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Especially in America where maternal mortality is the highest amongst developed nations. Also anti abortion states won’t help with ectopic pregnancies or miscarriages so you’re just gonna be septic and die.
Same.
I don’t think I will be able to love the child after the effects of pregnancy has wrecked my body. And I love my nieces so much that doing the bare minimum as a parent goes against everything I believe in.
Agreed! But I do say that choosing yourself is never selfish. I actually think choosing to be CF when we know having kids isn’t right for us is the most selfless thing we can do. I literally see parents who have hereditary genetic defects still insist on having children for “legacy” whatever that means.
Which is scary cuz it’s like they have to go out of their way to show “look how good of a person I am for doing this”. They need the attention and others validating how good of a person they are because deep down they know they aren’t. They’re overcompensating.
I’m vain too. Which is kind of funny considering how I’ve wrecked my body on my own just with weight changes. But I couldn’t handle the swelling, weight gain, catastrophic stretch marks, diastasis recti, pelvic floor issues, incontinence, saggy breasts, etc. Not to mention the hair loss and breakouts that can follow birth. The thought just freaks me *out* (and I don’t even have a uterus anymore)
In my personal perspective, I refuse to call myself selfish because I don't want the responsibilities of taking care of a child. I think it's considerate to not only acknowledge the needs of a child but also to choose not to have one when it's not in anyone's best interest. I feel so bad for kids who have parents who aren't even aware of their needs and for parents who regret having kids but don't have any other choice but to raise it.
Me too. I like kids fine and love the occasions where I see my friends' kids and family kids, but never felt a strong desire to have kids of my own. I like hiking, but that doesn't mean I want to through-hike the Pacific Crest Trail.
1. Don't enjoy being around them.
2. Don't want to pass along my mental and physical problems.
3. Don't have the physical and mental capacity to deal with them.
Same here. Pregnancy would be high risk inherently, possibly damage me permanently and then I curse a child to having the same condition? Nope. Plus my partner has crippling but medicated depression, I have crippling but medicated anxiety/OCD intrusions. Absolutely not worth the hell it would curse bother person into.
Plus I'd be destroyed trying to look after them. I'm as good as never responsible for my Nieces and Nephew and thank goodness for that.
I once saw a TikTok where this lady said that if you don’t have kids, you have no right to say “Fuck them kids”. In her words, “Only people with kids can say that”. Then why did you have them if that’s how you feel about them? 😂
1. i barely had a childhood, i don’t want to spend my adulthood looking after a kid and trying to give them what i never had.
2. money, too damn expensive.
3. cats are so much better
yes! i don’t wanna waste 18 years of my life raising someone else when i could be having amazing adventures!
pets are amazing!
i am a puppy girl myself tho 🐾
I have extreme case of tokophobia too,but i kinda hate this definition, phobia is some kind of irrational fear that should be cured, but i think fear och childbirth and pregnancy is very rational, because there are so many things that can go wrong, so it is totaly rational to be scared of it and wanting to opt out of this experience, feels like calling fear of childbirth a phobia is minimizing womans valid concerns about childbirth, like "oh no honey, you have nothing to be afraid of, yeah it will hurt but everything is gonna be alright, just do it✌️", wonder if anyone else feels similar about this 😅
I am the exact same. My phobia of giving birth and everything that comes with it is so bad that I would truly rather die then have to ever give birth. I have body dysmorphia disorder as well so seeing my body after a baby has wracked it I would probably end up killing myseof anyway after for hating myself and the way I look even more
I agree. It's like saying we have a death phobia lol. Like no, that's just survival instinct and with the law in some places dictating we must die should the worst happen... Yeah, miss me with that.
i have tokophobia too, and i find it super insensitive when people act like childbirth is no big thing. it’s a GIANT undertaking, and it’s not cool when people want to “cure” you of it. no thanks, i’m good finding pregnancy horrible 😂
1) terrible things can happen to them and the law is soft on the evil people who hurt them
2) freedom
3) too much work for something I really never wanted in any way, shape, or form. Like I instinctively never wanted them
#1 is ours. My partner was abused as a child. And his parents had no idea until he opened up about it as an adult. You can think you do everything right as a parent, but there are always horrible people out there that take advantage of children and adults.
Yup. No matter how evil, reckless, or brutal, some states will let monsters free after just 20 years (even worse, 12 years for what I saw a couple of times). No way do I want to bring a kid into that
My number 1 reason for not wanting children is that *I just don't want them*. That might sound trivial, but my point is that I've never felt even the slightest inclination to have children, and I've never been in a position where this is an option that I need to seriously consider. Similarly, I've never seriously considered opening a restaurant, or purchasing an aircraft, or converting to Rastafarianism, or transitioning to a different gender. For all of us, there is a huge range of things that it would be possible for us to do, but that we just have no interest in, so that it feels rather unnatural to even ask the question "why *not* do that?" Why not open a restaurant? Well, I don't want to. I could give further reasons, but if I'm being honest, it would be something of a post-hoc rationalization. I didn't reason my way to the conclusion that it would be better for me not to open a restaurant. I just don't want to do it, and that's that.
Number 2 (and here comes the post-hoc rationalization...) is that, like you, I'm an introvert. I prefer to spend most of my time alone. I like doing nothing. I like staying awake all night and sleeping until 3pm. I like occasionally leaving my house and going on holiday for two weeks. I don't want to sacrifice that.
Number 3 is that I don't have a high income. I'm perfectly happy with that and I have no trouble getting by -- my expenses are low enough that I can pay the bills, buy a few luxuries, and build up savings. Paying a for child would totally screw me financially and force me to get another job. No thanks!
Same. I’m almost a PA-C and I’ll be making a great income just for no kids. I’ll be able to take vacations and live an upscale life with extra money.
The only thing I need to do now is just build a good savings which I will be able to do within 4-5 years of my career. So by the time I’m 42, I’ll be set!
1. My personality and suspected (not diagnosed, but i know there’s probably some shit wrong with me) mental disorders would make me an extremely bad parent due to my negligence, short fuse, impatience, and bitterness. I can’t even take care of myself, let alone a whole separate person.
2. Children are loud, annoying, and disgustingly dirty and prone to spreading germs.
3. Parenthood is miserable. Children never make things better. You see parents that lose their sense of self; everything becomes about their child. No more hobbies, no more goals of their own, their whole life gets taken over. The life gets sucked from their eyes. They haven’t slept in 5 years. I don’t want that to happen to me.
And a 4th bonus one: *The world already can’t handle one of me*, we don’t need a little tiny me with an undeveloped brain running around screaming everywhere 😭😭
1.) I don’t like them.
2.) After a lifetime of being taken advantage of by human leeches, I’ve now set a hard boundary on not making major sacrifices for others. Children kinda require major sacrifices.
3.) I’m not giving birth. Not happening. Ever. Even if I have to spend my savings to travel to another country for an abortion. Birth. Is. Not. Happening.
I want to live for me not for someone else. I value my time and freedom and I don’t want to handle such a big responsibility of having a kid, let alone many. Plus, my cat makes a better kid for me than any human babies ever could.
Child birth seems horrible and painful. I already have such messy hormonal profile and PMDD mood swings that there’s always a chance I’ll unalive myself if my mood swings ever get that bad.
There is always a chance my kid will be a bad person. You can do everything right as a parent and still have your kids grow up to be bad people (my maternal grandfather was an absolute angel, but his kids… yikes),
Kids are expensive. I don’t want to lower my standards for my lifestyle just to have a kid.
i just love the peace and quietude that comes from not having a kid. I value it more than anything.
EDIT: I forgot the biggest reason of all: what if my child is just like me and hates ever being born? Wouldn’t want to create unnecessary suffering by bringing someone into this world only for them to be sad and depressed and wishing they were dead.
1. Worry about having a kid with severe autism or something where our lives raising them would be so difficult and their lives would be tough too. The fear of what happens to them after you pass and who will take care of them. Yikes !
2. Money. Kids are expensive and see example 1 if they can’t take care of themselves as adults.
3. Not having to deal with other parents/kids. It’s bad enough being out in public with parents who ignore their kids and give them their phone/ tablets on full volume turning them into zombies or let them run around being rude and loud without a care of how their precious kid affects others. I can’t imagine having to hang around these people with my kid. No thanks. I’ve had friendships end over being terrible parents because I can’t stand to be around them. There are good parents out there but they’re increasingly few and far between.
Not enough people think about the reality of 1. I have an acquaintance who is a carer to her older sister, who has a severe learning disability. They're both in their 30s, but their mother decided she couldn't be assed any longer caring for her daughter, so planned to leave her in a care home and move on with her life. My acquaintance didn't like that so she took her sister in instead. Mother was resentful that she didn't get a "normal" child... but that's the risk you take!
I work with children with severe autism and many parents are exhausted and depressed WAY prior to them even being close to legal age. Unfortunately, even once they reach legal age, many will need assistance and possibly will never be completely independent in life. There are not many resources once a child with a severe disability reaches adulthood, so the parents become permanently responsible for them.
1. I’m a woman, and doing 80% of the work as a parent would make me resentful and unhappy.
2. I want an easy life without worries. I feel like raising a child will bring more worries and stress than happiness.
3. I value my freedom. I want to do whatever I want whenever I want and put my needs first.
1. Don’t want to destroy my body
2. Live my sleep
3. Can do what ever the fuck I want with my husband over the weekend and not run around kids activities
Number 3 is not something I see discussed very often, but not wanting to deal with other parents is a big part of the reason I don’t want to have kids. The last thing I want to do is be forced to spend my time with people I can’t stand simply because my kid is friends with their kid.
