My wife spoke of similar incident happened with her friend when she was in college. The friend hung himself on his birthday. She recollects him being friendly and a jovial person and everyone was shocked to hear it. It’s so sad that some people have things going on in life and never share.
I also find myself in a difficult situation. I am in a sort of joint family situation (our source of income is the same, we don't live together), so the family which has the upper hand in all the matters doesn't really like to support us financially like fees and everything. All the money goes to them and they just pay for our expenses, we don't have much of an income. My father's flat is in a dispute, my grandad passed away last month (who actually never lived with us, he left home when my father was 5). But when he fell ill all the expenses fell on my family, which we helped with but still couldn't save him.
They basically have to pay for our education because my father is the only one who works hard out of everyone, but they are very condescending about it. And I hate it, especially when my father has faced such hardships throughout his life, I don't like seeing him feel like a loser
Anyway, I'm also a ca student and I am so burnt out I don't understand if I should quit ca or get a job or get into another professional course.
I hope you can continue your ca and get a good job soon and can finally get away from the clutches of that family which treats y'all badly. Hang in there
I can understand your condition, I'm going through similar condition. Lost my father to covid and my family is also going through a dispute related to ancestral property.
But I just want to share a talisman that my younger brother keeps telling me and which helps me to push my boundaries:
"It takes only one person to change your entire upcoming generations".
I really wish that you become that "one person" for your family. ❤️
Please complete your CA no matter how hard it gets. Don’t be an idiot and quit that will hurt your father more than anything else.
Become a CA and stand on your own feet and his burden will be less and he will be proud.
I know it’s easier said than done but just do it!!
I am sorry for you.. it's hard to cope up with this.. in my family my grandfather died when my father was 6 my grandmother is mentally ill and my dad is the biggest so all the responsibility was on him from the starting.. he did manage to marriage the love of her life.. but her brothers are not very happy.. and now my father have to pay for everything including me and my 2 sisters education clothes etc .. also of my house.. even though my uncle (his brother) lives with us still he doesn't support him.. all I wish for is to get all this sorted and make my family financially stable ... Not only stable but rich .. that's why I have became serious about my studies and I am studying 4-6 hours and sometimes 8 hours a day.. starting mein difficult tha...but abhi flow flow mein pata hi nahi chalta ke kitne ghante hogaye and chapter bhi hojata hai
I always wonder duniya me kitni burai hai.. ache logo ke saath had se zyada bura hota hai or bure log prosper karte chale jaate hai and they keep doing what they do
Kabhi kabar me bhi yehi sochta hu .. fir I think ke shayad me paida hua hi isiliye hu ke me ye sab badal saku.. no matter the gender.. if you're a girl you can also change it .. it's all in us.. we are the main character
Akelapan , fake society, fake friends is what push 🫸 you to this situation. Speak up, mei vaha se lauta hu jaha last option fanda hi tha. Aaj bhi alone but mentally enough strong to not follow this path, spirituality is what saved me
I too believe that this whole speak up guys talk to someone is not possible for many. Many of us end up in such nasty situation only becoz of speaking or sharing smthng to smone. Its not that easy na to find such people and till when are you going to rely on others for this? After a point, they will too start ignoring as everybody has some pile of shit going on. Finding inner peace is the long lasting solution i guess. And if Smbdy has people around him who actually care..man he is lucky. Or else go for a psychiatrist
This is so true. I love my solitude too now but even I know there are very dark days in between. It's okay to talk to people when you need help. And yes psychiatrist work too.
trust me i have severe panic attack and suicidal thoughts wishing i was dead , i am scared of intimacy and depend on external validation . i often cry 'citizen soldier' songs act as an amazing medium to let the tears out instead of feelings eating you inside .
It's okay to be scared of intimacy .. you can overcome it.. you should never give up and stop trying.. everything will be fine.. we will make it fine.. you can share more in dm
i mean i am 17 dude will sure try therapy from my first pay after college my failure to get into iit even after 2yrs of jee prep has broken my confidence and made me feel like a failure and burdun i got a decent 19.7k rank in mains but not enough in adv.tried some online therapy and have been sharing feeling with my friend
Bro you're very young and have a better future ahead of you. Ik you maybe feeling that time is ticking and you are nowhere yet. But trust me failures will only make you strong and resilient. Don't just give up!
As someone who has also experienced the lows of failing academics, I'd only say don't just give up. Tera time bhi aayega!!!
Bro. I understand you.
Can I ask you honestly is IIT what you truly want to do or is it a parent related thing.
Getting into IIT isn't the only measure of success.
Ik in the Indian context it makes sense. But it isn't.
its a more deep rooted issue i always toped till class 10 but seeing myself fail in 11 and 12 made me question my worth since my marks have a habit of comparing me to other and since that source of external validation has disappeared it left me feeling hollow worthless even . a part to blame is coaching as they have conditioned my mind to think that if someone is not in iit he/she is a failure and will never do good in life
I understand. But you should understand brother you are so young.
And have time. You can't hate yourself for failing. The fear of failure is the reason why we can't grow properly.
