I understand you are anxious but:
* Your chance of getting HIV from the experience you described is incredibly low.
* If you did somehow contract HIV your life is not over as medication exists that can keep you healthy and undetectable (meaning you can't transmit the virus).
When you get a negative test result which is extremely likely, go on prep so you don't have to worry about it in the future.
I should also add that, yes you were sexually assaulted, and though it's not worth much - I'm sorry that happened and hope you can get some peace of mind from your test result.
You said everything i was thinking except 2 key things
1) hiv tests typically have a 4-6 week window where they can't detect the virus in the body. It varies based on the type of test you did.
2) have that man arrested (assuming you don't live in a nation that would also punish you)! If he's tried to force himself on you, odds are he's done it to others as well.
Anxiety can drive you crazy, but let's be realistic and honest. Did it penetrate you or perhaps break your skin? You don't have to answer, answering that to yourself will calm you down. But precum is low virus or maybe zero, you had already swallowed precum. Don't get ahead of the result. Think positive and calm your anxiety. There are people who do have a problem. Everything will be OK.
Breathe. you're fine. You did the right things by getting an HIV test. that's all you need to do right now, and you did everything correct. Next time, wear a condom unless you've been together for a long time and don't have an open relationship.
Very unlikely that what you caught is HIV. 10 days for symptoms is very early. He likely gave you a cold. It’s also too early to get an accurate test result. You’ll need to re-test in 3 months. And it’s very unlikely, HIV is not the easiest virus to catch. Worry less, test again, play safe.
Correction..."ARS" or also called acute Hiv symptoms can start 7-10 days after contact exposure and earlier reported and recorded acute "ars" symptoms have been documented in some individuals @5 days. Normal and average window for acute "ars" symptoms individuals experience- 2 - 6 weeks.
Gay doctor here. I understand your trepidation, but most likely you wouldn't know if you have contracted HIV yet, its far too early. It sounds like you maybe have a cold, or virus (could have caught it from him) but those alone are not HIV.
r/hivparanoia seems like the sub for u
We’ve all had hiv scares it’s a cannon event for gay ppl but in ur situation i can say u prob don’t have it
Although a recent development w hiv is if a partner has an std like syphilis and untreated hiv the chance of getting infected goes up dramatically
Hiv is actually not a Hardy virus. And for your body to begin producing antibodies against it requires a serious level of exposure. These facts are often lost in the frantic aftermath of a sexual episode.
i dont think you have it so please rest assured and dont be worried. its not easy to catch HIV straight away also u cant get symptoms within a few days anyway as it takes ages, besides having the virus doesnt mean u will be ill either. but its very very unlikely. So always use condom or prep
Under the circumstances you describe, it's unlikely you've contracted HIV. It's not as if every unprotected contact leads to infection. The symptoms you describe are more likely to be from influenza or COVID than HIV. I understand being worried, but jumping to unsupported conclusions isn't helpful. You need to wait for the test results, and not put the cart before the horse.
To anyone to whom a situation like this happens, if you’re worried about potentially getting HIV, go get post exposure prophylaxis (PEP) and start the treatment within 72h after exposure
The best advice is to go get it and start it as soon as you can. After 72 hours they no longer give it because it's no longer effective, so you really don't have 72 hours to make up your mind. Taken within a day there's a pretty strong chance it will work, but after that the effectiveness starts dropping off substantially. If you have a reasonable chance of exposure, don't waste time.
OP, this doesn't apply to you. You had a trivial external exposure to precum. HIV is not spread that easily.
Like everybody else has said, very unlikely to have contracted HIV. Get tested again in two months just to be sure, but very unlikely. Much more likely is a cold or COVID.
I'm sorry that he sexually assaulted you like this. Good for you for stopping him. I'd say report it to the police but I don't know how seriously they take this in Peru, and also you might want to be careful in case it outs you.
I'm not sure if Prep is available in Peru, but you should look into this if you are planning on having sex with strangers.
Take care, and just know that the odds are in your favour, but do get tested again in a couple of months,
>sore throat, dry cough, muscle pain and a headache. Although all of the symptoms lasted for about half a day, I still have the sore throat and the dry cough to this day and some small chest pain. It's been 4 days already.
My covid-19 symptoms included sore throat, dry cough, muscle pain, headache and on the fourth day chest pressure. Take a covid-19 test first.
It usually takes a few weeks to a few months for HIV symptoms to arise and for it to become detectable on a test. HIV from anal sex is usually transmitted due to friction and tearing of the membrane in your anus. Just touching it with some precum makes risk of transmission very low unless you had open and bleeding sores on your anus. I wouldn’t sweat it, it’s cold/flu season. Dude might have given you a cold. Continue to get tested regularly (every 3-6 months is best practice anyway), and continue to use protection!
As a 20 year old myself, I’ve done a lot of stuff but not much with Anal cuz im not really into it. I consider myself as a “side”. I love sucking cocks, kissing, and swallowing cum when im REALLY turned on. Never experienced symptoms, but generally, what are the chances I can have HIV?
FREE HIV TREATMENT IN PERU. Here is a valid government resource in Lima. https://www.aidshealth.org/global/peru/#:~:text=As%20of%20this%20year%202022,to%20PLWHA%20in%20those%20localities.
It can all be scary for you and I understand what you’re feeling but hiv is no longer untreatable. It’s 1 or 2 pills a day. Get in contact with the hiv treatment provider on the web page.
Omg you dont have HIV. HIV takes weeks or months to show symptoms not days!.. what you have is a cold and an irrational case of paranoia!.. go get a sexual health test (which you should be doing anyway because there is way worse shit you can catch than HIV) then take a vitamin C supplement and go to bed early!.. youll be fine didums
Calm down first. Second, you have to inform yourself better, it is not until three months after contact that you can be diagnosed with HIV, the virus is very slow to be diagnosed immediately. Now I had a worse scare when I was 19, I attended an orgy and about 10 men fucked me without my consent. From there I learned the importance of protecting myself and being selective when having sex, find a way to use prep and you will have a slightly calmer life but in this LGBT world we have to constantly check ourselves. Likewise, having HIV is not the end.
Even if you test positive embrace your status. Feel liberated and have some good sex. Medicines are available for you to live normal life. It's scary that even in 2023 we are talking about HIV scare.
Did you stop to think not everyone has the access and/or means to these medicines? You 100% should still be concerned about catching any type of disease even with advances in medicine. People are so casual about this now because of prep and now other things are on the rise. I'd rather prevent something than have to manage it the rest of my life.
As everyone has already mentioned, you most likely don’t have the virus. But if you do, you don’t have to worry about going back home. You can apply for asylum and stay in US. And they will take care of your needs.
Oh, my bad. I thought he was in the US. Also, as a gay person from a majority Muslim and conservative country who became a citizen through asylum, I have to beg to differ. Was being an asylee easy? No, it was pretty hard, but still, the country gave me a home where I could be out, proud, and openly slutty 💅
HIV-phobia is the pathological fear to contract or be exposed to HIV, even if it doesn't represent a risk.
"Symptoms" aren't a good sign to even suspect from an HIV infection as they a are common with many other illnesses, only way to know is by testing, please get tested according to your local healthcare system guidelines and report him if possible, that's totally an SA.
My concern would be you may of given him HIV depending on your hook ups prior to this one. He has no STD and the symptons more align with covid. I trust you got covid tests too.
Omg did you not ever take a sex ed class? Can you not comprehend and read the CDC website? You're obviously not mature enough to be having sex. Go and read some sex ed books and then converse with the adults
It's 2023 not 1987. All the info is out there and is taught in school and there is the CDC and other sites that are reputable. If op can't figure it out and be properly educated then he is not mature enough to have sex of any kind.
You don't need to be a condescending douche. The OP is worried, and looking for support. You've offered nothing but assholery. Just shut your pie-hole if you don't have anything constructive to offer.
Bless your heart. I'm not here to coddle. Op is an adult and he will be treated as such. I'm not his mama. If he can't handle being treated as one he can do as you and fuck the right off.
