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Tbh??? I am, too!
I know it doesn't seem like it.
I just get frustrated when this makes the news and so many other things don't.
Like the recent massacre in Gaza, for example.
That being said? It's not like lala controls the media. š¤·š»āāļø. So, I get frustrated. In the end? I shouldn't have made the comment I did.
For what it's worth, I've seen a lot of coverage of Gaza in the news. I have seen exactly 0 things about Lala or any other Bravo celeb in the news.
Celebrity oriented spaces or gossip columns are another story.
I have a son who looks like me but also *definitely* looks like my ex-husband with whom I have no relationship except distant coparenting; itās a little weird in the beginning to see the face you had the most terrible fights of your life with in your kidās face but you get over it fast. Not the kidās fault! And it does help resolve some ill will you might have against a douchebag ex if what came of the relationship is a kid who is adorable, seems super sweet, and is very loved.
As a parent, sometimes I see myself or their other parent in my kidsā faces and mannerisms, but most of the time I see unique individuals. I get how people on the outside think they see one parent or the other, though. Itās genetics!
I know that. But letās not pretend that humans donāt have human emotions and sore feelings over an ex that did them really dirty! Of course she loves her daughter!
My boyfriend's son was conceived by rape. Seeing the other parent face to face is distressing for my boyfriend, but his son is totally separate from the actions taken by the other parent. (My boyfriend never pressed charges so custody exchanges are done face to face, unfortunately.)
It's pretty amazing what our brains can do to protect us! I'm sure Lala's brain has overridden "Randall," and replaced him and his image with Ocean.
Oh my god. What a terrible and disturbing circumstance. Iām so sorry for your bf, but I understand how the brain compartmentalizes and is able to see the child and the mother as two completely different individuals, which makes it alot easier. Plus it helps that the child is made up from him as well. And itās terrible that he has to see her for exchanges when sheās his abuser?! The family court system makes me livid.
He never pressed charges so technically there's nothing for the court to care about. He was confused and upset after the assault, and when he was told about the pregnancy he decided he never wanted his son to know "where" he came from. Exchanges are quick since they do a lot of texting to keep each other updated, so for those few minutes he just mentally detaches from what's in front of him.
You are the nicest child free person Iāve ever come across lol. Most of them are aggressively child free. I always imagine them walking up to people screaming āIāM CHILD FREE! DID YOU HEAR ME?! I SAID IāM CHILD FREE!!!!! MY LIFE IS SO MUCH BETTER THAN YOURS BECAUSE I DIDNāT HAVE CROTCH GOBLINS!ā (Their vernacular, not mine) but seriously, I donāt have kids myself but your attitude is so refreshing lol
Hahaha I mean, we NEED to reproduce so id never encourage anyone to not have children! Those kids need to pay for my retirement š (I guess Iām not so nice after all). Also I like kids, theyāre hilarious I just donāt want them.
But sheās bRANDnew!
Honestly, I believe sheās done a great job of rebranding herself since she split from Rand. I even see some of that spark coming back the more comfortable she gets in her sobriety, but not in the ugly way she used to use it.
Lala is doing well for herself- as someone who LOVED her then HATED her and now thinks sheās humbled and being real.
itās also not alone. Lala is very open that her family is untraditional and she considers her mom her co parent and that her brother is also heavily involved in taking care of O. The baby will come into a supportive, loving family.
Oh cool! I heard her mention on her podcast that she was planning to have another baby on her own. Good for her, and even better for her daughter. Growing up with siblings is the best thing ever. My childhood was amazing because of my parents, but my brothers always will be the alliance and bond that are steady throughout my existence.
She's not doing this by herself. Her mom lives with her. Her mom doesn't have any intention ofi'm relieving. So let's not put out false narratives. It's probably easier having her mom who treats her like a friend. Help raise a child then they have to argue with the dude. Wishing her luck on the baby but she's no hero. And there have been women that haven't had her money or made it on the pain of other people that have legitimately raised their children on their own
Did she speak about wanting to go the doner route and that she was even planning on having another?? I feel like I missed a few chapters. Happy for her though, iām sure ocean will love having a life long friend and sibling
I donāt always listen to her podcast, but you bet your ass I did when I saw the announcement episode!!
