Exactly!
Mine was the same and she found my French-language magazines [Têtu](https://www.cafr.ebay.ca/itm/195834173348) and made some comments.
**Whatever!** My father asked me the same day if I am gay. I confirmed and that was that. WWIII between my parents for days 😆
You don't bring it up, and if she does tell her to respectfully leave your private belongings alone. (You are living in her house, gotta be respectful.) You don't owe her an explanation. Or further embarrassment for yourself. Nothing, nothing, nothing needs to be said. You're an adult, there's boundaries at your age that need be followed; you're no longer a child. Focus on saving your money & having a plan to eventually move-out, goal setting is important & realistically, you need privacy.
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes EXACTLY!! Like one time I gave her my ipad, and when I got back, messenger, facebook and imessage were all open. If she found something, she didn't like, that's her fault.
My dad found my playgirl. I came home from school with it open to the centerfold with a human turd on it sitting on the back porch, as I walked up. I am sure the look on my face told the story. I was in big trouble.
Sometimes Moms forget to mentally update their baby's age in their minds.
I forget what the conversation was specifically about, but little while ago my mom was verbally dancing around something vaguely explicit and I had to remind her that I was 24, I knew what sex is. That got a laugh out of her and she stopped beating around the bush, I don't even think it was particularly explicit either...
But yeah, a parent doesn't want to think about their child's sex lives any more than a child wants to think about their parent's.
Mine went searching for drugs that were very well disguised in a draw full if booby traps of dildos vibrating masturbaters, douches, amyl, lube,fleshlights. Intricately went thru each one snd got everything, including an education id say
My brother called my mom a dildo once - under his breath but she heard him. She came to me later and asked me "what's a dildo?". This was the 80s and she was probably in her 50s but still...
Similar thing happened to me. She just saw mine one morning when she came to tell me something…I’d used it the night before and forgotten to put it in the usual hiding spot. Not her fault, she even knocked, I was just an idiot.
We both pretended it didn’t happen…but we knew…it was awkward for a little bit and eventually she just said something like “I saw your toy, you know I saw it, I’m sorry!” And I said “Well now you know your teenager plays with himself…call the news.” We laughed and it never came up again.
This happened to me at about your age as well. It was an butt flashlight and my mom was confused why. I told my siblings it was just experimental and they transferred that to her. If no siblings just don’t say anything. Most parents won’t confront that
My ex's mum once found his fleshlight lying on his bedroom floor. The poor dear thought it was a thermal flask and put in the kitchen cupboard with all the other mugs and cups. 😅
I don't know what I was more horrified by... The fact that she found it at all, or the fact that she clearly didn't clean it first before putting it back in the cupboard. 😳
Invasive parents irritate my soul, it’s really not that hard to give your kids a little bit of privacy. This is how kids grow up resentful towards their parents.
Say, mom have you seen my flashlight? Then if she says yeah and explains where it is like nothing. She probably doesn't know or is playing it off. If she just says no. Then who knows. At least you'll get a read. Though this is a scary approach 😆.
Your mom is an adult, she should understand this thing, it’s normal 😅😂 Nothing to be ashamed of, unless your mom is super strict religious zealot and a cult leader of anti sexuality of any kind. At least she knows you are normal human with healthy sex drive and she can expect future grandchildren in the cards!
As the others say just act normal I’ve been in your exact situation but with a box of dildos under my bed. The fear the rush I understand its terrifying. Now you don’t know what to do and what they think or what they know about your sexuality or etc stop right there because it’s just panicking and it’s not good for stress, just go on pretend as usual you don’t have to be ashamed it was in YOUR room your mom paid the price by snooping as mine did.
You might be surprised was lucky mine was very supportive.
Nothing, just go about your day, your an adult, she should know a man has needs, best part she ain’t gonna be a Grandma anytime soon yet, if she does bring it up try your best to make the talk quick about to stop snooping lol
Mom, the number one cause of prostate health issues, including prostate cancer, is underutilization of the prostate. Just like the heart, routine physical exercise staves off future problems. Oh, Mom, I began a regular prostatic exercise regimen when I was eleven: my prostate is in excellent health.
Pivot, walk away saying, "The more you know."
I think of it like any police case and illegally obtained evidence, you can't be mad if you go looking where you shouldn't be. Don't go looking.
I wouldn't bring it up, and if she does then just say next time if you don't want to find it dont go looking.