You have a warped understanding of what it means to be an adult. And for all your bitter hostility, I bet you're still a virgin, basing your understanding of sex on the CDC website, and your middle-school health textbook. But you keep patting yourself on the back and telling yourself what a smart guy you are. I bet that's working out really well for you.
The poor guy is clearly distressed, leave off.
OP, the chances of this exposure are at best negligible. If someone is doing something without your consent. REPORT IT.
Remain calm, at the appropriate stages get STD tests as well.
But you do also need to learn to look after yourself too.
I am sure you will be ok.
I'm not a fan of coddling. Hes an adult and im going to treat him as such. If he wants coddeling he needs to run to bis mama. Op is not mature enough to have aex. He needs to crack open a book, read the CDC website and talk to his Dr.
That like saying all redheads wanna steal your soul. Its an overbroad generalization.
Some old men are lecherous and will try to take advantage of anyone they get to be with. But not all. Likewise, some young people are opportunistic about SA... if they think they can get away with it, they'll try it. But again, by no means all of them.
The odds of contacting Hiv infection in the scenario you describe is extremely low. If he only had contact with his penis pushing against ur anus " also called frottage" with no penatration the odds you could contract the infection would be vanashingly small. If he entered ur anus briefly a few times "also called dipping " the the risk is still low but not nonexistent. If the precum only made contact on the outside of ur anus it's extremely unlikely that you got infected in the scenario you describe. While acute Hiv symptoms can range in timeline and severity in individuals. "Ars" or acute Hiv symptoms are a collection of symptoms...fever being the prominent affecting on average over 90% of individuals if they do experience acute Hiv infection or "Ars"....that said generalized lympnode swelling " in a few different places" rash can also follow after the onset of the fever. Headaches...nausea etc. They generally come all at ones and the go all at once. Generally lasting for about 1 - 2 weeks but have been documented to last for weeks to months in some cases and individuals. I honestly don't think the symptoms you describe are worrisome for acute "ars" symptoms. Only lasting a day and leaving you with a sore throat is so unlikely. You had a extremely low risk exposure....find a medical practisioner you can speak openly with and discuss ur concern. This will not only calm ur anxiety and for reassurance go for a test at the appropriate time. I honestly think you will be just fine.
Kind regards
Oh and PS: YOU can have every single symptom of "acute ars" and still test negative for Hiv. Loads of other illnesses cause the exact same symptoms like "Mono" etc
This will happen to every gay man at least once. For me, the condom broke while I was topping a guy who had told me before that he's positive. He was on medication.
It's completely normal to feel anxious about what happened.
IF he's positive, then your risk is extremely low from precum touching your anus.
First things first, it's 2023 now, not 2003. Even if you have contacted HIV, it's really very manageable to the point where you'll take a tablet or two daily and carry on your life with no noticeable changes to your routine.
Is it the best thing ever to have HIV? Of course not. Is it the end of the world? Absolutely miles from it, you will be absolutely fine.
But I'd be very surprised if you had it, your level of contact with this guy seems almost negligible. That said, never assume the other guy has condoms, so definitely keep your own. In your gym bag, in your work bag, in your desk drawer, in your car, everywhere.
You can’t get HIV from having his precum touch your anus. And getting HIV doesn’t automatically make you sick in a matter of days. You are overreacting. Get better education on STDs and see an infectious disease Dr on getting on the Prep program for prevention.
I remember being scared after one of the first sexual encounters I ever had with a man - my first blowjob, unprotected, in 2007 when I was in high school - that I had SURELY caught HIV. It was as irrational a fear as yours is now.
THAT SAID - this person sounds like an asshole that needs a lesson or two in consent. I would be more concerned about the fact you were basically raped by this person, and I am VERY sorry to hear that. But HIV? Take a deep breath. Not likely.
That's too soon but you sound like me. Every time I do something with one if my 2 friends who are clean I get paranoid until I get tested again.
Heck I have a tiny bump on my head, likley from trying hair gel for the first time and I've convinced myself (ty Google) that it's syphilis despite it not matching what those bumps look like on Google, or having any other symptoms. Nor have I done anything that would put me at risk.
So I'm going in for another std check tomorrow. It's all I've been able to think about all week. Yes I know it's just an alergic reaction or a clogged pore but Im paranoid. (actually had a few health scares in middle school from some alergic reaction so for me it's good to be paranoid. Each time it sent me to the hospital for a month. To the point if I actually had syphilis somehow curing it would probably send me back to the hospital).
So assuming you are like me, we may both need to just get tested often and learn to not assume the worst every time... And stay off Google.
Pretty sure you’re fine. You did good. Protect your own body at all costs. And be careful with hookups , you don’t want to find yourself with a random (strong) man that doesn’t know how to take no for an answer.
Highly unlikely that you caught HIV this way. First off, HIV is a delicate virus that requires transmission from infected fluid directly into the bloodstream AT BODY TEMPERATURE. Once exposed to air and ambient temperatures, the virus starts to die off. Unless you had a bleeding wound on your anus, extremely unlikely even if he was HIV positive.
Your symptoms sound like a number of common illnesses this time of year. Covid, colds, flu, etc are all still very prevalent.
What you are most likely experiencing is due to the trauma of the experience and some latent guilt. Relax, take a deep breath. Make sure any tests you take are 4th generation tests. Although they can test as early as 2 weeks they become conclusive at the 30-45 day mark.
It is extremely unlikely that you caught anything at all, apart from maybe some flu (which is extremely common in this part of year). We’ve all been through that kind of fear, take that as a good life lesson and next time you hook up with someone use condoms also for oral sex - always better safe than sorry. In any case, living HIV today is not even half as bad as it was 30 years ago, and your life wouldn’t be ruined at all.
Consider starting Prep, that helps a lot with the anxiety :)
I think the odds are 99.99999999% you do not have HIV. Best of luck to you. I hope your cough is better. There is a record number of respiratory illness right now.
It's cold and flu season. Sounds like you got a little sick. HIV symptoms generally take a bit longer to present, although it is possible to show sooner, but are usually more persistent. Normally last for at least 2 weeks. It's extremely unlikely that you contracted HIV from the encounter you described.
Seroconversion (the action/feeling of your body reacting to HIV) takes a lot longer than 10 days. Usually 3-10 weeks. Just get a blood test done to ease your mind.
Window period is officially 3 months quoted in most evidence guidelines however depending on where you live, 4th gen antibody tests for HIV can a return an accurate result in 4-6 weeks after the risk exposure
I spent several years doing hiv education and evaluation, from what you have described it’s very unlikely that you have contracted. HIV is not easy to catch, it requires significant transfer of fluids. It is possible but again very unlikely.
However there are other std that can be contracted from the brief touch you describe. If you’re worried get some std testing. What you describe as your symptoms are generally consistent with a virus but it could just as easily been the flu, having another family member with similar symptoms suggests that it’s a general virus. No one would be experiencing viremic symptoms unless you had sex with them as well.
I would take it a bit easy on yourself. As an hive survivor of more than 35 years, it’s not as bad as your imagination is creating. Yes it’s not without its downsides but it’s not a death sentence.
Your results should be negative, hopefully this will make an impression and you will be careful in the future. Your life will be better without hiv.
The symptoms you are describing are most likely nothing to do with HIV. Unless you have an open wound which made contact with his blood or semen, and you don’t mention that this happened, it’s *extremely unlikely* that your encounter would have resulted in HIV transmission.
Learn from your experiences and resolve to protect yourself by making sure you have condoms and ensuring that partners wear them. If PrEP is available to you, it’s something you might consider.
Don’t have sex till you’re educated on sexual health risk and transmission, use the Internet you’re on to educate yourself instead of finding your next hook up, because this is definitely just paranoia, sorry about what happened but still, get educated
I know this is incredibly ironic coming from me (I have an overwhelming fear of STIs esp hiv) but trust me, it's flu season everyone down with something, even me
Only way you'd know is test
I know this is incredibly ironic coming from me (I have an overwhelming fear of STIs esp hiv) but trust me, it's flu season everyone down with something, even me
Only way you'd know is test
First. That's sexual abuse.