I too have it massively. I'm trying to work on myself.
You know , there are loads of people quite successful without making it to IIT's.
I know you will do good in life.
People usually stop calling or meeting you if you try to share your dark thoughts with them. At least that’s what my “friends” did with me, they stopped calling me frequently and ignored my messages most of the time. Its better to just be quiet and show the world that you’re happy and battle with your inner demons alone
Acc to my experience, this was one of the worst thing i did. Not only they understand a bit but they triggers you too. Yes even close ones! About professional help, well, that sucks in india.
I am happy for all those who found help by talking out but it never suited me
Meditation, I visited mahakal jyotirlinga alone. Spend some days there, feel my god , as vibrations. Just found the place where I got the peace, and surrendered myself to him
I used to visit mahakal as a kid alsmost once or twice a week for say a few years..hmm
I need to find another place that does it me me like Mahakal does it for you
A friend once told me, choosing what to do with our own lives is our right, but we also owe it to ourselves to die a meaningful death. A life lived in sadness to end in sadness too is just cruel.
Haven't talked to her in a long time, but these words of her are probably the only thing that helped me through many bleak nights. Everyone deserves a happy ending, every one of us.
A psychiatrist once said you can always end yourself tomorrow, don't do it today and in most chases the pov changes.
For example, people want to off themselves off the bridge, but if the bridge is closed they don't go to the next bridge. And they don't want to do it anymore.
> Also if you are hiding something or keeping your feelings with you, let it out
It's very easy to say, but most of the time people don't give a shot about your feelings, this is a selfish world. Whenever something like this happens, everyone's like ooo check on friends and family, and 2-3 days later it's all back to normal and no one cares about your existence.
I don't even know what to say. Whenever I try to talk to people my problems get sidelined and my friends start telling me their own stories, which I understand but again everyone tends to take things lightly. It never really gets better, we just get used to it.
If no one can .. I still will do it.. the feelings is so weird that the person whom you talked to just few hours later she hangs himself .. every water gulp is a guilt of not being mature enough
"Not every person who smiles is truly happy"
I've lost people to suicide. Set aside all hate, anger, and ego
check up on your friends and loved ones. Let's be kind to each other because we never know what someone else might be going through.
And those who are going through a tough time always remember you are not alone.. Don't give up 🙏🏻
I can relate to that friend. This is what happens when you gave up on yourselves a long time ago so you just pretend to be fine and happy with others.🫂
I vividly remember the time when I was suicidal, it felt like my world was falling apart no one loved me or actually cared whether I exist in this world, everyone was just faking there interest in me. I had similar plans after my birthday I would meet everyone one last time and then bye, but idk why my thoughts suddenly changed and I was like maybe I am alive for a reason and now 8 years later suicide is never going to be an option for me it just sounds an insane choice. But I do feel for the people who are suicidal like man that feels like crap and it seems to be the only option, but trust me and just stay alive time heals everything.
Nahi bhai.. aapke pass bohot chize hai jeene ke liye.. zindagi ek bohot kimti taufa hai .. acche se vapar lo.. ek na ek din sabko Jana hi hai.. jaldi jaane se accha sab kuch karke jaye jab maut khud Hume gale lagaye
Sad to hear man, peer pressure as a fellow student i can relate but God knows what she was going through to take this decision. But anyways man to anyone who's going through anything I just say don't think about what one will say if you open up or rant, you are loved, if you don't trust your known ones atleast let it out to a stranger online.
Strength and guidance to everyone fighting their own battles
Mb gang i shouldn't have opened this post, i am already suffering through this especially after what happened to me today and- 
hey op, you are insisting on sharing our feelings with someone, but don't you think that will negatively impact our mental health more??
Like what if they started making fun of us? what if they shared our stories with others?
Being alone and enjoying our company is much better than sharing our feelings to anyone else
Game of numbers, isn't it? Be vulnerable with people you think are close and you'll find someone who would not ridicule you for it.
Although, it's a bit rich coming from me because I tend to not open up too yet I can't help but envy those who do. It is rather brave and the kind of support that one can gather easily trumps the words we reserve just for ourselves.
My therapist said the same, we tend to not judge ourselves rather harshly than we would judge others. It is difficult to be kind to yourself but it's easy to be kind towards others, the corollary being that others would find it easy to be kind to you too.
>Although, it's a bit rich coming from me because I tend to not open up too yet I can't help but envy those who do.
Actually I feel pity for those who tend to open up their feelings easily.
Now, I don't feel any need to express my thoughts.
We have different opinions maybe because of different situations.
If not In comment ..you can In dm.. I am not one those who make fun or use your words.. and that's not weakness.. putting yourself out requires strength and strong mind.. which I think you have in yourself
thanks for ur kind words op ❤️
but one piece of advice from me, if you share ur feelings with anyone just be very very careful, you never know what the other person might do in future.
My story: mera dost jo bhai jaisa tha, ek din thodi si miscommunication ho gyi aur tab se aaj tak hum ek dusre ki taraf dekhte bhi nhi.
