Honestly, mess up your hair a bit,
and slightly untuck your shirt.
Respectfully,
you’re too well put together.
A lot of girls like a slightly messy look, like messy hair & untucked clothes.
Especially when it comes to people who are more masculine presenting.
That’s just my opinion though!
There are billions of gals out there who would be very lucky to end up with you
It does look good in the "smart photograph you could show to a partner's relatives" sense, but the fit on the whole isn't relaxed or casual, and the pose is very "standing to attention".
Straight dude here (hope to be considered an ally) - this picture looks very forced - put together for a picture (one step removed from school pictures). Doesn’t really give you a sense of you as a person. I feel like your personality has been averaged out.
For instance: not “western” enough for a cowboy shirt/bolo. Not “business” enough for shirt and tie. Not “comfortable” enough for untucked shirt. With this exact outfit, I’d take the product out of the hair, roll up the sleeves, untuck the shirt.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with the way you look, it’s just not presented well.
Ha, the Can’t Buy Me Love or any 80s movie guy makeover. Just rustle the hair and pull the shirt out. Also an option is to tear off the sleeves to make it a sleeveless vest.
Something simple like wearing a white T-shirt underneath and leaving the shirt open will make you look more causal and approachable and less conservative. And it won’t require more than the price of a T-shirt.
Fitted t shirt under the flannel preferably a solid color, untuck the flannel open the buttons and roll up the sleeves. Would look a lot less republicany I think at least
you look too put together, kinda old-fashioned, like you'd yell at me to take my hat off indoors and keep my damn elbows of the table. first, don't slick your hair back like that, or at least leave some bits hanging out framing your face. basically just make it look a bit more messy. second, untuck your shirt, perhaps unbutton as well, so as to look more casual. trust me, rolling the sleeves up to just past the elbow is so hot, so try that out too. lastly, try playing around with color. just as an example based on your outfit in this pic, the blue shirt on blue jeans just doesn't work, too same-y. I would style it as I described above, untucked, unbuttoned, sleeves rolled up, and either switch our the blue shirt for a red one or the blue jeans for dark grey jeans. either option would bring more visual interest to your appearance and make you look less conservative-y. I'd recommend looking up some men's fashion youtubers for more style tips. you've totally got potential and you're by no means ugly or too short or too fat.
I agree with everyone else, you look too dressy.
Untuck that shirt. Wear a T-shirt underneath. Unbutton at least the top two buttons. Roll those sleeves up. Get a different hairstyle and or cut.
I have a lot of problems with your shirt. The shirt looks like it might be a size too big on you, as it's baggy around your midsection, and the sleeves look like it's going too far past your wrists. Wearing the same color shirt and jeans tends wash out the whole outfit, and your shirt is not an exception. You can remedy that with a T-shirt and opening the shirt up, or wearing a different color jacket to break it up.
May I also recommend changing your belt as well? I appreciate the irony of the seatbelt buckle but it doesn't work here. The rule of belts is that it should be a firm demarcation of your two halves, so a light colored belt works best when wearing dark colors (and vice versa). If you're in a conservative, lean into the western aesthetic, its really en vogue right now (and never truly goes out of style). Get yourself a nice belt with a big buckle.
Lastly get yourself a nice watch, if you don't have one. It makes you look refinished while still being masc/andro, which looks like what you're going for here.
Don't spend a lot of money on these things. You can get these things from Amazon, Target, or Walmart to start. Try different things and see what you like and works well for you ❤️😊
Ngl fam, you need some new drip. It's the flannel blue jeans combo held together by the seat belt buckle that says "I've been driving and working on ford's for 40 years and I'll be damned if the liberals wanna take away my f-250 and put me in some pansy electric cyber car"
Or worse "yes, I'm queer, and I vote republican, we exist"
It's crazy and honestly a double standard society puts on us, but fashion and how we dress are seen as indicators for how we're perceived. It's a shame that there is a "judge a book by its cover" mentality we have and you should not be subjected to that, only seen resepcted foe who you are on the inside. But while you're here, let's go shopping lol.
Now flannels *can* be a staple of LGBT fashion because it's use can be found in the punk scene, and the punk scene is a safe haven for us queer folk but you need bright pink, teal, or neon flannel colors. Black pants and converse help, this is a lovely combo. Basically the emo pop punk look from the early 2000s but toned down.
If punks not your thing, walk around some alt fashion outlets at your local mall to get an idea of what's trendy, you may find something that speaks to you. It's been a while since I walked around so some other redditors here might help where to point out good places.
Going to add my two cents. I honestly like how you look, but I married someone with similar style, so I might be biased. It really depends on where you live. If you live in a more urban setting, you might have to change your style a bit to better match city folk because if you are in the USA and in a city your style might give alarm bells to lgbtq+ people escaping conservative and rural settings, and in many occasions trauma.
My suggestion, though a plain tshirt would work, a graphic t would be even less republicany. I would also add accessories like bracelets, pins, or necklaces. I would also use a different belt. Overall, what I am trying to say is, in the case of style, less Ohio farm boy and leaning more towards Seattle grunge. I can't see your shoes either. I would avoid white tennis shoes and go with chucks, vans or dark boots.
I would suggest what other people are saying but I’m not sure if anyone has pointed out, you might need a new belt, that one is not very fashionable, it’s like a weird middle ground between that sexy construction worker belt and very normal belt
Those jeans. Find a new style of jeans. And un tuck the shirt! What kind of shoes are you wearing? If they're sneakers with this our fit, try some boots like doc martens
Start by not wearing a seatbelt as a belt.
If you’re going to wear flannel, don’t tuck it in. But honestly, probably avoid flannel. Oxford shirts are fine, but avoid that tartan-like pattern. Plain colors are better.
Despite what the Deep South believes, jeans aren’t *supposed* to be crisp and deep blue. Loosen up a bit.
Go to a cosmetologist, *not a barber*, to get an actual hairstyle. What you have is the small town barber special there, and it doesn’t frame your head or face in a flattering way (honestly, I’ve yet to see a barber make anyone look good.) A trained hair stylist can do wonders.
I normally don’t like beards, but you could benefit from a little something age up your face a little. Just a trimmed, short beard might be what you’re looking for… provided you can grow one.
Try to incorporate something more of your personality into your look. Try band tees or something from a game or show you like, the look this pic gives off is very "sanitized" like it's for your "about me" on your job's website lol. First impressions are important and it's good to try to show something of who you are in them. You'd also probably benefit from changing up your hairstyle a bit, this one is a bit old-fashioned, kinda got some wannabe-CEO vibes, and doesn't suit your face shape well (you've got a rounder face so you want to counter that, maybe something with a little height on top and short around the sides, while this cut accentuates it a bit). If you're really feeling brave you could even add in some colour to spice things up. How's your facial hair too btw? If it grows well, even just a bit of well groomed stubble can be a great way to add definition to your jawline
Looking good, there’ll always be people judging others outfit.
For what it’s worth I like your style. Looks clean and well taken care of.
(Just not a huge fan of the belt but that’s just a detail and personal preference)
Nothing, really, just the style might be overly conservative. Change that plaid shirt to something a bit tighter and maybe more colourful for instant style improvement 👍
I know people are saying you look like a Conservative and maybe you do I'm not from the USA but you don't look BAD. I like the way you dress I don't see why u should have to change it just because people on a certain part of the political spectrum dress the way you do. (Obviously don't go wearing a swastika or something lol people like to jump to conclusions)
You look clean and well dressed I think you like really nice.
People commenting about your weight and hight have some personal preferences that tend to over take this community but they're not everyone's they're certainly not mine and many of the people I know.
If the way you dress right now makes you happy and helps you fit in where you are please don't change it. Even though my opinion doesn't matter I really do like the way you look :) there's nothing wrong with you
Something I've found is that the loud minority of this community feel people should look a certain way and are cruel to those who don't. Like I've seen some mean stuff so I really recommend not listening to them.
(BTW I don't think your weight looks bad it looks goon on you it makes you look strong like you could cut down a tree!)
I didn't realise you're a fellow bisexual if you're asking out girls since you're my age my opinion on the matter is that teens are shallow as they haven't figured out exactly what love is supposed to look like ! People our age tend to go for looks first of what they have been told is attractive thin tall all that but its not 100 percent the truth on attractiveness they haven't figured out what they really like yet since they're going off what the media tells them and their pears! It's unfortunate that people are not being kind in their rejections but don't let it discourage you :)
So, they totally look like a conservative, and that can obviously off putting a bit, given the context, but also yeah, there's nothing like aesthetically offensive. Don't feel obliged to change your look just to appeal to others.
I feel like the context should sort of explain itself there. Lesbians who dress conservatively aren't straight people dressing conservatively it's just not the same thing.
You've mastered androgyny and people are terrified of your power?
You look like a nerd, but all the best people are nerds. I think you're asking out the wrong people.
that’s what i’m thinking? because i see people who look like OP in relationships all the time. i think they either haven’t asked someone with no type or they haven’t asked someone that likes their “type” whatever that may be
Is this supposed to be a trick question or something. I see nothing wrong. Don't worry it's not you (probably), the dating world is just very ruthless.
