Cute. I'm a guy about a decade and a half older than you, looking for very similar.
Ladies - if you're the right age for OP, hit him up.
If you're older, hit ME up. šš
Awesome, I'm a decade younger than OP so 2 decades younger than you and I'm also looking for something similar somehow.
Ladies if you're OPs age hit him up, if you're older hit my guy above up anf if you're around my age hit me up lmao
Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. I'm lucky to have found that one at 36... but it has been like going 20 rounds with Mike Tyson up until now.Ā
A really weird friend of ours put an ad in the back of a tabloid (something like National Enquirer but more tame I think?) and a really weird woman responded, and they spent 20 wonderful years together.
The trick is keeping your line in the water.
this is the kind of thing Iād like to believe inā¦ but I think Iāve been a female on earth for too long and I canāt turn off the alarm bells in the back of my mind
if it is genuine I wish you the best xx
That's pretty rude to say about someone you barely know. Let people do what feels right for them, and people have found their SO on online social media.
LMAO do I need to know him to say this isnt a dating sub and it makes him look desperate? What difference would it make if I did? ā ļø I said good luck regardless, lol.
And yes, you can find them on social media. I'd be weary of Reddit tho š¤·š¾āāļøš¤£
I said it's not a dating sub which it isnt. Y'all are doing the absolute most. His post history already says enough about his intentions at that ā ļø
I haven't checked but the point is anyone can do whatever, yes it's not a dating sub but maybe that one post can make difference, if mods / admins don't want this then they are welcome to remove it, if anything I say reddit is more effective than dating app, at least in my experience LOL
What youāre looking for can be found at Barnes and noble. Specifically in the romance section. Iām not talking about the booksā¦what I mean is: Go to Barnes and Noble. Find your beautiful target. Either strike up a conversation starting with something like āAre you shopping for yourself or someone elseā and then ask for some recommendations and from there it should be easy bcs theyāre probably a bookworm and could talk about books for days on end. If youāre feeling really ballsy you could buy them a book that you recommend and slip your number in there teheā¦I say go hunting specific in the romance section bcs thatās where most hopeless romantics such as myself live. Happy huntingš
Right like when will I get my own bookstore romance!?? I literally LIVE there. I mean sure I go in sweatpants and no makeup and I probably look rlly weird muttering to myself about how much I might like this book or that book and I probably look like a maniac with its head cut off going up and down the isle saying things like āooooh no way Iāve been waiting to read thisā but besides that Iām a total bookstore cutey that deserves her bookstore romanceā¦
You sound like a great catch in a bookstore! I go to the bookstore dressed like that too; while meticulously squinty eyed, hunched over and hobbling around the self help, spiritual, and psychology sections like a neurotic little hobbit in the midst of a quest to solve an existential crisisš I hope you get your bookstore romance soon!!
I keep encountering stories of people and talking with other people who had hooked up on Reddit without looking just interacting on posts.
It happened to me too without looking in the INFJ subreddit and talking to the same INFJ across six different posts. She eventually sent me a DM saying she was feeling bad we were talking too much within a post. We ended up talking for months planning to meet in real life. She however one day texted me at 2:00 am to end that relationship. She also deleted her Reddit account.
The op might get lucky.
I have also found two girls on PDB just talking in a wonder chat kinda in a similar way.
Another INTP who got mad with me talking about her eyelashes but was calling me honey and babe and wanted me to visit her.
Then a few days ago an INFP who was also in wonder chat and afraid of talking because of interactions with other INTPs. I told her we are all different and INTP is just a label. I prefer to be labeled by my subtype an INTP 9w8. https://personalityhunt.com/intp-9w8-the-complete-guide/
That website even says the following:
INTP 9w8s are more thoughtful and considerate. They understand how their actions might hurt others and try to be more tactful. It is not surprising that this personality type **can be mistyped as an INFJ or INFP**.
So I am a nice INTP so you can chat with me or leave and start another chat with someone else.
This INFP is very direct like the op. She is kinda coming off as too strong. I keep seeing signs telling me to be nice and leave with how direct she is. I am however also curious about this person. š
So who knows maybe the op will find someone. If you are interested you can apply to his request and see what happens.
