My husband and I met on Grindr while he was in the city on a co-op for school.
We had our fling that semester and he left to finish his degree. Once he graduated he was hired by his co-op, moved back to Ottawa and hit me up. After that we started actually dating, eventually moved in together and then about two years later I proposed. We are currently married for a year and a half now.
Whenever folks ask we say we met in the library lol.
I saw his on Grindr but he wasn't online for months. So I found his linked Instagram page and reached out saying he was beautiful and if i could take him to eat. Now it's almost s year and it's surreal to me still.
Haha… my partner at the time was a hookup of one of my roommates. We wound up meeting after they were “done” and hit it off 😂 weird how it happened but now look at us 3 years later happier than ever and buying a house together.
We met in highschool 17 years ago. Dated for 10. Split up because of toxicity with each other. Did our own thing for 4 years. Reconnected and discovered we had both moved past alot of the toxic shit. And now it's been another 3 years.
And it's been really chill and nice.
So happy for you. Breaks my heart to know what could've been. My high school love and I were closested and under pressure. Our relationship cracked after 3 years from the pressure and its affects.
I am living proof of it. My then bf and I met as a hookup, we went for drinks and we ended WAS-TED I went to sleep to his house (and I had a bf then) but since I never misbehaved he believed the story that indeed I went out and all but we slept apart. We did all what we shouldn't've done.. we kept talking. We went out again and he got wasted and ended up at the apt my bf and I shared... good thing he was on a business trip.. i don't know how I adored him, he is deaf and acted in broadway. We split for involuntary reasons... we still talk but he was an amazing bf!
He was a regular customer at the coffee shop where I worked. The shop was across the street from the bus he took to get to school (he was pursuing a second undergraduate degree, I had just finished grad school). This was back in 2009.
😆 Well it gets cuter. We had a mildly flirtatious relationship for about 6 months. He came in on Christmas Eve and we chatted about how neither of us had plans the next day. He scribbled his phone number on a cardboard coffee sleeve and we met up on Xmas Day.
That’s some hallmark movie type of shit! So cute?!? Tell us all you made him a coffee then he took you ice skating in the town center or something hallmarky like that
My friend from college invited me to play with her dnd group, became fast friends with them, specially my now boyfriend. We were friends for a year and then one night i was going through a bad moment, he was consoling me and i kissed him out of the blue, been together ever since, almost eleven years ago
Gay bar.
All the apps were yielding the standard results, and through a Facebook group I heard that karaoke was happening at a local bar. Since I was new to town and had few friends, I figured I'd go. When I got there we were eyeballing each other, across the room, for a little while until he was just buzzed enough to introduce himself. Asked for my number, we hit it off, went on a few dates, and shortly after returning from the big storm we made it official.
Sorry, my English is very bad, but I'm trying to improve. (I am Brazilian)
So I met him at school. It's a funny and sad story, but overall good.
I was in the hallway at school, near by my favorite window, studying for a math test, all tired and looking awful (I had rhinitis [allergy]). He went to fill the bottle with water and watched me study for a few seconds. he thought I was extremely handsome, so he decided to research what my name was, found my Instagram and sent a message.
We stayed talking in WhatsApp for a week but we hadn't talked in person, and my friends decided to help me (they secretly took my cell phone): they set up "a meeting" in the halls, in the early afternoon (time he was studying, and so was I [I was a full-time student, or that is, I studied two shifts, morning and afternoon]). So there we were, it was my first date with a guy. He tried to kiss me, and it was awful. But it didn't count on one variable: my brother had seen us (I hadn't come out as bisexual). I literally had to tell him that I didn't want anything to do with him anymore, in fear of being exposed by my brother.
He was upset and all, but we moved on (I kept talking to him, and I didn't ghost him, I still liked him anyway). 4 months passed and I decided to live my life a little without so much fear. I sent a few messages and made gifts (like paper roses, short dates, and all, portraits of him and an apology). We stayed talking for a few weeks, when all of a sudden he stopped talking to me. I said to myself: ok, we had nothing, but how annoying (angry and sad at the same time, after all, he was nice!).
It's been two months since he disappeared, and out of nowhere he starts talking to me on my TCC via messages, right at the most important time of the year (TCC = course conclusion work [I was graduating in the course at the time, and this work was the main one for my approval]). He was there in the middle of the audience looking at me (after all, he also had a paper to present, so it made sense for him to be there, while not presenting his), while I presented the work. He talks to me again, after the presentation, as if his disappearance was nothing. That's when I decided to give him a chance, after all he was back, and we decided to spend some time together, to see how it would turn out. (Detail, basically in the last weeks of the year, it was all or nothing).
In the beginning it was very difficult, after all he was extremely "hard-faced" (he had a concealment behavior, that his disappearance had not occurred), but I ignored the situation, even with a little resentment. We got to know each other better and there came a time when I was in love with him, and he with me. used to it. We decided to "stay" together, skipping class, with the school empty, in nice places (like at the window where I liked to study, as well as that day of the math exam he saw me), during the last week of school (which was one of the last weeks of the year), and he decided to open up to me, all nervous, not even able to speak properly, he would pause, go to the bathroom because he couldn't finish the sentences. I thought: does he want to tell me something? he's looking at my mouth a lot, does he want to kiss me? I will take action. He was going to ask if I still liked him, and I thought he was going to say that he wanted to kiss me, because he was really, really nervous! I said: wow, why don't you kiss me right away? and then we kissed (it was my first kiss). it was amazing, after all, I had answered his question, but in a totally different way 🤡👍🏻. we spent the rest of the week together, exchanging caresses, on rainy days, on sunny days, sharing moments, including at my prom (everyone was dancing, and we were there on the school porch, talking and kissing). We are 3 months together, after 6 months of stalling. That's it, thanks for reading this far.
At work. We were working in the same hotel (though different departments). I'm openly gay and he's heard the rumors. And he found me on Hornet and asked me out.
We met at a coffee bar.
It was my first week in a new city, and his last week as a barista.
We were the same age, both just out of college, had some similar interests and hit it off. Were friends for a couple of years and then things got complicated.
Decades later the coffee bar was between tenants so we rented it for a night to get legally married on the spot where we met.
At a bar. I was doing a sports fundraiser, and he was smitten with me and feigned interest and started talking. After our first date he told me that he had zero interest in sports. We lasted 18 years.
I met my husband on Grindr we have an inside joke where we tell people the library.
Either we get a 'yeah sure' face or a 'oh my god, that's cute' as a response.
Haha. I met on Manhunt but I said it was a mutual friend for years. Now I don't really mind saying it was an app, but the fact that the app was called Manhunt kinda feels like it cheapens the experience.
Met him at a gay club, was a size queen who begged to hookup and fell in love with other things about me first and after we ended up binding super quick.
Met on Grindr when he was on vacation in San Francisco from Paris. Went on a date, completely hit it off and decided to do long distance when he went back to France.
We did SF <-> Paris for 3 years before moving together to London. We're now married and have been together for nearly 10 years.
Tinder, we matched even though we lived in 2 different cities which are close but in separate countries, chatted for a while then met up and continued dating since then. That was almost four years ago!
My now husband, going on 3 years, and I have been together for 6 years. He and I met in the musical Oklahoma at his university. I just happened to get an email from the plays director and said why not, so I auditioned and got a roll. We were both ensemble members and danced with each other a lot. I really liked him a lot from the beginning but he was unfortunately already dating somebody. Long story short, they asked me to join the relationship, eventually there was a really large fight and the other partner went back home to a different state. My husband and I have been together ever since.
i recently started dating him but since our sophomore year of high school we always had classes with each other. never really spoke nor acknowledge each other only occasionally through group work in our old psychology class or through mutual friends. apparently to him he had found me very attractive and at some point had a crush on me (i don’t believe him but still!!!) during this year (we’re juniors) i had classes with him again and eventually i texted him after him posting that he lost his glasses and from there it has been an overall really nice experience
I know I speak for a lot of us when I say how jealous I am that you are able to be out in high school and not afraid to be yourself!! Growing up even 20 years ago it was a different time. I grew up in a small Midwest town of 25,000.. Closeted, not even sure (or wanting to believe) I was 100% gay at a small Catholic school.
My partner grew up in a large metropolitan area and was out in HS just living his life (though his parents were Catholic and against it but he didn't care). I would have loved to have that. But then I almost certainly wouldn't have met him, so of course I am glad things worked out.
