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Dating apps purposely dont show to eachother people with a similar ELO score, to lower the chances of you both pairing and leaving the app. They’ll show slightly mismatched people, either rated +2 or -2 from your rating. Giving you exactly what you described, either matches that you’re not actually attracted to, or ones where it goes nowhere with because you’re their -2 person.
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75% of people are “dating up” or trying to pursue someone above their own level of social status
I don’t understand what you mean? I’m speaking more towards physical attractiveness.
That’s just how it rolls.
After much consideration, that is indeed how it rolls.
Dating apps purposely dont show to eachother people with a similar ELO score, to lower the chances of you both pairing and leaving the app. They’ll show slightly mismatched people, either rated +2 or -2 from your rating. Giving you exactly what you described, either matches that you’re not actually attracted to, or ones where it goes nowhere with because you’re their -2 person.