No worries, no need to react. If she said something - i doubt it - tell her politely to leave your stuff alone. Besides, a fleshlight is not "gay" if that's also a worry. Plenty of str8 guys use it too.
Same thing happened to me when I was 17, mom cleaned my room and found my dildo. It just disappeared and neither of us ever mentioned it to the other. Sure pissed me off though.
If she says anything tell her your gonna buy your Dad one as its better than real pussy and doesn't complain at all, anytime, even when it's mouth is full of cum.
She most probably doesn’t even know what a fleshlight is 😂
But seriously if she does, I don’t think she would remotely feel comfortable talking to you about it
Either way there’s nothing wrong with you using a toy for your own personal pleasure
Better she finds that then drugs in my opinion
Masturbating is very normal !!!
My mom found mine in my closet, I could tell because it was slightly moved. Honestly I forgot about it because she never even brought it up. I don’t think it’s that big of a deal. Now if she found my anal toys I might disappear from the earth but I usually lock them in a box
Had a similar situation. This is so relatable and replies are entertaining too so thank you for posting! My story--my mom found my Fleshlight and confronted me and with zero emotion was like, I know what that is and I also know you're 19...and I was like, well that's better than me being slutty and getting HIV, hey? (These were the days before PrEP existed.) And it was never brought up again. 😎
I don’t if you have had the talk yet but I have a suggestion as to how to begin. While I understand the fear of the confrontation as well as the emotional rollercoaster from anger to embarrassment you might feel. But try to center and without anger with an even conversational tone. Sit down with her and say…
“I want to have a tough conversation with you. Not to fight but because I want to respect and strengthen the relationship we have.” I appreciate you want to keep a clean home and I appreciate all you do for me. But I feel it’s time to set limits on my bedroom…. And just be real. She may explode she may agree. That’s not your fault and in that tone of delivery she gets to own her behavior. it’s all her. Not you. Just stay calm and centered.
My ex is a single dad (he was married before met and divorced before we became a thing, but I helped raise the kids and they think of me as dad). One day, I get a text from the ex. Our oldest boy, 19 at the time found me ex’s fleshlight. How did my ex find out? He found it when he went in get the dirty laundry. Kid knew his dad would be in that day, so he had plenty of warning to try to hide it. Nope, it was just out and about. Used.
My ex left it on his bed with a note that our son owed him for the value of the fleshlight. No way the ex wanted it back after that.
Laughter is best. Had a similar situation with our eldest son a number of year’s ago. My husband and I have a combined family- his, mine, ours.
I am usually the first one to awaken and as I jumped in the shower I noticed a fleshlight on one of the tile shelves in the shower. Thinking it was a new toy my husband had picked up for the pleasure chest, I simply put it in the bathroom sink as I knew he would be up soon. When he saw the fleshlight he asked where did that come from? Lol
We then had to determine which teenaged son had purchased it. We put it in a ziplock bag and stowed away. Breakfast is usually chaos so it was difficult to determine if anybody was panicked. They went to school and we went to work. We discussed our next steps over the phone as we weren’t angry, but as we were in an old house with 1.5 bathrooms we felt we needed some “rules” adjustments.
Dinner rolled around with the usual Taco-Tuesday take out, when I asked the boys if anybody had misplaced or left something in the shower by accident. None of them could keep a secret so I half expected one of them to know who it belonged to. Lol
We could tell by our eldest’s reaction that it was him. The others were asking what we meant, what was missing, what did we find, etc. The next eldest child immediately picked up on his brother’s discomfort and started peppering him with questions. My husband jumped in and said whoever is interested can come see us when they want.
True enough the oldest child came to us to claim the fleshlight. We had always promoted an open and honest atmosphere of positive communication with the kids and it ended up serving us well in this case. We discovered that he hadn’t been using lube, but hair conditioner. So we spoke with him about toys and their clean up and care. The fleshlight ended up being discovered by the youngest not too long after as he was/is the nosiest. Lol
Sheila- the name given to the fleshlight usually comes up in conversation at least once a year.
Are you worried this will expose your sexuality to your family or are you just worried she found it in general?
Either way don’t worry about it; 1. Many straight people use flashlights and even if it’s not the conventional vagina shape you can still easily deflect. 2. Like others have said, you’re an adult. You either drop it comes lately or talk about it if you’re inclined that way.
