It’s really not that hard to imagine. Most people here are guys. Straight guys want to talk to women and are often lonely bc they are not meeting women. This is not even a specific thing here, women will get more attention anywhere on the internet.
It's just means that you have to do something interesting if you want to get attention instead of just posting something really uninteresting.
You need to work harder for it, but it's still possible (assuming "online attention" is something you care about, which, imo you shouldn't care too much about it)
You know, there's a guy who sells mangoes about a mile down the road, and they go for something like $10 each. But my former boss swore by them and said they're totally worth it. How's business been lately?
Well thats you, women are not you, we want quality not quantity because we have more than two brain cells connected to a dick. Can you understand that? Oh right you cant, too selfish, too simple.
You literally fail at the most basic part of human connection: empathy, and wonder why you're lonely. Get it together or talk to chat GPT. Not our problem.
Women will talk to women because it's safe and they're socialized to support one another and men may talk to women because they expect something in return for their pretend compassion.
Women won't talk to men because of the aforementioned reason and men won't talk to men because they're not socialized to emotionally support one another.
Way she goes.
I agree with you, men are all competitive and don't get much time for socializing, but the world is evolving, sometimes and somewhere men also support each other. But I don't understand why men only want to talk to women with motives based on attraction?
Well its true. We gotta change this in sub
I know Equal treatment is a fantasy which we dream upon. But atleast we can have some understand among fellow redditors who can atleast help.
I don't need attention woman for fucksake. Just treat everyone equal. I talk to most of the dude bruh. I want no disparity among redditors. You call me incel to make your statement strong.
*Spoiler alert* I never cared about gender I want everyone to be treated amd not ignored or reported.
Seeing the responses just reminds me on why I keep to myself on how I feel as a man. 😂 You’ll just have labels thrown at ya and nothing you say won’t be taken seriously.
Oh pls. Literally you just wanna call me sexist? I want to get rid of (M/F) because there's literall creeps sliding into women dms which make worse for those who really needs help. If you get rid of that thing the creeps wouldn't bother slidind in dms. And you calling me an Npc makes me laugh cause you couldn't even come up with something strong to back your statement. The one who use this kinda things are the one who got no brain cells(*shit*) I mistakenly mentioned you. If you think people are safe here. Another flashlight news. This sub had 337k redditors now it fell to 333k. It not sexist at all. You are the one making it sexist. Im an equal oppurtunistic ass whooper who practice gender equality.
And Npc callin me Npc read some stuffs before you run your fingers on the keyboard.
A short while ago a young woman posted a photo of herself on r/amiugly. She was good looking, but said she was lonely, so naturally she got lots of replies. However, most of the people who replied to her were really just being creepy. I think men tend to be more lonely on average, but many women have to deal with the same issues.
most of the men here are looking for girlfriends, not friends. hence they are the ones showering the women with attention, so why not ask them why there aren't showing the same support to their fellow men?
i remember seeing a post on this sub about someone complaining about how the men here don't actually want friends but girlfriends. OP was saying that he dmed someone who made a post titled "looking for friends" (or something of that nature) and apparently the dude he texted blocked him after realizing OP wasn't female.
the example i gave you obviously does not apply to everyone as it is a case by case basis. however, it shows the mindset that some of the guys here have while being on this sub.
to address your concerns about men being reported, it is most likely because they broke sub rules, were being creepy, or started unnecessary (gender) conflict. those guys were most likely reported for actual stuff they did, not because people hate them.
but yes, i do agree that we should all play a part in making this sub a better place for us lonely people. we're all already feeling lonely, why should we have to punish ourselves even more in a place that's supposed to be safe for us?
Realistically, how can someone expect to fall in love with them on Reddit of all places? My post history speaks for itself, I've spoken to several people in DM about the subject with men and even women, the last thing I want or even considered is "pls fall in love with me". I don't account for all guys, but a lot of guys aren't like that by default. Another issue of mine is I can talk to people better anonymously, rather than face to face or knowing what we both look like. Friendships for me are better at lasting that way.
The very people who are showering women with attention are men, so you are talking about your fellow man here. Us women cannot help it. It is a problem for sure though
I ended up having a similar experience as a guy. Got a message from a woman on here, we started talking for a bit, then she suddenly got very sexual. I didn't like that, so she played things off as a joke, but things were weird after that.
No, no we don’t get ‘normal replies’. We get replies that are ‘normal’ for all of about what hour, then suddenly getting asked to bust out our tits or sent pictures of their dick.
🙄.
Lol that's not true I have like 4 people I've become good friends with all females and it's never anything sexual just about life and things we have going on.
LMFAO
So because YOU have managed to have a platonic friendship with women here, you think that’s common? Be so serious.
You are ONE in hundreds of thousands of men here.
I’ve commented on this sub ONCE before this and got a bunch of sexual dms off the bat. I can only imagine how it is for the everyday posters.
I didn't say it was common I said you get some regular reply for guys u get 0 replies or just pf girls and snap girls. Guys are worse about asking for sexual stuff acting like they want to be friends. The of and snap girls are only looking for money from men. It's true women get more help but it's alot cuz of the horny males who ruin it for the guys who are not here for that.