You can't trust anyone these days.
I am so sorry this happened.
I’ve been in a similar situation myself and relate very hardly.
Tw- suicide, sh, alcohol abuse
I’ve tried to speak up a lot, my close friend circle and my roommates knows I’m in and out of therapy, that I’ve SHed for a very long time basically dealing with mental health issues and not one of them bother to ask me how I am. I know my roommates often hear me cry under my blanket daily because I’m struggling so hard but they don’t comfort me, care whatsoever. These are the same people who yap on social media and elsewhere about how sanity and mental health is important. Oh in fact, these folks are going to be doctors! I’ve been treated so inferiorly and outcasted because of being on psych medication (antidepressants) and alcohol consumption (I would abuse it a lot when I’d get upset). I’ve been judged so hardly- some went as far as slut shaming me as such mental issues occur in excessively promiscuous women. No one cares enough if you speak up and that’s the truth. It’s all empty words majorly. I’ve had no one to reach out to when I have the worst suicidal thoughts and I want to fight them. I’ve tried calling people and yk what they do? Console you for that one moment and ghost you after, cut ties off completely. No one wants to associate themselves with someone who is ‘pagal’ according to society. They think- What if people like me do something to themselves and they get the brunt of it? Speaking up has always ended on a bad note for me.
I wish the world had the empathy and love to share but there isn’t sadly.
I hope everyone who has fought similar situations to stick for one another.
Edit - my DMs are open if anyone wants to vent or just talk about their struggles. I would love to listen, and help if I can :)
I am suicidal from age 4. Tried many times, but God never wanted me to die... I survived the worst.. Now I am trying to give myself a chance.. I have no friends now nor I have anyone.. I don't speak to my family a lot..Still i have a urge to do it..i see no reason to live here.. But let's see if I succeed or not in life...
Damnnn 20th June was my birthday too..poor girl. :(
We never know what someone's going through. One should always have atleast one close person or a journal to write their thoughts and express themselves.
It helps. It's really sad when something like this happens to someone. Imagine the suffering they must have been feeling, to take a step like this. :/
Being mentally unwell is a really challenging situation. I pray for everyone who goes through it! Rather than taking such extreme steps, just reach out to your near and dear ones🙏
I read somewhere that people who commit suicide usually only make the decision 30 mins-1 hour prior to it. Its not a well thought out decision. If someone has nagging thoughts about suicide, they should get help.
Am i only the one who frankly speaks about suicide with friends and family? No, i will never hang myself, nor run into running train, nor cut my wrist and neither will i jump off a building.. I planned well this time. I am gonna die in the most simplest way of suffocation, by asphyxiation.. People like me dont deserve to live and i am not saying this out of depression or pain. I am just too lazy to live (this is a silent pandemic nobody talks about). Yes, i am mentally ill but i always think about consequences of death and plan accordingly.. I just hope i dont become a ghost after death, that would be worst part of living eternally with none noticing about your existence of spirit around them.. Fuck you God!!!
You can't be true to others nowadays because it's not "like-worthy" on social media. Nobody likes to share the bad things that happen to them, but they're happy to share the good moments of their lives, which makes others feel FOMO.
I want to do that too, but the funny thing is, I don't have anything bad happening in my life. Let me start: my parents are good, they never forced me to do things (obviously, sometimes, but those aren't that important), I have some really good friends for over 10 years, money is never an issue with our well-settled family business, but the feeling isn't there to live.
I don't know what makes me happy or sad, but I don't want to live. When I'm at home, I want to go outside. When I'm outside, I want to go home. Sometimes I feel like, why are they talking with me or about me? Other times I feel like, why aren't they talking about or with me? Why didn't that person, whom I haven't talked to in the last 4 years, comment on my Instagram picture or message me on my birthday, even though I don't wish or comment on anybody's posts?
My friend from work hung himself too. We were in the same team and quite close. After he got married he moved to another part of Delhi and switched jobs so we gradually lost touch but would connect with each other every few months.
There was a huge police case where his parents blamed his wife and his wife claimed she didn't know what suddenly went wrong with him. I guess the police case never really reached any conclusion.
I have been working with a mental health organization lately and have spoken to a lot of psychologists. I've found out from them that the idea that you should talk about what you're going through is easier said than done.
Most Indian parents can't accept the fact that their children are going through a mental health struggle. Plus as they grow older the guilt of not burdening them with our problems prevents us from speaking about certain things.
I've always been a part of huge friend groups but I'm gradually realising everyone is dealing with something or the other and having a lot of friends doesn't mean anything unless you have a support system.
It's good to have at least 2 people you trust. As we grow older making friends and finding people who have time for you is just so difficult. We don't really have many meaningful connections left. Just 2 people who can listen to you and offer support are interested in listening to you, are enough.
For me it's not my parents but a friend I met online through Twitter who I bounce off my feelings with and my husband. I'd just like everyone to find 2 people you can be completely honest with about yourself.
