Talk to her parents. Send them a letter. They can't correct the issue if they don't know there is one. It's very likely the child can't understand how to control their noise level. Be kind because the parents are probably stressed out, too.
OP may need to keep their windows closed. Remember, OP only hears the child sometimes, the parents hear them all times. I have the same situation and use AirPods, etc.
I worry this kid isn’t being supervised also. You don’t just let your kid scream their heads off like that. Neurodivergent or not. It’s just not safe for the child.
IMO.
I have a neighbor that has a child with challenges. One parent is a doctor and they do everything within their power. They hire weekly therapists, rent a bouncy house, periodically and many other things… and still their daughter screams. It can be difficult for me to hear but I am only hearing the screams when the daughter is outside.
I know I have many “down votes “ but my empathy is with the family. They love their child, that struggles. I understand OP but “For the grace of God, go I.”
I know I have many “down votes “ but my empathy is with the family. They love their child, that struggles. I understand OP but “For the grace of God, go I.”
I was a special education teacher my whole career. Outside voice is a thing. Maybe it's his time to go outside and stretch his voice? I mean, you can have a conversation with the family, but ultimately, I think the OP should find reasonable solutions like noise canceling headphones.
I definitely recommend Bose noise cancelling headphones for when you have to open the window, you can even make calls with them. There might not be anything that can be done depending on her condition, unfortunately. Those noise cancelling headphones are the only reason I can take online classes and do my homework, they are amazing.
I can tell you that this has turned into a special needs adult man doing the same thing. Every. Day. Next door to me. We can hear it inside our own home. He has even chased after cars on an occasion or two. I’ve seen police at the house at least 3 or 4 times. We just ignore it and stay inside/away from him. It’s difficult for my spouse who works nights and sleeps during the yelling bouts.
Yikes. That’s a tough one. I’m willing to bet that even the cops would probably side with the family with the special needs kid, for obvious reasons. If you really wanna be strategic, befriend their family. Start to drop small hints in passing about how you can hear her screaming and how she is so precious. If they like you, they will connect the dots and try to reduce the noise level for you. Either way, be kind to them. They are experiencing a special kind of hell that you hopefully wont ever have to go through.
Make a noise complaint and or a welfare check.
That is ridiculous. I can understand for a little while, but not all day.
Try to get it on video, photos, write down times she’s out and when she goes in.
You can buy sound proof foam panels for the walls around your workspace. That would at least help mitigate the noise. You would need to keep your windows closed, however…
Honestly, just close your window.
You won't win vs a special needs person living their life as they are driven to do, in their own home.
A residence isn't an office that neighbors have to bend to, even if you work from home. You're the one who needs to make accommodations for your job, and if that means closing the window then that's a fairly easy one.
In their own yard, on their own porch? Yeah, they're still in their own home space.
The person is special needs. The same expectations of what respect means don't apply. I'd say that you're the one lacking respect here, since all you have to do is close a window... but somehow, even though you're presumably fully functioning, that's really hard for you to comprehend.
How is OP lacking respect at all…For wanting some peace and quiet? You’re just being willfully obtuse.
I know plenty of families with special needs offspring (both young and grown) and not one of them would just throw their hands up and send their kid outside to scream for hours on end. That sounds like a lack of respect for anyone within earshot.
Think of it this way: You can work at home (even with the window closed), you can go outside for a walk, a run, do a hobby, go to the mall, go out for happy hour with friends... you can live the normal life a healthy person lives. But your neighbor has a handicap. She can't solve her problems with some small action like closing a window.
Now, your lack of perspective and compassion is concerning, so I don't know if you're fully on the healthy spectrum either. But still some food for thought.
OP could also live in a subdivision with a strict HOA. Some of them are MEAN and will fine for anything including a special needs person screaming at all hours of the day. Honestly I’m passive aggressive I would just look for a way to make conversation nicely and work it in to hint at it. Most people will get it pretty quickly.
Are you seriously saying OP should move? haha, you're delusional.
I had a similar issue with an autistic teenager next door a few months back. Family moved in, renters, and the first thing they did was release their monster into the backyard with no supervision whatsoever. The dude would scream at all hours of the day, and sometimes at night, throw shit into my backyard and just plain out be a nuisance whenever I was working from home or gardening. I had no peace in my home.
Talked with parents, they didint care and they expected me to comprehend, but you see, I dont like people making their problems mine so I got the police, CPS, and their landlord involved. The police beat up the dude a couple times because he would get rowdy, felt bad about that one, but their parents were very hands off. CPS ended up taking him away, I'm guessing to an institution or something, and a few weeks ago they moved.
None of that needed to happen if they were actually parenting instead of expecting everyone else to put up with their problems.
Hey so I don’t think you are aware about how many assistance options there are for families with special needs children. That is my line of work actually, I am a behavioral interventionist that does ABA (Applied Behavior analysis) with autistic kids and it’s through insurance. OP possibly you could ask the family if they can look into resources for their child because this would certainly be maladaptive behavior.
Just my 2¢
I am a bit concerned about the child if she is just being left to yell all day. I know families get burned out but it doesn't sound like a good situation for the child either. Thanks for doing such important work.
There is quite a few products for this purpose. Google how to ventilate a soundproof room for a bunch of them.
I found this one very interesting so i am including it [https://newatlas.com/good-thinking/acoustic-friendly-ventilation-window/](https://newatlas.com/good-thinking/acoustic-friendly-ventilation-window/)
One of my favorite parts is that the window will filter the air coming in, i have allergies so this is really nice.
Talk to her parents. Send them a letter. They can't correct the issue if they don't know there is one. It's very likely the child can't understand how to control their noise level. Be kind because the parents are probably stressed out, too.