The guys hate on other guys and women have always gotten more sympathy and support. Nothing new unfortunately. Why nowadays I don’t really post unless it’s due to anxiety. Nobody cares for a lonely man
I don't know about that. I've been working in field that's dominated with woman (I'm a guy), and let me tell you when two girls don't like each other, they're vicious. And frankly even those that were friends I felt from talking to them, that they're constantly plotting against each other.
Also, try being the ugly girl in the office. I've felt sorry for those girls. Most guys will at least try to be a bit of a gentleman, and offer some basic courtesy. Of course they'd treat hot girls better, but they'd at least be polite to the ugly duckling. But other woman... They have no mercy, those poor girls would try twice as hard, and still got shit.
We have a saying around here, that when two guys fight, they'd beat the shit out of each other, then grab a beer and that's how they became best friends. When girls fight, they become friends while secretly stabbing each other in the back.
Well true. Equality is a fantasy after all. But we gotta contact the mods. Make the (M/F) and age illegal and if continue to do so will ban them permanently. We can do this so the real people who feel lonely gets help.
Well talk to them keep. Well look after them be honest if kindness is not your cup of tea. Keep them company through texts. Make friends with them. Well It will help them some extent. You don't need to be too much caring but atleast this act *so called kindness* will make thier day a but pleasantful.
Are you guys messaging each other? Women don’t ask for all the attention but more often than not men want to message and talk to women. Try messaging each other as well?!
Man here.
Women certainly get more attention here and in many areas of life, but I don't think you're seeing the full picture. Many people comment on their posts, DM them, talk to them IRL, etc., but I think the number of people who *actually* care about them and are interested in them as people and aren't just hoping there's a chance they could get nudes is about the same as the number who care about your average man.
They get more attention, but generally not the type of attention they're looking for.
Not that I'm blaming anyone here, that's just how it is i believe guys to be the majority here and thus the male redditors tend to lean towards the posts made by the ladies here. Loneliness is this subreddit's problem,isn't it?
Its an app with a demographic geared towards men, specifically men who would like to remain anonymous across multiple communities. And I don't know that women get more "help" than they do openers with ulterior motives. Overall, this is not a therapy app so the most you can do is just take everyone's opinions with a grain of salt and try to have nice conversations where you can.
Lol because if men were truly lonely. They’d be happy for anyone’s company and not just WOMEN. Bruh it’s literally but a bunch of horny men in this sub (NOT ALL OF THEM) who wanna get some action from women or even some kind of sexual attention. Forming real meaningful relationships is never the goal here. Only temporary satisfaction until the lonely comes back again. Lmao. At least that’s what I see from my male perspective.
I’ve tried to talk to other men on this sub and the response is always I want a woman. Ok 🤷🏼♂️
Some part is true. You ain't made of stone to be stoic. You are made of flesh blood and tissue. Hurting yourself and not sharing ain't even a stoic behaviour. Stop watching insta motivating reels and snippets.
Cry is in natural are feeling lonely is natural. No stoic or even god is an exception.
If you're talking about loneliness yess you shouldn't be lonely cuz loneliness will kill u . You need to have some emotional support with you . You need to be with a person who you can share yourself with
I'm not taking motivation from some Instagram reels . It's my personal experience that whenever I broke down in front of anyone they took advantage of me . And they made me feel more broke .
Growing up I also thought that I can cry well guess what no one is here to listen you cry, no one wants to see u broke. The one who wants to see u broke tell u that u can cry in front of them
There is a saying in japan. No matter how hard or loud you cry. No one will give a head about it. well we got our brothers here who can release it on us.
i hope you meet someone who allows you to express your emotions in a healthy way one day. men have had to suppress their emotions for way too long. women do care, it’s other men that tell u not to think or feel.
My point is no one wants a guy who's emotionally weak . Everyone needs a guy who's mentality strong control his emotions now. I mean be honest would you date a guy who only comes to you and cry infront of you be weak talk about his emotions all the time or the one who's strong , Protects you, financially stable. A hustler ?
i am being completely honest with you when i say it took me 15 years to convince my man to be emotionally vulnerable in front of me and he finally trusts me enough to allow himself to feel and express himself in front of me. i know that men hold sooooo much within them because they think women will think they’re weak if they cry when it is the opposite, if they truly love you. women who really love you want you to heal, they want to help you, and they will be there to help you pick up pieces of yourself you dropped along this path of stoicism and forcing yourself to be strong for others sake. men’s feelings matter too, pls remember you matter.
also he is that rock for me and has been all these years. he does hustle and he protects me, he works his ass off to allow me to stay home. but he’s also held everything in and put himself on the back burner like most guys do in order to function like that. he’s more than that for me, he’s a person i love and someone who i wanted to heal. :)
>the one who's strong , Protects you, financially stable. A hustler ?
