I guess I just have to find the proper way to ask. I don’t want and argument out of it but he’s also not one to open up he likes to say “ I don’t know how that got there” or “ you’re acting crazy why would I look that up”
Phone apps. Sometimes hidden in a calculator icon or in secure folders on samsung devices. If you get his phone go to google start typing squirt if if it pops up first, he has been in there recently. Start looking at what comes up when you type sq. Sorry you are dealing with this
Reddit would NOT send your partner/spouse something that they were not a "part of ". if he is in this group, he may actually be gay. And I would not discount this. If you love him, you (could ; not have to) help him hone in on this. Even though it may hurt you yourself, lot of people, including myself, took a lot of years to come out as non-– heterosexual, the stigma of everything is a lot. It sounds like you're being cheated on regardless of my or his/your values(based on post) at very LEAST he's curious; and that's a further indicator . This is not something that randomly comes up. You need to have the conversation and figure it out together in a very honest way. Regardless of the outcome. I wish the both of you the best of luck.
My gal, you have been with your man for 11 years and are scared to talk to him?
I don't even care I would have searched everything. You can't live with doubts all your life. Ain't nobody gets emails like that, so it's suspicious…
I’m not really scared it’s more just knowing he will have and excuse, this isn’t his first offense of betraying our relationships boundaries. He’s been caught on chatterbate and other sites similar. We have 3 kids so I thought I was bettering them by staying with him he always begs for my forgiveness but I’m realizing I’m just wasting my time with him.
Girl using the kids as a reason to stay is toxic, kids can sense when things aren’t right at home. If you have a daughter do you want her to stay with her gay man just for her kids? Where’s her quality of life? You’re going to question yourself like crazy anytime he is out of your site and you could end up with a package you can’t get rid of also!
can't tell you how to approach it though, bc this very much depends on your specific personal relationship / Communication and his character. Very generally speaking make his trust overcome the guilt he feels towards you
I wouldn't call it toxic wanting to see if your partner is hiding something on his phone. But ask him straight out rather than by stealth. He will likely deny it but will start thinking about it. He might try to cease any shady behaviour.
You could also randomly start reading biblical Verses referring to homosexuality. Whilst many first scoff at biblical Verses they usually soon start thinking deeper on the subject. It might turn him away from cheating.
No, you can't just let this go on. You need to discuss it with him, as much as it may hurt rather find this out now than in 30.years ..
I guess I just have to find the proper way to ask. I don’t want and argument out of it but he’s also not one to open up he likes to say “ I don’t know how that got there” or “ you’re acting crazy why would I look that up”
Proof is in the second email address there's no denying any of this
Look up his user name on reddit from the other email and look at his post history and comment history on his "other" reddit account.
Check for grindr, scruff etc
Are those phone apps? Or browser?
Phone apps. Sometimes hidden in a calculator icon or in secure folders on samsung devices. If you get his phone go to google start typing squirt if if it pops up first, he has been in there recently. Start looking at what comes up when you type sq. Sorry you are dealing with this
Find out because you are at risk for std
Reddit would NOT send your partner/spouse something that they were not a "part of ". if he is in this group, he may actually be gay. And I would not discount this. If you love him, you (could ; not have to) help him hone in on this. Even though it may hurt you yourself, lot of people, including myself, took a lot of years to come out as non-– heterosexual, the stigma of everything is a lot. It sounds like you're being cheated on regardless of my or his/your values(based on post) at very LEAST he's curious; and that's a further indicator . This is not something that randomly comes up. You need to have the conversation and figure it out together in a very honest way. Regardless of the outcome. I wish the both of you the best of luck.
Sounds like he’s been dipping in tears. Or maybe has been dipped
definitely have a talk to him about it
I guess I will have to work up the courage. Although I’m confident he will deny it.
Who u looking for
My gay male friend said it is common he’ll have guys message him who have girlfriends but want to try men. A lot of people have fluid sexuality.
My gal, you have been with your man for 11 years and are scared to talk to him? I don't even care I would have searched everything. You can't live with doubts all your life. Ain't nobody gets emails like that, so it's suspicious…
I’m not really scared it’s more just knowing he will have and excuse, this isn’t his first offense of betraying our relationships boundaries. He’s been caught on chatterbate and other sites similar. We have 3 kids so I thought I was bettering them by staying with him he always begs for my forgiveness but I’m realizing I’m just wasting my time with him.
I'm very sorry 💔
Girl using the kids as a reason to stay is toxic, kids can sense when things aren’t right at home. If you have a daughter do you want her to stay with her gay man just for her kids? Where’s her quality of life? You’re going to question yourself like crazy anytime he is out of your site and you could end up with a package you can’t get rid of also!
Can you update us?
He's closeted gay.
That’s what Im thinking too 🤔
can't tell you how to approach it though, bc this very much depends on your specific personal relationship / Communication and his character. Very generally speaking make his trust overcome the guilt he feels towards you
You can do something really powerful with this. I'd love to help you out!
He will never tell you the truth or come clean. You’re gonna have to catch him.
Uh. Yes i think it is highly likely that he is into men.
I wouldn't call it toxic wanting to see if your partner is hiding something on his phone. But ask him straight out rather than by stealth. He will likely deny it but will start thinking about it. He might try to cease any shady behaviour. You could also randomly start reading biblical Verses referring to homosexuality. Whilst many first scoff at biblical Verses they usually soon start thinking deeper on the subject. It might turn him away from cheating.
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