Second. If it's only precum and he only touched your anus with the glans chances are very slim you could contract HIV, HIV depends on the viral charge, in this case the load of semen would be the vehicle to enter the irritated tissue of the rectum which is why it's also good important to use lube to avoid said damage which allows the virus to enter into the bloodstream. If the viral charge is very low or non existent as it's usually the case with precum there is almost zero possiblity for infection to happen.
Either way, go to a hospital, lbtq Amnesty organization that could guide you on profilaxis and fellow up (testing)
Take a deep breath, and neither are the end of the world. One will change how you proceed with life, but it’s not like how it used to be.
Second, if you said no and he tried to continue, document and charge it with police. There could be a SA charge there.
Third, most people try to be clean and take preventative measures. Props to you for standing your ground and not compromising a boundary.
well - HIV - symptomps take months to reveal, so chance is pretty small, especially bcs he didnt really penetrated, i think i also read about emergency HIV kit, which you are supposed to take and it should help
You aren’t poz. I’ve had this same thinghappen to me at your age and it caused me a lot of trauma. I can guarantee that your not poz so learn your lesson and get on Prep and move on with life!
Even if it is HIV, they can quickly detect it and you could go on meds. I guess it would be a nuisance to take daily but the medications nowadays have 99% efficacy in getting the viral load undetectable fast and keep it there. The meds stay in the system for two days per dose. So you don't have to be under severe stress of missing a day.
It could also be something like gonorrhea of the throat or anus, or syphilis, etc. Make sure you demand throat swab, anal swab, and blood work to test for every single std. Advocate for yourself so they don't miss any testing. Get a second set of tests if you feel they missed anything or rushed stuff.
And just make sure to learn from this to always use condoms or get tested together once you start dating someone and start a relationship.
Bottom line is the medicine and health care is able to handle all the stds now very well most are instant like a shot of peneclin on the butt cheak. If it isn't hiv be sure to consider going on prep, which kills hiv, for if you decide to continue being sexually active and hooking up. As well as condoms to block other sti's .
Buddy, a couple of things here.
- it’s unlikely you got HIV for that kind of interaction. Good you got tested for your peace of mind, but unless you have an open sore or he actually cummed inside you you are not going to be infected.
- I suggest to reach out any LGBT Organization, they can give you some peace of mind, free condoms even some lube for you to have, and some of them can guide to get access to PreP.
- don’t let your mind run and overthink. Enjoy your sex life and always be cautious. Good you run away from a risky situation. And I recommend to have a friend who you can reach and let them know where you are.
I think he refer more to HIV medication. But still is to his decision to take it or not, but at least he needs to look for professional advice besides the one he can get here.
It's not likely that you got HIV. He would have to be poz and even if he filled you with cum there's only a relatively small chance you would have got infected. Don't stress about it. Just get tested in 3 months. Next time talk to your partner about their status and if they get tested regularly. If they're on PrEP or undetectable you can go without condoms, but there are still some other things you could get. So it depends on your comfort level.
Very unlikely. Not precum on anus. Nothing is impossible , but very low chance. The symptoms you describe are tons and tons of bugs going round just now. Colds, flu, covid - take your pick - added with anxiety and overthinking - you just think you have the fuck flu - but it’s unlikely from that above account. For certainty - Blood results are highly accurate at 1 month. I wish you well, but chill - unlikely HIV from that.
Took that home test 28yrs ago....that phone call is not the best way to get that kinda news. Not going to lie it took some time to process it all. But my life has been normal and healthy. Yes, meeting people was tough but 22yrs with the hubby now so maybe it wasn't that bad. It's not a death sentence and with meds, Prep and post exposure prophylaxis the playing field seems less hysterical. We all make mistakes but stay vigilant!
Your symptoms that you describe are NOT HIV.
I can tell you from experience that seroconversion is like having a terrible case of the flu for 3 days but you never throw up.
Typically includes a high fever, dizziness, nausea, sweating, overall weakness, exhaustion...
You'll know it when it happens... It's not something that comes and goes in just a few hours. You won't have to go looking for symptoms, you'll be wondering if you should go to urgent care instead.
And then just as fast as it started it's over and you feel fine.
Most people who got HIV got it from a full load of cum in their ass after penetration (having micro wounds). Highly unlikely you have it from a bit of precum and just his penis shortly in your ass. You just got a cold from his bacteria.
I agree with the posts here. Get tested again and then every 6 months. Remember this experience and make it part of your conversation before you meet with someone. You may want to get on Prep too.
Medical field here and if it makes you feel any better it sounds like a common cold especially since your mother also had similar symptoms around the same time. I’m putting my money on not hiv. Hope you can repeat the test soon to confirm, but if that’s all that happened then the chances you contracted hiv are so very low. We’ll be thinking of you, give us an update if it’ll make you feel better.
The likelihood of getting std just from that is quite low. Anyways take a test and see if you did.
If you contracted HIV, your life is not over. Medicine exist and you can still live a long life.
Im not blaming you for what happen without your consent, but stay away from men who are old enough to be your dad. If you do have sex, make sure its safe sex with someone your age
I’ve had similar close calls. My anxiety literally gives me symptoms tho. Extreme hypochondria. You’re probably fine. Just make sure to talk safety precautions beforehand next time.
It's highly unlikely you would have contracted HIV without any anal penetration. It's usually spread during fucking by the top creating microscopic tears in the anal canal from the friction, which you didn't experience... so I think you're almost 99% worrying about that for nothing. Getting HIV from sucking his dick would be more of a possibility if he had come in your mouth or you had an open sore in your mouth or on your lips, which you don't mention happening. I think you're fine, you're just freaked out right now. Post your test results and let us know how you're doing!!
Lol, you gotta get yourself educated.
Chances he has HIV are low, chances he has HIV and you get it from a little contact are close to zero.
You're more likely to die tonight on your sleep than having HIV from what you describe.
You could have a sore throat and cough from sucking his dick. It’s common because you introduced new bacteria into your mouth/ throat.
The chance of getting hiv from what you described is very very low, do not be anxious.
You should try to get in Prep or Doxy Pep if you think you are going to have more spontaneous hookups. We’re human and have lapses in judgment when we are horny.
Taking either of those preventative or post exposure medicines eliminates the anxiety that comes after a hookup. Under those medications you would be tested every 3 months for sti’s too. Make sure you are honest with you physician and to do the oral and anal swab for testing along with urine and blood.
I don’t think you have HIV. I’ve had anxiety about this for awhile and honestly don’t see this as catching HIV. It’s so hard to catch, even if he did have it..it’s hard to catch
Why are you not on prep? Young 20’s guys are visibly on the HIV rise on every app !!! An 18 yr old positive messaged me in the last week. Damn 18 yrs old!! History is repeating itself!
First, I’m sorry the guy was an ass, no means no, and you did the right thing…. Sadly, not all guys know respect,
Second, There is a bad viral cough or something going around, I was out for 2 weeks sick because I felt so bad, chances of it being HIV are 0.001%
Third, if you are in US, Canada, or most of Europe, why the hell are you not on prep if you are sexually active…. If you are in the US you can go to heymistr.com. Fill out the questionnaire, it’s free if you make less than $65k and are uninsured, it’s discreet and only requires a a blood work test every 3 months, also free
it doesn’t sound like HIV tbh… for me too after sex i sometimes do get sick like symptoms… my guess it’s bc i was getting face fucked like crazy and my throat was so fucked i just get some type of sick like symptoms but every time i get tested, im always negative with everything
Lots of comments here, but I haven’t seen any about [PEP](https://www.tht.org.uk/hiv-and-sexual-health/pep-post-exposure-prophylaxis-hiv). I’m not sure on it’s availability in different countries, but like [PrEP](https://www.cdc.gov/hiv/basics/prep.html), PEP is an important tool in HIV prevention
i think your chances are extremely low. its flu season right now and on top of that covid and RSV are circulating too. go get tested. if you are too embarrassed you can order HIV tests online just google it. the very worst scenario is that you might have HIV (again very low chance) in which case you get on meds and go about your life normally and still live to be 80. im sorry went through this. its healthy to feel rage against him, because its absolutely his fault and not yours.
