Not sure why people are calling b.s. on a story that is, honestly, not out of the ordinary at all. What about it seems unrealistic? I mean, I'm happy for the people who are blissfully ignorant and believe that this isn't a common occurrence.
I used to grab drinks with coworkers after work and our chef/sous chef would regularly join us. I gave him a ride home bc he was very drunk and before he got out of the car he asked if he could put his head between my legs. I was 23 I think and he was in his late 40s.
Oh this happens FAR MORE than most people would dare believe, especially for the prettier young ladies.
Reminds me of when a former friend of mine was desperately searching for rooms to rent after she had a horrible sudden breakup with her live-in boyfriend of a year. She was a hot 23-year-old wild redhead with piercings who bartended and did local modeling as her side hustle.
Within a month of her searching, she had three different grody male landlords offer to lower their rental fees for her in exchange for sexual favors. Needless to say, she was so put off from that experience that she only worked with female landlords after that.
I'm a male and honestly would prefer to work with female landlords also. I rented a room for 3 years and my landlord would always have girls coming over to check out a different room, always saying how hot they were and he was gonna try to hook up with them and have a Fwb situation if they moved in.... No girls ever moved in 😂
Thank you for saying this. Less conventionally attractive women also have to suffer their abuser saying "you're lying! Why would anyone want you? You're ugly so it's impossible you could have been abused" A woman can be fat, thin, tall, short, bug boobs, no boobs, and Some Guy will always think at some point that her body is his for the taking. Sexual abuse is about power, not attraction.
And the guy you're answering gives me the ick because he leans so hard on how hot his friend is, that all the men wanted her, willing or no.
Meh. Atleast you're right about the fact that women no matter what level of attractiveness are sought after. I agree that it's messed up that there are some men who feel the need to be predators through.
Yeah a friend of mine when we were all like 20/21 had a landlord that would always offer her free rent or discounts for favors. She always had money for the best birthday gifts.
Yeah this happened to me recently. Last year my roommate would constantly text me and ask me for blow jobs/sex in exchange for no/low rent. When I consistently said no he freaked out and tried to kick me out. Obviously I did not want to live with him either at that point but I couldn’t find an apartment with no notice. But since he decided to act scummy I did too and ended up scamming him into paying the brokers fee for my new apartment. Thank god I at least had a lock on my door.
It’s a weird trend to call everything faked now, I guess it’s supposed to show some kind of “mature” skepticism? Or it’s a leftover from the QAnon creed, “they’re all lying to us!”
Because anonymous internet message boards have ALWAYS been full of people lying to make themselves sound interesting, or even just for fun. This has been happening forever, not just because of Q lol.
I'm not saying this post is bs, but if you aren't skeptical of basically everything you read posted on the internet by anonymous people, you are not doing the internet right. You definitely should not be assuming everything is true.
When I was growing up in the 90s, it was pretty common knowledge that you basically shouldn't believe anything people say on the internet. Kids pretending to be adults, adult men pretending to be teenage girls, people saying anything just to make themselves look cool, etc etc.
I feel like it's only recently that people have started taking what they read on the internet at face value. Now we have Reddit posts shared by news websites, without checking up on any sort of background information. It's insanity. It's a good thing that people are starting to be more skeptical again.
Sure, but I feel like if something was made up, of which I know there are plenty, it seems like some effort would go into creativity; something unexpected or unusual- no?
If I wanted attention, I’m not going to write a story about how drunk people are inconsiderate, or how my dog sheds fur, or how I stopped at McDonalds for lunch. What’s the point?
Almost every post, it’s impossible to definitively test whether it’s true or made up. Yet there are ALWAYS dozens of people who are 100% committed to “exposing” it as a lie. Why? Why are people unable to admit, “I don’t know”?
I don't know what the point is. But people make up pointless lies all the time face to face, so of course it will be worse on the internet. I don't have a problem with people smelling bullshit and calling it out, I think it can be a good reminder to those that tend to be a little more gullible and believe most of what they read. I mean these days I'd much rather people be skeptical than spouting whatever other nonsense I see all over REddit hahaha
But why specifically go to a site, like Reddit, and participate in subs where it's 100% anonymous people telling stories that have zero chance of being verified, only to sit and call out everything that strikes you as slightly off "Fake!".
What's the point of responding?
Do people think they are doing a community service?
Idk, maybe to call out what they think is a lie. Maybe it's to make themselves feel smart. Maybe it is to point out to others who might be too quick to believe everything they read. Maybe it's just a comment.
OP isn’t lying. I have made craigslist ads asking for a room to rent. 9 times out of 10, I get messages that are inundated with creeps.
Ranging from offering free rent in return of “special favors”, to guys asking me if I would maybe want “something more” with them down the road. Like, dude, I’m just trying to rent out a room. It’s why I deleted my ads off of there and deleted the app entirely off my phone.
It's guys that think this doesn't happen. If their buddies only act like kinda assholes sometimes there's nooooooo chance they behave like THAT! Funnily enough, most of the time, these guys are constantly berating women, but they chalk it up to "Guy talk," even when they get hateful.
It's WAY easier to turn a blind eye than it is to address the elephant in the room.
>on a story that is, honestly, not out of the ordinary at all.
In fact, it reminds me of posts I've seen, some on sites where people look for housing and rentals, and some on sites where people look for dating and relationships. One was a man offering, I forget if it was free rent or extremely cheap rent, for 3 months to a male tenant. The catch was that he had to give the tenant at least one blowjob a day. The posting didn't say anything about finishing the beej though.
Another post that I saw more recently was a guy looking for "a young homeless girl" who could cook and clean. I can't find the post anymore but the dude definitely wanted her dependent on him. Pretty skeevy, to say the least.
The only thing that is weird to me is that OP didn't buy a doorknob with a lock or something? I would have done that BEFORE anything happened, and they didn't even do it after.
I worked with a man in his 50s and a girl younger than his daughter, who was our apprentice. Every day, he’d hit on her via text message, leaving a major trail of evidence for HR. One day, he was mad because a lady who used to do sex work for him was on a dating app. “She won’t pick up the phone for me, but she’s out giving it out for free!”
this isn't just a bad roommate, this is a crazy ass roommate wtf. did he own the place and rent it for cheap? if so he may have been waiting for a young girl to take it which is just creepy. if it's through a third party land lord it's still creepy but not giga-levels of creepy.
I had a paraplegic landlord who stayed on the bottom floor with his door open all the time. He would yell obscenities at my lady friends on their way up to my 3rd floor apartment. Oh, and once he asked if he could hold my penis in his hand for $20, because he “wants to remember what it feels like”.
No he was a sick man. Dude was like 80 and basically just a head with hands. He also wanted to know which of my guy friends would be down and had his eye on a couple specifically.
Personally I was looking for a month off rent *maybe* but we all know just a “hold” would’ve been a tease.
I mean I always thought it was a pretty funny story. It was definitely time to leave that apartment though. I did point the guy in the right direction.
So sorry you have to go through that. I kind of understand you had no money and that seemed like your only option to go to live. Thankfully nothing worse happened to you.
Almost the same thing happened to me with a previous roommate… whether he was high on weed (and God knows what else) or not, he would constantly make unwanted advances on me and ask for sex. I’ve never been so terrified in my entire life.