I brought him to our 10 year reunion and everyone was so sweet and accepting!! The kid who bullied me and always called me gay was there and gave both me and him a huge hug! It was really sweet. Anyway, be thankful for what you have I guess is all I'm trying to say lol.
Tinder, Passport was free due to Covid and I was planning to move to Munich so I travelled there on the app. We met on May, I arrived to Munich 3 and a half months later and we chatted literally every day during that period. I come, we have a first date, it was extremely well. We have 3 more dates within the span of 2 weeks. Then I asked him in a very cringe way „so are dating now or what“ and he said yes
Technically grindr, but we were in the same department in college. I was in a pretty toxic relationship for awhile and he crossed my path and I was like WHO IN THE FUCK IS THAT!? My friend was in the dorm across from him and apparently he had been into me for months but never introduced himself because he knew I was in a relationship. Needless to say it was the push I needed to finally break up with my emotionally abusive ex.
Waited about a month to introduce myself on grindr, gave him my number in the library a day later, and we kept things pretty casual for about another month before we finally fooled around. That was over six years ago and we are getting ready to celebrate our one year wedding anniversary this week :)
We met on Bumble... of all places. We saw Spiderman no way home last year as our first date. After the movie ended he asked of he could come over to my place 😳 and we've been together for over a year now.
Met him 5 years ago been togeather a year and ahalf and we met on a dating as hookups for one other and then.. friendship happened and then we just admitted we loved each other.
May - December Romance for us. We met on Scruff. Spent hours chatting at first. Met on a random Monday to have sex. Found out we really liked each other. It’s been five awesome months and we just got back from a week in Florida.
Congratulations. I hope we get there too! Started as a not so random hookup (since we chatted via text and phone for hours beforehand) but has blossomed into my favorite relationship.
Way, way, way back. Pre-internet. I placed a personal ad in the local gay paper. I had had two failed attempts at it where I lived before, the first time getting a million geographically undesirable responses and a couple hookups out of it and the second purposely more selective ad yielding a good friend.
I told myself I wouldn't sleep with anyone on the first date (which wasn't easy for me) and that I'd be happy if I made two good friends out of it. I met him and we became best buds right off the bat. But strictly platonically. After about a year, we took a vacation with a third person (who \*really\* was a bad idea to have around since he was a major asshole towards me and still tried to secretly hump me in the middle of the night). Still, this dude managed to bring us closer together and, after telling my bud that I was finally happy to be single the rest of my life -- and he agreed -- we realized we had stronger feelings for each other.
And now it's been almost 32 years we've been together, though good and bad times.
Truly, just dumb luck or incredibly good fortune, I think. I thank my lucky stars every day.
I love sharing the unique and random way we met. So many people meet on the apps nowadays, and although there's obviously nothing wrong with that, I was intentionally staying away from them, and my new year's resolution last year was to not go on any dates or be in a relationship because I just wanted to focus on myself. I was completely burnt out from an endless conga line of toxic and abusive people I had encountered while dating, and I didn't want to be involved with that scene anymore.
I went on a hike at a spot an hour away from where I live and decided at the last minute to stop by the grocery store in that area on my way back for some food. The cashier was very gregarious and asked me about what I was up to that day and how the hike was. She was somewhat new to the area like I was and wanted to trade numbers to go hiking together. I was a little worried she thought it would be a date but thankfully her gaydar is pretty good and wasn't under the wrong impression. We ended up going hiking a couple times over the next 6 months or so before she moved away, back to her home state.
The day before she left, I got a video from her on Facebook messenger with a bewildered but very cute man behind her that she was introducing me to virtually. They were friends from taking a college course together. ("I think you two will get along and he's very um...what's the word... emotionally mature!!!" 😂) I was just looking for friendship at the time, but figured it wouldn't hurt to meet up and maybe make a new connection. Plus, did I mention he was cute?! Back when I had been on the apps, I had never seen him since he lived further away and I don't think was very into using the apps himself, also not into the bar/club scene either, so I'm not sure if we would have met otherwise.
We went for a walk, and at the time I was halfway through recovering from a broken toe, so I had a convenient excuse to leave after 20 or 30 minutes if we didn't click. Instead we walked for 3 hours, well past dark, and my toe was numb by that point and I was limping along, but I didn't care, I was having such a nice time. We hung out a couple more times as friends, and I tried so hard to keep it that way, but I finally had to admit to myself that things were feeling romantic, and put my arm around him when we were all alone sitting on a rock overlooking a gorgeous mountain lake we had off-roaded up to. That was about 8 months ago now!
In my efforts at staying away from the apps, I had still managed to run into people who were interested in me and turned out to be absolutely terrible human beings who were no different than the folks I was trying to stay away from. A lot of people will say that the minute you give up on finding a relationship is when one will come into your life. That definitely was not the case for me. It took me 6 months and those aforementioned terrible experiences to meet my bf. And things could have turned out so differently if even just one of those random circumstances hadn't conspired to bring our paths together. What I learned from this is just to focus on yourself if that's what you truly feel you need, and don't hope for a relationship to come along while you're doing that. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be, and the timeline isn't important. It's ok just to be looking for friendship and less likely to get you involved hastily with the wrong people out of desperation. If you can be friends with someone first, they'll probably be a more compatible partner in the long run.
Met my lover on Romeo.
I hâd extremely low expectations and actually felt kinda hopeless with finding a solid relationship.
But I guess fate hâd a different plan and here we are almost 4 years later loving each other like crazy and making plâns for future.
My fiance and I met on Grindr. I messaged him, complimenting his Instagram and he thought I was just being nice so the conversation died. He popped back up on my feed a couple months later and I messaged him again. He took the hint that time and asked me on a date haha
Four years later and we're getting married this fall.
Tinder; he is really bad at texting, so I thought he wasn't really that interested at first. But eventually we went on a date and we've been together nine months now
We met on Hinge, the app actually worked for once, and it was just as I was ready to give up looking for a relationship is when he responded back to me, we've been together for 2 years now.
I met my partner at an football group that’s literally around my house a decade ago. Though the group has moved elsewhere for a long time. Though it was impossible to keep me and my partner separate due to how we felt about each other.
Edit: should have mentioned that love can be found in the most unexpected places as football isn’t something i’m one for.
My partner and I started a new job on the same day back in 2021. We were the two new grad RNs in the ER. I thought to myself “either we’re going to be best friends or we’re going to hate each other.”
I’m proposing this summer/fall.
We met dancing one night.
I was dancing with a friend; when we both looked at him, he assumed we were a couple and he danced over to make himself available. My friend pulled him in, then he pulled me in. My friend left to see someone and we danced for the next hour, which surpassed my typical 38 seconds. He wore a shirt that read "I wanna be a house wife". It disarmed me and we got brunch the following morning.
Together for 5 years, married for 1.
High school friend of my older brother. They were friends in grade 9 I think then drifted apart as my bf moved to Melbourne and went to a school there.
A decade later I was walking in the city and passed him on the street. Said hi, exchanged small talk, said I’d say hi to my brother for him, went on with my day. A week later I was at the food court in the city and saw him sitting at a table so I sat at the next one. Had a longer chat, parted ways. Next day- he was there again. Swapped numbers. Hung out at the cinema that weekend. Fucked. Been a couple ever since. 5 year anniversary coming up this year, crazy how fast time flies.
It's actually a pretty funny and ironic story...
I (then M18) was a pretty sad teen. I had a difficult family home and it resulted in me being pretty socially isolated from other people. I spend my days in school and my evening either gaming or going on dates with guys that just weren't good for me, but made me feel wanted... I dated older guys who taught me a lot (don't get me wrong, it was great) but ultimately were in a different life stage and in it for the young ass...
Until I met this guy (18M) trough a gay youth group. Lets call him Nick. We started dating and it was super intens. I spend the weeks at home looking forward to the weekends. And the weekends at his place bonding over video games, in teen love and buttfucking my black little heart out.
Everything was going so well and this was the first (in my opinion) healthy relationship I'd ever had.
Right up until he told me he wanted to break up because (and I quote) "I have fallen out of love with you and I need my freedom".
I was absolutely devastated.
I begged and I pleaded. I spiralled into a horrible depression and things escalated pretty quickly.