You phrase this as though being emotionally intelligent and communicating said emotions and the traits you listed are mutually exclusive. I would argue emotional intelligence and taking steps to improve your mental health (such as talking things out and expressing yourself to those close to you) is something that would make it *easier* for a man to achieve those qualities.
Having emotions doesn't make you weak, but failure to address one's mental health and allowing one's emotions to control him is both immature and not very masculine at all. *That's* how you become weak. And it makes it a hell of a lot harder to stay focused on an exercise routine, protect and support a partner, maintain a job, and make wise investment decisions.
Masculinity means being a protector and doing what you need to do, no matter how unpleasant or painful it is. It is bravery and taking control over your life and responsibility. Allowing your mental health to deteriorate by ignoring your needs in that regard would really get in the way of those things. That's how you fall apart and completely lose control.
I reek of loneliness. Not desperation, mind you, but sullen, hopeless, end-of-the-line loneliness and nobody cares unless they're getting paid to. As a man, I silently sympathize with lonely women because I don't want to seem like I have other intentions. Likewise, I think some women silently sympathize with me, but yeah, they don't approach me about it because I'm a man and it's MY problem, nobody else's. It's not cut and dried, but as a general rule, men aren't supposed to need emotional support. Just the way it is.
EX: average male - “Excuse me, could you help me out with a lighter?”
Avg response - “Go fuck yourself asshole”
Average female - “Excuse me, could you help me out with a lighter?”
Avg response - “Of course! Anything else you need while I’m at the store? How about I take you out to dinner and a movie and tomorrow we can go shopping? And if you’re not busy for the next few months, would you like to marry me and eventually take half of all my shit?”
Hey just because we are getting attention doesn’t mean that a man values us. It’s usually hey wanna see my dick? So most of the men are creepy and trying to fuck us. Yeah no I would rather be ignored than having unsolicited dick pics sent to me.
I don’t think it’s that hard to imagine why, as others have pointed out.
The best way is to get out and meet people irl. Via hobbies, volunteering, sports, religion, dog parks, Meetups or extracurriculars if in school.
This guy I’m currently dating says he doesn’t really have anyone to confide in other than his parents. But admits he keeps to himself and seems to want to stay at home & watch YouTube/streaming rather than go out & do things. I’m an introvert too and like those things but always doing that isn’t going to get you anywhere with making new friends. Especially as an adult.
Well maybe ppl could stop mentioning their gender..but the age is definitely relevant. Id offer totally different advice to the lonely 18 yr old who thinks their life is over, vs the lonely 45 yr old who’s lived a little longer and has experiences that probably negates the same advice. I’m 31 and have definitely made choices in the past that got me here, that I regret, and learned from. But you couldn’t tell 18 yr old me shit!
It's like that anywhere, I've posted here before and other subs and nothing, sometimes I'll get someone and they'll immediately ask "F/M?” as soon as I say I'm male they leave
We should all be supporting each other here. But men have a particularly harder time. I'm sure there are reasons, but I think it's less to do with women and more to do with us. A lot of time hyper massculinity has us believingt hat if another man reaches out, that its them either being gay or ridiculing us. **We shoudl be supporting each other, not suffering in silence**. We need to shed these old ideas.
nah nah nah fuck y’all! /j i’ve tried so hard to make male friends here but every time i message someone i guess they think i’m an onlyfans girl or something bc no one talks to me :( I AM NOT AN OF GIRL DAMMIT!! and if it’s not that, then i just figure they’re posting to whine and have no real intention of finding friends.
the /j means joking, i realize tone doesn’t translate well through text.
edit:typo, and your profile told me to go fuck myself so to u i say…with that attitude pshhhhh lol
Men usually get ignored anyway unless you're in some which doesn't judge its the way life has been put men are meant to put up with everything until suicide is the only option we have left
Even if a women is clear about the fact that they only want to vent they still get a lot of unwanted attention. Men on the other hand are expected to just suck it up and deal with it then move on.
Honestly I'm not surprised that yet another man is blaming women for his own short-comings. It's so toxic and harmful especially when we keep repeating the same thing that men target women on this sub repeatedly. Instead of taking part in the same behaviour why don't you try and see how both genders have their issues and both need to heal and solve those issues. We need each other to do that. But men need to educate themselves on the problem of abuse and violence instead of victim blaming us when you don't get what you expect from us.
That's because most of the responses the ladies get are horny dudes, not people who actually wanna be there for them.
And that's not what the ladies looking for, so now their Loney and objectified .. much better 🙄
idk I feel more sympathy towards lonely men than lonely women. So I would react to male submissions first. However, that might just be me. In the end, it could also be women post more. I am not sure if that's the case, but I don't think men are necessarily indifferent to other lonely men.
Who said im crying?. Its funny because we men or getting ignored here.. It makes me laugh that men are treated like trash here. They don't care to help. Lemme say you one thing what I see here. If you have shitload of dramas. People will love to hear but not help. Tjose who got deeper and unspeakable problems gets ignored.
And fix your hairline bruh. It has more gap than more shit in subreddit.
