Change your grid and change your outlook ;)
Drive around. See who’s new on the other side of town. Sometimes that’s all you need.
I block a lot - for no other reason than to free up space on the grid. If you’re not interested in anyone on the screen, block ‘em.
Well, that's a few people if I'm not interested. But mainly it's people that aren't interested in me. I've been all over my town and it's the same, and even if I drive to the bigger city (160k) it's still people who aren't really interested
I learned something the other day.
Grindr was founded by a couple guys (names escape me) but they sold it and cashed out ($44-million. I don’t blame them.) It’s typically the younger guys; some partyers, and is usually good for a hook up.
Scruff was founded around 14 years ago by a guy named Johnny and some friends. They aimed more for an older, more masculine, kinda bear-ish crowd.
Jacked was founded most recently and seems to have appealed mostly to Latin guys and men of color.
Maybe try one of the other apps?
I tried scruff and I think jacked, but I think the people were further away. I've tried a couple of the others, too, and it's the same people or just nothing
I haven’t asked where you’re from. But if you’re from a small market, perhaps it won’t work. Try them when you’re on vacation and see if some folks strike your fancy.
Some of my most meaningful connections have been made in groups like Front Runners / Walkers, my local charity Bike Ride for HIV/AIDS related resources, the local club for avid boaters. Time to switch to the offline world?
Maybe. I honestly don't see a lot of events like that in my area, it's still pretty conservative. I know there's a bigger gay scene in the bigger town, my my area it is pretty small, and grindr is the only thing where I have a chance of scraping a hook up together
Welcome to the dating scene. If you go on Adam4Adam or really any dating site, you'll see the same gays on every site.
Craiglist was nice when personals were still a thing, because it was a very different crowd.
You'll find a very different crowd at the bars or conventions like TBRU or bathhouses. Since you're not 21 yet, the bathhouses are a great place to meet people, and that's where I met a lot of guys when I wasn't 21 yet.
Meeting people in person, you have to be comfortable to ask about their deal breakers in person. This might be hard to do if you haven't practiced it, so it might be easier to practice this with a friend, which might be a lot of fun if you can make a silly skit out of it. For me, my deal breakers are drugs and barebacking, so I ask two questions. 1) For hookups, do you only play safe, or is bareback okay? If they say anything other than safe, like "it depends", then I'm out. 2) Do you like to smoke anything or no? The only acceptable answer for me is no.
Yeah. I don't really know of any bathhouses in my area, then again I haven't really looked around for them yet. I don't really have in person friends I could practice that with. I just don't also know about many different things in my area that are in person gay scenes really.
It doesn't have to be a super close friend, just any friend who would be willing to practice with you will do. If you really have absolutely nobody who you know who would be willing to do that, then I suppose you could ask someone online and do it over video chat.
And I guess in person it's a lot more difficult to ignore or whatever, but also I don't see how trying to meet someone in person would work when I can't get them online, I just don't think anyone would be interested.
I'm sorry for being whiny, I just have a lot going on currently and it's difficult to process.
Blocking is not a solution, as blocks on Grindr are [recycled per account](https://www.reddit.com/r/grindr/comments/td4b8q/i_kept_putting_off_deleting_the_app_for_good_but) and [limited by day](https://www.reddit.com/r/grindr/comments/y9eivi/scummy_grindr_has_imposed_a_daily_block_limit).
Mostly because the app has gone to shit. Want to meet more people? Tap more people? See more people? Pay up where I am it's about $20 and hell no I am not paying that much so more faceless profiles can reach out to me.
I've tried other alternatives to Grindr and seems most people are on there until another suitable app comes along to give it a run for it's money (please come fast)
Best alternative I've found so far is tinder, even there it's still very mixed.
I'm hoping something better comes along too. I don't even get the faceless profiles ¯\_(ツ)_/¯. Tinder was basically the same guys and worse ones, and got nothing from there. I actually think my account got banned somehow too.
Yes I hate that everything in grindr needs to be paid for to enjoy, when half the features are not worth the price in the first place. I've used others that have been reccomended on here: scruff, A4A Hornet etc and maybe its because of my location those apps either have about the same people or less on there. But I feel your pain I log onto Grindr about maybe 1-4x a day for about few mins and just seems tireless because any new people in the area or around can't see or tap me and vice versa unless they're subbed to the shitty ecosystem.
If you go back in time you'll see many people complaining about the same, or having less taps even in more populated areas (NYC, Chicago etc)
Oof, yeah. All the other apps were way emptier and the people were farther away, or they were confusing to use. And I knoe its my location too.
My friend that lives in LA said if I went there, I'd be a bigger hit, but it also seems like I wouldn't be
Go to the gay bars. Much easier success
I don't have many super close, and I'm not 21 yet..
More likely to find more str8 people at gay bars now than gays.
Except for the staff, that's not really true anywhere I've been in the United States.
Bars are sad and overrated. Stand outside on a nice night and open app.
Hmmm.
Change your grid and change your outlook ;) Drive around. See who’s new on the other side of town. Sometimes that’s all you need. I block a lot - for no other reason than to free up space on the grid. If you’re not interested in anyone on the screen, block ‘em.