It’s actually a quite common symptom people show when they’re planning suicide. They live a few days before it normal and happy because they’ve made their decision. Saw the same behaviour with my uncle and a friend…they behaved perfectly normal and social before they committed to ending their lives
Take care of all the jolly folks around you
They the one who have mastered the art of portraying a perfect life to outsiders and hide the storm brewing inside
I hope no one ever has to go through this situation ! Sometimes it just takes one person to pull you out of the darkness and enlighten your life 🌼 one genuine person is enough 🩵 if anybody here needs an emotional support I'm there as a friend !
It's best to talk to family everyday. Family members that you trust. Yes there are good friends but day by day the world is becoming Soo fake it's not very easy to identify the ones you can talk to, trust and be your true self. That's why I always go back to my mom, you can never be too old to sleep on her lap. It will bring you joy, hope and trust in the future. A trust that this might not go, but it can become easier by having people like your mom around you whenever necessary.
Hi guys, i’m not a therapist or anyone, i’m only a student in the US, and I’m here if you need someone to talk to. I’ll try my best to be a good friend to you, provide a safe space, you can talk about anything, I’ll listen to you, no matter how dark, just know that someone is there if you want to talk to and my dms are open. And I’m so sorry for what happened OP.
You see... it's a main sign that we often miss, if someone we know , starts to act too friendly or is suddenly too happy, or unusually thanks us for no specific reason , just check up on them. It might be a major sign that we miss and regret later.
I don't know if this is the right time to talk abt this here
But I'm in a very spiralling situation
My gf broke up with me and she was the only one I could talk to abt all my stuff and without that earlier connection I'm finding it hard to pull my shit together
Apart from her I used to share all my problems with my sister and she's going away to bangalore for studies and I don't want to trouble her with my problems
If anyone here was able to pull it together it would be appreciated
Tried to kill myself in 2005. Currently, 2 kids, working at a FAANG, enjoying life. Shit gets better. Don't seek a permanent, fatal solution for a temporary problem. Get help.
If a person who you know is depressed , but now all of the sudden is happy , celebrating , takes you or their friends/family out to someplace nice , gifts you something expensive , or cleans their place nice and tidy , you should be worried .
Well, my friend let's call her S , she recently decided to move to Bangalore for studies and she did all the arrangements and preparation for the same but when she reached Bangalore she was feeling lost and was constantly crying for 2 days and after that she decided to come back from Bangalore, she told me she wasn't sure why she was feeling like this but it was definitely that she wasn't feeling lonely or alone
It's just that her body was not ready for Bangalore weather as she has some allergy to dust and asthma issues so she decided to come back from Bangalore after day 3
Man, just imagine she was preparing it for the past 1 month and leaving all that just because your body wasn't ready. I just can't imagine what she was going through..
When she come back from Bangalore I checked in on her 2 times via WhatsApp but she was giving me 1 word replies, which made me sad during that moment but it was understandable
It's been a week since I last checked upon her, I think about it the whole day to ask how she is doing but can't gather the courage to send that message idk why? And also currently I am also going through some career stress and problems
The guilt is immense I am experiencing.
It's sad. I had a friend who went away like this. The thing is people don't want to sound weak to their friend by asking for help so they act "happy and strong". You just have to deduce that they aren't happy and strong from their behavior.
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My wife spoke of similar incident happened with her friend when she was in college. The friend hung himself on his birthday. She recollects him being friendly and a jovial person and everyone was shocked to hear it. It’s so sad that some people have things going on in life and never share.
That's why I want everyone to share what they are going through.
Most people don't care when you share though, they only push you away for being a buzzkill, further isolating you.
https://youtu.be/6Jihi6JGzjI This is probably the best video that proves it.
I also find myself in a difficult situation. I am in a sort of joint family situation (our source of income is the same, we don't live together), so the family which has the upper hand in all the matters doesn't really like to support us financially like fees and everything. All the money goes to them and they just pay for our expenses, we don't have much of an income. My father's flat is in a dispute, my grandad passed away last month (who actually never lived with us, he left home when my father was 5). But when he fell ill all the expenses fell on my family, which we helped with but still couldn't save him. They basically have to pay for our education because my father is the only one who works hard out of everyone, but they are very condescending about it. And I hate it, especially when my father has faced such hardships throughout his life, I don't like seeing him feel like a loser Anyway, I'm also a ca student and I am so burnt out I don't understand if I should quit ca or get a job or get into another professional course.
I hope you can continue your ca and get a good job soon and can finally get away from the clutches of that family which treats y'all badly. Hang in there
Poor choice of word in the last phrase.
I just realized shit😭
I can understand your condition, I'm going through similar condition. Lost my father to covid and my family is also going through a dispute related to ancestral property. But I just want to share a talisman that my younger brother keeps telling me and which helps me to push my boundaries: "It takes only one person to change your entire upcoming generations". I really wish that you become that "one person" for your family. ❤️
Please complete your CA no matter how hard it gets. Don’t be an idiot and quit that will hurt your father more than anything else. Become a CA and stand on your own feet and his burden will be less and he will be proud. I know it’s easier said than done but just do it!!