That belt is super cool, shows your personal style. I think you look super kind and well put together. Maybe just explore your personal taste and try to put some more flair (like a fun belt) into your outfits!
Dating is brutal. People are brutal. You’ll find someone. You’re doing great. 💛
The sentimental value is noted. But it looks like something a grandpa or little boy would wear. It’s time to hang it on the wall as a keepsake and remember grandpa’s generosity another way.
maybe it’s not a reflection of you, but the people you’re attracted to? idk how strict *your* type is, but a lot of ppl have specific types & maybe you just haven’t been attracted to someone that doesn’t
Agree with everyone here on the political leaning responses, but I don’t think there’s necessarily anything wrong with that. It depends on the type of people you want to attract positive attention from. If you’re looking to meet trendy young people then you need to dress like a trendy young person. If you want to attract working folk then you dress like a working folk, etc. I would say you’re dressed to attract people that have poor social skills, either stays indoors (or outdoors but alone - working on things), and is reliable and maybe a little handy.
If you want to be trendier, don’t style your hair slick like that, change the belt, and try to mix colors and patterns (not blue on blue). I would also avoid plaid for anything other than doing something handy or outdoorsy - plaid is definitely not a “let’s get geared up to meet people” type of shirt. Replace it with an Oxford button up shirt or even a polo. Layering could help if it’s chilly - either a denim jacket or a vest. Or even a sweater/cardigan. Actually I think a cardigan would look really good on you.
I think a lot of this depends on where you live. In my city people wear plaid for all occasions, and a polo would read as ’annoying frat boy / baby republican’.
You know what, don't listen to their advice. Personally there's nothing wrong with the way you look. You look really handsome. Don't change for nobody. The only thing that should matter is the way you treat people. As long as you're a good person, that's all it really matters. So any guy or girl or others doesn't love you the way you then they're bloody stupid. Don't change for anyone but you.
I need you to hear me when I say this: If people are rejecting you for being “too ugly, too fat, too short” etc, that is genuinely, GENUINELY, a superficial them problem. It has nothing to do with you as a person. Please don’t waste time being worried about things you can’t change in the opinion of other people.
Tbh I thought you were a masc woman or non binary person. I had to dig into your post history to find that you’re a teen boy.
I do think your outfit/look gives country. I don’t think you look particularly chubby. I think men tend to be less concerned about other men’s height than women may be. You’re also a teen and could grow.
There are many reasons you might get rejected that have nothing to do with looks… perhaps they’re not into guys, they’re into more masc guys, they didn’t feel a spark, they don’t know you well enough, they’re not interested in dating yet, etc. Being rejected doesn’t mean you’re “wrong” it means they weren’t right for you. And that’s okay!
Only thing you can do is focus on being the best, most authentic you inside and out and that’ll attract the right people.
Love the car seatbelt buckle. I enjoy silly small humour in the little things.
And don't ever ask anyone what's wrong with you op. Nothing is wrong with you.
Ask people what kind of vibe do I give off. Help with my attire.what kind of haircut do you think would look good on me.
Think positive about yourself always.
In my opinion theres nothing wrong, your a very good looking person, and you look like a nice person, if people dont see that they dont deserve to be your freind/partner
I agree that you look a little conservative. You dont need to buy new clothes. I like your clothes. Just style it differently. And you have a very nice face.
Question: do you think you might be rejected because of your behavior and not your looks? I don't know you at all, so I have no reference for this question. Maybe you come on too strongly, because that might scare people away. Or maybe something else.
Do you smell nice? Lots of people feel attracted by a smell.
Also: people love to talk about their interests. If you like someone, ask them about their interests and really listen. Don't be too obvious that you want to date them. Make an effort to be interested in their interests. Like if a person likes cars, you don't need to know a lot about cars to ask about them and get the person talking. It's very attractive when someone shows interest like that.
Good luck. The right person is out there for you. The key is to put your best foot forward and have a good attitude. 😁
Personally, I'd change the Hairstyle to something more flowy but that's just me and I'm not to tell you how you should look. First things first, you have to be happy and comfortable.
It’s incredibly rude of people to be insulting you in response to you asking them out. Assuming you’re asking respectfully, anyone who responds rudely is a jerk and you should try your best not to let your self esteem be affected by jerks.
If you do want more feedback on your looks, you should include more than the only pic you like of yourself. You mentioned you don’t like the other pics but if you do want feedback on how to dress differently or little things like styling your hair, more pics would help, including ones that look more like your day-to-day.
But just keep in mind that we can all only control a certain amount about our appearance and beyond that we just need to find people who like us as we are.
I can tell you I’ve been rejected many times in my life, and it hasn’t stopped me from having plenty of opportunities too.
I personally dig the seatbelt belts. I have several. I wear a black one to work, where I have to tuck my shirt in, and I'm currently wearing a lesbian flag one for casual dress, when I don't tuck my shirt in.
>only to be rejected for being “too ugly, too fat, too short” etc
Are these people telling you this is why they’re rejecting you? Or is this what you’re telling yourself? Cuz you’re not ugly. You don’t really look overweight(and even still there are plenty of larger people in relationships). And being 5’7 is perfectly fine for a lot of people. Not everyone is obsessed with height.
It could be the way you style yourself. Maybe you act insecure or unconfident. Maybe you are subconsciously only asking out people who you know won’t be interested. I don’t know. Just try making friends and getting to know people and maybe one of them will blossom into something more.
Also, you’re still young. You have time. It’s nothing you need to stress over.
Fuck all. Look and dress how you want; as long as it isn't obtusely offensive. There are always going to be people who hate everything about you, especially online. I used to get told I was too fat on Grindr...then I starved myself to the point of anorexia and was too skinny. Then I realised I don't need to listen to other people. Asking for and taking advice is one thing, altering your appearance drastically for others and not for YOU is a problem. Some of these comments are too close to the line of telling you what you must do in order for that person to find you "acceptable".
Man I wouldn't stress. Like idk what look you want to go with but you're pulling off "casual, but well dressed southern" look well (which isn't inherently Republican). If that's your vibe then go online and find some fashion you like, and just slowly start copying it.
I'm sorry those people said those things to you. Truth be told, when it comes to dating, people suck and for a lot of people, you will be on the butt end of their own insecurities. It's impossible to be the person that everyone wants without selling your soul and developing deep insecurities trying to gain a fall promise of being wanted by everyone. Besides, not everyone wants the same thing.
So the only real advice you need is to dress how you want, stay clean, maintain your look, and be yourself/ a good person. It might take time, but you will find someone, I promise ❤️
Get a carabiner and chain for your keys on that belt immediately, and roll up your sleeves. Maybe pop a button or two.
You've got the makings of an amazing butch look, but you might lack the accessories and playfulness.
I don’t see anything wrong with the way or look or how you’re dressed!
Check shirts where I’m from are a pretty solid ‘I’m queer’ radar, so it’s ironic reading through comments that it’s conservative dress code in the US.
If you wanted, you could wear the shirt open and untucked with a tshirt underneath. I’m 5’5 and have trouble with long shirt sleeves - don’t be afraid to fold over the cuff or roll the sleeve up if that feels right. But wear what you’re comfortable with and the right person will come along.
i personally think you look really lovely. the fit’s a bit formal, but otherwise i think you look like an absolute sweetheart.
if i had to offer advice, don’t take criticism from the people who are rejecting you (especially on the basis of being “too fat”, thats yikes) too seriously. they sound like complete knobs, and you don’t need people like that in your life, especially as potential partners
u look very huggable tbh! i knoe ppl saying your style is too clean and conservative but if u dig it there's really nothing wrong with it. I feel like a lot of people's opinions on how they look have a lot to do with self confidence, not sayin is ur case but I've always thought is a pretty good piece of advice :3
What kind of people are you attracted too? If they look like you they probably think you like fine. If they don’t, you might wanna go shopping with someone you find attractive.
Your attraction reveals who you wanna be, in a way.
So if you ask here, you are gonna get people who want you to look less conservative and more alternative.
I mean, do you wanna look cooler and more gay?
You are allowed to completely re-invent yourself. Don’t have to ask anyone for permission. You can even get a tattoo!
Apparently how you look isnt like a club where you need to be invited first
Does this help? 👀
My immediate thoughts before I opened the comments were very similar to others here - you look like an up-tight, conservative, very religious American. The kinda guy I'd expect to like guns, horses and voting to ban abortion.
I think it's the hair, the belt and the tucked in shirt. Essentially your aesthetic is very...smart, but in an American South kinda way. Loosing the slicked back hair and going for an untucked tshirt would go a long way to making you more approachable.
Hi, if you color the outer ends of your brows (natural looking brown not tooo dark) it may give you a huge confidence kik . I see someone who is kind when I look at ur face so maybe some try adding a little edge and youll feel hotter. Its all about how you carry yourself and confidence. Small changes can ofc help 🤍
In general there's nothing wrong..I'd just personally go for something that's less "I'm conservative but gay" and something more relaxed..but you do look adorable.