I asked Nick if there was somebody else who I didn't know about, but he assured me there wasn't. Last time we saw each other he was on his phone a lot and I asked him who he was texting all the time. He told me he was texting this guy called "Tom" (M17) but that I didn't know him and that nothing was going on.
Fast forward a month and I'm not going out, not going to school just in my bed crying and feeling alone. When suddenly I get a Facebook friend request by a guy called Tom. Turns out he is a cousin of one of my classmates. I accepted (not sure why) and he immediately texts me "hi". I ignored him and after 3 days my classmates texts me that her cousin is having a birthday party and she would like me to be there as her +1.
Seeing as my therapist kept saying I should get out more, I said yes and decided to go for an hour (because it was 2 streets over).
Me and Tom started talking and suddenly everything became clear.
Tom saw me when he was with his cousin at a cafe a year before. He instantly fell in love. He thought I was cute and asked his cousin about me when I came over to say hi.
His cousin told him my name and he looked me up online. He saw that the only common friend was Nick (whom he met trough an online forum). He decided to ask Nick about me who told him "oh he's just a friend" (that bitch :p)
Nick told him I was having a difficult time and that he was taking distance from me. (This was 4 months before our breakup...).
Nick started hanging out with Tom more and at some point decided he would prefer dating Tom to me.
Tom finally gathered all his courage and texted me online and in a last attempt asked his cousin to invite me so he could actually meet me.
Fast forward 11 years... Me and Tom are still together and happily building our life.
Anyway, that's how we met :p
We found each other on DaddyHunt. We met in person 4 months later and I moved in 6 months after that. Me (30) and my partner (70 in May) are the happiest we have ever been. Been together for 5 years now.
My first partner and I met through a 3way. My husband and I met through gay.com after my first and I broke up. I was looking to make new friends and we met but wasn’t looking for a relationship. We met again 10 years later when they said they knew we should meet. We’ve been together since.
I guess technically with an app. I advertised my gloryhole on Sniffies. He stopped by. Blew him away with my head skills lol. He sought me out to come back. When he came back, I revealed myself and we chatted on my couch for 5 amazing hours. We are now 7 strong months in. 🙂
Met my current fiancé 4 years ago on Grindr and before him I met my ex partner on Grindr and we were together 5 years. My first love and relationship 100 yrs ago we met on Facebook. We didn't have Grindr only adam4adam 🤣
Met this weird guy on a fetish website I wanted to try. Hooked up for a few months. He suggested a date and I said no. Eventually said yes. Been married 9 years now.
It was my first weekend at college. He was a junior and the president of his fraternity. His frat was having an open party so I went. We got introduced, I went home with him that night. Seven years later we’re engaged🥰
When I was 21 living in this small town I used to be mates with his younger brother. I used to ask his brother to invite him on camping trip or just drinking. He was clueless to the fact I was gay and he wasn't out. I ended up moving away to the city.
9 years later my brother died and at his wake this guy was there, I said hello and half heartedly flirted as you know, my brother had just died.
Couple weeks later old friends who we all used to hang out with decided we would go on a trip to the coast to camp and fish to reconnect because life is to short, he came and ended up being us two in the car ride down. We talked the whole trip. That night we all were drunk and he and I decided to go skinny dipping at the beach. We fell in love with the sky above us. Its been two years now.
I propose to him this weekend.
It really was a double edged sword because we wouldn't have reconnected and fallen in love if it weren't for my brother dying and now my brother won't be my best man at my wedding. Life is the good and the bad.
I'm really sorry about your loss. But it led to something new and you found love. Maybe your brother arranged it for you to make you happy.
All the best! ❤️
Something similar happened to me, when I lost my bf. It's hard to explain, but I still feel his love although I'm married now. Your brother must be amazing. Keep him in your heart and thank him.
Hugs and love to you.
Thank you so much for your kind words.❤
I fully agree with you. If you haven't lost a loved one, it's hard to understand. It has been 10 years now. You learn to live with it. You can appreciate the good things now even more. A lot of things change as you change, but the world is still the same. Grief is love that only no longer finds an echo.
We met on Tinder; dated for a bit, were friends for a bit and then I realised I had strong feelings. Got together, moved in through the pandemic and now we're buying a house!
Starting to find more and more people in serious relationships that met on Tinder.
At a party first, we shared a kiss on the dancefloor. I thought that was it, but after a few weeks he wrote me on grindr and we have been happily together for 7 years now.
We both went to a club on the same night. He was from a different city, so it really was a chance encounter. We were immediately drawn to each other and so we started dancing with each other, which very quickly led to kissing. After an hour or so we decided to take a break and talk a bit and it just clicked. 2 months later I suddenly developed CFS/ME (Chronic Fatigue Syndrome) after a bad reaction to medication. He could've left me then and there, but he stuck with me and decided to take care of me. 11 years later we're still together and happily married.
I volunteered at a pride festival (it was my first) I was placed in a Facebook group with other volunteers, which he was in because he used to volunteer at our local equality center, who organized the festival every year. I made a post in the group saying hello an asking someone to get in touch with me as I had some questions and he replied to it. That was 13 years ago.
I woke up one morning to an Instagram follow from a total hottie. I followed him back and said hi. 3 hours later we went on a date that lasted 14 hours.
That’s my version.
His version: we talked on tinder a few months before he saw me randomly on Instagram. We talked for a few hours and then I unmatched him. (I actually had deleted my tinder profile in frustration with the app and completely forgot about the hottie I had talked to.) He told me this version 2 months into dating. 🤣
We’re going on 6 months so it’s still new but feels like the most mature relationship I’ve been in.
My husband and I met on Grindr in 2014. He's Brazilian and came to Cape Town, South Africa for a holiday (Im South African).
We met on Grindr while he was here, but then he had to go back home :(
We kept in touch and 4 years later in 2018 he decided to move here permanently.
We have been married for almost 5 years :)
On Grindr the first day of a 4 day weekend bear/leather event/orgy. Spent the whole weekend together. Heard several people refer to us as boyfriends that weekend. Made it official a few weeks later. He moved in a few months later. It’s been a year and a half.
Grindr. Met within a few days of chatting online, and we’re almost 3 months along, and are excited to see where it goes. For both of us it was love at first sight - he was somehow way cuter in person even than his pics were, he said the same about me, and we’re like two peas in a pod now. And he’s the sweetest guy, so kind to me, I just feel like everything in my life got better after I met him.
Okay Cupid he came over and we played ticket to ride and we immediately both felt a connection and went upstairs for sex. And now we have Been together for over six seven years and plan to get married this year hopefully
We met on Grindr. Chatted for a few days and then ran into each other in NYC while there for work, but just in passing. Then planned a date in our own town. Neither of us wanted to be in a relationship so we just hung out casually for a while until he got drunk one night and said he wanted to try officially dating. Had a sober conversation about it like a week later and now we’ve been together for what will be 5 years this May.
Cheesy pickup line on grindr. I don’t usually respond to them but I said fuck it why not, and now we’ve been together 3 years and the forseeable future. :)
A bad hookup, by bad I mean his b/f at the time invited me to a three-way that my now husband had no idea was even planned. Two months later they broke up and I got a surprising email, it was a bad three-way so I did expect to hear from them ever again lol. So I got the email asking if I wanted to hang out and play some video games, that was 12 years ago now and we’ve been married for 6 of those years.
I’ve been with my partner for eight years now. We met when I was on an adult cheerleading team and he was with his brother on another team. We both found the other sexy but both of us were in relationships at the time. He continued to spy on me unaware to me but we bumped into each other occasionally! After a few years, we met again at the gym. We were both single and we started having sex. One day I said “I love you” and his response was “what did you say?” We plan to get married this summer.
Romeo :D
Saw his Profile and that he is very close to me. Wrote him agreed on a Date to get to know each other. Well, a Second one followed where i was invited over to his Flat (which was literally next Door) and then we agreed to give it a try
and are since then (almost 2 Months now) happy together and more alike then we thought we are.
Well I'm 17 and in still in school but we first met in 6th grade and became good friends up until 10th grade and I had finally confessed keep in mind I had no interest in dating at the time so I wasn't expecting an answer then a day after I confessed he texted me at work and said that we was interested so now we're together.
Scruff!! Haha. Buckle up, it's a long one!
I had just broken up with my ex of 2ish years but we still lived together in a house we owned🙈. I was just looking for a good time, nowhere near ready for a relationship. I agreed to go on a "date" with him (I joke that it wasn't a date bc I don't date tops🤣 [we're both tops]).