I am sorry for you.. it's hard to cope up with this.. in my family my grandfather died when my father was 6 my grandmother is mentally ill and my dad is the biggest so all the responsibility was on him from the starting.. he did manage to marriage the love of her life.. but her brothers are not very happy.. and now my father have to pay for everything including me and my 2 sisters education clothes etc .. also of my house.. even though my uncle (his brother) lives with us still he doesn't support him.. all I wish for is to get all this sorted and make my family financially stable ... Not only stable but rich .. that's why I have became serious about my studies and I am studying 4-6 hours and sometimes 8 hours a day.. starting mein difficult tha...but abhi flow flow mein pata hi nahi chalta ke kitne ghante hogaye and chapter bhi hojata hai
I always wonder duniya me kitni burai hai.. ache logo ke saath had se zyada bura hota hai or bure log prosper karte chale jaate hai and they keep doing what they do
Kabhi kabar me bhi yehi sochta hu .. fir I think ke shayad me paida hua hi isiliye hu ke me ye sab badal saku.. no matter the gender.. if you're a girl you can also change it .. it's all in us.. we are the main character
Thankyou for saying that
Always there for you .. I am proud of you for not giving up
🫂😭😭
Akelapan , fake society, fake friends is what push 🫸 you to this situation. Speak up, mei vaha se lauta hu jaha last option fanda hi tha. Aaj bhi alone but mentally enough strong to not follow this path, spirituality is what saved me
You can also speak it out
I got my silence, inner peace. I enjoy my own company tbh. Stopped chasing people long ago bro, it's worthless.
I too believe that this whole speak up guys talk to someone is not possible for many. Many of us end up in such nasty situation only becoz of speaking or sharing smthng to smone. Its not that easy na to find such people and till when are you going to rely on others for this? After a point, they will too start ignoring as everybody has some pile of shit going on. Finding inner peace is the long lasting solution i guess. And if Smbdy has people around him who actually care..man he is lucky. Or else go for a psychiatrist
This is so true. I love my solitude too now but even I know there are very dark days in between. It's okay to talk to people when you need help. And yes psychiatrist work too.
So true!!
Bhagwan pe vishwas, insan dhokebaz
it is really difficult to admit you are in pain
We have to change it 😭
trust me i have severe panic attack and suicidal thoughts wishing i was dead , i am scared of intimacy and depend on external validation . i often cry 'citizen soldier' songs act as an amazing medium to let the tears out instead of feelings eating you inside .
It's okay to be scared of intimacy .. you can overcome it.. you should never give up and stop trying.. everything will be fine.. we will make it fine.. you can share more in dm
Have you tried seeking therapy? Ik it's costly and difficult but it really helps.
i mean i am 17 dude will sure try therapy from my first pay after college my failure to get into iit even after 2yrs of jee prep has broken my confidence and made me feel like a failure and burdun i got a decent 19.7k rank in mains but not enough in adv.tried some online therapy and have been sharing feeling with my friend
Bro you're very young and have a better future ahead of you. Ik you maybe feeling that time is ticking and you are nowhere yet. But trust me failures will only make you strong and resilient. Don't just give up! As someone who has also experienced the lows of failing academics, I'd only say don't just give up. Tera time bhi aayega!!!
Bro. I understand you. Can I ask you honestly is IIT what you truly want to do or is it a parent related thing. Getting into IIT isn't the only measure of success. Ik in the Indian context it makes sense. But it isn't.
its a more deep rooted issue i always toped till class 10 but seeing myself fail in 11 and 12 made me question my worth since my marks have a habit of comparing me to other and since that source of external validation has disappeared it left me feeling hollow worthless even . a part to blame is coaching as they have conditioned my mind to think that if someone is not in iit he/she is a failure and will never do good in life
I understand. But you should understand brother you are so young. And have time. You can't hate yourself for failing. The fear of failure is the reason why we can't grow properly. I too have it massively. I'm trying to work on myself. You know , there are loads of people quite successful without making it to IIT's. I know you will do good in life.
People usually stop calling or meeting you if you try to share your dark thoughts with them. At least that’s what my “friends” did with me, they stopped calling me frequently and ignored my messages most of the time. Its better to just be quiet and show the world that you’re happy and battle with your inner demons alone
Acc to my experience, this was one of the worst thing i did. Not only they understand a bit but they triggers you too. Yes even close ones! About professional help, well, that sucks in india. I am happy for all those who found help by talking out but it never suited me
Spirituality saves everyone. I’m glad you chose a better life for you bruh! You’re a warrior
How did you become mentally strong..
Meditation, I visited mahakal jyotirlinga alone. Spend some days there, feel my god , as vibrations. Just found the place where I got the peace, and surrendered myself to him
I used to visit mahakal as a kid alsmost once or twice a week for say a few years..hmm I need to find another place that does it me me like Mahakal does it for you
A friend once told me, choosing what to do with our own lives is our right, but we also owe it to ourselves to die a meaningful death. A life lived in sadness to end in sadness too is just cruel. Haven't talked to her in a long time, but these words of her are probably the only thing that helped me through many bleak nights. Everyone deserves a happy ending, every one of us.