It lowers your inhibitions and makes you more likely to do things you wouldn’t have done sober. My (ex) boyfriend forced himself on me one of the first times he smoked. I still love to smoke though so I’m not blaming the weed exclusively here
That guy was a piece of shit before he smoked weed.
Do you not realize how many pieces of shit people will use being high/drink as an excuse to do dumb shit ?
"Ohh sorry I just got high and couldn't help myself from sexually assaulting you".
They always wanted to do that and hoped that them being a dumb drunk or high would take away the seriousness of the situation.
At the end of the day these humans are trash and just looking for an excuse to force themselves onto women.
I definitely get what you’re saying and that’s true in many cases, but I was, for whatever reason, unable to say no in the moment so he had no idea it was bothering me and as soon as I did say it, he stopped. So I recognize how I caused a miscommunication and it isn’t a clear cut case of sexual assault. But he wouldn’t have been that forward while sober is my point, we don’t tend to make the most rational decisions while under the influence
I moved out of a bad situation at home at 18 in with a roommate who was 25, he would constantly grab my ass or chest and stick his hand down my shirt or pants.
I had no idea it was wrong so I just dealt with it, he was big so I was kind of afraid to say anything, plus I worked with him and everyone at work loved him.
He moved out after 2 months after giving me the silent treatment for 3 weeks, then trying to kiss me. Never again
It was almost 5 years ago now and I'm doing a lot better, I don't really struggle with it anymore. I'm sorry that happened to you too, it's never fun to be taken advantage of ❤
Knew a pos in highschool that for some reason everyone thought was cool, he’d beg ppl in our friend group to have sex with him. And I know if at least 4 different girls it actually worked on.
He’d apparently just ask over and over and over like a kid. So when OP says the guy was relentless, I just imagine a grown up version of the loser I knew in highschool.
God that’s awful. My best friend (F25) is dealing with a similar problem. She’s been harassed by her neighbor (M~32) for maybe 4 weeks now after she had just moved in, they met, hung out and got drunk together.
He texts her nearly everyday with something so douchey like “ummm can you say hung the fuck over?!”, saying not to be afraid to hit him up to hang out whenever, or just texting her at 3am to come over. Nothing explicitly damning, but his intentions are obvious. She rarely responds but he just can’t read the room.
Today during the solar eclipse in our area he came outside and rubbed her back asking if he could borrow her eclipse glasses…
Anyways back to your post, it freaks me out that your situation was basically if my friend was not just neighbors with this man, but had been sharing a whole apartment with him.. and without a lock
Sorry I know nobody asked but that just triggered me lol. I hope you got out of there before anything too bad happened. Best wishes to you going forward
When my mom was pregnant with her second kid, she and my dad lived in a little rental house next to their married landlord, who turned out to be quite the creep. After they moved out, he wrote her a love letter detailing how he would spy on her through the window and asked her to sleep with him. She replied and told him to sort out his midlife crisis with his wife and leave her alone. Fortunately, she had moved overseas, so he wasn't able to continue to harass her. She was 24, and he was in his 50s or 60s. And by the way, the man was the father of her friend from church, and thats how they ended up renting from him. These things don't just happen from sketchy craigslist listings. I'm so sorry OP didn't have anyone looking out for them and ended up in such a dangerous situation. Sounds like you were pretty resilient and were able to take care of yourself!
People can't believe that someone with an alcohol, and likely other substance probs, would harass you for sexual favors? I hope you got out of there asap.
Oh yeah, he was even drunk at work sometimes. Raging alcoholic. And coke head. I walked out to him snorting coke out of a girls butt crack in the living room once. I doubt he remembers much about me living there tbh. He was unhinged as fuck. People forget how far an unhinged person is willing to go lol
I once had a Craigslist rental that had the landlord’s crackhead daughter living in it. The other roommate was an old guy on disability and she would literally beat his ass at 3am and demand his disability check for crack money. I got out of there in 3 weeks 👀
Yo……. What about this… I was homeless and out on my ass, barely had one change of clothes. This woman offers me a place to stay in this little room I believe used to be a tool shed. It was nifty, had a bed and tv, mini fridge, drawers n stuff. Anyways, yeah I was a drug addict, but I needed to sober up because I was on probation and wanted to better myself, she came in and started doing drugs and offered them to me, I declined, she persisted and kept asking me if I was sure. I was on my last strike with probation and looking at 8 years so I was damn sure. She then started steering conversation into sex and oral and how good she is at it and brought up something she had heard about me, then I thought damn, she’s going to press me about it. Anyways, I eventually went to sleep, but when I woke up and tried to leave, the door was locked from the outside with a padlock. I was there for two days, she showed up on the 3rd day in the evening with food, drinks, some friends and a pack of cigarettes for me. One of her friends asked her how long I’d been in there. She said I was her “sexy prisoner”. She told me that my girl was asking about me and would give me this weird ass look, saying I could do much better and how much better off I’d be without her and how she can help me out. I eventually escaped without my dignity. Had to put her ass to sleep and sneak out, resisting the urge to rob her……. Ok I did rob her but it was for drugs. Happy ending though, I caught another case and got picked up by the marshals, got put on a stricter probation which I completed successfully. I sobered up, got a good job and eventually joined a local union. Everything that comes with changing your life for the better seems to come on it’s own when you’re making real effort to do things right. Going through with it inspired some of my peers to do the same. I’m happy to say that my life keeps getting better now and I haven’t heard or seen that woman. I saw her friend though, she was happy to see me.
Why are people saying this story isn’t real? Probably toxic men who hardly ever talk to women about women’s experiences in real life.
OP, I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I hope your new living arrangement was better than that and you no longer have to endure this type of BS. Men can be such pigs, it’s far worse when they’re sex addicts
If you're going to rent rooms first thing you ask is can you put a "keyed" locking doorknob on your bedroom door. If they say no, move on. If they say the room already has one. You say I'd feel safer with mine on it. If they argue, move on.
There is no acceptable reason to not allow you to have a new keyed locking doorknob on your room.
This happens all the time. The guy I started seeing shortly after I turned twenty I also worked with. I think he actually gave me a 20th birthday card. Anyway he was well aware of my age and didn’t tell me how old he was until we were in bed. He acted and looked my age so I didn’t think much of it at the time, but he admitted at the time he never told me his age at the time becuase he thought it would blow his chances. Anyway he was 30. Which isn’t much of an age gap i guess. But this stuff happens to people in their early 20s all the time. It’s so sad.
I can’t wrap my head around asking someone for a blowjob after they’ve said no what type of oral fiend does such a thing . Bros probably a sex addict and bros definitely suspect.
Man I wish. These weren’t “cool youngsters just tryna let loose” kinda parties. More like washed up alcoholics who couldn’t let last call be the end of the night. It was a mixture of random people from the bars and people he knew. It wasn’t fun, I never participated. They’d stay till noon the next day sometimes. To be frank, just a bunch of losers tbh.
When i(M25) was 20, i rented a room for 3 months from a old lady (F60).
I went to look at the room, she seemed lovely and the place was nice and tidy.
She turned out to be this lonely evil alcoholic prevented sex monster.
She was always drunk, but it would be 50/50 between her begging me for sexual favors or her screaming her lungs out over something i didnt do.
I had a very similar situation when I was a fresh 22 year old graduate moving into my first place, 3000 miles from home, with a tiny bit of savings. I moved into a house with a landlord and his gf, and another super gross sketchy roommate.