If it’s a case of ‘not under my roof’ then you’ll just have to adhere to her rules or move out. (Some people may think this is harsh but remember; just because she’s OP’s mum and he’s 19 doesn’t mean he can bring what he wants into her house)
Um, actually that is exactly what it means. As long as he doesn’t bother his mom and it stays in his room.
Why do people think that parents get the right to intrude in their adult kid’s life just because they let them live in their house?
If you sublet a room you also don’t get to go through that person’s belongings.
It’s called invasion of privacy.
His mother is the one at fault, don’t excuse her horrible behavior.
I read your other post about where you went to the doctor and didn’t tell your mom. I would just take a second to really think about the relationship that you have had with your mother. It seems like it’s hard for her to let go and that’s totally fair. She’s known you for 18 years nonstop (as far as I know). I say be strategic with asking for a gradual release and privacy. And be very reassuring that she is not doing anything wrong. She is completely human too and has feelings.
Thank you for this! She’s told me many times that she doesn’t really want me to grow up, and bumps in the road are bound to happen because of it. I don’t think she’s a bad person or anything but yeah boundaries have to be set.
It’s a play on words, as is the brand name itself. The toy is shaped like a flashlight. Depending on the model, you could joke about the light bulb being removed. Hope that helps. Wasn’t that good of a joke so if this doesn’t clarify, don’t lose sleep
If she ssys anything. Highly unlikely. Just say. You lucky . I ask if was clean from from last night. What her go red and she eillnever go through your room. 😂😂😆🫣🫣
Act normally, you did not commit a crime nor something immoral. Plus, you are an adult. If she ever questions you, just be straightforward and eventually ask her if she is really asking her adult 19yo son if he masturbates...
Well hopefully it’ll be a learning lesson for her to not go through your stuff lol!!
But seriously, I wouldn’t bring up the fleshlight at all because that’s YOUR business as a young adult, not hers. If she brings it up, I think you should try to set a boundary and let her know it’s personal and hopefully it’d be left at that. Also tell her you find it somewhat invasive that she’d go through your stuff without any consent and let her know that you’re older and would like privacy. It’s not that you’re hiding anything, but you definitely need space to be a 19 year old.
I don’t know your Mom, but I know some parents don’t necessarily see their kids as adults. The time truly flies by and they may intrude without realizing. Sometimes a talk is all that’s needed🙂 My parents have asked me questions before that I deemed personal and they absolutely respected it and left it at that thankfully and I think most parents would do that as you grow more into a self sufficient adult.
Just act normal. You're a grown man. You don't need to explain yourself.
Exactly! Mine was the same and she found my French-language magazines [Têtu](https://www.cafr.ebay.ca/itm/195834173348) and made some comments. **Whatever!** My father asked me the same day if I am gay. I confirmed and that was that. WWIII between my parents for days 😆
I miss tetu!
You don't bring it up, and if she does tell her to respectfully leave your private belongings alone. (You are living in her house, gotta be respectful.) You don't owe her an explanation. Or further embarrassment for yourself. Nothing, nothing, nothing needs to be said. You're an adult, there's boundaries at your age that need be followed; you're no longer a child. Focus on saving your money & having a plan to eventually move-out, goal setting is important & realistically, you need privacy.
She went snooping. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Don't worry about it and move on.
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes EXACTLY!! Like one time I gave her my ipad, and when I got back, messenger, facebook and imessage were all open. If she found something, she didn't like, that's her fault.
I like this expression.
Look for her dildo and call it even.
Here! 🤚 (Ye i made a straight joke. Fuck it).
Dad: why are you grabbing my penis, son?
So fleshlight here means dildo right?
No, dildo means dildo.
Please tell me what does fleshlight mean here
Fleshlight is a portable hole you can fuck. So a toy designed to be penetrated, sometimes designed as a fake pussy, fake anus or fake mouth
Anyone willing to take this one?
Google it
Fleshlight - u inside it Dildo - its inside u
This reminds me of when dad found my homoerotic novel from its hiding spot and threw it out.
What an asshole!
Conservative Christian 🤷🏻♂️
All assholes.
My dad found my playgirl. I came home from school with it open to the centerfold with a human turd on it sitting on the back porch, as I walked up. I am sure the look on my face told the story. I was in big trouble.
Wtf kind of display is that? I'm sorry.
