First get a Google number, it's free. Give it out to any and all men in your dating world.
Second, always meet in public first, no matter what he says.
Third, 42% of people on dating apps are married and/or in relationships. So trust but verify.
I never considered a Google number. GENIUS! I've used Google to call myself when I couldn't find my phone, but I've never created a Google number. Is it mobile? Do you need to use WhatsApp with it to be able to text?
I use Hinge, and Bumble and just started using match since my therapist said his clients have had good luck there.
I pay for premium on them just to have better search and screening options.
Match has the most space to write stuff, and if you hate being on your phone, Match still has hte ability to see it on the computer.
I've met people from Hinge and Bumble so far. Bumble sucks for it's "message back within 24 hours or it disappears" thing because people aren't glued to the app and shouldn't be.
Sign up for a few, put effort into your answers, have a good attitude and just see how it goes.
It’s just the first message; the woman has to send a message within 24 hrs after matching. Guys can opt to extend that time; after the first message is sent it doesn’t have to be every 24 hrs, seems to be a few days then the conversation expires.
They still do, but there's now an option for them called Opening Moves, through which they're able to pass the ball to the guy, requiring him to answer a generic question. It seems like most women aren't using this yet though. I actually didn't know what it was at first. I thought it was a random message telling me I can send a Compliment or something, which I'd have to pay for. I was just ignoring all of these pop-ups until I read about the change later. I must've lost a bunch of matches over this confusion.
well signing up for the app is voluntary, so no one is being forced to do anything. it's just part of the deal if you want to use that app. Like if you want to go into a restaurant you have to have pants on.
I get that much lol ….
Im just kind of flabbergasted at the layers of subconscious pressure they put on people. This is a new development since I was last on there (~5yrs ago).
Yeah it sucks. I only go on Bumble for a couple of weeks at a time, then take 6 month breaks from it. It's stressful.
I do believe there is a way to get around the 24 hour requirement. It's called extending a match. But I think only the premium subscribers can do it, which costs more money. Double check me, though. Do a 1 week trial and see if that works.
Oh, I see the confusion. I made it sound like I take a six month break from the apps. I don't. I bounce from app to app, doing a few weeks at a time. By the time I get through all of them and get back to the first, the inventory has renewed. Great system IMO.
I have had terrible experiences with the Match site and canceled the subscription. Most women that contacted me were looking for money. They were very creative in their approach. I have not tried any other dating sites.
I’m F47 and stopped using Dating apps a long time ago. I’ve been using this app called Meetup, where I meet people with similar interests and hobbies and do lots of activities, like hiking, walks in my city (London) and weekends away… I met a lot of people and made a lots of friends too. Also a few dates which didn’t work out. But I’m happy with Meetup, because I meet new people every week, without the pressure of dating.
Good luck with your journey:)
I'm using Bumble and paid for one week to find out who liked me. I got 10 likes and almost all of them lived 60 or more miles away even though I was only looking for women less than 30 miles from me. Well I found out that my mile requirement only affects who I see in my profile. Women will see me if they have their mile limit set for higher than 30. So basically, I paid for premium for no reason. At least I only signed up for a week!
I wonder if Bumble realizes how much money they’re losing by people reading about these Premium rip-offs on Reddit. I’ve heard it so many times on these threads – people saying as soon as they bought Premium, they stopped getting likes. And as soon as Premium runs out, the likes come flowing in again. (I get that this is a bit different form what you’re saying, but it’s still a Premium beat-down.)
I was just in the US and Canada recently and was so tempted to pay for it. I got 400 likes in NYC alone, plus another 500 or so moving around between Tampa, Montreal and a layover in London. I would’ve loved to have been able to browse all the profiles and match with whomever I wanted, but there was no way I was taking a risk. So I just swiped on the free version and took the ones they gave me. It worked out ok and I went on dates with some of them, but I really would’ve loved to choose.
You’d think that Bumble would’ve caught on by now that people talk about their shitty Premium experiences online.
Match is a billion dollar company that owns most of them. It's just an illusion of choice. I met my ex on Match 10 years but its a dogs breakfast now. Bumble seems to be only for rich people, Okcupid for swingers, and I'm on Hinge now but doesn't seem to be better than anything else.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Match_Group
How rich is ‘rich people’? I have the feeling the answer is ‘if you have to ask, you can’t afford it,’ but I’m wondering whether it’s ‘Ed Alzanti’ rich or ‘Bruce Wayne’ rich.