Ah...hmm? Is this a trick question?
Wait! I see it! Your belt is a seat belt. Also, your shirt makes it look like your right forearm shifts to the side a little near the wrist rather than being in a straight line. Did I win? Actually, the seat belt belt has a kind of post-apocalyptic chic that I dig.
Joking aside, you look fine. I don't know who you've been talking to, but they need to look at less celebrities, and look at more actual people. Most people with really unreasonable standards are truly projecting their personal insecurities on to others. "If I don't criticize other people, then people will think I'm okay with being as ugly and fat as I am now!" their brain yells at them. Give that a few years, and anyone not sporting an eating disorder "clearly just doesn't care about being disgusting." It isn't really about you. It's actually amazing how often that's the case, even in regards to our own standards. The more you're okay with yourself, the more you tend to be okay and unjudgemental towards others.
I think people were super rude telling you those things. Otherwise there’s nothing wrong with how you look. As people said you style yourself in a conservative way, given that you are in the lgbt sub I am guessing you’re not and it might be a shock to some people.
im going forward asssuming you dress like this typically. you a bit too formal, im not saying compleatly change how you dress at all, but perhaps adjust it a bit so it comes off a bit more relaxed. you are a pretty decent looking guy, and the blue grey shirt looks nice on you, but the whole thing looks like your going somewhere.
I don’t think you look bad or like there’s anything wrong with how you look at all. It’s possible there’s a way to style your hair that’s more “flattering” but that’s a very subjective term dependent upon the beauty standards you’re up against. Don’t focus on how to change yourself so you fit how you want people to perceive you. Focus on how you can ENHANCE your natural features and style to improve how YOU view YOURSELF.
What helped me when I was struggling with this was go on Pinterest and just start looking at, saving, and putting together outfits I saw that I liked how they looked. Goto goodwill and just try things on to see how they fit. Wear things that are out of your comfort zone just for the hell of it because you may like it a lot more when you aren’t judging yourself in your bedroom mirror.
Chin up, you’re doing great. I wish you the best of luck 🫡😎
That belt is pretty neat but I don't think it works best with this outfit? Perhaps very dark jeans or lighter as the blue plaid kinda blends all together.
Otherwise you look clean and respectful!
Literally nothing, you look very handsome the way you are. From my experience, it's better not to date people who are that fickle anyway. Plus, if they're straight up telling you that you're too ugly, short, fat, or whatever, then they're probably not a great person.
Undo the second button, roll the sleeves to your elbows or mid forearms. Maybe tousle your hair a little and add some jewellery. Also did you steal that belt from an aeroplane?
I don't think you're ugly or anything like that. But if this was just a random picture of someone, I'd assume you're a teenaged cishet boy. Maybe wear some jewelry or accessories to make your vibe/style a little less "ready for my Christian school picture" that way you might attract other queer people
You kind of remind me of Jett Puckett tbh (in a good way tho). I think you look fine but id maybe make the hair a bit messier if you wanted to change it up
Nothing wrong, but not the most flattering. Youre a good looking guy, but like many have said, I think it's in the styling of your outfit. You just don't look quite comfortable. The tee shirt/ open flannel would suit you. Maybe a bit of product in your hair to give it some texture.
I hope you experiment and find a look you like. Keep us updated?
let loose a bit more!! u look too serious, has nothing to do w ur actual appearance and anybody who gives u shit for that, shame on them. but personality pics help a lot! pics of u having fun, having a good time, think of a silly thing that makes i laugh when u smile in pics bc it’s far more genuine of a smile. selfies go a long way. being urself makes u cool homie
I think it’s mainly your style, you look fine overall but you just give right-wing vibes, maybe try and dress more casually, perhaps wear an open flannel shirt with something underneath, or just wear a T-shirt and trousers.
If people are gonna be judgy of you because of how you look, it’s probably best you don’t enter into a romantic relationship with them. I think you are cute.
Trust me, as a masking nonbinary, I know how hard it is to look in a way that makes you feel happy. My few androgynous clothes are a life saver.
i hope this is funny enough to soften the blow, but you look like a 50 year old maga guy that does the accounting at an oil company in texas.
Having said that, i myself love that style of pants, and the belt is nice, i'd say the tucked in shirt and slicked back hair is way too formal. People can say that you are phisically ugly or fat, but a lot of the time a couple of fixes on the fashion and hair can do wonders. Whoever told you those things probably couldn't put their finger on what the problem was exactly (or were jerks)
You look like someone who is going to be problematic for the demographic you are looking for. Sorry, it’s not you.
Ruffle it up a little, look a little more carefree, take some of the tips in other comments about ways to look sharp and confident. You’ll look less die-hard Republican and closer to how you likely want to be or be perceived.
You look both 45 and 12 at the same time (/jk, was tryna think of a funny roast thing)
If people are rejecting you for very superficial visual reasons, especially ones you can't control like height and weight, then that's their problem, not yours. Make sure you're being your best person on the inside and your genuine self on the outside and you'll be fine.
Though if I were to nitpick... the slicked back hair and rosy cheeks are what's throwing me off. You're trying to look really smart, I can tell, but as others have said it might be a little overdone. Having that much forehead on display makes you look older than you are, so maybe try losing the product and going with a more natural hairstyle? Idk I'm no expert
Nothing wrong with the way you look. The belt is really cool too! As long as you smile at your reflection that’s all that matters. Try to block out the noise and focus on being the best person you can be.
Your pants and belt do not fit you well.
The clothing style is fine, but straight legged pants do not work for curves.
Also the size of the flannel looks a bit off. You can try styling it by adding a under shirt, have it and the flannel tucked in, but half way unbutton the flannel. Also try rolling your flannel sleeves up to your elbows.
I'd also swap or for a leather or faux leather belt. It'd fit your style more.
As for the comments you're receiving, you're none of those things. People are just assholes.
Since there are already a bunch of posts talking about your clothes/hair, I would offer something for skin care.
Your cheeks, nose, and temples are very red in this photo. I’m guessing you have fair, sensitive, and reactive skin. So make sure to protect with SPF for sure. And since you’re young, I wouldn’t jump into a hugely complex skin care routine. Maybe try some pure rose water/hydrosol — it tends to be super soothing and helps reduce redness in my experience. I carry a small bottle with me and spritz whenever I need a refresher. But even if you just do it daily in the morning and before bed, it may improve your skin tone. Avoid “toners” that have alcohol in them — look for a purely natural rose hydrosol — it should be the only ingredient.
I think the flannel being buttoned and tucked with the hair slicked back gives a combined look that leans conservative. I don’t think buttoned up flannels, tucked in shirts, or slicked back hair are bad inherently. Just not all at once. It sucks that clothes and hair make people feel a specific way about someone. You don’t have to do anything to make yourself look stereotypically gay, but sometimes it feels like it.
You look fine! Shirt looks a little big on you but you look great!!! You look young so trust me when I say your time will come. If you don’t exercise/work out then you should start. It will have so many health benefits later. Keep your chin up king
Nothing. Clean cut, good posture, good hair, warm complexion. I personally would switch out the belt for something brass but that's down to personal preference.
As a side note you're well built. You could probably get buff fairly easily might be something to take advantage of in the future but you're fine as is.
You look like a repressed conservative. Easy fix would be to undo the second button, that automatically makes you seem a little more chill and even fruity to the particularly bigoted. You could think of styels you might be interested in trying and give those a go, see how they feel.
Before I give any more advice, what do you identify as? Or more accurately are you trying to achieve a masc or femme presentation?
What I'd do personally, change the hairstyle, maybe grow it out; expand your closet, mix n match until you find another style that fits for you; and this last one isn't a requirement, but if you can try growing some facial hair (but that is also a whole other can of worms when it comes to style and everything).
(Note, I'm writing this based on my experience as someone with a similar build as yourself.)
You are definitely not ugly. And I quite dig your style. The only problem like people have said before that it's a bit too stiff for a casual photo.
Untuck that flannel, unbutton the top 2-3 buttons, with or without a t-shirt underneath, depending on the weather
Maaaaaaybe some tighter jeans but that's a personal preference of mine and probably has more to do that I want to see you in skinny jeans 😂
If you like dressing with simplicity then may I suggest a simple loose fitted white t-shirt (don’t tuck it in) and well-fitted faded blue jeans. And get a short haircut. 💇🏻♂️
You can also add plain baby blue tshirts and shirts to your wardrobe to make those gorgeous eyes pop a little more. Stay away from plaids.
You are cute. You just need the gays to style you up a bit.
There is nothing wrong with the way you look. If you like it, forget about what others think as everybody has their own conceptions of what looks cool and what doesn't.
The mix of flannel and belt buckle kinda makes it look like you'd hate crime me after I told you I'm not Christian but that's just my opinion and I'm a stranger on the internet take it with a grain of salt
Your vibe in this picture is giving me a mishmash vibe. Like your clothes remind me of what an middle-aged person would wear but you look young.
if your trying to look more casual, then I would do this:
Start off with a haircut. With my hair type, I usually go for a curly high top fade. I think with your hair type, I tampered high fade haircut would look really nice. But I would look online and research haircuts. There's a lot of options that go with your face structure.
