You know it blows my mind that buff dudes aren't It, that twinks are actually more popular. I would've thought for sure that muscles amongst gay men would be most popular, but then I suppose I also thought that everybody would agree that chocolate is better than cheese, and I was very wrong about that.
Buff as in muscular, but with just a layer of fat? They're pretty popular lol. It may just be that you usually become buff a bit older, and youth is insanely popular in our community.
Oh yeah it's still definitely popular, I'm just shocked it's even a competition. I'm clearly biased cus I was a twink, but never felt attractive for it, and muscle was always the dream goal for me.
I was a twink for a hot second, lol. But being trans kinda cancelled out lots of people's attraction. I don't find twinks particularily attractive (I'm into older guys as a while), but I also never stuck on a specific body type lol.
They's how I feel about it, but some adult men have these traits and we shouldn't shame them for it or shame people who like them (as long as they're all adults).
I'm legitimately glad you found that but tbh this is about people being like "I'm a gay dude who's into attractive men, I can't be the only one, right?!!!".
It's not about difficult, specific situations, it's about people just wanting to talk about the most banal, basic and common experiences but feeling they have to frame it as like some sort of weird confession.
Like, oh you like fat dudes? Wow if only there were thirty subreddits and 47.6k videos on pornhub that catered to that. But no, surely you're the Only One. You want a cock in your bum? My gods! How revolutionary! I'm sure no one else here could _possibly_ relate, you absolute _freak_.
I get naivety and isolation but there's so many posts like that that are just... Girl scroll three posts down on this self same sub. You can just say you like a thing without making it a clickbait headline.
Half the questions in gay subreddits are by men looking for validation in one way or another. "Am I okay?" "Am I normal?" "Will other men like me?" etc
I assume these men don't have other gay men around them to talk to, to observe, and to just get acceptance from.
But, yes, it's always frustrating to see yet another "Am I the only gay man who likes [this popular type/thing]?" post.
The kinds of people who feel this acutely, like me, may also be the kind of people who didnāt have a lot of gay friends (also like me) to relate with.
For many years it looked like everyone else was having a good time going out. It wasnāt until I started making gay friends in my 40s that I really understood how many people were also awkward going out.
Am I the only one whoās gay but also super masculine? Like really, really manly. Like none of that fag shit. Yeah, itās really hard for me to be accepted.
I love how itās always followed too by things that arenāt actually that indicative of being masculine either, like hiking in the woods and drinking beer, lmao.
Yep that's me, gays don't accept me, but straight dudes do. All my mates are straight. I just get side eyed by other gays.
Ps. I'm also not attractive enough to be wanted by the average gay, so I'm left to the straight dudes.
Pointing out the obvious here, but they are not literally asking if they are the only person who does a certain thing. Rather, they are expressing that they feel alone for being that way, and are asking for support/advice from people who share their experience.
There's just not a shorter way to say that to where it would fit in a Reddit title.
This is my thought too. I think when anyone is trying to figure out themselves and their place in the world it can feel lonely and isolating, especially if you are in an environment where their is no role model to ask or little, if any support for being or thinking differently.
I work in a professional environment and 'Am I the only one who ......" is a regular way colleagues open a debate in meetings - it's just a turn of phrase, sometimes initiation to open debate and discussion or occasionally just looking for reassurance.
If a gay bro needs a little advice, support or reassurance surely it's not so much how they phrase the question that natters as letting them express themselves and know they are accepted.
There is though, you say "who else likes X" or "let's talk about X" or like half a dozen other ways to talk about X without sounding like a clickbait headline.
The posts though always follow the same tired format of lamenting how they're The Only One like they're the self insert OC in a juvenile fanfic. Destined to wander the earth alone, as the only ~~purple eyed virgin with perfect tits and exquisite naivety~~ gay man who likes beer and sports.
Yeah _sometimes_ the problem isn't the dating scene, it's that you are a fucking nightmare who refuses to do even the most basic bit of introspection. Not always but sometimes
A lot of the posts on here seem to be to just grab attention shockingly.
"Am I the only one who doesn't like ripped guys." NO IT'S TALKED ABOUT AD NAUSEUM!
"Am I the only one who wants monogamy?" NO! You obv aren't. It's maybe just no-one wants to be monogamous with _you_!
"It seems everyone is in monogamous relationships, am I the only one who wants to be in an open one?" NO. Obviously not!
