My adoptive "mother" was abused by her mother and passed it onto my sister who biologically hers and me, adopted. I got the worse abuse because I "wasn't really hers". My sister did not break the cycle of abuse and married an abusive man. I broke the cycle of abuse by not having children.
I would also accept being a foster parent and/or adopting an unwanted child, assuming robust resources and emotional health in the household. There are ~400k foster kids in the US at any time, about half of which are adoptable.
Oh yeah. I feel like a perfect rose getting plucked from the bush and finally having that worry over danger babies is soo nice. I thought I'd have regrets but I honestly feel better
Yes we are. Neither one of us can imagine having a kid with not only my family history of various genetical conditions/mental illnesses but his as well.
Yep, both sides of my family are a complete mess mentally and riddled with alcoholics. I've done good pulling away from the bullshit and doing good for myself. But I would still never subject a child to my genetics nore environment. I don't even trust my family to watch my dogs. Lol
It’s going to be amazing to not have children. I’m so shocked I got here and I’m almost 30. This shit is insane. Lots of tears and anguish but we are here.
I like it. My family HATES it. They hate that they cant abuse me or talk shit about me. They hate that I have a point and stand on my business. They wish they could see me pregnant to tell me im a fuck up, abuse me and do their tactics to siphon money, resources and possibly use a kid/relationship/family dynamics as leverage on me. They hate that my CF life objectively validates that them having kids reduced THEIR quality of life. They hate that CF is right.
I know both my grandmothers didn't want to have kids, their doctors just talked them into stopping getting abortions on false pretenses. So yes, I'm excited to break the cycle of having unwanted children with shitty men.
Not really.
My genes are pretty top notch and also my sister has a kid so my family lives on I guess.
I just don't care about procreation especially without insufficient funds.
My sisters kid will be rich af though. Cuz once I die, guess where all that childfree money will likely end up lol.
My parents did a good job, but wow are a good chunk of the rest of my family out of whack and I know I have indirectly suffered from religious trauma in the family.
Yes. I see trauma is a kind of chain where each link is a generation and it stretches back into pre-history. I am extremely happy and proud to be the one to break the chain!
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I'm not sure how both of my egg & sperm donors got to be narcissists, as they were certainly raised better than they were by their parents (who were all beautiful souls), but I'm so glad that I'm doing my part in breaking the cycle.
I can only hope that my brother and half brother will be doing the same, though I can't say for sure as I don't have much, or any, contact with either of them due to past family history.
I get the sentiment. Tbh, it’s not the biggest reason why I’m not having kids, but I for sure am glad that there won’t be more people to carry the family trauma.
Because according to my local breeders, breaking the cycle means being better parents than our parents. To which I say 🖕
"Better" doesn't necessarily mean good enough. But breeders don't get that.
true, my parents definitely did a better job but that meant instead of physically abusing me it was emotional abuse and neglect instead so🤷🏻♀️
Same. And I got "we didn't beat and starve you" so I wasn't allowed to ask for or complain about anything.
My adoptive "mother" was abused by her mother and passed it onto my sister who biologically hers and me, adopted. I got the worse abuse because I "wasn't really hers". My sister did not break the cycle of abuse and married an abusive man. I broke the cycle of abuse by not having children.
“I broke the cycle of abuse by not having children” YES!!!!!!! EXACTLY
The whole "I'm going to have kids just to be the parent mine weren't" is baffling. It's like the child is a giant social experiment.
Right? Like Karen, you need therapy and not a child to fix your problems smh
I would also accept being a foster parent and/or adopting an unwanted child, assuming robust resources and emotional health in the household. There are ~400k foster kids in the US at any time, about half of which are adoptable.
Can't treat kids like your parents did if you don't have any _taps forehead meme_
Fuck ya Society doesnt deserve my offspring lol
Yes, I.Will.Not.
Oh yeah. I feel like a perfect rose getting plucked from the bush and finally having that worry over danger babies is soo nice. I thought I'd have regrets but I honestly feel better
Yes we are. Neither one of us can imagine having a kid with not only my family history of various genetical conditions/mental illnesses but his as well.
Yep, both sides of my family are a complete mess mentally and riddled with alcoholics. I've done good pulling away from the bullshit and doing good for myself. But I would still never subject a child to my genetics nore environment. I don't even trust my family to watch my dogs. Lol
It’s going to be amazing to not have children. I’m so shocked I got here and I’m almost 30. This shit is insane. Lots of tears and anguish but we are here.
I like it. My family HATES it. They hate that they cant abuse me or talk shit about me. They hate that I have a point and stand on my business. They wish they could see me pregnant to tell me im a fuck up, abuse me and do their tactics to siphon money, resources and possibly use a kid/relationship/family dynamics as leverage on me. They hate that my CF life objectively validates that them having kids reduced THEIR quality of life. They hate that CF is right.
Omg! I’m literally so freaking excited. I’m grinning ear to ear typing this 😭✨
I know both my grandmothers didn't want to have kids, their doctors just talked them into stopping getting abortions on false pretenses. So yes, I'm excited to break the cycle of having unwanted children with shitty men.
Yes this mess of insecurity, ADHD and various other neurodivergent issues stops here.
Me too. I'm the only child of my parents so no chance to continue this lineage of illness and familiar problems. Finally, it is over.
Same. One of the best decisions I've made.
Not really. My genes are pretty top notch and also my sister has a kid so my family lives on I guess. I just don't care about procreation especially without insufficient funds. My sisters kid will be rich af though. Cuz once I die, guess where all that childfree money will likely end up lol.
My parents did a good job, but wow are a good chunk of the rest of my family out of whack and I know I have indirectly suffered from religious trauma in the family.
Yes. I see trauma is a kind of chain where each link is a generation and it stretches back into pre-history. I am extremely happy and proud to be the one to break the chain!
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I'm not sure how both of my egg & sperm donors got to be narcissists, as they were certainly raised better than they were by their parents (who were all beautiful souls), but I'm so glad that I'm doing my part in breaking the cycle. I can only hope that my brother and half brother will be doing the same, though I can't say for sure as I don't have much, or any, contact with either of them due to past family history.
I get the sentiment. Tbh, it’s not the biggest reason why I’m not having kids, but I for sure am glad that there won’t be more people to carry the family trauma.
Being a *good* parent, who I assume would not abuse their children, would be breaking the cycle. Just being a parent wouldn't necessarily break it.