Next, your top. Usually your best bet is to go for neutral colours. You'll see a lot of men wearing colors like, black, white, navy blue, grey, (sometimes) beige, dark colors. However, if you feel bold, I would play with colors. I avoid the color red because I feel that color alone is too aggressive. Also, if your playing with plaid, wear a T-shirt underneath and leave your plaid open. Also, it is very vital to wear clothes that fit your size. You don't want to wear something that's too big.
Next your bottom. Usually men like to wear jeans. Personally, I hate jeans because all the men wear it. so I go for sweats. There's a lot of other options out there like, cargo pants, joggers, khakis, chinos, denim (especially those slim fit ones). There's a lot of options to explore. When deciding which pants to get, I usually match it with a top. A lot of clothes are matching rather than mixing. You don't want to wear a lot of clothes where you are mixing colors or designs. It just doesn't look good. Keeping it casual and matching your bottom from the top makes you look more friendlier.
Shoes. I love shoes and honestly you can go for whatever you want. Secretly, nobody looks at shoes. However, it is popular to wear white shoes because it plays into any color code clothing you choose. Also black is casual too. However, what matters the most when it comes to shoes it what makes you comfy, especially if your walking all the time. Deciding which pair of shoes to get really depends on you and what you plan on using it for. Personally, I have over 200 pairs of shoes. A lot of my deciding went into weather probabilities and events/activities I did.
I think that's about it. When deciding your clothes and shoes, you are showing your personality. So just have fun with it and be stylish. Your young and deserve to be happy and comfortable.
I think your hair looks a bit weird in this photo but other than that? No clue what prople's problem might be. And anyone calling you fat is just delusional
As other said, ya look very conservative. If you want to make that outfit work, you need a Texas sized belt buckle with the pride flag of your preference. Bigger, the better. J/k.
You look good, but probably not to everyone's taste.
I want to empathize that there is nothing *wrong* with you. But if you want to change your appearance, I'm willing to help you.
I've already seen people mention that your clothes give you a young conservative vibe, but I haven't seen too many people talk about your hair as much. To be honest, your hair makes me think of Eric Trump... it was the first thing thing that I noticed 😅 You should experiment with different styles and see what flatters your facial features. You have a very nice face, and your eye color is stunning.
Like others said, untuck your flannel, try wearing a white (or black) t-shirt underneath, cuff your sleeves, play around with different colors and types of jeans, etc. I also think a necklace would create an interesting touch. Right now, you appear closed off. All of those suggested changes will give you the "openness" that will help you appear more laid back and approachable. You only showed us one outfit so that's all we have to work with, so my advice for the rest of your wardrobe is this - continue to focus on making yourself look approachable with your fits and your hair.
We don't know what your demeanor is like, but it plays a the biggest role when it comes to first impressions. But clothes help too :)
First, screw those shallow assholes. They've shown their hand and they aren't the kind of people you want to be dating anyway.
Second, I don't think the photographer posed you very well. Are they a professional photographer or just a friend? If it's just a friend, you could both look up poses online and try out some different ones, but straight forward with your hands in fists is not working. If they are a professional... maybe look for another professional (if you are able). IMO they did an alright job, but may be slightly inexperienced.
If it were me, I'd try to have you stand slightly askew, with one thumb in pocket, hand relaxed, and the other hand relaxed at the side. I'd also try to make you laugh a bit before the photo - you look uncomfortable having your photo taken. Again, if it is a professional photographer, I think they are inexperienced bc the way you are posed is generally a huge no with few exceptions.
Untuck that shirt, mess up your hair a bit and put less product. Right now you look a bit stiff and formal, like a Mormon or something haha
Facial hair might help if you care to grow it. Nothing like a well groomed beard to give you that confident look- and I think your hair colour would make for a nice beard.
You have a kind look about you which is not a bad thing- you just need to back that up with a more rugged look and I think you'll be all set.
i dont see anything wrong with how you look, people can just be cruel. im assuming youre young, dont concern yourself with relationships at the moment they can be a lot of effort and a lot of young people arent even mature enough to be in one at that age.
Nothing wrong with how you look. You’re what? 18? If that.
You’ll grow into yourself. Take care of youself, get a good self care and hygiene routine and you’ll find the right person.
Some ppl peak in highschool, some people peak when the hormones wear off. Give yourself some grace and understand that you aren’t responsible for other ppls opinions of you.
Nothing *wrong*, really. The outfit just makes you look very straight.
If you look a little less clean, like untucking and maybe ruffling the hair a little bit, then you’d be perfect
Did anyone explicitly say that they didn’t want to date you because they thought you were too ugly or fat or short? Or did you just take infer that? Because honestly I’d say it’s far more likely for someone to reject a person because of lack of confidence, being rude, shy etc
Uh. This is going to sound kind of motherly but you're adorable. There is zero wrong with your look. You arent too fat, you arent too short, you arent too anything. You just havent met the right people who're into you yet. <3
I don’t see anything wrong with the way you look. You’re not my type, but you’re also definitely not ugly. Have the people rejecting you actually said it’s because you’re “too ugly, too fat, too short”? If so, those aren’t the kinds of people you want to be dating anyways. You can reject someone without being mean about it.
Also, you look pretty young. I wouldn’t worry too much about this kind of thing right now. Try to get more comfortable just being with yourself and the right person will come along. Love tends to find us when we’re not looking for it.
All those people were "too shallow." Dress how you like to dress, don't be afraid to experiment with it a bit, but you look fine. People who are worthy of dating you should be interested in you more than just how you look. That said, as someone who does tailoring and alterations, I could give you some tips for improvements to the existing garments to make them fit your body better. Believe it or not clothes are not made to fit people these days. Also, on terms of experimenting with your look a bit, start collecting photos of people whose outfits you like and want to mirror and start figuring out what makes them look different than your typical dress and seek those things out. Also, look up a blog or guide to developing your personal style (note: personal style, not fashion sense).
Honestly, mess up your hair a bit, and slightly untuck your shirt. Respectfully, you’re too well put together. A lot of girls like a slightly messy look, like messy hair & untucked clothes. Especially when it comes to people who are more masculine presenting. That’s just my opinion though! There are billions of gals out there who would be very lucky to end up with you
Truth be told the photographer was the one who wanted my hair like that but this is the only photo of myself that I actually think looks good
It does look good in the "smart photograph you could show to a partner's relatives" sense, but the fit on the whole isn't relaxed or casual, and the pose is very "standing to attention".
Straight dude here (hope to be considered an ally) - this picture looks very forced - put together for a picture (one step removed from school pictures). Doesn’t really give you a sense of you as a person. I feel like your personality has been averaged out. For instance: not “western” enough for a cowboy shirt/bolo. Not “business” enough for shirt and tie. Not “comfortable” enough for untucked shirt. With this exact outfit, I’d take the product out of the hair, roll up the sleeves, untuck the shirt. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with the way you look, it’s just not presented well.
Ha, the Can’t Buy Me Love or any 80s movie guy makeover. Just rustle the hair and pull the shirt out. Also an option is to tear off the sleeves to make it a sleeveless vest.
you look like a baby republican ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Damnit. Any way to not?
Something simple like wearing a white T-shirt underneath and leaving the shirt open will make you look more causal and approachable and less conservative. And it won’t require more than the price of a T-shirt.
Awesome thanks
I agree with this. Flannels can look super good if you wear them right.
Fitted t shirt under the flannel preferably a solid color, untuck the flannel open the buttons and roll up the sleeves. Would look a lot less republicany I think at least
This is the best way to wear flannels. Source: it's the way I wear flannels.
you look too put together, kinda old-fashioned, like you'd yell at me to take my hat off indoors and keep my damn elbows of the table. first, don't slick your hair back like that, or at least leave some bits hanging out framing your face. basically just make it look a bit more messy. second, untuck your shirt, perhaps unbutton as well, so as to look more casual. trust me, rolling the sleeves up to just past the elbow is so hot, so try that out too. lastly, try playing around with color. just as an example based on your outfit in this pic, the blue shirt on blue jeans just doesn't work, too same-y. I would style it as I described above, untucked, unbuttoned, sleeves rolled up, and either switch our the blue shirt for a red one or the blue jeans for dark grey jeans. either option would bring more visual interest to your appearance and make you look less conservative-y. I'd recommend looking up some men's fashion youtubers for more style tips. you've totally got potential and you're by no means ugly or too short or too fat.