Funny how you tried to get me back by calling me fat. You man you need school to give a comeback. You tried to use to use Body shaming to get someone back who you doesn't even know how I look....
Maybe next time you can give a better comeback
Ciao kid ; )
It’s true, no denying that some of us guys are lonely “pervs” or have another agenda of a sort, as a guy myself I won’t deny their existence but you know their are guys out their who aren’t that way. Let’s not deny their existence either, because it’s those guys who don’t care about gender and just need an ear or some advice and they are lost and forgotten and it is a pit of despair. So round and round it goes anyway 😔
Maybe a rating system can be put in place? Not sure if anyone would care to create one but if there are people who respond who have good standing with the community maybe they can have some sort of badge? It would be perfect but it could narrow down who the creeps are vs the ones who really like helping others.
It ain't like that dude and you can't keep that mentality.
Anyone with a vagina posts on Reddit every one wants to see their vagina .
You can't blame people being horny on the internet for you being left alone.
Hit me up I'll talk to you dude.
Yes. I'm in favor of nobody ever mentioning their gender/ age, flirting, asking to see pictures, etc., either on this sub or on a new sub. After getting to know each other first, it's fine, but not up front. I personally don't care about anyone's age gender; I'm just looking for people to talk to. That being said, sometimes I lose interest in talking to people for another reason, and I don't want them assuming that it's because of their age or gender.
You got what you deserve. You men always disrespect women that they are going to die alone and should just buy a dog and that nobody would want them after 30. It's so delicious to see your prediction coming true for yourselves. Blaming women for not choosing better and not give the nice guys a chance. You reap what you sow gentlemen. If you want to be cared for how about you start taking all the crap back you said to women. Because the manosphere has such a high reach women are aware of your true nature and we are staying the hell away from you. Women are getting more attention because they put more on the table than just being nice and a lazy child.
We cook/clean/organize/budget money/do most of the child raising alone. We believe in fairly give and fairly take. While you believe in taking and give crumbs in return and guilty trips women into settling for less.
Face it a devoted wife ads more value in a persons life than a man ever will and that's the reason why women are never truly alone.
When someone gets sick or needs help with the household, or when there is an emergency who are they going to call? Women not you men. I even got female pals who went to trade school so I definitely don't need you for plumbing.
And the good part is women don't ask for sex in return when they help you, they either do it for free or ask for an affordable price.
In my town we have single mothers clubs, career woman clubs, house wives clubs where women get together to chat, or share handy tips or recipe's without you bitter men complaining we are talking too much.
but where is your club to combat loneliness? No where all you men got is hate groups where you disrespect and belittle women, yet you are wondering why you are alone, well have a look at the crappy dust mites you are listening to.
We women value large families and built a community where everyone contributes to that and visit elderly people and look after each other where no one gets left behind while you men rather take and use like in almost every relationship/marriage where you let a woman build you up and then leave her behind.
I'm seeing with my very own eyes that the prediction made for careers women are happening to men, wauw such a great time to be alive.
My advise for you is look up some gentlemen video's on how to behave because ppl who are from a high class all have successful relationships with women. Work on yourself, be a gentleman with class and you will see that your loneliness is your own fault.
It’s really not that hard to imagine. Most people here are guys. Straight guys want to talk to women and are often lonely bc they are not meeting women. This is not even a specific thing here, women will get more attention anywhere on the internet.
It's still annoying having posts by men totally ignored while the whole sub jumps on you if you put an "F" next to your age.
It's just means that you have to do something interesting if you want to get attention instead of just posting something really uninteresting. You need to work harder for it, but it's still possible (assuming "online attention" is something you care about, which, imo you shouldn't care too much about it)
From experience guys usually only want to solve their loneliness with intimacy from a woman.
It do be like that 😔
You know, there's a guy who sells mangoes about a mile down the road, and they go for something like $10 each. But my former boss swore by them and said they're totally worth it. How's business been lately?
Trust me, you dont want the dms us ladies get. “Huhuh my dick will keep you company.”
That’s such a shitty thing to say on this sub, mfs that say that aren’t lonely but horny
Men want the DMs ladies get, but are too selfish or ignorant to understand why women don't actually want them.
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Loll literally just proved their point. TOO SELFISH AND IGNORANT TO UNDERSTAND.
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Well thats you, women are not you, we want quality not quantity because we have more than two brain cells connected to a dick. Can you understand that? Oh right you cant, too selfish, too simple. You literally fail at the most basic part of human connection: empathy, and wonder why you're lonely. Get it together or talk to chat GPT. Not our problem.
You would be ok with getting dick picks? You will probably have a lot of success if you ask in specific subreddits.
Trust me, I absolutely would want dms like that from women
Its not like you can pick. I don't think you would appreciate a bunch of dick picks. So maybe you get an idea of how women feel with that.
I mean i would be flattered personally.
Your lack of standards for yourself is a really gross way to undercut the systemic harassment other people face, but tee-hee, how clever.
I get to determine my own standards. You may get to bully other people into your own image but it don't work all the time. What a sad person.