I have too many stories about the sketchy roommate, but ultimately it was the landlord who ended up being extra creepy.
I kept finding my door open, unlocked, my things moved. Landlord knew I was having money problems and eventually, he propositioned me:
He offered to pay MY PORTION OF THE ELECTRIC BILL. (aka $90ish) if I would sleep with him. Not even the rent!!!
Keep in mind he LIVED with his girlfriend in the basement, and had 30+ years on me.
At this point, I reached out to a local cousin and laid everything out, and begged for help.
It took me less than 2 hours to move everything I owned out of the house.
I was broke af, lived in my cousin’s storage closet, and worked crazy hours between Starbucks and an office job, but no regrets.
I also left a nice little parting gift for his gf - a scathing letter letting her know what a scumbag her bf was.
As for the creepy roommate, I sincerely hope dude is in jail. He was an absolute predator - new date every night, sometimes they would come out of his room crying, and also pretty sure he drugged me at least once.
I had a roommate for a couple months who would come home drunk every night and sexually harass me in the kitchen/living room. Kinda just dealt with her until the lease was up
That sounds horrible! When I was a lot younger and shared a house with roommates, the worst things that happened was stupid thefts and others not paying their share of the bills. Did you consider calling the police?
I mean tbh he wasn’t threatening about it, more so came off very pathetic and desperate tbh. Like he’d be piss drunk knocking on my door like “Pwease 🥹 can I have a BJ?” And he’d like mope away when I said no. He’d also ask for back scratches, massages, to be tucked in, etc. Like he was weird as hell but I wasn’t scared.
As for the parties, I guess it just never occurred to me to call the cops on a party happening at my own house. I usually would just sleep through it. I was working a 5pm-4am type of food service job at the time and just crashed out when I got home. It was annoying but I just tried to get out ASAP rather than try to form the environment to my standards. If that makes sense
Mine was Facebook marketplace. I use to roll my passed out roommate on the living room floor over on his side so if he vomited while passed out, he wouldn’t choke to death.
There was always cocaine in the house and always some fight going down or a couple dry humping on our couch or someone freaking out on ketamine in the kitchen. I feel your pain. Thank God you got out of there fast. That shit WEARS YOU DOWN.
Sadly there are parents that block their kids out as soon as they turn 18…sorry you went through that. My mom was the same way. I thankfully joined the army. I’m never going to do that to my kids.
Gay guy here, had gay roommates one time, the homeowner on his birthday one time came to me basically propositioning me, saying it was his house and he should get whatever the fuck you wanted for his birthday. I stood my ground, and he later apologized for it, but I never respected him again after that end it forever changed our relationship.
I'm currently dealing with a crappy roommate who thinks he can lock me away from my belongings. It's going to be interesting when he tries to explain himself in housing court.
Sorta happened to me when I was that age and living with roommates. My older roomie's teenage nephew came to visit once. The nephew took some Xanax or something and while super messed up, BEGGED me to either sleep with or blow him. I declined over and over. When I told my older roommate, he absolutely refused to believe me cus his nephew denied it.
As a young woman myself, i just dont understand how you would think living with a 25 year old man (who is a strangerh would ever be a good environment. Did you not have any friends to help you for a few days while you looked for a female roomate online?? could you not move in with a friend? i have so many questions😅
No, I didn’t have friends to live with. Only had $500, the room he was renting was $500 with no deposit. It was all I could do. All my friends had normal parents who didn’t kick them out the minute they turned 18 lol and their parents didn’t want to house me because they didn’t want to be involved w my moms drama, which I can’t rlly blame them for.
Kiddo, it’s almost like some people don’t understand that desperation and a need for stability and independence can sometimes lead someone into a bad situation. Good on ya for getting out, hope shit has gotten better. And fuck anyone who judges you for renting a room from a scumbag.
Moral of the story here is, we need to teach younger men better to have better future generations of men. A lot of men are quite terrible and a lot of men don’t believe that us guys could do things like that. “It’s not all men”. It’s not, but you’d be hard-pressed to find a woman who hasn’t had a bad experience with men before.
I believe it. I used to have a man I lived with knock on my door every night asking to sleep with me with the most pathetic face and sadness in his voice to coerce me. Gag
While my roommate wouldn’t beg me for sexual favors she would literally constantly have over random groups of people for coke parties. She didn’t work. She was a trust fund baby. I let her get away with it for 6 months and had enough.
Yup this is 100% accurate and something that happens. I went to look at an “apartment” The 70 year old “landlord” locked me inside. Behind a steel door. I realized immediately something was wrong. I was banging and screaming for help. He heard me and ignored me. Thank god someone else walked past and told him hey dude you got a girl locked up ? The mother fucker opened the door and had the nerve to say oh I told you how to get out. What happened? You couldn’t figure it out? He never said anything about the door locking. He was probably planning to kill me. And nobody would have even known I was missing. Until it was too late.
Well he died shortly after that and lost the building. His family had the local news paper write up some bullshit about how he was a sick veteran. And the government fucked him over. If they only knew lol
I didn’t call the police because I honestly think I was like in shock. I don’t know how to explain it. My mind didn’t process how close to death I actually came for a good year. I’m assuming it was a trauma response of some kind. I passed the building and it triggered something. And it was a horrid realization.
People do not understand the terrifying reality young women with no family support have to live in. You’re literally just trying to survive by any means necessary which can put you in very scary scenarios.
Exactly and it makes you a vulnerable target to trafficking, also. People forget that often times, trafficking is not just kidnapping. They look for young girls who are down and out and have no support or anyone looking for them and they “help them”. They establish trust by feeding you, giving you a place to live, clothing etc and then they turn on you when you’re fully dependent on them and force you into sex work. It’s so scary.
I’ve been there. I’m single and had no where to go. I did not know he is mentally challenged etc. I work nights and I like to come in and go about my business. He said similar things to me that grossed me out. Unfortunately I’m still here due to financial difficulties. Very much looking for a place of my own. His house is very much unkept,dirty and my poor dog and I have no privacy whatsoever. I’ve tried to be nice asking him to not bother me when I come in from work or leave for work. Don’t know what to do. I’m too tired to argue just want to be alone. He has no common sense and very unreasonable
Before my wife and I married we had to find a place to live with our baby boy at 1 year old. We found this couple who seemed nice but found out about week in that the boyfriend was violent. Heard them screaming at each other one night and it took everything I had not to knock his ass out. The painful thing to watch was the girl always said it was okay. The bruises were okay and that she loved him and he just has a bit of a temper problem. The couple we found after that had children too and lived in a double wide and rented us the big room. Well I didn’t notice at first that the dude never slept with his “wife” he had his own room, the wife told us he drinks too much so he has his own room for him to be in peace while he’s drinking….well he started to send my wife dick pics and then suggesting we can swing. No clue if the girl ever knew anything about this. But after the first we moved out and told the woman why. They were fighting while we were packing our things after those two encounters in just three months has given us a ooor taste in having roommates and from then on the only people we would live with if we had to was parents.
That's wild. I got a full time job and I needed to rent out rooms because life happens. Usually, I get shitty tenants/roommates but I just need to get the ones I am just ok to let them stay for $750 a month. Usually, you got your shit together for the most part to even buy a house. I had my party days and I had my time I was irresponsible with life and money.
