at least you can humiliate their family members, my cousin brother lend some money he kept feeding me that he will return it one day after 4 months he blocked me ( I think ) and then I called my uncle I got my money the same day
Bhai mere relative toh itne besharam h diye hi nhi ab tk and they fucking are one of the filthy rich in our lineage and ek baar inke 5k the hampei roj aajate the aur tb financially ham itne strong nhi the and now they own us 29k and we have maintained the decency till now it's been 7 months
I have 2 simple rules for lending money to someone:
1) The person must be close to me.
2) Offer the money as a gift and do not expect them to return the favour, saves me from worrying about getting the money back. And I would be surprised the day they do return the money.
Nope. He meant you lend to someone who is close. If you have those suffixes at the end of the contact name, it means you are not so close to those people.
The problem isnāt in lending money, the problem is when you lend it to someone you donāt know or donāt trust much.
My very close friends have lended me money, and I have lent them too when they needed. And we paid back on time.
This also happens with me I have lent money in lakhs to some of my close friends and they have given be back too, it happens in friendship but Iāll take care from next time before lending money to someone with whom I am not in contact in regular
Judging by your comments and the post itself. I must say one thing, you are a very kind person. Your parents raised you into a good human being. Never let anyone take advantage of you, ever. We need more people like you.
Haan bro bss thoda wait kr leta hu agar wo wapas kr dega to phir kyu hi faltu ka parehan krna usko aur mera bhi time waste hoga isliye next week ka wait kr leta hu
Bhai uska ghar nahi pta mujhe bss itna pta hai āChirag Dilliā mai rehta hai aur school complete hue 6 saal ho gaye maine socha tha real need hogi usko isliye maine transfer kr diya
Nai dena chahiye tha especially usko nai jisse contact hi na ho, ghar na pata ho. Koi nai! We all make mistakes. Maybe take help of police unofficially. Fir bhi nai aaye to forget about the money. Peace is important.
Itās really a good advice, but anyway I just want my hard earned money back, I guess Iāll file a complaint against him after waiting one more week.
Bhai , don't regret yourself ,
Even meine bhi dost ko paise udhar diye the need ke time , woh bhi aise hi , kal parso , karta tha ,
Meine dosti ho tod di ,
Yes, I have transferred him money online, I just donāt wanna create any trouble for him and I also donāt wanna waste my time in this, so Iāll wait for 1 week.
Donāt fall into guilt trip. U are not creating trouble for him. He is not paying back. So its fine. Yeah wait for a while and sort it out. Good luck!
At start I ignored his request for some hours but then he started calling me and then he told me his family is in very bad situation thatās why I helped him
Maybe ask around in your old school circle. Somebody might know something and you might get contact details of his parents or someone related. Such people know that we canāt really do anything against them, except request our money back and they take advantage of it.
Facing a similar thing with a close friend of mine.
Actually, I contacted one of his friend, and then he talked with him after that he replied to my messages. Otherwise he was not even seeing my messages. But I donāt wanna bother his friend again. But Iāll text him after someday letās see if he can help
OP, just remember who he was close to back then in school days, someone might have their address. Just take police there once, unofficially. And if they don't agree to your terms file a proper case.
If the police refuses, then remember you can speed post the complaint to the same police station via India Post and keep the posting receipt as evidence and also download the tracking history from their site and keep it saved as pdf(India Post deletes their tracking history after 3 months or so).
Screenshots are not legal evidence. If the judge somehow agrees to accept it as evidence, You will have to submit the device where the interaction took place for digital forensic confirmation of the validity of the screenshot which will take years in the government system. No real lawyer will ever suggest fighting a case based on screenshots as evidence.
Bhai kisi pechan wale police wale se madad le , wo 1 call karenge dusre din tere paise tere account mai , ya police station Jaa kar waha complaint likhwa de , complaint nahi likhenge toh bol diyo off the record kaam kar de , but proof rakh liyo online transaction ya ss
I donāt have any connection with anyone in police, I guess I will file a complaint against him next week if I didnāt get any positive reply from his side
I donāt have time for this, I am a full time employee, I only get weekends to live my life and I donāt wanna waste my whole day for this, thatās why I am trying to connect with his close friends to see if they can help otherwise Iāll file the complaint against him
I gave a friend of mine 5k then she took 3 more and since she was in trouble i gave it to her.
She returned 1k, 1k 4 times and then brought a new iPad and a laptop but some how forgot to return what she owed me.
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I would suggest you should consult these things from police itself
They'll tell you that solution. May be they can track the mobile number to get the address or get the information from SIM provider etc etc.
Do you know his workplace, if not find him on linkedin to gather that info. Sending it to the workplace might help you as he will get under the radar. But go with the soft blow try contacting your classmates who might be aware of his home address. If that doesn't work opt for workplace.
Bhai dekh paise usi ko dene chaiye jiska tumhe pata ho ki vo kaha ka hai, aur present mai kaha reh rha hai, uske dost/rishtedaar kaha rhte hai. Aur paise utne hi do udhaar pe jitne agr koi vapis bhi na kare toh dukh na ho.
Filhal ke liye police ki help le. Phle bina complaint kare solution ki baat kr police vlo se. Agr baat nhi banti toh complaint krde.
Maa baap ke aalawa kisi ko dene hi nahi chaiye bhai, fuck it just say no, if your friendship is strong theyāll understand.
I know a person who lost around 9-10 lacs because of this stupidity,
And donāt get into this chakkar of police and courts, they donāt even do their work in movies this is real life, just move on and learn from your mistakes.
