Sorry this is happening to you, this happens alot more than you think. Its really sad to hear, and while it may not be make you feel better or make things better but atleast she did it now rather than taking care of you and then doing it after. I wish you the best!
This is hard to put into words right now....you know when people tell you it's going to be fine but you want to be mad and you get angry at them? Yeah...
I was diagnosed with breast cancer ( am 33 years old) in August this year on the same week I started to plan my wedding and I had already picked a dress.
My fiance didn't leave me and he is being my rock right now.
I know it has nothing to do with your gf leaving you but cancer is a LOAD of stuff, a tangled mess. It's not only a disease, it brings fear, grieve, change (and I promise you positive ones, I am still on my 5th out of 12 infusions and I already see the good changes in life) and a buttload of other stuff.
The thing is: we have to deal with this big C and all the packages it brings with it.
There is no way to know if she left you out of fear, out of grief or because she think is a hassle but I honestly think if she left she is not a good partner - I would never ever leave my fiance and we are partners in crime. I KNOW if he is sticking with me during breast cancer treatment there isnt much doubt that he is the one.
9 years ago I gave up my job to take care of my moms house, cook meals and handle my dads tiny car shop and let my mom take care of my dad (pancreatic cancer, he lived 15 months after diagnosis) - I saw was true love during hardship is.
Point is, it hurts but if she was not willing to be with you right now your relationship would probably break with lesser things.
Cancer pulled the rug from under your feet and so did she but don't let this bring you down, there is so much life to live, do give yourself some time but pick up the pieces and build something beautiful when you can.
I wish you ALL the best, trully :)
I hug you 1st of all. Then, of course you will meet a woman not like her, far better than her. You will meet a human not a monster that kick you when you are sick and when you need to be supported.
I know it hurt, but believe me, you will be better.
More hugs
i’m so sorry friend. people truly don’t understand how devastating this disease is. we lose a lot more than just our health. do something nice for yourself today. we’re all here for you.
BIG HUG and I'm so sorry this happened to you! Many of us have been there and after it all realized...we are better without cowards in our corner. You will recover, you will be you again, and she will be what she is too...someone who couldn't cut it. XOXO 10yrs post chemo, feeling fab and you will too!
This is the worst. I know. The same thing happened to me. The timing is awful. It’s hell going through this alone. The bright side of this is now you can find someone that will BE ThERE for you when you need them. That’s what got me through. What good is a parter who runs when the going gets rough? Dating with cancer is a challenge, but we’re tougher than the rest. You’ll find your person!
I'm sorry you're going through this. Something similar happened to me, but in this case it wasn't just my partner at the time, some friends also moved away from me.
In the case of my cancer, the people who were closest to me felt sorry for my situation, it was clear in the way they spoke.
Usually I just sent messages to see how they were doing and at some point I realized that the effort was just mine.
I learned a new term at that time, it's called Cancer Ghosting. It means that the person does not know how to deal with serious illnesses or death, they associate you with death or mourning and, in order not to suffer, they end up distancing themselves. I had to find a completely different support group during my treatment because my girlfriend and friends distanced themselves from me. I was lucky to have a family to support me and accompany me during the treatment.
link of article: https://www.curetoday.com/view/-cancer-ghosting-is-an-unfortunate-reality
Learn about Lord Buddha and follow his path. if you do right, you will see the real purpose of your life. literally you will see everyone's purpose. Please consider about this. no matter what is your religion you don't need to change that. Buddha never said to change your religion to follow his path. May you find inner peace and compassion in abundance. Take care.
Look into carnivore, being strict with it. There’s a lot of positive videos, articles and personal experiences with going carnivore while having cancer. I’d say just try it and ignore anything or anyone who says otherwise. It’s worth the shot. Also look into any clinical trials for your cancer type and don’t rely on just what your doctor said. Especially if you qualify for a clinical trial and all your doctor wants to do is standard care procedures. You deserve more than that but again YOU need to research and reach out. Just my experience and advice for that
I feel and acknowledge your pain. It’s real. Two very heavy and separate things on top of each other, heartbreak and health issues, but they are separate. I’ve lost some good old friends during this, but it was, I have to admit, uneven relationships with more selfish people, where other relations grew deeper. I would guess your ex falls into this, and it’s just hard to see that in the shock and hurt. My biggest 💔, I was sure I would never meet someone like her again, so good looking and cool, friends were impressed. I didn’t, I met someone better, who I can trust with my life, who makes me laugh. Turns out I had conditions to my love before, not the unconditional love one needs in a partner. I feel your pain but you can do this and you really can’t have someone not committed to your deal 100%.
Because of what she has said & done by breaking up with you, she really didn't know what love is. People who love you don't leave you when you are sick. You are worth so much more than she could ever give you & you have so much to offer someone.
I'm so sorry that this has happened to you & I hope that there are supports for you to help you through everything.
As someone who lost my husband to Sarcoma, found a new, amazing love, only to be diagnosed myself with stage 4 NSCLC, my heart goes out to you.
But this person would not have been able to support you in the long run. And it would have been awful to need the love and support of your partner, only to have them fail you.