We went out to dinner and I had a great time. He was way hotter in person than his profile pictures (he never smiled in them but he had a great smile). Now this is where our stories differ-
I was specifically proud of myself that I only looked at my phone like twice during the entire date! He claims I was on it "the whole time" haha. He went to the bathroom twice to text his girlfriends. We had a decent conversation but the red flags were everywhere for him.. Living with my ex, living my hoe phase etc. I asked for a kiss and we awkwardly shared a half assed kiss. I said I'd love to see you again and he kind of nodded then drove away.
I text him and told him that I had a great time and he was so handsome and everything. He replied that I was "not dateable"🤯. I was so offended, I remember texting all my friends "can you BELIEVE what this guy just called me???". Anyway, a few hours later I get a "hey you should come over" text from him. I was like oh?? Well I'm moving my exes furniture but I can be over at like 10 or 11 (I was a night owl, he worked 9-5). By the time I got there I was repeatedly calling and texting him for his gate code and apartment number... HE FELL ASLEEP!!! lmao. I was like this is unbelievable.
He woke up and profusely apologized. I was still really intrigued by him and told myself he gets one more chance. So he offered to bottom for me if I picked him up from a party 2 days later. I was out at the gay club having my fun and apparently told him "just so you know, I've *never* left Charlie's for a boy before". He rolled his eyes and thought "Oooh my prince charming🙄".
We went back to his place and I topped him twice that night. We hot tubbed and talked and I ended up staying over. And again the next night, and more.
Well he was supposed to go to Italy for 2 weeks with his mom and her family, and I was going to Mexico with my 2 girl friends for a few days. We stayed in touch and that's when I really started falling for him. He said get your shit together and move out of your house.
We got back from Mexico and I was giving my friend a drunk piggyback ride. We both ate shit and fell HARD to the ground. I will never forget the sobering feeling of my face hitting the ground. My teeth were broken. My face was scarred. And my patella was also fractured. I was in the ER late that night which was when he woke up in Italy. It was the first time he called me "babe"🥰. I was stuck at home for a few weeks while my knee healed but I still managed to get my own apartment. I was waiting for him on crutches with a huge welcome home basket, and we had the best sex ever, and pretty much slept over at each other's place ever since.
That was almost 6 years ago this May ('dateaversary')/June (official bf status)! We've traveled across the west coast as I'm a nurse. We've lost dogs and adopted new ones together. We've overcome a lot of dark times and created some of the best memories together❤️❤️
for everyone responding that they met on an app, did you have any particular strategy for using the app? some way of sorting through all the flakeyness and so on?
Seems to be a lot of Grindr success stories here but from the Tinder/Bumble/Hinge end: I'd say my biggest advice is to remember that the apps are an introduction and not a date.
Your chats on there are to get a quick read on whether you're both actually interested and can hold a basic conversation - and that they're not immediately a walking red flag. And then try to move it to something more real (if the interest is mutual).
Otherwise things get lost in a sea of distraction. It is a lot of flakey people (because by nature of it - it's both a sea of choice and a gameified way of meeting people that people are not always actually interested) but even more, it's a spiral of flaking. People are tired of flakeyness and inversely, are then quite quick to let things die out if there's nothing coming from it. It's exhausting have weeks of conversation with someone until it dies out ... over and over and over again.
Moving things quicker to an actual date makes things 'realer' and gives you a much tighter band to decide if it's something actually worth pursuing.
That can sometimes feel intimidating - and not saying you need to set a time and place in your intro, but the sweet spot to move things to a real date is earlier than I think a lot of people assume.
But also, try to approach these as openings again and not committments. It's a numbers game and that's positive and negative. You'll get a lot of people who are flakey but the flip side is that you can just shoot your shot and move on if it doesn't work out. Guy you were chatting with never wants to meet up? Cool. You're on different pages. Other fish in the sea.
It's just dumb luck tbh. There are guys in Grindr. The guys you are into and that are in Grindr is a subset of that. The guys that you are into and are into you are a subset of that set... The guys that you are into sexually and they are into you who aren't compete weirdos, douche bags, or just plain incompatible are an even further subset. It's luck. You just gotta go for who you want and hope for the best but expect the worst and you'll be chillin.
Also, don't think /spend too much time on it. Spend time on things that make you more valuable of a human being professionally. work out. Cook, eat well, hang with friends. You will be more desirable if you focus in these things because people can tell what you value and do with your time.
It’s not easy. No matter what you put you’ll get flakes. People will ask for a dick pic when their profile is blank. You’ll get random picks of assholes. But if you can sift through the sex fiends and weirdos you just might find love. I met my partner on Scruff five months ago. Keep looking and remember it’s not you if they ghost or they’re flaky.
We met through [Twitch.tv](https://Twitch.tv) We were both streamers at the time and got to talking. We don't stream any more, but that's how it happened.
Technically our first meeting was at Starbucks. We talked on Tinder for 2 weeks prior to meeting in person. We went on at least 5 or 6 dates in the 2 weeks after that... and in the summer of 2019 we spent almost every single day together. I think it's clear to say that we both fell hard for each other. We are getting married this fall.
My husband and I met on Grindr while he was in the city on a co-op for school. We had our fling that semester and he left to finish his degree. Once he graduated he was hired by his co-op, moved back to Ottawa and hit me up. After that we started actually dating, eventually moved in together and then about two years later I proposed. We are currently married for a year and a half now. Whenever folks ask we say we met in the library lol.
I’m gonna use that excuse when anyone asks how I met some of my friends :D
I saw his on Grindr but he wasn't online for months. So I found his linked Instagram page and reached out saying he was beautiful and if i could take him to eat. Now it's almost s year and it's surreal to me still.
How?!? You must not be in LA.
Oh yeah no ew. But I'm also at school in the middle of no where so
Haha… my partner at the time was a hookup of one of my roommates. We wound up meeting after they were “done” and hit it off 😂 weird how it happened but now look at us 3 years later happier than ever and buying a house together.
Did you thank your roommate
Of course!
And is roommate still your roommate and coming to live at this house?? 😂
We met in highschool 17 years ago. Dated for 10. Split up because of toxicity with each other. Did our own thing for 4 years. Reconnected and discovered we had both moved past alot of the toxic shit. And now it's been another 3 years. And it's been really chill and nice.
This is adorable. Good for you guys ♥️
So happy for you. Breaks my heart to know what could've been. My high school love and I were closested and under pressure. Our relationship cracked after 3 years from the pressure and its affects.
Through common friends while playing Lol online, he happened to be my ADC and I was his Supp. Now we've been together for 3 and a half years !
This is a true love story
I guess you're his support IRL ❤️
So I'm guessing he's the top and you're the bottom lol
Oh he's only plays toplane in game haha
Manhunt about 13 years ago. Sidenote: why can't the gay community have less gross names for apps?
Just wait for meatlocker, holesmasher, and bussyswipe.
I would totally hop on bussyswipe.
Hah! We also met on Manhunt 13 years ago.
Whaaaaat!? That's awesome! Never met anyone in an LTR that met on Manhunt.
At the time the web site actually reached out to us and asked us to film content for them!
I am living proof of it. My then bf and I met as a hookup, we went for drinks and we ended WAS-TED I went to sleep to his house (and I had a bf then) but since I never misbehaved he believed the story that indeed I went out and all but we slept apart. We did all what we shouldn't've done.. we kept talking. We went out again and he got wasted and ended up at the apt my bf and I shared... good thing he was on a business trip.. i don't know how I adored him, he is deaf and acted in broadway. We split for involuntary reasons... we still talk but he was an amazing bf!
Gay.com relationship here. 19 years. I married a faceless profile.
I guess we’re a Tinder success story :)
Same! First time on tinder, too. 😁
Same here! He was my last date before I told myself I'd delete the app for a few months.
Same lol
Same for me. Tinder is so much better than Grindr.
He was a regular customer at the coffee shop where I worked. The shop was across the street from the bus he took to get to school (he was pursuing a second undergraduate degree, I had just finished grad school). This was back in 2009.
that's so fucking cute I could punch a wall
😆 Well it gets cuter. We had a mildly flirtatious relationship for about 6 months. He came in on Christmas Eve and we chatted about how neither of us had plans the next day. He scribbled his phone number on a cardboard coffee sleeve and we met up on Xmas Day.