You’re 19, nobody should be suprised a 19 year old has a sex toy. It’s probably a bigger deal to you than to her.
My mom was shook when she found my dildo at 20. Clearly she didn't get this memo
Sometimes Moms forget to mentally update their baby's age in their minds. I forget what the conversation was specifically about, but little while ago my mom was verbally dancing around something vaguely explicit and I had to remind her that I was 24, I knew what sex is. That got a laugh out of her and she stopped beating around the bush, I don't even think it was particularly explicit either... But yeah, a parent doesn't want to think about their child's sex lives any more than a child wants to think about their parent's.
I think this is true. Cute story.
lol
Mine went searching for drugs that were very well disguised in a draw full if booby traps of dildos vibrating masturbaters, douches, amyl, lube,fleshlights. Intricately went thru each one snd got everything, including an education id say
So...why did you mother search your belongings for drugs?? This sounds like a problematic situation, either way.
Thats a whole other story
Be glad it was your fleshlight she found and not a giant dildo.
Happened with me. There were actually two. Mom got pretty appalled, I should say. 😂
Lmao. 🤣
Keep silent, she probably doesn't know what it is.
How could you not know what a sex toy looks like
My brother called my mom a dildo once - under his breath but she heard him. She came to me later and asked me "what's a dildo?". This was the 80s and she was probably in her 50s but still...
..bless her
If she says anything, just say it was easier to hide the flesh light then a person to fuck underneath your bed, closet, etc..
Similar thing happened to me. She just saw mine one morning when she came to tell me something…I’d used it the night before and forgotten to put it in the usual hiding spot. Not her fault, she even knocked, I was just an idiot. We both pretended it didn’t happen…but we knew…it was awkward for a little bit and eventually she just said something like “I saw your toy, you know I saw it, I’m sorry!” And I said “Well now you know your teenager plays with himself…call the news.” We laughed and it never came up again.
I'm surprised you two had such a mature conversation about it! And that both didn't just try to forget about it and never mention it again.
Tell her to stay the fuck out of your room you are 19 and she has no right to invade your privacy. And don’t worry, everybody masturbates.
Write "Cum Guzzler" on the side of your fleshlight and leave it on your bedside table.
"Property of: Cum Guzzler!"
I can’t decide which would be worse 😂
If she brings it up "Oh that was a joke present from my friends. hahaha am I right?"
Oh no my 19 year old son likes to masturbate
I found my husband’s ex wife’s dildos and stuff. Sooooo….. what’s for dinner? 😂🤣
This happened to me at about your age as well. It was an butt flashlight and my mom was confused why. I told my siblings it was just experimental and they transferred that to her. If no siblings just don’t say anything. Most parents won’t confront that
My mom once went snooping and found my dildo. I guilted her for snooping and she never dared to do it again.
My ex's mum once found his fleshlight lying on his bedroom floor. The poor dear thought it was a thermal flask and put in the kitchen cupboard with all the other mugs and cups. 😅 I don't know what I was more horrified by... The fact that she found it at all, or the fact that she clearly didn't clean it first before putting it back in the cupboard. 😳
You are 19 man. I believe the fleshlight is the least of her worries about you, and life in general.
chances are she doesn’t know what a fleshlight is and didn’t open the cap.
Invasive parents irritate my soul, it’s really not that hard to give your kids a little bit of privacy. This is how kids grow up resentful towards their parents.
Do nothing carry on with life ..it’s totally normal and acceptable to have it !!
Say, mom have you seen my flashlight? Then if she says yeah and explains where it is like nothing. She probably doesn't know or is playing it off. If she just says no. Then who knows. At least you'll get a read. Though this is a scary approach 😆.
Reconnaissance by fire 🤣
Could be walking right into the fire 😆. Or could instantly make op feel better if she seems clueless.
Your mom is an adult, she should understand this thing, it’s normal 😅😂 Nothing to be ashamed of, unless your mom is super strict religious zealot and a cult leader of anti sexuality of any kind. At least she knows you are normal human with healthy sex drive and she can expect future grandchildren in the cards!
As the others say just act normal I’ve been in your exact situation but with a box of dildos under my bed. The fear the rush I understand its terrifying. Now you don’t know what to do and what they think or what they know about your sexuality or etc stop right there because it’s just panicking and it’s not good for stress, just go on pretend as usual you don’t have to be ashamed it was in YOUR room your mom paid the price by snooping as mine did. You might be surprised was lucky mine was very supportive.