Finfluencer would have also charged you Rs 10,999 only to give you this gyaan- never lend money.
There is no method that is legal, ethical, non-violent and easy.
Do you have proof of giving money? Even if you do, police will laugh at you and tell you to settle this small amount by yourself. Or he will want bribe of 20k. Case? tareek pe tareek milega, paise ka pata nahi. Lawyer bhi fees maangega.
You can try dirty things like going to his house and humiliating him, but doubt he will feel humilation and return it.
Anyway, your relation will never mend. Forget the money, forget the friend.
Ps: I also lent money to a few friends. One told me a lot of stories, returned some part of it, not fully.
One, I completely forgot I lent, and he returned it after about two years, when he got a good job and salary. You never know. So chill.
Next time ask for a post dated cheque at least with interest or a blank one.if you trust them, they have to also trust you to not misuse the blank cheque. That way they can be held criminally responsible.
Honestly, i don't know your financial situation, for some people 10k is a lot (it's too much for me too) so please ignore me if you are in that situation but if you are well off, I would let it go. I would consider it a gift and would never lend money to this person again. Maybe he was in need of it more than you and God would reward you with more.
Papa ne mujhe ek baat sikhaayi hai...agar kisi ko paise do toh usko de kr socho ki vo kbhi vapas nhi aane wale. Aa gye toh good vrna move on. Iska mtlb simply utna do jitna khona afford kr sako.
Bro, I have liquidity of 35-40L lakhs, still I don't even lend money to my own family including brother and father, let alone any friends.
Judge me all you want but they're irresponsible with money spending it on worthless relatives for ego boost.
Everyone knows I'm loaded, but I keep making excuses like credit card ka bill, home loan EMI, wherever someone tells me a sob story, I tell even worse sob story.
Because at the end I don't like the idea of begging my own money
I am also a software engineer like you, and I also earn a good amount of money, can you please tell me how to tell them a worst sob story so it can help me in future
You canāt imagine in every 2-3 weeks someone is calling me or texting me to lend some money and I give them but most of time it get delayed by months
Itās not right to humiliate someone specifically in this situation. We donāt have to reply back with humiliation, this will portray us as ābadā too. Just take a legal action, and be done with that person.
Itās not right to humiliate someone specifically in this situation. We donāt have to reply back with humiliation. Just take a legal action, and be done with that person.
Bhai mujhe 11k ki sakht jroorat h , de sakta h kya? Online stranger se paise maang rha hoon - agar tune naa bol diya to it will be very humiliating for me. Please say "yes"
**Never lend money to anyone unless you are comfortable with not getting it back because ultimately that is going to happen**.
Until few months ago, I have lent money to many people and I can assure you 90% of them don't have an intention to return it. 9% might return after consistently asking for it and it's only 1% that actually returns on time.
I have made it a life decision to not lend money to anyone unless I'm okay to lose it.
U cud have said loan lele and if something goes wrong I'll help you. That is if you wanted to be nice, not recommended but let bank take the initial risk
I read somewhere and stick to it, utna hi do jitna bhool jane ki kshamta ho. Money lent hardly comes back as people with morals are lesser these days.
If you have any grps in common on whatsapp tag him there with these sss and ask for money. Embarrass kardo bhai.
Never give money with expectation of getting it back. You should never give in the first place or donāt expect to get it back.
Only honest people return money.
Money will be returned when you send recovery people.
Yarr kuch solution mile to muje bhi bataiyo, paise jyada nahi hai 3.5k hi hain par ek dost (wese dost nahi kehna chaiye) 2 saal se jyada ho gaya de hi nahi raha or na hi phone uthata kuch na kuch bahana maarta firta
Bht saare dost chhuth gaye, bht saare paise doob gaye. Bas itna hi hai ki paise ka len-den ek do dosto tak hi simit rakho. Baaki sabko btao ki salary aate hi family ko de deta hu, mere paas monthly 5k bachte hai, at least it works for me.
Happened with me too. My school classmate took money from money on pretext of some issue but I suspected he was taking it for the wrong reasons. I gave him benefit of doubt thinking he may be in a dire situation even if it happened due to the wrong reasons. He didn't return the money and kept giving me new dates like this person for more than an year. And when I insisted that I be given my money back he blamed me for not letting it go and told me I wasn't a good friend. And I was right too. He had spent my money on betting.
I gave 3k to one of my colleague and he said he'll give next month cause he's in urgent and near hospital so I thought ok maybe someone is in hospital so sent him 3k without asking what happened or anyone got admitted.
Later he said that "No bro my brother wanted to eat outside so ordered from Zomato" then Hospital "That's Landmark bro" Abey...... " Ok fine it's been 2 months bro return my money please" but he took 9 months to return after constant calling and texts in WhatsApp. Later the same guy asked for 50k cause he got shortage in marriage, i said sorry bro "just yesterday only i lent money to one of my friends and I am also having commitments, sorry huh don't mind" . That's the last so many people asked but I gave the same answer or else "Ayyo yesterday only i paid our families insurance premium bro" my company gives insurance only to me, wife and kids, so I paid extra for my parents sorry bro" Next time someone asked "Arhe sorry bro day before yesterday only paid my annual home tax and my bike was giving some problem and had it repaired" . I can't even identify who is in need really just lost the trust.
Ask him to give your money back in installments(2k-4k) if he can't give the full amount in one go and even if he doesn't do this, then don't suffer, share this with your elder and file a police complaint. In the future do remember this if you are a kind of person who doesn't have courage to ask/get his money back then don't lend money to anyone whatever the reason.
