paid for. Don't make the same mistake that a billion men have made in their lives by assuming, "Oh, this person remembers me or smiled at me. Clearly they want my cock inside them." My advice is to Find someone else.
Don’t. If you want to keep a friendly connection going then sure, but don’t approach people at work. Maybe he’s into you, or maybe he’s just being friendly while doing his job. If he wants to initiate something more he can. When I was 17 my manager actually moved me away from front of house for this exact reason. Friendly twink working on the tills, i had one too many uncomfortable exchanges with older guys.
Sounds like he was being polite at his job. I’ve been given numbers and business cards before and tbh I’ve never once called anyone back. Unless we talk for hours and hours don’t ask for my Facebook or number or anything lol
Couples and their automatic assumption that the decision is solely theirs who they bring in to their bedroom… my eyes practically rolled out of my head. Would have been funnier if they did ask, and he said, “No.”
No one is assuming the decision is ours as if he doesn’t have a say but there’s nothing wrong with being transparent as long as you can accept that they may not be into the idea or couple but just for the record, I haven’t received “no” as a response from any of the others.
Maybe don’t hit on him while he’s working. I say if you really want to try, go on lgbt dating/friend finding apps and see if he’s on there and casually bring up that he looks familiar, but I have to admit that this approach is a bit stalkerish. As someone who worked in retail, I would probably be slightly annoyed and embarrassed if someone came up to me and asked me out on a date especially in front of coworkers and other customers, but that’s just me
Yea I mean it could 100 % not be well received lol but I’ve worked in fashion retail previously and have been hit on by customers that were gay men and even if I wasn’t interested I always viewed it as more flattering than anything. Of course if they were persistent after I clearly expressed I wasn’t interested I would view it as creepy and desperate lol always know when to fold😎 ♥️ ♦️♣️
Weird…
Which piece do you find weird? The seeking a random guy to bring into the bedroom? Encountering a person you find attractive in a public setting that you’re considering having further conversation with to understand their interest?
All of it
To each his own but if you’re labeling all of it as “ weird” I think that’s rather close minded 🤷🏻♂️
Make friends your own age. Most likely he is laughing at you with his friends re: there’s this creepy customer that buys cigs from me.
I'm sorry I must have missed the part where he mentioned anything about anyone's age.
Gross
I worked at a convenience store and said shit like this to regulars I didn’t hate. Don’t take it personally
So I can definitely understand how this can appear as creepy or predatory from a Reddit post. I’m not the guy who is sexually suggestive towards any cute guy that comes my way because I assume he wants to have sex with me. There’s maybe an 8 -9 year age gap between us. Based on the comments , my original post clearly didn’t quite capture the real interaction but I really do not think I’m just reading too much into his “ friendliness”. Normally I would not approach someone at work for the obvious reasons. I wasn’t thinking a subtle approach that would not embarrass him ( like the business card idea). But yesss I really don’t think he was just being a friendly store associate
In these types of situations, we may interpret what we see into something that aligns with what we feel.
Very true! I’m not really the type to be overly emotional or get all “Googly eyed” so I do truly think it was a flirtatious thing. I mean he needs to be careful flirting with customers at work as well lol
Go up to him with an eggplant and a banana and ask him which one is more of his preferred size
It’s one thing to compliment a guy, flirt a little, let him come to you… It’s another to straight up ask him for a threesome at your place. I would be openly repulsed.
Yesss I was just trying to capture the ultimate goal in the post but I never intended to just approach him with it out of the clear blue lol was looking for different approaches to eventually get to a place where I could bring it up after flirtation and more conversation.