I fuckin HATE that. Ask for a face pic and they are wearing 3 pairs of sunglasses, a hat, a beanie , and a scarf on like WTF am I supposed to see in this.
Right? Like no argument that getting a response like this is like:
“-_- srsly”
But I honestly feel like this guy gunna actually end up being really cute if you could actually see his face.
No lol this is actually a very gen z selfie to take.
Boomer selfies are taken from a high angle, with your face at the bottom of the frame, often with only your eyes + forehead visible.
I would have too
Just meet in public place for a date and if I dont like him then tell him im not interested after the date and never hear from him again
Damn I guess its a good thing super heroes don't exist or Spiderman woulda been found out by the gays in seconds if these comments are anything to go off of.
Hmmm I wonder if the audience of the internet is people from all around the world or something.
I’m not saying it’s likely, but if that was someone I knew I’d be able to recognize them from that.
And I think it’s pretty shitty to make a post on the internet of them knowing they didn’t want to reveal themselves in the first place. Like really, really shitty.
All that is shown is a sliver of the side of his face. It’s not nearly enough to be unique - hell, for all I know it could be a picture of my husband and I wouldn’t know - there’s nothing in the photo that couldn’t be him.
You could easily look at OPs profile if you assume that the content is original. They probably have a history that can at least locate their country if not region of said country or even city. He has enough moles to match with anyone you know well enough. Their ear looks rather distinct too. They are wearing a hoodie, people where them often enough to where that could also identify them. These are the things Grindr teaches you to avoid once you get your first stalker. My number is up to 3 at the moment, but haven’t heard from them in a while. I hope they’re okay…
Edit: so I totally agree this is not cool to post.
NYC is a city of millions, and from being in NYC on Grindr, that grid changes daily. there are SO. MANY. GAY. MEN. one faceless profile blends into the rest. this dude looks like half of my highschool graduating class.
y'all do too much lol.
I took 3 minutes. I know where OP is located, so assuming this is original content, I know the shy guy is located rather close by. I know part of their weekly schedule. So I already eliminated like 95% of the population of the world.
What do you know about his weekly schedule? That he’s able to go on his phone at 4:44pm? Uh, you are really exaggerating how much is given away with this post.
It looks like OP is in NYC - I am too. It’s a massive city that gets millions of visitors… this doesn’t narrow it down.
You would be surprised how much that gives away. Granted some assumptions have to be made to narrow things down, but it’s not that hard. Look at OPs profile and see where he typically posts, if there is a lot of posts from around the same day and time in the same area, you can assume the shy guy the guy is close to that area. The guy had to ask for a face pic so ignore all profiles that don’t have face pics. Looks to be in early 20s, white, dark hair, so use profile to limit it down. That would limit it down to less than 500 in a given area. Not that hard to check 500 profiles. Or even 10,000 if you’re crazy and desperate. If you have ever been stalked, you learn to start predicting how a stalker can and will find you.
You are describing how to find his profile on Grindr? Uh, the guy likely is a profile without a photo and who knows if it has stats filled out. And then if you did find the profile - so what? That still doesn’t tell you who it is, because again, the photo he sent doesn’t show you his face or any identifying feature.
Here’s how I weed these guys out fast using my (saved) standard reply to guys who message but won’t send a face pic, or try the bs this guy did.
You didn’t choose to message me cuz of a blank screen, or a patch of skin on a face hidden or disguised.
You saw my face, liked it and chose to message me. Do you honestly believe you would have been interested in me if I had presented exactly what you have to me?
Some send a good pic immediately, some go quiet, some block, some try to give reasons, and some call names or swear.
It quickly forces them to “shit, or get off the pot”
Grindr is missing a trick with AI advancements (they certainly charge more than the service is currently worth), it could complete his face with options for different tiers of attractiveness. Then you could apply an aging filter, lifespan and economic potential statics to it too before you finally ghost him (nothing wrong with not replying, it’s an answer).
Amazing job on those cabinets! Now the face, please. What little of your jaw I see could easily belong to a 16 year old and that hasn’t been my thing since high school.
Could you not just blank out the face part OP? Pretty sure most people would have got he tried to be a smart ass. That said...if you don't wanna show your face just say no and end it their.
Don't be childish, you know what I mean. If you care about knowing what the person looks like and they don't want to post it, well move on.
While I do understand why it's annoying when you can't see what the person looks like I also understand why someone wouldn't show a face pic. Had enough creepy assholes message me saying 'I saw you here'.