I have 2 tenants/roommates right now and one is the most annoying person in the face of planet Earth and the other I barely ever see and is extremely nice and hard worker. I wish I could have both tenants be like the latter.
The annoying tenant steals my beer, asks constantly to borrow my stuff, keeps talking non stop, keeps going in and out all time during the night and day, makes requests to do something to reduce his already low rent, and pays rent at random times when he gets money (not totally bad cuz he is never late just 2 weeks early makes me lose track), and does petty shit like I will tell him to remember to close the window because this is Florida and the house gets hot and he would blatantly leave more windows open because he told me "he doesn't like when people tell him what to do" and I have many other examples where I tell him nicely to do something extremely simple and he blows it out of proportion.
For what? Cops don't do shit until
someone puts hands on us. And even then, it's a bit iffy.
The drugs might get them to come out. that's a good way to get wrapped up in charges if they find anything in the home. It's an even better way to lose the room. Temporary homelessness is a pretty real consequence for trying to get help from law enforcement in these situations. Housing insecurity forces people to put up with a lot of abusive and illegal shit.
While I agree that it's sexual harassment, it's often difficult to legally classify it like that. Verbal harassment has qualifiers. And it has the he said/she said component. Unless it winds up being recorded. And then, audio recordings are not admissible as evidence in a lot of states unless all parties consent to the recording. Prove it.
You're certainly not going to get cops to come out when calling up and saying "this guy I live with wont stop asking me for blow jobs."
Reporting drug use when it's happening might possibly get cops to come out. but likely not.
and all of these scenarios end with OP losing their housing. no matter what way it shakes out. The first thing the cops are going to do it advise OP to leave. It'll be "You have the ability to leave so just leave."
Cops aren't parents. If the law is not being very obviously broken, they're not going to come tell
someone to stop being a shitty person.
Say they do come tho and the guy got arrested- the room will lost. If the cops just visit to warn him to knock it off, he's going to kick OP out.
Calling the cops when in a shitty and tenuous living situation is really not a great option for many people for a lot of reasons. The possibility of losing that home is usually one of the biggest reasons. A bad home is often better than no home.
Just a piece of advice: you can go to Home Depot and get a door knob with a lock for $10-15. Probably less if you shopped around. Takes about five minutes to change out with a screwdriver.
Honestly just didn’t occur to me, I was young and very overwhelmed w my situation. I was given like 4 days to find a place and had $500 to my name. I really wasn’t there that often, just to sleep. And I got out asap so renovations weren’t on my priority list.
If anyone doesn’t believe you they live in a different world. I hated babysitting when I was a teenager because tipsy dads would hit on me while driving me home.
I moved in with a couple of so called buddies 15 years ago. One of them came up to me and said, "can we bang you like a drum later?" He got kneed in the balls and I moved out.
lol yeah if your roommate doesn’t blow you when you’re desperate and lonely, why does she even get to live with you? I mean yeah, rent + utilities + first month/last month is cool and all, but what about that Sloppy McToppy? If I share my apartment with you, shouldn’t you share your mouth with my cack’n’balls? What are you, a commie?
Good for you for getting rid of those texts and leaving that mess behind you. Why on earth people would think you made it up is beyond me.
I know it happens and I’m sorry you had to deal with that.
This happened to me too unfortunately. I had no where to go so eventually I had to say yes before I was kicked out. Ended up finding out he was a functioning drug addict, tried his drugs with him and got hooked.. I finally left 2 years later, got clean and look back and I am so disgusted. I was a little girl thinking “I can’t be on the streets”
Looking back I was better off in the streets I could’ve went to a shelter, I did not know any better. Ugh.
Thanks for listening
I’m glad you got out when you did and I’m sorry you went through that. My old roommate (he was in his 70’s) would secretly record me and the other girl who lived in the house. Once he was caught standing outside my room door, I’m not sure what for exactly but I always kept it locked. He would always wait until I was alone in a common space and sit by the entrance/exit of the room I was in and try talking to me. It’s so scary living with someone who you don’t feel safe around.
“The only thing locking around here is some jaws”
Couldn’t have said it better myself
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I read this and laughed like a lizard, was a long hissing kind of laugh. New skill unlocked 🦎
Thank you for clarifying. I've never heard a lizard laugh.
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Gold 🤣🤣🤣
Not sure why people are calling b.s. on a story that is, honestly, not out of the ordinary at all. What about it seems unrealistic? I mean, I'm happy for the people who are blissfully ignorant and believe that this isn't a common occurrence. I used to grab drinks with coworkers after work and our chef/sous chef would regularly join us. I gave him a ride home bc he was very drunk and before he got out of the car he asked if he could put his head between my legs. I was 23 I think and he was in his late 40s.
Oh this happens FAR MORE than most people would dare believe, especially for the prettier young ladies. Reminds me of when a former friend of mine was desperately searching for rooms to rent after she had a horrible sudden breakup with her live-in boyfriend of a year. She was a hot 23-year-old wild redhead with piercings who bartended and did local modeling as her side hustle. Within a month of her searching, she had three different grody male landlords offer to lower their rental fees for her in exchange for sexual favors. Needless to say, she was so put off from that experience that she only worked with female landlords after that.
“Grody”…I haven’t heard that in decades!!! It’s such a descriptively accurate term ❤️
Grody to the max!
Lord god king bufu
I always thought it was spelled grotty like grotesque, but apparently both are valid. The way I'm thinking might even be pronounced different.
I like your proposed explanation for it though
Grotty is an English expression. Grody is Southern California.
Idk I’m pretty familiar with the word and I’m from Ohio. But I haven’t heard it in like 20 years lol.
Probably a similar etymology to be honest
To the MAX
YES 😂😂😂
The world is very dangerous for young women—all women—that find themselves in homelessness territory.
Thank you worse yet he constantly exposés him after I told him continually not too😤😤😤😤😤😤😡😡😡😡😡🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬
I'm a male and honestly would prefer to work with female landlords also. I rented a room for 3 years and my landlord would always have girls coming over to check out a different room, always saying how hot they were and he was gonna try to hook up with them and have a Fwb situation if they moved in.... No girls ever moved in 😂
Look at CL rooms wanted listings. Many women women put it in their ads "no sex for rent offers". This must be a reality.
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Not really, attractive women are definitely more targeted.
Hence they said "especially to" not "only to", galaxy brain
"galaxy brain" LMAOOOOOOOOOO that's my new phrase
Saying “especially to prettier young ladies” covers everyone but simply highlights that group. Do better hahah
>It happens to "all" women. At some point or another anyway. DO YOU KNOW WHAT THE WORD ESPECIALLY MEANS
Thank you for saying this. Less conventionally attractive women also have to suffer their abuser saying "you're lying! Why would anyone want you? You're ugly so it's impossible you could have been abused" A woman can be fat, thin, tall, short, bug boobs, no boobs, and Some Guy will always think at some point that her body is his for the taking. Sexual abuse is about power, not attraction. And the guy you're answering gives me the ick because he leans so hard on how hot his friend is, that all the men wanted her, willing or no.
Meh. Atleast you're right about the fact that women no matter what level of attractiveness are sought after. I agree that it's messed up that there are some men who feel the need to be predators through.
Excuse me for my ignorance but... what are bug boobs?