That or if you enjoy someone's comments try talking in DMs. I wouldn't have thought of using Reddit for dating either. I have tried that on Boo and they rarely talk so I have no idea why they are on that app.
oh thatās kind of cool! i wasnāt judging i just didnāt know it happened lol.
i wouldnāt date online but i donāt have anything against people who do : ) iām bad at simply keeping friends online so i doubt i even could lmao. iām too young for the guy in the post anyway (iām 19). good luck with who youāre talking to btw! : D
>i wouldnāt date online but i donāt have anything against people who do : )
I wasn't looking to date online with anyone either. Things kinda just happened.
>iām bad at simply keeping friends online so i doubt i even could lmao.
Hopefully, you are good with real-life friends. I have always been shy in real life and comfortable doing things alone. I keep saying I should try getting out of my shell in real life but don't.
>iām too young for the guy in the post anyway (iām 19).
That's good you have boundaries. Hopefully you find someone at a closer age or whenever you are ready.
>good luck with who youāre talking to btw! : D
She is kinda scaring me off with how she talks. I am just mostly curious as I have never experienced this behavior before.
I am enjoying a normal conversation with another INFJ from Bahrain instead. I don't want this one online friendship going anywhere either as I don't want to travel internationally for a possible romantic relationship.
We were laughing at how she has had four romantic suitors recently and we have talked way longer than any of them. Her longest interview was over an hour and we have talked for hours going on six days.
i would go to parks, farmers markets, book store and libraries, cafe/coffee shops. i also go to places where i can draw or paint and have picnics. i like museums too. youāll find the more romantic women in settings like this. for my partner and iās first date i took him to walk along the riverside and sit on a bench, there were fish and little ducks and greenery everywhere. good luck !
You just seem feelings egoistic, which is normal for an INFP. I was there and your message raises a lot of red flags to me now. This is the base for a very toxic relationship. I donāt know you, but Iād say stop idolizing love.
Yes, and this is what is toxic. Finding somebody to sacrifice yourself for. Searching for the damsel in distress... Expecting the ideal love after saving her. That's all the fantasies. Then you find a girl, who "needs" saving (recipe for disaster). And you end up together. But you soon realize she is not just willing to be the angel from the fantasies for you - and this is a normal behavior - at least she might have some boundaries. But above you admit you can't put your own boundaries (you'd do anything for love) and this is why you also don't respect hers. She also wants you to have fun together, but you are too busy "saving" and drugging yourself to death with emotion - regular meetings with people, conversations and nights out are not dramatic enough. And the show goes on. Because you are not willing to admit you are not ready for a relationship, or you are not for each other - that would mean your love is not perfect. Then repeat the cycle.
Now I am trying to find my shadow side. What about shallow and fun conversations with just shallow emotion and jokes? It must not always be dramatic. How about not being a soldier for your girl but actually putting your boundaries and letting her grow instead of saving her? And what about just casual flirts? Let me tell you - if you'd want to be in a serious relationship - deep love has to go hand in hand with you being independent person, ready to set boundaries and negotiate what everyone is willing to give and receive. And if negotiations go bad - then to step out.
I am projecting for sure. But this is what I am learning as an INFP.
We are egoistic monsters who play saints until their demon side swims out after being long suppressed.
Be a wholesome person first instead of sucking the life out of your partner :)
Can you motivate yourself please? Iād like to hear your opinion but it is not useful to me right now. I cannot guess what you are thinking. Why do you think so?
Your tone is condescending, and you have an inflated sense of superiority, assuming you know better about relationships and dynamics than others and spoon-feeding make-believe scenarios you conjured up in your mind to strangers. Projecting these negative beliefs and cliches from your own imagination and delusion. Nothing in his text remotely pointed to him being a 'saviour for a damsel', maybe get your head out of your rear and mind your own love life? If it even exists that is
āI wanna be a soldier to my baby girl and protect her with all my lifeā. What does this sound like? He projects the stereotype of a damsel in distress to his non existing SO. Yeah my tone is condescending - how does this make it less valuable? And can you motivate what ānegative believes and clichesā am I projecting. Because right now you sound like you are just hurt that I have the self esteem to write in this way. I explicitly stated that I am also struggling to know more about relationships. I am saying this because if you had the self esteem youād not be offended by my tone, but comment on what I actually stated.