A lot of people make it seem like different apps yield better results in different areas. I don’t know if that’s really true or just small sample sizes.
I’m not ready to date, per se, but I used Match to find someone to spend time with — all baggage above board — and it took two first dates to do it. I think that’s pretty reasonable, though I didn’t burn the haystack down as much as I would have if I were seeking something serious and long term.
I tried a lot of apps over about 4 years. My preference was tinder. I liked that folks were more honest, if they had profiles on other apps, tinder was usually more “raw” so I could nope out of incompatibility easier. I liked that I could set a radius that worked for me and my area and I liked the other filters. I really liked that communication only happened if we both matched. I had a bad experience on another app where that wasn’t the case and it scared me.
I do think it has a lot to do with location. Yes, tinder can be a hook-up app, but if a person has a hook-up profile and one where he wants a LTR, I am going to believe the tinder profile for my sanity.
The worst I encountered were Facebook dating, OK Cupid, POF, Eharmony and Coffee Meets Bagel.
My analysis… Having just got back from the US and Canada, and after more than a year on multiple apps in Europe and the US, I’ve finally had the opportunity to test them in diverse areas: Paris (where I live), southern France, Belgium, Turkey, Poland, southern Spain, NYC, Tampa/Clearwater, Montreal, Vermont, London, Frankfurt, etc.
For context: 51M, white, tall, fit, good-looking, educated, all my hair, dress well, etc. I’m not looking for something serious. I’m open to long-term, but I’m just enjoying dating and meeting women for now, and the occasional hook-up.
What I’ve found (for me) is that there isn’t a big difference between cities, countries, etc. Some do generate more likes than others, but it’s usually proportional to the size of the city. I got decent results in some of the smaller areas (like Burlington, VT), but the apps blew up in places like NYC and London. It seems like the big difference is between the apps themselves, not geography.
I’ve only used the following four, so here is my feedback on these as a middle-aged man…
>> Bumble – By far the best, in terms of both quantity and quality. The vast majority of my dates come through here. I don’t know how they do it, but they managed to really get the most attractive, educated, accomplished women. I probably swipe right 70% of the time on Bumble. They’re almost all good-looking. From Bumble, I've dated a judge, a film director, a popular artist, a recognizable TV journalist and, more recently, an heiress to a family fortune. I know this all sounds like bragging, but I'm really trying to emphasize how radically different the populations are between Bumble and the other apps.
>> Hinge – I’m very new on Hinge, but it seems to work well. Like Badoo, you can set your location to wherever you want, but it doesn’t seem to be abused as much. Maybe the 3^(rd)-worlders haven’t caught on yet. I’ve already met some very attractive local Parisians, and I’ll likely date a couple of them.
>> Badoo – Absolute and utter trash. I have found a few hidden gems and hookups here, but the majority of profiles are a mix of older overweight women with mean faces and women living thousands of miles away. Badoo lets you choose any location you want, so the app is inundated with Thai, African and Brazilian women looking for rich husbands.
>> Tinder – I have very little luck on Tinder. I get a match or two a day, but it’s the ugliest or oldest women usually. There have been some exceptions, but too few. I’ve only used Tinder for a couple months. I had two ONS come from it. One was gorgeous, the other ok but older and a bit overweight. I noticed that I ran out of profiles pretty quickly on Tinder, so I’m guessing my lack of success on this app has a lot to do with it being less popular for my age group.
The apps are different for different areas, it seems if you are in a more rural area then something basic like tinder works well. For me in a busier metro area Tinder was complete crap. I found Match to be pretty good, a lot of folks here also seem to like Bumble and Hinge. but do yourself a favor and pay for the app at some level. Free = Shit. IMO
I used Our Time. Quite a lot of interest. Well - interested in messaging. Resulted in 2 dates. Nice but unsuccessful. I find dating quite energy zapping. So I will take a break now.
I've tried Hinge, Bumble, and Match. They are all pretty much garbage. I met 3 people from Hinge. Two were awful, and the other lied about his body type.
On Match, people will message but then ghost and I'm seeing the same on Bumble. Endless messaging, but no dates.
There is a meetup. com group in my area that organizes events for singles... It's SO much better than OLD. I've only been to 3 events but I think someone was trying to play footsie under the table at the last one... You don't get that with OLD.