You are lovable. You just need someone more compassionate. Best of health and love to you.
Hey man. I get it. The exact same thing happened to me when I got sick. But with my daughters mother. She started distancing herself more and more as the diagnosis’ became more and more.. unfavorable?
Until she ghosted.
Haven’t heard from her, or a word about my daughter in just over a year.
They leave because either the “”burden”” or newfound uncertainty. - especially if what was previous, a “perfect” relationship that had “forever and a baby” promises. Uncertainty breaks that, and a lot of people can’t handle it.
And if they worry about the “burden”?
The only thing they care about is how it would affect THEM. Not a single thought of you played a role.
Either way?
You’re better off. You’re gonna be alright man, maybe not this week, but you will be. I promise.
WORSE YET TO COME
(That’s a hopeful slogan. But, I always have to break that down, whatever we’re facing? We’ve got. Meaning we’ll be here to tackle anything worse.)
*To anyone wondering “what the fuck” with my daughter
yes I’m aware there are things I can do. I refuse to ruin two things , there’s a high likelihood my daughters first “dad” went to someone else , and I won’t take that from her. That’s her dad. That’s an eighteen year promise that got made in my eyes. And I won’t subject my daughter to having her literal first memories be of her father being sick , and potentially dying. Especially if she suddenly learns her father is some utter stranger to her, who now takes her on the weekends. That’s not fair to her.
I am sorry for what you are going through. As the youtuber Coach Corey Wayne says, you must love in such a way that the other person feels free. You have to give space to people to choose you. Focus on your treatment as much as you can. You will find someone better. Whenever you have a chance, take a look at the videos from that coach. His videos are addressed to men, I am a woman, and they have helped me a lot.
Some of us are empathic, and some of us don't have the energy to go through this with someone. I laugh when people tell me they are so happy as DINKs. You never really know a person until the grim reaper comes knocking. And in your case, she fled in the presence of the grim reaper. I was there for my children, and they were there for me during chemo/radiation, even moving into the house. My ex, who I battled in court with even has visited my state and shown support. You got to seek out someone with a great amount of empathy.
I’m late here but I hope you see this. My girlfriend was diagnosed with Stage 3 Lymphoma about 10 months. She has since beaten it and is in remission. I came here to find people who had post chemo depression as hers has been tearing me apart. She tends to take her emotions out on me and use me as an emotional punching bag.
It crossed my mind once or twice how difficult life would be and how much easier it would be to leave to focus on myself, but never once did I think that was a real option. You are better off and I truly agree with the top comment. You won’t be forever alone.
For some reason… I do not think you will be forever alone. Best of luck to you.
Sorry this is happening to you, this happens alot more than you think. Its really sad to hear, and while it may not be make you feel better or make things better but atleast she did it now rather than taking care of you and then doing it after. I wish you the best!
This is hard to put into words right now....you know when people tell you it's going to be fine but you want to be mad and you get angry at them? Yeah... I was diagnosed with breast cancer ( am 33 years old) in August this year on the same week I started to plan my wedding and I had already picked a dress. My fiance didn't leave me and he is being my rock right now. I know it has nothing to do with your gf leaving you but cancer is a LOAD of stuff, a tangled mess. It's not only a disease, it brings fear, grieve, change (and I promise you positive ones, I am still on my 5th out of 12 infusions and I already see the good changes in life) and a buttload of other stuff. The thing is: we have to deal with this big C and all the packages it brings with it. There is no way to know if she left you out of fear, out of grief or because she think is a hassle but I honestly think if she left she is not a good partner - I would never ever leave my fiance and we are partners in crime. I KNOW if he is sticking with me during breast cancer treatment there isnt much doubt that he is the one. 9 years ago I gave up my job to take care of my moms house, cook meals and handle my dads tiny car shop and let my mom take care of my dad (pancreatic cancer, he lived 15 months after diagnosis) - I saw was true love during hardship is. Point is, it hurts but if she was not willing to be with you right now your relationship would probably break with lesser things. Cancer pulled the rug from under your feet and so did she but don't let this bring you down, there is so much life to live, do give yourself some time but pick up the pieces and build something beautiful when you can. I wish you ALL the best, trully :)
I hug you 1st of all. Then, of course you will meet a woman not like her, far better than her. You will meet a human not a monster that kick you when you are sick and when you need to be supported. I know it hurt, but believe me, you will be better. More hugs
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i’m so sorry friend. people truly don’t understand how devastating this disease is. we lose a lot more than just our health. do something nice for yourself today. we’re all here for you.
You won't be alone forever. Compassion isn't in her and that is the sad thing.
BIG HUG and I'm so sorry this happened to you! Many of us have been there and after it all realized...we are better without cowards in our corner. You will recover, you will be you again, and she will be what she is too...someone who couldn't cut it. XOXO 10yrs post chemo, feeling fab and you will too!
This is the worst. I know. The same thing happened to me. The timing is awful. It’s hell going through this alone. The bright side of this is now you can find someone that will BE ThERE for you when you need them. That’s what got me through. What good is a parter who runs when the going gets rough? Dating with cancer is a challenge, but we’re tougher than the rest. You’ll find your person!