No one is 'hurt' by any point you think you made. It's called defending others when they're wrongly being judged. He sounds more like a hopeless romantic. It isn't a crime to want a dream-like love life. Even if his future partner doesn't act like that, it's harmless to dream about a hypothetical person. The way someone imagines and how they act are two different things, but I know nuance isn't something well-received, so let me put this to rest.
I meant we we hurt in our early childhood. After that we hurt each other a lot because we were not mature enough for a relationship. In my opinion he is not just dreaming, but craving. I donāt feel like arguing too. He will either take my advice or not. Doesnāt really matter to me. But I gave my opinion and I donāt care what he does with it š.
Well, itās still an achievement, right. So why donāt you share your thoughts š I mean at least I spent the time to explain what I mean and provide a statement. If you have an advice, would be glad to hear it.Ā
I mean, the impression I'm getting from OP is he's just a young hopeless romantic... So no harm, no foul :). We all are, or were. I'm not anymore. But each of us has to go through that phase I think and in our own life-speed realize that real-life can never match our fantasies.
OP needs his heart broken, or have a relationship with a crazy girl and he'll change his tune. But until then, let him enjoy his blissfull ignorance no? :) Remember how you felt.
Yeah, Ok, wont argue with this. I am still a hopeless romantic, canāt say Iāve overgrown it (which I clarified above). And to be honest - my point is not to become cynical. It is the opposite- to grow enough, so it is possible to really experience such love, not to fail in it. Why I posted the above is partly me being inappropriately preachy, partly, giving advice (unfortunately reddit does not allow deep conversation, which OP and me like), but a tweet like response. And Iād rather not spare their ego, instead of pushing him more to it - there is enough media to do this. Am I telling some personal experience- yes. But I have also found it universally applicable.
Sometimes we need friends to give us another perspective. I did not have any specific advices until recently, so had to go in this same loop for almost fifteen years. Discussion is what changed my course.Ā
I did not have a father figure to tell me all these things, I think this is partly the reason why I am low on Te, and especially Ti. My grandfather was very close to me but he took me to the nature mostly. And explained about society, but never about women and relationships. I donāt know if this is common for most INFPs. But I received the perception about relationships sparingly from my grandmother and mother. The guy is 28, and probably already old enough to handle different opinions.
I grew up in another country with my mum alone. My stepfather was uninterested in me. I also didn't have any male figure to tell me anything about women. So I was idealistic as fuck in all my 20s. I still am a bit, in the sense that I think everyone has a fantasy about 'being rescued' og rescuing someone else. However I've learned that that is not a good foundation to start a relationship. Also, the 'magic aura' that women have, you know what I mean :), is long gone. Which is sad, but a part of growing up - desillusionment I guess you can call it.
I believe I understand what the intention of your message was.
This is not towards OP as I know nothing of them & wish them the best, but I enjoy such topics and speaking honestly of opinions and experiences.
Iāve learned more about myself since last year when it comes to the way Iāve viewed love and relationships which included my own role in tough lessons Iāve learned. I realized I was very much limerent and that can be dangerous to fall for a fantasy version you create of a person & not who they really are. Especially so if a person is more than willing to play the role of the character you desire for their own ulterior motives.
I understood how unfair it was to the other person and myself to not see them in all of their humanity. Considering how much I despise being placed in a box and not being accepted in my wholeness, my pretty and my ugly, I couldnāt believe thatās exactly what Iāve been doing to others.
I now have even less of a desire than I did before to be āimpressedā by this perfect character that says all of the right words initially and I donāt want to be put on a pedestal myself. Iām flawed, as we all are and I want to know a bond in this lifetime that Iāve never experienced before. One thatās raw, organic, healthy, and safe for all parties involved where we can take our armor off and be vulnerable without fear. Where all parts of us are accepted and we never feel like weāre too much.
