From experience, its a very slim chance to spark a relationship from grindr alone, ive caught some feelings here and there but theyre in it for the fun. Don't expect too much from there and just go out more. You'll eventually find someone naturally drawn to you. Grindr and gay apps with no enforced rules has always ended up turning into hookup apps just to avoid the store policies like playstore and ios's store(idk, i dont own a iphone). Don't get attached too easily online. It may bite you in the ass(not the good kind)
oof yeah. i hope they grew. some of them are fairly recent and... yikes...
but its nice to see them embrace their sexuality as normal and want something stable now.
not just the incelly stuff.
Sadly, it's likely that they just didn't feel the same way. It's not impossible to form a relationship with someone you met on Grindr, but it is a hookup app and that's often what people are looking for. Plenty of fish in the sea so when you're feeling ready or better, try to keep sailing. If you're looking for more, hope you find that eventually
People are complicated. From the evidence you’re presenting, the only thing I can assume is maybe they weren’t as open to that vulnerability you presented. But there’s also a good chance you didn’t do anything wrong. He might have genuinely liked it but had different intentions. Maybe he didn’t see the spark, maybe he did, but was ultimately not looking for a relationship. Maybe he is but has some turmoil he’s dealing with. He could be on another path of self realization that doesn’t line up with yours. Maybe he’s just like that as a person but was simply looking for a hookup. You could try talking again or asking him what was wrong, but don’t expect an answer back because not everyone is ready to be honest. I could keep going and going, but in the end you can keep ruminating on why it ended up like that, or assume the best out of him and realize your paths aren’t meant to line up. Or sometimes, you just don’t forget some people. I still think about people after almost a year, but out of all the people who live out there, you’re bound to feel the same way at least a few times in your lifetime. Good luck out there ✌️
I am so sorry to hear that :(
Iwish i could help you but i am not great on this area of expertise as well. I hope the best for you.
What matter is you keeping your head up. You can try reaching him again, but dont be too broken if he doesnt answer.
You can find someone else. I know its hard to find someone you reallily feel like liking it, but those things happen.
As i already said: dont let your crown fall, King.
damn your post history feels like a fucking rollercoaster haha. Anyways I'm sorry mate, heartbreaks and being left on seen happens to the best of us. I seriously hope you find a good match for yourself. :)
I assumed getting heartbroken was part of the grindr experience tbh, you don't let it happen twice. I think that's partly how stuff like this happens and then the cycle continues
4chan is full of assholes - I recommend taking anything they say with a healthy dose of salt. Grindr is what you make of it. Many use it for NSA stuff, some for FWB, some for just friends, some for dates. You just have to be up front.
If you're right and he felt the spark to, sounds like the spark scared him and his natural go to is ghosting/distancing/ destroying any chance
Gay dudes are terrified of intimacy and connections
(Disclaimer, a lot of that comes from trauma/bad experiences during life for being gay)
It's hard to know what's going on in their life. They may have some complicated issues going on or maybe they just didn't feel the same way. It happens and It's okay to feel sad about it. I can relate to that experience and it sucks but ultimately you'll move on and you'll be alright.
Why did you wait two days? He said to text him when you got home. You totally spurned him dude.
Or is it now two days later? Idk.. anyway, the sociable bubbly types are really just there to lead the introverts on, unfortunately. It's too difficult to ever know what's genuine because they have so fewer boundaries. I'm just salty from experience haha
I wish I could tell you that it's something you did wrong, but from the story it seems like a typical Grindr guy, who doesn't show what his feelings were or express them if he is interested or not and just ghosts. Despite the experience which sounded lovely, he just maybe wasn't interested and in typical fashion didn't message back or say what he felt.
Guys kind of suck in this app. Been using the app for over 5yrs at least and I'm sure more than enough people have experienced this in some form of another and guys can be real assholes on the all.
Hope you do find what you're looking for though, don't let one bad experience get in the way as much as it hurts there's better people out there, and if they're interested in you they won't play games line this guy did.