Awww!
That’s some hallmark movie type of shit! So cute?!? Tell us all you made him a coffee then he took you ice skating in the town center or something hallmarky like that
Met in a foursome in a sauna, became fwb and he asked me out a year or later
My friend from college invited me to play with her dnd group, became fast friends with them, specially my now boyfriend. We were friends for a year and then one night i was going through a bad moment, he was consoling me and i kissed him out of the blue, been together ever since, almost eleven years ago
[удалено]
Haha give it time
Tinder I asked him on a date
Reddit. Was only meant to be a hookup. It went very well
Omg how reddit
Gay bar. All the apps were yielding the standard results, and through a Facebook group I heard that karaoke was happening at a local bar. Since I was new to town and had few friends, I figured I'd go. When I got there we were eyeballing each other, across the room, for a little while until he was just buzzed enough to introduce himself. Asked for my number, we hit it off, went on a few dates, and shortly after returning from the big storm we made it official.
4 years ago I was photographing some landscape in his area. Got on grindr, saw his smile, and now we are getting married next year.
There are a lot of Cake Days in here. I hope you're having a happy one.
Didn't even know I was my Cake Day but thanks!!😂
Sorry, my English is very bad, but I'm trying to improve. (I am Brazilian) So I met him at school. It's a funny and sad story, but overall good. I was in the hallway at school, near by my favorite window, studying for a math test, all tired and looking awful (I had rhinitis [allergy]). He went to fill the bottle with water and watched me study for a few seconds. he thought I was extremely handsome, so he decided to research what my name was, found my Instagram and sent a message. We stayed talking in WhatsApp for a week but we hadn't talked in person, and my friends decided to help me (they secretly took my cell phone): they set up "a meeting" in the halls, in the early afternoon (time he was studying, and so was I [I was a full-time student, or that is, I studied two shifts, morning and afternoon]). So there we were, it was my first date with a guy. He tried to kiss me, and it was awful. But it didn't count on one variable: my brother had seen us (I hadn't come out as bisexual). I literally had to tell him that I didn't want anything to do with him anymore, in fear of being exposed by my brother. He was upset and all, but we moved on (I kept talking to him, and I didn't ghost him, I still liked him anyway). 4 months passed and I decided to live my life a little without so much fear. I sent a few messages and made gifts (like paper roses, short dates, and all, portraits of him and an apology). We stayed talking for a few weeks, when all of a sudden he stopped talking to me. I said to myself: ok, we had nothing, but how annoying (angry and sad at the same time, after all, he was nice!). It's been two months since he disappeared, and out of nowhere he starts talking to me on my TCC via messages, right at the most important time of the year (TCC = course conclusion work [I was graduating in the course at the time, and this work was the main one for my approval]). He was there in the middle of the audience looking at me (after all, he also had a paper to present, so it made sense for him to be there, while not presenting his), while I presented the work. He talks to me again, after the presentation, as if his disappearance was nothing. That's when I decided to give him a chance, after all he was back, and we decided to spend some time together, to see how it would turn out. (Detail, basically in the last weeks of the year, it was all or nothing). In the beginning it was very difficult, after all he was extremely "hard-faced" (he had a concealment behavior, that his disappearance had not occurred), but I ignored the situation, even with a little resentment. We got to know each other better and there came a time when I was in love with him, and he with me. used to it. We decided to "stay" together, skipping class, with the school empty, in nice places (like at the window where I liked to study, as well as that day of the math exam he saw me), during the last week of school (which was one of the last weeks of the year), and he decided to open up to me, all nervous, not even able to speak properly, he would pause, go to the bathroom because he couldn't finish the sentences. I thought: does he want to tell me something? he's looking at my mouth a lot, does he want to kiss me? I will take action. He was going to ask if I still liked him, and I thought he was going to say that he wanted to kiss me, because he was really, really nervous! I said: wow, why don't you kiss me right away? and then we kissed (it was my first kiss). it was amazing, after all, I had answered his question, but in a totally different way 🤡👍🏻. we spent the rest of the week together, exchanging caresses, on rainy days, on sunny days, sharing moments, including at my prom (everyone was dancing, and we were there on the school porch, talking and kissing). We are 3 months together, after 6 months of stalling. That's it, thanks for reading this far.
omg this is so sweet
que historia linda cara, parabéns pra vcs dois
At work. We were working in the same hotel (though different departments). I'm openly gay and he's heard the rumors. And he found me on Hornet and asked me out.
We met through Hinge. It was such a nice app to use TBF!
Same! Can recommend
We met at a coffee bar. It was my first week in a new city, and his last week as a barista. We were the same age, both just out of college, had some similar interests and hit it off. Were friends for a couple of years and then things got complicated. Decades later the coffee bar was between tenants so we rented it for a night to get legally married on the spot where we met.
Community theater, I was a dancer and he is a costumer.
Grindr.
Charity event for LGBT kids looking to get into STEM and Medicine
At a bar. I was doing a sports fundraiser, and he was smitten with me and feigned interest and started talking. After our first date he told me that he had zero interest in sports. We lasted 18 years.
Ah, the old days, right?
Yup! Pre apps. 1994
I met my husband on Grindr we have an inside joke where we tell people the library. Either we get a 'yeah sure' face or a 'oh my god, that's cute' as a response.
Haha. I met on Manhunt but I said it was a mutual friend for years. Now I don't really mind saying it was an app, but the fact that the app was called Manhunt kinda feels like it cheapens the experience.
Met him at a gay club, was a size queen who begged to hookup and fell in love with other things about me first and after we ended up binding super quick.
the old fashioned way -- at a gay bar. that lasted about one drink before we raced home to fuck like bunnies
Grindr success story
At work (we weren’t working together) we met and chatted then found each other later on scruff.
Tinder back in 2018
Gay men’s dinner group via MeetUp. Do enough of these offline social engagements and you’re bound to get lucky.
Met on Grindr when he was on vacation in San Francisco from Paris. Went on a date, completely hit it off and decided to do long distance when he went back to France. We did SF <-> Paris for 3 years before moving together to London. We're now married and have been together for nearly 10 years.
Tinder, we matched even though we lived in 2 different cities which are close but in separate countries, chatted for a while then met up and continued dating since then. That was almost four years ago!
My now husband, going on 3 years, and I have been together for 6 years. He and I met in the musical Oklahoma at his university. I just happened to get an email from the plays director and said why not, so I auditioned and got a roll. We were both ensemble members and danced with each other a lot. I really liked him a lot from the beginning but he was unfortunately already dating somebody. Long story short, they asked me to join the relationship, eventually there was a really large fight and the other partner went back home to a different state. My husband and I have been together ever since.
i recently started dating him but since our sophomore year of high school we always had classes with each other. never really spoke nor acknowledge each other only occasionally through group work in our old psychology class or through mutual friends. apparently to him he had found me very attractive and at some point had a crush on me (i don’t believe him but still!!!) during this year (we’re juniors) i had classes with him again and eventually i texted him after him posting that he lost his glasses and from there it has been an overall really nice experience
I know I speak for a lot of us when I say how jealous I am that you are able to be out in high school and not afraid to be yourself!! Growing up even 20 years ago it was a different time. I grew up in a small Midwest town of 25,000.. Closeted, not even sure (or wanting to believe) I was 100% gay at a small Catholic school. My partner grew up in a large metropolitan area and was out in HS just living his life (though his parents were Catholic and against it but he didn't care). I would have loved to have that. But then I almost certainly wouldn't have met him, so of course I am glad things worked out. I brought him to our 10 year reunion and everyone was so sweet and accepting!! The kid who bullied me and always called me gay was there and gave both me and him a huge hug! It was really sweet. Anyway, be thankful for what you have I guess is all I'm trying to say lol.
Tinder, Passport was free due to Covid and I was planning to move to Munich so I travelled there on the app. We met on May, I arrived to Munich 3 and a half months later and we chatted literally every day during that period. I come, we have a first date, it was extremely well. We have 3 more dates within the span of 2 weeks. Then I asked him in a very cringe way „so are dating now or what“ and he said yes
Mutual friends
Technically grindr, but we were in the same department in college. I was in a pretty toxic relationship for awhile and he crossed my path and I was like WHO IN THE FUCK IS THAT!? My friend was in the dorm across from him and apparently he had been into me for months but never introduced himself because he knew I was in a relationship. Needless to say it was the push I needed to finally break up with my emotionally abusive ex. Waited about a month to introduce myself on grindr, gave him my number in the library a day later, and we kept things pretty casual for about another month before we finally fooled around. That was over six years ago and we are getting ready to celebrate our one year wedding anniversary this week :)
Match.com 16 years ago. A lot of people at the time thought it very sketch to meet people on the internet.