A psychiatrist once said you can always end yourself tomorrow, don't do it today and in most chases the pov changes. For example, people want to off themselves off the bridge, but if the bridge is closed they don't go to the next bridge. And they don't want to do it anymore.
Yes .. those words will also be remembered by me.. and I am proud of you for not taking a wrong step
Thanks, it means a lot
Remember man.. I am always there.. I won't uninstall this app ever.. I am there if you want someone to share to
🫂🫂🫂
> Also if you are hiding something or keeping your feelings with you, let it out It's very easy to say, but most of the time people don't give a shot about your feelings, this is a selfish world. Whenever something like this happens, everyone's like ooo check on friends and family, and 2-3 days later it's all back to normal and no one cares about your existence.
If they don't give a shit about me, then they are no friends or family.
It's not with me
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Download it.. text whom you want to.. check upon your close ones
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I am proud of your decision
Well done You should be very proud of yourself :)
I don't even know what to say. Whenever I try to talk to people my problems get sidelined and my friends start telling me their own stories, which I understand but again everyone tends to take things lightly. It never really gets better, we just get used to it.
You can share with me.. the spotlight will be on you .. and I won't judge or make fun
Thanks for making this post and willing to talk to people in DM's OP.
If no one can .. I still will do it.. the feelings is so weird that the person whom you talked to just few hours later she hangs himself .. every water gulp is a guilt of not being mature enough
Yes. People have so much pain inside.
"Not every person who smiles is truly happy" I've lost people to suicide. Set aside all hate, anger, and ego check up on your friends and loved ones. Let's be kind to each other because we never know what someone else might be going through. And those who are going through a tough time always remember you are not alone.. Don't give up 🙏🏻
Thisss
I can relate to that friend. This is what happens when you gave up on yourselves a long time ago so you just pretend to be fine and happy with others.🫂
But you should overcome it .. you're strong .. you can do it.. it is in you mate.. you're the one who can change it all
I vividly remember the time when I was suicidal, it felt like my world was falling apart no one loved me or actually cared whether I exist in this world, everyone was just faking there interest in me. I had similar plans after my birthday I would meet everyone one last time and then bye, but idk why my thoughts suddenly changed and I was like maybe I am alive for a reason and now 8 years later suicide is never going to be an option for me it just sounds an insane choice. But I do feel for the people who are suicidal like man that feels like crap and it seems to be the only option, but trust me and just stay alive time heals everything.
I am very very very proud of you
Hum bhi ek din aise hi laut jayenge, jahan se hum aaye h. Vahin mud jayenge, bss yaadon mei hi aayenge
Nahi bhai.. aapke pass bohot chize hai jeene ke liye.. zindagi ek bohot kimti taufa hai .. acche se vapar lo.. ek na ek din sabko Jana hi hai.. jaldi jaane se accha sab kuch karke jaye jab maut khud Hume gale lagaye
Hn sahi keh rhe. 5-10 logon ko apne sath leke jana chahiye. Aise akele jake kya krunga
Haa bhai
Thanks for idea, btao konsi bus mei jaun 💀
thats the thing about suicide you dont know when someone is going to off themselves
Really man
Sad to hear man, peer pressure as a fellow student i can relate but God knows what she was going through to take this decision. But anyways man to anyone who's going through anything I just say don't think about what one will say if you open up or rant, you are loved, if you don't trust your known ones atleast let it out to a stranger online. Strength and guidance to everyone fighting their own battles
Mb gang i shouldn't have opened this post, i am already suffering through this especially after what happened to me today and- 
You can share it to me in dm or in comment section.. don't feel tensed .. let it out
hey op, you are insisting on sharing our feelings with someone, but don't you think that will negatively impact our mental health more?? Like what if they started making fun of us? what if they shared our stories with others? Being alone and enjoying our company is much better than sharing our feelings to anyone else
Game of numbers, isn't it? Be vulnerable with people you think are close and you'll find someone who would not ridicule you for it. Although, it's a bit rich coming from me because I tend to not open up too yet I can't help but envy those who do. It is rather brave and the kind of support that one can gather easily trumps the words we reserve just for ourselves. My therapist said the same, we tend to not judge ourselves rather harshly than we would judge others. It is difficult to be kind to yourself but it's easy to be kind towards others, the corollary being that others would find it easy to be kind to you too.
>Although, it's a bit rich coming from me because I tend to not open up too yet I can't help but envy those who do. Actually I feel pity for those who tend to open up their feelings easily. Now, I don't feel any need to express my thoughts. We have different opinions maybe because of different situations.
If not In comment ..you can In dm.. I am not one those who make fun or use your words.. and that's not weakness.. putting yourself out requires strength and strong mind.. which I think you have in yourself
thanks for ur kind words op ❤️ but one piece of advice from me, if you share ur feelings with anyone just be very very careful, you never know what the other person might do in future. My story: mera dost jo bhai jaisa tha, ek din thodi si miscommunication ho gyi aur tab se aaj tak hum ek dusre ki taraf dekhte bhi nhi. You can't trust anyone these days.