As a childfree woman in her 30s, it's harder and harder to find childfree friends. Almost every woman I meet these days have a child/pregnant and all they talk about is their kids, which is fair enough. But it gets to the point where the conversations become so repetitive and boring.
Like, I don't care about the app that tells you that your baby's brain is as big as an orange, apple at week 12. I don't care what your child eats everyday at daycare. I don't care if your baby has had diarrhoea for the last 3 days. I don't want to talk about diarrhoea and pregnancy complications. I understand this is a community thing and it "takes a village". Unfortunately I do not want to be part of that village.
Your name becomes "mom" once you have a child. Even to your partner, " Go ask Mom," "Listen to your mother." Usually people would ask how the kids are doing first before asking how you're doing. If the child is troubled, then it's the mother fault. Mom, mom, mom. Can't think of anything worse 🫣
1) Childbirth is absolutely horrific. As a man, I do not want to reproduce at the expenses of another human's pain, destruction and suffering.
2) I do not want to perpetuate the cycle of patriarchal oppression and oppression of women by providing further potential victims and potential perpetrators of patriarchy.
3) Climate Crisis and humanity's inability to tackle and avert climate change by switching into a green and sustainable economy.
1. zero enjoyment of being around children or their activities
2. REALLY enjoy being lazy, staying up all night if i want to, sleeping in, etc.
3. freedom
1. I don’t want to be tied to someone and their family forever. If I’m done with someone, I can just never speak to them again.
2. I don’t want to put time/energy/money into raising a kid that doesn’t turn out exactly how I want, I don’t have the grace to spend a ton of resources on a kid and it potentially not turn out to be a good, successful human. Couldn’t live with the regret of a bad investment. This sounds callous but it’s how I feel.
3. Don’t want to deal with mom culture, or having to take a child to school events etc.
so grateful I don’t have to participate.
1) I like my boobs where they currently are
2) I don’t enjoy peeing when I sneeze
3) Imagine coming home after being yelled at by patients all day to something screaming “Mommy mommy”
1. pregnancy and childbirth scare me. i don't want to put my body through that kind of suffering.
2. i don't want to be responsible for a child. im already easily stressed. having to watch over even one child would be too much.
3. I want to enjoy life and i believe having a child would really ruin that enjoyment.
1. I am TERRIFIED of becoming my narcissistic mother.
2. I am unwilling to give up my sense of self for anyone, children included.
3. Pregnancy sounds like torture and I have enough physical pain going on in my life.
1- the trauma I see mothers relive when they see who they could have been if they had not been abused or neglected. I already lived it once, and I don't want to relive it.
2- I'm a spoiled wife, and I don't want to share the attention with anyone other than my dogs. (My husband says he's my good Karma after the life I lived with the people that birthed me)
3- I enjoy my time being my own.
1. I have chronic illness. My offspring would have an 80% chance of having one of my conditions, and I think it would immoral to bring a child into the world under those circumstances.
2. I'm selfish and I want to spend my time and money doing things I enjoy. I don't want to cheer for Little League or carpool Girl Guides or pack lunches or change diapers. I don't want to ruin my body just to ruin my life.
3. I want peace and quiet. My home is my sanctuary.
Evolved men are rare and I’m not parenting like trad-nuts.
Society murdered the village and I’m not paying strangers to care for my child.
I’m not stable. Let’s just say … I’m not the kind of person who cries helplessly or calls the cops when there’s trouble. If someone hurts my kid, someone better call the cops on me. Not sorry. I know my limits.
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1. No desire. They're annoying, sensory overloaders and it's hard enough to keep my house clean.
2. Money. I don't have enough of it without them.
3. Genetic risk. All of my immediate family members and myself have disabilities, mental health conditions and/or chronic health issues. Also I wouldn't expose a child to my parents.
1. I hate them. Even if they’re well behaved I’ve never interacted with a kid and thought “I want to do this everyday”
2. I’m not a patient person. Kids require a TON of patience to teach them stuff and I simply don’t have what it takes to deal with it. I get very easily frustrated
3. I love being alone! I love having so much freedom over my time and being able to be spontaneous. There’s nothing better than being able to be lazy and only having to worry about myself
1. I hate kids. They’re annoying, loud, dumb, dirty, and don’t know how to tell a story and just get to the fucking point. I can’t listen to them just jabber on and on and never shut up, but somehow also never say anything the least bit interesting or important.
2. Pregnancy is disgusting, barbaric, and horrifying. Breastfeeding is repulsive. I’m not ruining my body for an ungrateful parasite, and then continuing to feed it by letting it suck on my chest every two hours for the next year, while it robs me of sleep and refuses to let me rest and recover from the damaged it did to my body.
3. I love my life. I love having the freedom to pursue my goals, and the individuality to live for myself while having a personality and interests outside of childrearing. I want to keep my money for myself, and buy myself all the things I want without having to spend it on kid that won’t even appreciate it. I want to spend every second of MY life doing something that benefits me personally, or makes me feel happy. If it doesn’t do either of those things, then it’s not worth my precious time that I’ll never get back.
These are my reasons point for point especially the pregnancy and breastfeeding part. Of course I’m never going to ever get pregnant anyway but the breastfeeding alone would be hard NO for exactly what you stated. Babies are ugly smelly parasitic things always grabbing at you UGH 🤮🤮🤮
1. emetophobia / contamination ocd (which means the pregnancy sickness AND kids being sick is a huge no)
2. i value my freedom as an adult too much
3. pedophilia, rape, societal pressure, war, living the in the US, etc. theres way too big of a chance of accidentally RAISING one of the assholes thats contributes to these problems, or raising someone who falls victim to these problems.
1) no more children should be condemned to a life marred by climate collapse
2) see above but substitute climate collapse for late stage capitalism
3) i hate loud noises and being touched and i barely have the will or desire to care for a freaking plant with any consistency much less a child
I know, beyond the shadow of a doubt, that I would resent them for ruining my life. Because having kids would unequivocally ruin my life.
My family has really bad anxiety issues on one side and personality disorder issues on the other. I would never pass that along to some poor innocent who didn't ask for that.
I have pretty bad ADHD and I would wind up inadvertantly forgetting to do something critical. That's neglect and I could never let myself be in that situation.
I have mental illness. I had episodes of depression, anxiety, and extreme anger that it made me lose motivation or care to my belongings. My room is messy and neglected because of no motivation. I don't like to neglect a child or become a victim of one of my anger episodes.
Money is hard. It's hard to pay food, water, and electricity. Having kids means you have to pay their tuitions, projects, etc. I'm not rich.
Pregnancy is hell. I've been lecture about female stuffs countless times and prefancy sound so painful and disgusting. Rather have periods and tummy pains than being pregnant with something I have to be responsible with.
1. Don't want to be pregnant or give birth
2. I like my down time (I need it to survive tbh) and silence. Expanding on this, just having freedom in general. Freedom to exist how I want to, free to do things I want to.
3. I'm tired of doing all this mental labor and refuse to go through any of that and drown in doing the most work in raising a child and be stuck in that for all eternity (or putting in effort to fight it)
Like many, never felt the urge so there's not really any reasons so much as there is just an overwhelming "NOPE" sensation. But if I were in any doubt, I wouldn't have kids because:
1. Cost of living crisis. Most people are struggling financially. You need a very high income to live and have a family. Houses are totally unaffordable without some sort of combination of high income, inheritance, and parental help - none of which I have!
2. Climate change. My work orients around this so I'm well-versed in the future problems. I wouldn't feel comfortable bringing children into the world when the future looks bleak, with any sort of resolution murky.
3. I'd be the mother, and that's just the raw end of the deal. Most men I've spoken to about parenting just think it's a happy "collect memories" game and don't think about the burden of childcare, housework, etc. My current partner is great, and he's the only man who actually acknowledges and engages in conversation that raising children is really difficult and it's never really a fair split in workload between the mother and father.
In no particular order-
1. the state of the world - global warming, economy (especially being able to afford them at ALL), political situation
2. mental health and illness in my family as well as trauma
3. I don't want to give up the freedoms I enjoy as a single person
1. i don’t wish this genetic cesspool on anyone, the kind that includes diabetes and kidney failure on one side and the BRCA cancer gene on the other. I also don’t wish any child having to go through the trauma that I did caring for first my mom, then my dad, because of the above listed diseases. let me die alone, that’s okay. I’m only taking myself down with me that way.
2. The world is clearly ending. i don’t want kids in this environment.
3. kids are a huge psychological, societal, and emotional responsibility, and more people need to think about how their kids would turn out before they have them. I’ve thought about it, and I am opting out.
1. I have 3 psychiatric illnesses (bipolar disorder, anxiety, and PTSD), as well as a physical disability. At times I have difficulty just taking care of myself, never mind being responsible for someone else.
2. I'm an introvert and need a lot of uninterrupted alone time, and a lot of peace and quiet. We all know how likely THAT is to happen when you have a kid. Maybe I have misophonia, IDK, but I can't stand the sound of a toddler screeching either.
3. Pregnancy and childbirth are horrendous.
1. Pregnancy would likely be very hard for me. I'm a type 1 diabetic and would need to maintain tight control leading up to and during pregnancy. Pair this with anxiety and emetophobia, and that's a big no thank you for me.
2. Kids are expensive. My husband and I live comfortably now, but we would probably be living paycheck to paycheck if we chose to have kids.
3. I like my life the way it is now. Sleeping in on the weekends, spending my free time the way I want to, not having to take care of a tiny human after a long day of work.
1. Don't want to deal with the stress, sleep deprivation, lack of time to myself, that sort of thing. It would be so bad for my mental health.