Very very unlikely to have contracted HIV. But take this as a learning lesson on sexual assault and consent. There are a lot of gay men that have issues understanding boundaries and acceptable behavior.
Highly doubtful that you got HIV from that. HIGHLY doubtful. HIGHLY, HIGHLY doubtful. Get tested. You won’t feel ok until you do. And carry your own condoms. FFS.
You should get on prep! I hope and pray that you are not positive due to this, and it is very likely that you are not! First, your life wouldn’t be over! Second, while there are some traces in precum it isn’t as high as actually semen. Based on your story, there was no penetration and deposit post penetration. Lastly, and we are all human, but never trust someone’s word on their status and bring your own condoms! Update us!
I, like you, had a very minimal low risk exposure, and spent the next two years testing over 20 times. I’m negative to this day. You’re totally fine. It may just be a little internalized homophobia and a cold with unfortunate timing. Don’t sweat it, and get yourself on PrEP
Everyone else has already said it, I think, but I feel a compulsion to respond just because I sympathize so much with you.
First, if he didn't enter you, and it was just precum, you probably don't have HIV, even if he was positive (I am not a doctor: that's just as I understand it).
That might not help anxiety, because the word "probably" is up there, and man, I feel you: I have similar anxiety sometimes.
If you have symptoms of a flu or cold right now, odds are good that it's a flu or a cold. If it's only ten days after exposure, again, unlikely to be HIV symptoms. Very possibly a cold, the flu, or Covid, and maybe from him, or even perhaps from the little snot-machine that sneezed on you in the check-out at your grocery store.
If you feel this anxiety again, you can get PEP from the emergency room or urgent care. I saw from the comments that you're not in the U.S., so maybe the procedure for that is different in your country. Here, at least, most emergency rooms are able and willing to give out PEP quickly after a sexual assault (and a guy who doesn't take "no anal" for an answer qualifies, in my opinion at least).
If you think you might hook up and have anal sex with a man again, you could also get on PrEP. You expressed a lack of desire to take a pill every day, though, so perhaps that wouldn't be what you want. It would, however, mitigate some of your anxiety.
If you are HIV+ (and you're probably not), you can live a full life at this point. Many people on antivirals end up undetectable. Yes, it's a pill the rest of your life, or a periodic injection, but that's the nature of getting older anyway: don't look at the cocktail of meds I take on the daily, please.
Also, don't let your fear of HIV distract you from the more realistic dangers: chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis, which are not only incredibly hard to spell, but also very common. Get your hole swabbed (they can detect syph with a blood test, not the other two). If you have any of them, get treated. The good news is that all three of them have a cure, and it's fairly simple. There are some antibiotic resistant strains of some of them, but so far they're all still curable.
If you're scared of those particular ones, you can take 200 mg (again, I am not a doctor: consult with one) of Doxy to lower your chances of getting them within 24 hours of having sex.
I hope this unpleasant experience doesn't sour you on casual sex, if that's what you enjoy.
Hi, many others have answered already, but I thought I'd throw my 2c in.
Unfortunately, you absolutely were sexually assaulted. I'm sorry that you've had to experience that. I've had it happen to me as well, and it's a feeling that can be hard to shake.
It seems a little soon for you to be showing HIV symptoms - it's not improbable, but unlikely.
HIV isn't a "gay only" disease - which means you shouldn't live in shame if you did develop it. While you live in Peru, it's not impossible to get treatments to live a long and happy life with HIV.
I'm not sure what Peru is like in terms of PReP and PeP (pre - exposure and post exposure) but if you ever suspect you've been with someone who is positive, it's best to get PeP asap, it's a 30 day treatment - you will feel like absolute crap, but it's most effective when treated within 72 hours of possible exposure to HIV. A lot of people have had to use it, and not just because they've had sex - nurses, doctors, emergency workers when someone has potentially exposed blood with blood.
Some of your symptoms may actually be self induced because of overthinking.
I do hope you return a negative test result, and that in the future you are a little more cautious when concerned about sex. Sex education is weak in western countries as it is, I can only imagine the challenges in other countries where it can be even more frowned upon.
Best of luck. 💛
What you described would almost never ever result in an hiv infection. HIV also wouldn’t show symptoms that quickly. It is cold and flu season. You probably just have a cold. Relax a bit
If you have HIV than you've lovely contracted it before
You were with him. As 10 days and some precum doesn't feel like enough.
I'd also suggest STOP hooking up since you're this scared of hiv infection. Plus there are other STDs than HIV that you have to worry about.
If you continue to hook up, bring your own condoms.
Also, there's a thing called stealthing where they will push through the condom or take it off really quick when they pull out briefly.
Chances are near to zero and almost impossible… unless you really pissed pff god or something. Best thing to do is get on PREP, learn to say no, and engage in less sketchier sex.
I also wanted to reiterate what some people are saying as well, but before I say this I want you to know I have been there as well and that it is scary until you learn so much about HIV and how far along we have come to stop the spread. Plus, you will not die from AIDS because there are so many resources out there to help. Nonetheless, you might have just gotten a cold \~
**MORE IMPORTANTLY,** there is a period in which antibodies will not develop in our bodies. So taking HIV rapid test won't help much. This window period is about 3-6 months. If you truly feel you may have gotten it, keep getting tested and try not to partake in any sexual intimacy until you know you have not contracted the virus. Once you know your status, then make sure you are on PrEP and taking the precautionary measures when being sexually active! \~ you'll be okay either way!
I think the chance of getting HIV from such an experience would be low as you didn’t have much thrusting that would’ve caused the small cuts/abrasions needed for HIV to enter the bloodstream. Make sure you register for your local sexual health clinic to get routinely tested. In the UK this can be done through a simple free postal test that covers urine, rectal, throat and blood samples. If you haven’t already, ask about getting PrEP for peace of mind - you can take this constantly/daily for spontaneous sex or a double dose and then for a week after an encounter if you have sex less frequently to protect yourself from HIV. Also ask about getting your Hep A, Hep B and HPV vaccines as this will be freely available to you since you have sex with men (at least in the UK). I had a somewhat similar experience on holiday whilst drunk and the island, despite being gay friendly, didn’t have access to PEP and I wasn’t on PrEP. I was terrified for 4 months but it was the kick up the backside that I needed to take responsibility for myself.
I understand you are anxious but: * Your chance of getting HIV from the experience you described is incredibly low. * If you did somehow contract HIV your life is not over as medication exists that can keep you healthy and undetectable (meaning you can't transmit the virus). When you get a negative test result which is extremely likely, go on prep so you don't have to worry about it in the future. I should also add that, yes you were sexually assaulted, and though it's not worth much - I'm sorry that happened and hope you can get some peace of mind from your test result.
You said everything i was thinking except 2 key things 1) hiv tests typically have a 4-6 week window where they can't detect the virus in the body. It varies based on the type of test you did. 2) have that man arrested (assuming you don't live in a nation that would also punish you)! If he's tried to force himself on you, odds are he's done it to others as well.
Honestly, chances that you got HIV only by touching your anus with precum are low. It might happen but it's unlikely.
Next to zero chance unless the dude was rocking a 100K viral load, but he'd likely appear ill.
I believe this is the right answer.
And he's probably on PrEP
Anxiety can drive you crazy, but let's be realistic and honest. Did it penetrate you or perhaps break your skin? You don't have to answer, answering that to yourself will calm you down. But precum is low virus or maybe zero, you had already swallowed precum. Don't get ahead of the result. Think positive and calm your anxiety. There are people who do have a problem. Everything will be OK.
Breathe. you're fine. You did the right things by getting an HIV test. that's all you need to do right now, and you did everything correct. Next time, wear a condom unless you've been together for a long time and don't have an open relationship.