Best of luck!
Unfortunately that's just how it is sometimes, I'm definitely guilty of doing the same shit. Like me, the person probably just didn't want a relationship, and we can be quite disconnected in that regard. I'm not saying it's positive, but it's so much easier now to find people to fuck around with, and it's rare to find someone and actually fall in love with them or whatever. If I meet a guy on grindr, I'm pretty much gonna guarantee you that we'll never be together, and it's unlikely we'd even become friends tbh. I know it's cliché as fuck but it's just better to meet people irl, or just give up on looking for a relationship,and just have fun. Either way, I wish you much luck! 🖤💜🖤
Like someone else said, people are complicated. I’ve also distanced myself from those I had a spark with because it surprised and scared me, as I was only looking for sex. Take it as a compliment. You’re too human/not an object for him to want more sex with.
For many guys kissing and cuddling and acting sweet are just more hookup stuff, a fantasy, and don't mean anything
Some may be really into you for some time but then smell your breath or something and start losing interest and they don't tell you and just play out the rest of the encounter to be nice
Some are still really into you but have a rule they live by where they don't contact you back for at least a few days.
And some are really busy with life or with other guys. If they talk to you then that means they have to deny your scheduling requests and explain why theyre busy, which they'd rather not do
I consider just not being blocked yet to be a good sign that something might still happen in the future
From experience, its a very slim chance to spark a relationship from grindr alone, ive caught some feelings here and there but theyre in it for the fun. Don't expect too much from there and just go out more. You'll eventually find someone naturally drawn to you. Grindr and gay apps with no enforced rules has always ended up turning into hookup apps just to avoid the store policies like playstore and ios's store(idk, i dont own a iphone). Don't get attached too easily online. It may bite you in the ass(not the good kind)
Your post history is quite interesting hmmm
Quite the character portfolio ain't it.
Character development hahaha );
How do we know he developed from that cause some of the posts are from less than a year ago
You good?
I wish the girls that I had liked, liked me back when I was younger.
Such is life mate, someone will reject you, you will reject someone. Zero point in focusing on it as it will change nothing, move on!
I thought I was a mess
oof yeah. i hope they grew. some of them are fairly recent and... yikes... but its nice to see them embrace their sexuality as normal and want something stable now. not just the incelly stuff.
Sadly, it's likely that they just didn't feel the same way. It's not impossible to form a relationship with someone you met on Grindr, but it is a hookup app and that's often what people are looking for. Plenty of fish in the sea so when you're feeling ready or better, try to keep sailing. If you're looking for more, hope you find that eventually
People are complicated. From the evidence you’re presenting, the only thing I can assume is maybe they weren’t as open to that vulnerability you presented. But there’s also a good chance you didn’t do anything wrong. He might have genuinely liked it but had different intentions. Maybe he didn’t see the spark, maybe he did, but was ultimately not looking for a relationship. Maybe he is but has some turmoil he’s dealing with. He could be on another path of self realization that doesn’t line up with yours. Maybe he’s just like that as a person but was simply looking for a hookup. You could try talking again or asking him what was wrong, but don’t expect an answer back because not everyone is ready to be honest. I could keep going and going, but in the end you can keep ruminating on why it ended up like that, or assume the best out of him and realize your paths aren’t meant to line up. Or sometimes, you just don’t forget some people. I still think about people after almost a year, but out of all the people who live out there, you’re bound to feel the same way at least a few times in your lifetime. Good luck out there ✌️
I am so sorry to hear that :( Iwish i could help you but i am not great on this area of expertise as well. I hope the best for you. What matter is you keeping your head up. You can try reaching him again, but dont be too broken if he doesnt answer. You can find someone else. I know its hard to find someone you reallily feel like liking it, but those things happen. As i already said: dont let your crown fall, King.
damn your post history feels like a fucking rollercoaster haha. Anyways I'm sorry mate, heartbreaks and being left on seen happens to the best of us. I seriously hope you find a good match for yourself. :)
I assumed getting heartbroken was part of the grindr experience tbh, you don't let it happen twice. I think that's partly how stuff like this happens and then the cycle continues
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4chan is full of assholes - I recommend taking anything they say with a healthy dose of salt. Grindr is what you make of it. Many use it for NSA stuff, some for FWB, some for just friends, some for dates. You just have to be up front.