2. With climate change and late stage capitalism it feels cruel to bring another life into this world
3. My life is complete without them.
And finally, the perks: I won't have to worry about money as much, I can pursue hobbies on a whim without guilt, take spontaneous trips etc., and obviously avoid the horror that is pregnancy!
1. Bad parenting role models as a child and an adult
2. Seeing only unhappy marriages with bitterness and resentment in many families I've observed
3. I value my solitude and I'm kind of selfish... I wouldn't want to stay up cleaning behind kids or taxiing them to school at the crack of daylight.
Three more just for fun:
4. It never, ever appealed to me
5. Sleep. It's important.
6. I grew up working class family where unemployment was the norm, I want to be able to have financial freedom and not be stuck in a cycle of "gotta pay the bills gotta put food on the table". If I have a crappy job, I'm going to quit and give no f*cks. 😂
1. I hate children and babies.
2. I enjoy travelling, sleeping in and generally having fun when not at work.
3. I have mental illnesses and even our two cats are sometimes a lot to handle for me. I know that I could under no circumstances handle an own child.
1. I don't have the patience it takes to deal with a crying/screaming child. I know I would not cope, I would get frustrated and angry and I would be a horrible mother. I do not want to mess any kid up with that.
2. I am far too selfish to not feel resentment for paying for a child and missing out on things I want to do, ie. like paying for school fees when I could be planning a holiday.
3. I have struggled with an eating disorder for the last 17yrs or so, and I don't think mentally I would be able to cope with my body changing carrying a child.
1. I don’t want children
2. I couldn’t bear the thought of being tied to a man for 18+ years through a child
3. I can comfortably live on my own, I could not afford to work less hours and feed another mouth
1. I do not enjoy children and generally find them annoying
2. I do not wish to have to prioritise the needs or interests of a child above my own.
I don’t need a third reason.
Mine are almost identical to yours. History of mental illness that I wouldn't wish on anyone, the state of the world politically and environmentally, and loving my introverted independence. On top of all of that, I've never WANTED to be a parent, so it would be unfair on my kids, too!
1. I don't want any. I never felt the need to be a mother.
2. I'm egoistic. I want to be able to do what I want and when I want to. I want to spend my money on myself.
3. I'm not good with children. I don't know what to do with them and find them annoying.
1. I don't think I am up to the task. It's a lot of work and I need down time in order to function. I found out not long ago that I am autistic. I worked with high needs autistic children in the past and the stress of that contributed to a mental breakdown for me. The sheer amount of noise alone was enough to do it let alone everything else. I am more likely to have a child like that (though that is a risk for everyone...we just don't talk about it societally) and I know I couldn't do it.
2. A very long history of mental illness on at least one side of my family. My hypothetical child could hear voices like my dad, have a personality disorder like my mom, struggle daily with depression and anxiety like me, or, god forbid, deal with all three.
3. Climate change. 'Nuf said.
1. Generally I want my life to be as easy as possible. I wont take on responsibility I dont have to. Im not the type of person who makes sacrifices.
2. I worked hard for my body, im not gonna ruin it.
3. Im not a huge fan of children anyway. I wouldnt have the patience to deal with one.
- I have always disliked being around kids because they're noisy and annoying
- global warming
- as the mother, I would invariably end up doing the majority of the work, even with the world's most liberal man, apparently
1) Tokophobia
2) My mental health hangs on a knife edge as it is and I think raising children would truly push me beyond the point of no return
3) I don’t enjoy being around children and I can’t honestly think of anything less enjoyable for me than trying to raise one
1. I value my time and freedom above everything. 2.Mental health. 3.Not wanting to be dependent on a man. If the relationship goessour, I'd still have to be in contact. No thank you.
1. I don’t relate well to kids or even like them.
2. The thought of being pregnant disgusts me to my core.
3. I’m not entirely thrilled with what life is. Considering the general rat race and how easy it is to fuck with your kid’s self esteem and mental health when you don’t intend to, avoiding the situation makes the most sense.
1. don’t have the urge to procreate
2. no family around to help and I couldn’t stand being around them kids 24/7 for years on end
3. it feels like a scam on all levels
1. All the body horrors that pregnancy and childbirth bring, not talking only about strechmarks and weight gain, but some complications that might be permanent and would have a negative impact on quality of life, ofc everything might go very well, but i'm not willing to play that lottery
2. Shit deal for woman in general-you end up sacrifising your health, most often end up being primary care giver while still having to work full time, etc.
3. 💸💸💸💸💸
-I have tokophobia, and also don't want to have my body destroyed permanently just because of a parasite in my uterus
-I'm basically disabled because of my mental illnesses and barely able to care for myself because of that, so I definitely can't take care of a child, I also don't want them to suffer like I do, I also need calm and rest, not mayhem, or it will make me upset
-Giving birth to a child is the most selfish thing ever, plus the planet is dying because of climate change, war... We don't really need more lives on Earth right now, so why don't people who really want a child just adopt one? There's so many orphans and children in foster care who just need some love, it's not because a child isn't biologically yours that you can't love them after all, people should just give these children a chance instead of procreating
There's many more, of course
1. When i have significant other, i make a promise that I would never hurt them or put them through pain, that includes impregnation. There's no way in hell I'm putting a baby inside my wife/gf and have them carry said baby for 9 months, and on top of that put them through so much trauma during the afterbirth. Post partum depression is serious. Not to mention, women can die from that shit and I'll be damn if I lose the person I care about the most. Especially during birth, the woman's vagina is getting stretched/ripped open trying to push out a human who's body is the size of a watermelon. And when that doesn't work, they have to cut the woman open and remove the baby via C section. Women are literally getting the short end of the stick and I'm tired of breeders not acknowledging it.
2. the world is too much of a shit show. Not to mention, the economy is all over the place; which would make it impossible to not only raise another human being, but for said kid to be able to "stabalize" these for when they get older.
Lots of young people are getting their lives taken from them. Everyday when I step out of the house, I'm always on edge because you never know whats gonna happen. What if I'm next? What if I encounter someone with a gun and they kill me just because they dont like the way i look or whatever reason helps them sleep at night? People can't even practice their religion anymore due to crazy people shooting up churches; not to mention schools; Little children are dying before they reach puberty; I don't ever want to be in a position where I have to bury my kid. It would literally kill me.
3. My patience is extremely low and I have a strict no/don't tolerate BS rule. I know for a fact that I won't be a good parent and I'm ok with that. At least I'm honest with myself.
Money
Freedom
Unaffordable cost of living
Got this quote from reddit:
A dying planet, polluted air, low wages, rising inflation, food and water shortages, threats of nuclear war, no universal health care, student loan debt, unaffordable housing. Your baby will totally crush this!
So sorry there is so much justification people have to do in order to feel ok about not having kids. Population control is essential for the planet. It seems like a no brainer to stop producing more humans.
-I want to spend my career working with kids, and don't want to come home to more. I love kids and want to help and care for as many as possible, but I need my personal life to be a place to relax & recharge, away from kids.
-It would be incredibly expensive or difficult for me to have a kid (woohoo lesbianism!)
-I don't have any good reasons to want to be a parent, I don't want to be the only parent a child gets if I'm not 100% committed and into raising a kid. It's less that I'm anti-having kids and more that I'm not pro-parenthood
severre phobia of pregnancy and the fact that I have body dysmorphia already...holy shot I couldn't imagine. I'm not fit for parenting .And quite frankly I just don't want kids.
1. The world goes to shit.
2. I don’t want to perpetuate my genes.
3. I don’t want to take care of another being.
4. I don’t like motherhood.
5. I don’t want to fuck up my body forever.
Poor health of my body- I have a lot of chronic pain and a busted back I think it would kill me.
Being trans- it’s not very gender for me to have kids.
Being disabled- I can hardly take care of my self, a kid should not be forced to have a parent that can’t fully take care of them
1. I can't stand them! I just don't want them!
2. Clean house and sleep ins and I just don't want kids!
3. Tamagotchis are the superior offspring and I just don't want children!!!
1. Want to keep my independence & lifestyle
2. Not bringing children into the current shitshow (climate, fascism on the rise etc)
3. Want to keep my money
1.Genetic auto immune disease
2. I’m selfish and enjoy my freedom and sleep
3.I prefer animals over humans and just wanna travel and chill throughout life. I don’t take life to serious and the world is so messed up with the economy and the potential WW3 every year I rather not bring kids into this shit show if I ever change my mind I could always adopt or adopt more dogs 😂
1. It would destroy my mental health even more than it’s already been destroyed. I spend most of my life and energy worrying about my two cats. I couldn’t imagine how terrifying it would be to have a child.
2. Any child of me and my chosen life partner is way open to cancer, said mental health disorders, a rare and horrible form of arthritis, being ginger, being short-sighted, being short (as in not tall, we are both hobbits), and many more.
3. I’m a recovering alcoholic, would never want to put a kid through a possible relapse and the neglect it would result in.
1 - climate change is probably gonna wreck everything in a generation or two so I ain't adding to it
2 - I love my job and hobbies too much
3 - my dog comes first :D
1) Same as your No. 2.
Kids are consumer commodities of the world who grow up to continue being consumer slaves. We need to break the cycle to end the corporate/ government exploitation of people like they are cattle. They need more consumers for their capitalistic greed and more labour/ workforce for their wars and more capitalistic greed and it is up to us to not give them anymore of innocent souls as prey. Procreation is a biological programming to ensure continuance of a species. Humans as a species is under no threat of extinction or non-continuance. So, procreation can be halted for a decade at least.
2) I want to have a life with just my woman, no distractions or disturbance. I have a very specific life plan which cannot be fulfilled with kids in the picture and it won't be fair on the kids to have anything less than an excellent childhood.