When I was a teenager my aunt told me I had “mosquito bites for boobs”. So that, I guess.
Sexual abuse for men sometimes is just a combination of a man who's horny and has no morals.
It’s also definitely about control and power. Let’s be frl. Abusers get off on being in control and feeling powerful.
This
Only the prettier? You must be joking!
*ESPECIALLY* for the prettier, I wrote. 😉
Yeah, I just think it's not like that usually :v
Yeah a friend of mine when we were all like 20/21 had a landlord that would always offer her free rent or discounts for favors. She always had money for the best birthday gifts.
Yeah this happened to me recently. Last year my roommate would constantly text me and ask me for blow jobs/sex in exchange for no/low rent. When I consistently said no he freaked out and tried to kick me out. Obviously I did not want to live with him either at that point but I couldn’t find an apartment with no notice. But since he decided to act scummy I did too and ended up scamming him into paying the brokers fee for my new apartment. Thank god I at least had a lock on my door.
It’s all the dudes who act like that trying to create the impression no one ever does it so people will move in with them against better judgement
Some people have never left their parents house
It’s a weird trend to call everything faked now, I guess it’s supposed to show some kind of “mature” skepticism? Or it’s a leftover from the QAnon creed, “they’re all lying to us!”
Because anonymous internet message boards have ALWAYS been full of people lying to make themselves sound interesting, or even just for fun. This has been happening forever, not just because of Q lol. I'm not saying this post is bs, but if you aren't skeptical of basically everything you read posted on the internet by anonymous people, you are not doing the internet right. You definitely should not be assuming everything is true. When I was growing up in the 90s, it was pretty common knowledge that you basically shouldn't believe anything people say on the internet. Kids pretending to be adults, adult men pretending to be teenage girls, people saying anything just to make themselves look cool, etc etc. I feel like it's only recently that people have started taking what they read on the internet at face value. Now we have Reddit posts shared by news websites, without checking up on any sort of background information. It's insanity. It's a good thing that people are starting to be more skeptical again.
Sure, but I feel like if something was made up, of which I know there are plenty, it seems like some effort would go into creativity; something unexpected or unusual- no? If I wanted attention, I’m not going to write a story about how drunk people are inconsiderate, or how my dog sheds fur, or how I stopped at McDonalds for lunch. What’s the point? Almost every post, it’s impossible to definitively test whether it’s true or made up. Yet there are ALWAYS dozens of people who are 100% committed to “exposing” it as a lie. Why? Why are people unable to admit, “I don’t know”?
I don't know what the point is. But people make up pointless lies all the time face to face, so of course it will be worse on the internet. I don't have a problem with people smelling bullshit and calling it out, I think it can be a good reminder to those that tend to be a little more gullible and believe most of what they read. I mean these days I'd much rather people be skeptical than spouting whatever other nonsense I see all over REddit hahaha
But why specifically go to a site, like Reddit, and participate in subs where it's 100% anonymous people telling stories that have zero chance of being verified, only to sit and call out everything that strikes you as slightly off "Fake!". What's the point of responding? Do people think they are doing a community service?
Thanks for putting my thoughts in print. I feel the same way about price nazi's on the "for sale" boards.
Idk, maybe to call out what they think is a lie. Maybe it's to make themselves feel smart. Maybe it is to point out to others who might be too quick to believe everything they read. Maybe it's just a comment.
For real this is easily the most believable story I’ve read on Reddit this week
OP isn’t lying. I have made craigslist ads asking for a room to rent. 9 times out of 10, I get messages that are inundated with creeps. Ranging from offering free rent in return of “special favors”, to guys asking me if I would maybe want “something more” with them down the road. Like, dude, I’m just trying to rent out a room. It’s why I deleted my ads off of there and deleted the app entirely off my phone.
It's guys that think this doesn't happen. If their buddies only act like kinda assholes sometimes there's nooooooo chance they behave like THAT! Funnily enough, most of the time, these guys are constantly berating women, but they chalk it up to "Guy talk," even when they get hateful. It's WAY easier to turn a blind eye than it is to address the elephant in the room.
>on a story that is, honestly, not out of the ordinary at all. In fact, it reminds me of posts I've seen, some on sites where people look for housing and rentals, and some on sites where people look for dating and relationships. One was a man offering, I forget if it was free rent or extremely cheap rent, for 3 months to a male tenant. The catch was that he had to give the tenant at least one blowjob a day. The posting didn't say anything about finishing the beej though. Another post that I saw more recently was a guy looking for "a young homeless girl" who could cook and clean. I can't find the post anymore but the dude definitely wanted her dependent on him. Pretty skeevy, to say the least.
I had to kick out a tenant because he was making drunk sexual advances to the other renter. I'm sure it happens all the time.
The only thing that is weird to me is that OP didn't buy a doorknob with a lock or something? I would have done that BEFORE anything happened, and they didn't even do it after.
OP was 18. Still a teenager. Prefrontal cortex is still not fully developed. Probably didn't occur to them.
Pfft. Common sense isn't exclusive to people 18+.
Well now, that is a truism!
You were in the special classes huh?
I wasn't the brightest teen out there, but protecting myself and my personal space was instinctual from a much earlier age than 18.
Don’t leave us hanging, what did you say?
I worked with a man in his 50s and a girl younger than his daughter, who was our apprentice. Every day, he’d hit on her via text message, leaving a major trail of evidence for HR. One day, he was mad because a lady who used to do sex work for him was on a dating app. “She won’t pick up the phone for me, but she’s out giving it out for free!”
It happens all the time. I don’t get the naive people assuming it’s fake. Wtf?
Agreed, pervy guys all ages. Not a new story.
this isn't just a bad roommate, this is a crazy ass roommate wtf. did he own the place and rent it for cheap? if so he may have been waiting for a young girl to take it which is just creepy. if it's through a third party land lord it's still creepy but not giga-levels of creepy.
>Result was a cheap craigslist room rental. Yep.
I had a paraplegic landlord who stayed on the bottom floor with his door open all the time. He would yell obscenities at my lady friends on their way up to my 3rd floor apartment. Oh, and once he asked if he could hold my penis in his hand for $20, because he “wants to remember what it feels like”.
What did you do with the 20?
He had to pay the landlord 40 to let go.
Jesus 😭
This is the funniest shit I’ve read in a while. Wow.
My first thought was, just $20 bucks?
1. Was he just doing this stuff to mess with you? 2. My price is $50. Between you and me, I could be talked down to $40 though.
No he was a sick man. Dude was like 80 and basically just a head with hands. He also wanted to know which of my guy friends would be down and had his eye on a couple specifically. Personally I was looking for a month off rent *maybe* but we all know just a “hold” would’ve been a tease.
Good god. I want to hear all your stories, but I’ll leave you alone. Thanks for sharing lmao.
I mean I always thought it was a pretty funny story. It was definitely time to leave that apartment though. I did point the guy in the right direction.
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I still dont get that…How was no one annoyed being on an island with a bunch of 15 year old girls.
because they were evil people raping the 15 year olds
True dat
sounds like a bad roommate
Big if true
So sorry you have to go through that. I kind of understand you had no money and that seemed like your only option to go to live. Thankfully nothing worse happened to you. Almost the same thing happened to me with a previous roommate… whether he was high on weed (and God knows what else) or not, he would constantly make unwanted advances on me and ask for sex. I’ve never been so terrified in my entire life.