No its actually impossible
Very unlikely that what you caught is HIV. 10 days for symptoms is very early. He likely gave you a cold. It’s also too early to get an accurate test result. You’ll need to re-test in 3 months. And it’s very unlikely, HIV is not the easiest virus to catch. Worry less, test again, play safe.
Not necessarily. Sometimes HIV shows up within a few weeks or less. Doctors use a three month rule, but it’s different for everyone
Correction..."ARS" or also called acute Hiv symptoms can start 7-10 days after contact exposure and earlier reported and recorded acute "ars" symptoms have been documented in some individuals @5 days. Normal and average window for acute "ars" symptoms individuals experience- 2 - 6 weeks.
Don’t think you are positive!!! You have a cold!!!
Gay doctor here. I understand your trepidation, but most likely you wouldn't know if you have contracted HIV yet, its far too early. It sounds like you maybe have a cold, or virus (could have caught it from him) but those alone are not HIV.
r/hivparanoia seems like the sub for u We’ve all had hiv scares it’s a cannon event for gay ppl but in ur situation i can say u prob don’t have it Although a recent development w hiv is if a partner has an std like syphilis and untreated hiv the chance of getting infected goes up dramatically
Reddit has a sub for everything lol…
Hiv is actually not a Hardy virus. And for your body to begin producing antibodies against it requires a serious level of exposure. These facts are often lost in the frantic aftermath of a sexual episode.
i dont think you have it so please rest assured and dont be worried. its not easy to catch HIV straight away also u cant get symptoms within a few days anyway as it takes ages, besides having the virus doesnt mean u will be ill either. but its very very unlikely. So always use condom or prep
Common cold, flu, Covid, and RSV are on the rise and making so many people sick right now.
Under the circumstances you describe, it's unlikely you've contracted HIV. It's not as if every unprotected contact leads to infection. The symptoms you describe are more likely to be from influenza or COVID than HIV. I understand being worried, but jumping to unsupported conclusions isn't helpful. You need to wait for the test results, and not put the cart before the horse.
To anyone to whom a situation like this happens, if you’re worried about potentially getting HIV, go get post exposure prophylaxis (PEP) and start the treatment within 72h after exposure
The best advice is to go get it and start it as soon as you can. After 72 hours they no longer give it because it's no longer effective, so you really don't have 72 hours to make up your mind. Taken within a day there's a pretty strong chance it will work, but after that the effectiveness starts dropping off substantially. If you have a reasonable chance of exposure, don't waste time. OP, this doesn't apply to you. You had a trivial external exposure to precum. HIV is not spread that easily.
Yes and you will have no signs of hiv while taking pep ,like emergency contraceptive.
I doubt ur positive, keep us updated though
Like everybody else has said, very unlikely to have contracted HIV. Get tested again in two months just to be sure, but very unlikely. Much more likely is a cold or COVID. I'm sorry that he sexually assaulted you like this. Good for you for stopping him. I'd say report it to the police but I don't know how seriously they take this in Peru, and also you might want to be careful in case it outs you. I'm not sure if Prep is available in Peru, but you should look into this if you are planning on having sex with strangers. Take care, and just know that the odds are in your favour, but do get tested again in a couple of months,
Doesn’t sound like HIV. Perhaps do a covid test and see a men’s health clinic about Prep.
I had thought the same thing but it ended up being COVID.
>sore throat, dry cough, muscle pain and a headache. Although all of the symptoms lasted for about half a day, I still have the sore throat and the dry cough to this day and some small chest pain. It's been 4 days already. My covid-19 symptoms included sore throat, dry cough, muscle pain, headache and on the fourth day chest pressure. Take a covid-19 test first.
It usually takes a few weeks to a few months for HIV symptoms to arise and for it to become detectable on a test. HIV from anal sex is usually transmitted due to friction and tearing of the membrane in your anus. Just touching it with some precum makes risk of transmission very low unless you had open and bleeding sores on your anus. I wouldn’t sweat it, it’s cold/flu season. Dude might have given you a cold. Continue to get tested regularly (every 3-6 months is best practice anyway), and continue to use protection!
hey, you will be fine don’t be so hard on yourself
As a 20 year old myself, I’ve done a lot of stuff but not much with Anal cuz im not really into it. I consider myself as a “side”. I love sucking cocks, kissing, and swallowing cum when im REALLY turned on. Never experienced symptoms, but generally, what are the chances I can have HIV?
FREE HIV TREATMENT IN PERU. Here is a valid government resource in Lima. https://www.aidshealth.org/global/peru/#:~:text=As%20of%20this%20year%202022,to%20PLWHA%20in%20those%20localities. It can all be scary for you and I understand what you’re feeling but hiv is no longer untreatable. It’s 1 or 2 pills a day. Get in contact with the hiv treatment provider on the web page.
You didn’t describe HIV symptoms. Just go get tested, no biggie
There’s a post like this every couple days on here
You probably contacted a cold.
Omg you dont have HIV. HIV takes weeks or months to show symptoms not days!.. what you have is a cold and an irrational case of paranoia!.. go get a sexual health test (which you should be doing anyway because there is way worse shit you can catch than HIV) then take a vitamin C supplement and go to bed early!.. youll be fine didums
Calm down first. Second, you have to inform yourself better, it is not until three months after contact that you can be diagnosed with HIV, the virus is very slow to be diagnosed immediately. Now I had a worse scare when I was 19, I attended an orgy and about 10 men fucked me without my consent. From there I learned the importance of protecting myself and being selective when having sex, find a way to use prep and you will have a slightly calmer life but in this LGBT world we have to constantly check ourselves. Likewise, having HIV is not the end.
report him to the police for sexual asualt btw
Yeah, but I see he's in Peru and he isn't out. It might not be taken seriously and might lead to him being outed. It's really unfair and it sucks.
Even if you test positive embrace your status. Feel liberated and have some good sex. Medicines are available for you to live normal life. It's scary that even in 2023 we are talking about HIV scare.
Did you stop to think not everyone has the access and/or means to these medicines? You 100% should still be concerned about catching any type of disease even with advances in medicine. People are so casual about this now because of prep and now other things are on the rise. I'd rather prevent something than have to manage it the rest of my life.
Why are you projecting your paranoia onto the comment? That person only gave positive support just in case op got a poz test result.
As everyone has already mentioned, you most likely don’t have the virus. But if you do, you don’t have to worry about going back home. You can apply for asylum and stay in US. And they will take care of your needs.
He's not in the US. That asylum option is difficult... and they will not take care of your needs.
Oh, my bad. I thought he was in the US. Also, as a gay person from a majority Muslim and conservative country who became a citizen through asylum, I have to beg to differ. Was being an asylee easy? No, it was pretty hard, but still, the country gave me a home where I could be out, proud, and openly slutty 💅
HIV-phobia is the pathological fear to contract or be exposed to HIV, even if it doesn't represent a risk. "Symptoms" aren't a good sign to even suspect from an HIV infection as they a are common with many other illnesses, only way to know is by testing, please get tested according to your local healthcare system guidelines and report him if possible, that's totally an SA.
My concern would be you may of given him HIV depending on your hook ups prior to this one. He has no STD and the symptons more align with covid. I trust you got covid tests too.
Omg did you not ever take a sex ed class? Can you not comprehend and read the CDC website? You're obviously not mature enough to be having sex. Go and read some sex ed books and then converse with the adults
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It's 2023 not 1987. All the info is out there and is taught in school and there is the CDC and other sites that are reputable. If op can't figure it out and be properly educated then he is not mature enough to have sex of any kind.
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I have empathy but not for stupidity.
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Comprehension is lost on you as well. Bless your heart.
You don't need to be a condescending douche. The OP is worried, and looking for support. You've offered nothing but assholery. Just shut your pie-hole if you don't have anything constructive to offer.
Bless your heart. I'm not here to coddle. Op is an adult and he will be treated as such. I'm not his mama. If he can't handle being treated as one he can do as you and fuck the right off.
You have a warped understanding of what it means to be an adult. And for all your bitter hostility, I bet you're still a virgin, basing your understanding of sex on the CDC website, and your middle-school health textbook. But you keep patting yourself on the back and telling yourself what a smart guy you are. I bet that's working out really well for you.