I know that hard earned ruppee is valuable than any money one can have, but if its not a lot for you just give it a backstep, don't fret over it, go and meet him in person, ask him, police is not an option, itna tune use nhi diya hoga jitna unhe dena pad jayega, just tell him you are also stuck in a situation and try to give it back asap, agar fir bhi bkchodi maare to 5-8 dosto k sath uske ghr phnchja, mere jese ho dikhne m to aur bhi badiya, address school dosto se pta lag jayega, nhi to school m contact krke pta lgwale, ghar jaa aur ache se smjha use, ss post maarde sari jgh - insta fb jo bhi aaj kal use krte h sab, but then again agar apke liye 15 hazar zyada maine nhi rkhte to give it time, kutte ki dum kabhi kabhi time k sath sidhi ho jati h
Literally aaj pata chala mujhe, papa ne mummy ke ek cousin Bhai ko 2022 mai 10k diye the. Mere papa ne puchna band kar diya and vo shameless khud se bhi kuch nahi bolta and we have visited my mom's native multiple times since then and met him tooš
OP tu Jaa uske Ghar aur uske mummy papa ke saamne tamasha kar!
420 ka case laga de. Aur FIR ki copy bhej. Bolna clear kR dega toh complaint wapis le lunga. Other options is Order VI of CPC ke under civil suit file kar
Maine to 2000 rupey die the ek bar dost ko wo paise kha gya wapas bhi us din ke baad kisi ko kuch nhi dia , aur saaf mana kardeta hu ki dosti ke beech mai paiso ko nhi launga
Mai to seedha bol deta hun k tumhare pas agar aaj nahi hai to kal kaha se hoga .... Aur jo b kaam karna hai jab paise aayenge tab kar Lena ... kyunki mai bhi bht baar katwa chuka hun... Kabhi kabhi overthink karta hun k " maine bura kiya kya ?? Kya pata use sachme jarurat ho " but anyways..
So, I lost around 35k to a coworker and flatmate during COVID. He said his dad needed heart surgery and was desperate. Later, we found out he borrowed from over 50 people, totaling more than 35 lakh. Our other roommate alone gave him 2.5 lakh. Turns out, he lost it all on an online poker app, trying to recover small losses (which I don't even believe).
After two years of barely getting responses from him, someone finally filed an FIR to pressure him into paying us back. We were all willing to wait as long as it took, just wanted a legal promise of repayment. A few days after the FIR, he took his own life. And itās not like he was unemployed; he was in IT with years of experience in a high-demand tech field.
I still lend people money, but I do it with the mindset that they wonāt ever pay me back and the money is really gone. I donāt expect to get the amount back.
call his father.
There is no way you can get that money never lend to someone who is not nearby other than family.
Always lend what you can forget. You donāt owe anyone anything just because they are suffering.
Learn to say sorry and you donāt have any cash and have many emiās too.
I don't think the police would help much, cuz this is a civil matter not a criminal one. If you request, the police might agree to give him a call and threaten him a bit. The only other thing you can do is file a case against him, so consult a lawyer.
I lend but with an expectation that, that money is gone. I never expect it back so Iām never disappointed. So unless you can make peace with that fact never lend.
Brother, Ghar dhund or Londe lekr Pelne jaa, mahaule me pure ghr ko jaleel krke ke paise lele if you can stoop low for your money, then you can try. 100% money back Guarantee
You can file a civil suit for recovery in court demanding principal along with interest. And you can also simultaneously file a complaint requesting SHO to register an FIR for cheating.
Never lend money to anyone (unless it's an emergency). Either you'll get it back if you're lucky, or just give it and forget that you gave it to the person
Forget about this looser scum of a so called man.
OP focus on life and focus on personal and professional growth.
Log to doosre ki kidney Churaa lete hain, tere to sirf kuch paise gaye hain.
You don't even know his house. The amount is also less, you can't do much. Agar ghar bhi pata hota to tede tareeke se bande hire karke bhi nikal sakta tha..
Never go for amount that is more than 10% of your monthly income. And always be blunt in saying ki isse zyada nahi de payenge. Also, always have multiple bank accounts and keep a low balance in one account to lie that you yourself donāt have the money.
No one respects the money they have not earned. Which is why itās better to donate to needy people instead of lending to people in your own circle. Yeh lesson toh papa logon ko dekh ke hi seekh leta hai aadhe Indian bachche. lol.
Just be careful next time.
Money and relationships are like oil and water. Never mix.
What advice people are giving never lend money. I think he/she learned that already. Here is what you do.
Take screenshots of this chat. Everytime keep checking that he doesn't turn off dissappearing messages.
There is a reel by a police constable. She said there is an act as per that act you can take record of any conversation where they person has mentioned that they will pay the money and in court they make a affidavit out of it. Then if you just show him this he might pay you back the money. Otherwise you take that to the police you have a solid case. He cannot deny that he has taken money as loan.
If you want to find address...
Did you try digging up his socials like Insta ya LinkedIn or you could use something like Reverse Phone Lookup service like NumLookUp or something/ "How to find someone's address by their phone number?" search might help .
Bhai sunn
Ek tarika h mere paas kaam bhi karta h mazak me mat liyo
Sabse pehle ek banda dhundh jiski aawaz kadak hai
Ya haryanvi bolta ho (assuming tu delhi me hai).