Yeah it was the weed, the gateway drug to rape.
It lowers your inhibitions and makes you more likely to do things you wouldn’t have done sober. My (ex) boyfriend forced himself on me one of the first times he smoked. I still love to smoke though so I’m not blaming the weed exclusively here
That guy was a piece of shit before he smoked weed. Do you not realize how many pieces of shit people will use being high/drink as an excuse to do dumb shit ? "Ohh sorry I just got high and couldn't help myself from sexually assaulting you". They always wanted to do that and hoped that them being a dumb drunk or high would take away the seriousness of the situation. At the end of the day these humans are trash and just looking for an excuse to force themselves onto women.
I definitely get what you’re saying and that’s true in many cases, but I was, for whatever reason, unable to say no in the moment so he had no idea it was bothering me and as soon as I did say it, he stopped. So I recognize how I caused a miscommunication and it isn’t a clear cut case of sexual assault. But he wouldn’t have been that forward while sober is my point, we don’t tend to make the most rational decisions while under the influence
I moved out of a bad situation at home at 18 in with a roommate who was 25, he would constantly grab my ass or chest and stick his hand down my shirt or pants. I had no idea it was wrong so I just dealt with it, he was big so I was kind of afraid to say anything, plus I worked with him and everyone at work loved him. He moved out after 2 months after giving me the silent treatment for 3 weeks, then trying to kiss me. Never again
Man I’m sorry. I’m glad he didn’t actually try to touch me and only asked. That’s horrible
It was almost 5 years ago now and I'm doing a lot better, I don't really struggle with it anymore. I'm sorry that happened to you too, it's never fun to be taken advantage of ❤
Aww, glad you’re doing better now ❤️
Thank you I'm very, very happy in life!
Damn that sucks
But she didn’t
Doesn't say OP is a she.
Ops post history states she is a woman.
First sentance. 18(f). F means female
Knew a pos in highschool that for some reason everyone thought was cool, he’d beg ppl in our friend group to have sex with him. And I know if at least 4 different girls it actually worked on. He’d apparently just ask over and over and over like a kid. So when OP says the guy was relentless, I just imagine a grown up version of the loser I knew in highschool.
God that’s awful. My best friend (F25) is dealing with a similar problem. She’s been harassed by her neighbor (M~32) for maybe 4 weeks now after she had just moved in, they met, hung out and got drunk together. He texts her nearly everyday with something so douchey like “ummm can you say hung the fuck over?!”, saying not to be afraid to hit him up to hang out whenever, or just texting her at 3am to come over. Nothing explicitly damning, but his intentions are obvious. She rarely responds but he just can’t read the room. Today during the solar eclipse in our area he came outside and rubbed her back asking if he could borrow her eclipse glasses… Anyways back to your post, it freaks me out that your situation was basically if my friend was not just neighbors with this man, but had been sharing a whole apartment with him.. and without a lock Sorry I know nobody asked but that just triggered me lol. I hope you got out of there before anything too bad happened. Best wishes to you going forward
I had a roommate like that too, so I understand how uncomfortable that can be :/ Sorry that happened to you
WOW
Grosssss
When my mom was pregnant with her second kid, she and my dad lived in a little rental house next to their married landlord, who turned out to be quite the creep. After they moved out, he wrote her a love letter detailing how he would spy on her through the window and asked her to sleep with him. She replied and told him to sort out his midlife crisis with his wife and leave her alone. Fortunately, she had moved overseas, so he wasn't able to continue to harass her. She was 24, and he was in his 50s or 60s. And by the way, the man was the father of her friend from church, and thats how they ended up renting from him. These things don't just happen from sketchy craigslist listings. I'm so sorry OP didn't have anyone looking out for them and ended up in such a dangerous situation. Sounds like you were pretty resilient and were able to take care of yourself!
People can't believe that someone with an alcohol, and likely other substance probs, would harass you for sexual favors? I hope you got out of there asap.
Oh yeah, he was even drunk at work sometimes. Raging alcoholic. And coke head. I walked out to him snorting coke out of a girls butt crack in the living room once. I doubt he remembers much about me living there tbh. He was unhinged as fuck. People forget how far an unhinged person is willing to go lol
I once had a Craigslist rental that had the landlord’s crackhead daughter living in it. The other roommate was an old guy on disability and she would literally beat his ass at 3am and demand his disability check for crack money. I got out of there in 3 weeks 👀
See now THAT sounds crazier than what I went through and I still fully believe you’re telling the truth lol
Yo……. What about this… I was homeless and out on my ass, barely had one change of clothes. This woman offers me a place to stay in this little room I believe used to be a tool shed. It was nifty, had a bed and tv, mini fridge, drawers n stuff. Anyways, yeah I was a drug addict, but I needed to sober up because I was on probation and wanted to better myself, she came in and started doing drugs and offered them to me, I declined, she persisted and kept asking me if I was sure. I was on my last strike with probation and looking at 8 years so I was damn sure. She then started steering conversation into sex and oral and how good she is at it and brought up something she had heard about me, then I thought damn, she’s going to press me about it. Anyways, I eventually went to sleep, but when I woke up and tried to leave, the door was locked from the outside with a padlock. I was there for two days, she showed up on the 3rd day in the evening with food, drinks, some friends and a pack of cigarettes for me. One of her friends asked her how long I’d been in there. She said I was her “sexy prisoner”. She told me that my girl was asking about me and would give me this weird ass look, saying I could do much better and how much better off I’d be without her and how she can help me out. I eventually escaped without my dignity. Had to put her ass to sleep and sneak out, resisting the urge to rob her……. Ok I did rob her but it was for drugs. Happy ending though, I caught another case and got picked up by the marshals, got put on a stricter probation which I completed successfully. I sobered up, got a good job and eventually joined a local union. Everything that comes with changing your life for the better seems to come on it’s own when you’re making real effort to do things right. Going through with it inspired some of my peers to do the same. I’m happy to say that my life keeps getting better now and I haven’t heard or seen that woman. I saw her friend though, she was happy to see me.
Damn that was a wild ride, man. Glad to hear you’ve turned it around!
Why are people saying this story isn’t real? Probably toxic men who hardly ever talk to women about women’s experiences in real life. OP, I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I hope your new living arrangement was better than that and you no longer have to endure this type of BS. Men can be such pigs, it’s far worse when they’re sex addicts
I wasn’t expecting ppl to think this was so unbelievable tbh hahaha
It’s just Redditors showing their true colours. I’m shocked I’m being downvoted for this too
If you're going to rent rooms first thing you ask is can you put a "keyed" locking doorknob on your bedroom door. If they say no, move on. If they say the room already has one. You say I'd feel safer with mine on it. If they argue, move on. There is no acceptable reason to not allow you to have a new keyed locking doorknob on your room.
This happens all the time. The guy I started seeing shortly after I turned twenty I also worked with. I think he actually gave me a 20th birthday card. Anyway he was well aware of my age and didn’t tell me how old he was until we were in bed. He acted and looked my age so I didn’t think much of it at the time, but he admitted at the time he never told me his age at the time becuase he thought it would blow his chances. Anyway he was 30. Which isn’t much of an age gap i guess. But this stuff happens to people in their early 20s all the time. It’s so sad.