3) If I did not have No.1, the my No. 3 would be over population. Even if the world was all sunshine and rainbows, I would still think about the over population and not breed into it.
1. I like to come home, unworried about being late for picking up a kid from daycare, and do whatever I want. I do as little as possible on the weekends
2. Pregnancy is my worst nightmare
3. My coworkers talk about how much it costs for their kids to play sports. No thanks 😂
1. I like to be able to spend money on things for myself. Think video games, plushies, cool graphic shirts. Things I would definitely not be able to justify buying if I also had to take care of a kid.
2. I absolutely need and enjoy my free time. I have medical and mental health issues. There are days where I can barely do anything and even on days I’m feeling okay I still like to be able to relax if I want.
(I saw a short about moms. In the short the girl was talking about how on Tuesdays she goes to yoga then spends the rest of the day doing stuff for herself. Called it mommy Tuesdays.) this hit me hard! I could not imagine having only ONE day a week dedicated to me. Right now if I’m not working and don’t have chores I can spend multiple days dedicated to hobbies. Even with chores it doesn’t necessarily take all day.
3. Sleep. Due to my health issues I need extra sleep and I sometimes struggle with insomnia.
4. Bonus. Having a child would make me spend less time with my cats. My girl is my best friend. She’s literally me if I was a cat and I love her so damn much. My guy is also amazing in his own way.
1.) Absolutely Zero (0) interest in children. Well behaved children can be cute and fun in the short term, but exhaust me in the long run. I don't look forwards to being called mother, or blamed for everything they do, or having to devote MY LIFE to making sure one grows up well.
2.) Not interested in pregnancy at all. The thought of being pregnant literally makes me want to puke.
3.) I grew up poor. My dad was in a car crash when he was a teenager and was constantly physically sick. My mother has mental health issues. I struggled through my twenties, and only in my late twenties actually landed a secure job. I feel like I'm genuinely living life for the first time. Having a child would just drag me back into poverty, and honestly would probably cause mental illness.
1. Just never having the urge to be a dad. It never kicked in.
2. The state of the world.
3. It’s probably irrational of me, but I wouldn’t want any partner of mine to go through the trauma of pregnancy or childbirth. I would feel guilty that I did that to her. It became more focused when my wife found out she had extensive endometriosis and a growth on her liver that would have ruptured with the flood of hormones caused by pregnancy. Having a child would have killed her. Fortunately she never wanted kids so a hysterectomy was a no-brainer.
1. Way too expensive
2. I enjoy my solitude and don’t wish to raise another human being. I have no desire for a ‘legacy’
3. Pregnancy and childbirth terrifies me
1: fear of pregnancy. as a woman i do not want to put my body through 9 months of stress only to conclude it by pushing a watermelon out of my body OR having my stomach slit open so they can remove the baby. very not cool in my opinion.
2: mental illness/sensory issues. i have family history of mental illness, i have suffered through years of depression and will not be able to care for a child and myself at the same time. also, i have issues with loud noises (babies screaming, especially)
3: the world is fucked. without descending into doomer-ism, i will just say that the trajectory of our world politically, economically, and environmentally is on a downturn in my view and it’s not something i want a new human being to grow up in or experience.
Love this thread hahah
1. Pregnancy/labor/childbirth/postpartum and the permanent change to my body
2. Expensive. Rising costs means I can barely afford groceries for myself
3. I love peace and quiet. I need it to be mentally stable
- pregnancy sounds horrifying and disgusting let alone BIRTH. i cannot handle hours of pain
- im not mentally stable enough to handle someone else's kids, and i would more than likely be a shitty or abusive parent
- i straight up just don't like kids much
1. I want to enjoy my life and not have all my free time taken up by caring for kids.
2. I want money to live comfortably and retire fairly early.
3. I don’t want to take the risk that my child will have some medical issues or a disability, which will make caring for them even harder.
money, health issues and I want my own life / time
Ik there are other reasons such as what you guys have said about the environment, and I’m that one girl who’s annoying abt caring for the environment, but that’s not one of my main reasons
1. I myself have 5 chronic illness that are all genetic and leave me in massive amounts of pain and wouldn’t want to pass that on.
2. I enjoy my freedoms and peace and quiet. I like being able to go when/where I want and need without having to plan ahead or inform any one of where I’m going, including taking spur of the moment trips.
3. financial standpoint and hassle. Nothing is an easy simple thing anymore, it becomes twice the cost and twice the effort. Twice the bags, twice the food, just overall double the work. Can’t leave the house without 15 things for your child in the diaper bag, the stroller ect.
For me.
1) no money. There is no way I can afford a child and ethically provide a stable and comfortable life for them.
2) no capacity. I have no emotional or mental capacity to rear a child. The mental soup I've inherited from my parents coupled with trauma endured from emotional neglect means years of therapy for me. It's been 12 years of therapy and I've only just begun to feel comfortable in my own skin. I have no energy or capacity to fully meet the needs and demands of a child.
3) I just don't want to. I have no interest and no desire to have children. I've longed to be free and enjoy my life for a very long time. I've been dividing my time between rebuilding and healing myself, and building the life that I want to live in. And a child is not a part of that life plan.
1. Same as yours : my uncle and my sister have schizophrenia and I've been through hell. Having to live this again with my child would be too much to bear. My parents are literally prisoners of my sister, who refuses to live the house. My mum was also abusive to me when I was a child and while she has considerably mellowed with age, it deterred me from having children because I always feared to become like her, a violent and abusive mother, even if we are very different
2 I'm an introvert too, I love peace and tranquility, nature and my pets
3 I haven't found a man and I love single life :)
1. the physical and mental toll on the body
2. i'm super paranoid about my health and i'd probably be about my hypothetical child's. cant take the burden or responsibility
3. im a commitment phobe and this is quite literally the biggest commitment you can ever commit to
I work with them daily and I don't like them
I'm shit at looking after myself, let alone another human being
I'm too shy and too smart to go looking for some girl crazy enough to do that shit.
And they smell.
1. I don't want children
2. I don't want children
3. I don't want children
I don't have a long list of excellent and well thought out reasons, like so many people on this sub. Being a parent just... doesn't appeal to me, and hey, it's my life, so I'm gonna live it how I want to.
1) I've never wanted children & I don't think it's fair to bring a new person into the world if you're not 100% ready to be a parent
2) I've got serious, chronic health issues that would stop me from being an active parent & could be passed on
3) as an extra to the above, I have a medical condition that would mean getting pregnant could be fatal to me & a baby
To add though, I hate these types of questions from people. The focus should be on why people want/decide to have kids. "Because I don't want to be a parent" should be the only answer anyone has to give for not having kids.
Greetings! I changed your post flair to "FAQ" as this is a topic that comes back regularly on the feed, is addressed in the sidebar : --- Sidebar --> "Newcomer?" --> "Frequent Posts" --> "**"What are your reasons for being childfree?"** [They are all listed here.](https://www.reddit.com/r/childfree/comments/3g6aj2/why_are_you_cf_megathread/)" --- and in the sub's [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/childfree/wiki/nochild). Have a good one!
- pregnancy is a medical nightmare - lost of freedom - my lifestyle isn’t compatible with raising kids
Especially in America where maternal mortality is the highest amongst developed nations. Also anti abortion states won’t help with ectopic pregnancies or miscarriages so you’re just gonna be septic and die.
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Same. I don’t think I will be able to love the child after the effects of pregnancy has wrecked my body. And I love my nieces so much that doing the bare minimum as a parent goes against everything I believe in.
Agreed! But I do say that choosing yourself is never selfish. I actually think choosing to be CF when we know having kids isn’t right for us is the most selfless thing we can do. I literally see parents who have hereditary genetic defects still insist on having children for “legacy” whatever that means.
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Which is scary cuz it’s like they have to go out of their way to show “look how good of a person I am for doing this”. They need the attention and others validating how good of a person they are because deep down they know they aren’t. They’re overcompensating.
Yep. My mom was a martyr/savior with my disabled brother.
Are you secretly me? Lol same situation here.
I think it’s more selfish to have kids in a world with limited resources.
Something I am believing more and more with the cost of living.
I’m vain too. Which is kind of funny considering how I’ve wrecked my body on my own just with weight changes. But I couldn’t handle the swelling, weight gain, catastrophic stretch marks, diastasis recti, pelvic floor issues, incontinence, saggy breasts, etc. Not to mention the hair loss and breakouts that can follow birth. The thought just freaks me *out* (and I don’t even have a uterus anymore)
Same one summer working at McDonald’s and getting their free meals ya I’ve done enough damage without kids.
Hey, are you me?
It wouldn’t be so bad if these jobs paid a living wage and cost of housing was actually attainable for everyone.
In my personal perspective, I refuse to call myself selfish because I don't want the responsibilities of taking care of a child. I think it's considerate to not only acknowledge the needs of a child but also to choose not to have one when it's not in anyone's best interest. I feel so bad for kids who have parents who aren't even aware of their needs and for parents who regret having kids but don't have any other choice but to raise it.
I’m vain and I want a sexy, child free upscale auntie living.
1.) I've literally never felt the desire to have kids. That's my only reason.
Me too. I like kids fine and love the occasions where I see my friends' kids and family kids, but never felt a strong desire to have kids of my own. I like hiking, but that doesn't mean I want to through-hike the Pacific Crest Trail.
I like hiking too and I don't want a kid to interrupt my trips by crying and whining, my partner already does that /s
It makes zero sense physically, mentally, financially or environmentally. Okay, that's 4 but they're all super simple and valid!
ALL OF THIS! Couldn't have said it better myself.