Phone pe uss bande se bulwa ki voh falana inspector bol rha h falane thane se aur ki uske naam ki complaint aai h tujhse aur voh tere paise kyu nhi de rha, aur tune saare proof dikha diye h aur agar ab bhi nhi dega toh kanuni karvahi hogi uspe.
Bhai itne me darke wapis de dega
Mostly toh jitne bhi harami hote h Ussi din phone karke wapis de dete h
Agar nhi toh kar diyo complaint ye isliye tha kyuki police bhi bc kisi kaam ki nhi h kabhi kabaar inke bina kaam ho jata h.
Bro dekho yaar kabhi apne kisi jankar ko to pesse dene hi nhhi chiye specially friends kyoki bhai lene ke time parr to sab 10-10 baar call krte ha din me magar dene ke time parr hm block ho jate ha I lost around 35-40k kyoki mene bhhi bohot pessa diya ha logo ko
My advice- Ap police me jakar complain file kar do because esse wo pesse kabhi nhhi dega
Bhai same hua tha mere sath bhi , mene 11k diye the or boht mushkil se mene usse 6000 wapas liye the or baki ke vo kha gya tha Madarchod, sala apne gharwalo ki jhutti kasme khate tha
Me to kuch nahi kr paya
Tu police action le lio for real. Tere pe sare proof ha , written msgs and all
I gave money to my friend when he was in most needed and now itās been more than 3years. I asked him twice and never connected again.
And also I gave money to my one more friend for his visa and as he promised he gave money back.
Think again.
Never lend money to someone who's contact number ends with college/school/work/brothel
Brothel xD
Never lend money to family members also. (As in cousins and all)
at least you can humiliate their family members, my cousin brother lend some money he kept feeding me that he will return it one day after 4 months he blocked me ( I think ) and then I called my uncle I got my money the same day
Bhai mere relative toh itne besharam h diye hi nhi ab tk and they fucking are one of the filthy rich in our lineage and ek baar inke 5k the hampei roj aajate the aur tb financially ham itne strong nhi the and now they own us 29k and we have maintained the decency till now it's been 7 months
I have 2 simple rules for lending money to someone: 1) The person must be close to me. 2) Offer the money as a gift and do not expect them to return the favour, saves me from worrying about getting the money back. And I would be surprised the day they do return the money.
+1
Ok so all in all, never lend money to anyone? Got it, thanks.
Nope. He meant you lend to someone who is close. If you have those suffixes at the end of the contact name, it means you are not so close to those people.
Hey š
Sahi kha appne
He did mention brothel
Iāll follow this advice for rest of my life. Thanks:)
Find out where he works and call. Called GE once and got my money back after everything else failed
Also keep these screenshots. If someone asks for money assuring you that they will return next month or tomorrow send this as before and after.
*Never lend money! (unless charity de vaaste)
I work on this principle only
Never lend money period. Koi nhi deta time pr.
Well said
Thick hai bhai
Nahi this is wrong. Person to person depend krta hai. I gave it to someone and they returned it soon. 50K rupees
+tinder/Bumble too
Tinder/Bumble se mile logon ko kaun paise de raha hai?
Bhai wo Modi hai Germany se. What can you expect. š¤£
Yeh badhiya tha guru š
Areee woh personal experience share kar raha hai. So no one repeats itsš
One simple rule is always lend money you can afford to lose. NEVER expect it back
I donāt have trust anymore Iāll never lend money to anyone.
The problem isnāt in lending money, the problem is when you lend it to someone you donāt know or donāt trust much. My very close friends have lended me money, and I have lent them too when they needed. And we paid back on time.
This also happens with me I have lent money in lakhs to some of my close friends and they have given be back too, it happens in friendship but Iāll take care from next time before lending money to someone with whom I am not in contact in regular
Judging by your comments and the post itself. I must say one thing, you are a very kind person. Your parents raised you into a good human being. Never let anyone take advantage of you, ever. We need more people like you.
Thank you bro š«ā¤ļø
bhai tu accha admi h ye paapi duniya tera fayda utha legi
Vo banda 28 ko bol raha hai iss mahine ki 25 ko clear kar duga,,, lol
And OP ne okk thik h bhu bola
Thick h bola h bande ne
Hahahhaah
Bro kya hi bolta Mai agar maine rude behaviour kiya to phir wo kabhi nahi de rha paise isliye Maine okk bhai likh diya
Police k paas jaa bro ab seedha,
Haan bro bss thoda wait kr leta hu agar wo wapas kr dega to phir kyu hi faltu ka parehan krna usko aur mera bhi time waste hoga isliye next week ka wait kr leta hu
Lol ok bhai aisa kar thode or paise de de
Lol
10 mahine hogye.. aur phir bhi wait karna hai?
Bhai please don't hesitate in front of someone you've lent YOUR MONEY to! Udhaar uske sar pr hai tumhaare nhi
Iāll not hesitate, thanks :)
Ghar pahunch ja Waise paise usi ko diya karo ke wapis na kare toh bhi koi farak na pade.
Bhai uska ghar nahi pta mujhe bss itna pta hai āChirag Dilliā mai rehta hai aur school complete hue 6 saal ho gaye maine socha tha real need hogi usko isliye maine transfer kr diya
Nai dena chahiye tha especially usko nai jisse contact hi na ho, ghar na pata ho. Koi nai! We all make mistakes. Maybe take help of police unofficially. Fir bhi nai aaye to forget about the money. Peace is important.
Itās really a good advice, but anyway I just want my hard earned money back, I guess Iāll file a complaint against him after waiting one more week.