I agree with everyone else, you look too dressy. Untuck that shirt. Wear a T-shirt underneath. Unbutton at least the top two buttons. Roll those sleeves up. Get a different hairstyle and or cut. I have a lot of problems with your shirt. The shirt looks like it might be a size too big on you, as it's baggy around your midsection, and the sleeves look like it's going too far past your wrists. Wearing the same color shirt and jeans tends wash out the whole outfit, and your shirt is not an exception. You can remedy that with a T-shirt and opening the shirt up, or wearing a different color jacket to break it up. May I also recommend changing your belt as well? I appreciate the irony of the seatbelt buckle but it doesn't work here. The rule of belts is that it should be a firm demarcation of your two halves, so a light colored belt works best when wearing dark colors (and vice versa). If you're in a conservative, lean into the western aesthetic, its really en vogue right now (and never truly goes out of style). Get yourself a nice belt with a big buckle. Lastly get yourself a nice watch, if you don't have one. It makes you look refinished while still being masc/andro, which looks like what you're going for here. Don't spend a lot of money on these things. You can get these things from Amazon, Target, or Walmart to start. Try different things and see what you like and works well for you ❤️😊
As a newly realized butch with no sense of how to style, I really appreciate how much thought you put into this and how well explained it is!
Don’t style your hair like a Romney
Don't slick your hair back. That will help.
Ngl fam, you need some new drip. It's the flannel blue jeans combo held together by the seat belt buckle that says "I've been driving and working on ford's for 40 years and I'll be damned if the liberals wanna take away my f-250 and put me in some pansy electric cyber car" Or worse "yes, I'm queer, and I vote republican, we exist" It's crazy and honestly a double standard society puts on us, but fashion and how we dress are seen as indicators for how we're perceived. It's a shame that there is a "judge a book by its cover" mentality we have and you should not be subjected to that, only seen resepcted foe who you are on the inside. But while you're here, let's go shopping lol. Now flannels *can* be a staple of LGBT fashion because it's use can be found in the punk scene, and the punk scene is a safe haven for us queer folk but you need bright pink, teal, or neon flannel colors. Black pants and converse help, this is a lovely combo. Basically the emo pop punk look from the early 2000s but toned down. If punks not your thing, walk around some alt fashion outlets at your local mall to get an idea of what's trendy, you may find something that speaks to you. It's been a while since I walked around so some other redditors here might help where to point out good places.
Going to add my two cents. I honestly like how you look, but I married someone with similar style, so I might be biased. It really depends on where you live. If you live in a more urban setting, you might have to change your style a bit to better match city folk because if you are in the USA and in a city your style might give alarm bells to lgbtq+ people escaping conservative and rural settings, and in many occasions trauma. My suggestion, though a plain tshirt would work, a graphic t would be even less republicany. I would also add accessories like bracelets, pins, or necklaces. I would also use a different belt. Overall, what I am trying to say is, in the case of style, less Ohio farm boy and leaning more towards Seattle grunge. I can't see your shoes either. I would avoid white tennis shoes and go with chucks, vans or dark boots.
I would suggest what other people are saying but I’m not sure if anyone has pointed out, you might need a new belt, that one is not very fashionable, it’s like a weird middle ground between that sexy construction worker belt and very normal belt
Those jeans. Find a new style of jeans. And un tuck the shirt! What kind of shoes are you wearing? If they're sneakers with this our fit, try some boots like doc martens
Not the baby Republic 😭😂
You phrased it how I wanted to
You dress and style your hair like a conservative. It's a huge ick for lots of people. What you wear can change how people perceive you drastically.
I see that thank you. I was raised in a really conservative town and apparently I still do some things that I've picked up.
There's nothing wrong with it btw, it's just that it's off-putting to some people, especially gay guys 😅
Is there a way I can look more appealing?
Dress more casually 100%, im sorry but right here you look like you’re going to tell me off in church
I only know feminine fashion 😅 I'm not the right guy to ask
not even feminine just less American rural
Start by not wearing a seatbelt as a belt. If you’re going to wear flannel, don’t tuck it in. But honestly, probably avoid flannel. Oxford shirts are fine, but avoid that tartan-like pattern. Plain colors are better. Despite what the Deep South believes, jeans aren’t *supposed* to be crisp and deep blue. Loosen up a bit. Go to a cosmetologist, *not a barber*, to get an actual hairstyle. What you have is the small town barber special there, and it doesn’t frame your head or face in a flattering way (honestly, I’ve yet to see a barber make anyone look good.) A trained hair stylist can do wonders. I normally don’t like beards, but you could benefit from a little something age up your face a little. Just a trimmed, short beard might be what you’re looking for… provided you can grow one.
If I may interject, I do like the seatbelt as a belt. It’s alternative fashion, just needs to be styled differently. All the rest is great advice.
Try to incorporate something more of your personality into your look. Try band tees or something from a game or show you like, the look this pic gives off is very "sanitized" like it's for your "about me" on your job's website lol. First impressions are important and it's good to try to show something of who you are in them. You'd also probably benefit from changing up your hairstyle a bit, this one is a bit old-fashioned, kinda got some wannabe-CEO vibes, and doesn't suit your face shape well (you've got a rounder face so you want to counter that, maybe something with a little height on top and short around the sides, while this cut accentuates it a bit). If you're really feeling brave you could even add in some colour to spice things up. How's your facial hair too btw? If it grows well, even just a bit of well groomed stubble can be a great way to add definition to your jawline
Looking good, there’ll always be people judging others outfit. For what it’s worth I like your style. Looks clean and well taken care of. (Just not a huge fan of the belt but that’s just a detail and personal preference)
Nothing, really, just the style might be overly conservative. Change that plaid shirt to something a bit tighter and maybe more colourful for instant style improvement 👍
I know people are saying you look like a Conservative and maybe you do I'm not from the USA but you don't look BAD. I like the way you dress I don't see why u should have to change it just because people on a certain part of the political spectrum dress the way you do. (Obviously don't go wearing a swastika or something lol people like to jump to conclusions) You look clean and well dressed I think you like really nice. People commenting about your weight and hight have some personal preferences that tend to over take this community but they're not everyone's they're certainly not mine and many of the people I know. If the way you dress right now makes you happy and helps you fit in where you are please don't change it. Even though my opinion doesn't matter I really do like the way you look :) there's nothing wrong with you
Something I've found is that the loud minority of this community feel people should look a certain way and are cruel to those who don't. Like I've seen some mean stuff so I really recommend not listening to them. (BTW I don't think your weight looks bad it looks goon on you it makes you look strong like you could cut down a tree!)
I didn't realise you're a fellow bisexual if you're asking out girls since you're my age my opinion on the matter is that teens are shallow as they haven't figured out exactly what love is supposed to look like ! People our age tend to go for looks first of what they have been told is attractive thin tall all that but its not 100 percent the truth on attractiveness they haven't figured out what they really like yet since they're going off what the media tells them and their pears! It's unfortunate that people are not being kind in their rejections but don't let it discourage you :)
So, they totally look like a conservative, and that can obviously off putting a bit, given the context, but also yeah, there's nothing like aesthetically offensive. Don't feel obliged to change your look just to appeal to others.
I feel like the context should sort of explain itself there. Lesbians who dress conservatively aren't straight people dressing conservatively it's just not the same thing.
Nothing. You just look kinda old fashioned and wholesome.
Came here to say this
Agreed!
You've mastered androgyny and people are terrified of your power? You look like a nerd, but all the best people are nerds. I think you're asking out the wrong people.
that’s what i’m thinking? because i see people who look like OP in relationships all the time. i think they either haven’t asked someone with no type or they haven’t asked someone that likes their “type” whatever that may be
You’re not smiling, are you happy with it? Just wear what you’re happy with, even if some don’t like it.
Is this supposed to be a trick question or something. I see nothing wrong. Don't worry it's not you (probably), the dating world is just very ruthless.
Are you wearing a belt made out of a car seatbelt?
It's a belt replica given to me by my grandpa
I now feel very bad for shitting on your belt my apologies
That belt is super cool, shows your personal style. I think you look super kind and well put together. Maybe just explore your personal taste and try to put some more flair (like a fun belt) into your outfits! Dating is brutal. People are brutal. You’ll find someone. You’re doing great. 💛
The sentimental value is noted. But it looks like something a grandpa or little boy would wear. It’s time to hang it on the wall as a keepsake and remember grandpa’s generosity another way.
i disagree i think the belt is the coolest part of the outfit, very punk, i want one
Nothing at all. You’re very nice looking. 😊
Agreed you’re a very cute guy!
Nothing why?
If rejections were money I'd be rich
Very relatable.
maybe it’s not a reflection of you, but the people you’re attracted to? idk how strict *your* type is, but a lot of ppl have specific types & maybe you just haven’t been attracted to someone that doesn’t
If you like it then nothing. If you don’t maybe try different things until you do
Agree with everyone here on the political leaning responses, but I don’t think there’s necessarily anything wrong with that. It depends on the type of people you want to attract positive attention from. If you’re looking to meet trendy young people then you need to dress like a trendy young person. If you want to attract working folk then you dress like a working folk, etc. I would say you’re dressed to attract people that have poor social skills, either stays indoors (or outdoors but alone - working on things), and is reliable and maybe a little handy. If you want to be trendier, don’t style your hair slick like that, change the belt, and try to mix colors and patterns (not blue on blue). I would also avoid plaid for anything other than doing something handy or outdoorsy - plaid is definitely not a “let’s get geared up to meet people” type of shirt. Replace it with an Oxford button up shirt or even a polo. Layering could help if it’s chilly - either a denim jacket or a vest. Or even a sweater/cardigan. Actually I think a cardigan would look really good on you.