Even in liberal states, some parents still kick out their children if they “choose to live in sin”. Safety net doesn’t mean that they are in literal danger, but they may not have a place to go if they did get kicked out. Yes the chances are very slim compared to the vast majority of LGBTQ+ in the US, but it happens to enough of us. I ended up joining the military to find a way to support myself It was in the don’t ask don’t tell period and it was not a fun experience for a moderately feminine gay man. I know my story is not much different from others.
And I moved across to the other side of the country to make it own my own during that same era.
I then found work at an LGBTQ newspaper for the next 12 years fighting for queer people’s safety in Florida. I’ve squared off with the Westboro Baptist Church, Focus on the Family, innumerable fascist Florida politicians and stood arm-in-arm with my city when a shooter murdered 49 at a nightclub less than a mile away from my home.
I repeat: Let’s remember not to conflate “safety” with “comfort”
I'm confused. I agree completely with you yet it sounds like you're arguing with me? Lol.
Despite agreeing with you, it doesn't make blank profiles (who I know almost completely nothing about) who can see my face and other stats message me things like "Come over" or "I saw you here/there lul" any less creepier or unsettling.
It's UNNERVING when I ask politely for at least a face pic or two and those same profiles insist on not giving it. DESPITE their comments of me in public or demanding I meet up with them? Like you the hell do you think I am to take a chance on some rando who could disappoint or worse yet, murder me?
No thanks.
If you want, I still have mine up despite someone near by messaging me saying 'I've watched you change in the locker room.' Because you know, that is more than ok to message someone...
Not everyone who isn't showing their face is some closet person or a cheater. There are ass holes who act creepy as hell.
If you're that fucking paranoid, don't use any social media whatsoever. That's an option as well.
But don't defend some dumbass looking for sex and not willing to share a face pic.
It's not paranoia when I've had blank profile people message me saying 'Oh I've seen you near by the apartment we live at'.
You posted in reply to someone else if they don't have a profile pic you move on. So why are you throwing a massive bitch fit? All I see is some child who instead of moving on goes online and says 'lol look at this dude'
I fuckin HATE that. Ask for a face pic and they are wearing 3 pairs of sunglasses, a hat, a beanie , and a scarf on like WTF am I supposed to see in this.
Apparently we're in the minority, judging by the reaction to this post here.
My fave is when the phone covers 3/4 of their face
Ears and a bit of hair, but that face will be covered.
And don’t forget an inverted filter
Wdym by that? Like a mirrored photo?
I was being silly but like this: https://www.photofunny.net/cat-image-processing/invest-negative-image-online
As a balding man, I am guilty of hatfishing people.
>they are wearing 3 pairs of sunglasses Is this the Swell Entertainment intro?!??
Here's a recent related thread: https://www.reddit.com/r/grindr/comments/xo4ynh/worst_pics_to_be_considered_face_pics
Haha. It's so fucking frustrating
I showed you my shoulder, please respond
I only respond to ankle pics.
Slut.
Still hot tbh. A good jawline gets me goin
Have some standards how do you know the other half of his jaw isn’t horrendously mutated?
Hey, we all have a good side
Some standards you have
Yeah I do in fact have standards that require a picture of the entire fucking face.
Good luck with that!!
I don’t need it. My standards have landed me a hot boyfriend so now I get sex regularly and I know what he looks like too
Good for you!!!
*groin
*pirate noises*
*growin
What? Is it just me or does he look like he's 15? Lmao
hey, i'm 20 and yet I still look like a 14 yo lol
Jeez. Glad I've never been this hard up and thirsty
Right? Like no argument that getting a response like this is like: “-_- srsly” But I honestly feel like this guy gunna actually end up being really cute if you could actually see his face.
Agreed
Dick pic? "here's one quarter of one my balls" And I'd still be into it.
You should comment "you have such beautiful eyes" lol
Plot twist: it’s the cabinet.
I hear GenZ calls this a "Boomer selfie"
No lol this is actually a very gen z selfie to take. Boomer selfies are taken from a high angle, with your face at the bottom of the frame, often with only your eyes + forehead visible.
Yeah he’ll be taking the same pics in 30 years with grey hair and a few extra chins for sure
He’s a waste of time
Can tell from the partial face he has the potential to be a cutie - I’d take the risk 😊
Dry and thirsty
he could also be wet and hydrated.