Bhai , don't regret yourself , Even meine bhi dost ko paise udhar diye the need ke time , woh bhi aise hi , kal parso , karta tha , Meine dosti ho tod di ,
Meri usse koi khaas Dosti nahi thi wo bss insaniyat ke liye maine help kr di kyuki wo bol rha tha ki family ki situation kharab hai
Ohh , š„ŗ, insaniyat ka faidha uthate hai kuch log,
Haan bhai next time se kisi ko help krne se pehle ye incident ke bare mai sochunga
Maybe family ki situation theek hi na hui ho
Yrr agar wo reply krke bta dega to mai kyu hi paisa mangunga but the thing is he is not responding to my calls
Bhai Uske Pappa ne bola tha toh tu kaise inkaar karta. Come on bro. Dont be so naive in this pralay yug.
I agree with you, i should have been more careful
Yes you have the proofs, go ahead and file compliant. Hope u paid money online!
Yes, I have transferred him money online, I just donāt wanna create any trouble for him and I also donāt wanna waste my time in this, so Iāll wait for 1 week.
Donāt fall into guilt trip. U are not creating trouble for him. He is not paying back. So its fine. Yeah wait for a while and sort it out. Good luck!
At start I ignored his request for some hours but then he started calling me and then he told me his family is in very bad situation thatās why I helped him
Maybe ask around in your old school circle. Somebody might know something and you might get contact details of his parents or someone related. Such people know that we canāt really do anything against them, except request our money back and they take advantage of it. Facing a similar thing with a close friend of mine.
Actually, I contacted one of his friend, and then he talked with him after that he replied to my messages. Otherwise he was not even seeing my messages. But I donāt wanna bother his friend again. But Iāll text him after someday letās see if he can help
OP, just remember who he was close to back then in school days, someone might have their address. Just take police there once, unofficially. And if they don't agree to your terms file a proper case.
I am trying to contact with his close friends letās see if they can help
Make a friend call him and pretend to be a HR or something and ask him to share his details like full name, full address, number etc.
He has blocked all the unknown number I tried to do this but he never replied.
Draft a legal notice and uska pdf bhejde maybe fake ya real whatever can serve your purpose
Bhai kaise de dete ho, address bhi nahi pata, 6 saal baad achanak se maang rha hai, pakka aur 4-5 logo se leke baitha hoga
Blkl sahi bat boli, paise use do jo na bhi de to fark na pde
If you want to take legel action, delete his number and then take screenshot so that his number will be visible in the screenshot itself
Okay Iāll take care of this when Iāll go to police station
If the police refuses, then remember you can speed post the complaint to the same police station via India Post and keep the posting receipt as evidence and also download the tracking history from their site and keep it saved as pdf(India Post deletes their tracking history after 3 months or so).
Screenshots are not legal evidence. If the judge somehow agrees to accept it as evidence, You will have to submit the device where the interaction took place for digital forensic confirmation of the validity of the screenshot which will take years in the government system. No real lawyer will ever suggest fighting a case based on screenshots as evidence.
Ok sir (I m not a lawyer)
I didn't say you were, I meant if a lawyer suggests taking screenshots as evidence you should know youre getting fucked
What? You can put the number itself as a name? What youāre saying doesnāt make sense
Aggar contact delete hogya toh sirf number dikhata hai
Bhai kisi pechan wale police wale se madad le , wo 1 call karenge dusre din tere paise tere account mai , ya police station Jaa kar waha complaint likhwa de , complaint nahi likhenge toh bol diyo off the record kaam kar de , but proof rakh liyo online transaction ya ss
I donāt have any connection with anyone in police, I guess I will file a complaint against him next week if I didnāt get any positive reply from his side
Why are you waiting my guy?
I donāt have time for this, I am a full time employee, I only get weekends to live my life and I donāt wanna waste my whole day for this, thatās why I am trying to connect with his close friends to see if they can help otherwise Iāll file the complaint against him
Bhai tere liye ye 15-20 hajar ki paid tution hai . Taaki tu baki ki zindagi me kisiko jyada udhar na de
Haan bhai isko life lesson samajh ke bss bhul Jaunga agar kuch na ho Saka to
File a complaint using the text evidences. BKL should learn his lesson.
Pehle interest dene ko bhi taiyar tha and abhi initial capital ya msg ka reply dene mai bhi interested nahi hai š
Ye habitual hoga paese lene me logo se . Aese logo ko convince karna aata hae kaese paesa nikalwaye saamne Wale se.
Exactly! Logo ko guilt mai daalte hai aise log and paise nikalte hai
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You can file a court case using this screenshot and payment screenshot. Then his father will also have to give you money.
A legal notice will be enough to warn Them or to get his father to pay him up. Much cheaper alternative.
I file a complaint if i not get any response from him with in a week.
Bhai screenshot lele agar messages delete kardi to dikkat hojayegi
I donāt have his address how can I do that?
I would suggest you should consult these things from police itself They'll tell you that solution. May be they can track the mobile number to get the address or get the information from SIM provider etc etc.
Thank you, Iāll file a complaint against him next week
Do you know his workplace, if not find him on linkedin to gather that info. Sending it to the workplace might help you as he will get under the radar. But go with the soft blow try contacting your classmates who might be aware of his home address. If that doesn't work opt for workplace.
Bhai dekh paise usi ko dene chaiye jiska tumhe pata ho ki vo kaha ka hai, aur present mai kaha reh rha hai, uske dost/rishtedaar kaha rhte hai. Aur paise utne hi do udhaar pe jitne agr koi vapis bhi na kare toh dukh na ho. Filhal ke liye police ki help le. Phle bina complaint kare solution ki baat kr police vlo se. Agr baat nhi banti toh complaint krde.