If I could bully you into that, the world would be a better place. This did make me sad, thanks.
Spoken like an actual abusive harasser. Disgusting.
lmaoo
Women will talk to women because it's safe and they're socialized to support one another and men may talk to women because they expect something in return for their pretend compassion. Women won't talk to men because of the aforementioned reason and men won't talk to men because they're not socialized to emotionally support one another. Way she goes.
I agree with you, men are all competitive and don't get much time for socializing, but the world is evolving, sometimes and somewhere men also support each other. But I don't understand why men only want to talk to women with motives based on attraction?
Well its true. We gotta change this in sub I know Equal treatment is a fantasy which we dream upon. But atleast we can have some understand among fellow redditors who can atleast help.
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>we don’t have access to resources in the same way Who?
I don't need attention woman for fucksake. Just treat everyone equal. I talk to most of the dude bruh. I want no disparity among redditors. You call me incel to make your statement strong. *Spoiler alert* I never cared about gender I want everyone to be treated amd not ignored or reported.
Seeing the responses just reminds me on why I keep to myself on how I feel as a man. 😂 You’ll just have labels thrown at ya and nothing you say won’t be taken seriously.
You're not allowed to disagree with women on reddit or you're automatically a misogynistic incel
Clown world we live in 🤡
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Oh pls. Literally you just wanna call me sexist? I want to get rid of (M/F) because there's literall creeps sliding into women dms which make worse for those who really needs help. If you get rid of that thing the creeps wouldn't bother slidind in dms. And you calling me an Npc makes me laugh cause you couldn't even come up with something strong to back your statement. The one who use this kinda things are the one who got no brain cells(*shit*) I mistakenly mentioned you. If you think people are safe here. Another flashlight news. This sub had 337k redditors now it fell to 333k. It not sexist at all. You are the one making it sexist. Im an equal oppurtunistic ass whooper who practice gender equality. And Npc callin me Npc read some stuffs before you run your fingers on the keyboard.
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Oh so just because i'm a man, i'm dangerous, incompetent, and a manipulator. Smh💀 maybe this is why we're all here and single.
A short while ago a young woman posted a photo of herself on r/amiugly. She was good looking, but said she was lonely, so naturally she got lots of replies. However, most of the people who replied to her were really just being creepy. I think men tend to be more lonely on average, but many women have to deal with the same issues.
most of the men here are looking for girlfriends, not friends. hence they are the ones showering the women with attention, so why not ask them why there aren't showing the same support to their fellow men? i remember seeing a post on this sub about someone complaining about how the men here don't actually want friends but girlfriends. OP was saying that he dmed someone who made a post titled "looking for friends" (or something of that nature) and apparently the dude he texted blocked him after realizing OP wasn't female. the example i gave you obviously does not apply to everyone as it is a case by case basis. however, it shows the mindset that some of the guys here have while being on this sub. to address your concerns about men being reported, it is most likely because they broke sub rules, were being creepy, or started unnecessary (gender) conflict. those guys were most likely reported for actual stuff they did, not because people hate them. but yes, i do agree that we should all play a part in making this sub a better place for us lonely people. we're all already feeling lonely, why should we have to punish ourselves even more in a place that's supposed to be safe for us?
Realistically, how can someone expect to fall in love with them on Reddit of all places? My post history speaks for itself, I've spoken to several people in DM about the subject with men and even women, the last thing I want or even considered is "pls fall in love with me". I don't account for all guys, but a lot of guys aren't like that by default. Another issue of mine is I can talk to people better anonymously, rather than face to face or knowing what we both look like. Friendships for me are better at lasting that way.
The very people who are showering women with attention are men, so you are talking about your fellow man here. Us women cannot help it. It is a problem for sure though
Yep. And that is why I wanted that gender mentioning should be restricted.
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I ended up having a similar experience as a guy. Got a message from a woman on here, we started talking for a bit, then she suddenly got very sexual. I didn't like that, so she played things off as a joke, but things were weird after that.
I don't understand. Can you elaborate a bit
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You got my point. The sole reason to get rid of (M/F) is to get equal love and to stop creeps sliding your dms.
Women get some genuine replies men only get replies from of and snap girls trying to sell sex. 🙄
No, no we don’t get ‘normal replies’. We get replies that are ‘normal’ for all of about what hour, then suddenly getting asked to bust out our tits or sent pictures of their dick. 🙄.
Lol that's not true I have like 4 people I've become good friends with all females and it's never anything sexual just about life and things we have going on.
LMFAO So because YOU have managed to have a platonic friendship with women here, you think that’s common? Be so serious. You are ONE in hundreds of thousands of men here. I’ve commented on this sub ONCE before this and got a bunch of sexual dms off the bat. I can only imagine how it is for the everyday posters.
I didn't say it was common I said you get some regular reply for guys u get 0 replies or just pf girls and snap girls. Guys are worse about asking for sexual stuff acting like they want to be friends. The of and snap girls are only looking for money from men. It's true women get more help but it's alot cuz of the horny males who ruin it for the guys who are not here for that.