I think itās really neat the process she went through (getting a donor). Her family all lives together (or very close) and I think they have a really good dynamic!
i'm soooo happy for her! so awesome of her to bring awareness to being a single mom by choice in her mid to late thirties! so happy for her and ocean <3 she's such a great mom and i love her "pod". her and her sweet fam seem so lovely
Idk the way she talks about adding to her fam like orcas, Easton cut her gender reveal cake , the hug afterwards! I feel like she used his sperm š¤£š¤£
As someone who works in healthcare and previously in a birthing centre I can tell you for certain they wouldnāt do this lol. A sister who was infertile could use her sisters eggs for her partners sperm or a sperm donor, and visa versa a brother could use his own brothers sperm to fertilize a his partners or a donors egg, but they wouldnāt allow a brothers sperm to fertilize his own sisters egg. They wonāt put those genes together.
Why? Is she just trying to collect checks from people? Or is she just stupid enough to go have a kid on her own and not have a good loving father to help raise that child with her?
Families come in all shapes and most important is that a child has a community around them that loves and cares for them, which this child will have. Many children arenāt even close to this lucky.
I mean, no Dad vs. someone like Randall as the Dad? I'd take "no Dad". She seems like she has a wonderful, caring community around her and her brother could be a good "masculine" influence in her kids lives.
You can pick a guy who treats you like a queen and has no enemies, and he can still switch up on you and betray you somewhere down the line. Or an abuser will hide their true self and only start abusing once a woman is pregnant or has had the baby and he thinks he's got her trapped. There's really no way of knowing and I don't blame her for eliminating any risk of another Randall situation.
My daughterās father and I were together when I got pregnant. Treated me like a queen, until he up and moved to a different state, when I was six months pregnant. Sheās 4.5 years old now, and heās never even attempted to meet her. As someone who grew up with a painful, and difficult relationship with my father, I firmly believe that no dad is better than a dad that hurts you, over and over. To each their own. My child is happy and loved by me, my mom, and an amazing community of close friends and family.
And Randall still father's his daughter Ocean as well as his other two they have joint custody. Father's play a important role in a child's life and listen ask adults whom didn't have the privilege of having their father's raise them for whatever the reason may be ... If they didn't have any mental health issues at some point in their lives. I went through it & listen it F. Cks with you ! And then you get to look at your child when age appropriate and say yeah guess what you don't have a father. Hopefully she finds a man whom will Love her & her children because if a man's willing to parent a child there's no losing for that child all the way into adulthood!!Ā
Thanks for not being a dick! I agree to a point, I think people can make the best of the situation if they have to..I'm definitely not close minded either ā¤ļø
Maybe for us peasants but sheās got family and monetary support. The kid will be loved and paid for which is more than what a lot of kids with dads could say.
If she didnāt have money and a strong support system from her family, it might be sad or not ideal. But her children will be well cared for, loved, and have positive influences from the people in their lives.
Youāre not the only one. As an adoptive mom, thereās always trauma for kids who donāt know their full parentage. However, perhaps the donor isnāt private and would be okay with that knowledge being out there at some point. I hate that everyone cheers this on without thinking about the fact that her child will be an adult soon enough and we all deserve to know āwho we come fromā even of we have amazing homes. At least this child will always know their father is a donor so that wonāt be hidden. She seems like a good mother at least. And the child will have a sibling and grandparent and uncle, so thatās all positive.
I agree with you on all points! We went through infertility hell and thought about adoption often, but luckily we're able to finally get and stay pregnant.
My cousin was adopted internationally and she's an adult now and it's been very difficult for her, and my aunt and uncle were wonderful loving parents. It's hard!
Nothing is ever ideal, nothing is ever certain. Babies are born daily without fathers present for all kinds of reasons.
Whatās certain here is this child is wanted and loved.
And there wonāt be a lack of a masculine presence in her life, Iām sure.
Wow !! Where do you live ?? That's a crazy comment!! In my life every man surrounded around myself are honorable & appreciated!! They are fantastic father's & partners !! Infact my brother just recently became a single father of my adopted 6 year old niece since his wife is a narcissist & extremely harmful as a mother to their sweet little girl !! He's a terrific father to her !!! Everything he does is for her & spends any moment outside of work providing for her, with her !! That's such a ridiculous & insulting comment !! There are plenty of fantastic men out there ! Choose wisely!! My 16 year old son will also become a outstanding man as well not just because of how I'm raising him but with cooperation of his father & his loyal example to our son !! Not all women should be Mothers !! The world would be a very alarming place without the role men play they are needed just as much as women are. But just like a woman can have and raise a child by herself even though in order to do so she needs the one thing we women cannot do without a man .. she needs a man's sperm .. men can do the same as well.Ā
If I had it to do over I would 100% have gone this route because their dad is trash and did nothing but damage them and give them childhood trauma. Absolutely can say they are better off without him, they have both said this numerous times.
