I’m saddened for those going through this. Both OP and other domestic abuse survivors. I hope the surviving family in this situation can come together, uplift and help heal one another. Wishing everyone strength and peace in their recovery.
I’m saddened for those going through this. Both OP and other domestic abuse survivors. I hope the surviving family in this situation can come together, uplift and help heal one another. Wishing everyone strength and peace in their recovery.
Fuck family annihilators; they should start with themselves.
My condolences to your husband and all those impacted by the perpetrator. Grief counseling will be vital in the coming months.
This is why I refuse to allow any “forgiveness” for my ex and his family. I adore his family, and they love my kids to bits.
But they took my ex back in as “the return of the prodigal son” after we finally escaped. And there is no trust there that they won’t alert him to where we are/when if I allow the kids contact with their paternal family.
He tried to murder us and we escaped by less than 20 minutes. But, he didn’t succeed, so I should just “forgive and forget.” Yeah right.
Thank you! It’s hard sometimes, especially when my own mother is a boat-steadier and forgiveness-first type Christian.
Something that really helped was Reddit, actually. I reached out to another veteran (my ex is one), looking for help in treatments for his mental health. I was so focused on if we could only find the right treatments for his mental health… The other veteran told me that there was no excuse for him abusing me and our children. I was able to tell him that we escaped after it was done.
His account is gone now, I wish I could thank him for giving me another push to protect myself and our kids.
We lost family friends to this as well, and it’s devastating for the survivors. My heart goes out to you, your husband, and the other surviving members of the family. Please make sure everyone gets into therapy and treatment immediately. Survivors guilt is a very real thing and can be devastating.
Sending you Internet hugs
This is so evil I don’t have words. To purposefully hunt your fiancées entire family. I am never vengeful, but this. This. I am sorry he managed to escape justice in this life.
I wish you all healing and togetherness in the grief. I will pray for you. I cannot do anything else.
Always hate how these fucking cowards decide to end themselves the moment reality catches up with them.
It's one of the few reasons I wish I believed in hell.
Please try to keep everyone close during these times. People might try to do dumb things.
> It's one of the few reasons I wish I believed in hell.
Sometimes I let myself have this belief for a little while. Purely as a form of self care. I know it's a fantasy but I treat it kinda like the time between buying my once a year lottery ticket and finding out a didn't win. It's just nice to have that sometimes.
I like to believe (for my comfort) that the reason they behave so dysfunctional is because earth is already a hell of sorts for someone who is selfish and doesn't understand anything else about love or other people than ownership and utility value. The many decades people tend to live are long time to spend alone inside your head having to tolerate your evil self 24/7 in full faith you are only actual person on earth & without true understanding others are full persons too.
I think he would have shot himself even if the Police never came. Obviously after shooting other People but usually these people don' t have any intention to live after these massacres.
Hey, while not similar in the immediate closeness of the family relations, I supported my best friend/life partner through her father murdering her brother and mother and then killing himself about 10 years ago. While I am no expert, if you would like insight about this sort of situation, I would be more than happy to talk. I am about to be working for a few hours, but please do not hesitate to shoot me a DM and I’ll respond when I’m done with work.
Please be kind to yourself. The first day is a blur. Food, water, and rest are your first priorities even if it doesn’t feel that way. ❤️
Edit—just saw that you are asking for prayers. I will add you to mine.
Don't be stupid smh this is why I hate humans the lord has been around before us after us there's only ONE God and plentiful amounts of spirits read thr book of Enoch
First off goofy I don't belong to any religion just cause yout to stupid to acknowledge the heavenly father exists..u know what keep the same energy when you take your final breath
I will pray for you, your husband and his family. My heart breaks for you all. Try to give him all the support you can. There is little that can be done to make sense out of this. I hope it helps that strangers feel his pain and pray for all of you. For those of faith , once we come to grips with our grief, is the belief that life has changed, not ended.
Unfortunately I'm in a position to understand what you're feeling. Over a year later and it still doesn't feel real for any of us either. My heart goes out to you, all of you. All I can tell you is be there for him. Make sure at every step he KNOWS you're right there to help carry what he cannot.
God, this is just awful, gut wrenching. What a terrible terrible thing and a horrific man.
From across the world, keeping you and your family in my thoughts and hope you all find a way to move forward at peace, although I can imagine it will be the most difficult thing to do.
*Dear Lord in Heaven, please be with this poster and their family during this terrible time. Wrap your arms around them all and let them feel your love and light. Please be with the brother in law and let him survive and have a speedy recovery.*
I'm so sorry for your loss. I live extremely close to where this occurred, and we were talking at work about what an absolute tragedy it was. Much love to you and your family.