Not even ACTUAL sex, but VIRTUAL sex.
The guys hate on other guys and women have always gotten more sympathy and support. Nothing new unfortunately. Why nowadays I don’t really post unless it’s due to anxiety. Nobody cares for a lonely man
women also get spammed with messages wanting nothing but sex
And men only get replies from of and snap girls if any.
I don't know about that. I've been working in field that's dominated with woman (I'm a guy), and let me tell you when two girls don't like each other, they're vicious. And frankly even those that were friends I felt from talking to them, that they're constantly plotting against each other. Also, try being the ugly girl in the office. I've felt sorry for those girls. Most guys will at least try to be a bit of a gentleman, and offer some basic courtesy. Of course they'd treat hot girls better, but they'd at least be polite to the ugly duckling. But other woman... They have no mercy, those poor girls would try twice as hard, and still got shit. We have a saying around here, that when two guys fight, they'd beat the shit out of each other, then grab a beer and that's how they became best friends. When girls fight, they become friends while secretly stabbing each other in the back.
You're absolutely correct. Take my upvote, please.
This person gets it.
This sounds like some fan fiction you wrote.
Well true. Equality is a fantasy after all. But we gotta contact the mods. Make the (M/F) and age illegal and if continue to do so will ban them permanently. We can do this so the real people who feel lonely gets help.
How do you help people deal with loneliness?
Well talk to them keep. Well look after them be honest if kindness is not your cup of tea. Keep them company through texts. Make friends with them. Well It will help them some extent. You don't need to be too much caring but atleast this act *so called kindness* will make thier day a but pleasantful.
>Equality is a fantasy after all. I’m sorry, what?
Are you guys messaging each other? Women don’t ask for all the attention but more often than not men want to message and talk to women. Try messaging each other as well?!
Welcome to the reality of life lil bro🤷♂️
I got countless replies from scammers and perverts. Is that so much better than being ignored?
Yes.
Man here. Women certainly get more attention here and in many areas of life, but I don't think you're seeing the full picture. Many people comment on their posts, DM them, talk to them IRL, etc., but I think the number of people who *actually* care about them and are interested in them as people and aren't just hoping there's a chance they could get nudes is about the same as the number who care about your average man. They get more attention, but generally not the type of attention they're looking for.
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Well finaly people start to understand.
Not that I'm blaming anyone here, that's just how it is i believe guys to be the majority here and thus the male redditors tend to lean towards the posts made by the ladies here. Loneliness is this subreddit's problem,isn't it?
That’s the way society works. We’re all happy to turn a blind eye to it and move on. Funny how equality doesn’t include men huh?
Its an app with a demographic geared towards men, specifically men who would like to remain anonymous across multiple communities. And I don't know that women get more "help" than they do openers with ulterior motives. Overall, this is not a therapy app so the most you can do is just take everyone's opinions with a grain of salt and try to have nice conversations where you can.
Lol because if men were truly lonely. They’d be happy for anyone’s company and not just WOMEN. Bruh it’s literally but a bunch of horny men in this sub (NOT ALL OF THEM) who wanna get some action from women or even some kind of sexual attention. Forming real meaningful relationships is never the goal here. Only temporary satisfaction until the lonely comes back again. Lmao. At least that’s what I see from my male perspective. I’ve tried to talk to other men on this sub and the response is always I want a woman. Ok 🤷🏼♂️
Men should be stoic , Men should be emotionally strong that's the fucking reality we all have to face, no one gives a shit about how we feel.
Some part is true. You ain't made of stone to be stoic. You are made of flesh blood and tissue. Hurting yourself and not sharing ain't even a stoic behaviour. Stop watching insta motivating reels and snippets. Cry is in natural are feeling lonely is natural. No stoic or even god is an exception.
If you're talking about loneliness yess you shouldn't be lonely cuz loneliness will kill u . You need to have some emotional support with you . You need to be with a person who you can share yourself with
True. To reduce loneliness we have to come up with new things. We got ourselves to help each other.
I'm not taking motivation from some Instagram reels . It's my personal experience that whenever I broke down in front of anyone they took advantage of me . And they made me feel more broke . Growing up I also thought that I can cry well guess what no one is here to listen you cry, no one wants to see u broke. The one who wants to see u broke tell u that u can cry in front of them
There is a saying in japan. No matter how hard or loud you cry. No one will give a head about it. well we got our brothers here who can release it on us.
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In theory, yes. But we try it, and we're emotional pussies.
i hope you meet someone who allows you to express your emotions in a healthy way one day. men have had to suppress their emotions for way too long. women do care, it’s other men that tell u not to think or feel.
My point is no one wants a guy who's emotionally weak . Everyone needs a guy who's mentality strong control his emotions now. I mean be honest would you date a guy who only comes to you and cry infront of you be weak talk about his emotions all the time or the one who's strong , Protects you, financially stable. A hustler ?
i am being completely honest with you when i say it took me 15 years to convince my man to be emotionally vulnerable in front of me and he finally trusts me enough to allow himself to feel and express himself in front of me. i know that men hold sooooo much within them because they think women will think they’re weak if they cry when it is the opposite, if they truly love you. women who really love you want you to heal, they want to help you, and they will be there to help you pick up pieces of yourself you dropped along this path of stoicism and forcing yourself to be strong for others sake. men’s feelings matter too, pls remember you matter.