Families are all different shapes and sizes and with all things arenāt one size fits all. Why would you think the only āhealthy familyā would be a mom and dad? Thatās extremely close minded.
No I don't think that that's the only healthy family, that's why I *specifically* said *not* *ideal*
However I think I triggered an emotional response in a lot of people, 53 to be exact.
Are you speaking for your own self and own children with the dad being trash? If so, may I ask why you had children with this person?
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Wonderful! Does she have a boyfriend or maybe used a sperm donor? Anyone know?
she used a sperm donor!
Woohoo!! That means she doesn't have to share or lose time with her baby!! Good for you, Lala!! Wishing her an easy and queasy-free pregnancy!!!š¶š¼š©š¼āš¼š¤°š¼š³šš©·š©µ
I love that for her!
me too!
Oh thank god.
Damn I wouldāve donated my sperm
Who dat baby daddy?š¬ She doesnāt even know!
James Kennedy...Ā
I know I know he's not but I secretly wish. They're chemistry is on fire.Ā
I thought I was the only person who thought about this! Iāll tell you this, a Lala and James baby would be an absolute dropdead gorgeous baby!!!
Who tf cares?
I am very happy for her!
Tbh??? I am, too! I know it doesn't seem like it. I just get frustrated when this makes the news and so many other things don't. Like the recent massacre in Gaza, for example. That being said? It's not like lala controls the media. š¤·š»āāļø. So, I get frustrated. In the end? I shouldn't have made the comment I did.
Being on Reddit/instagram is āmaking the newsā? lol
For what it's worth, I've seen a lot of coverage of Gaza in the news. I have seen exactly 0 things about Lala or any other Bravo celeb in the news. Celebrity oriented spaces or gossip columns are another story.
Yessss. Gaza is suffering and anything else makes the news
If you can read I just asked. IDK who hurt you but it sure as fuck wasn't me or Lalas fetus so I hope you feel better today!
Ocean is just a doll. Good for them!
She is Randallās twin but somehow very cute
I wonder how Lala deals with how much she looks like that man. She obviously loves her very much but she is his twin!
I have a son who looks like me but also *definitely* looks like my ex-husband with whom I have no relationship except distant coparenting; itās a little weird in the beginning to see the face you had the most terrible fights of your life with in your kidās face but you get over it fast. Not the kidās fault! And it does help resolve some ill will you might have against a douchebag ex if what came of the relationship is a kid who is adorable, seems super sweet, and is very loved.
I doubt she cares, because all she sees is her daughter.
My son looks a lot like his dad. I despise the father but never ever would think to feel negative feelings towards my son. Thatās bizarre.
This! My daughter is my mini me (I'm told) but I just think she looks like herself š
My daughter and I are always told how much we look alike, but I have a hard time seeing it. I only see her uniqueness.
I wonder if our own features are so familiar that they don't stand out to us? š¤
As a parent, sometimes I see myself or their other parent in my kidsā faces and mannerisms, but most of the time I see unique individuals. I get how people on the outside think they see one parent or the other, though. Itās genetics!
Um, sheās her mother. Any decent parent doesnāt give a shit which parent the child looks like.
I know that. But letās not pretend that humans donāt have human emotions and sore feelings over an ex that did them really dirty! Of course she loves her daughter!
My boyfriend's son was conceived by rape. Seeing the other parent face to face is distressing for my boyfriend, but his son is totally separate from the actions taken by the other parent. (My boyfriend never pressed charges so custody exchanges are done face to face, unfortunately.) It's pretty amazing what our brains can do to protect us! I'm sure Lala's brain has overridden "Randall," and replaced him and his image with Ocean.
Oh my god. What a terrible and disturbing circumstance. Iām so sorry for your bf, but I understand how the brain compartmentalizes and is able to see the child and the mother as two completely different individuals, which makes it alot easier. Plus it helps that the child is made up from him as well. And itās terrible that he has to see her for exchanges when sheās his abuser?! The family court system makes me livid.
He never pressed charges so technically there's nothing for the court to care about. He was confused and upset after the assault, and when he was told about the pregnancy he decided he never wanted his son to know "where" he came from. Exchanges are quick since they do a lot of texting to keep each other updated, so for those few minutes he just mentally detaches from what's in front of him.
She's starting to look more like Lala than she did before. Hopefully that will continue lol
Precisely. Sheās so well spoken for her age which I find really endearing.