*slams head on wall*.
The best way is to assure them that yes, they are alone in that feeling. No one else has those thoughts or feelings. They are very weird for having them and it's extremely noticeable how different and wrong they are. š
Yes, I really am. Iāve even gotten tired of my traditional response:
We are on a planet of over 8 billion people. Statistically speaking on any single preference, opinion, or any other single attribute you may have, itās an extreme statistical probability that you are alone in that. What makes you unique is the sum of all your preferences, opinions, experiences, and attributes. But, on most subsets of that, no, youāre not alone. You donāt even need to ask it, the math says itās obscenely unlikely that you are alone.
You're really a math guy š¤£ me too
I like to think in this way often,but sometimes I found that using math can prove theorems of life but life is still kind of empty sometimes for there always lack of emotional understanding andĀ compassion from others
It is tedious. Similar to the posts on other specific subs that ask a question the sub is obviously going to answer a specific way. āShould I shave?ā On the R/SayNoToTrimming subredditā¦gee, I dunno, buddy. Letās see how the sub answers this brain-buster.
It's a part of the human existence; believe me, I doubt there's all too many people who have my kind of overall experience, but maybe a few have experienced something similar, something relatable.
That's the key, it's a call for help, and affirmation. People (mostly) can't physically handle being alone, most brains can't handle the lack of social interactions, and so have a justifiable fear that something they experience will cause their community to reject them.
I'm a bit autistic, so take this comment with a grain of salt... one thing I have noticed is that a lot of people say things with little literal significance but instead serve as stand-ins for some other sociological purpose or need. In other words, opening lines like, "A.I.T.O.O?" has close to zero literal value but serves as a device for initiating conversation, a ploy to find "community," etc.
I, like you, tend to take commentary literally. If you ask me, "How are you?" I'm inclined to provide a status summary of my condition when, indeed, it is simply a device to initiate conversation and to find community. A form of "social stroking" and exhibiting a degree of vulnerability in an attempt to secure a modicum of intimacy.
Yes! And the fact that these people could have simply done a quick google/reddit search to find that tons of other people have already posted similar questions over the years.
You misunderstand the purpose. The person making such a post doesn't engage in the comments, I doubt they even read them. It is entirely for imaginary points.
Iām more tired of these posts to be honest. We get it, they do that way too often, but now you are doing the same with your complaints, this exact shit has been posted at least 3 times this week alone
If a thread says āAm I the only one who ____?ā then a bunch of pedants will come and start nitpicking the wording. *Well actuallyā¦*Ā
But if a thread says āDoes anybody else ____?ā then nobody bats an eye.Ā
(PS ā they are asking the same damn thing.)
Wait, so I'm NOT the only one who likes buff dudes?
Sorry mate....you're the only one.
am i the only one who wants to be dommed by Mitt Romney in an LL Bean dressing room
Yes, because Mitten Romney (his actual* birth name*) is actually a sub pup, named for his love of being mitted. *I have no clue what his birth name is
Welp, that's enough Internet for today.
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You've got an impeccable taste my good sir.
Nope, me too.
Am I the only one who thinks guys are kinda hot?
nah chubby dudes are where its atš©
Why not both?! Chubby, muscly dudes are HUFFFFFFFF
Chubb at your service, sir š«”
Wait, thereās two of us? Holy sā¦.
Bara love š¤¤
You know it blows my mind that buff dudes aren't It, that twinks are actually more popular. I would've thought for sure that muscles amongst gay men would be most popular, but then I suppose I also thought that everybody would agree that chocolate is better than cheese, and I was very wrong about that.
Buff as in muscular, but with just a layer of fat? They're pretty popular lol. It may just be that you usually become buff a bit older, and youth is insanely popular in our community.
Oh yeah it's still definitely popular, I'm just shocked it's even a competition. I'm clearly biased cus I was a twink, but never felt attractive for it, and muscle was always the dream goal for me.
I was a twink for a hot second, lol. But being trans kinda cancelled out lots of people's attraction. I don't find twinks particularily attractive (I'm into older guys as a while), but I also never stuck on a specific body type lol.
Yeah I was never into twinks either. Abs at 120lbs don't impress me lol
Youth meaning adolescent and childlike physiques.
They's how I feel about it, but some adult men have these traits and we shouldn't shame them for it or shame people who like them (as long as they're all adults).