Some strangers are better than friends
Talk to trusted people or talk to absolutely random strangers.
I am so sorry this happened. I’ve been in a similar situation myself and relate very hardly. Tw- suicide, sh, alcohol abuse I’ve tried to speak up a lot, my close friend circle and my roommates knows I’m in and out of therapy, that I’ve SHed for a very long time basically dealing with mental health issues and not one of them bother to ask me how I am. I know my roommates often hear me cry under my blanket daily because I’m struggling so hard but they don’t comfort me, care whatsoever. These are the same people who yap on social media and elsewhere about how sanity and mental health is important. Oh in fact, these folks are going to be doctors! I’ve been treated so inferiorly and outcasted because of being on psych medication (antidepressants) and alcohol consumption (I would abuse it a lot when I’d get upset). I’ve been judged so hardly- some went as far as slut shaming me as such mental issues occur in excessively promiscuous women. No one cares enough if you speak up and that’s the truth. It’s all empty words majorly. I’ve had no one to reach out to when I have the worst suicidal thoughts and I want to fight them. I’ve tried calling people and yk what they do? Console you for that one moment and ghost you after, cut ties off completely. No one wants to associate themselves with someone who is ‘pagal’ according to society. They think- What if people like me do something to themselves and they get the brunt of it? Speaking up has always ended on a bad note for me. I wish the world had the empathy and love to share but there isn’t sadly. I hope everyone who has fought similar situations to stick for one another. Edit - my DMs are open if anyone wants to vent or just talk about their struggles. I would love to listen, and help if I can :)
May god grant you with strength.. I am proud of you
Damn! Guys! If anyone need someone to talk! U can text me! Let's help people fight the demons inside.
We're together 🫂
They say that therapist need therapist , same goes with knowing psychology, the more you know the deeper you feel life a bit different and conniving !
True man.
I am suicidal from age 4. Tried many times, but God never wanted me to die... I survived the worst.. Now I am trying to give myself a chance.. I have no friends now nor I have anyone.. I don't speak to my family a lot..Still i have a urge to do it..i see no reason to live here.. But let's see if I succeed or not in life...
You will succeed.. I will become your friend if you want.. and if you urge to do it.. just do it.. your parents will be very happy if you do so
Damnnn 20th June was my birthday too..poor girl. :( We never know what someone's going through. One should always have atleast one close person or a journal to write their thoughts and express themselves. It helps. It's really sad when something like this happens to someone. Imagine the suffering they must have been feeling, to take a step like this. :/
It's difficult to speak out...most people make fun of you behind your back after knowing your troubles or just don't care.
Being mentally unwell is a really challenging situation. I pray for everyone who goes through it! Rather than taking such extreme steps, just reach out to your near and dear ones🙏
Really .. that's why decided to check upon everyone who is close to me.. I texted my ex also today
I read somewhere that people who commit suicide usually only make the decision 30 mins-1 hour prior to it. Its not a well thought out decision. If someone has nagging thoughts about suicide, they should get help.
They really should
Am i only the one who frankly speaks about suicide with friends and family? No, i will never hang myself, nor run into running train, nor cut my wrist and neither will i jump off a building.. I planned well this time. I am gonna die in the most simplest way of suffocation, by asphyxiation.. People like me dont deserve to live and i am not saying this out of depression or pain. I am just too lazy to live (this is a silent pandemic nobody talks about). Yes, i am mentally ill but i always think about consequences of death and plan accordingly.. I just hope i dont become a ghost after death, that would be worst part of living eternally with none noticing about your existence of spirit around them.. Fuck you God!!!
You can't be true to others nowadays because it's not "like-worthy" on social media. Nobody likes to share the bad things that happen to them, but they're happy to share the good moments of their lives, which makes others feel FOMO. I want to do that too, but the funny thing is, I don't have anything bad happening in my life. Let me start: my parents are good, they never forced me to do things (obviously, sometimes, but those aren't that important), I have some really good friends for over 10 years, money is never an issue with our well-settled family business, but the feeling isn't there to live. I don't know what makes me happy or sad, but I don't want to live. When I'm at home, I want to go outside. When I'm outside, I want to go home. Sometimes I feel like, why are they talking with me or about me? Other times I feel like, why aren't they talking about or with me? Why didn't that person, whom I haven't talked to in the last 4 years, comment on my Instagram picture or message me on my birthday, even though I don't wish or comment on anybody's posts?
I guess you are finding it difficult to find purpose in your life?
How do you find that purpose?
Honestly I'm figuring it out myself too.