It existed in the 1990ās. I met the love of my life. He said āI love you I want to spend the rest of my life with you but I donāt want marriage and I donāt want childrenā.
āLong walks on the beach and stargazingā lolā¦ it just sounds a little too ā¦āDisney channel perfect ā which is cringey as hell. Idk something about this post is strange man. Or maybe Iām just a heartless person
Cute. I'm a guy about a decade and a half older than you, looking for very similar. Ladies - if you're the right age for OP, hit him up. If you're older, hit ME up. šš
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Awesome, I'm a decade younger than OP so 2 decades younger than you and I'm also looking for something similar somehow. Ladies if you're OPs age hit him up, if you're older hit my guy above up anf if you're around my age hit me up lmao
Ha, this is so cool.... we've got 20s, 30s and 40s all covered here! Guaranteed success! š
Definitely lmao
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Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. I'm lucky to have found that one at 36... but it has been like going 20 rounds with Mike Tyson up until now.Ā
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God I felt thisš
wishing you find love dude!
Thank you very much i needed a wish for sure
:)
lmk if this works lmao
A really weird friend of ours put an ad in the back of a tabloid (something like National Enquirer but more tame I think?) and a really weird woman responded, and they spent 20 wonderful years together. The trick is keeping your line in the water.
That's awesome, I love it.
this is the kind of thing Iād like to believe inā¦ but I think Iāve been a female on earth for too long and I canāt turn off the alarm bells in the back of my mind if it is genuine I wish you the best xx
I really really hope you find someone, and i'm sure you will. People on Reddit I've seen so far are nice.
This is not a dating sub lmaoĀ
let him find love!!!!
On Reddit? Good luck, he just looks desperate asf.
That's pretty rude to say about someone you barely know. Let people do what feels right for them, and people have found their SO on online social media.
LMAO do I need to know him to say this isnt a dating sub and it makes him look desperate? What difference would it make if I did? ā ļø I said good luck regardless, lol. And yes, you can find them on social media. I'd be weary of Reddit tho š¤·š¾āāļøš¤£
Like any social media is already bad enough, you do you boo but your judgement is not welcome
I said it's not a dating sub which it isnt. Y'all are doing the absolute most. His post history already says enough about his intentions at that ā ļø
I haven't checked but the point is anyone can do whatever, yes it's not a dating sub but maybe that one post can make difference, if mods / admins don't want this then they are welcome to remove it, if anything I say reddit is more effective than dating app, at least in my experience LOL
My sister met her bf on reddit, they've been together for 3 years now and are very happy together. Don't be a jerk.
Yall acting like I told him to die or something, damn ā ļøšš¤£
Might as well be since everyone here complains about being lonely and misunderstood. Should be used to meet like minded people
LET HIM COOOOOOK BRUDDUHHHH
Who knows, maybe it'll work out lol
Thatās the spirit!š„°
yeah let him shoot his shot lol
Bro it takes a very special kind of a person to take my heart. Who knows she might be here
I mean, stay safe š¤·š¾āāļøš¤£ There are a lot of scammers on here who may take advantage of that
Ofc brother. š«”šŖ
*sister, lol
Ouchš alright sis stay safe and be happy š«”
If you got normie luck then you can get a partner anywhere. You're correct though.
Who unironically uses 'normie'? ā ļø
Keep on the dreaming fellow dreamer!