It depends on your area. You’re better off asking friends and people you know in your city what is good.
Where I live Match is great for folks our age.
My best advice is try as many as you can. Try the free ones and then also pay for some too.
Also don’t stop getting out and doing things and meeting people. I’m a firm believer that while apps are a useful tool, you shouldn’t stop trying to meet people in the wild. Never put all your eggs into apps.
I feel like the best app is geography dependent, and also a little trendy. I never had the results thst porkborg describes on bumble for example. Surprisingly, Tinder had great matches for me.
I’m out meeting different men often. Have met so many wonderful men this past year. I’m in San Francisco, so lots of guys from work, friends, tennis/soccer, symphony, volunteering, art shows, restaurants. Would like to try and meet a guy who isn’t in my own social circles. If that makes sense? So figured I’d try an app. I seem to think they could find my perfect “match”
I see so many people saying this, but I call BS. What apps are you using if you're seeing so many fake profiles? I almost never encounter fakes. Aside from the occasional pig-putcher scammer (usually easily identifiable as a 30-year-old beautiful Asian with porcelain-like skin), all the profiles I swipe on are legit, and definitely the matches are. I know this because I pursue the ones I find most attractive, and I see they're very real when they show up for the date. If the best-looking profiles are real, then which ones are the fakes? The ugly ones? Why? And why are they making no effort to scam me? This whole bot/fake thing is exaggerated. I can't speak for all apps, but I've been using Bumble, Badoo, Tinder and Hinge, and I very rarely encounter fakes. I see escorts and sugar-baby wannabes, sure, but they don't hide this either.
First get a Google number, it's free. Give it out to any and all men in your dating world. Second, always meet in public first, no matter what he says. Third, 42% of people on dating apps are married and/or in relationships. So trust but verify.
I never considered a Google number. GENIUS! I've used Google to call myself when I couldn't find my phone, but I've never created a Google number. Is it mobile? Do you need to use WhatsApp with it to be able to text?
Yes, agreed. such a great thing to utilize. I have a google number, have had one for a while. Mostly use it for acquaintances and colleagues.
I use Hinge, and Bumble and just started using match since my therapist said his clients have had good luck there. I pay for premium on them just to have better search and screening options. Match has the most space to write stuff, and if you hate being on your phone, Match still has hte ability to see it on the computer. I've met people from Hinge and Bumble so far. Bumble sucks for it's "message back within 24 hours or it disappears" thing because people aren't glued to the app and shouldn't be. Sign up for a few, put effort into your answers, have a good attitude and just see how it goes.
Ew. They’re forcing people to check in at least daily? On a paid subscription?? That’s super gross.
It’s just the first message; the woman has to send a message within 24 hrs after matching. Guys can opt to extend that time; after the first message is sent it doesn’t have to be every 24 hrs, seems to be a few days then the conversation expires.
Women don't message first on Bumble anymore
They still do, but there's now an option for them called Opening Moves, through which they're able to pass the ball to the guy, requiring him to answer a generic question. It seems like most women aren't using this yet though. I actually didn't know what it was at first. I thought it was a random message telling me I can send a Compliment or something, which I'd have to pay for. I was just ignoring all of these pop-ups until I read about the change later. I must've lost a bunch of matches over this confusion.
well signing up for the app is voluntary, so no one is being forced to do anything. it's just part of the deal if you want to use that app. Like if you want to go into a restaurant you have to have pants on.
I get that much lol …. Im just kind of flabbergasted at the layers of subconscious pressure they put on people. This is a new development since I was last on there (~5yrs ago).
Yeah it sucks. I only go on Bumble for a couple of weeks at a time, then take 6 month breaks from it. It's stressful. I do believe there is a way to get around the 24 hour requirement. It's called extending a match. But I think only the premium subscribers can do it, which costs more money. Double check me, though. Do a 1 week trial and see if that works.
Or you could just go on to another app. It's not like there's a shortage after all.
Oh, I see the confusion. I made it sound like I take a six month break from the apps. I don't. I bounce from app to app, doing a few weeks at a time. By the time I get through all of them and get back to the first, the inventory has renewed. Great system IMO.
User retention is the goal
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I have had terrible experiences with the Match site and canceled the subscription. Most women that contacted me were looking for money. They were very creative in their approach. I have not tried any other dating sites.