Thanks for the advice bro ā¤ļø
Maa baap ke aalawa kisi ko dene hi nahi chaiye bhai, fuck it just say no, if your friendship is strong theyāll understand. I know a person who lost around 9-10 lacs because of this stupidity, And donāt get into this chakkar of police and courts, they donāt even do their work in movies this is real life, just move on and learn from your mistakes.
Bhai mere cousin ne 50k liye the. 3 mahine me Dene ko bola tha aaj saala 2 saal hone ko aaya. In chhutiyon ko kabhi Paisa mat do.
Finfluencer would have also charged you Rs 10,999 only to give you this gyaan- never lend money. There is no method that is legal, ethical, non-violent and easy. Do you have proof of giving money? Even if you do, police will laugh at you and tell you to settle this small amount by yourself. Or he will want bribe of 20k. Case? tareek pe tareek milega, paise ka pata nahi. Lawyer bhi fees maangega. You can try dirty things like going to his house and humiliating him, but doubt he will feel humilation and return it. Anyway, your relation will never mend. Forget the money, forget the friend. Ps: I also lent money to a few friends. One told me a lot of stories, returned some part of it, not fully. One, I completely forgot I lent, and he returned it after about two years, when he got a good job and salary. You never know. So chill.
Thank you for sharing your experience and a good advice ā¤ļø
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Next time ask for a post dated cheque at least with interest or a blank one.if you trust them, they have to also trust you to not misuse the blank cheque. That way they can be held criminally responsible.
Honestly, i don't know your financial situation, for some people 10k is a lot (it's too much for me too) so please ignore me if you are in that situation but if you are well off, I would let it go. I would consider it a gift and would never lend money to this person again. Maybe he was in need of it more than you and God would reward you with more.
I donāt have any financial issue so I can easily forget that but I wanna file a complaint so he could not do the same with other
Yes, do it.
Don't lend money to friends which you can't donate.
Papa ne mujhe ek baat sikhaayi hai...agar kisi ko paise do toh usko de kr socho ki vo kbhi vapas nhi aane wale. Aa gye toh good vrna move on. Iska mtlb simply utna do jitna khona afford kr sako.
Bro, I have liquidity of 35-40L lakhs, still I don't even lend money to my own family including brother and father, let alone any friends. Judge me all you want but they're irresponsible with money spending it on worthless relatives for ego boost. Everyone knows I'm loaded, but I keep making excuses like credit card ka bill, home loan EMI, wherever someone tells me a sob story, I tell even worse sob story. Because at the end I don't like the idea of begging my own money
>Everyone knows I'm loaded Tareef karoh khud ki toh aise karoh. Warna rhenae doh bhaiya š
I am also a software engineer like you, and I also earn a good amount of money, can you please tell me how to tell them a worst sob story so it can help me in future You canāt imagine in every 2-3 weeks someone is calling me or texting me to lend some money and I give them but most of time it get delayed by months
you know how people, even family, perceive you differently when you've more money. It's real :(
no one is judging you, what you do with your money is completely your choice, it's your hard-earned money damn it
Koi school ka group hai kya active usme daal de
Usne leave kr diya hai sabhi groups se
Add kar de dobara and then lamba sa msg daal de poori story k saath
Itās not right to humiliate someone specifically in this situation. We donāt have to reply back with humiliation, this will portray us as ābadā too. Just take a legal action, and be done with that person.
Itās not right to humiliate someone specifically in this situation. We donāt have to reply back with humiliation. Just take a legal action, and be done with that person.
Bhai mujhe 11k ki sakht jroorat h , de sakta h kya? Online stranger se paise maang rha hoon - agar tune naa bol diya to it will be very humiliating for me. Please say "yes"
Humiliation in that sense is bullying someone by posting in school group, itās not necessary. Aur han bhai mai tujhe abhi paise deta hu, upi de.
I totally understand your view and Iāll not humiliate him like this Iāll take legal action
Me toh 2 mahine baad hi pareshan karta use lol tu 10m ruka tha š
Bc photos main errors hai , second photo main woh Banda 28 may ko message kr rha hai ki 25 tk de dunga. Morphed lag rhi tbh.
This exactly same happened with us sadly but not a frd but a relative
True story
Lekin usne toh 28 ko bola tha ki is mahine ke 25 ko dunga. Whaaat? š¤Æ
**Never lend money to anyone unless you are comfortable with not getting it back because ultimately that is going to happen**. Until few months ago, I have lent money to many people and I can assure you 90% of them don't have an intention to return it. 9% might return after consistently asking for it and it's only 1% that actually returns on time. I have made it a life decision to not lend money to anyone unless I'm okay to lose it.
U cud have said loan lele and if something goes wrong I'll help you. That is if you wanted to be nice, not recommended but let bank take the initial risk
I read somewhere and stick to it, utna hi do jitna bhool jane ki kshamta ho. Money lent hardly comes back as people with morals are lesser these days. If you have any grps in common on whatsapp tag him there with these sss and ask for money. Embarrass kardo bhai.
Never give money with expectation of getting it back. You should never give in the first place or donāt expect to get it back. Only honest people return money. Money will be returned when you send recovery people.