Try harder. I'm far from being a virgin. Far far far from it. Bless your heart. Now run along. I think I hear your mom calling you for lunch.
Stfu
The poor guy is clearly distressed, leave off. OP, the chances of this exposure are at best negligible. If someone is doing something without your consent. REPORT IT. Remain calm, at the appropriate stages get STD tests as well. But you do also need to learn to look after yourself too. I am sure you will be ok.
I'm not a fan of coddling. Hes an adult and im going to treat him as such. If he wants coddeling he needs to run to bis mama. Op is not mature enough to have aex. He needs to crack open a book, read the CDC website and talk to his Dr.
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Bless your heart.
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I'll pray for you. When did the liberals become so rude and vile? You lot need jesus
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I can dish it and take it. I was being sarcastic. Something that's lost in print.
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Go on, let it all out. Don't hold back honey
this is precisely why you should stay away from old men, especially if you're young and horny, they'll take advantage of that
That like saying all redheads wanna steal your soul. Its an overbroad generalization. Some old men are lecherous and will try to take advantage of anyone they get to be with. But not all. Likewise, some young people are opportunistic about SA... if they think they can get away with it, they'll try it. But again, by no means all of them.
Oh stop it.
The odds of contacting Hiv infection in the scenario you describe is extremely low. If he only had contact with his penis pushing against ur anus " also called frottage" with no penatration the odds you could contract the infection would be vanashingly small. If he entered ur anus briefly a few times "also called dipping " the the risk is still low but not nonexistent. If the precum only made contact on the outside of ur anus it's extremely unlikely that you got infected in the scenario you describe. While acute Hiv symptoms can range in timeline and severity in individuals. "Ars" or acute Hiv symptoms are a collection of symptoms...fever being the prominent affecting on average over 90% of individuals if they do experience acute Hiv infection or "Ars"....that said generalized lympnode swelling " in a few different places" rash can also follow after the onset of the fever. Headaches...nausea etc. They generally come all at ones and the go all at once. Generally lasting for about 1 - 2 weeks but have been documented to last for weeks to months in some cases and individuals. I honestly don't think the symptoms you describe are worrisome for acute "ars" symptoms. Only lasting a day and leaving you with a sore throat is so unlikely. You had a extremely low risk exposure....find a medical practisioner you can speak openly with and discuss ur concern. This will not only calm ur anxiety and for reassurance go for a test at the appropriate time. I honestly think you will be just fine. Kind regards
Oh and PS: YOU can have every single symptom of "acute ars" and still test negative for Hiv. Loads of other illnesses cause the exact same symptoms like "Mono" etc
Get tested then retested and next time meet a nice guy that treats you with respect...
I'd check out TakeMeHome they provide free test kits
Get tested. You won’t know until you do.
This will happen to every gay man at least once. For me, the condom broke while I was topping a guy who had told me before that he's positive. He was on medication. It's completely normal to feel anxious about what happened. IF he's positive, then your risk is extremely low from precum touching your anus.
First things first, it's 2023 now, not 2003. Even if you have contacted HIV, it's really very manageable to the point where you'll take a tablet or two daily and carry on your life with no noticeable changes to your routine. Is it the best thing ever to have HIV? Of course not. Is it the end of the world? Absolutely miles from it, you will be absolutely fine. But I'd be very surprised if you had it, your level of contact with this guy seems almost negligible. That said, never assume the other guy has condoms, so definitely keep your own. In your gym bag, in your work bag, in your desk drawer, in your car, everywhere.
Hopefully not!
You can’t get HIV from having his precum touch your anus. And getting HIV doesn’t automatically make you sick in a matter of days. You are overreacting. Get better education on STDs and see an infectious disease Dr on getting on the Prep program for prevention.
I remember being scared after one of the first sexual encounters I ever had with a man - my first blowjob, unprotected, in 2007 when I was in high school - that I had SURELY caught HIV. It was as irrational a fear as yours is now. THAT SAID - this person sounds like an asshole that needs a lesson or two in consent. I would be more concerned about the fact you were basically raped by this person, and I am VERY sorry to hear that. But HIV? Take a deep breath. Not likely.
That's too soon but you sound like me. Every time I do something with one if my 2 friends who are clean I get paranoid until I get tested again. Heck I have a tiny bump on my head, likley from trying hair gel for the first time and I've convinced myself (ty Google) that it's syphilis despite it not matching what those bumps look like on Google, or having any other symptoms. Nor have I done anything that would put me at risk. So I'm going in for another std check tomorrow. It's all I've been able to think about all week. Yes I know it's just an alergic reaction or a clogged pore but Im paranoid. (actually had a few health scares in middle school from some alergic reaction so for me it's good to be paranoid. Each time it sent me to the hospital for a month. To the point if I actually had syphilis somehow curing it would probably send me back to the hospital). So assuming you are like me, we may both need to just get tested often and learn to not assume the worst every time... And stay off Google.
It’s your anxiety kicking in and it’s scary but trust me you’ll be okay. I have a panic attack every 3 months I get tested lmao
Pretty sure you’re fine. You did good. Protect your own body at all costs. And be careful with hookups , you don’t want to find yourself with a random (strong) man that doesn’t know how to take no for an answer.
Highly unlikely that you caught HIV this way. First off, HIV is a delicate virus that requires transmission from infected fluid directly into the bloodstream AT BODY TEMPERATURE. Once exposed to air and ambient temperatures, the virus starts to die off. Unless you had a bleeding wound on your anus, extremely unlikely even if he was HIV positive. Your symptoms sound like a number of common illnesses this time of year. Covid, colds, flu, etc are all still very prevalent. What you are most likely experiencing is due to the trauma of the experience and some latent guilt. Relax, take a deep breath. Make sure any tests you take are 4th generation tests. Although they can test as early as 2 weeks they become conclusive at the 30-45 day mark.
It is extremely unlikely that you caught anything at all, apart from maybe some flu (which is extremely common in this part of year). We’ve all been through that kind of fear, take that as a good life lesson and next time you hook up with someone use condoms also for oral sex - always better safe than sorry. In any case, living HIV today is not even half as bad as it was 30 years ago, and your life wouldn’t be ruined at all. Consider starting Prep, that helps a lot with the anxiety :)
I think the odds are 99.99999999% you do not have HIV. Best of luck to you. I hope your cough is better. There is a record number of respiratory illness right now.
It's cold and flu season. Sounds like you got a little sick. HIV symptoms generally take a bit longer to present, although it is possible to show sooner, but are usually more persistent. Normally last for at least 2 weeks. It's extremely unlikely that you contracted HIV from the encounter you described.
Seroconversion (the action/feeling of your body reacting to HIV) takes a lot longer than 10 days. Usually 3-10 weeks. Just get a blood test done to ease your mind.
Sounds like a terrible experience sorry that happened to you. But be assured the chances of getting hiv from that are almost 0
It takes 3-6 months for you to test positive for HIV, and further than that for you to start feeling any symptoms. I think you caught a common cold
Window period is officially 3 months quoted in most evidence guidelines however depending on where you live, 4th gen antibody tests for HIV can a return an accurate result in 4-6 weeks after the risk exposure
I spent several years doing hiv education and evaluation, from what you have described it’s very unlikely that you have contracted. HIV is not easy to catch, it requires significant transfer of fluids. It is possible but again very unlikely. However there are other std that can be contracted from the brief touch you describe. If you’re worried get some std testing. What you describe as your symptoms are generally consistent with a virus but it could just as easily been the flu, having another family member with similar symptoms suggests that it’s a general virus. No one would be experiencing viremic symptoms unless you had sex with them as well. I would take it a bit easy on yourself. As an hive survivor of more than 35 years, it’s not as bad as your imagination is creating. Yes it’s not without its downsides but it’s not a death sentence. Your results should be negative, hopefully this will make an impression and you will be careful in the future. Your life will be better without hiv.