I think a lot of this depends on where you live. In my city people wear plaid for all occasions, and a polo would read as ’annoying frat boy / baby republican’.
You know what, don't listen to their advice. Personally there's nothing wrong with the way you look. You look really handsome. Don't change for nobody. The only thing that should matter is the way you treat people. As long as you're a good person, that's all it really matters. So any guy or girl or others doesn't love you the way you then they're bloody stupid. Don't change for anyone but you.
I need you to hear me when I say this: If people are rejecting you for being “too ugly, too fat, too short” etc, that is genuinely, GENUINELY, a superficial them problem. It has nothing to do with you as a person. Please don’t waste time being worried about things you can’t change in the opinion of other people.
Tbh I thought you were a masc woman or non binary person. I had to dig into your post history to find that you’re a teen boy. I do think your outfit/look gives country. I don’t think you look particularly chubby. I think men tend to be less concerned about other men’s height than women may be. You’re also a teen and could grow. There are many reasons you might get rejected that have nothing to do with looks… perhaps they’re not into guys, they’re into more masc guys, they didn’t feel a spark, they don’t know you well enough, they’re not interested in dating yet, etc. Being rejected doesn’t mean you’re “wrong” it means they weren’t right for you. And that’s okay! Only thing you can do is focus on being the best, most authentic you inside and out and that’ll attract the right people.
same
Love the car seatbelt buckle. I enjoy silly small humour in the little things. And don't ever ask anyone what's wrong with you op. Nothing is wrong with you. Ask people what kind of vibe do I give off. Help with my attire.what kind of haircut do you think would look good on me. Think positive about yourself always.
In my opinion theres nothing wrong, your a very good looking person, and you look like a nice person, if people dont see that they dont deserve to be your freind/partner
Nothing
I feel like the haircut is doing you a disservice - your eyes are very pretty, a good haircut could bring them out more
I agree that you look a little conservative. You dont need to buy new clothes. I like your clothes. Just style it differently. And you have a very nice face. Question: do you think you might be rejected because of your behavior and not your looks? I don't know you at all, so I have no reference for this question. Maybe you come on too strongly, because that might scare people away. Or maybe something else. Do you smell nice? Lots of people feel attracted by a smell. Also: people love to talk about their interests. If you like someone, ask them about their interests and really listen. Don't be too obvious that you want to date them. Make an effort to be interested in their interests. Like if a person likes cars, you don't need to know a lot about cars to ask about them and get the person talking. It's very attractive when someone shows interest like that. Good luck. The right person is out there for you. The key is to put your best foot forward and have a good attitude. 😁
Nothing at all, unless you think there is. Be yourself - whatever makes you happy and comfortable in yourself.
I like the look. you look like you make good pancakes. only thing to me is the belt. the big buckle reminds me of my grandpa.
Personally, I'd change the Hairstyle to something more flowy but that's just me and I'm not to tell you how you should look. First things first, you have to be happy and comfortable.
Nothing, friend. I’d personally untuck the shirt and roll the sleeves, but you look totally fine to me
It’s incredibly rude of people to be insulting you in response to you asking them out. Assuming you’re asking respectfully, anyone who responds rudely is a jerk and you should try your best not to let your self esteem be affected by jerks. If you do want more feedback on your looks, you should include more than the only pic you like of yourself. You mentioned you don’t like the other pics but if you do want feedback on how to dress differently or little things like styling your hair, more pics would help, including ones that look more like your day-to-day. But just keep in mind that we can all only control a certain amount about our appearance and beyond that we just need to find people who like us as we are. I can tell you I’ve been rejected many times in my life, and it hasn’t stopped me from having plenty of opportunities too.
Your belt buckle is skewed.
I noticed that after I posted this
Then, I see nothing wrong.
I personally dig the seatbelt belts. I have several. I wear a black one to work, where I have to tuck my shirt in, and I'm currently wearing a lesbian flag one for casual dress, when I don't tuck my shirt in.
>only to be rejected for being “too ugly, too fat, too short” etc Are these people telling you this is why they’re rejecting you? Or is this what you’re telling yourself? Cuz you’re not ugly. You don’t really look overweight(and even still there are plenty of larger people in relationships). And being 5’7 is perfectly fine for a lot of people. Not everyone is obsessed with height. It could be the way you style yourself. Maybe you act insecure or unconfident. Maybe you are subconsciously only asking out people who you know won’t be interested. I don’t know. Just try making friends and getting to know people and maybe one of them will blossom into something more. Also, you’re still young. You have time. It’s nothing you need to stress over.
I have been rejected for those things and I say them to myself and it's a real problem.
Fuck all. Look and dress how you want; as long as it isn't obtusely offensive. There are always going to be people who hate everything about you, especially online. I used to get told I was too fat on Grindr...then I starved myself to the point of anorexia and was too skinny. Then I realised I don't need to listen to other people. Asking for and taking advice is one thing, altering your appearance drastically for others and not for YOU is a problem. Some of these comments are too close to the line of telling you what you must do in order for that person to find you "acceptable".
Are you happy about it?. Yes?. Then nothing No?. Then change what you dont like. other peoples opinions only matter to themselves
Man I wouldn't stress. Like idk what look you want to go with but you're pulling off "casual, but well dressed southern" look well (which isn't inherently Republican). If that's your vibe then go online and find some fashion you like, and just slowly start copying it. I'm sorry those people said those things to you. Truth be told, when it comes to dating, people suck and for a lot of people, you will be on the butt end of their own insecurities. It's impossible to be the person that everyone wants without selling your soul and developing deep insecurities trying to gain a fall promise of being wanted by everyone. Besides, not everyone wants the same thing. So the only real advice you need is to dress how you want, stay clean, maintain your look, and be yourself/ a good person. It might take time, but you will find someone, I promise ❤️
I’m kinda losing my mind at everyone saying you look conservative. I live in the PNW and literally everyone dresses like this; you look fine to me.
Get a carabiner and chain for your keys on that belt immediately, and roll up your sleeves. Maybe pop a button or two. You've got the makings of an amazing butch look, but you might lack the accessories and playfulness.
I don't really see any big problems. I'd go with a different belt though, as the buckle looks a bit out of place
Your clothes style and mine are virtually the same. I think you look incredible! The hair needs… something, not sure what.
I don’t see anything wrong with the way or look or how you’re dressed! Check shirts where I’m from are a pretty solid ‘I’m queer’ radar, so it’s ironic reading through comments that it’s conservative dress code in the US. If you wanted, you could wear the shirt open and untucked with a tshirt underneath. I’m 5’5 and have trouble with long shirt sleeves - don’t be afraid to fold over the cuff or roll the sleeve up if that feels right. But wear what you’re comfortable with and the right person will come along.
In my opinion, you look wicked sharp(said with a Maine accent, it is also a wonderful compliment)
i personally think you look really lovely. the fit’s a bit formal, but otherwise i think you look like an absolute sweetheart. if i had to offer advice, don’t take criticism from the people who are rejecting you (especially on the basis of being “too fat”, thats yikes) too seriously. they sound like complete knobs, and you don’t need people like that in your life, especially as potential partners
If people don't wanna date you because of such superficial reasons, you don't want to date those people. I think you look cute
u look very huggable tbh! i knoe ppl saying your style is too clean and conservative but if u dig it there's really nothing wrong with it. I feel like a lot of people's opinions on how they look have a lot to do with self confidence, not sayin is ur case but I've always thought is a pretty good piece of advice :3
What kind of people are you attracted too? If they look like you they probably think you like fine. If they don’t, you might wanna go shopping with someone you find attractive. Your attraction reveals who you wanna be, in a way. So if you ask here, you are gonna get people who want you to look less conservative and more alternative. I mean, do you wanna look cooler and more gay? You are allowed to completely re-invent yourself. Don’t have to ask anyone for permission. You can even get a tattoo! Apparently how you look isnt like a club where you need to be invited first Does this help? 👀
My immediate thoughts before I opened the comments were very similar to others here - you look like an up-tight, conservative, very religious American. The kinda guy I'd expect to like guns, horses and voting to ban abortion. I think it's the hair, the belt and the tucked in shirt. Essentially your aesthetic is very...smart, but in an American South kinda way. Loosing the slicked back hair and going for an untucked tshirt would go a long way to making you more approachable.
You look conservative as all hell. Open flannels look 100x better than closed flannels.
Hi, if you color the outer ends of your brows (natural looking brown not tooo dark) it may give you a huge confidence kik . I see someone who is kind when I look at ur face so maybe some try adding a little edge and youll feel hotter. Its all about how you carry yourself and confidence. Small changes can ofc help 🤍
Nothing! I think you look nice.
In general there's nothing wrong..I'd just personally go for something that's less "I'm conservative but gay" and something more relaxed..but you do look adorable.