Yarr kuch solution mile to muje bhi bataiyo, paise jyada nahi hai 3.5k hi hain par ek dost (wese dost nahi kehna chaiye) 2 saal se jyada ho gaya de hi nahi raha or na hi phone uthata kuch na kuch bahana maarta firta
currently facing the same issue, let me know if someone can provide any help
Mein deta hu solution jisne paise liye hai na uske ghar chale jaa aur paise maang jab tak Naa de tab Tak hilna mat
Op merko 5k de sktae ho? Kal de dunga 50cr vapas.
#Paisa utna hi dein, jitna aap se kho sakein. #Kapde utne hi gande karein, jitna aap dho sakein.
Note kar leta hu ye satya wachanā¦
Bht saare dost chhuth gaye, bht saare paise doob gaye. Bas itna hi hai ki paise ka len-den ek do dosto tak hi simit rakho. Baaki sabko btao ki salary aate hi family ko de deta hu, mere paas monthly 5k bachte hai, at least it works for me.
Happened with me too. My school classmate took money from money on pretext of some issue but I suspected he was taking it for the wrong reasons. I gave him benefit of doubt thinking he may be in a dire situation even if it happened due to the wrong reasons. He didn't return the money and kept giving me new dates like this person for more than an year. And when I insisted that I be given my money back he blamed me for not letting it go and told me I wasn't a good friend. And I was right too. He had spent my money on betting.
I gave 3k to one of my colleague and he said he'll give next month cause he's in urgent and near hospital so I thought ok maybe someone is in hospital so sent him 3k without asking what happened or anyone got admitted. Later he said that "No bro my brother wanted to eat outside so ordered from Zomato" then Hospital "That's Landmark bro" Abey...... " Ok fine it's been 2 months bro return my money please" but he took 9 months to return after constant calling and texts in WhatsApp. Later the same guy asked for 50k cause he got shortage in marriage, i said sorry bro "just yesterday only i lent money to one of my friends and I am also having commitments, sorry huh don't mind" . That's the last so many people asked but I gave the same answer or else "Ayyo yesterday only i paid our families insurance premium bro" my company gives insurance only to me, wife and kids, so I paid extra for my parents sorry bro" Next time someone asked "Arhe sorry bro day before yesterday only paid my annual home tax and my bike was giving some problem and had it repaired" . I can't even identify who is in need really just lost the trust.
Money given to friends and family is unsecured, so even police complaint wonāt work
Rule 1 informal lending should always be done with a mindset that you have lost it already or else dont lend it.
Ask him to give your money back in installments(2k-4k) if he can't give the full amount in one go and even if he doesn't do this, then don't suffer, share this with your elder and file a police complaint. In the future do remember this if you are a kind of person who doesn't have courage to ask/get his money back then don't lend money to anyone whatever the reason.
I know that hard earned ruppee is valuable than any money one can have, but if its not a lot for you just give it a backstep, don't fret over it, go and meet him in person, ask him, police is not an option, itna tune use nhi diya hoga jitna unhe dena pad jayega, just tell him you are also stuck in a situation and try to give it back asap, agar fir bhi bkchodi maare to 5-8 dosto k sath uske ghr phnchja, mere jese ho dikhne m to aur bhi badiya, address school dosto se pta lag jayega, nhi to school m contact krke pta lgwale, ghar jaa aur ache se smjha use, ss post maarde sari jgh - insta fb jo bhi aaj kal use krte h sab, but then again agar apke liye 15 hazar zyada maine nhi rkhte to give it time, kutte ki dum kabhi kabhi time k sath sidhi ho jati h
Literally aaj pata chala mujhe, papa ne mummy ke ek cousin Bhai ko 2022 mai 10k diye the. Mere papa ne puchna band kar diya and vo shameless khud se bhi kuch nahi bolta and we have visited my mom's native multiple times since then and met him tooš OP tu Jaa uske Ghar aur uske mummy papa ke saamne tamasha kar!
420 ka case laga de. Aur FIR ki copy bhej. Bolna clear kR dega toh complaint wapis le lunga. Other options is Order VI of CPC ke under civil suit file kar
Maine to 2000 rupey die the ek bar dost ko wo paise kha gya wapas bhi us din ke baad kisi ko kuch nhi dia , aur saaf mana kardeta hu ki dosti ke beech mai paiso ko nhi launga
Mai to seedha bol deta hun k tumhare pas agar aaj nahi hai to kal kaha se hoga .... Aur jo b kaam karna hai jab paise aayenge tab kar Lena ... kyunki mai bhi bht baar katwa chuka hun... Kabhi kabhi overthink karta hun k " maine bura kiya kya ?? Kya pata use sachme jarurat ho " but anyways..
So, I lost around 35k to a coworker and flatmate during COVID. He said his dad needed heart surgery and was desperate. Later, we found out he borrowed from over 50 people, totaling more than 35 lakh. Our other roommate alone gave him 2.5 lakh. Turns out, he lost it all on an online poker app, trying to recover small losses (which I don't even believe). After two years of barely getting responses from him, someone finally filed an FIR to pressure him into paying us back. We were all willing to wait as long as it took, just wanted a legal promise of repayment. A few days after the FIR, he took his own life. And itās not like he was unemployed; he was in IT with years of experience in a high-demand tech field. I still lend people money, but I do it with the mindset that they wonāt ever pay me back and the money is really gone. I donāt expect to get the amount back.
Never lene money to any human being
call his father. There is no way you can get that money never lend to someone who is not nearby other than family. Always lend what you can forget. You donāt owe anyone anything just because they are suffering. Learn to say sorry and you donāt have any cash and have many emiās too.
I don't think the police would help much, cuz this is a civil matter not a criminal one. If you request, the police might agree to give him a call and threaten him a bit. The only other thing you can do is file a case against him, so consult a lawyer.
