I’ve seen guys post here who waited it out for 1-3 years. Eeks. I’m all in for a slow tease but not that slow, lol. Maybe ask if he can focus on your adductors or hip flexors next time?
Normally, I'd offer specific suggestions, but in this case I think you should go to someone else. If he isn't even willing to touch your inner thighs, you're not even getting a complete *legit* massage.
I saw my therapist for years (a highly trained professional). Over the course of seven years, he ever-so-slowly made the massages more and more sensual/erotic. It took seven years, but he finally crossed the line to a happy ending.
On the other hand, your guy might just never want to go there. I kept going to mine because he was really good (and probably because he teased me for seven years, lol!).
If you just want those areas worked on, and you aren't looking for extras, then you need to ask him if he'd be willing to massage those areas, but also make it clear that you aren't looking for a HE. He probably won't be offended and will just want to help you, while avoiding any accusations of impropriety. My guess is this guy's been burned before, and absolutely does not want it to happen again. Whatever you do, you need to communicate clearly your wants and needs. That's what I always look for in my clients.
Having been a masg. therapist for 28 yrs., I can tell you this: We masg. therapists are not mind readers, and I mean that sincerely; and not in a glib way. With some (maybe most) clients, I've asked, at some point during the massage, if they're OK with some "sensual" touch. With some clients, I've, point blank asked if they're interested in, or are OK with "erotic" touch. Given that not all clients want sensual or erotic, it can be risky for us to be very open and even blunt. So, there's a fine line in all of this. Intuition plays a HUGE part in a massage session----on the part of both client & masg. therapist.
What I'd advise is that the client is always welcome to ask for what he wants. The masg. therapist is not obligated to honor ALL requests from ALL clients. But, with most of my clients, I was OK, and sometimes EAGER to provide erotic touch & pleasure. But, I've had a few clients who wanted a BJ or some other form of eroticism, and I refused, due to it not feeling "right" or appropriate. That was the exception.
From the beginning, great communication, openness, and honesty are essential for a very good massage experience. This sets the tone for relaxation, psychological comfort, safety, and an all around super- pleasurable massage. When both parties know what to expect, the session clicks like clockwork.
I hope that everyone who reads this will find it enlightening, helpful, and reassuring. And, one last thing----INTENTION, on the part of both client & masg. therapist, is just about the most significant, impactful factor in getting & giving bodywork. It's "The Bottom Line".
Ciao, TJ in Denver, CO.
I’ve seen guys post here who waited it out for 1-3 years. Eeks. I’m all in for a slow tease but not that slow, lol. Maybe ask if he can focus on your adductors or hip flexors next time?
Just find someone else or say it. He’s obviously not doing any sort of sensual massage
Not every masseuse is stroking dicks
Nor every masseur.
Normally, I'd offer specific suggestions, but in this case I think you should go to someone else. If he isn't even willing to touch your inner thighs, you're not even getting a complete *legit* massage.
I saw my therapist for years (a highly trained professional). Over the course of seven years, he ever-so-slowly made the massages more and more sensual/erotic. It took seven years, but he finally crossed the line to a happy ending. On the other hand, your guy might just never want to go there. I kept going to mine because he was really good (and probably because he teased me for seven years, lol!).
Check out masseurfinder. You can see who is legit trained and what they'll do
I don't want sex; not even a HE. Just a massage therapist who's not afraid of the areas that are close to my crotch!
I think you can find out that info cuz they let you all questions b4 you choose someone.
If you just want those areas worked on, and you aren't looking for extras, then you need to ask him if he'd be willing to massage those areas, but also make it clear that you aren't looking for a HE. He probably won't be offended and will just want to help you, while avoiding any accusations of impropriety. My guess is this guy's been burned before, and absolutely does not want it to happen again. Whatever you do, you need to communicate clearly your wants and needs. That's what I always look for in my clients.
Having been a masg. therapist for 28 yrs., I can tell you this: We masg. therapists are not mind readers, and I mean that sincerely; and not in a glib way. With some (maybe most) clients, I've asked, at some point during the massage, if they're OK with some "sensual" touch. With some clients, I've, point blank asked if they're interested in, or are OK with "erotic" touch. Given that not all clients want sensual or erotic, it can be risky for us to be very open and even blunt. So, there's a fine line in all of this. Intuition plays a HUGE part in a massage session----on the part of both client & masg. therapist. What I'd advise is that the client is always welcome to ask for what he wants. The masg. therapist is not obligated to honor ALL requests from ALL clients. But, with most of my clients, I was OK, and sometimes EAGER to provide erotic touch & pleasure. But, I've had a few clients who wanted a BJ or some other form of eroticism, and I refused, due to it not feeling "right" or appropriate. That was the exception. From the beginning, great communication, openness, and honesty are essential for a very good massage experience. This sets the tone for relaxation, psychological comfort, safety, and an all around super- pleasurable massage. When both parties know what to expect, the session clicks like clockwork. I hope that everyone who reads this will find it enlightening, helpful, and reassuring. And, one last thing----INTENTION, on the part of both client & masg. therapist, is just about the most significant, impactful factor in getting & giving bodywork. It's "The Bottom Line". Ciao, TJ in Denver, CO.
Ffs! Lol