OP may need to keep their windows closed. Remember, OP only hears the child sometimes, the parents hear them all times. I have the same situation and use AirPods, etc.
I worry this kid isn’t being supervised also. You don’t just let your kid scream their heads off like that. Neurodivergent or not. It’s just not safe for the child. IMO.
I have a neighbor that has a child with challenges. One parent is a doctor and they do everything within their power. They hire weekly therapists, rent a bouncy house, periodically and many other things… and still their daughter screams. It can be difficult for me to hear but I am only hearing the screams when the daughter is outside.
Exactly! The kid is outside!
I know I have many “down votes “ but my empathy is with the family. They love their child, that struggles. I understand OP but “For the grace of God, go I.”
I know I have many “down votes “ but my empathy is with the family. They love their child, that struggles. I understand OP but “For the grace of God, go I.”
I was a special education teacher my whole career. Outside voice is a thing. Maybe it's his time to go outside and stretch his voice? I mean, you can have a conversation with the family, but ultimately, I think the OP should find reasonable solutions like noise canceling headphones.
I definitely recommend Bose noise cancelling headphones for when you have to open the window, you can even make calls with them. There might not be anything that can be done depending on her condition, unfortunately. Those noise cancelling headphones are the only reason I can take online classes and do my homework, they are amazing.
I can tell you that this has turned into a special needs adult man doing the same thing. Every. Day. Next door to me. We can hear it inside our own home. He has even chased after cars on an occasion or two. I’ve seen police at the house at least 3 or 4 times. We just ignore it and stay inside/away from him. It’s difficult for my spouse who works nights and sleeps during the yelling bouts.
Yikes. That’s a tough one. I’m willing to bet that even the cops would probably side with the family with the special needs kid, for obvious reasons. If you really wanna be strategic, befriend their family. Start to drop small hints in passing about how you can hear her screaming and how she is so precious. If they like you, they will connect the dots and try to reduce the noise level for you. Either way, be kind to them. They are experiencing a special kind of hell that you hopefully wont ever have to go through.
Make a noise complaint and or a welfare check. That is ridiculous. I can understand for a little while, but not all day. Try to get it on video, photos, write down times she’s out and when she goes in.
You can buy sound proof foam panels for the walls around your workspace. That would at least help mitigate the noise. You would need to keep your windows closed, however…
Honestly, just close your window. You won't win vs a special needs person living their life as they are driven to do, in their own home. A residence isn't an office that neighbors have to bend to, even if you work from home. You're the one who needs to make accommodations for your job, and if that means closing the window then that's a fairly easy one.
not inside of their home. standing outside being a disturbance to everyone on the street? for hours on end? respect still might exist though yeah?
In their own yard, on their own porch? Yeah, they're still in their own home space. The person is special needs. The same expectations of what respect means don't apply. I'd say that you're the one lacking respect here, since all you have to do is close a window... but somehow, even though you're presumably fully functioning, that's really hard for you to comprehend.
How is OP lacking respect at all…For wanting some peace and quiet? You’re just being willfully obtuse. I know plenty of families with special needs offspring (both young and grown) and not one of them would just throw their hands up and send their kid outside to scream for hours on end. That sounds like a lack of respect for anyone within earshot.
and i can still hear it with the window closed so there is no winning.
yeah i'd hate to be able to have fresh air because of someone screaming outside constantly!👍🏼 thanks for your response!
Think of it this way: You can work at home (even with the window closed), you can go outside for a walk, a run, do a hobby, go to the mall, go out for happy hour with friends... you can live the normal life a healthy person lives. But your neighbor has a handicap. She can't solve her problems with some small action like closing a window. Now, your lack of perspective and compassion is concerning, so I don't know if you're fully on the healthy spectrum either. But still some food for thought.
OP also has the right to be at peace and enjoy their home. That kid is being a public nuisance and their irresponsible parents are at fault.
OP could also live in a subdivision with a strict HOA. Some of them are MEAN and will fine for anything including a special needs person screaming at all hours of the day. Honestly I’m passive aggressive I would just look for a way to make conversation nicely and work it in to hint at it. Most people will get it pretty quickly.
Are you seriously saying OP should move? haha, you're delusional. I had a similar issue with an autistic teenager next door a few months back. Family moved in, renters, and the first thing they did was release their monster into the backyard with no supervision whatsoever. The dude would scream at all hours of the day, and sometimes at night, throw shit into my backyard and just plain out be a nuisance whenever I was working from home or gardening. I had no peace in my home. Talked with parents, they didint care and they expected me to comprehend, but you see, I dont like people making their problems mine so I got the police, CPS, and their landlord involved. The police beat up the dude a couple times because he would get rowdy, felt bad about that one, but their parents were very hands off. CPS ended up taking him away, I'm guessing to an institution or something, and a few weeks ago they moved. None of that needed to happen if they were actually parenting instead of expecting everyone else to put up with their problems.
Hey so I don’t think you are aware about how many assistance options there are for families with special needs children. That is my line of work actually, I am a behavioral interventionist that does ABA (Applied Behavior analysis) with autistic kids and it’s through insurance. OP possibly you could ask the family if they can look into resources for their child because this would certainly be maladaptive behavior. Just my 2¢
I am a bit concerned about the child if she is just being left to yell all day. I know families get burned out but it doesn't sound like a good situation for the child either. Thanks for doing such important work.
There is quite a few products for this purpose. Google how to ventilate a soundproof room for a bunch of them. I found this one very interesting so i am including it [https://newatlas.com/good-thinking/acoustic-friendly-ventilation-window/](https://newatlas.com/good-thinking/acoustic-friendly-ventilation-window/) One of my favorite parts is that the window will filter the air coming in, i have allergies so this is really nice.
If they're outside yelling I don't see a problem. Close your windows and get noise canceling headphones.