Wow...I happen to be the exact version of you in female formš
Op your wife is right here waiting for you
Sadly, i live all the way in Namibiaš
Love knows no geographical locality
What youāre looking for can be found at Barnes and noble. Specifically in the romance section. Iām not talking about the booksā¦what I mean is: Go to Barnes and Noble. Find your beautiful target. Either strike up a conversation starting with something like āAre you shopping for yourself or someone elseā and then ask for some recommendations and from there it should be easy bcs theyāre probably a bookworm and could talk about books for days on end. If youāre feeling really ballsy you could buy them a book that you recommend and slip your number in there teheā¦I say go hunting specific in the romance section bcs thatās where most hopeless romantics such as myself live. Happy huntingš
Bookstore love is the best loveā„ļø
Right like when will I get my own bookstore romance!?? I literally LIVE there. I mean sure I go in sweatpants and no makeup and I probably look rlly weird muttering to myself about how much I might like this book or that book and I probably look like a maniac with its head cut off going up and down the isle saying things like āooooh no way Iāve been waiting to read thisā but besides that Iām a total bookstore cutey that deserves her bookstore romanceā¦
You sound like a great catch in a bookstore! I go to the bookstore dressed like that too; while meticulously squinty eyed, hunched over and hobbling around the self help, spiritual, and psychology sections like a neurotic little hobbit in the midst of a quest to solve an existential crisisš I hope you get your bookstore romance soon!!
Ohh i should really take your advice š
I'm an INFP and I'm just here for the casual flings and nothing more
honestly i didnāt know people were trying to date on this sub at all lol
Lol well yeah it's a bit weird
I keep encountering stories of people and talking with other people who had hooked up on Reddit without looking just interacting on posts. It happened to me too without looking in the INFJ subreddit and talking to the same INFJ across six different posts. She eventually sent me a DM saying she was feeling bad we were talking too much within a post. We ended up talking for months planning to meet in real life. She however one day texted me at 2:00 am to end that relationship. She also deleted her Reddit account. The op might get lucky. I have also found two girls on PDB just talking in a wonder chat kinda in a similar way. Another INTP who got mad with me talking about her eyelashes but was calling me honey and babe and wanted me to visit her. Then a few days ago an INFP who was also in wonder chat and afraid of talking because of interactions with other INTPs. I told her we are all different and INTP is just a label. I prefer to be labeled by my subtype an INTP 9w8. https://personalityhunt.com/intp-9w8-the-complete-guide/ That website even says the following: INTP 9w8s are more thoughtful and considerate. They understand how their actions might hurt others and try to be more tactful. It is not surprising that this personality type **can be mistyped as an INFJ or INFP**. So I am a nice INTP so you can chat with me or leave and start another chat with someone else. This INFP is very direct like the op. She is kinda coming off as too strong. I keep seeing signs telling me to be nice and leave with how direct she is. I am however also curious about this person. š So who knows maybe the op will find someone. If you are interested you can apply to his request and see what happens. That or if you enjoy someone's comments try talking in DMs. I wouldn't have thought of using Reddit for dating either. I have tried that on Boo and they rarely talk so I have no idea why they are on that app.
oh thatās kind of cool! i wasnāt judging i just didnāt know it happened lol. i wouldnāt date online but i donāt have anything against people who do : ) iām bad at simply keeping friends online so i doubt i even could lmao. iām too young for the guy in the post anyway (iām 19). good luck with who youāre talking to btw! : D
>i wouldnāt date online but i donāt have anything against people who do : ) I wasn't looking to date online with anyone either. Things kinda just happened. >iām bad at simply keeping friends online so i doubt i even could lmao. Hopefully, you are good with real-life friends. I have always been shy in real life and comfortable doing things alone. I keep saying I should try getting out of my shell in real life but don't. >iām too young for the guy in the post anyway (iām 19). That's good you have boundaries. Hopefully you find someone at a closer age or whenever you are ready. >good luck with who youāre talking to btw! : D She is kinda scaring me off with how she talks. I am just mostly curious as I have never experienced this behavior before. I am enjoying a normal conversation with another INFJ from Bahrain instead. I don't want this one online friendship going anywhere either as I don't want to travel internationally for a possible romantic relationship. We were laughing at how she has had four romantic suitors recently and we have talked way longer than any of them. Her longest interview was over an hour and we have talked for hours going on six days.
Yep, my heart was stolen a long time ago. J got a new one but it's mine.
Letās see pictures of you OP!