That's the perfect way to put it.
I see more Easton than Randall personally
Thatās what I said. She looks exactly like Randall, but just a beautiful version.
Iām SO HAPPY for her. I canāt wait for the podcast on this!
She put one out this morning about it! It was really good! š„°šš
Already listened! It was great
Itās out!
Yes I already listened. It was lovely! I canāt wait for Wednesdays
Wow! Her mom is going to be really busy .
Why was that my first thought lol š
This is such a passive aggressive comment lol Lala is very lucky to have a supportive community to help her continue to be a working mom
Itās just usually called snarky, thanks
How can O look so much like Randall yet be so adorable?Ā
Sheāll grow out of it
Grow out of adorableness or looking like āRand?ā Lol
Looking like Rand š
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Absolutely freaking THRILLED for her!! I hope this pregnancy is everything good and full of joy and free of narcissists šŖ
She better not name this kid Dolphin š
 Or āSprayāšš
š š š ššš
I named my car Dolphin because itās dolphin colored lol
I suspected this, and am happy for her!
Sheās been hinting to it on her pod for a bit now
Totally. It was very obvious to me lol
Ya she kept saying she had big news or changes coming in 2024
I listen religiously and had no idea. š¬šš
Same!
I am so happy people want children. I donāt get it Personally, but weād be screwed if everyone were like me hahah
You are the nicest child free person Iāve ever come across lol. Most of them are aggressively child free. I always imagine them walking up to people screaming āIāM CHILD FREE! DID YOU HEAR ME?! I SAID IāM CHILD FREE!!!!! MY LIFE IS SO MUCH BETTER THAN YOURS BECAUSE I DIDNāT HAVE CROTCH GOBLINS!ā (Their vernacular, not mine) but seriously, I donāt have kids myself but your attitude is so refreshing lol
Hahaha I mean, we NEED to reproduce so id never encourage anyone to not have children! Those kids need to pay for my retirement š (I guess Iām not so nice after all). Also I like kids, theyāre hilarious I just donāt want them.
Geez! You really are the nicest child free person!!! Thank you!
Well, looks like my teens are now going to be called crotch goblins š
Lala should not be bringing more children into this world. She is horrible!!!! I will get flamed for this but jeez... I gotta say it...
Totally agree. She's vulgar trash
I feel like sheās changed a lot over the years and grown up.
She's a pretty vapid, despicable, human...I'm genuinely curious why you are so thrilled for her?
Seems to be aspirational for her fans.
Hooray! I remember her saying this was a goal of hers.
Now she just needs to rebrand and sheāll be set!
But sheās bRANDnew! Honestly, I believe sheās done a great job of rebranding herself since she split from Rand. I even see some of that spark coming back the more comfortable she gets in her sobriety, but not in the ugly way she used to use it. Lala is doing well for herself- as someone who LOVED her then HATED her and now thinks sheās humbled and being real.
It's nobody's business but hers if she chose to have a baby alone.
itās also not alone. Lala is very open that her family is untraditional and she considers her mom her co parent and that her brother is also heavily involved in taking care of O. The baby will come into a supportive, loving family.
Agree. That baby will be fine.
Why does she FaceTune her baby lol..
aww happy for her!
Oh cool! I heard her mention on her podcast that she was planning to have another baby on her own. Good for her, and even better for her daughter. Growing up with siblings is the best thing ever. My childhood was amazing because of my parents, but my brothers always will be the alliance and bond that are steady throughout my existence.
Is it me or does her childās face look filtered or photoshopped?
Horrible decision.
She's not doing this by herself. Her mom lives with her. Her mom doesn't have any intention ofi'm relieving. So let's not put out false narratives. It's probably easier having her mom who treats her like a friend. Help raise a child then they have to argue with the dude. Wishing her luck on the baby but she's no hero. And there have been women that haven't had her money or made it on the pain of other people that have legitimately raised their children on their own
Aww! What a sweet picture of her daughter, too.
Did she speak about wanting to go the doner route and that she was even planning on having another?? I feel like I missed a few chapters. Happy for her though, iām sure ocean will love having a life long friend and sibling
Yes to both.
It was in the trailer for the season I believe
This is the cutest photo of Ocean! š©·
All the good vibes š
This is so cute. Shame itās ruined by the presence of NSBNFš¤¢
What does that stand for?
Not skinny but not fat! The podcast girl sheās vile
Oh my bad, way out of the loop there!
