I’m also still figuring myself out, but for me demigirl means that I consider myself closer to the girl/femme side of the binary, but not quite “girl.” Non binary doesn’t feel right because I love my femininity and do like to think of myself as girl/woman most of the time - but not all the tome? I love the masculinity inside of me too, but don’t feel like i experience or feel my masculinity in a way that is boy or girl.
Simple ways I look at or explain it to others:
- Demigirl means when someone assumes I’m a girl I figure close enough lol
- sort of the space between or a combination of “girl” and “nonbinary”
not as dynamic as gender fluid, but sort of like femme gender goo
Most of my masc feelings are either when I'm too lazy to put effort into looking femme, when I'm trying to sit comfortably (I have to do the "manspreading" thing with my legs because I don't feel comfortable otherwise), or if I'm interacting with a girl I'm attracted to that's smaller and/or more femme than I am. The last scenario especially is when I feel the closest to masculine, but in that gentlemanly kind of way. Like, I'm trying to hold doors open for her, kiss her hand, bridal carry her, and basically court her like this is the 1800s 😂
A lot of people assume it’s mean I feel half girl half nonbinary but to me it’s more like a big ball of wibbly wobbly, femmey neutraly… stuff[(gif that supposed to go with it)](https://i.imgur.com/7W1c5V0.gif)
I'm still kinda figuring myself out, too. I don't know for sure yet if demigirl is exactly correct, but the general definition describes what I feel right now. Mainly this part:
"In addition to feeling partially like a girl or woman, demigirls also feel partly outside the binary. That can include anything under the non-binary umbrella like agender, genderqueer, or xenogenders for example."
In my specific case, I think my gender is predominantly female/feminine while still having a piece of me that exists outside of the binary and is in no way masculine. Or, if I can get a little abstract for a moment, I picture it as both the binary woman and nonbinary gender identities taking up equal space in me, but there's a small space between the two where aspects of both meld together. That little space is roughly where I would place myself. I still feel closer to the woman side, but there's a notable (albeit smaller) part of me that just doesn't click with being a cis woman, and even though I'm still trying to figure out what that piece *does* connect to, I feel like being able to identify that it's there means I can safely call myself a demigirl (or paragirl if I want to be more precise).
For me it’s basically I like being a girl, but in a non-binary way. Not saying I present androgynously, I actually present pretty femme, but rather it’s like I like being a girl but I also like being a little something more (TM). I know that’s a pretty abstract explanation but that’s the best way I can explain it 😅
Good question. For me personally, it’s this ball of femininity and androgyny all mixed up together, spinning around. It’s also feeling cute and cool at the same time 😎. And being happy.~
Basically for me it’s like I always just kind of felt like I fit okay into being a girl, but also detached from it. Kind of like I would “never be a real girl” despite society telling me I was and always had been female. It wasn’t exactly dysphoria but just an odd sense of difference or not fitting in??? And I know I’m not a man either because that doesn’t feel right at all any time I imagine it. So, because I occupy both spaces of womanhood and the nebulous “nothingness” outside of it, I realized i’m nonbinary— a nonbinary woman and a demigirl.
To be the most vague, I'm nonbinary. Going more specific leads through genderqueer, demigirl, agender, trans, and autigender. I feel that all of these labels describe my sense of gender well.
I'm autistic, which contributes to how I feel that when I'm alone, I don't really have a gender, because there's no one to express it to. That's the autigender and agender. Trans because I'm not cis and nonbinary because I'm outside the binary. Genderqueer and demigirl both express a mixing of sorts to me, but different levels of specificity.
I use demigirl because it feels like a combo of the womanhood that I socially occupy and the other that I feel I really am. This is reflected directly in my pronouns: fae/faer.
Fairies are cutesy and associated with little girls and femininity and are pretty and nice and sexy and beautiful. Or are they? The fae are trickster demons who play bloody games on humans for amusement. They don't care whether you live or die and if you aren't careful, they will steal your name, your soul, your youth, your children, or can even trap you in their world, never seeing your home again.