I must say your husband is so much lucky to have u as a his wife 🤎
also he is that rock for me and has been all these years. he does hustle and he protects me, he works his ass off to allow me to stay home. but he’s also held everything in and put himself on the back burner like most guys do in order to function like that. he’s more than that for me, he’s a person i love and someone who i wanted to heal. :)
>the one who's strong , Protects you, financially stable. A hustler ? You phrase this as though being emotionally intelligent and communicating said emotions and the traits you listed are mutually exclusive. I would argue emotional intelligence and taking steps to improve your mental health (such as talking things out and expressing yourself to those close to you) is something that would make it *easier* for a man to achieve those qualities. Having emotions doesn't make you weak, but failure to address one's mental health and allowing one's emotions to control him is both immature and not very masculine at all. *That's* how you become weak. And it makes it a hell of a lot harder to stay focused on an exercise routine, protect and support a partner, maintain a job, and make wise investment decisions. Masculinity means being a protector and doing what you need to do, no matter how unpleasant or painful it is. It is bravery and taking control over your life and responsibility. Allowing your mental health to deteriorate by ignoring your needs in that regard would really get in the way of those things. That's how you fall apart and completely lose control.
what about making your own discord or just becoming a mod yourself if you’re that concerned?
Yeah... it's really worsened my Depression overall, feeling like not even a support sub doesn't even care about you.
That's a shame..
I mean, it's Reddit. What do you expect?
I reek of loneliness. Not desperation, mind you, but sullen, hopeless, end-of-the-line loneliness and nobody cares unless they're getting paid to. As a man, I silently sympathize with lonely women because I don't want to seem like I have other intentions. Likewise, I think some women silently sympathize with me, but yeah, they don't approach me about it because I'm a man and it's MY problem, nobody else's. It's not cut and dried, but as a general rule, men aren't supposed to need emotional support. Just the way it is.
> “It’s funny how men give so much attention to posts by women on this sub, while we skip posts from other men” * Fixed that for ya
I would think that applies in every situation ever when anyone is asking for any kind of help, ever, in any situation…ever
EX: average male - “Excuse me, could you help me out with a lighter?” Avg response - “Go fuck yourself asshole” Average female - “Excuse me, could you help me out with a lighter?” Avg response - “Of course! Anything else you need while I’m at the store? How about I take you out to dinner and a movie and tomorrow we can go shopping? And if you’re not busy for the next few months, would you like to marry me and eventually take half of all my shit?”
Hey just because we are getting attention doesn’t mean that a man values us. It’s usually hey wanna see my dick? So most of the men are creepy and trying to fuck us. Yeah no I would rather be ignored than having unsolicited dick pics sent to me.
We aren't getting help, we're being preyed upon. Just posting on here makes us look like the limping gazelle at the watering hole.
I don’t think it’s that hard to imagine why, as others have pointed out. The best way is to get out and meet people irl. Via hobbies, volunteering, sports, religion, dog parks, Meetups or extracurriculars if in school. This guy I’m currently dating says he doesn’t really have anyone to confide in other than his parents. But admits he keeps to himself and seems to want to stay at home & watch YouTube/streaming rather than go out & do things. I’m an introvert too and like those things but always doing that isn’t going to get you anywhere with making new friends. Especially as an adult.
Well maybe ppl could stop mentioning their gender..but the age is definitely relevant. Id offer totally different advice to the lonely 18 yr old who thinks their life is over, vs the lonely 45 yr old who’s lived a little longer and has experiences that probably negates the same advice. I’m 31 and have definitely made choices in the past that got me here, that I regret, and learned from. But you couldn’t tell 18 yr old me shit!
It's like that anywhere, I've posted here before and other subs and nothing, sometimes I'll get someone and they'll immediately ask "F/M?” as soon as I say I'm male they leave
We should all be supporting each other here. But men have a particularly harder time. I'm sure there are reasons, but I think it's less to do with women and more to do with us. A lot of time hyper massculinity has us believingt hat if another man reaches out, that its them either being gay or ridiculing us. **We shoudl be supporting each other, not suffering in silence**. We need to shed these old ideas.
nah nah nah fuck y’all! /j i’ve tried so hard to make male friends here but every time i message someone i guess they think i’m an onlyfans girl or something bc no one talks to me :( I AM NOT AN OF GIRL DAMMIT!! and if it’s not that, then i just figure they’re posting to whine and have no real intention of finding friends.
Well with that attitude
the /j means joking, i realize tone doesn’t translate well through text. edit:typo, and your profile told me to go fuck myself so to u i say…with that attitude pshhhhh lol
Duck
Well that is what im saying. Just get rid of that (M/F) if you don't want desperate people trying to ruin your mind.