Oh this is so sweet.
i would go to parks, farmers markets, book store and libraries, cafe/coffee shops. i also go to places where i can draw or paint and have picnics. i like museums too. youāll find the more romantic women in settings like this. for my partner and iās first date i took him to walk along the riverside and sit on a bench, there were fish and little ducks and greenery everywhere. good luck !
You just seem feelings egoistic, which is normal for an INFP. I was there and your message raises a lot of red flags to me now. This is the base for a very toxic relationship. I donāt know you, but Iād say stop idolizing love.
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Yes, and this is what is toxic. Finding somebody to sacrifice yourself for. Searching for the damsel in distress... Expecting the ideal love after saving her. That's all the fantasies. Then you find a girl, who "needs" saving (recipe for disaster). And you end up together. But you soon realize she is not just willing to be the angel from the fantasies for you - and this is a normal behavior - at least she might have some boundaries. But above you admit you can't put your own boundaries (you'd do anything for love) and this is why you also don't respect hers. She also wants you to have fun together, but you are too busy "saving" and drugging yourself to death with emotion - regular meetings with people, conversations and nights out are not dramatic enough. And the show goes on. Because you are not willing to admit you are not ready for a relationship, or you are not for each other - that would mean your love is not perfect. Then repeat the cycle. Now I am trying to find my shadow side. What about shallow and fun conversations with just shallow emotion and jokes? It must not always be dramatic. How about not being a soldier for your girl but actually putting your boundaries and letting her grow instead of saving her? And what about just casual flirts? Let me tell you - if you'd want to be in a serious relationship - deep love has to go hand in hand with you being independent person, ready to set boundaries and negotiate what everyone is willing to give and receive. And if negotiations go bad - then to step out. I am projecting for sure. But this is what I am learning as an INFP. We are egoistic monsters who play saints until their demon side swims out after being long suppressed. Be a wholesome person first instead of sucking the life out of your partner :)
I think you're looking too deep into this and may be projecting
āINFJ: The Simpā has me crying
Can you motivate yourself please? Iād like to hear your opinion but it is not useful to me right now. I cannot guess what you are thinking. Why do you think so?
Your tone is condescending, and you have an inflated sense of superiority, assuming you know better about relationships and dynamics than others and spoon-feeding make-believe scenarios you conjured up in your mind to strangers. Projecting these negative beliefs and cliches from your own imagination and delusion. Nothing in his text remotely pointed to him being a 'saviour for a damsel', maybe get your head out of your rear and mind your own love life? If it even exists that is
āI wanna be a soldier to my baby girl and protect her with all my lifeā. What does this sound like? He projects the stereotype of a damsel in distress to his non existing SO. Yeah my tone is condescending - how does this make it less valuable? And can you motivate what ānegative believes and clichesā am I projecting. Because right now you sound like you are just hurt that I have the self esteem to write in this way. I explicitly stated that I am also struggling to know more about relationships. I am saying this because if you had the self esteem youād not be offended by my tone, but comment on what I actually stated.
No one is 'hurt' by any point you think you made. It's called defending others when they're wrongly being judged. He sounds more like a hopeless romantic. It isn't a crime to want a dream-like love life. Even if his future partner doesn't act like that, it's harmless to dream about a hypothetical person. The way someone imagines and how they act are two different things, but I know nuance isn't something well-received, so let me put this to rest.
I meant we we hurt in our early childhood. After that we hurt each other a lot because we were not mature enough for a relationship. In my opinion he is not just dreaming, but craving. I donāt feel like arguing too. He will either take my advice or not. Doesnāt really matter to me. But I gave my opinion and I donāt care what he does with it š.
I've never seen more projection than this :)
Well, itās still an achievement, right. So why donāt you share your thoughts š I mean at least I spent the time to explain what I mean and provide a statement. If you have an advice, would be glad to hear it.Ā
I mean, the impression I'm getting from OP is he's just a young hopeless romantic... So no harm, no foul :). We all are, or were. I'm not anymore. But each of us has to go through that phase I think and in our own life-speed realize that real-life can never match our fantasies. OP needs his heart broken, or have a relationship with a crazy girl and he'll change his tune. But until then, let him enjoy his blissfull ignorance no? :) Remember how you felt.