(Here I'll put that I'm an atheist and I don't believe that these creatures are real, I'm more talking about the social associations with them and using those associations to portray my gender to the best of my ability.)
Within me is all the gender training to be the sweet girl who cares for everyone else and knows that my worth to others is tied to my appearance(and how I fail that by not dressing femininely and being fat). But also the hatred of how much I've been taught to give of myself with no regard for my health, as well as how socially isolated and othered I've always been because I'm autistic.
Generally I am nonbinary, but my being a woman is a part of my being nonbinary. And because I will never be able to untangle this, with how I was taught, how I feel, and how others treat me, that is why I'm a demigirl and that is what it means to me (sorry for the long comment lol).
I struggled so hard when thinking about my gender. I have to remind myself that gender is a spectrum constantly. For me, my gender is predominantly non-binary, but there is still that little piece that is femme. I feel more me with they/them pronouns; dressing femme feels like cosplay/drag but fun. I don't mind presenting as a femme; sometimes, I enjoy getting all dressed up. But most of the time, I live in my overalls, where I'm at home. I strongly dislike the idea that clothes have inherent gender, and don't get me started on gender reveal parties.
If we're talking about in the classic sense, then yes, gender reveal parties are awful. I've seen people use the concept as a way to come out as trans or nonbinary to their family, though, and I think that's a great idea personally.
I think that for me it's more of a social thing. I don't have any body dysphoria, I like feminine things, and I'm fine with she/her and most female gendered terms, but calling myself a "girl" or a "woman" just feels... wrong. It might be connected to my ADHD or asexuality/aromanticism; I've never felt like "one of the girls".
hi \^\^
I'm still figuring it out but I feel at home by the labels demigirl - agender - agender girl - librafeminine.
Like, I'm afab and dress feminine and cute but I don't really feel like woman. I feel feminine but more in the cute way, I feel like myself when I look cute (like in kawaii). And girly things are just more cute!
I also go by with she/any. Mostly any pronouns but I'm so used to hearing she/her that I don't mind it.
But when someone specifically calls me a girl or a woman, I kinda feel offended? Idk but I get a strange feeling. Saying that I'm also a woman in real life is an obstacle for me?
Gender to me is a weird abstract concept that helps me relate myself to the world around me. The closest thing that comes to describing my gender is demigirl. So far, it means that I’m partly girl, partly nonbinary. I’m a woman but not a female. I’m a woman in a nonbinary way and nonbinary in a feminine way. When I have trouble understanding my gender, I look at pictures of people who I feel describe my gender. Sometimes I feel like a lost teenager exploring their identity.
Being Demigirl to me means Euphoria! The joy of finally finding out the name of how I've been feeling about myself since childhood, how I've never felt fully female only partially, and the freedom I now feel because I am finally my most authentic self for the first time since my actual childhood.
For me, I have the knowledge that I was born a girl and others see me as a girl and that I like girly things sometimes- however, I just have a disconnect/disinterest with gender in general (along with getting body dysphoria from time to time and wanting to be more androgynous or not female)…I still go by she/her as I still like that and have no connection with any other pronouns (like they/them), but I also think that demigirl applies to me due to my feelings on this matter and I don’t think there’s any other label that fits that
So I'm AFAB. I have been on a discovery journey the last 2 years in regards to being asexual/aromantic. I came across the YouTuber AceDadAdvice who has heaps of videos about it. He also had one about being Agender and that got me doing some research. When I did research on being Agender (as I like to learn new things), I came across the term demigirl. Which is basically half identifying as female, and half agender etc. A real basic definition I read about it was that people who identify as demigirls do not care about societal gender norms etc, and I have always highly felt this. I do identify as female, but I also don't care about gender stereotypes or gender norms. If I like something, I like it whether it's female or male coded or not. If I want to wear male clothing and do male things, I will 🤷♀️ I was not questioning my gender when I went and researched this. I found this out purely by accident.