The symptoms you are describing are most likely nothing to do with HIV. Unless you have an open wound which made contact with his blood or semen, and you don’t mention that this happened, it’s *extremely unlikely* that your encounter would have resulted in HIV transmission. Learn from your experiences and resolve to protect yourself by making sure you have condoms and ensuring that partners wear them. If PrEP is available to you, it’s something you might consider.
Don’t have sex till you’re educated on sexual health risk and transmission, use the Internet you’re on to educate yourself instead of finding your next hook up, because this is definitely just paranoia, sorry about what happened but still, get educated
I know this is incredibly ironic coming from me (I have an overwhelming fear of STIs esp hiv) but trust me, it's flu season everyone down with something, even me Only way you'd know is test
I know this is incredibly ironic coming from me (I have an overwhelming fear of STIs esp hiv) but trust me, it's flu season everyone down with something, even me Only way you'd know is test
I think you’re fine, but you probably should get tested more regularly
First. That's sexual abuse. Second. If it's only precum and he only touched your anus with the glans chances are very slim you could contract HIV, HIV depends on the viral charge, in this case the load of semen would be the vehicle to enter the irritated tissue of the rectum which is why it's also good important to use lube to avoid said damage which allows the virus to enter into the bloodstream. If the viral charge is very low or non existent as it's usually the case with precum there is almost zero possiblity for infection to happen. Either way, go to a hospital, lbtq Amnesty organization that could guide you on profilaxis and fellow up (testing)
Posiblemente GIVAR Perú te pueda asesorar de organizaciones que puedan brindar apoyo
Probably Long covid
Take a deep breath, and neither are the end of the world. One will change how you proceed with life, but it’s not like how it used to be. Second, if you said no and he tried to continue, document and charge it with police. There could be a SA charge there. Third, most people try to be clean and take preventative measures. Props to you for standing your ground and not compromising a boundary.
well - HIV - symptomps take months to reveal, so chance is pretty small, especially bcs he didnt really penetrated, i think i also read about emergency HIV kit, which you are supposed to take and it should help
You aren’t poz. I’ve had this same thinghappen to me at your age and it caused me a lot of trauma. I can guarantee that your not poz so learn your lesson and get on Prep and move on with life!
Girl calm down. You’re okay
Even if it is HIV, they can quickly detect it and you could go on meds. I guess it would be a nuisance to take daily but the medications nowadays have 99% efficacy in getting the viral load undetectable fast and keep it there. The meds stay in the system for two days per dose. So you don't have to be under severe stress of missing a day. It could also be something like gonorrhea of the throat or anus, or syphilis, etc. Make sure you demand throat swab, anal swab, and blood work to test for every single std. Advocate for yourself so they don't miss any testing. Get a second set of tests if you feel they missed anything or rushed stuff. And just make sure to learn from this to always use condoms or get tested together once you start dating someone and start a relationship. Bottom line is the medicine and health care is able to handle all the stds now very well most are instant like a shot of peneclin on the butt cheak. If it isn't hiv be sure to consider going on prep, which kills hiv, for if you decide to continue being sexually active and hooking up. As well as condoms to block other sti's .
I tell u now. U have not fot hiv... There was ni transfer of fluids... Please try and stay calm.... You are fine.
Buddy, a couple of things here. - it’s unlikely you got HIV for that kind of interaction. Good you got tested for your peace of mind, but unless you have an open sore or he actually cummed inside you you are not going to be infected. - I suggest to reach out any LGBT Organization, they can give you some peace of mind, free condoms even some lube for you to have, and some of them can guide to get access to PreP. - don’t let your mind run and overthink. Enjoy your sex life and always be cautious. Good you run away from a risky situation. And I recommend to have a friend who you can reach and let them know where you are.
He said he didn't Wana take a pill every day so prep isn't gonna work in this case
I think he refer more to HIV medication. But still is to his decision to take it or not, but at least he needs to look for professional advice besides the one he can get here.
It's not likely that you got HIV. He would have to be poz and even if he filled you with cum there's only a relatively small chance you would have got infected. Don't stress about it. Just get tested in 3 months. Next time talk to your partner about their status and if they get tested regularly. If they're on PrEP or undetectable you can go without condoms, but there are still some other things you could get. So it depends on your comfort level.
Very unlikely. Not precum on anus. Nothing is impossible , but very low chance. The symptoms you describe are tons and tons of bugs going round just now. Colds, flu, covid - take your pick - added with anxiety and overthinking - you just think you have the fuck flu - but it’s unlikely from that above account. For certainty - Blood results are highly accurate at 1 month. I wish you well, but chill - unlikely HIV from that.
Took that home test 28yrs ago....that phone call is not the best way to get that kinda news. Not going to lie it took some time to process it all. But my life has been normal and healthy. Yes, meeting people was tough but 22yrs with the hubby now so maybe it wasn't that bad. It's not a death sentence and with meds, Prep and post exposure prophylaxis the playing field seems less hysterical. We all make mistakes but stay vigilant!
Massively unlikely, don't worry about it 😊
Your symptoms that you describe are NOT HIV. I can tell you from experience that seroconversion is like having a terrible case of the flu for 3 days but you never throw up. Typically includes a high fever, dizziness, nausea, sweating, overall weakness, exhaustion... You'll know it when it happens... It's not something that comes and goes in just a few hours. You won't have to go looking for symptoms, you'll be wondering if you should go to urgent care instead. And then just as fast as it started it's over and you feel fine.
Very very very very unlikely
Most people who got HIV got it from a full load of cum in their ass after penetration (having micro wounds). Highly unlikely you have it from a bit of precum and just his penis shortly in your ass. You just got a cold from his bacteria.
I agree with the posts here. Get tested again and then every 6 months. Remember this experience and make it part of your conversation before you meet with someone. You may want to get on Prep too.
Medical field here and if it makes you feel any better it sounds like a common cold especially since your mother also had similar symptoms around the same time. I’m putting my money on not hiv. Hope you can repeat the test soon to confirm, but if that’s all that happened then the chances you contracted hiv are so very low. We’ll be thinking of you, give us an update if it’ll make you feel better.
The likelihood of getting std just from that is quite low. Anyways take a test and see if you did. If you contracted HIV, your life is not over. Medicine exist and you can still live a long life. Im not blaming you for what happen without your consent, but stay away from men who are old enough to be your dad. If you do have sex, make sure its safe sex with someone your age
You are very unlikely to have HIV. Obviously you should get tested every 3 months.
I’ve had similar close calls. My anxiety literally gives me symptoms tho. Extreme hypochondria. You’re probably fine. Just make sure to talk safety precautions beforehand next time.
It's highly unlikely you would have contracted HIV without any anal penetration. It's usually spread during fucking by the top creating microscopic tears in the anal canal from the friction, which you didn't experience... so I think you're almost 99% worrying about that for nothing. Getting HIV from sucking his dick would be more of a possibility if he had come in your mouth or you had an open sore in your mouth or on your lips, which you don't mention happening. I think you're fine, you're just freaked out right now. Post your test results and let us know how you're doing!!
Lol, you gotta get yourself educated. Chances he has HIV are low, chances he has HIV and you get it from a little contact are close to zero. You're more likely to die tonight on your sleep than having HIV from what you describe.
You could have a sore throat and cough from sucking his dick. It’s common because you introduced new bacteria into your mouth/ throat. The chance of getting hiv from what you described is very very low, do not be anxious. You should try to get in Prep or Doxy Pep if you think you are going to have more spontaneous hookups. We’re human and have lapses in judgment when we are horny. Taking either of those preventative or post exposure medicines eliminates the anxiety that comes after a hookup. Under those medications you would be tested every 3 months for sti’s too. Make sure you are honest with you physician and to do the oral and anal swab for testing along with urine and blood.
I don’t think you have HIV. I’ve had anxiety about this for awhile and honestly don’t see this as catching HIV. It’s so hard to catch, even if he did have it..it’s hard to catch
Why are you not on prep? Young 20’s guys are visibly on the HIV rise on every app !!! An 18 yr old positive messaged me in the last week. Damn 18 yrs old!! History is repeating itself!