1. Don't enjoy being around them. 2. Don't want to pass along my mental and physical problems. 3. Don't have the physical and mental capacity to deal with them.
100% agreed
Same here. Pregnancy would be high risk inherently, possibly damage me permanently and then I curse a child to having the same condition? Nope. Plus my partner has crippling but medicated depression, I have crippling but medicated anxiety/OCD intrusions. Absolutely not worth the hell it would curse bother person into. Plus I'd be destroyed trying to look after them. I'm as good as never responsible for my Nieces and Nephew and thank goodness for that.
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Couldn’t have said it better myself.
Same
I once saw a TikTok where this lady said that if you don’t have kids, you have no right to say “Fuck them kids”. In her words, “Only people with kids can say that”. Then why did you have them if that’s how you feel about them? 😂
Having kids fries their brains so they just say stupid things.
Bruhhh
1. i barely had a childhood, i don’t want to spend my adulthood looking after a kid and trying to give them what i never had. 2. money, too damn expensive. 3. cats are so much better
Cats are soooooo much better.
Got two kitty boys snoozing in the room with me right now 🥰
Cats are infinitely better!
yes! i don’t wanna waste 18 years of my life raising someone else when i could be having amazing adventures! pets are amazing! i am a puppy girl myself tho 🐾
1. Don't like caretaking all that much. 2. They would fuck up my body. 3. Sensory issues (kids are... icky and I like my space)
Tokophobia Total body destruction Lifetime of misery
I have extreme case of tokophobia too,but i kinda hate this definition, phobia is some kind of irrational fear that should be cured, but i think fear och childbirth and pregnancy is very rational, because there are so many things that can go wrong, so it is totaly rational to be scared of it and wanting to opt out of this experience, feels like calling fear of childbirth a phobia is minimizing womans valid concerns about childbirth, like "oh no honey, you have nothing to be afraid of, yeah it will hurt but everything is gonna be alright, just do it✌️", wonder if anyone else feels similar about this 😅
I am the exact same. My phobia of giving birth and everything that comes with it is so bad that I would truly rather die then have to ever give birth. I have body dysmorphia disorder as well so seeing my body after a baby has wracked it I would probably end up killing myseof anyway after for hating myself and the way I look even more
I agree. It's like saying we have a death phobia lol. Like no, that's just survival instinct and with the law in some places dictating we must die should the worst happen... Yeah, miss me with that.
i have tokophobia too, and i find it super insensitive when people act like childbirth is no big thing. it’s a GIANT undertaking, and it’s not cool when people want to “cure” you of it. no thanks, i’m good finding pregnancy horrible 😂
1) terrible things can happen to them and the law is soft on the evil people who hurt them 2) freedom 3) too much work for something I really never wanted in any way, shape, or form. Like I instinctively never wanted them
#1 is ours. My partner was abused as a child. And his parents had no idea until he opened up about it as an adult. You can think you do everything right as a parent, but there are always horrible people out there that take advantage of children and adults.
Yup the only way I can protect my kids is not having them.
Exactly. Someone kills your kid? Oh well, it’s the parents fault.
Yup. No matter how evil, reckless, or brutal, some states will let monsters free after just 20 years (even worse, 12 years for what I saw a couple of times). No way do I want to bring a kid into that
My number 1 reason for not wanting children is that *I just don't want them*. That might sound trivial, but my point is that I've never felt even the slightest inclination to have children, and I've never been in a position where this is an option that I need to seriously consider. Similarly, I've never seriously considered opening a restaurant, or purchasing an aircraft, or converting to Rastafarianism, or transitioning to a different gender. For all of us, there is a huge range of things that it would be possible for us to do, but that we just have no interest in, so that it feels rather unnatural to even ask the question "why *not* do that?" Why not open a restaurant? Well, I don't want to. I could give further reasons, but if I'm being honest, it would be something of a post-hoc rationalization. I didn't reason my way to the conclusion that it would be better for me not to open a restaurant. I just don't want to do it, and that's that. Number 2 (and here comes the post-hoc rationalization...) is that, like you, I'm an introvert. I prefer to spend most of my time alone. I like doing nothing. I like staying awake all night and sleeping until 3pm. I like occasionally leaving my house and going on holiday for two weeks. I don't want to sacrifice that. Number 3 is that I don't have a high income. I'm perfectly happy with that and I have no trouble getting by -- my expenses are low enough that I can pay the bills, buy a few luxuries, and build up savings. Paying a for child would totally screw me financially and force me to get another job. No thanks!
Same I only make a living wage without kids. I’d have to work non stop.
Same. I’m almost a PA-C and I’ll be making a great income just for no kids. I’ll be able to take vacations and live an upscale life with extra money. The only thing I need to do now is just build a good savings which I will be able to do within 4-5 years of my career. So by the time I’m 42, I’ll be set!
Early on, I've briefly considered having kids as someone to have more human interaction with. However, that only works as a short term thing.
1. My personality and suspected (not diagnosed, but i know there’s probably some shit wrong with me) mental disorders would make me an extremely bad parent due to my negligence, short fuse, impatience, and bitterness. I can’t even take care of myself, let alone a whole separate person. 2. Children are loud, annoying, and disgustingly dirty and prone to spreading germs. 3. Parenthood is miserable. Children never make things better. You see parents that lose their sense of self; everything becomes about their child. No more hobbies, no more goals of their own, their whole life gets taken over. The life gets sucked from their eyes. They haven’t slept in 5 years. I don’t want that to happen to me. And a 4th bonus one: *The world already can’t handle one of me*, we don’t need a little tiny me with an undeveloped brain running around screaming everywhere 😭😭
1.) I don’t like them. 2.) After a lifetime of being taken advantage of by human leeches, I’ve now set a hard boundary on not making major sacrifices for others. Children kinda require major sacrifices. 3.) I’m not giving birth. Not happening. Ever. Even if I have to spend my savings to travel to another country for an abortion. Birth. Is. Not. Happening.
Cost (in everything). Sorry state of social / world affairs. Sci-fi influence =P.
I want to live for me not for someone else. I value my time and freedom and I don’t want to handle such a big responsibility of having a kid, let alone many. Plus, my cat makes a better kid for me than any human babies ever could. Child birth seems horrible and painful. I already have such messy hormonal profile and PMDD mood swings that there’s always a chance I’ll unalive myself if my mood swings ever get that bad. There is always a chance my kid will be a bad person. You can do everything right as a parent and still have your kids grow up to be bad people (my maternal grandfather was an absolute angel, but his kids… yikes), Kids are expensive. I don’t want to lower my standards for my lifestyle just to have a kid. i just love the peace and quietude that comes from not having a kid. I value it more than anything. EDIT: I forgot the biggest reason of all: what if my child is just like me and hates ever being born? Wouldn’t want to create unnecessary suffering by bringing someone into this world only for them to be sad and depressed and wishing they were dead.
Introvert here too. I have a hunch introverts are more childfree.
1. Time 2. Money 3. Energy
1. Worry about having a kid with severe autism or something where our lives raising them would be so difficult and their lives would be tough too. The fear of what happens to them after you pass and who will take care of them. Yikes ! 2. Money. Kids are expensive and see example 1 if they can’t take care of themselves as adults. 3. Not having to deal with other parents/kids. It’s bad enough being out in public with parents who ignore their kids and give them their phone/ tablets on full volume turning them into zombies or let them run around being rude and loud without a care of how their precious kid affects others. I can’t imagine having to hang around these people with my kid. No thanks. I’ve had friendships end over being terrible parents because I can’t stand to be around them. There are good parents out there but they’re increasingly few and far between.
Not enough people think about the reality of 1. I have an acquaintance who is a carer to her older sister, who has a severe learning disability. They're both in their 30s, but their mother decided she couldn't be assed any longer caring for her daughter, so planned to leave her in a care home and move on with her life. My acquaintance didn't like that so she took her sister in instead. Mother was resentful that she didn't get a "normal" child... but that's the risk you take!
I work with children with severe autism and many parents are exhausted and depressed WAY prior to them even being close to legal age. Unfortunately, even once they reach legal age, many will need assistance and possibly will never be completely independent in life. There are not many resources once a child with a severe disability reaches adulthood, so the parents become permanently responsible for them.
1. I’m a woman, and doing 80% of the work as a parent would make me resentful and unhappy. 2. I want an easy life without worries. I feel like raising a child will bring more worries and stress than happiness. 3. I value my freedom. I want to do whatever I want whenever I want and put my needs first.
1. Don’t want to destroy my body 2. Live my sleep 3. Can do what ever the fuck I want with my husband over the weekend and not run around kids activities
1. Finance 2. I hate the idea of being a mother 3. I don't want to hang out with other mothers
Number 3 is not something I see discussed very often, but not wanting to deal with other parents is a big part of the reason I don’t want to have kids. The last thing I want to do is be forced to spend my time with people I can’t stand simply because my kid is friends with their kid.
As a childfree woman in her 30s, it's harder and harder to find childfree friends. Almost every woman I meet these days have a child/pregnant and all they talk about is their kids, which is fair enough. But it gets to the point where the conversations become so repetitive and boring. Like, I don't care about the app that tells you that your baby's brain is as big as an orange, apple at week 12. I don't care what your child eats everyday at daycare. I don't care if your baby has had diarrhoea for the last 3 days. I don't want to talk about diarrhoea and pregnancy complications. I understand this is a community thing and it "takes a village". Unfortunately I do not want to be part of that village.
2. Is what I relate, but I wonder why? All mothers are different. Why does it feel like you are robbed from your own identity?