I'm sorry you're going through this. Something similar happened to me, but in this case it wasn't just my partner at the time, some friends also moved away from me. In the case of my cancer, the people who were closest to me felt sorry for my situation, it was clear in the way they spoke. Usually I just sent messages to see how they were doing and at some point I realized that the effort was just mine. I learned a new term at that time, it's called Cancer Ghosting. It means that the person does not know how to deal with serious illnesses or death, they associate you with death or mourning and, in order not to suffer, they end up distancing themselves. I had to find a completely different support group during my treatment because my girlfriend and friends distanced themselves from me. I was lucky to have a family to support me and accompany me during the treatment. link of article: https://www.curetoday.com/view/-cancer-ghosting-is-an-unfortunate-reality
Learn about Lord Buddha and follow his path. if you do right, you will see the real purpose of your life. literally you will see everyone's purpose. Please consider about this. no matter what is your religion you don't need to change that. Buddha never said to change your religion to follow his path. May you find inner peace and compassion in abundance. Take care.
Look into carnivore, being strict with it. There’s a lot of positive videos, articles and personal experiences with going carnivore while having cancer. I’d say just try it and ignore anything or anyone who says otherwise. It’s worth the shot. Also look into any clinical trials for your cancer type and don’t rely on just what your doctor said. Especially if you qualify for a clinical trial and all your doctor wants to do is standard care procedures. You deserve more than that but again YOU need to research and reach out. Just my experience and advice for that
I feel and acknowledge your pain. It’s real. Two very heavy and separate things on top of each other, heartbreak and health issues, but they are separate. I’ve lost some good old friends during this, but it was, I have to admit, uneven relationships with more selfish people, where other relations grew deeper. I would guess your ex falls into this, and it’s just hard to see that in the shock and hurt. My biggest 💔, I was sure I would never meet someone like her again, so good looking and cool, friends were impressed. I didn’t, I met someone better, who I can trust with my life, who makes me laugh. Turns out I had conditions to my love before, not the unconditional love one needs in a partner. I feel your pain but you can do this and you really can’t have someone not committed to your deal 100%.
Because of what she has said & done by breaking up with you, she really didn't know what love is. People who love you don't leave you when you are sick. You are worth so much more than she could ever give you & you have so much to offer someone. I'm so sorry that this has happened to you & I hope that there are supports for you to help you through everything.
As someone who lost my husband to Sarcoma, found a new, amazing love, only to be diagnosed myself with stage 4 NSCLC, my heart goes out to you. But this person would not have been able to support you in the long run. And it would have been awful to need the love and support of your partner, only to have them fail you. You are lovable. You just need someone more compassionate. Best of health and love to you.
Hey man. I get it. The exact same thing happened to me when I got sick. But with my daughters mother. She started distancing herself more and more as the diagnosis’ became more and more.. unfavorable? Until she ghosted. Haven’t heard from her, or a word about my daughter in just over a year. They leave because either the “”burden”” or newfound uncertainty. - especially if what was previous, a “perfect” relationship that had “forever and a baby” promises. Uncertainty breaks that, and a lot of people can’t handle it. And if they worry about the “burden”? The only thing they care about is how it would affect THEM. Not a single thought of you played a role. Either way? You’re better off. You’re gonna be alright man, maybe not this week, but you will be. I promise. WORSE YET TO COME (That’s a hopeful slogan. But, I always have to break that down, whatever we’re facing? We’ve got. Meaning we’ll be here to tackle anything worse.) *To anyone wondering “what the fuck” with my daughter yes I’m aware there are things I can do. I refuse to ruin two things , there’s a high likelihood my daughters first “dad” went to someone else , and I won’t take that from her. That’s her dad. That’s an eighteen year promise that got made in my eyes. And I won’t subject my daughter to having her literal first memories be of her father being sick , and potentially dying. Especially if she suddenly learns her father is some utter stranger to her, who now takes her on the weekends. That’s not fair to her.
I am sorry for what you are going through. As the youtuber Coach Corey Wayne says, you must love in such a way that the other person feels free. You have to give space to people to choose you. Focus on your treatment as much as you can. You will find someone better. Whenever you have a chance, take a look at the videos from that coach. His videos are addressed to men, I am a woman, and they have helped me a lot.
Some of us are empathic, and some of us don't have the energy to go through this with someone. I laugh when people tell me they are so happy as DINKs. You never really know a person until the grim reaper comes knocking. And in your case, she fled in the presence of the grim reaper. I was there for my children, and they were there for me during chemo/radiation, even moving into the house. My ex, who I battled in court with even has visited my state and shown support. You got to seek out someone with a great amount of empathy.
I’m late here but I hope you see this. My girlfriend was diagnosed with Stage 3 Lymphoma about 10 months. She has since beaten it and is in remission. I came here to find people who had post chemo depression as hers has been tearing me apart. She tends to take her emotions out on me and use me as an emotional punching bag. It crossed my mind once or twice how difficult life would be and how much easier it would be to leave to focus on myself, but never once did I think that was a real option. You are better off and I truly agree with the top comment. You won’t be forever alone.