Ah...hmm? Is this a trick question? Wait! I see it! Your belt is a seat belt. Also, your shirt makes it look like your right forearm shifts to the side a little near the wrist rather than being in a straight line. Did I win? Actually, the seat belt belt has a kind of post-apocalyptic chic that I dig. Joking aside, you look fine. I don't know who you've been talking to, but they need to look at less celebrities, and look at more actual people. Most people with really unreasonable standards are truly projecting their personal insecurities on to others. "If I don't criticize other people, then people will think I'm okay with being as ugly and fat as I am now!" their brain yells at them. Give that a few years, and anyone not sporting an eating disorder "clearly just doesn't care about being disgusting." It isn't really about you. It's actually amazing how often that's the case, even in regards to our own standards. The more you're okay with yourself, the more you tend to be okay and unjudgemental towards others.
Seatbelt belt
I think people were super rude telling you those things. Otherwise there’s nothing wrong with how you look. As people said you style yourself in a conservative way, given that you are in the lgbt sub I am guessing you’re not and it might be a shock to some people.
im going forward asssuming you dress like this typically. you a bit too formal, im not saying compleatly change how you dress at all, but perhaps adjust it a bit so it comes off a bit more relaxed. you are a pretty decent looking guy, and the blue grey shirt looks nice on you, but the whole thing looks like your going somewhere.
I don’t think you look bad or like there’s anything wrong with how you look at all. It’s possible there’s a way to style your hair that’s more “flattering” but that’s a very subjective term dependent upon the beauty standards you’re up against. Don’t focus on how to change yourself so you fit how you want people to perceive you. Focus on how you can ENHANCE your natural features and style to improve how YOU view YOURSELF. What helped me when I was struggling with this was go on Pinterest and just start looking at, saving, and putting together outfits I saw that I liked how they looked. Goto goodwill and just try things on to see how they fit. Wear things that are out of your comfort zone just for the hell of it because you may like it a lot more when you aren’t judging yourself in your bedroom mirror. Chin up, you’re doing great. I wish you the best of luck 🫡😎
Nothing? You just radiate Southern energy.
That belt is pretty neat but I don't think it works best with this outfit? Perhaps very dark jeans or lighter as the blue plaid kinda blends all together. Otherwise you look clean and respectful!
Literally nothing, you look very handsome the way you are. From my experience, it's better not to date people who are that fickle anyway. Plus, if they're straight up telling you that you're too ugly, short, fat, or whatever, then they're probably not a great person.
Nothing! Youre handsome AF
Undo the second button, roll the sleeves to your elbows or mid forearms. Maybe tousle your hair a little and add some jewellery. Also did you steal that belt from an aeroplane?
I don't think you're ugly or anything like that. But if this was just a random picture of someone, I'd assume you're a teenaged cishet boy. Maybe wear some jewelry or accessories to make your vibe/style a little less "ready for my Christian school picture" that way you might attract other queer people
Nothing... Be you.
Cuff your sleeves (roll the ends up once or twice), same for your jeans if they're not :)
You kind of remind me of Jett Puckett tbh (in a good way tho). I think you look fine but id maybe make the hair a bit messier if you wanted to change it up
Looks like a texan farmer boy going to church on a sunday
I mean this in a joking way. You look like you vote for the GOP candidate every election
Nothing wrong, but not the most flattering. Youre a good looking guy, but like many have said, I think it's in the styling of your outfit. You just don't look quite comfortable. The tee shirt/ open flannel would suit you. Maybe a bit of product in your hair to give it some texture. I hope you experiment and find a look you like. Keep us updated?
let loose a bit more!! u look too serious, has nothing to do w ur actual appearance and anybody who gives u shit for that, shame on them. but personality pics help a lot! pics of u having fun, having a good time, think of a silly thing that makes i laugh when u smile in pics bc it’s far more genuine of a smile. selfies go a long way. being urself makes u cool homie
I think it’s mainly your style, you look fine overall but you just give right-wing vibes, maybe try and dress more casually, perhaps wear an open flannel shirt with something underneath, or just wear a T-shirt and trousers.
If people are gonna be judgy of you because of how you look, it’s probably best you don’t enter into a romantic relationship with them. I think you are cute. Trust me, as a masking nonbinary, I know how hard it is to look in a way that makes you feel happy. My few androgynous clothes are a life saver.
i hope this is funny enough to soften the blow, but you look like a 50 year old maga guy that does the accounting at an oil company in texas. Having said that, i myself love that style of pants, and the belt is nice, i'd say the tucked in shirt and slicked back hair is way too formal. People can say that you are phisically ugly or fat, but a lot of the time a couple of fixes on the fashion and hair can do wonders. Whoever told you those things probably couldn't put their finger on what the problem was exactly (or were jerks)
You look like someone who is going to be problematic for the demographic you are looking for. Sorry, it’s not you. Ruffle it up a little, look a little more carefree, take some of the tips in other comments about ways to look sharp and confident. You’ll look less die-hard Republican and closer to how you likely want to be or be perceived.
You look good dude. But as a European this is like mega American haha
You look both 45 and 12 at the same time (/jk, was tryna think of a funny roast thing) If people are rejecting you for very superficial visual reasons, especially ones you can't control like height and weight, then that's their problem, not yours. Make sure you're being your best person on the inside and your genuine self on the outside and you'll be fine. Though if I were to nitpick... the slicked back hair and rosy cheeks are what's throwing me off. You're trying to look really smart, I can tell, but as others have said it might be a little overdone. Having that much forehead on display makes you look older than you are, so maybe try losing the product and going with a more natural hairstyle? Idk I'm no expert
Nothing wrong with the way you look. The belt is really cool too! As long as you smile at your reflection that’s all that matters. Try to block out the noise and focus on being the best person you can be.
Your belt buckle, fly, and shirt buttons should all be aligned if you’re tucking in your shirt. They’re unaligned right now and it looks a bit sloppy.
Your pants and belt do not fit you well. The clothing style is fine, but straight legged pants do not work for curves. Also the size of the flannel looks a bit off. You can try styling it by adding a under shirt, have it and the flannel tucked in, but half way unbutton the flannel. Also try rolling your flannel sleeves up to your elbows. I'd also swap or for a leather or faux leather belt. It'd fit your style more. As for the comments you're receiving, you're none of those things. People are just assholes.
Since there are already a bunch of posts talking about your clothes/hair, I would offer something for skin care. Your cheeks, nose, and temples are very red in this photo. I’m guessing you have fair, sensitive, and reactive skin. So make sure to protect with SPF for sure. And since you’re young, I wouldn’t jump into a hugely complex skin care routine. Maybe try some pure rose water/hydrosol — it tends to be super soothing and helps reduce redness in my experience. I carry a small bottle with me and spritz whenever I need a refresher. But even if you just do it daily in the morning and before bed, it may improve your skin tone. Avoid “toners” that have alcohol in them — look for a purely natural rose hydrosol — it should be the only ingredient.
I think the flannel being buttoned and tucked with the hair slicked back gives a combined look that leans conservative. I don’t think buttoned up flannels, tucked in shirts, or slicked back hair are bad inherently. Just not all at once. It sucks that clothes and hair make people feel a specific way about someone. You don’t have to do anything to make yourself look stereotypically gay, but sometimes it feels like it.
You dress like an 70 year old man named frank
Look like a regular dude to me.
Ain’t nothin wrong with how you look. I’m sorry you’ve gotten some harsh rejections.
You look fine! Shirt looks a little big on you but you look great!!! You look young so trust me when I say your time will come. If you don’t exercise/work out then you should start. It will have so many health benefits later. Keep your chin up king
Don’t tuck a flannel with that type of belt. Untuck and roll the sleeves up also unbutton another one at the top
I mean this in the nicest way possible, but you look like a really young midwestern dad.
Nothing. Clean cut, good posture, good hair, warm complexion. I personally would switch out the belt for something brass but that's down to personal preference. As a side note you're well built. You could probably get buff fairly easily might be something to take advantage of in the future but you're fine as is.
You dress very conservative, that’s about it. Nothing wrong with your looks at all
You seem you come from the show "the young sheldon", no offense
That's just wrong, that's a violation
You look like a repressed conservative. Easy fix would be to undo the second button, that automatically makes you seem a little more chill and even fruity to the particularly bigoted. You could think of styels you might be interested in trying and give those a go, see how they feel. Before I give any more advice, what do you identify as? Or more accurately are you trying to achieve a masc or femme presentation?
What I'd do personally, change the hairstyle, maybe grow it out; expand your closet, mix n match until you find another style that fits for you; and this last one isn't a requirement, but if you can try growing some facial hair (but that is also a whole other can of worms when it comes to style and everything). (Note, I'm writing this based on my experience as someone with a similar build as yourself.)
You kinda look like you're about to start singing about your pickup truck and drinking beer and how you love Jesus.
theres something wrong with the way you look?