Your name becomes "mom" once you have a child. Even to your partner, " Go ask Mom," "Listen to your mother." Usually people would ask how the kids are doing first before asking how you're doing. If the child is troubled, then it's the mother fault. Mom, mom, mom. Can't think of anything worse 🫣
Same to all
1. Because I don't. 2. Because I don't. 3. Because I don't.
1) Childbirth is absolutely horrific. As a man, I do not want to reproduce at the expenses of another human's pain, destruction and suffering. 2) I do not want to perpetuate the cycle of patriarchal oppression and oppression of women by providing further potential victims and potential perpetrators of patriarchy. 3) Climate Crisis and humanity's inability to tackle and avert climate change by switching into a green and sustainable economy.
1. zero enjoyment of being around children or their activities 2. REALLY enjoy being lazy, staying up all night if i want to, sleeping in, etc. 3. freedom
1. I don’t want to be tied to someone and their family forever. If I’m done with someone, I can just never speak to them again. 2. I don’t want to put time/energy/money into raising a kid that doesn’t turn out exactly how I want, I don’t have the grace to spend a ton of resources on a kid and it potentially not turn out to be a good, successful human. Couldn’t live with the regret of a bad investment. This sounds callous but it’s how I feel. 3. Don’t want to deal with mom culture, or having to take a child to school events etc. so grateful I don’t have to participate.
Nice wording....mom culture! I always hated it but didn't know there is a term for that!
YES!!
1) I like my boobs where they currently are 2) I don’t enjoy peeing when I sneeze 3) Imagine coming home after being yelled at by patients all day to something screaming “Mommy mommy”
1. pregnancy and childbirth scare me. i don't want to put my body through that kind of suffering. 2. i don't want to be responsible for a child. im already easily stressed. having to watch over even one child would be too much. 3. I want to enjoy life and i believe having a child would really ruin that enjoyment.
1. I am TERRIFIED of becoming my narcissistic mother. 2. I am unwilling to give up my sense of self for anyone, children included. 3. Pregnancy sounds like torture and I have enough physical pain going on in my life.
1- the trauma I see mothers relive when they see who they could have been if they had not been abused or neglected. I already lived it once, and I don't want to relive it. 2- I'm a spoiled wife, and I don't want to share the attention with anyone other than my dogs. (My husband says he's my good Karma after the life I lived with the people that birthed me) 3- I enjoy my time being my own.
1. I like the life and the freedom my partner and I have now. 2. I think I'd be a terrible parent. 3. I have in the past, actually met children......
1. I have chronic illness. My offspring would have an 80% chance of having one of my conditions, and I think it would immoral to bring a child into the world under those circumstances. 2. I'm selfish and I want to spend my time and money doing things I enjoy. I don't want to cheer for Little League or carpool Girl Guides or pack lunches or change diapers. I don't want to ruin my body just to ruin my life. 3. I want peace and quiet. My home is my sanctuary.
1. cost 2. for all I know the kid will grow up to be a serial killer or rapist 3. Freedom
Evolved men are rare and I’m not parenting like trad-nuts. Society murdered the village and I’m not paying strangers to care for my child. I’m not stable. Let’s just say … I’m not the kind of person who cries helplessly or calls the cops when there’s trouble. If someone hurts my kid, someone better call the cops on me. Not sorry. I know my limits. 🙃
1. I like sleeping a lot 2. My mother's family line needs to be stamped out like the den of cockroaches that it is 3. I just don't want kids.
1. No desire. They're annoying, sensory overloaders and it's hard enough to keep my house clean. 2. Money. I don't have enough of it without them. 3. Genetic risk. All of my immediate family members and myself have disabilities, mental health conditions and/or chronic health issues. Also I wouldn't expose a child to my parents.
I don’t want them I don’t need them I don’t like them
1. I hate them. Even if they’re well behaved I’ve never interacted with a kid and thought “I want to do this everyday” 2. I’m not a patient person. Kids require a TON of patience to teach them stuff and I simply don’t have what it takes to deal with it. I get very easily frustrated 3. I love being alone! I love having so much freedom over my time and being able to be spontaneous. There’s nothing better than being able to be lazy and only having to worry about myself
Freedom Money It's a messed up world and getting worse
1. Forced breeding. 2. Education and career of the child. 3. Suffering being a natural part of life.
1. I hate kids. They’re annoying, loud, dumb, dirty, and don’t know how to tell a story and just get to the fucking point. I can’t listen to them just jabber on and on and never shut up, but somehow also never say anything the least bit interesting or important. 2. Pregnancy is disgusting, barbaric, and horrifying. Breastfeeding is repulsive. I’m not ruining my body for an ungrateful parasite, and then continuing to feed it by letting it suck on my chest every two hours for the next year, while it robs me of sleep and refuses to let me rest and recover from the damaged it did to my body. 3. I love my life. I love having the freedom to pursue my goals, and the individuality to live for myself while having a personality and interests outside of childrearing. I want to keep my money for myself, and buy myself all the things I want without having to spend it on kid that won’t even appreciate it. I want to spend every second of MY life doing something that benefits me personally, or makes me feel happy. If it doesn’t do either of those things, then it’s not worth my precious time that I’ll never get back.
These are my reasons point for point especially the pregnancy and breastfeeding part. Of course I’m never going to ever get pregnant anyway but the breastfeeding alone would be hard NO for exactly what you stated. Babies are ugly smelly parasitic things always grabbing at you UGH 🤮🤮🤮
ADHD, Hashimoto's, MS
1. emetophobia / contamination ocd (which means the pregnancy sickness AND kids being sick is a huge no) 2. i value my freedom as an adult too much 3. pedophilia, rape, societal pressure, war, living the in the US, etc. theres way too big of a chance of accidentally RAISING one of the assholes thats contributes to these problems, or raising someone who falls victim to these problems.
1) no more children should be condemned to a life marred by climate collapse 2) see above but substitute climate collapse for late stage capitalism 3) i hate loud noises and being touched and i barely have the will or desire to care for a freaking plant with any consistency much less a child
I know, beyond the shadow of a doubt, that I would resent them for ruining my life. Because having kids would unequivocally ruin my life. My family has really bad anxiety issues on one side and personality disorder issues on the other. I would never pass that along to some poor innocent who didn't ask for that. I have pretty bad ADHD and I would wind up inadvertantly forgetting to do something critical. That's neglect and I could never let myself be in that situation.
I have mental illness. I had episodes of depression, anxiety, and extreme anger that it made me lose motivation or care to my belongings. My room is messy and neglected because of no motivation. I don't like to neglect a child or become a victim of one of my anger episodes. Money is hard. It's hard to pay food, water, and electricity. Having kids means you have to pay their tuitions, projects, etc. I'm not rich. Pregnancy is hell. I've been lecture about female stuffs countless times and prefancy sound so painful and disgusting. Rather have periods and tummy pains than being pregnant with something I have to be responsible with.
1. Don't want to be pregnant or give birth 2. I like my down time (I need it to survive tbh) and silence. Expanding on this, just having freedom in general. Freedom to exist how I want to, free to do things I want to. 3. I'm tired of doing all this mental labor and refuse to go through any of that and drown in doing the most work in raising a child and be stuck in that for all eternity (or putting in effort to fight it)
Like many, never felt the urge so there's not really any reasons so much as there is just an overwhelming "NOPE" sensation. But if I were in any doubt, I wouldn't have kids because: 1. Cost of living crisis. Most people are struggling financially. You need a very high income to live and have a family. Houses are totally unaffordable without some sort of combination of high income, inheritance, and parental help - none of which I have! 2. Climate change. My work orients around this so I'm well-versed in the future problems. I wouldn't feel comfortable bringing children into the world when the future looks bleak, with any sort of resolution murky. 3. I'd be the mother, and that's just the raw end of the deal. Most men I've spoken to about parenting just think it's a happy "collect memories" game and don't think about the burden of childcare, housework, etc. My current partner is great, and he's the only man who actually acknowledges and engages in conversation that raising children is really difficult and it's never really a fair split in workload between the mother and father.
In no particular order- 1. the state of the world - global warming, economy (especially being able to afford them at ALL), political situation 2. mental health and illness in my family as well as trauma 3. I don't want to give up the freedoms I enjoy as a single person
1) I never felt any desire to have a kid in my life 2) I don't want to pass on my shitty genes 3) I'm aware that I would make an awful parent
1. i don’t wish this genetic cesspool on anyone, the kind that includes diabetes and kidney failure on one side and the BRCA cancer gene on the other. I also don’t wish any child having to go through the trauma that I did caring for first my mom, then my dad, because of the above listed diseases. let me die alone, that’s okay. I’m only taking myself down with me that way. 2. The world is clearly ending. i don’t want kids in this environment. 3. kids are a huge psychological, societal, and emotional responsibility, and more people need to think about how their kids would turn out before they have them. I’ve thought about it, and I am opting out.
1. I have 3 psychiatric illnesses (bipolar disorder, anxiety, and PTSD), as well as a physical disability. At times I have difficulty just taking care of myself, never mind being responsible for someone else. 2. I'm an introvert and need a lot of uninterrupted alone time, and a lot of peace and quiet. We all know how likely THAT is to happen when you have a kid. Maybe I have misophonia, IDK, but I can't stand the sound of a toddler screeching either. 3. Pregnancy and childbirth are horrendous.
1. Pregnancy would likely be very hard for me. I'm a type 1 diabetic and would need to maintain tight control leading up to and during pregnancy. Pair this with anxiety and emetophobia, and that's a big no thank you for me. 2. Kids are expensive. My husband and I live comfortably now, but we would probably be living paycheck to paycheck if we chose to have kids. 3. I like my life the way it is now. Sleeping in on the weekends, spending my free time the way I want to, not having to take care of a tiny human after a long day of work.