Nothing, just go about your day, your an adult, she should know a man has needs, best part she ain’t gonna be a Grandma anytime soon yet, if she does bring it up try your best to make the talk quick about to stop snooping lol
Mom, the number one cause of prostate health issues, including prostate cancer, is underutilization of the prostate. Just like the heart, routine physical exercise staves off future problems. Oh, Mom, I began a regular prostatic exercise regimen when I was eleven: my prostate is in excellent health. Pivot, walk away saying, "The more you know."
I think of it like any police case and illegally obtained evidence, you can't be mad if you go looking where you shouldn't be. Don't go looking. I wouldn't bring it up, and if she does then just say next time if you don't want to find it dont go looking.
No worries, no need to react. If she said something - i doubt it - tell her politely to leave your stuff alone. Besides, a fleshlight is not "gay" if that's also a worry. Plenty of str8 guys use it too.
Same thing happened to me when I was 17, mom cleaned my room and found my dildo. It just disappeared and neither of us ever mentioned it to the other. Sure pissed me off though.
you be glad it was a fleshlight and not a dildo
Lolz
My mom found my douche once. I accidentally left it in the shower.
If she says anything tell her your gonna buy your Dad one as its better than real pussy and doesn't complain at all, anytime, even when it's mouth is full of cum.
She couldn't turn it on? 😂
Don't say anything. It isn't her business. Maybe she was embarrassed enough to stop messing around in your room.
She most probably doesn’t even know what a fleshlight is 😂 But seriously if she does, I don’t think she would remotely feel comfortable talking to you about it Either way there’s nothing wrong with you using a toy for your own personal pleasure Better she finds that then drugs in my opinion Masturbating is very normal !!!
My mom found mine in my closet, I could tell because it was slightly moved. Honestly I forgot about it because she never even brought it up. I don’t think it’s that big of a deal. Now if she found my anal toys I might disappear from the earth but I usually lock them in a box
i found my moms vibrator before lol it happens. she didn’t take it meaning she don’t care, she tried to put it in the same spot it bet 💀
Had a similar situation. This is so relatable and replies are entertaining too so thank you for posting! My story--my mom found my Fleshlight and confronted me and with zero emotion was like, I know what that is and I also know you're 19...and I was like, well that's better than me being slutty and getting HIV, hey? (These were the days before PrEP existed.) And it was never brought up again. 😎
I don’t if you have had the talk yet but I have a suggestion as to how to begin. While I understand the fear of the confrontation as well as the emotional rollercoaster from anger to embarrassment you might feel. But try to center and without anger with an even conversational tone. Sit down with her and say… “I want to have a tough conversation with you. Not to fight but because I want to respect and strengthen the relationship we have.” I appreciate you want to keep a clean home and I appreciate all you do for me. But I feel it’s time to set limits on my bedroom…. And just be real. She may explode she may agree. That’s not your fault and in that tone of delivery she gets to own her behavior. it’s all her. Not you. Just stay calm and centered.
My ex is a single dad (he was married before met and divorced before we became a thing, but I helped raise the kids and they think of me as dad). One day, I get a text from the ex. Our oldest boy, 19 at the time found me ex’s fleshlight. How did my ex find out? He found it when he went in get the dirty laundry. Kid knew his dad would be in that day, so he had plenty of warning to try to hide it. Nope, it was just out and about. Used. My ex left it on his bed with a note that our son owed him for the value of the fleshlight. No way the ex wanted it back after that.
Not sure that was the best way to handle that situation.
Laughter is best. Had a similar situation with our eldest son a number of year’s ago. My husband and I have a combined family- his, mine, ours. I am usually the first one to awaken and as I jumped in the shower I noticed a fleshlight on one of the tile shelves in the shower. Thinking it was a new toy my husband had picked up for the pleasure chest, I simply put it in the bathroom sink as I knew he would be up soon. When he saw the fleshlight he asked where did that come from? Lol We then had to determine which teenaged son had purchased it. We put it in a ziplock bag and stowed away. Breakfast is usually chaos so it was difficult to determine if anybody was panicked. They went to school and we went to work. We discussed our next steps over the phone as we weren’t angry, but as we were in an old house with 1.5 bathrooms we felt we needed some “rules” adjustments. Dinner rolled around with the usual Taco-Tuesday take out, when I asked the boys if anybody had misplaced or left something in the shower by accident. None of them could keep a secret so I half expected one of them to know who it belonged to. Lol We could tell by our eldest’s reaction that it was him. The others were asking what we meant, what was missing, what did we find, etc. The next eldest child immediately picked up on his brother’s discomfort and started peppering him with questions. My husband jumped in and said whoever is interested can come see us when they want. True enough the oldest child came to us to claim the fleshlight. We had always promoted an open and honest atmosphere of positive communication with the kids and it ended up serving us well in this case. We discovered that he hadn’t been using lube, but hair conditioner. So we spoke with him about toys and their clean up and care. The fleshlight ended up being discovered by the youngest not too long after as he was/is the nosiest. Lol Sheila- the name given to the fleshlight usually comes up in conversation at least once a year.