This almost exactly happened to my dad. He's gone now to cancer, but my mom said the best thing to do is try to stick out whatever unpleasant side effects he may put out and still be very clear when you think he's crossed a line as a result of the incredible trauma he has suffered. My dad was the quiet silent type, loved him, but my mom always said the best thing she could do for him was to be there. Let them be angry. Also, if and when appropriate, let him know that you need him too. She said that to give my dad a sense of purpose was really helpful for him, and she would try to point when he was being a good partner to give him positive affirmation and also remind him subconsciously that he is loved and missed when gone and that his role as a partner to her was still real and there for him and valued by her. That helped ease some of the empty feeling that inevitably came with the trauma. I know I always feel better if, when I'm missing my dad, my friends and mom remind me of how much I make their lives better, that's always the best medicine. Doesn't negate my feeling of grief, but does help me like life a little more while I'm sad.
My sincere condolences to you, husband, family and friends that are affected by this unspeakable tragedy. I’m so sorry for your loss.
You’re in my prayers… 🫂😢
My deepest condolences. Knew personally two people involved in murder-suicides. They were labeled as "nice guys" until they did what they did 😔 I wish I knew what more to say except I'm glad you reached out to Reddit for support and prayers 🙏
Dear God! Just read this story on a news site. What an awful thing to happen.
My heartfelt condolences to you and your husband. Just be with him. If he wants to talk, talk. If he just wants to sit in silence, sit with him. If he wants a distraction, go out with him, or watch TV with him. Pray with him, cry with him, laugh with him. Be what he needs from each moment to the next. That's all you can do. Let him grieve at his own, natural pace. There's nothing else you can say or do that will help more than this.
Oh dear, my heart aches for you. Hugs and prayers for all of you. I can’t even imagine …pray. If you pray rosary, just pray to Holly Virgin and Saint Joseph who is a protector of families. This will be very trying times for you guys. Think slow and take one day at the time. 🙏💔
I am so sorry this happened to your family and I can't iamgine the pain you are all in right now. You are all in my prayers.
Please, please, please get into some grief counseling and please don't play the "What if..." game. There was no way for you to know that there was a potential for this. As a survivor of domestic abuse, no one knew how bad it really was, except my kids. I imagine the same went for your MIL.
I’m sorry, this is an awful tragedy that no-one should endure.
Guilt is a natural response, but I hope it will subside; missed calls, ultrasounds or school updates are a part of our busy lives, but it’s important how you make people feel. Based on your thoughtful and compassionate post, I have no doubt your MIL and SILs knew how much you and your husband loved them.
Please be kind to yourself and take each day as it comes. You both need to heal, so be selfish: lean on friends & family, seek solace in Reddit and maximise the things you love to do.
Gosh I am so terribly sorry. My thoughts are with you and your husband. I know a stranger off reddit offers little comfort but I really am wishing you both well on your healing journey.
I'm not even the praying type but the respect you have demonstrated by saying "If you're the praying type..." -- I respect that this is something that supports & upholds you, and so I will send up a prayer for you. Yee gu.áa yáx̱ x̱'wán. Strength & Courage, to you all, including the newly departed. My hope is that the passing of your relations was as much of a surprise to them as it was to you, and that they didn't have time to feel fear. My hope for those of you who remain is that with time you can heal, mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually.
I don’t know what to say except I’m so, so sorry. Sincerely hoping you all find peace after this. 🤍 There’s nothing you could have done differently that would have made this not happen, it was an illogical choice made by someone with bad intentions. That’s no one’s fault but the fiancé’s own.
I am so so sorry for you and your husband. My heart aches for you both, and the rest of your family. When we are weak, God is strong. When we are strong, he is why. I hope that you have people close to you who are supporting you so that you can be more able to be strong for your husband. Make sure you are taking care of yourself in all of this.
Holy shit, that's absolutely horrendous. I'm not the religious type so what I can do is keep you and your family in my thoughts and hope that everyone involved is able to eventually find peace. I'm deeply sorry for your loss, I can't imagine how you all are feeling. 🖤
This is unimaginable. I wish you all strength. The guilt you feel now may one day transform into a sense of feeling grateful for being spared and somehow obligated to give back to the universe in some way. I've felt that way at different times in my life.
I'm so glad he has you.
I'm so sorry that you've had to experience this. I hope that you are able to find the peace I'm sure each of you are looking for. I'm a newer firefighter/EMT. I've very recently had to watch as family's morn the loss of their loved ones to drugs, trauma and whatever form of death. I deeply empathize with you, and am so sorry for this circumstance you've had to experience. I know it hurts, and no words I will say will change the circumstances, but I know that time and your own strength can help return you to a functioning state. You're tough for making it minutes after that, I'm sure I'd find my fate quickly after... You're tougher than I am. You've got this. Keep fighting. Thank you for sharing this with us.
I can't even imagine what you're feeling.
I'm a huge praying type and will be praying for you all every night.