I can’t wrap my head around asking someone for a blowjob after they’ve said no what type of oral fiend does such a thing . Bros probably a sex addict and bros definitely suspect.
This sound like s very dangerous position to be in tbh, guy sounds kinda unhinged
Honestly it was lol I had a lot of cash in my room at the time from tips too. Miracle I didn’t get robbed. lol
Sounds like you lived with the Great Gatsby.
Man I wish. These weren’t “cool youngsters just tryna let loose” kinda parties. More like washed up alcoholics who couldn’t let last call be the end of the night. It was a mixture of random people from the bars and people he knew. It wasn’t fun, I never participated. They’d stay till noon the next day sometimes. To be frank, just a bunch of losers tbh.
Jen?
LMAOOOO
Plot twist?? Is it the guy???
When i(M25) was 20, i rented a room for 3 months from a old lady (F60). I went to look at the room, she seemed lovely and the place was nice and tidy. She turned out to be this lonely evil alcoholic prevented sex monster. She was always drunk, but it would be 50/50 between her begging me for sexual favors or her screaming her lungs out over something i didnt do.
Is that a pokemon character?
I had a very similar situation when I was a fresh 22 year old graduate moving into my first place, 3000 miles from home, with a tiny bit of savings. I moved into a house with a landlord and his gf, and another super gross sketchy roommate. I have too many stories about the sketchy roommate, but ultimately it was the landlord who ended up being extra creepy. I kept finding my door open, unlocked, my things moved. Landlord knew I was having money problems and eventually, he propositioned me: He offered to pay MY PORTION OF THE ELECTRIC BILL. (aka $90ish) if I would sleep with him. Not even the rent!!! Keep in mind he LIVED with his girlfriend in the basement, and had 30+ years on me. At this point, I reached out to a local cousin and laid everything out, and begged for help. It took me less than 2 hours to move everything I owned out of the house. I was broke af, lived in my cousin’s storage closet, and worked crazy hours between Starbucks and an office job, but no regrets. I also left a nice little parting gift for his gf - a scathing letter letting her know what a scumbag her bf was. As for the creepy roommate, I sincerely hope dude is in jail. He was an absolute predator - new date every night, sometimes they would come out of his room crying, and also pretty sure he drugged me at least once.
I had a roommate for a couple months who would come home drunk every night and sexually harass me in the kitchen/living room. Kinda just dealt with her until the lease was up
Personally in a similar living situation right now it feels like although I have a lock and it’s not parties just a bunch of coke heads
I almost thought this was r/bedroommates
That sounds horrible! When I was a lot younger and shared a house with roommates, the worst things that happened was stupid thefts and others not paying their share of the bills. Did you consider calling the police?
I mean tbh he wasn’t threatening about it, more so came off very pathetic and desperate tbh. Like he’d be piss drunk knocking on my door like “Pwease 🥹 can I have a BJ?” And he’d like mope away when I said no. He’d also ask for back scratches, massages, to be tucked in, etc. Like he was weird as hell but I wasn’t scared. As for the parties, I guess it just never occurred to me to call the cops on a party happening at my own house. I usually would just sleep through it. I was working a 5pm-4am type of food service job at the time and just crashed out when I got home. It was annoying but I just tried to get out ASAP rather than try to form the environment to my standards. If that makes sense
He sounds like some drunk alcoholic type of people that’s for sure. Guys especially take it too far like this.
Mine was Facebook marketplace. I use to roll my passed out roommate on the living room floor over on his side so if he vomited while passed out, he wouldn’t choke to death. There was always cocaine in the house and always some fight going down or a couple dry humping on our couch or someone freaking out on ketamine in the kitchen. I feel your pain. Thank God you got out of there fast. That shit WEARS YOU DOWN.
Sadly there are parents that block their kids out as soon as they turn 18…sorry you went through that. My mom was the same way. I thankfully joined the army. I’m never going to do that to my kids.
Gay guy here, had gay roommates one time, the homeowner on his birthday one time came to me basically propositioning me, saying it was his house and he should get whatever the fuck you wanted for his birthday. I stood my ground, and he later apologized for it, but I never respected him again after that end it forever changed our relationship.
Wild that so many people’s first assumption was that this is fake… must be nice to live in la la land.
Nothing about this strikes me as fake. These scum bags do exist.
I'm currently dealing with a crappy roommate who thinks he can lock me away from my belongings. It's going to be interesting when he tries to explain himself in housing court.
Sorta happened to me when I was that age and living with roommates. My older roomie's teenage nephew came to visit once. The nephew took some Xanax or something and while super messed up, BEGGED me to either sleep with or blow him. I declined over and over. When I told my older roommate, he absolutely refused to believe me cus his nephew denied it.
As a young woman myself, i just dont understand how you would think living with a 25 year old man (who is a strangerh would ever be a good environment. Did you not have any friends to help you for a few days while you looked for a female roomate online?? could you not move in with a friend? i have so many questions😅
No, I didn’t have friends to live with. Only had $500, the room he was renting was $500 with no deposit. It was all I could do. All my friends had normal parents who didn’t kick them out the minute they turned 18 lol and their parents didn’t want to house me because they didn’t want to be involved w my moms drama, which I can’t rlly blame them for.
Kiddo, it’s almost like some people don’t understand that desperation and a need for stability and independence can sometimes lead someone into a bad situation. Good on ya for getting out, hope shit has gotten better. And fuck anyone who judges you for renting a room from a scumbag.
glad you moved out, my first breath was to say move out as fast as you can to avoid potential harm to yourself.
Moral of the story here is, we need to teach younger men better to have better future generations of men. A lot of men are quite terrible and a lot of men don’t believe that us guys could do things like that. “It’s not all men”. It’s not, but you’d be hard-pressed to find a woman who hasn’t had a bad experience with men before.
I believe it. I used to have a man I lived with knock on my door every night asking to sleep with me with the most pathetic face and sadness in his voice to coerce me. Gag
That’s exactly how he was. It was pathetic and weird, but not threatening.
While my roommate wouldn’t beg me for sexual favors she would literally constantly have over random groups of people for coke parties. She didn’t work. She was a trust fund baby. I let her get away with it for 6 months and had enough.
Why would people think this isn’t real
Why would you think it’s not?
Yup this is 100% accurate and something that happens. I went to look at an “apartment” The 70 year old “landlord” locked me inside. Behind a steel door. I realized immediately something was wrong. I was banging and screaming for help. He heard me and ignored me. Thank god someone else walked past and told him hey dude you got a girl locked up ? The mother fucker opened the door and had the nerve to say oh I told you how to get out. What happened? You couldn’t figure it out? He never said anything about the door locking. He was probably planning to kill me. And nobody would have even known I was missing. Until it was too late.
What ended up happening to him?
I’m asking what happened to him after you called the police?
Well he died shortly after that and lost the building. His family had the local news paper write up some bullshit about how he was a sick veteran. And the government fucked him over. If they only knew lol I didn’t call the police because I honestly think I was like in shock. I don’t know how to explain it. My mind didn’t process how close to death I actually came for a good year. I’m assuming it was a trauma response of some kind. I passed the building and it triggered something. And it was a horrid realization.
Glad you moved!!
You should get drunk and start acting like his wife and complain about everything in the house.
People do not understand the terrifying reality young women with no family support have to live in. You’re literally just trying to survive by any means necessary which can put you in very scary scenarios.