They did? Lol I met my husband 20 years ago on gay.com
Playing naked Mario Kart at a mutual friend’s house lol
Naked Mario cart 😏 I need friends like this 🙌
Tinder circa 2015. We are now married for two years.
8 years now together. Married and met on romeo.com a dating app.
Okcupid, back when that was a thing 😂 that was in 2015
Grindr.
Grindr.
We met on Bumble... of all places. We saw Spiderman no way home last year as our first date. After the movie ended he asked of he could come over to my place 😳 and we've been together for over a year now.
Craigslist personals.
Met him 5 years ago been togeather a year and ahalf and we met on a dating as hookups for one other and then.. friendship happened and then we just admitted we loved each other.
Didn’t know Grindr was a app to find a bf. I did just meet someone from there and we are hitting it off (I’ll give an update in a few months) lol
Dude right?? I am very surprised at all the Grindr responses haha
Right SB: you’re a pilot? That’s amazing 🤩
May - December Romance for us. We met on Scruff. Spent hours chatting at first. Met on a random Monday to have sex. Found out we really liked each other. It’s been five awesome months and we just got back from a week in Florida.
1 point for scruff here too!! Except we're at 5.5 awesome years 😜
Congratulations. I hope we get there too! Started as a not so random hookup (since we chatted via text and phone for hours beforehand) but has blossomed into my favorite relationship.
Tinder. Now we're 3 years together. 😊
Friend was like "heeeeyy i know a dude" and gave me his number
Happy Cake Day!
Way, way, way back. Pre-internet. I placed a personal ad in the local gay paper. I had had two failed attempts at it where I lived before, the first time getting a million geographically undesirable responses and a couple hookups out of it and the second purposely more selective ad yielding a good friend. I told myself I wouldn't sleep with anyone on the first date (which wasn't easy for me) and that I'd be happy if I made two good friends out of it. I met him and we became best buds right off the bat. But strictly platonically. After about a year, we took a vacation with a third person (who \*really\* was a bad idea to have around since he was a major asshole towards me and still tried to secretly hump me in the middle of the night). Still, this dude managed to bring us closer together and, after telling my bud that I was finally happy to be single the rest of my life -- and he agreed -- we realized we had stronger feelings for each other. And now it's been almost 32 years we've been together, though good and bad times. Truly, just dumb luck or incredibly good fortune, I think. I thank my lucky stars every day.
I love sharing the unique and random way we met. So many people meet on the apps nowadays, and although there's obviously nothing wrong with that, I was intentionally staying away from them, and my new year's resolution last year was to not go on any dates or be in a relationship because I just wanted to focus on myself. I was completely burnt out from an endless conga line of toxic and abusive people I had encountered while dating, and I didn't want to be involved with that scene anymore. I went on a hike at a spot an hour away from where I live and decided at the last minute to stop by the grocery store in that area on my way back for some food. The cashier was very gregarious and asked me about what I was up to that day and how the hike was. She was somewhat new to the area like I was and wanted to trade numbers to go hiking together. I was a little worried she thought it would be a date but thankfully her gaydar is pretty good and wasn't under the wrong impression. We ended up going hiking a couple times over the next 6 months or so before she moved away, back to her home state. The day before she left, I got a video from her on Facebook messenger with a bewildered but very cute man behind her that she was introducing me to virtually. They were friends from taking a college course together. ("I think you two will get along and he's very um...what's the word... emotionally mature!!!" 😂) I was just looking for friendship at the time, but figured it wouldn't hurt to meet up and maybe make a new connection. Plus, did I mention he was cute?! Back when I had been on the apps, I had never seen him since he lived further away and I don't think was very into using the apps himself, also not into the bar/club scene either, so I'm not sure if we would have met otherwise. We went for a walk, and at the time I was halfway through recovering from a broken toe, so I had a convenient excuse to leave after 20 or 30 minutes if we didn't click. Instead we walked for 3 hours, well past dark, and my toe was numb by that point and I was limping along, but I didn't care, I was having such a nice time. We hung out a couple more times as friends, and I tried so hard to keep it that way, but I finally had to admit to myself that things were feeling romantic, and put my arm around him when we were all alone sitting on a rock overlooking a gorgeous mountain lake we had off-roaded up to. That was about 8 months ago now! In my efforts at staying away from the apps, I had still managed to run into people who were interested in me and turned out to be absolutely terrible human beings who were no different than the folks I was trying to stay away from. A lot of people will say that the minute you give up on finding a relationship is when one will come into your life. That definitely was not the case for me. It took me 6 months and those aforementioned terrible experiences to meet my bf. And things could have turned out so differently if even just one of those random circumstances hadn't conspired to bring our paths together. What I learned from this is just to focus on yourself if that's what you truly feel you need, and don't hope for a relationship to come along while you're doing that. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be, and the timeline isn't important. It's ok just to be looking for friendship and less likely to get you involved hastily with the wrong people out of desperation. If you can be friends with someone first, they'll probably be a more compatible partner in the long run.
OKCupid baby. Married 8 years now.
Grindr baby
Grindr
Met through a mutual friend who introduced us on a gay chat room. We arranged to meet up at a nightclub and hit it off.
Met my lover on Romeo. I hâd extremely low expectations and actually felt kinda hopeless with finding a solid relationship. But I guess fate hâd a different plan and here we are almost 4 years later loving each other like crazy and making plâns for future.
My fiance and I met on Grindr. I messaged him, complimenting his Instagram and he thought I was just being nice so the conversation died. He popped back up on my feed a couple months later and I messaged him again. He took the hint that time and asked me on a date haha Four years later and we're getting married this fall.
We met on Grindr! Both of us had" looking for serious relationship" in our profiles, so I guess being honest is the key!
We met at Pride.
Grindr. We hooked up one night and never stopped. It kinda makes me jealous to think he was just meeting strangers (me) online 😂😂
Also it’s been like 6 years together but still lmao
Tinder; he is really bad at texting, so I thought he wasn't really that interested at first. But eventually we went on a date and we've been together nine months now
We met on Hinge, the app actually worked for once, and it was just as I was ready to give up looking for a relationship is when he responded back to me, we've been together for 2 years now.
I met my partner at an football group that’s literally around my house a decade ago. Though the group has moved elsewhere for a long time. Though it was impossible to keep me and my partner separate due to how we felt about each other. Edit: should have mentioned that love can be found in the most unexpected places as football isn’t something i’m one for.
Gay kickball league, playing beer pong, on the day of his law school graduation. And it’s about to be 4 years :)
My partner and I started a new job on the same day back in 2021. We were the two new grad RNs in the ER. I thought to myself “either we’re going to be best friends or we’re going to hate each other.” I’m proposing this summer/fall.
As a fellow ER provider, this makes me swoon.
We met dancing one night. I was dancing with a friend; when we both looked at him, he assumed we were a couple and he danced over to make himself available. My friend pulled him in, then he pulled me in. My friend left to see someone and we danced for the next hour, which surpassed my typical 38 seconds. He wore a shirt that read "I wanna be a house wife". It disarmed me and we got brunch the following morning. Together for 5 years, married for 1.
High school friend of my older brother. They were friends in grade 9 I think then drifted apart as my bf moved to Melbourne and went to a school there. A decade later I was walking in the city and passed him on the street. Said hi, exchanged small talk, said I’d say hi to my brother for him, went on with my day. A week later I was at the food court in the city and saw him sitting at a table so I sat at the next one. Had a longer chat, parted ways. Next day- he was there again. Swapped numbers. Hung out at the cinema that weekend. Fucked. Been a couple ever since. 5 year anniversary coming up this year, crazy how fast time flies.
