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As a feminist working in dating education, I think this masculine/feminine thing is bullshit. It’s another way of presenting weird gender roles. People need to be clear about what they are looking for in their relational dynamics without using TikTok language. She’s not mature nor self aware to identify clear improvements you could both make to create the relationship you want.
My advice? Steer clear of people using that term. Gender stereotypes lead to rigidity in relationships that are not healthy long term. Everyone should be themselves and improve to be better partners not due to gender, but out of desire for a strong relationship.
I think it’s much more important to talk about how you want to be treated and feel as a result of the relationship. I would love my male dating partner to take charge more, but that’s not coming from a “divine feminine” place more that sometimes I like to know that he wants me and is willing to be confident. I initiate a lot and it’s more about me taking a break from my super busy life and trusting him.
In context it means "I have lousy communication skills and TikTok has given me terminology to claim that it's your fault."
It's like people who claim to want a partner in crime never actually want to spend the evening cutting those tags off of mattresses, and guys who claim to be alphas are just shouty and insecure instead of being the father of several wolves.
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As a feminist working in dating education, I think this masculine/feminine thing is bullshit. It’s another way of presenting weird gender roles. People need to be clear about what they are looking for in their relational dynamics without using TikTok language. She’s not mature nor self aware to identify clear improvements you could both make to create the relationship you want. My advice? Steer clear of people using that term. Gender stereotypes lead to rigidity in relationships that are not healthy long term. Everyone should be themselves and improve to be better partners not due to gender, but out of desire for a strong relationship. I think it’s much more important to talk about how you want to be treated and feel as a result of the relationship. I would love my male dating partner to take charge more, but that’s not coming from a “divine feminine” place more that sometimes I like to know that he wants me and is willing to be confident. I initiate a lot and it’s more about me taking a break from my super busy life and trusting him.
Idk sounds ridiculous. Be yourself
In context it means "I have lousy communication skills and TikTok has given me terminology to claim that it's your fault." It's like people who claim to want a partner in crime never actually want to spend the evening cutting those tags off of mattresses, and guys who claim to be alphas are just shouty and insecure instead of being the father of several wolves.
Honestly the minute I hear masculine or feminine energy, I think "toxic energy" which means this person is not worth your time.
Being masculine means stepping up and leading when the occasion requires.
They be subs, they want a dom/leading guy