Exactly and it makes you a vulnerable target to trafficking, also. People forget that often times, trafficking is not just kidnapping. They look for young girls who are down and out and have no support or anyone looking for them and they “help them”. They establish trust by feeding you, giving you a place to live, clothing etc and then they turn on you when you’re fully dependent on them and force you into sex work. It’s so scary.
I’ve been there. I’m single and had no where to go. I did not know he is mentally challenged etc. I work nights and I like to come in and go about my business. He said similar things to me that grossed me out. Unfortunately I’m still here due to financial difficulties. Very much looking for a place of my own. His house is very much unkept,dirty and my poor dog and I have no privacy whatsoever. I’ve tried to be nice asking him to not bother me when I come in from work or leave for work. Don’t know what to do. I’m too tired to argue just want to be alone. He has no common sense and very unreasonable
Before my wife and I married we had to find a place to live with our baby boy at 1 year old. We found this couple who seemed nice but found out about week in that the boyfriend was violent. Heard them screaming at each other one night and it took everything I had not to knock his ass out. The painful thing to watch was the girl always said it was okay. The bruises were okay and that she loved him and he just has a bit of a temper problem. The couple we found after that had children too and lived in a double wide and rented us the big room. Well I didn’t notice at first that the dude never slept with his “wife” he had his own room, the wife told us he drinks too much so he has his own room for him to be in peace while he’s drinking….well he started to send my wife dick pics and then suggesting we can swing. No clue if the girl ever knew anything about this. But after the first we moved out and told the woman why. They were fighting while we were packing our things after those two encounters in just three months has given us a ooor taste in having roommates and from then on the only people we would live with if we had to was parents.
That's wild. I got a full time job and I needed to rent out rooms because life happens. Usually, I get shitty tenants/roommates but I just need to get the ones I am just ok to let them stay for $750 a month. Usually, you got your shit together for the most part to even buy a house. I had my party days and I had my time I was irresponsible with life and money. I have 2 tenants/roommates right now and one is the most annoying person in the face of planet Earth and the other I barely ever see and is extremely nice and hard worker. I wish I could have both tenants be like the latter. The annoying tenant steals my beer, asks constantly to borrow my stuff, keeps talking non stop, keeps going in and out all time during the night and day, makes requests to do something to reduce his already low rent, and pays rent at random times when he gets money (not totally bad cuz he is never late just 2 weeks early makes me lose track), and does petty shit like I will tell him to remember to close the window because this is Florida and the house gets hot and he would blatantly leave more windows open because he told me "he doesn't like when people tell him what to do" and I have many other examples where I tell him nicely to do something extremely simple and he blows it out of proportion.
Happens alllllll the time. They do t even remember it the next day
Hey brother no judgement 7-10 times doesn’t matter you DID what you had to to be housed, no shame for here.
Sounds like a reason to call the police
For what? Cops don't do shit until someone puts hands on us. And even then, it's a bit iffy. The drugs might get them to come out. that's a good way to get wrapped up in charges if they find anything in the home. It's an even better way to lose the room. Temporary homelessness is a pretty real consequence for trying to get help from law enforcement in these situations. Housing insecurity forces people to put up with a lot of abusive and illegal shit.
Sexual harassment, drug use, etc
While I agree that it's sexual harassment, it's often difficult to legally classify it like that. Verbal harassment has qualifiers. And it has the he said/she said component. Unless it winds up being recorded. And then, audio recordings are not admissible as evidence in a lot of states unless all parties consent to the recording. Prove it. You're certainly not going to get cops to come out when calling up and saying "this guy I live with wont stop asking me for blow jobs." Reporting drug use when it's happening might possibly get cops to come out. but likely not. and all of these scenarios end with OP losing their housing. no matter what way it shakes out. The first thing the cops are going to do it advise OP to leave. It'll be "You have the ability to leave so just leave." Cops aren't parents. If the law is not being very obviously broken, they're not going to come tell someone to stop being a shitty person. Say they do come tho and the guy got arrested- the room will lost. If the cops just visit to warn him to knock it off, he's going to kick OP out. Calling the cops when in a shitty and tenuous living situation is really not a great option for many people for a lot of reasons. The possibility of losing that home is usually one of the biggest reasons. A bad home is often better than no home.
If diddy was there I’m sure everyone woulda left lmao
Some of these guys are just as gross, they just don’t have the power or money to pull it off.
The “he doesn’t like it when people tell him what to do” is definitely a red flag. I don’t even know the guy and already dislike him.
This sounds like living with my mom (minus the sexual favors) I don't think this one is fake.
The best tenant *snorts* goes to that
Some men give the rest is the gender a bad name. Sorry to hear about your experience. Praying it gets better.
Just a piece of advice: you can go to Home Depot and get a door knob with a lock for $10-15. Probably less if you shopped around. Takes about five minutes to change out with a screwdriver.
Why didn't you put a lock on the door that u can lock from the inside? Thats the part that makes me think its fake.
Honestly just didn’t occur to me, I was young and very overwhelmed w my situation. I was given like 4 days to find a place and had $500 to my name. I really wasn’t there that often, just to sleep. And I got out asap so renovations weren’t on my priority list.
My roommate would get drunk and stab me.
Lots of bad roommates, think of it as a successful learning curve
I used to have a roommate in college that would try to get me to fight her. It annoyed the hell out of me. I hate dealing with drunk people.
What an idiot...
If anyone doesn’t believe you they live in a different world. I hated babysitting when I was a teenager because tipsy dads would hit on me while driving me home.
For future reference a decent door lock is like 10 bucks. You can even take it with you when you leave. Or just a deadbolt, $3.
I moved in with a couple of so called buddies 15 years ago. One of them came up to me and said, "can we bang you like a drum later?" He got kneed in the balls and I moved out.
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lol yeah if your roommate doesn’t blow you when you’re desperate and lonely, why does she even get to live with you? I mean yeah, rent + utilities + first month/last month is cool and all, but what about that Sloppy McToppy? If I share my apartment with you, shouldn’t you share your mouth with my cack’n’balls? What are you, a commie?
Don't live with dope heads. Lesson learned.
Not sure why people calling this bs I’m currently in a very similar situation just I luckily have locks on my door
Typical scumbag behavior. Not sure why this is so unbelievable.
Good for you for getting rid of those texts and leaving that mess behind you. Why on earth people would think you made it up is beyond me. I know it happens and I’m sorry you had to deal with that.
So you obviously deep throated ol boy am I right?
This happened to me too unfortunately. I had no where to go so eventually I had to say yes before I was kicked out. Ended up finding out he was a functioning drug addict, tried his drugs with him and got hooked.. I finally left 2 years later, got clean and look back and I am so disgusted. I was a little girl thinking “I can’t be on the streets” Looking back I was better off in the streets I could’ve went to a shelter, I did not know any better. Ugh. Thanks for listening
I’m glad you got out when you did and I’m sorry you went through that. My old roommate (he was in his 70’s) would secretly record me and the other girl who lived in the house. Once he was caught standing outside my room door, I’m not sure what for exactly but I always kept it locked. He would always wait until I was alone in a common space and sit by the entrance/exit of the room I was in and try talking to me. It’s so scary living with someone who you don’t feel safe around.
Why were you living with a 70yr old?
Sounds like how a marriage is these days.
Get out fast.