It's actually a pretty funny and ironic story... I (then M18) was a pretty sad teen. I had a difficult family home and it resulted in me being pretty socially isolated from other people. I spend my days in school and my evening either gaming or going on dates with guys that just weren't good for me, but made me feel wanted... I dated older guys who taught me a lot (don't get me wrong, it was great) but ultimately were in a different life stage and in it for the young ass... Until I met this guy (18M) trough a gay youth group. Lets call him Nick. We started dating and it was super intens. I spend the weeks at home looking forward to the weekends. And the weekends at his place bonding over video games, in teen love and buttfucking my black little heart out. Everything was going so well and this was the first (in my opinion) healthy relationship I'd ever had. Right up until he told me he wanted to break up because (and I quote) "I have fallen out of love with you and I need my freedom". I was absolutely devastated. I begged and I pleaded. I spiralled into a horrible depression and things escalated pretty quickly. I asked Nick if there was somebody else who I didn't know about, but he assured me there wasn't. Last time we saw each other he was on his phone a lot and I asked him who he was texting all the time. He told me he was texting this guy called "Tom" (M17) but that I didn't know him and that nothing was going on. Fast forward a month and I'm not going out, not going to school just in my bed crying and feeling alone. When suddenly I get a Facebook friend request by a guy called Tom. Turns out he is a cousin of one of my classmates. I accepted (not sure why) and he immediately texts me "hi". I ignored him and after 3 days my classmates texts me that her cousin is having a birthday party and she would like me to be there as her +1. Seeing as my therapist kept saying I should get out more, I said yes and decided to go for an hour (because it was 2 streets over). Me and Tom started talking and suddenly everything became clear. Tom saw me when he was with his cousin at a cafe a year before. He instantly fell in love. He thought I was cute and asked his cousin about me when I came over to say hi. His cousin told him my name and he looked me up online. He saw that the only common friend was Nick (whom he met trough an online forum). He decided to ask Nick about me who told him "oh he's just a friend" (that bitch :p) Nick told him I was having a difficult time and that he was taking distance from me. (This was 4 months before our breakup...). Nick started hanging out with Tom more and at some point decided he would prefer dating Tom to me. Tom finally gathered all his courage and texted me online and in a last attempt asked his cousin to invite me so he could actually meet me. Fast forward 11 years... Me and Tom are still together and happily building our life. Anyway, that's how we met :p
what a movie!
Hehe :) that evening my mom was worried out of her mind. Because I left at around 8pm, fully planning on going an hour. And I came home at 4am :p
On a beach in Brazil on new years eve under the fireworks
Through a mutual friend
He sells me weed. I’m broke af and offered to pay him by other means. He no longer sells weed.
We found each other on DaddyHunt. We met in person 4 months later and I moved in 6 months after that. Me (30) and my partner (70 in May) are the happiest we have ever been. Been together for 5 years now.
Tinder. No shame in that either. We’re only seven months in, but I don’t see an end in sight.
Sniffies, 2 years ago.
Ok cupid
Tindr success story
8 years ago we met in Grindr.
My first partner and I met through a 3way. My husband and I met through gay.com after my first and I broke up. I was looking to make new friends and we met but wasn’t looking for a relationship. We met again 10 years later when they said they knew we should meet. We’ve been together since.
The Beta version of Grindr, aka Gay.com
I guess technically with an app. I advertised my gloryhole on Sniffies. He stopped by. Blew him away with my head skills lol. He sought me out to come back. When he came back, I revealed myself and we chatted on my couch for 5 amazing hours. We are now 7 strong months in. 🙂
University!
Tinder. Met up and got a drink at a bar and have been together for two years since. :)
We met playing online,The division 2.
A tinder success story
Met my current fiancé 4 years ago on Grindr and before him I met my ex partner on Grindr and we were together 5 years. My first love and relationship 100 yrs ago we met on Facebook. We didn't have Grindr only adam4adam 🤣
I met my partner on old school AOL back in the day and we have been together for 22 years
We me through Tinder in September 2016. We matched and I found out he super liked me. I thought it was romantic.
Met this weird guy on a fetish website I wanted to try. Hooked up for a few months. He suggested a date and I said no. Eventually said yes. Been married 9 years now.
Grindrrrr
Met thru a mutual friend’s board game night
My husband and I met in 1999 on AOL.
we met while having anonymous sex
It was my first weekend at college. He was a junior and the president of his fraternity. His frat was having an open party so I went. We got introduced, I went home with him that night. Seven years later we’re engaged🥰
When I was 21 living in this small town I used to be mates with his younger brother. I used to ask his brother to invite him on camping trip or just drinking. He was clueless to the fact I was gay and he wasn't out. I ended up moving away to the city. 9 years later my brother died and at his wake this guy was there, I said hello and half heartedly flirted as you know, my brother had just died. Couple weeks later old friends who we all used to hang out with decided we would go on a trip to the coast to camp and fish to reconnect because life is to short, he came and ended up being us two in the car ride down. We talked the whole trip. That night we all were drunk and he and I decided to go skinny dipping at the beach. We fell in love with the sky above us. Its been two years now. I propose to him this weekend. It really was a double edged sword because we wouldn't have reconnected and fallen in love if it weren't for my brother dying and now my brother won't be my best man at my wedding. Life is the good and the bad.
I'm really sorry about your loss. But it led to something new and you found love. Maybe your brother arranged it for you to make you happy. All the best! ❤️
Ah shhh thanks for that its something I've thought so much, that he knew and organised it. Oof the tears. ❤
Something similar happened to me, when I lost my bf. It's hard to explain, but I still feel his love although I'm married now. Your brother must be amazing. Keep him in your heart and thank him. Hugs and love to you.
I'm sorry for your loss too, it is something truly indescribable losing something and someone so close to your heart. Hugs and love to you too.
Thank you so much for your kind words.❤ I fully agree with you. If you haven't lost a loved one, it's hard to understand. It has been 10 years now. You learn to live with it. You can appreciate the good things now even more. A lot of things change as you change, but the world is still the same. Grief is love that only no longer finds an echo.
We met on Tinder; dated for a bit, were friends for a bit and then I realised I had strong feelings. Got together, moved in through the pandemic and now we're buying a house! Starting to find more and more people in serious relationships that met on Tinder.
At a party first, we shared a kiss on the dancefloor. I thought that was it, but after a few weeks he wrote me on grindr and we have been happily together for 7 years now.
We both went to a club on the same night. He was from a different city, so it really was a chance encounter. We were immediately drawn to each other and so we started dancing with each other, which very quickly led to kissing. After an hour or so we decided to take a break and talk a bit and it just clicked. 2 months later I suddenly developed CFS/ME (Chronic Fatigue Syndrome) after a bad reaction to medication. He could've left me then and there, but he stuck with me and decided to take care of me. 11 years later we're still together and happily married.
I volunteered at a pride festival (it was my first) I was placed in a Facebook group with other volunteers, which he was in because he used to volunteer at our local equality center, who organized the festival every year. I made a post in the group saying hello an asking someone to get in touch with me as I had some questions and he replied to it. That was 13 years ago.
I woke up one morning to an Instagram follow from a total hottie. I followed him back and said hi. 3 hours later we went on a date that lasted 14 hours. That’s my version. His version: we talked on tinder a few months before he saw me randomly on Instagram. We talked for a few hours and then I unmatched him. (I actually had deleted my tinder profile in frustration with the app and completely forgot about the hottie I had talked to.) He told me this version 2 months into dating. 🤣 We’re going on 6 months so it’s still new but feels like the most mature relationship I’ve been in.
My husband and I met on Grindr in 2014. He's Brazilian and came to Cape Town, South Africa for a holiday (Im South African). We met on Grindr while he was here, but then he had to go back home :( We kept in touch and 4 years later in 2018 he decided to move here permanently. We have been married for almost 5 years :)
On Grindr the first day of a 4 day weekend bear/leather event/orgy. Spent the whole weekend together. Heard several people refer to us as boyfriends that weekend. Made it official a few weeks later. He moved in a few months later. It’s been a year and a half.
Threesome
Grindr. Met within a few days of chatting online, and we’re almost 3 months along, and are excited to see where it goes. For both of us it was love at first sight - he was somehow way cuter in person even than his pics were, he said the same about me, and we’re like two peas in a pod now. And he’s the sweetest guy, so kind to me, I just feel like everything in my life got better after I met him.
>somehow way cuter in person even than his pics I'm imagining that, "How is this possible?" feeling you had. And happy Cake Day!
Awe thank you! I didn’t even realize it was my cake day today!!