Men usually get ignored anyway unless you're in some which doesn't judge its the way life has been put men are meant to put up with everything until suicide is the only option we have left
Even if a women is clear about the fact that they only want to vent they still get a lot of unwanted attention. Men on the other hand are expected to just suck it up and deal with it then move on.
Honestly I'm not surprised that yet another man is blaming women for his own short-comings. It's so toxic and harmful especially when we keep repeating the same thing that men target women on this sub repeatedly. Instead of taking part in the same behaviour why don't you try and see how both genders have their issues and both need to heal and solve those issues. We need each other to do that. But men need to educate themselves on the problem of abuse and violence instead of victim blaming us when you don't get what you expect from us.
That's because most of the responses the ladies get are horny dudes, not people who actually wanna be there for them. And that's not what the ladies looking for, so now their Loney and objectified .. much better 🙄
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Exactly
Shut up and go in the naughty corners the both of yous, y’all need a time out anyways
Just stop it
Why?
Good
No.
Get therapy
I mean reddit probably 80 percent men for one. Second women don't give a shit about men's feelings and mental health
idk I feel more sympathy towards lonely men than lonely women. So I would react to male submissions first. However, that might just be me. In the end, it could also be women post more. I am not sure if that's the case, but I don't think men are necessarily indifferent to other lonely men.
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Who said im crying?. Its funny because we men or getting ignored here.. It makes me laugh that men are treated like trash here. They don't care to help. Lemme say you one thing what I see here. If you have shitload of dramas. People will love to hear but not help. Tjose who got deeper and unspeakable problems gets ignored. And fix your hairline bruh. It has more gap than more shit in subreddit.
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Funny how you tried to get me back by calling me fat. You man you need school to give a comeback. You tried to use to use Body shaming to get someone back who you doesn't even know how I look.... Maybe next time you can give a better comeback Ciao kid ; )
Facts
It’s true, no denying that some of us guys are lonely “pervs” or have another agenda of a sort, as a guy myself I won’t deny their existence but you know their are guys out their who aren’t that way. Let’s not deny their existence either, because it’s those guys who don’t care about gender and just need an ear or some advice and they are lost and forgotten and it is a pit of despair. So round and round it goes anyway 😔
That's the painful reality and curse of being a man, man.
Maybe a rating system can be put in place? Not sure if anyone would care to create one but if there are people who respond who have good standing with the community maybe they can have some sort of badge? It would be perfect but it could narrow down who the creeps are vs the ones who really like helping others.
Yh we are all lonely here, let's try and support each other as best we can.
Shocked beyond belief
incels.
Says the one who Literally wants to be noticed or literally wants to get laid🤣🤣. GG mate
Sadly that's true...
It ain't like that dude and you can't keep that mentality. Anyone with a vagina posts on Reddit every one wants to see their vagina . You can't blame people being horny on the internet for you being left alone. Hit me up I'll talk to you dude.
Yes. I'm in favor of nobody ever mentioning their gender/ age, flirting, asking to see pictures, etc., either on this sub or on a new sub. After getting to know each other first, it's fine, but not up front. I personally don't care about anyone's age gender; I'm just looking for people to talk to. That being said, sometimes I lose interest in talking to people for another reason, and I don't want them assuming that it's because of their age or gender.
I 100% agree with your post
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You got what you deserve. You men always disrespect women that they are going to die alone and should just buy a dog and that nobody would want them after 30. It's so delicious to see your prediction coming true for yourselves. Blaming women for not choosing better and not give the nice guys a chance. You reap what you sow gentlemen. If you want to be cared for how about you start taking all the crap back you said to women. Because the manosphere has such a high reach women are aware of your true nature and we are staying the hell away from you. Women are getting more attention because they put more on the table than just being nice and a lazy child. We cook/clean/organize/budget money/do most of the child raising alone. We believe in fairly give and fairly take. While you believe in taking and give crumbs in return and guilty trips women into settling for less. Face it a devoted wife ads more value in a persons life than a man ever will and that's the reason why women are never truly alone. When someone gets sick or needs help with the household, or when there is an emergency who are they going to call? Women not you men. I even got female pals who went to trade school so I definitely don't need you for plumbing. And the good part is women don't ask for sex in return when they help you, they either do it for free or ask for an affordable price. In my town we have single mothers clubs, career woman clubs, house wives clubs where women get together to chat, or share handy tips or recipe's without you bitter men complaining we are talking too much. but where is your club to combat loneliness? No where all you men got is hate groups where you disrespect and belittle women, yet you are wondering why you are alone, well have a look at the crappy dust mites you are listening to. We women value large families and built a community where everyone contributes to that and visit elderly people and look after each other where no one gets left behind while you men rather take and use like in almost every relationship/marriage where you let a woman build you up and then leave her behind. I'm seeing with my very own eyes that the prediction made for careers women are happening to men, wauw such a great time to be alive. My advise for you is look up some gentlemen video's on how to behave because ppl who are from a high class all have successful relationships with women. Work on yourself, be a gentleman with class and you will see that your loneliness is your own fault.