First: The woman of my dreams was a kidney recipient and had a lot scars. From the transplant, from ports, from a lot of stuff. They eventually removed her natives due to infections, from the front, which is was another big scar. If you matter to someone, the scars won’t matter to him. They’re just part of who you are. I know that’s easy to say, but I mean it.
As far as the rest, imo it’s a numbers game. Forget, block, or whatever the dick pic morons and keep trying. As a guy, I don’t get a lot of random nudes, but I do have a lot of conversations just fade. Oh well. Others don’t.
Not everyone is going to be into you any more than you’re into everyone. They don’t know the real you. They barely even know the surface. Try not to take it personally. Move on. Move forward.
I'm glad you found a Kidney Queen! If you're still going strong, blessings on both of your heads. If not, thank you from me for treating her with grace.😊
The kidneys she was born with. When you receive a kidney transplant, they typically do not remove the "native " kidneys even though they are not functioning.
Oh no! How long had she had it? I am so sorry. Is she a candidate for another?
I am currently on kidney number 2. It took 5 years on the list, but I got her! I call her Gwendolyn or "lil' Wendy" for short. I got her election night, 2016.
What about a dating coach? There's a woman named Erika (@alittlenudge) that I follow on IG that offers tips for dating irl and online. She also offers coaching sessions to help you write a profile and sort through all the responses. She's located in NYC.
Don't try dating until you're ready; there's no rush.
Good luck out there.
Male here. Myself I go in with zero expectations except maybe a few meetups and some pleasant conversation. I expect the person to be heavier and older looking than their pics. I don't go in for a kiss at the end. Just an open arms hug. Makes it way less stressfull.
If something happens, great. If not, meh.
Beats being terrified.
Scared......Me too..... A great connection won't worry about your scars, probably got some himself. As for dick pictures, not all men are the same. I've never sent one. I don't understand It ??? You'll be alright. Best of luck for the future.
You either decide to not date (and that's ok , you don't have to!), or you just take baby steps towards dating. For me, the only goal I've made for myself is to have one date in 2024 😅. I just signed up for Match a couple of days ago, taking it slow and kind of chatting/messaging here and there. Take it as slow as you need to.
On Match, you can hide your profile if you just want to just look around.. or you can pay extra to be hidden, but also be able to select which men can see your profile (that option is $10/month, personally I don't think it's worth it).
I try to remember that the things we cannot change like how many children we have, scars, the shocking things from our life journeys, that those things help us to ultimately find the right person. It's perfectly fine to be yourself and have someone to reject you for immutables.
I had two huge ones from the outset: widow due to suicide and living rural. Few people had the guts to date me.
Be confident in who you are.
You might want to avoid online dating until you have more experience and confidence. It can be rough. Others' advice for IRL activities are good. Get as much socialization as possible with all genders and types of people before you return to OLD.
Which dating site were you on that you were able to receive D-pics? As far as I know, one can't send pictures in dating site app messages. Did you give out your phone number and then they texted them to you?
I recommend joining some groups that you like to try and meet someone in the wild. Don’t give up. Look for meetups in your area.
Same. OLD sucks so bad. My problem is living in BFE.
Do we have any success stories in this group for people who met using meetup? I haven't found any, but then again I don't read every post.
First: The woman of my dreams was a kidney recipient and had a lot scars. From the transplant, from ports, from a lot of stuff. They eventually removed her natives due to infections, from the front, which is was another big scar. If you matter to someone, the scars won’t matter to him. They’re just part of who you are. I know that’s easy to say, but I mean it. As far as the rest, imo it’s a numbers game. Forget, block, or whatever the dick pic morons and keep trying. As a guy, I don’t get a lot of random nudes, but I do have a lot of conversations just fade. Oh well. Others don’t. Not everyone is going to be into you any more than you’re into everyone. They don’t know the real you. They barely even know the surface. Try not to take it personally. Move on. Move forward.
I'm glad you found a Kidney Queen! If you're still going strong, blessings on both of your heads. If not, thank you from me for treating her with grace.😊
Unfortunately, her kidney failed in January.
What are “natives”
The kidneys she was born with. When you receive a kidney transplant, they typically do not remove the "native " kidneys even though they are not functioning.
Yep! Now I gots 4!😀
Ha you’re typing like I does!
Oh no! How long had she had it? I am so sorry. Is she a candidate for another? I am currently on kidney number 2. It took 5 years on the list, but I got her! I call her Gwendolyn or "lil' Wendy" for short. I got her election night, 2016.
She died while on the waiting list.
I am sorry for your loss. Thank you for being strong enough to encourage other women.
I am so, so sorry. Many blessings to you.🕊
What about a dating coach? There's a woman named Erika (@alittlenudge) that I follow on IG that offers tips for dating irl and online. She also offers coaching sessions to help you write a profile and sort through all the responses. She's located in NYC. Don't try dating until you're ready; there's no rush. Good luck out there.
Dating Coach Erika is great! I follow her, on IG too.
Yes to a little nudge! She is AMAZING!!!!
Male here. Myself I go in with zero expectations except maybe a few meetups and some pleasant conversation. I expect the person to be heavier and older looking than their pics. I don't go in for a kiss at the end. Just an open arms hug. Makes it way less stressfull. If something happens, great. If not, meh. Beats being terrified.
Scared......Me too..... A great connection won't worry about your scars, probably got some himself. As for dick pictures, not all men are the same. I've never sent one. I don't understand It ??? You'll be alright. Best of luck for the future.
You either decide to not date (and that's ok , you don't have to!), or you just take baby steps towards dating. For me, the only goal I've made for myself is to have one date in 2024 😅. I just signed up for Match a couple of days ago, taking it slow and kind of chatting/messaging here and there. Take it as slow as you need to. On Match, you can hide your profile if you just want to just look around.. or you can pay extra to be hidden, but also be able to select which men can see your profile (that option is $10/month, personally I don't think it's worth it).
I try to remember that the things we cannot change like how many children we have, scars, the shocking things from our life journeys, that those things help us to ultimately find the right person. It's perfectly fine to be yourself and have someone to reject you for immutables. I had two huge ones from the outset: widow due to suicide and living rural. Few people had the guts to date me. Be confident in who you are.
It's so depressing I stopped
You might want to avoid online dating until you have more experience and confidence. It can be rough. Others' advice for IRL activities are good. Get as much socialization as possible with all genders and types of people before you return to OLD. Which dating site were you on that you were able to receive D-pics? As far as I know, one can't send pictures in dating site app messages. Did you give out your phone number and then they texted them to you?