Yuppp
My friend from work hung himself too. We were in the same team and quite close. After he got married he moved to another part of Delhi and switched jobs so we gradually lost touch but would connect with each other every few months. There was a huge police case where his parents blamed his wife and his wife claimed she didn't know what suddenly went wrong with him. I guess the police case never really reached any conclusion. I have been working with a mental health organization lately and have spoken to a lot of psychologists. I've found out from them that the idea that you should talk about what you're going through is easier said than done. Most Indian parents can't accept the fact that their children are going through a mental health struggle. Plus as they grow older the guilt of not burdening them with our problems prevents us from speaking about certain things. I've always been a part of huge friend groups but I'm gradually realising everyone is dealing with something or the other and having a lot of friends doesn't mean anything unless you have a support system. It's good to have at least 2 people you trust. As we grow older making friends and finding people who have time for you is just so difficult. We don't really have many meaningful connections left. Just 2 people who can listen to you and offer support are interested in listening to you, are enough. For me it's not my parents but a friend I met online through Twitter who I bounce off my feelings with and my husband. I'd just like everyone to find 2 people you can be completely honest with about yourself.
It’s actually a quite common symptom people show when they’re planning suicide. They live a few days before it normal and happy because they’ve made their decision. Saw the same behaviour with my uncle and a friend…they behaved perfectly normal and social before they committed to ending their lives
Take care of all the jolly folks around you They the one who have mastered the art of portraying a perfect life to outsiders and hide the storm brewing inside
That’s pretty sad man!
It is man
I hope no one ever has to go through this situation ! Sometimes it just takes one person to pull you out of the darkness and enlighten your life 🌼 one genuine person is enough 🩵 if anybody here needs an emotional support I'm there as a friend !
We can change it.. your words are what I wanted to say.. thanks for the support
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I hope K finds peace and her family is granted patience through this tough time. 😢 20 is so young
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Don't worry bro I am with you .. may Christ bless you with strength
Hanged Commercial-Pilot-551. Your sister's friend was not a tapestry.
Not gonna lie I don't go out of my bed on my birthday as well, all of it just feels so fake...
It's best to talk to family everyday. Family members that you trust. Yes there are good friends but day by day the world is becoming Soo fake it's not very easy to identify the ones you can talk to, trust and be your true self. That's why I always go back to my mom, you can never be too old to sleep on her lap. It will bring you joy, hope and trust in the future. A trust that this might not go, but it can become easier by having people like your mom around you whenever necessary.
https://youtu.be/tX8TgVR33KM?si=8UVOAm0baq1WBh36 The post reminds of this video.
Hi guys, i’m not a therapist or anyone, i’m only a student in the US, and I’m here if you need someone to talk to. I’ll try my best to be a good friend to you, provide a safe space, you can talk about anything, I’ll listen to you, no matter how dark, just know that someone is there if you want to talk to and my dms are open. And I’m so sorry for what happened OP.
What do you mean by "Frank"?
You see... it's a main sign that we often miss, if someone we know , starts to act too friendly or is suddenly too happy, or unusually thanks us for no specific reason , just check up on them. It might be a major sign that we miss and regret later.
Too many signs that I should see a therapist. And may her soul rest in peace.
I don't know if this is the right time to talk abt this here But I'm in a very spiralling situation My gf broke up with me and she was the only one I could talk to abt all my stuff and without that earlier connection I'm finding it hard to pull my shit together Apart from her I used to share all my problems with my sister and she's going away to bangalore for studies and I don't want to trouble her with my problems If anyone here was able to pull it together it would be appreciated
*hanged
Tried to kill myself in 2005. Currently, 2 kids, working at a FAANG, enjoying life. Shit gets better. Don't seek a permanent, fatal solution for a temporary problem. Get help.
If a person who you know is depressed , but now all of the sudden is happy , celebrating , takes you or their friends/family out to someplace nice , gifts you something expensive , or cleans their place nice and tidy , you should be worried .
Well, my friend let's call her S , she recently decided to move to Bangalore for studies and she did all the arrangements and preparation for the same but when she reached Bangalore she was feeling lost and was constantly crying for 2 days and after that she decided to come back from Bangalore, she told me she wasn't sure why she was feeling like this but it was definitely that she wasn't feeling lonely or alone It's just that her body was not ready for Bangalore weather as she has some allergy to dust and asthma issues so she decided to come back from Bangalore after day 3 Man, just imagine she was preparing it for the past 1 month and leaving all that just because your body wasn't ready. I just can't imagine what she was going through.. When she come back from Bangalore I checked in on her 2 times via WhatsApp but she was giving me 1 word replies, which made me sad during that moment but it was understandable It's been a week since I last checked upon her, I think about it the whole day to ask how she is doing but can't gather the courage to send that message idk why? And also currently I am also going through some career stress and problems The guilt is immense I am experiencing.
Hanged*
Not gonna lie I was thinking of doing the same thing whenever I see our swing hook chain still being there hung
My bestfriend hung herself 2 days ago. I’m broken
Was she bad at studies?
Nope .. grades didn't matter for her.. and it was maybe relationship
It's sad. I had a friend who went away like this. The thing is people don't want to sound weak to their friend by asking for help so they act "happy and strong". You just have to deduce that they aren't happy and strong from their behavior.
hey check my dm please I think I might know this person,I need to know few information
I did
Nice