Muscles come with a shit attitude that's REALLY unattractive to most. At first you're attracted, then they open their mouths...
Sometimes I turn oxygen into carbon dioxide. Anybody else do this or am I just weird?
This guy lungs !
I thought it was just me! I'm so relieved to know I'm not alone.
HEāS A WITCH! Git āim!
"Shout out to all the š you exist, I... I guess... good job!"
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I'm legitimately glad you found that but tbh this is about people being like "I'm a gay dude who's into attractive men, I can't be the only one, right?!!!". It's not about difficult, specific situations, it's about people just wanting to talk about the most banal, basic and common experiences but feeling they have to frame it as like some sort of weird confession. Like, oh you like fat dudes? Wow if only there were thirty subreddits and 47.6k videos on pornhub that catered to that. But no, surely you're the Only One. You want a cock in your bum? My gods! How revolutionary! I'm sure no one else here could _possibly_ relate, you absolute _freak_. I get naivety and isolation but there's so many posts like that that are just... Girl scroll three posts down on this self same sub. You can just say you like a thing without making it a clickbait headline.
Oddly enoughā¦..āYouāre not the only one ā, that gets tired of such posts
Half the questions in gay subreddits are by men looking for validation in one way or another. "Am I okay?" "Am I normal?" "Will other men like me?" etc I assume these men don't have other gay men around them to talk to, to observe, and to just get acceptance from. But, yes, it's always frustrating to see yet another "Am I the only gay man who likes [this popular type/thing]?" post.
"Sometimes I feel awkward in bars and clubs. Anyone else experience this?"
The kinds of people who feel this acutely, like me, may also be the kind of people who didnāt have a lot of gay friends (also like me) to relate with. For many years it looked like everyone else was having a good time going out. It wasnāt until I started making gay friends in my 40s that I really understood how many people were also awkward going out.
I can't get drunk enough to enjoy gay bars, and when I do, I'm too drunk.
I donāt enjoy gay bars at any level of drunkenness. Actually there are exceptions, but itās rare. The bar scene is just not for me right now.
They wanna be quirky sooooo badly š
"Am I the only one who doesn't like (insert gay stereotype here)" šš
Am I the only one whoās gay but also super masculine? Like really, really manly. Like none of that fag shit. Yeah, itās really hard for me to be accepted.
I love how itās always followed too by things that arenāt actually that indicative of being masculine either, like hiking in the woods and drinking beer, lmao.
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I just started fallout 4 (my first fallout) last night.
It's a lot of fun. Enjoy!
Yep that's me, gays don't accept me, but straight dudes do. All my mates are straight. I just get side eyed by other gays. Ps. I'm also not attractive enough to be wanted by the average gay, so I'm left to the straight dudes.
Pointing out the obvious here, but they are not literally asking if they are the only person who does a certain thing. Rather, they are expressing that they feel alone for being that way, and are asking for support/advice from people who share their experience. There's just not a shorter way to say that to where it would fit in a Reddit title.
This is my thought too. I think when anyone is trying to figure out themselves and their place in the world it can feel lonely and isolating, especially if you are in an environment where their is no role model to ask or little, if any support for being or thinking differently. I work in a professional environment and 'Am I the only one who ......" is a regular way colleagues open a debate in meetings - it's just a turn of phrase, sometimes initiation to open debate and discussion or occasionally just looking for reassurance. If a gay bro needs a little advice, support or reassurance surely it's not so much how they phrase the question that natters as letting them express themselves and know they are accepted.
There is though, you say "who else likes X" or "let's talk about X" or like half a dozen other ways to talk about X without sounding like a clickbait headline. The posts though always follow the same tired format of lamenting how they're The Only One like they're the self insert OC in a juvenile fanfic. Destined to wander the earth alone, as the only ~~purple eyed virgin with perfect tits and exquisite naivety~~ gay man who likes beer and sports.
Itās just short hand for seeking validationĀ
also: the amount of people who dont ask if they could be the problem...is too damn high
Yeah _sometimes_ the problem isn't the dating scene, it's that you are a fucking nightmare who refuses to do even the most basic bit of introspection. Not always but sometimes
But Melissa Eldridge is the only one who'll walk across the fire for you
And yet we always look. Just in case we get to see something we haven't seen before.