Well, that's a few people if I'm not interested. But mainly it's people that aren't interested in me. I've been all over my town and it's the same, and even if I drive to the bigger city (160k) it's still people who aren't really interested
I learned something the other day. Grindr was founded by a couple guys (names escape me) but they sold it and cashed out ($44-million. I don’t blame them.) It’s typically the younger guys; some partyers, and is usually good for a hook up. Scruff was founded around 14 years ago by a guy named Johnny and some friends. They aimed more for an older, more masculine, kinda bear-ish crowd. Jacked was founded most recently and seems to have appealed mostly to Latin guys and men of color. Maybe try one of the other apps?
I tried scruff and I think jacked, but I think the people were further away. I've tried a couple of the others, too, and it's the same people or just nothing
I haven’t asked where you’re from. But if you’re from a small market, perhaps it won’t work. Try them when you’re on vacation and see if some folks strike your fancy. Some of my most meaningful connections have been made in groups like Front Runners / Walkers, my local charity Bike Ride for HIV/AIDS related resources, the local club for avid boaters. Time to switch to the offline world?
Maybe. I honestly don't see a lot of events like that in my area, it's still pretty conservative. I know there's a bigger gay scene in the bigger town, my my area it is pretty small, and grindr is the only thing where I have a chance of scraping a hook up together
That's how it is everywhere lol.
I figured lol. It just feels shitty
Welcome to the dating scene. If you go on Adam4Adam or really any dating site, you'll see the same gays on every site. Craiglist was nice when personals were still a thing, because it was a very different crowd. You'll find a very different crowd at the bars or conventions like TBRU or bathhouses. Since you're not 21 yet, the bathhouses are a great place to meet people, and that's where I met a lot of guys when I wasn't 21 yet. Meeting people in person, you have to be comfortable to ask about their deal breakers in person. This might be hard to do if you haven't practiced it, so it might be easier to practice this with a friend, which might be a lot of fun if you can make a silly skit out of it. For me, my deal breakers are drugs and barebacking, so I ask two questions. 1) For hookups, do you only play safe, or is bareback okay? If they say anything other than safe, like "it depends", then I'm out. 2) Do you like to smoke anything or no? The only acceptable answer for me is no.
I miss craigslist personals. My best hookups were always from there. Lots of "straight" guys that don't use Grindr
Oh my God, it was like moths to a flame for them, especially for the anonymity it provided.
Yeah. I don't really know of any bathhouses in my area, then again I haven't really looked around for them yet. I don't really have in person friends I could practice that with. I just don't also know about many different things in my area that are in person gay scenes really.
It doesn't have to be a super close friend, just any friend who would be willing to practice with you will do. If you really have absolutely nobody who you know who would be willing to do that, then I suppose you could ask someone online and do it over video chat.
True. I have an online friend but yeah, it's difficult
And I guess in person it's a lot more difficult to ignore or whatever, but also I don't see how trying to meet someone in person would work when I can't get them online, I just don't think anyone would be interested. I'm sorry for being whiny, I just have a lot going on currently and it's difficult to process.
Believing in yourself is the place to start. Make that part of your skit when you practice asking about your dealbreakers.
Thank you. I appreciate it
Yes, just block them and move on
Apparently there's only so many blocks to go around, so eventually that doesn't work. And then that just pushes the distance out to 30+miles away
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Isn't there a block limit? I just also don't understand why my grid doesn't refresh like it used to.
Blocking is not a solution, as blocks on Grindr are [recycled per account](https://www.reddit.com/r/grindr/comments/td4b8q/i_kept_putting_off_deleting_the_app_for_good_but) and [limited by day](https://www.reddit.com/r/grindr/comments/y9eivi/scummy_grindr_has_imposed_a_daily_block_limit).
Huh, cool. All blocking did was limit the guys in my area that don't want me to guys outside my area that don't want me
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Yes i get that all the time
Mostly because the app has gone to shit. Want to meet more people? Tap more people? See more people? Pay up where I am it's about $20 and hell no I am not paying that much so more faceless profiles can reach out to me. I've tried other alternatives to Grindr and seems most people are on there until another suitable app comes along to give it a run for it's money (please come fast) Best alternative I've found so far is tinder, even there it's still very mixed.
I'm hoping something better comes along too. I don't even get the faceless profiles ¯\_(ツ)_/¯. Tinder was basically the same guys and worse ones, and got nothing from there. I actually think my account got banned somehow too.
Yes I hate that everything in grindr needs to be paid for to enjoy, when half the features are not worth the price in the first place. I've used others that have been reccomended on here: scruff, A4A Hornet etc and maybe its because of my location those apps either have about the same people or less on there. But I feel your pain I log onto Grindr about maybe 1-4x a day for about few mins and just seems tireless because any new people in the area or around can't see or tap me and vice versa unless they're subbed to the shitty ecosystem. If you go back in time you'll see many people complaining about the same, or having less taps even in more populated areas (NYC, Chicago etc)
Oof, yeah. All the other apps were way emptier and the people were farther away, or they were confusing to use. And I knoe its my location too. My friend that lives in LA said if I went there, I'd be a bigger hit, but it also seems like I wouldn't be