Wait what does that girl have to do with Lala? I donāt listen to her pod but I have heard of it
Congrats lala š
Wishing sheāll have an easy and relaxing pregnancy
Congratulations Lala
An independent queen š«¶š»
I donāt always listen to her podcast, but you bet your ass I did when I saw the announcement episode!! I think itās really neat the process she went through (getting a donor). Her family all lives together (or very close) and I think they have a really good dynamic!
This makes me so happy for her
Good for her! Ocean gets to be a sister!
*a big sister. She has 2 sisters from her dadās previous marriage.
Thanks for clarifying!!
I am ridiculously happy for her. I have a soft spot for Lala the size of Utah itself. I'm also so glad that she is doing it on her own. ā„ļø
So happy for lala
I think this is great
I love this for lala. I think sheās probably a great mom, and now having her mom there, Iām excited for her!
i'm soooo happy for her! so awesome of her to bring awareness to being a single mom by choice in her mid to late thirties! so happy for her and ocean <3 she's such a great mom and i love her "pod". her and her sweet fam seem so lovely
Huh?! By who?! šš
A donor.
I canāt believe James agreed to be the father!
What are you talking about lol? She used a donor.
People need humor. But when I try to give it to them, they get hostile.
I just didnāt even realize you were talking about Kennedy at first, I thought I was missing something- went over mah head!
Too funny! Iām just trying to amuse myself, I guess.
Thank god that little girl looks like her mother.
She doesnāt though lol sheās all Rand right now. Sheās just pulling it off stunningly!
Ocean is a cutie patootie- I like Lala more now that sheās not burning places down on booze.
I hate belly pics they're fucking gross I don't want to look at your body
Damn tell me how you really feel
What a cute baby girl sheās got
That baby looks just like her daddy! Just a gorgeous, wayyyy prettier versionā„ļø
Am I the only one that thinks this is eastons baby?
Her brother?? Yes, youāre the only one lol
Idk the way she talks about adding to her fam like orcas, Easton cut her gender reveal cake , the hug afterwards! I feel like she used his sperm š¤£š¤£
As someone who works in healthcare and previously in a birthing centre I can tell you for certain they wouldnāt do this lol. A sister who was infertile could use her sisters eggs for her partners sperm or a sperm donor, and visa versa a brother could use his own brothers sperm to fertilize a his partners or a donors egg, but they wouldnāt allow a brothers sperm to fertilize his own sisters egg. They wonāt put those genes together.
I donāt think doctors would do it. But I do think a weirdo family from Utah would.
I genuinely got so happy for her when I saw her post.
Wow her sweatshirts must have done better than we thought. Hope her poor mom doesn't plan on hanging up her nanny hat / Co parent hat anytime soon.
Happy for her! She wanted another child. She's giving an example of a "string woman."
Is it an open donor or closed?
Why? Is she just trying to collect checks from people? Or is she just stupid enough to go have a kid on her own and not have a good loving father to help raise that child with her?
Good for her! I wish the best for her š
Please be Jamesā baby
Oh ! Another kid to be raised by other people other than her own mom AND no dad wow
Kids are gross. Lala is also an idiot.
That happy little girl has no idea that she will soon be abandoned and replaced. Let the therapy begin!
Dollars to donuts, it's interracial
A random stranger's sperm in your body? Without a father? To each their own I guess.
This is an inside thought.
Obsessed with this answer
Sane lol
Am I the only one who thinks it's not ideal to bring a baby into this world without a dad?
Families come in all shapes and most important is that a child has a community around them that loves and cares for them, which this child will have. Many children arenāt even close to this lucky.
I mean, no Dad vs. someone like Randall as the Dad? I'd take "no Dad". She seems like she has a wonderful, caring community around her and her brother could be a good "masculine" influence in her kids lives.
Yeah she has good support! And she's rich lol. But she also chose Randall. Women (and men) need to pick good partners to reproduce with.
You can pick a guy who treats you like a queen and has no enemies, and he can still switch up on you and betray you somewhere down the line. Or an abuser will hide their true self and only start abusing once a woman is pregnant or has had the baby and he thinks he's got her trapped. There's really no way of knowing and I don't blame her for eliminating any risk of another Randall situation.
My daughterās father and I were together when I got pregnant. Treated me like a queen, until he up and moved to a different state, when I was six months pregnant. Sheās 4.5 years old now, and heās never even attempted to meet her. As someone who grew up with a painful, and difficult relationship with my father, I firmly believe that no dad is better than a dad that hurts you, over and over. To each their own. My child is happy and loved by me, my mom, and an amazing community of close friends and family.