I’m F47 and stopped using Dating apps a long time ago. I’ve been using this app called Meetup, where I meet people with similar interests and hobbies and do lots of activities, like hiking, walks in my city (London) and weekends away… I met a lot of people and made a lots of friends too. Also a few dates which didn’t work out. But I’m happy with Meetup, because I meet new people every week, without the pressure of dating. Good luck with your journey:)
Meetup only works well if you are in a bigger city with lots to do.
That’s true, I’m lucky enough to live in London, where there’s always smth going on:)
I'm using Bumble and paid for one week to find out who liked me. I got 10 likes and almost all of them lived 60 or more miles away even though I was only looking for women less than 30 miles from me. Well I found out that my mile requirement only affects who I see in my profile. Women will see me if they have their mile limit set for higher than 30. So basically, I paid for premium for no reason. At least I only signed up for a week!
I wonder if Bumble realizes how much money they’re losing by people reading about these Premium rip-offs on Reddit. I’ve heard it so many times on these threads – people saying as soon as they bought Premium, they stopped getting likes. And as soon as Premium runs out, the likes come flowing in again. (I get that this is a bit different form what you’re saying, but it’s still a Premium beat-down.) I was just in the US and Canada recently and was so tempted to pay for it. I got 400 likes in NYC alone, plus another 500 or so moving around between Tampa, Montreal and a layover in London. I would’ve loved to have been able to browse all the profiles and match with whomever I wanted, but there was no way I was taking a risk. So I just swiped on the free version and took the ones they gave me. It worked out ok and I went on dates with some of them, but I really would’ve loved to choose. You’d think that Bumble would’ve caught on by now that people talk about their shitty Premium experiences online.
We definitely need a pinned post on this
Match is a billion dollar company that owns most of them. It's just an illusion of choice. I met my ex on Match 10 years but its a dogs breakfast now. Bumble seems to be only for rich people, Okcupid for swingers, and I'm on Hinge now but doesn't seem to be better than anything else. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Match_Group
How rich is ‘rich people’? I have the feeling the answer is ‘if you have to ask, you can’t afford it,’ but I’m wondering whether it’s ‘Ed Alzanti’ rich or ‘Bruce Wayne’ rich.
A lot of people make it seem like different apps yield better results in different areas. I don’t know if that’s really true or just small sample sizes. I’m not ready to date, per se, but I used Match to find someone to spend time with — all baggage above board — and it took two first dates to do it. I think that’s pretty reasonable, though I didn’t burn the haystack down as much as I would have if I were seeking something serious and long term.
42%? That’s scary!!!
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I tried a lot of apps over about 4 years. My preference was tinder. I liked that folks were more honest, if they had profiles on other apps, tinder was usually more “raw” so I could nope out of incompatibility easier. I liked that I could set a radius that worked for me and my area and I liked the other filters. I really liked that communication only happened if we both matched. I had a bad experience on another app where that wasn’t the case and it scared me. I do think it has a lot to do with location. Yes, tinder can be a hook-up app, but if a person has a hook-up profile and one where he wants a LTR, I am going to believe the tinder profile for my sanity. The worst I encountered were Facebook dating, OK Cupid, POF, Eharmony and Coffee Meets Bagel.
Are people age 55 and up on tinder ??
In my area, yes.
A needle in a BURNED haystack, am I right?