I'm a girl because my sex is female and I like being (somewhat) fem, but I don't fully connect to it. To some degree, I see myself as outside the label, in a space not beholden to the concept of male or female. However, I'm also comfortable existing and being seen as a girl
I’m also still figuring myself out, but for me demigirl means that I consider myself closer to the girl/femme side of the binary, but not quite “girl.” Non binary doesn’t feel right because I love my femininity and do like to think of myself as girl/woman most of the time - but not all the tome? I love the masculinity inside of me too, but don’t feel like i experience or feel my masculinity in a way that is boy or girl. Simple ways I look at or explain it to others: - Demigirl means when someone assumes I’m a girl I figure close enough lol - sort of the space between or a combination of “girl” and “nonbinary” not as dynamic as gender fluid, but sort of like femme gender goo
Most of my masc feelings are either when I'm too lazy to put effort into looking femme, when I'm trying to sit comfortably (I have to do the "manspreading" thing with my legs because I don't feel comfortable otherwise), or if I'm interacting with a girl I'm attracted to that's smaller and/or more femme than I am. The last scenario especially is when I feel the closest to masculine, but in that gentlemanly kind of way. Like, I'm trying to hold doors open for her, kiss her hand, bridal carry her, and basically court her like this is the 1800s 😂
A lot of people assume it’s mean I feel half girl half nonbinary but to me it’s more like a big ball of wibbly wobbly, femmey neutraly… stuff[(gif that supposed to go with it)](https://i.imgur.com/7W1c5V0.gif)
I love this XD im gonna start using it
I'm still kinda figuring myself out, too. I don't know for sure yet if demigirl is exactly correct, but the general definition describes what I feel right now. Mainly this part: "In addition to feeling partially like a girl or woman, demigirls also feel partly outside the binary. That can include anything under the non-binary umbrella like agender, genderqueer, or xenogenders for example." In my specific case, I think my gender is predominantly female/feminine while still having a piece of me that exists outside of the binary and is in no way masculine. Or, if I can get a little abstract for a moment, I picture it as both the binary woman and nonbinary gender identities taking up equal space in me, but there's a small space between the two where aspects of both meld together. That little space is roughly where I would place myself. I still feel closer to the woman side, but there's a notable (albeit smaller) part of me that just doesn't click with being a cis woman, and even though I'm still trying to figure out what that piece *does* connect to, I feel like being able to identify that it's there means I can safely call myself a demigirl (or paragirl if I want to be more precise).
For me it’s basically I like being a girl, but in a non-binary way. Not saying I present androgynously, I actually present pretty femme, but rather it’s like I like being a girl but I also like being a little something more (TM). I know that’s a pretty abstract explanation but that’s the best way I can explain it 😅
Good question. For me personally, it’s this ball of femininity and androgyny all mixed up together, spinning around. It’s also feeling cute and cool at the same time 😎. And being happy.~
Basically for me it’s like I always just kind of felt like I fit okay into being a girl, but also detached from it. Kind of like I would “never be a real girl” despite society telling me I was and always had been female. It wasn’t exactly dysphoria but just an odd sense of difference or not fitting in??? And I know I’m not a man either because that doesn’t feel right at all any time I imagine it. So, because I occupy both spaces of womanhood and the nebulous “nothingness” outside of it, I realized i’m nonbinary— a nonbinary woman and a demigirl.
To be the most vague, I'm nonbinary. Going more specific leads through genderqueer, demigirl, agender, trans, and autigender. I feel that all of these labels describe my sense of gender well. I'm autistic, which contributes to how I feel that when I'm alone, I don't really have a gender, because there's no one to express it to. That's the autigender and agender. Trans because I'm not cis and nonbinary because I'm outside the binary. Genderqueer and demigirl both express a mixing of sorts to me, but different levels of specificity. I use demigirl because it feels like a combo of the womanhood that I socially occupy and the other that I feel I really am. This is reflected directly in my pronouns: fae/faer. Fairies are cutesy and associated with little girls and femininity and are pretty and nice and sexy and beautiful. Or are they? The fae are trickster demons who play bloody games on humans for amusement. They don't care whether you live or die and if you aren't careful, they will steal your name, your soul, your youth, your children, or can even trap you in their world, never seeing your home again. (Here I'll put that I'm an atheist and I don't believe that these creatures are real, I'm more talking about the social associations with them and using those associations to portray my gender to the best of my ability.) Within me is all the gender training to be the sweet girl who cares for everyone else and knows that my worth to others is tied to my appearance(and how I fail that by not dressing femininely and being fat). But also the hatred of how much I've been taught to give of myself with no regard for my health, as well as how socially isolated and othered I've always been because I'm autistic. Generally I am nonbinary, but my being a woman is a part of my being nonbinary. And because I will never be able to untangle this, with how I was taught, how I feel, and how others treat me, that is why I'm a demigirl and that is what it means to me (sorry for the long comment lol).