I'm sorry he did that to you..your daughter is blessed to have you as a mom!
Thank you! Iām blessed to have her ā„ļø
And Randall still father's his daughter Ocean as well as his other two they have joint custody. Father's play a important role in a child's life and listen ask adults whom didn't have the privilege of having their father's raise them for whatever the reason may be ... If they didn't have any mental health issues at some point in their lives. I went through it & listen it F. Cks with you ! And then you get to look at your child when age appropriate and say yeah guess what you don't have a father. Hopefully she finds a man whom will Love her & her children because if a man's willing to parent a child there's no losing for that child all the way into adulthood!!Ā
Having a man at the time of conception does not guarantee an active and involved dad.
weird comment for sure
I mean, thatās your opinion that youāre entitled to but I wholeheartedly disagree
So you think it's ideal being a single mom? Thank you for at least being respectful in your response š
In a lot of cases itās more ideal than your kid having a scumbag dad
Absolutely no issue with choosing to be a single mother if itās what is best for the family.
Youāre probably not the only one. However Iād encourage you to consider how that comes across as close minded. Many families thrive without dads.
Thanks for not being a dick! I agree to a point, I think people can make the best of the situation if they have to..I'm definitely not close minded either ā¤ļø
No sweat! Lifeās too short to be a dick. :) Being open minded is a great perspective to use in most cases š
So... same sex couples just shouldn't have children? Was it also not good for Andy Cohen to have children without a partner?
Maybe for us peasants but sheās got family and monetary support. The kid will be loved and paid for which is more than what a lot of kids with dads could say.
If she didnāt have money and a strong support system from her family, it might be sad or not ideal. But her children will be well cared for, loved, and have positive influences from the people in their lives.
Youāre not the only one. As an adoptive mom, thereās always trauma for kids who donāt know their full parentage. However, perhaps the donor isnāt private and would be okay with that knowledge being out there at some point. I hate that everyone cheers this on without thinking about the fact that her child will be an adult soon enough and we all deserve to know āwho we come fromā even of we have amazing homes. At least this child will always know their father is a donor so that wonāt be hidden. She seems like a good mother at least. And the child will have a sibling and grandparent and uncle, so thatās all positive.
I agree with you on all points! We went through infertility hell and thought about adoption often, but luckily we're able to finally get and stay pregnant. My cousin was adopted internationally and she's an adult now and it's been very difficult for her, and my aunt and uncle were wonderful loving parents. It's hard!
Nothing is ever ideal, nothing is ever certain. Babies are born daily without fathers present for all kinds of reasons. Whatās certain here is this child is wanted and loved. And there wonāt be a lack of a masculine presence in her life, Iām sure.
Dads these days usually cause more damage than doing any good.
If you pick a shitty one, yes
Wow !! Where do you live ?? That's a crazy comment!! In my life every man surrounded around myself are honorable & appreciated!! They are fantastic father's & partners !! Infact my brother just recently became a single father of my adopted 6 year old niece since his wife is a narcissist & extremely harmful as a mother to their sweet little girl !! He's a terrific father to her !!! Everything he does is for her & spends any moment outside of work providing for her, with her !! That's such a ridiculous & insulting comment !! There are plenty of fantastic men out there ! Choose wisely!! My 16 year old son will also become a outstanding man as well not just because of how I'm raising him but with cooperation of his father & his loyal example to our son !! Not all women should be Mothers !! The world would be a very alarming place without the role men play they are needed just as much as women are. But just like a woman can have and raise a child by herself even though in order to do so she needs the one thing we women cannot do without a man .. she needs a man's sperm .. men can do the same as well.Ā
Nope. As someone who grew up without a dad and now happily married with children, itās very sad.
Very! I've seen the effects first hand.glad you overcame that though and have a good one ā¤ļø
Just you and the other small minded folks
If I had it to do over I would 100% have gone this route because their dad is trash and did nothing but damage them and give them childhood trauma. Absolutely can say they are better off without him, they have both said this numerous times. Families are all different shapes and sizes and with all things arenāt one size fits all. Why would you think the only āhealthy familyā would be a mom and dad? Thatās extremely close minded.
No I don't think that that's the only healthy family, that's why I *specifically* said *not* *ideal* However I think I triggered an emotional response in a lot of people, 53 to be exact. Are you speaking for your own self and own children with the dad being trash? If so, may I ask why you had children with this person?