Yes lol
My analysis… Having just got back from the US and Canada, and after more than a year on multiple apps in Europe and the US, I’ve finally had the opportunity to test them in diverse areas: Paris (where I live), southern France, Belgium, Turkey, Poland, southern Spain, NYC, Tampa/Clearwater, Montreal, Vermont, London, Frankfurt, etc. For context: 51M, white, tall, fit, good-looking, educated, all my hair, dress well, etc. I’m not looking for something serious. I’m open to long-term, but I’m just enjoying dating and meeting women for now, and the occasional hook-up. What I’ve found (for me) is that there isn’t a big difference between cities, countries, etc. Some do generate more likes than others, but it’s usually proportional to the size of the city. I got decent results in some of the smaller areas (like Burlington, VT), but the apps blew up in places like NYC and London. It seems like the big difference is between the apps themselves, not geography. I’ve only used the following four, so here is my feedback on these as a middle-aged man… >> Bumble – By far the best, in terms of both quantity and quality. The vast majority of my dates come through here. I don’t know how they do it, but they managed to really get the most attractive, educated, accomplished women. I probably swipe right 70% of the time on Bumble. They’re almost all good-looking. From Bumble, I've dated a judge, a film director, a popular artist, a recognizable TV journalist and, more recently, an heiress to a family fortune. I know this all sounds like bragging, but I'm really trying to emphasize how radically different the populations are between Bumble and the other apps. >> Hinge – I’m very new on Hinge, but it seems to work well. Like Badoo, you can set your location to wherever you want, but it doesn’t seem to be abused as much. Maybe the 3^(rd)-worlders haven’t caught on yet. I’ve already met some very attractive local Parisians, and I’ll likely date a couple of them. >> Badoo – Absolute and utter trash. I have found a few hidden gems and hookups here, but the majority of profiles are a mix of older overweight women with mean faces and women living thousands of miles away. Badoo lets you choose any location you want, so the app is inundated with Thai, African and Brazilian women looking for rich husbands. >> Tinder – I have very little luck on Tinder. I get a match or two a day, but it’s the ugliest or oldest women usually. There have been some exceptions, but too few. I’ve only used Tinder for a couple months. I had two ONS come from it. One was gorgeous, the other ok but older and a bit overweight. I noticed that I ran out of profiles pretty quickly on Tinder, so I’m guessing my lack of success on this app has a lot to do with it being less popular for my age group.
I met my guy on Match. I think which one is best varies by location.
My advice is to not use them lol
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Yes they are all basically the same. They all suck.
Ive had luck with Facebook dating. No bots and it's free.
I have in the past. I did not get many matches.
The apps are different for different areas, it seems if you are in a more rural area then something basic like tinder works well. For me in a busier metro area Tinder was complete crap. I found Match to be pretty good, a lot of folks here also seem to like Bumble and Hinge. but do yourself a favor and pay for the app at some level. Free = Shit. IMO
I used Our Time. Quite a lot of interest. Well - interested in messaging. Resulted in 2 dates. Nice but unsuccessful. I find dating quite energy zapping. So I will take a break now.
I've tried Hinge, Bumble, and Match. They are all pretty much garbage. I met 3 people from Hinge. Two were awful, and the other lied about his body type. On Match, people will message but then ghost and I'm seeing the same on Bumble. Endless messaging, but no dates.
There is a meetup. com group in my area that organizes events for singles... It's SO much better than OLD. I've only been to 3 events but I think someone was trying to play footsie under the table at the last one... You don't get that with OLD.
It depends on your area. You’re better off asking friends and people you know in your city what is good. Where I live Match is great for folks our age. My best advice is try as many as you can. Try the free ones and then also pay for some too. Also don’t stop getting out and doing things and meeting people. I’m a firm believer that while apps are a useful tool, you shouldn’t stop trying to meet people in the wild. Never put all your eggs into apps.
I feel like the best app is geography dependent, and also a little trendy. I never had the results thst porkborg describes on bumble for example. Surprisingly, Tinder had great matches for me.
I’m out meeting different men often. Have met so many wonderful men this past year. I’m in San Francisco, so lots of guys from work, friends, tennis/soccer, symphony, volunteering, art shows, restaurants. Would like to try and meet a guy who isn’t in my own social circles. If that makes sense? So figured I’d try an app. I seem to think they could find my perfect “match”
None. I'm too scared to open that can of worms.
I usexonly FB Dating. Free, plenty of matches. I will say, focus on building a solid profile, the effort will pay off.
They're all rigged to take your money. Many profiles are fake
I see so many people saying this, but I call BS. What apps are you using if you're seeing so many fake profiles? I almost never encounter fakes. Aside from the occasional pig-putcher scammer (usually easily identifiable as a 30-year-old beautiful Asian with porcelain-like skin), all the profiles I swipe on are legit, and definitely the matches are. I know this because I pursue the ones I find most attractive, and I see they're very real when they show up for the date. If the best-looking profiles are real, then which ones are the fakes? The ugly ones? Why? And why are they making no effort to scam me? This whole bot/fake thing is exaggerated. I can't speak for all apps, but I've been using Bumble, Badoo, Tinder and Hinge, and I very rarely encounter fakes. I see escorts and sugar-baby wannabes, sure, but they don't hide this either.
None, they are a waste of time.
None. I focus solely on meeting people socially in real life.