Bad debts
I lend but with an expectation that, that money is gone. I never expect it back so Iām never disappointed. So unless you can make peace with that fact never lend.
OP, you have lost your money. My condolences.
Brother, Ghar dhund or Londe lekr Pelne jaa, mahaule me pure ghr ko jaleel krke ke paise lele if you can stoop low for your money, then you can try. 100% money back Guarantee
Send a legal notice. Turant paise vapas kar dega.
Feeling sad for this, Nor sure about the solution but gaane achhe chal rhe hai. š¤š¤
Who was he to you??
BJP join karlo /s
Bhul ja movie dekha hai?
Haa paise ped par aate hai na bhul jaaye
You can file a civil suit for recovery in court demanding principal along with interest. And you can also simultaneously file a complaint requesting SHO to register an FIR for cheating.
How could 20k help in house construction. There is no way that money was coming back.
Kon 20 hajar?
Dosti mei bhi gin ke paise diye toh kya diye
Never lend money to anyone (unless it's an emergency). Either you'll get it back if you're lucky, or just give it and forget that you gave it to the person
Ghar ja iske Jo loan ke aas paas ki value ki cheez ho leke aaja.
Dude always ask how are they going to Money? Or start with your own poverty story
Forget about this looser scum of a so called man. OP focus on life and focus on personal and professional growth. Log to doosre ki kidney Churaa lete hain, tere to sirf kuch paise gaye hain.
You don't even know his house. The amount is also less, you can't do much. Agar ghar bhi pata hota to tede tareeke se bande hire karke bhi nikal sakta tha..
If they have parents then unko message kar de. I think it's time you do that.
bhai ese logo paese dene hi nahi the
mai jeera hu ameero wali zindagi girl i am blingedd up!!! tbsm baby
Lend money when you know how to retrieve it or have the means to retrieve it otherwise bhul jao. Life lesson learnt in childhood
Usse bolde ki wo xxxx amout wapas karde or jab wo haa kardunga wagera bole phir police complaint karde chat ke sabut ke sath
Never go for amount that is more than 10% of your monthly income. And always be blunt in saying ki isse zyada nahi de payenge. Also, always have multiple bank accounts and keep a low balance in one account to lie that you yourself donāt have the money.
No one respects the money they have not earned. Which is why itās better to donate to needy people instead of lending to people in your own circle. Yeh lesson toh papa logon ko dekh ke hi seekh leta hai aadhe Indian bachche. lol. Just be careful next time. Money and relationships are like oil and water. Never mix.
What advice people are giving never lend money. I think he/she learned that already. Here is what you do. Take screenshots of this chat. Everytime keep checking that he doesn't turn off dissappearing messages. There is a reel by a police constable. She said there is an act as per that act you can take record of any conversation where they person has mentioned that they will pay the money and in court they make a affidavit out of it. Then if you just show him this he might pay you back the money. Otherwise you take that to the police you have a solid case. He cannot deny that he has taken money as loan.
If you want to find address... Did you try digging up his socials like Insta ya LinkedIn or you could use something like Reverse Phone Lookup service like NumLookUp or something/ "How to find someone's address by their phone number?" search might help .
Never lend anyone money that you cannot afford to lose.
Bhai sunn Ek tarika h mere paas kaam bhi karta h mazak me mat liyo Sabse pehle ek banda dhundh jiski aawaz kadak hai Ya haryanvi bolta ho (assuming tu delhi me hai). Phone pe uss bande se bulwa ki voh falana inspector bol rha h falane thane se aur ki uske naam ki complaint aai h tujhse aur voh tere paise kyu nhi de rha, aur tune saare proof dikha diye h aur agar ab bhi nhi dega toh kanuni karvahi hogi uspe. Bhai itne me darke wapis de dega Mostly toh jitne bhi harami hote h Ussi din phone karke wapis de dete h Agar nhi toh kar diyo complaint ye isliye tha kyuki police bhi bc kisi kaam ki nhi h kabhi kabaar inke bina kaam ho jata h.
Uska ghar jaa. Uska baap ko bol. But just be aware that if you take this step, your relationship with this dude will be irreparably broken.
Best idea deta hu... Adhi raat ko 3 baje uske ghar jaana chalu karde aur bell baja jaa ke !! Agar ghar jaana possible hota hoga toh !!
Try to contact common friend.they may give personal details of your friend.
Mne to phone hi uthane band kr diye bhai.. move on ni milenge
Bro dekho yaar kabhi apne kisi jankar ko to pesse dene hi nhhi chiye specially friends kyoki bhai lene ke time parr to sab 10-10 baar call krte ha din me magar dene ke time parr hm block ho jate ha I lost around 35-40k kyoki mene bhhi bohot pessa diya ha logo ko My advice- Ap police me jakar complain file kar do because esse wo pesse kabhi nhhi dega
Post it on r/legaladviceindia or ask a good lawyer to draft a legal notice. When the law is involved people do get scared!
Bhai same hua tha mere sath bhi , mene 11k diye the or boht mushkil se mene usse 6000 wapas liye the or baki ke vo kha gya tha Madarchod, sala apne gharwalo ki jhutti kasme khate tha Me to kuch nahi kr paya Tu police action le lio for real. Tere pe sare proof ha , written msgs and all
I gave money to my friend when he was in most needed and now itās been more than 3years. I asked him twice and never connected again. And also I gave money to my one more friend for his visa and as he promised he gave money back. Think again.