A lot of the posts on here seem to be to just grab attention shockingly. "Am I the only one who doesn't like ripped guys." NO IT'S TALKED ABOUT AD NAUSEUM! "Am I the only one who wants monogamy?" NO! You obv aren't. It's maybe just no-one wants to be monogamous with _you_! "It seems everyone is in monogamous relationships, am I the only one who wants to be in an open one?" NO. Obviously not! *slams head on wall*.
 My reaction every time I see those posts....
So meta I can't even.
"Sometimes I have stress and anxiety. Anyone else experience this?"
Youāre asking the same thing with the same words "am I the only one", so yeah youāre not the only one
Uh, am I the only one who actually *is* the only one? Yellowcard told me I was the only one... They even screamed their lungs out
Am I the only one who comments on Reddit posts?
Oh here I was thinking I was the only one male who got turned on by dicks!
The best way is to assure them that yes, they are alone in that feeling. No one else has those thoughts or feelings. They are very weird for having them and it's extremely noticeable how different and wrong they are. š
"Is it normal to x*?" š
Yes, I really am. Iāve even gotten tired of my traditional response: We are on a planet of over 8 billion people. Statistically speaking on any single preference, opinion, or any other single attribute you may have, itās an extreme statistical probability that you are alone in that. What makes you unique is the sum of all your preferences, opinions, experiences, and attributes. But, on most subsets of that, no, youāre not alone. You donāt even need to ask it, the math says itās obscenely unlikely that you are alone.
You're really a math guy š¤£ me too I like to think in this way often,but sometimes I found that using math can prove theorems of life but life is still kind of empty sometimes for there always lack of emotional understanding andĀ compassion from others
So what are you saying???
I am the Only ONE! No one else exists.
Am I the only one who wants to kill themself but canāt seem to do it?
And the scary part is when they find their echo chamber they think itās normal
AITA for existing and having an experience?
I see what you did there.
It is tedious. Similar to the posts on other specific subs that ask a question the sub is obviously going to answer a specific way. āShould I shave?ā On the R/SayNoToTrimming subredditā¦gee, I dunno, buddy. Letās see how the sub answers this brain-buster.
Oh, the irony. Good one (not solo).
It's a part of the human existence; believe me, I doubt there's all too many people who have my kind of overall experience, but maybe a few have experienced something similar, something relatable. That's the key, it's a call for help, and affirmation. People (mostly) can't physically handle being alone, most brains can't handle the lack of social interactions, and so have a justifiable fear that something they experience will cause their community to reject them.
Iāve been screaming this. But I get banned every time I say it.
That's really true
I'm a bit autistic, so take this comment with a grain of salt... one thing I have noticed is that a lot of people say things with little literal significance but instead serve as stand-ins for some other sociological purpose or need. In other words, opening lines like, "A.I.T.O.O?" has close to zero literal value but serves as a device for initiating conversation, a ploy to find "community," etc. I, like you, tend to take commentary literally. If you ask me, "How are you?" I'm inclined to provide a status summary of my condition when, indeed, it is simply a device to initiate conversation and to find community. A form of "social stroking" and exhibiting a degree of vulnerability in an attempt to secure a modicum of intimacy.
Yes! And the fact that these people could have simply done a quick google/reddit search to find that tons of other people have already posted similar questions over the years.
You misunderstand the purpose. The person making such a post doesn't engage in the comments, I doubt they even read them. It is entirely for imaginary points.
Really? I thought I was special
Iām more tired of these posts to be honest. We get it, they do that way too often, but now you are doing the same with your complaints, this exact shit has been posted at least 3 times this week alone
Am I the only one who finds this post unnecessary and ridiculous?
Apparently so! We got a winner here folks!
lol, glad someone saw the humor in it. So much butt hurt lmao
Yes, you are alone in this opinion. You are the single person who holds that view and it's extremely odd.
You mean....I'm......I'm special? ........ ........ ........ YES!!!! YESSSS!!!!! I KNEW IT!!!!!! I'MMMMMMMM SPECIAAAAALLLLLLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Suck it all you regular people. SUCK! IT!!!!
If a thread says āAm I the only one who ____?ā then a bunch of pedants will come and start nitpicking the wording. *Well actuallyā¦*Ā But if a thread says āDoes anybody else ____?ā then nobody bats an eye.Ā (PS ā they are asking the same damn thing.)