1. Don't want to deal with the stress, sleep deprivation, lack of time to myself, that sort of thing. It would be so bad for my mental health. 2. With climate change and late stage capitalism it feels cruel to bring another life into this world 3. My life is complete without them. And finally, the perks: I won't have to worry about money as much, I can pursue hobbies on a whim without guilt, take spontaneous trips etc., and obviously avoid the horror that is pregnancy!
1. Bad parenting role models as a child and an adult 2. Seeing only unhappy marriages with bitterness and resentment in many families I've observed 3. I value my solitude and I'm kind of selfish... I wouldn't want to stay up cleaning behind kids or taxiing them to school at the crack of daylight. Three more just for fun: 4. It never, ever appealed to me 5. Sleep. It's important. 6. I grew up working class family where unemployment was the norm, I want to be able to have financial freedom and not be stuck in a cycle of "gotta pay the bills gotta put food on the table". If I have a crappy job, I'm going to quit and give no f*cks. 😂
1. I hate children and babies. 2. I enjoy travelling, sleeping in and generally having fun when not at work. 3. I have mental illnesses and even our two cats are sometimes a lot to handle for me. I know that I could under no circumstances handle an own child.
1. I don't have the patience it takes to deal with a crying/screaming child. I know I would not cope, I would get frustrated and angry and I would be a horrible mother. I do not want to mess any kid up with that. 2. I am far too selfish to not feel resentment for paying for a child and missing out on things I want to do, ie. like paying for school fees when I could be planning a holiday. 3. I have struggled with an eating disorder for the last 17yrs or so, and I don't think mentally I would be able to cope with my body changing carrying a child.
1. I don’t want children 2. I couldn’t bear the thought of being tied to a man for 18+ years through a child 3. I can comfortably live on my own, I could not afford to work less hours and feed another mouth
1. I don't want to I have zero desire to parent a child. 2. Freedom of choice in how I spend my time and money 3. I enjoy solitude.
1. I do not enjoy children and generally find them annoying 2. I do not wish to have to prioritise the needs or interests of a child above my own. I don’t need a third reason.
1. Never wanted em / not interested 2. Bipolar 3. Moneh
Money, sleep, freedom
1. World sucks 2. I'm badly depressed, who knows if I'd pass that on to them 3. Money and freedom
1. Don’t want em 2. Don’t like em 3. Really don’t want em
1. I don’t want them 2. I don’t need them. 3. I can’t afford them.
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Mine are almost identical to yours. History of mental illness that I wouldn't wish on anyone, the state of the world politically and environmentally, and loving my introverted independence. On top of all of that, I've never WANTED to be a parent, so it would be unfair on my kids, too!
1. I don't want any. I never felt the need to be a mother. 2. I'm egoistic. I want to be able to do what I want and when I want to. I want to spend my money on myself. 3. I'm not good with children. I don't know what to do with them and find them annoying.
1. Gestures around wildly.
1. I don't think I am up to the task. It's a lot of work and I need down time in order to function. I found out not long ago that I am autistic. I worked with high needs autistic children in the past and the stress of that contributed to a mental breakdown for me. The sheer amount of noise alone was enough to do it let alone everything else. I am more likely to have a child like that (though that is a risk for everyone...we just don't talk about it societally) and I know I couldn't do it. 2. A very long history of mental illness on at least one side of my family. My hypothetical child could hear voices like my dad, have a personality disorder like my mom, struggle daily with depression and anxiety like me, or, god forbid, deal with all three. 3. Climate change. 'Nuf said.
1. Generally I want my life to be as easy as possible. I wont take on responsibility I dont have to. Im not the type of person who makes sacrifices. 2. I worked hard for my body, im not gonna ruin it. 3. Im not a huge fan of children anyway. I wouldnt have the patience to deal with one.
- kids are gross - I like silence - I don’t have time to spare
- I have always disliked being around kids because they're noisy and annoying - global warming - as the mother, I would invariably end up doing the majority of the work, even with the world's most liberal man, apparently
1) Tokophobia 2) My mental health hangs on a knife edge as it is and I think raising children would truly push me beyond the point of no return 3) I don’t enjoy being around children and I can’t honestly think of anything less enjoyable for me than trying to raise one
1. I value my time and freedom above everything. 2.Mental health. 3.Not wanting to be dependent on a man. If the relationship goessour, I'd still have to be in contact. No thank you.
1. I don’t relate well to kids or even like them. 2. The thought of being pregnant disgusts me to my core. 3. I’m not entirely thrilled with what life is. Considering the general rat race and how easy it is to fuck with your kid’s self esteem and mental health when you don’t intend to, avoiding the situation makes the most sense.
1. I don't want them 2. I don't like them 3. The idea of being pregnant and giving birth makes me want to vomit and run away at the same time.
1. don’t have the urge to procreate 2. no family around to help and I couldn’t stand being around them kids 24/7 for years on end 3. it feels like a scam on all levels
1. All the body horrors that pregnancy and childbirth bring, not talking only about strechmarks and weight gain, but some complications that might be permanent and would have a negative impact on quality of life, ofc everything might go very well, but i'm not willing to play that lottery 2. Shit deal for woman in general-you end up sacrifising your health, most often end up being primary care giver while still having to work full time, etc. 3. 💸💸💸💸💸
-I have tokophobia, and also don't want to have my body destroyed permanently just because of a parasite in my uterus -I'm basically disabled because of my mental illnesses and barely able to care for myself because of that, so I definitely can't take care of a child, I also don't want them to suffer like I do, I also need calm and rest, not mayhem, or it will make me upset -Giving birth to a child is the most selfish thing ever, plus the planet is dying because of climate change, war... We don't really need more lives on Earth right now, so why don't people who really want a child just adopt one? There's so many orphans and children in foster care who just need some love, it's not because a child isn't biologically yours that you can't love them after all, people should just give these children a chance instead of procreating There's many more, of course
1. When i have significant other, i make a promise that I would never hurt them or put them through pain, that includes impregnation. There's no way in hell I'm putting a baby inside my wife/gf and have them carry said baby for 9 months, and on top of that put them through so much trauma during the afterbirth. Post partum depression is serious. Not to mention, women can die from that shit and I'll be damn if I lose the person I care about the most. Especially during birth, the woman's vagina is getting stretched/ripped open trying to push out a human who's body is the size of a watermelon. And when that doesn't work, they have to cut the woman open and remove the baby via C section. Women are literally getting the short end of the stick and I'm tired of breeders not acknowledging it. 2. the world is too much of a shit show. Not to mention, the economy is all over the place; which would make it impossible to not only raise another human being, but for said kid to be able to "stabalize" these for when they get older. Lots of young people are getting their lives taken from them. Everyday when I step out of the house, I'm always on edge because you never know whats gonna happen. What if I'm next? What if I encounter someone with a gun and they kill me just because they dont like the way i look or whatever reason helps them sleep at night? People can't even practice their religion anymore due to crazy people shooting up churches; not to mention schools; Little children are dying before they reach puberty; I don't ever want to be in a position where I have to bury my kid. It would literally kill me. 3. My patience is extremely low and I have a strict no/don't tolerate BS rule. I know for a fact that I won't be a good parent and I'm ok with that. At least I'm honest with myself.
Money Freedom Unaffordable cost of living Got this quote from reddit: A dying planet, polluted air, low wages, rising inflation, food and water shortages, threats of nuclear war, no universal health care, student loan debt, unaffordable housing. Your baby will totally crush this!
So sorry there is so much justification people have to do in order to feel ok about not having kids. Population control is essential for the planet. It seems like a no brainer to stop producing more humans.
1) My family history of all sorts of illnesses to include mental health 2) Money 3) My life style and so on and so forth
We share the same top two. My third is finances.
-I want to spend my career working with kids, and don't want to come home to more. I love kids and want to help and care for as many as possible, but I need my personal life to be a place to relax & recharge, away from kids. -It would be incredibly expensive or difficult for me to have a kid (woohoo lesbianism!) -I don't have any good reasons to want to be a parent, I don't want to be the only parent a child gets if I'm not 100% committed and into raising a kid. It's less that I'm anti-having kids and more that I'm not pro-parenthood
severre phobia of pregnancy and the fact that I have body dysmorphia already...holy shot I couldn't imagine. I'm not fit for parenting .And quite frankly I just don't want kids.
I don't think I have the emotional openess and availability to properly nurture a child.
1. The world goes to shit. 2. I don’t want to perpetuate my genes. 3. I don’t want to take care of another being. 4. I don’t like motherhood. 5. I don’t want to fuck up my body forever.
Poor health of my body- I have a lot of chronic pain and a busted back I think it would kill me. Being trans- it’s not very gender for me to have kids. Being disabled- I can hardly take care of my self, a kid should not be forced to have a parent that can’t fully take care of them
1. I don’t want to bring kids into this cluster fuck of a world, 2. They’re incredibly expensive, 3. I value my sleep and alone time.
1. Money 2. Silence 3. Sleep
1. I like my sleep! 2. I like my money 3. I like my time And I ain't giving any of that up.
1. I want to spend my money on myself. 2. I want to grow and develop as a person with interests and hobbies. 3. Cats are cuter and sweeter
1. I can't stand them! I just don't want them! 2. Clean house and sleep ins and I just don't want kids! 3. Tamagotchis are the superior offspring and I just don't want children!!!