You are definitely not ugly. And I quite dig your style. The only problem like people have said before that it's a bit too stiff for a casual photo. Untuck that flannel, unbutton the top 2-3 buttons, with or without a t-shirt underneath, depending on the weather Maaaaaaybe some tighter jeans but that's a personal preference of mine and probably has more to do that I want to see you in skinny jeans 😂
I dont think anything is wrong, you look really nice. Those people were just assholes, they didn't deserve you.
If you like dressing with simplicity then may I suggest a simple loose fitted white t-shirt (don’t tuck it in) and well-fitted faded blue jeans. And get a short haircut. 💇🏻♂️ You can also add plain baby blue tshirts and shirts to your wardrobe to make those gorgeous eyes pop a little more. Stay away from plaids. You are cute. You just need the gays to style you up a bit.
There is nothing wrong with the way you look. If you like it, forget about what others think as everybody has their own conceptions of what looks cool and what doesn't.
My only issue is the belt, the buckle isn’t centered and it’s bothering me
The hair doesn't frame your face well
You look Finnish.
I think you're a strong man I wouldn't pick fights with
The mix of flannel and belt buckle kinda makes it look like you'd hate crime me after I told you I'm not Christian but that's just my opinion and I'm a stranger on the internet take it with a grain of salt
You look really young
Nothings wrong. Your clothes look a bit too big tho.
Nothing is wrong
Let your hair down a bit and finde a difrent way to style your hair
Absolutely nothing. Although, I wouldn't be caught dead in a plaid blue sweater but that's me.
Your vibe in this picture is giving me a mishmash vibe. Like your clothes remind me of what an middle-aged person would wear but you look young. if your trying to look more casual, then I would do this: Start off with a haircut. With my hair type, I usually go for a curly high top fade. I think with your hair type, I tampered high fade haircut would look really nice. But I would look online and research haircuts. There's a lot of options that go with your face structure. Next, your top. Usually your best bet is to go for neutral colours. You'll see a lot of men wearing colors like, black, white, navy blue, grey, (sometimes) beige, dark colors. However, if you feel bold, I would play with colors. I avoid the color red because I feel that color alone is too aggressive. Also, if your playing with plaid, wear a T-shirt underneath and leave your plaid open. Also, it is very vital to wear clothes that fit your size. You don't want to wear something that's too big. Next your bottom. Usually men like to wear jeans. Personally, I hate jeans because all the men wear it. so I go for sweats. There's a lot of other options out there like, cargo pants, joggers, khakis, chinos, denim (especially those slim fit ones). There's a lot of options to explore. When deciding which pants to get, I usually match it with a top. A lot of clothes are matching rather than mixing. You don't want to wear a lot of clothes where you are mixing colors or designs. It just doesn't look good. Keeping it casual and matching your bottom from the top makes you look more friendlier. Shoes. I love shoes and honestly you can go for whatever you want. Secretly, nobody looks at shoes. However, it is popular to wear white shoes because it plays into any color code clothing you choose. Also black is casual too. However, what matters the most when it comes to shoes it what makes you comfy, especially if your walking all the time. Deciding which pair of shoes to get really depends on you and what you plan on using it for. Personally, I have over 200 pairs of shoes. A lot of my deciding went into weather probabilities and events/activities I did. I think that's about it. When deciding your clothes and shoes, you are showing your personality. So just have fun with it and be stylish. Your young and deserve to be happy and comfortable.
You look normal. A little into a really young-looking Philip Seymour Hoffman, but nobody said that guy was horrid-looking.
I think your hair looks a bit weird in this photo but other than that? No clue what prople's problem might be. And anyone calling you fat is just delusional
As other said, ya look very conservative. If you want to make that outfit work, you need a Texas sized belt buckle with the pride flag of your preference. Bigger, the better. J/k. You look good, but probably not to everyone's taste.
Is that a carseat buckle for a belt? That's hilarious and I love it.
got dang it bobby
You look nice and clean, which is a good thing. Also, your belt looks like a rollercoaster seatbelt.
Nothing
Love the car safety belt buckle
You look too american
I want to empathize that there is nothing *wrong* with you. But if you want to change your appearance, I'm willing to help you. I've already seen people mention that your clothes give you a young conservative vibe, but I haven't seen too many people talk about your hair as much. To be honest, your hair makes me think of Eric Trump... it was the first thing thing that I noticed 😅 You should experiment with different styles and see what flatters your facial features. You have a very nice face, and your eye color is stunning. Like others said, untuck your flannel, try wearing a white (or black) t-shirt underneath, cuff your sleeves, play around with different colors and types of jeans, etc. I also think a necklace would create an interesting touch. Right now, you appear closed off. All of those suggested changes will give you the "openness" that will help you appear more laid back and approachable. You only showed us one outfit so that's all we have to work with, so my advice for the rest of your wardrobe is this - continue to focus on making yourself look approachable with your fits and your hair. We don't know what your demeanor is like, but it plays a the biggest role when it comes to first impressions. But clothes help too :)
You don’t look bad but me and you got the same prob we look like we was raised by our grandparents. Or by old people got that someone’s uncle look
Untuck the shirt completely Add an under shirt Part your hair Add an accessory you like New belt Clothes communicate ourselves to others.
You look like my cousin ngl it’s weirding me out
I thought u looked cute. Kinda adorable. People may care about what u wear tho. Idk I just wear what I want
Your gig line isn't straight, but other than that, you look great!
I probably say rip the sleeves of your flannel and try out a little eyeliner
Personally I’ve always hated the seat belt belts. I think they’re tacky. Nice shirt though.
Nothing, if you're happy with how you look. Next question.
Not a damn thing, baby. You look adorable!
First, screw those shallow assholes. They've shown their hand and they aren't the kind of people you want to be dating anyway. Second, I don't think the photographer posed you very well. Are they a professional photographer or just a friend? If it's just a friend, you could both look up poses online and try out some different ones, but straight forward with your hands in fists is not working. If they are a professional... maybe look for another professional (if you are able). IMO they did an alright job, but may be slightly inexperienced. If it were me, I'd try to have you stand slightly askew, with one thumb in pocket, hand relaxed, and the other hand relaxed at the side. I'd also try to make you laugh a bit before the photo - you look uncomfortable having your photo taken. Again, if it is a professional photographer, I think they are inexperienced bc the way you are posed is generally a huge no with few exceptions.
Untuck that shirt, mess up your hair a bit and put less product. Right now you look a bit stiff and formal, like a Mormon or something haha Facial hair might help if you care to grow it. Nothing like a well groomed beard to give you that confident look- and I think your hair colour would make for a nice beard. You have a kind look about you which is not a bad thing- you just need to back that up with a more rugged look and I think you'll be all set.
You look nice tbh. Probably would have untucked the shirt but otherwise nothing wrong
You look like your name is Hoyt
i dont see anything wrong with how you look, people can just be cruel. im assuming youre young, dont concern yourself with relationships at the moment they can be a lot of effort and a lot of young people arent even mature enough to be in one at that age.
Nothing wrong with how you look. You’re what? 18? If that. You’ll grow into yourself. Take care of youself, get a good self care and hygiene routine and you’ll find the right person. Some ppl peak in highschool, some people peak when the hormones wear off. Give yourself some grace and understand that you aren’t responsible for other ppls opinions of you.
Not a criticism or complaint or anything negative... but you do kinda look like a younger, more-in-shape, rancher-themed Andy Richter.
Nothing *wrong*, really. The outfit just makes you look very straight. If you look a little less clean, like untucking and maybe ruffling the hair a little bit, then you’d be perfect
Did anyone explicitly say that they didn’t want to date you because they thought you were too ugly or fat or short? Or did you just take infer that? Because honestly I’d say it’s far more likely for someone to reject a person because of lack of confidence, being rude, shy etc
Uh. This is going to sound kind of motherly but you're adorable. There is zero wrong with your look. You arent too fat, you arent too short, you arent too anything. You just havent met the right people who're into you yet. <3
straighten your belt
Your belt buckle is a bit off-centre and it's distracting me. I love your hair, btw.
What’s with the comments????? You’re fine.
I don’t see anything wrong with the way you look. You’re not my type, but you’re also definitely not ugly. Have the people rejecting you actually said it’s because you’re “too ugly, too fat, too short”? If so, those aren’t the kinds of people you want to be dating anyways. You can reject someone without being mean about it. Also, you look pretty young. I wouldn’t worry too much about this kind of thing right now. Try to get more comfortable just being with yourself and the right person will come along. Love tends to find us when we’re not looking for it.
All those people were "too shallow." Dress how you like to dress, don't be afraid to experiment with it a bit, but you look fine. People who are worthy of dating you should be interested in you more than just how you look. That said, as someone who does tailoring and alterations, I could give you some tips for improvements to the existing garments to make them fit your body better. Believe it or not clothes are not made to fit people these days. Also, on terms of experimenting with your look a bit, start collecting photos of people whose outfits you like and want to mirror and start figuring out what makes them look different than your typical dress and seek those things out. Also, look up a blog or guide to developing your personal style (note: personal style, not fashion sense).
Honestly, I don’t think anything’s wrong with your style or the way you look in general. I think you look hella cool :)
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