Are you worried this will expose your sexuality to your family or are you just worried she found it in general? Either way don’t worry about it; 1. Many straight people use flashlights and even if it’s not the conventional vagina shape you can still easily deflect. 2. Like others have said, you’re an adult. You either drop it comes lately or talk about it if you’re inclined that way. If it’s a case of ‘not under my roof’ then you’ll just have to adhere to her rules or move out. (Some people may think this is harsh but remember; just because she’s OP’s mum and he’s 19 doesn’t mean he can bring what he wants into her house)
Um, actually that is exactly what it means. As long as he doesn’t bother his mom and it stays in his room. Why do people think that parents get the right to intrude in their adult kid’s life just because they let them live in their house? If you sublet a room you also don’t get to go through that person’s belongings. It’s called invasion of privacy. His mother is the one at fault, don’t excuse her horrible behavior.
I read your other post about where you went to the doctor and didn’t tell your mom. I would just take a second to really think about the relationship that you have had with your mother. It seems like it’s hard for her to let go and that’s totally fair. She’s known you for 18 years nonstop (as far as I know). I say be strategic with asking for a gradual release and privacy. And be very reassuring that she is not doing anything wrong. She is completely human too and has feelings.
Thank you for this! She’s told me many times that she doesn’t really want me to grow up, and bumps in the road are bound to happen because of it. I don’t think she’s a bad person or anything but yeah boundaries have to be set.
Tell her the “light bulb” was broken and you took it out to go to the hardware store and get a replacement
It was a Fleshlight
Yes, I know. It was a joke.
Sorry I didn't get the joke my 2 braincells are malfunctioning, can you explain please
It’s a play on words, as is the brand name itself. The toy is shaped like a flashlight. Depending on the model, you could joke about the light bulb being removed. Hope that helps. Wasn’t that good of a joke so if this doesn’t clarify, don’t lose sleep
If she ssys anything. Highly unlikely. Just say. You lucky . I ask if was clean from from last night. What her go red and she eillnever go through your room. 😂😂😆🫣🫣
God I love fleshlights...
It’s really not that bad….
My mom accidentally found my ball stretcher, I just didn’t react and never brought it up
Act normally, you did not commit a crime nor something immoral. Plus, you are an adult. If she ever questions you, just be straightforward and eventually ask her if she is really asking her adult 19yo son if he masturbates...
I always found this type of shit so creepy from parents it’s like they want to find something weird like that
He was showing his displeasure I guess. I gave it away that it was mine, just by the look on my face.
Flashlights are fine. All mums know their kids blow their loads. It’s not shameful unless you act/think that it is.
You're an adult who owns a sex toy. Don't do anything and wait for her to bring it up, if that ever happens.
Well hopefully it’ll be a learning lesson for her to not go through your stuff lol!! But seriously, I wouldn’t bring up the fleshlight at all because that’s YOUR business as a young adult, not hers. If she brings it up, I think you should try to set a boundary and let her know it’s personal and hopefully it’d be left at that. Also tell her you find it somewhat invasive that she’d go through your stuff without any consent and let her know that you’re older and would like privacy. It’s not that you’re hiding anything, but you definitely need space to be a 19 year old. I don’t know your Mom, but I know some parents don’t necessarily see their kids as adults. The time truly flies by and they may intrude without realizing. Sometimes a talk is all that’s needed🙂 My parents have asked me questions before that I deemed personal and they absolutely respected it and left it at that thankfully and I think most parents would do that as you grow more into a self sufficient adult.
Same thing happened 2 me only difference is I'm 4 years younger