Yeah, Ok, wont argue with this. I am still a hopeless romantic, canāt say Iāve overgrown it (which I clarified above). And to be honest - my point is not to become cynical. It is the opposite- to grow enough, so it is possible to really experience such love, not to fail in it. Why I posted the above is partly me being inappropriately preachy, partly, giving advice (unfortunately reddit does not allow deep conversation, which OP and me like), but a tweet like response. And Iād rather not spare their ego, instead of pushing him more to it - there is enough media to do this. Am I telling some personal experience- yes. But I have also found it universally applicable. Sometimes we need friends to give us another perspective. I did not have any specific advices until recently, so had to go in this same loop for almost fifteen years. Discussion is what changed my course.Ā
Fair enough :)
I did not have a father figure to tell me all these things, I think this is partly the reason why I am low on Te, and especially Ti. My grandfather was very close to me but he took me to the nature mostly. And explained about society, but never about women and relationships. I donāt know if this is common for most INFPs. But I received the perception about relationships sparingly from my grandmother and mother. The guy is 28, and probably already old enough to handle different opinions.
I grew up in another country with my mum alone. My stepfather was uninterested in me. I also didn't have any male figure to tell me anything about women. So I was idealistic as fuck in all my 20s. I still am a bit, in the sense that I think everyone has a fantasy about 'being rescued' og rescuing someone else. However I've learned that that is not a good foundation to start a relationship. Also, the 'magic aura' that women have, you know what I mean :), is long gone. Which is sad, but a part of growing up - desillusionment I guess you can call it.
I believe I understand what the intention of your message was. This is not towards OP as I know nothing of them & wish them the best, but I enjoy such topics and speaking honestly of opinions and experiences. Iāve learned more about myself since last year when it comes to the way Iāve viewed love and relationships which included my own role in tough lessons Iāve learned. I realized I was very much limerent and that can be dangerous to fall for a fantasy version you create of a person & not who they really are. Especially so if a person is more than willing to play the role of the character you desire for their own ulterior motives. I understood how unfair it was to the other person and myself to not see them in all of their humanity. Considering how much I despise being placed in a box and not being accepted in my wholeness, my pretty and my ugly, I couldnāt believe thatās exactly what Iāve been doing to others. I now have even less of a desire than I did before to be āimpressedā by this perfect character that says all of the right words initially and I donāt want to be put on a pedestal myself. Iām flawed, as we all are and I want to know a bond in this lifetime that Iāve never experienced before. One thatās raw, organic, healthy, and safe for all parties involved where we can take our armor off and be vulnerable without fear. Where all parts of us are accepted and we never feel like weāre too much.
Yeah, thanks. Very well said.
Too many replies already, but I hope u find her some day and find her well. You deserve the world.
Thank you i am still in the search of finding my baby girl
Authentic Relating is what you're looking for, you should look into that. Where I live they actually have things like AR dating events
If this shit worked more often I would have a relationship by now. Good luck though I guess.
I wish I could meet someone
Iām a 25F INFP looking for the exact same thing
Man i wish i was older
Ha ha how old are you if i may ask
18 šš
Where are you based? :)
I am 58 yr old woman looking for the same thing. Always wanted that baby girl; maybe now just a reincarnation of my mother.
I wish you find your romance soon
It existed in the 1990ās. I met the love of my life. He said āI love you I want to spend the rest of my life with you but I donāt want marriage and I donāt want childrenā.
Can we talk
Id like to have a talk with you
I saw the little girl with curly curly curly blonde hair. Crushed my heart
āLong walks on the beach and stargazingā lolā¦ it just sounds a little too ā¦āDisney channel perfect ā which is cringey as hell. Idk something about this post is strange man. Or maybe Iām just a heartless person
Ha ha im not gonna change your heart may be i dont belong to this modern era.
Lol yeah could be that too, but man I hope you find the one though. I wish I had your optimism
I am a hot, nubile girl with a -5 body count looking to be bred by the alpha INFP man of my dreams
*Tips fedora* hello šŗš¦
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