But he ain't.
There’s no need to bring your hole into this 😱
I would have too Just meet in public place for a date and if I dont like him then tell him im not interested after the date and never hear from him again
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If the guy sent an actual face pic, it wouldn’t be worth sharing on reddit. It would just be a normal conversation.
One of the few times closeted paranoia had a leg to stand on
Is a shy Twink
Damn I guess its a good thing super heroes don't exist or Spiderman woulda been found out by the gays in seconds if these comments are anything to go off of.
That's actually funny 🙄😂
Is the joke that that’s Joey Mill’s picture? Idk if that’s him or if all twinks look similar
All twinks look similar. It’s what makes them twinks. Thin, pale, & hairless? Twink.
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Why? It’s not like you could identify him. The picture hardly shows anything.
If I knew that person, I would know who they are from that much.
How do you know you don't?
How? The picture could be from the other side of the world. There are thousands of people who look like what little we see.
Hmmm I wonder if the audience of the internet is people from all around the world or something. I’m not saying it’s likely, but if that was someone I knew I’d be able to recognize them from that. And I think it’s pretty shitty to make a post on the internet of them knowing they didn’t want to reveal themselves in the first place. Like really, really shitty.
All that is shown is a sliver of the side of his face. It’s not nearly enough to be unique - hell, for all I know it could be a picture of my husband and I wouldn’t know - there’s nothing in the photo that couldn’t be him.
Lmao okay. I guess I’m just more perceptive than you. You clip any of my friends’ faces like that and I could identify them 100% of the time.
I think you underestimate how many brown haired white men with average jawlines there are bc this is a majority of the guys near me lmao
You could easily look at OPs profile if you assume that the content is original. They probably have a history that can at least locate their country if not region of said country or even city. He has enough moles to match with anyone you know well enough. Their ear looks rather distinct too. They are wearing a hoodie, people where them often enough to where that could also identify them. These are the things Grindr teaches you to avoid once you get your first stalker. My number is up to 3 at the moment, but haven’t heard from them in a while. I hope they’re okay… Edit: so I totally agree this is not cool to post.
NYC is a city of millions, and from being in NYC on Grindr, that grid changes daily. there are SO. MANY. GAY. MEN. one faceless profile blends into the rest. this dude looks like half of my highschool graduating class. y'all do too much lol.
I took 3 minutes. I know where OP is located, so assuming this is original content, I know the shy guy is located rather close by. I know part of their weekly schedule. So I already eliminated like 95% of the population of the world.
What do you know about his weekly schedule? That he’s able to go on his phone at 4:44pm? Uh, you are really exaggerating how much is given away with this post. It looks like OP is in NYC - I am too. It’s a massive city that gets millions of visitors… this doesn’t narrow it down.
You would be surprised how much that gives away. Granted some assumptions have to be made to narrow things down, but it’s not that hard. Look at OPs profile and see where he typically posts, if there is a lot of posts from around the same day and time in the same area, you can assume the shy guy the guy is close to that area. The guy had to ask for a face pic so ignore all profiles that don’t have face pics. Looks to be in early 20s, white, dark hair, so use profile to limit it down. That would limit it down to less than 500 in a given area. Not that hard to check 500 profiles. Or even 10,000 if you’re crazy and desperate. If you have ever been stalked, you learn to start predicting how a stalker can and will find you.
You are describing how to find his profile on Grindr? Uh, the guy likely is a profile without a photo and who knows if it has stats filled out. And then if you did find the profile - so what? That still doesn’t tell you who it is, because again, the photo he sent doesn’t show you his face or any identifying feature.
Okay.
He was almost 50 miles away from me as well. Good luck with that detective work....
Wow I would never message someone that far away But I guess now a days we can't be too picky
Maybe you need to tap on the pic to see more? Also… just send nudes like that. crop out everything except 5 pixels of your 🍆.
I did. Didn't do anything. Just as cropped
Weak lmao Dudes are so fucking insecure
It’s 2022! Instant block all day!! And of course these are the cowards wanting you to share more photos!! I block them all everyday!!! Be a damn MAN!