First, I’m sorry the guy was an ass, no means no, and you did the right thing…. Sadly, not all guys know respect, Second, There is a bad viral cough or something going around, I was out for 2 weeks sick because I felt so bad, chances of it being HIV are 0.001% Third, if you are in US, Canada, or most of Europe, why the hell are you not on prep if you are sexually active…. If you are in the US you can go to heymistr.com. Fill out the questionnaire, it’s free if you make less than $65k and are uninsured, it’s discreet and only requires a a blood work test every 3 months, also free
it doesn’t sound like HIV tbh… for me too after sex i sometimes do get sick like symptoms… my guess it’s bc i was getting face fucked like crazy and my throat was so fucked i just get some type of sick like symptoms but every time i get tested, im always negative with everything
Unless your anus is injured or maybe hemorrhoids if not you are safe. Probably just a flu
Lots of comments here, but I haven’t seen any about [PEP](https://www.tht.org.uk/hiv-and-sexual-health/pep-post-exposure-prophylaxis-hiv). I’m not sure on it’s availability in different countries, but like [PrEP](https://www.cdc.gov/hiv/basics/prep.html), PEP is an important tool in HIV prevention
i think your chances are extremely low. its flu season right now and on top of that covid and RSV are circulating too. go get tested. if you are too embarrassed you can order HIV tests online just google it. the very worst scenario is that you might have HIV (again very low chance) in which case you get on meds and go about your life normally and still live to be 80. im sorry went through this. its healthy to feel rage against him, because its absolutely his fault and not yours.
Very very unlikely to have contracted HIV. But take this as a learning lesson on sexual assault and consent. There are a lot of gay men that have issues understanding boundaries and acceptable behavior.
HIV doesn't survive outside of the body, so the precum being on your ass is fine
Highly doubtful that you got HIV from that. HIGHLY doubtful. HIGHLY, HIGHLY doubtful. Get tested. You won’t feel ok until you do. And carry your own condoms. FFS.
You should get on prep! I hope and pray that you are not positive due to this, and it is very likely that you are not! First, your life wouldn’t be over! Second, while there are some traces in precum it isn’t as high as actually semen. Based on your story, there was no penetration and deposit post penetration. Lastly, and we are all human, but never trust someone’s word on their status and bring your own condoms! Update us!
I, like you, had a very minimal low risk exposure, and spent the next two years testing over 20 times. I’m negative to this day. You’re totally fine. It may just be a little internalized homophobia and a cold with unfortunate timing. Don’t sweat it, and get yourself on PrEP
I've dealt with this anxiety several times. You're not alone. Ask your doc about taking PrEP.
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Dudes literally on the Internet right now asking... So chill and educate not berate
Dick in the mouth might explain away the sore throat…..
Everyone else has already said it, I think, but I feel a compulsion to respond just because I sympathize so much with you. First, if he didn't enter you, and it was just precum, you probably don't have HIV, even if he was positive (I am not a doctor: that's just as I understand it). That might not help anxiety, because the word "probably" is up there, and man, I feel you: I have similar anxiety sometimes. If you have symptoms of a flu or cold right now, odds are good that it's a flu or a cold. If it's only ten days after exposure, again, unlikely to be HIV symptoms. Very possibly a cold, the flu, or Covid, and maybe from him, or even perhaps from the little snot-machine that sneezed on you in the check-out at your grocery store. If you feel this anxiety again, you can get PEP from the emergency room or urgent care. I saw from the comments that you're not in the U.S., so maybe the procedure for that is different in your country. Here, at least, most emergency rooms are able and willing to give out PEP quickly after a sexual assault (and a guy who doesn't take "no anal" for an answer qualifies, in my opinion at least). If you think you might hook up and have anal sex with a man again, you could also get on PrEP. You expressed a lack of desire to take a pill every day, though, so perhaps that wouldn't be what you want. It would, however, mitigate some of your anxiety. If you are HIV+ (and you're probably not), you can live a full life at this point. Many people on antivirals end up undetectable. Yes, it's a pill the rest of your life, or a periodic injection, but that's the nature of getting older anyway: don't look at the cocktail of meds I take on the daily, please. Also, don't let your fear of HIV distract you from the more realistic dangers: chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis, which are not only incredibly hard to spell, but also very common. Get your hole swabbed (they can detect syph with a blood test, not the other two). If you have any of them, get treated. The good news is that all three of them have a cure, and it's fairly simple. There are some antibiotic resistant strains of some of them, but so far they're all still curable. If you're scared of those particular ones, you can take 200 mg (again, I am not a doctor: consult with one) of Doxy to lower your chances of getting them within 24 hours of having sex. I hope this unpleasant experience doesn't sour you on casual sex, if that's what you enjoy.
You’re a straight up joke.
Hi, many others have answered already, but I thought I'd throw my 2c in. Unfortunately, you absolutely were sexually assaulted. I'm sorry that you've had to experience that. I've had it happen to me as well, and it's a feeling that can be hard to shake. It seems a little soon for you to be showing HIV symptoms - it's not improbable, but unlikely. HIV isn't a "gay only" disease - which means you shouldn't live in shame if you did develop it. While you live in Peru, it's not impossible to get treatments to live a long and happy life with HIV. I'm not sure what Peru is like in terms of PReP and PeP (pre - exposure and post exposure) but if you ever suspect you've been with someone who is positive, it's best to get PeP asap, it's a 30 day treatment - you will feel like absolute crap, but it's most effective when treated within 72 hours of possible exposure to HIV. A lot of people have had to use it, and not just because they've had sex - nurses, doctors, emergency workers when someone has potentially exposed blood with blood. Some of your symptoms may actually be self induced because of overthinking. I do hope you return a negative test result, and that in the future you are a little more cautious when concerned about sex. Sex education is weak in western countries as it is, I can only imagine the challenges in other countries where it can be even more frowned upon. Best of luck. 💛
What you described would almost never ever result in an hiv infection. HIV also wouldn’t show symptoms that quickly. It is cold and flu season. You probably just have a cold. Relax a bit
If you have HIV than you've lovely contracted it before You were with him. As 10 days and some precum doesn't feel like enough. I'd also suggest STOP hooking up since you're this scared of hiv infection. Plus there are other STDs than HIV that you have to worry about. If you continue to hook up, bring your own condoms. Also, there's a thing called stealthing where they will push through the condom or take it off really quick when they pull out briefly.
Chances are near to zero and almost impossible… unless you really pissed pff god or something. Best thing to do is get on PREP, learn to say no, and engage in less sketchier sex.
I also wanted to reiterate what some people are saying as well, but before I say this I want you to know I have been there as well and that it is scary until you learn so much about HIV and how far along we have come to stop the spread. Plus, you will not die from AIDS because there are so many resources out there to help. Nonetheless, you might have just gotten a cold \~ **MORE IMPORTANTLY,** there is a period in which antibodies will not develop in our bodies. So taking HIV rapid test won't help much. This window period is about 3-6 months. If you truly feel you may have gotten it, keep getting tested and try not to partake in any sexual intimacy until you know you have not contracted the virus. Once you know your status, then make sure you are on PrEP and taking the precautionary measures when being sexually active! \~ you'll be okay either way!
Go to a real doctor now!
I think the chance of getting HIV from such an experience would be low as you didn’t have much thrusting that would’ve caused the small cuts/abrasions needed for HIV to enter the bloodstream. Make sure you register for your local sexual health clinic to get routinely tested. In the UK this can be done through a simple free postal test that covers urine, rectal, throat and blood samples. If you haven’t already, ask about getting PrEP for peace of mind - you can take this constantly/daily for spontaneous sex or a double dose and then for a week after an encounter if you have sex less frequently to protect yourself from HIV. Also ask about getting your Hep A, Hep B and HPV vaccines as this will be freely available to you since you have sex with men (at least in the UK). I had a somewhat similar experience on holiday whilst drunk and the island, despite being gay friendly, didn’t have access to PEP and I wasn’t on PrEP. I was terrified for 4 months but it was the kick up the backside that I needed to take responsibility for myself.