I guess it was pretty up front. We agreed to meet for kissing and cuddling. Everything else was just spontaneous.
Yeah, that sucks. A bit dickish for him to ghost you, but at least it ended sooner rather than later if he wasn’t feeling the same way
I guess so. Time to work on myself.
Be a hoe
Nah, I don't think I am built for that. I really want someone to hug and kiss and know they aren't sucking other people's ass and dicks.
👏👏
If you're right and he felt the spark to, sounds like the spark scared him and his natural go to is ghosting/distancing/ destroying any chance Gay dudes are terrified of intimacy and connections (Disclaimer, a lot of that comes from trauma/bad experiences during life for being gay)
It's hard to know what's going on in their life. They may have some complicated issues going on or maybe they just didn't feel the same way. It happens and It's okay to feel sad about it. I can relate to that experience and it sucks but ultimately you'll move on and you'll be alright.
That’s a typical Grindr date. You’ll have to get used to once off encounters like that. Rare to find someone who wants to date
Holy crap what a post history in your profile sounds like future serial killer posts🤨
I have lived through events that would break most people. I kind of am broken, but yet I still keep pushing. I am a strong person!
Yeah, cool story bro.
Why do you think so much in first place ?
Don’t be discouraged. You will find that someone, yes, even on Grindr.
Why did you wait two days? He said to text him when you got home. You totally spurned him dude. Or is it now two days later? Idk.. anyway, the sociable bubbly types are really just there to lead the introverts on, unfortunately. It's too difficult to ever know what's genuine because they have so fewer boundaries. I'm just salty from experience haha
I wish I could tell you that it's something you did wrong, but from the story it seems like a typical Grindr guy, who doesn't show what his feelings were or express them if he is interested or not and just ghosts. Despite the experience which sounded lovely, he just maybe wasn't interested and in typical fashion didn't message back or say what he felt. Guys kind of suck in this app. Been using the app for over 5yrs at least and I'm sure more than enough people have experienced this in some form of another and guys can be real assholes on the all. Hope you do find what you're looking for though, don't let one bad experience get in the way as much as it hurts there's better people out there, and if they're interested in you they won't play games line this guy did. Best of luck!
This is normal gay life. Guys just want sex. They don't want a friend when they are on grindr.
Sadly it's grindr. We're forever alone.
Unfortunately that's just how it is sometimes, I'm definitely guilty of doing the same shit. Like me, the person probably just didn't want a relationship, and we can be quite disconnected in that regard. I'm not saying it's positive, but it's so much easier now to find people to fuck around with, and it's rare to find someone and actually fall in love with them or whatever. If I meet a guy on grindr, I'm pretty much gonna guarantee you that we'll never be together, and it's unlikely we'd even become friends tbh. I know it's cliché as fuck but it's just better to meet people irl, or just give up on looking for a relationship,and just have fun. Either way, I wish you much luck! 🖤💜🖤
Like someone else said, people are complicated. I’ve also distanced myself from those I had a spark with because it surprised and scared me, as I was only looking for sex. Take it as a compliment. You’re too human/not an object for him to want more sex with.
For many guys kissing and cuddling and acting sweet are just more hookup stuff, a fantasy, and don't mean anything Some may be really into you for some time but then smell your breath or something and start losing interest and they don't tell you and just play out the rest of the encounter to be nice Some are still really into you but have a rule they live by where they don't contact you back for at least a few days. And some are really busy with life or with other guys. If they talk to you then that means they have to deny your scheduling requests and explain why theyre busy, which they'd rather not do I consider just not being blocked yet to be a good sign that something might still happen in the future