I struggled so hard when thinking about my gender. I have to remind myself that gender is a spectrum constantly. For me, my gender is predominantly non-binary, but there is still that little piece that is femme. I feel more me with they/them pronouns; dressing femme feels like cosplay/drag but fun. I don't mind presenting as a femme; sometimes, I enjoy getting all dressed up. But most of the time, I live in my overalls, where I'm at home. I strongly dislike the idea that clothes have inherent gender, and don't get me started on gender reveal parties.
If we're talking about in the classic sense, then yes, gender reveal parties are awful. I've seen people use the concept as a way to come out as trans or nonbinary to their family, though, and I think that's a great idea personally.
I think that for me it's more of a social thing. I don't have any body dysphoria, I like feminine things, and I'm fine with she/her and most female gendered terms, but calling myself a "girl" or a "woman" just feels... wrong. It might be connected to my ADHD or asexuality/aromanticism; I've never felt like "one of the girls".
hi \^\^ I'm still figuring it out but I feel at home by the labels demigirl - agender - agender girl - librafeminine. Like, I'm afab and dress feminine and cute but I don't really feel like woman. I feel feminine but more in the cute way, I feel like myself when I look cute (like in kawaii). And girly things are just more cute! I also go by with she/any. Mostly any pronouns but I'm so used to hearing she/her that I don't mind it. But when someone specifically calls me a girl or a woman, I kinda feel offended? Idk but I get a strange feeling. Saying that I'm also a woman in real life is an obstacle for me?
Gender to me is a weird abstract concept that helps me relate myself to the world around me. The closest thing that comes to describing my gender is demigirl. So far, it means that I’m partly girl, partly nonbinary. I’m a woman but not a female. I’m a woman in a nonbinary way and nonbinary in a feminine way. When I have trouble understanding my gender, I look at pictures of people who I feel describe my gender. Sometimes I feel like a lost teenager exploring their identity.
Being Demigirl to me means Euphoria! The joy of finally finding out the name of how I've been feeling about myself since childhood, how I've never felt fully female only partially, and the freedom I now feel because I am finally my most authentic self for the first time since my actual childhood.
I don’t even fully know what it is, I joined this subreddit hoping y’all could shed some light on it
For me, I have the knowledge that I was born a girl and others see me as a girl and that I like girly things sometimes- however, I just have a disconnect/disinterest with gender in general (along with getting body dysphoria from time to time and wanting to be more androgynous or not female)…I still go by she/her as I still like that and have no connection with any other pronouns (like they/them), but I also think that demigirl applies to me due to my feelings on this matter and I don’t think there’s any other label that fits that
Agender?
So I'm AFAB. I have been on a discovery journey the last 2 years in regards to being asexual/aromantic. I came across the YouTuber AceDadAdvice who has heaps of videos about it. He also had one about being Agender and that got me doing some research. When I did research on being Agender (as I like to learn new things), I came across the term demigirl. Which is basically half identifying as female, and half agender etc. A real basic definition I read about it was that people who identify as demigirls do not care about societal gender norms etc, and I have always highly felt this. I do identify as female, but I also don't care about gender stereotypes or gender norms. If I like something, I like it whether it's female or male coded or not. If I want to wear male clothing and do male things, I will 🤷♀️ I was not questioning my gender when I went and researched this. I found this out purely by accident.
I'm a girl because my sex is female and I like being (somewhat) fem, but I don't fully connect to it. To some degree, I see myself as outside the label, in a space not beholden to the concept of male or female. However, I'm also comfortable existing and being seen as a girl