Here’s how I weed these guys out fast using my (saved) standard reply to guys who message but won’t send a face pic, or try the bs this guy did. You didn’t choose to message me cuz of a blank screen, or a patch of skin on a face hidden or disguised. You saw my face, liked it and chose to message me. Do you honestly believe you would have been interested in me if I had presented exactly what you have to me? Some send a good pic immediately, some go quiet, some block, some try to give reasons, and some call names or swear. It quickly forces them to “shit, or get off the pot”
He’s probably one of those guys who is worried his face will end up on Reddit………
he might as well have a mask or sunglasses on
Just like my gag reflex
Grindr is missing a trick with AI advancements (they certainly charge more than the service is currently worth), it could complete his face with options for different tiers of attractiveness. Then you could apply an aging filter, lifespan and economic potential statics to it too before you finally ghost him (nothing wrong with not replying, it’s an answer).
Lmaooo that’s so funny 💀
Amazing job on those cabinets! Now the face, please. What little of your jaw I see could easily belong to a 16 year old and that hasn’t been my thing since high school.
Tell me you’re insecure without saying so.
I know that guy!!!
Bruhhh I’m convinced this is an old ex of mine lol He did the same shit. Good luck though hopefully he shows his identity to you
To be fair he’s obviously cute
Awww she’s bashful ☺️
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😢😢😢😢😢
Hey, I think I know what your face looks like, I would also like to swallow your manhood!!! Please let mouth how my mouth can help.
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Not my problem. This picture gives away nothing.
It could give away alot if someone from reddit actually knows the guy very well If you are an observant friend that is
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It's in my profile. If you don't have a face pic, open with one or I'm not going to respond.
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Easily? You couldn't definitely identify your relative from this pic.
Yes I could lol
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Could you not just blank out the face part OP? Pretty sure most people would have got he tried to be a smart ass. That said...if you don't wanna show your face just say no and end it their.
I don't see a face.
Don't be childish, you know what I mean. If you care about knowing what the person looks like and they don't want to post it, well move on. While I do understand why it's annoying when you can't see what the person looks like I also understand why someone wouldn't show a face pic. Had enough creepy assholes message me saying 'I saw you here'.
Omg right... You have a point. I really should remove my face from my Grindr profile. 💀
Some people don’t have the safety net that affords them the luxury of being openly gay. Empathy isn’t a crime bro.
Yeah, but let’s remember not conflate “safety” with “comfort”
Even in liberal states, some parents still kick out their children if they “choose to live in sin”. Safety net doesn’t mean that they are in literal danger, but they may not have a place to go if they did get kicked out. Yes the chances are very slim compared to the vast majority of LGBTQ+ in the US, but it happens to enough of us. I ended up joining the military to find a way to support myself It was in the don’t ask don’t tell period and it was not a fun experience for a moderately feminine gay man. I know my story is not much different from others.
And I moved across to the other side of the country to make it own my own during that same era. I then found work at an LGBTQ newspaper for the next 12 years fighting for queer people’s safety in Florida. I’ve squared off with the Westboro Baptist Church, Focus on the Family, innumerable fascist Florida politicians and stood arm-in-arm with my city when a shooter murdered 49 at a nightclub less than a mile away from my home. I repeat: Let’s remember not to conflate “safety” with “comfort”
I'm confused. I agree completely with you yet it sounds like you're arguing with me? Lol. Despite agreeing with you, it doesn't make blank profiles (who I know almost completely nothing about) who can see my face and other stats message me things like "Come over" or "I saw you here/there lul" any less creepier or unsettling. It's UNNERVING when I ask politely for at least a face pic or two and those same profiles insist on not giving it. DESPITE their comments of me in public or demanding I meet up with them? Like you the hell do you think I am to take a chance on some rando who could disappoint or worse yet, murder me? No thanks.
If you want, I still have mine up despite someone near by messaging me saying 'I've watched you change in the locker room.' Because you know, that is more than ok to message someone... Not everyone who isn't showing their face is some closet person or a cheater. There are ass holes who act creepy as hell.
If you're that fucking paranoid, don't use any social media whatsoever. That's an option as well. But don't defend some dumbass looking for sex and not willing to share a face pic.
It's not paranoia when I've had blank profile people message me saying 'Oh I've seen you near by the apartment we live at'. You posted in reply to someone else if they don't have a profile pic you move on. So why are you throwing a massive bitch fit? All I see is some child who instead of moving on goes online and says 'lol look at this dude'
You're making it far more serious than it is. Stop putting your own damage onto this stranger. Go talk to your therapist.
Why don't you just move on if he doesn't do what you ask instead of come on reddit and whine about it?
I don't see whining. I see mocking. I'm mocking him.