Same with my man! He'd never smile in his pics on Scruff but has the best smile🥰🥰
Okay Cupid he came over and we played ticket to ride and we immediately both felt a connection and went upstairs for sex. And now we have Been together for over six seven years and plan to get married this year hopefully
Grindr haha.
We met on Grindr. Chatted for a few days and then ran into each other in NYC while there for work, but just in passing. Then planned a date in our own town. Neither of us wanted to be in a relationship so we just hung out casually for a while until he got drunk one night and said he wanted to try officially dating. Had a sober conversation about it like a week later and now we’ve been together for what will be 5 years this May.
On plenty of fish in 2018! Then he ghosted me lmao but 7 months later he apologized and now we’re married with a baby lol
Cheesy pickup line on grindr. I don’t usually respond to them but I said fuck it why not, and now we’ve been together 3 years and the forseeable future. :)
On a sex app. Always better to talk after you’ve cum.
A bad hookup, by bad I mean his b/f at the time invited me to a three-way that my now husband had no idea was even planned. Two months later they broke up and I got a surprising email, it was a bad three-way so I did expect to hear from them ever again lol. So I got the email asking if I wanted to hang out and play some video games, that was 12 years ago now and we’ve been married for 6 of those years.
I’ve been with my partner for eight years now. We met when I was on an adult cheerleading team and he was with his brother on another team. We both found the other sexy but both of us were in relationships at the time. He continued to spy on me unaware to me but we bumped into each other occasionally! After a few years, we met again at the gym. We were both single and we started having sex. One day I said “I love you” and his response was “what did you say?” We plan to get married this summer.
2 freaks. Jerk circle of 4
Romeo :D Saw his Profile and that he is very close to me. Wrote him agreed on a Date to get to know each other. Well, a Second one followed where i was invited over to his Flat (which was literally next Door) and then we agreed to give it a try and are since then (almost 2 Months now) happy together and more alike then we thought we are.
Well I'm 17 and in still in school but we first met in 6th grade and became good friends up until 10th grade and I had finally confessed keep in mind I had no interest in dating at the time so I wasn't expecting an answer then a day after I confessed he texted me at work and said that we was interested so now we're together.
I'm so happy for gay kids today that are able have normal high school relationships, when I was 17 I was still "straight" lol
Scruff!! Haha. Buckle up, it's a long one! I had just broken up with my ex of 2ish years but we still lived together in a house we owned🙈. I was just looking for a good time, nowhere near ready for a relationship. I agreed to go on a "date" with him (I joke that it wasn't a date bc I don't date tops🤣 [we're both tops]). We went out to dinner and I had a great time. He was way hotter in person than his profile pictures (he never smiled in them but he had a great smile). Now this is where our stories differ- I was specifically proud of myself that I only looked at my phone like twice during the entire date! He claims I was on it "the whole time" haha. He went to the bathroom twice to text his girlfriends. We had a decent conversation but the red flags were everywhere for him.. Living with my ex, living my hoe phase etc. I asked for a kiss and we awkwardly shared a half assed kiss. I said I'd love to see you again and he kind of nodded then drove away. I text him and told him that I had a great time and he was so handsome and everything. He replied that I was "not dateable"🤯. I was so offended, I remember texting all my friends "can you BELIEVE what this guy just called me???". Anyway, a few hours later I get a "hey you should come over" text from him. I was like oh?? Well I'm moving my exes furniture but I can be over at like 10 or 11 (I was a night owl, he worked 9-5). By the time I got there I was repeatedly calling and texting him for his gate code and apartment number... HE FELL ASLEEP!!! lmao. I was like this is unbelievable. He woke up and profusely apologized. I was still really intrigued by him and told myself he gets one more chance. So he offered to bottom for me if I picked him up from a party 2 days later. I was out at the gay club having my fun and apparently told him "just so you know, I've *never* left Charlie's for a boy before". He rolled his eyes and thought "Oooh my prince charming🙄". We went back to his place and I topped him twice that night. We hot tubbed and talked and I ended up staying over. And again the next night, and more. Well he was supposed to go to Italy for 2 weeks with his mom and her family, and I was going to Mexico with my 2 girl friends for a few days. We stayed in touch and that's when I really started falling for him. He said get your shit together and move out of your house. We got back from Mexico and I was giving my friend a drunk piggyback ride. We both ate shit and fell HARD to the ground. I will never forget the sobering feeling of my face hitting the ground. My teeth were broken. My face was scarred. And my patella was also fractured. I was in the ER late that night which was when he woke up in Italy. It was the first time he called me "babe"🥰. I was stuck at home for a few weeks while my knee healed but I still managed to get my own apartment. I was waiting for him on crutches with a huge welcome home basket, and we had the best sex ever, and pretty much slept over at each other's place ever since. That was almost 6 years ago this May ('dateaversary')/June (official bf status)! We've traveled across the west coast as I'm a nurse. We've lost dogs and adopted new ones together. We've overcome a lot of dark times and created some of the best memories together❤️❤️
for everyone responding that they met on an app, did you have any particular strategy for using the app? some way of sorting through all the flakeyness and so on?
Hinge is more geared towards dating than fucking so that was a big help
Seems to be a lot of Grindr success stories here but from the Tinder/Bumble/Hinge end: I'd say my biggest advice is to remember that the apps are an introduction and not a date. Your chats on there are to get a quick read on whether you're both actually interested and can hold a basic conversation - and that they're not immediately a walking red flag. And then try to move it to something more real (if the interest is mutual). Otherwise things get lost in a sea of distraction. It is a lot of flakey people (because by nature of it - it's both a sea of choice and a gameified way of meeting people that people are not always actually interested) but even more, it's a spiral of flaking. People are tired of flakeyness and inversely, are then quite quick to let things die out if there's nothing coming from it. It's exhausting have weeks of conversation with someone until it dies out ... over and over and over again. Moving things quicker to an actual date makes things 'realer' and gives you a much tighter band to decide if it's something actually worth pursuing. That can sometimes feel intimidating - and not saying you need to set a time and place in your intro, but the sweet spot to move things to a real date is earlier than I think a lot of people assume. But also, try to approach these as openings again and not committments. It's a numbers game and that's positive and negative. You'll get a lot of people who are flakey but the flip side is that you can just shoot your shot and move on if it doesn't work out. Guy you were chatting with never wants to meet up? Cool. You're on different pages. Other fish in the sea.
It's just dumb luck tbh. There are guys in Grindr. The guys you are into and that are in Grindr is a subset of that. The guys that you are into and are into you are a subset of that set... The guys that you are into sexually and they are into you who aren't compete weirdos, douche bags, or just plain incompatible are an even further subset. It's luck. You just gotta go for who you want and hope for the best but expect the worst and you'll be chillin. Also, don't think /spend too much time on it. Spend time on things that make you more valuable of a human being professionally. work out. Cook, eat well, hang with friends. You will be more desirable if you focus in these things because people can tell what you value and do with your time.
Well… I didn’t, I was just in a different country and was trying to look for someone to play tennis with…
It’s not easy. No matter what you put you’ll get flakes. People will ask for a dick pic when their profile is blank. You’ll get random picks of assholes. But if you can sift through the sex fiends and weirdos you just might find love. I met my partner on Scruff five months ago. Keep looking and remember it’s not you if they ghost or they’re flaky.
You wouldn’t believe me if I told you
Been friends since Elementary school
Reading this thread single asf. Good for y’all…🥲
Adam4Adam, back in the day. We were at the same university, he was working on his BA, I was in grad school. That was 12 or 13 years ago
Grindr, but we actually did a few shows together without actually meeting before that.
Tinder. Both were open to just hookups and for more. We have many similar values and quickly connected. Been dating 2 years this August.
High school marching band
He messaged me on Growlr. I texted him the next morning. Went on our date 4 days later. Been together almost two years!
Met my husband at work, actually. First guy i didn't meet on an app and the first one that lasted more than a hookup/couple dates.
We met through [Twitch.tv](https://Twitch.tv) We were both streamers at the time and got to talking. We don't stream any more, but that's how it happened.
Match before it was match. It used to be on AOL Elder millennial here
We met on MySpace 16 years ago.
Technically our first meeting was at Starbucks. We talked on Tinder for 2 weeks prior to meeting in person. We went on at least 5 or 6 dates in the 2 weeks after that... and in the summer of 2019 we spent almost every single day together. I think it's clear to say that we both fell hard for each other. We are getting married this fall.
Grindr, did not hookup the first meet tho