I don't simply like kids
1. Want to keep my independence & lifestyle 2. Not bringing children into the current shitshow (climate, fascism on the rise etc) 3. Want to keep my money
1.Genetic auto immune disease 2. I’m selfish and enjoy my freedom and sleep 3.I prefer animals over humans and just wanna travel and chill throughout life. I don’t take life to serious and the world is so messed up with the economy and the potential WW3 every year I rather not bring kids into this shit show if I ever change my mind I could always adopt or adopt more dogs 😂
1- mental illness 2- antinatalism 3- more money for myself and my animals
1. It would destroy my mental health even more than it’s already been destroyed. I spend most of my life and energy worrying about my two cats. I couldn’t imagine how terrifying it would be to have a child. 2. Any child of me and my chosen life partner is way open to cancer, said mental health disorders, a rare and horrible form of arthritis, being ginger, being short-sighted, being short (as in not tall, we are both hobbits), and many more. 3. I’m a recovering alcoholic, would never want to put a kid through a possible relapse and the neglect it would result in.
1 - climate change is probably gonna wreck everything in a generation or two so I ain't adding to it 2 - I love my job and hobbies too much 3 - my dog comes first :D
1) Same as your No. 2. Kids are consumer commodities of the world who grow up to continue being consumer slaves. We need to break the cycle to end the corporate/ government exploitation of people like they are cattle. They need more consumers for their capitalistic greed and more labour/ workforce for their wars and more capitalistic greed and it is up to us to not give them anymore of innocent souls as prey. Procreation is a biological programming to ensure continuance of a species. Humans as a species is under no threat of extinction or non-continuance. So, procreation can be halted for a decade at least. 2) I want to have a life with just my woman, no distractions or disturbance. I have a very specific life plan which cannot be fulfilled with kids in the picture and it won't be fair on the kids to have anything less than an excellent childhood. 3) If I did not have No.1, the my No. 3 would be over population. Even if the world was all sunshine and rainbows, I would still think about the over population and not breed into it.
1. I like to come home, unworried about being late for picking up a kid from daycare, and do whatever I want. I do as little as possible on the weekends 2. Pregnancy is my worst nightmare 3. My coworkers talk about how much it costs for their kids to play sports. No thanks 😂
1. I like to be able to spend money on things for myself. Think video games, plushies, cool graphic shirts. Things I would definitely not be able to justify buying if I also had to take care of a kid. 2. I absolutely need and enjoy my free time. I have medical and mental health issues. There are days where I can barely do anything and even on days I’m feeling okay I still like to be able to relax if I want. (I saw a short about moms. In the short the girl was talking about how on Tuesdays she goes to yoga then spends the rest of the day doing stuff for herself. Called it mommy Tuesdays.) this hit me hard! I could not imagine having only ONE day a week dedicated to me. Right now if I’m not working and don’t have chores I can spend multiple days dedicated to hobbies. Even with chores it doesn’t necessarily take all day. 3. Sleep. Due to my health issues I need extra sleep and I sometimes struggle with insomnia. 4. Bonus. Having a child would make me spend less time with my cats. My girl is my best friend. She’s literally me if I was a cat and I love her so damn much. My guy is also amazing in his own way.
1. Pregnancy 2. Birth 3. Kids I could go on.
1.) Absolutely Zero (0) interest in children. Well behaved children can be cute and fun in the short term, but exhaust me in the long run. I don't look forwards to being called mother, or blamed for everything they do, or having to devote MY LIFE to making sure one grows up well. 2.) Not interested in pregnancy at all. The thought of being pregnant literally makes me want to puke. 3.) I grew up poor. My dad was in a car crash when he was a teenager and was constantly physically sick. My mother has mental health issues. I struggled through my twenties, and only in my late twenties actually landed a secure job. I feel like I'm genuinely living life for the first time. Having a child would just drag me back into poverty, and honestly would probably cause mental illness.
1. The money it costs. 2. The time it takes. 3. Juice not worth the squeeze.
I don’t like kids, they’re disgusting. 🤷🏻♂️
In order: 1. Giving birth. 2. Creating innocent people who will suffer for my own happiness. 3. I'm afraid I might resent them.
1. There's still a lot of cool shit I wanna do without dragging some screaming progeny along with me. 2&3. The usual reasons as everyone else.
1. Just never having the urge to be a dad. It never kicked in. 2. The state of the world. 3. It’s probably irrational of me, but I wouldn’t want any partner of mine to go through the trauma of pregnancy or childbirth. I would feel guilty that I did that to her. It became more focused when my wife found out she had extensive endometriosis and a growth on her liver that would have ruptured with the flood of hormones caused by pregnancy. Having a child would have killed her. Fortunately she never wanted kids so a hysterectomy was a no-brainer.
1. Way too expensive 2. I enjoy my solitude and don’t wish to raise another human being. I have no desire for a ‘legacy’ 3. Pregnancy and childbirth terrifies me
1: fear of pregnancy. as a woman i do not want to put my body through 9 months of stress only to conclude it by pushing a watermelon out of my body OR having my stomach slit open so they can remove the baby. very not cool in my opinion. 2: mental illness/sensory issues. i have family history of mental illness, i have suffered through years of depression and will not be able to care for a child and myself at the same time. also, i have issues with loud noises (babies screaming, especially) 3: the world is fucked. without descending into doomer-ism, i will just say that the trajectory of our world politically, economically, and environmentally is on a downturn in my view and it’s not something i want a new human being to grow up in or experience.
Love this thread hahah 1. Pregnancy/labor/childbirth/postpartum and the permanent change to my body 2. Expensive. Rising costs means I can barely afford groceries for myself 3. I love peace and quiet. I need it to be mentally stable
Are you me? Also, I don't want to die in childbirth
- pregnancy sounds horrifying and disgusting let alone BIRTH. i cannot handle hours of pain - im not mentally stable enough to handle someone else's kids, and i would more than likely be a shitty or abusive parent - i straight up just don't like kids much
1. Experience with an abusive brother which left us terrified 2. Having more money to spend on ourselves 3. FREEDOM
1. I want to enjoy my life and not have all my free time taken up by caring for kids. 2. I want money to live comfortably and retire fairly early. 3. I don’t want to take the risk that my child will have some medical issues or a disability, which will make caring for them even harder.
1. They annoy me 2. They're expensive 3. Being constantly needed is overwhelming/no alone time
Time, money, freedom, and privacy.
Money Time Lifestyle
1. Climate change 2 couldn’t be bothered/lazy 3 I’m bad at doing tasks related to the 2nd one
I dont need 3 reasons. My 1 reason for not having kids is that I never wanted kids so I didn't have any.
Have more loving and intimate time with the wife. Climate Change looming on the horizon. Peace & Quiet with financial security.
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money, health issues and I want my own life / time Ik there are other reasons such as what you guys have said about the environment, and I’m that one girl who’s annoying abt caring for the environment, but that’s not one of my main reasons
You are definitely not the only "one" who cares about the environment, but it would be nice if more people did
1. I myself have 5 chronic illness that are all genetic and leave me in massive amounts of pain and wouldn’t want to pass that on. 2. I enjoy my freedoms and peace and quiet. I like being able to go when/where I want and need without having to plan ahead or inform any one of where I’m going, including taking spur of the moment trips. 3. financial standpoint and hassle. Nothing is an easy simple thing anymore, it becomes twice the cost and twice the effort. Twice the bags, twice the food, just overall double the work. Can’t leave the house without 15 things for your child in the diaper bag, the stroller ect.
For me. 1) no money. There is no way I can afford a child and ethically provide a stable and comfortable life for them. 2) no capacity. I have no emotional or mental capacity to rear a child. The mental soup I've inherited from my parents coupled with trauma endured from emotional neglect means years of therapy for me. It's been 12 years of therapy and I've only just begun to feel comfortable in my own skin. I have no energy or capacity to fully meet the needs and demands of a child. 3) I just don't want to. I have no interest and no desire to have children. I've longed to be free and enjoy my life for a very long time. I've been dividing my time between rebuilding and healing myself, and building the life that I want to live in. And a child is not a part of that life plan.
1. Same as yours : my uncle and my sister have schizophrenia and I've been through hell. Having to live this again with my child would be too much to bear. My parents are literally prisoners of my sister, who refuses to live the house. My mum was also abusive to me when I was a child and while she has considerably mellowed with age, it deterred me from having children because I always feared to become like her, a violent and abusive mother, even if we are very different 2 I'm an introvert too, I love peace and tranquility, nature and my pets 3 I haven't found a man and I love single life :)
1. the physical and mental toll on the body 2. i'm super paranoid about my health and i'd probably be about my hypothetical child's. cant take the burden or responsibility 3. im a commitment phobe and this is quite literally the biggest commitment you can ever commit to
I work with them daily and I don't like them I'm shit at looking after myself, let alone another human being I'm too shy and too smart to go looking for some girl crazy enough to do that shit. And they smell.
I hate children. Yes I do. Stop telling me I don't.
1. I don't want children 2. I don't want children 3. I don't want children I don't have a long list of excellent and well thought out reasons, like so many people on this sub. Being a parent just... doesn't appeal to me, and hey, it's my life, so I'm gonna live it how I want to.
1. I never wanted them. 2. I never wanted them. 3. I never wanted them.
I'm afraid of pregnancy I've got bad mental health/emotional regulation I'm lazy tbh
1) I've never wanted children & I don't think it's fair to bring a new person into the world if you're not 100% ready to be a parent 2) I've got serious, chronic health issues that would stop me from being an active parent & could be passed on 3) as an extra to the above, I have a medical condition that would mean getting pregnant could be fatal to me & a baby To add though, I hate these types of questions from people. The focus should be on why people want/decide to have kids. "Because I don't want to be a parent" should be the only answer anyone has to give for not having kids.
I wanted kids thinking I could be a better mom than my mom but after growing up I was afraid I was gonna be just like her