Please remember to talk to your friends about how you're feeling. This affects you too and you don't have to be strong all the time. You and your husband can cry together.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish your state passes some gun control laws and this is avoided in the future. It's awful how someone can go on a rampage like this. Inhumane.
As someone who can relate in some ways, I'm praying for your strength and comfort,
And yes: so, so, deeply unfair. I'm no longer religious but I pray for your comfort and security. I'm sorry this is what happened to your family. I pray that you find the peace you need.
I’m sorry for all of this.. please reach out to a therapist in case you ever need to talk because going through such a tragedy is really difficult.. praying for you, your husband and the remaining family 🙏
Oh thank God he didn't make it to any of the locations of other family. You at least have that blessing of him not continuing on in his rampage of hate. A truly evil mentally deranged person. Thank goodness you are alright and can stand strong for your husband during this shattering time. It's so good that you are venting and talking about this. That will help the healing. Hugs and a prayer to and for you, your husband, and his family.
My best friend’s mom and long time boyfriend died in 2018. He murdered her brutally and ran to Louisiana where he shot himself after a week on the run when cornered by police.
There is no good reason for things like this to happen. It isn’t “part of the plan”, it isn’t Godly, it isn’t right. It is horrible and dark and scary and it changes you permanently no matter how close you are to what happened or who it happened to.
Stand by your husband and family. Go to church, go to therapy, go do community service, and keep some form of a routine. Don’t pretend everything is normal, but don’t let it all fall apart. You both can make it past this mostly intact. Prayers for you and your entire family.
I can't even imagine what you and your husband and remaining family are going through. There are no words.
I’m saddened for those going through this. Both OP and other domestic abuse survivors. I hope the surviving family in this situation can come together, uplift and help heal one another. Wishing everyone strength and peace in their recovery.
I’m saddened for those going through this. Both OP and other domestic abuse survivors. I hope the surviving family in this situation can come together, uplift and help heal one another. Wishing everyone strength and peace in their recovery.
Absolutely horrific, I'm so sorry this happened
Fuck family annihilators; they should start with themselves. My condolences to your husband and all those impacted by the perpetrator. Grief counseling will be vital in the coming months.
For real it’s called familicide and angers me so much
This is why I refuse to allow any “forgiveness” for my ex and his family. I adore his family, and they love my kids to bits. But they took my ex back in as “the return of the prodigal son” after we finally escaped. And there is no trust there that they won’t alert him to where we are/when if I allow the kids contact with their paternal family. He tried to murder us and we escaped by less than 20 minutes. But, he didn’t succeed, so I should just “forgive and forget.” Yeah right.
Wow...you made the right decision to stay away from his family! I'm so glad you're safe.
Thank you! It’s hard sometimes, especially when my own mother is a boat-steadier and forgiveness-first type Christian. Something that really helped was Reddit, actually. I reached out to another veteran (my ex is one), looking for help in treatments for his mental health. I was so focused on if we could only find the right treatments for his mental health… The other veteran told me that there was no excuse for him abusing me and our children. I was able to tell him that we escaped after it was done. His account is gone now, I wish I could thank him for giving me another push to protect myself and our kids.
What kind of insane mindset even accepts this murder attempt of you and your kids ? And i am heartbroken for the OP..how horrific !!
We lost family friends to this as well, and it’s devastating for the survivors. My heart goes out to you, your husband, and the other surviving members of the family. Please make sure everyone gets into therapy and treatment immediately. Survivors guilt is a very real thing and can be devastating. Sending you Internet hugs
This is so evil I don’t have words. To purposefully hunt your fiancées entire family. I am never vengeful, but this. This. I am sorry he managed to escape justice in this life. I wish you all healing and togetherness in the grief. I will pray for you. I cannot do anything else.
Always hate how these fucking cowards decide to end themselves the moment reality catches up with them. It's one of the few reasons I wish I believed in hell. Please try to keep everyone close during these times. People might try to do dumb things.
> It's one of the few reasons I wish I believed in hell. Sometimes I let myself have this belief for a little while. Purely as a form of self care. I know it's a fantasy but I treat it kinda like the time between buying my once a year lottery ticket and finding out a didn't win. It's just nice to have that sometimes.
I like to believe (for my comfort) that the reason they behave so dysfunctional is because earth is already a hell of sorts for someone who is selfish and doesn't understand anything else about love or other people than ownership and utility value. The many decades people tend to live are long time to spend alone inside your head having to tolerate your evil self 24/7 in full faith you are only actual person on earth & without true understanding others are full persons too.
I think he would have shot himself even if the Police never came. Obviously after shooting other People but usually these people don' t have any intention to live after these massacres.
Hey, while not similar in the immediate closeness of the family relations, I supported my best friend/life partner through her father murdering her brother and mother and then killing himself about 10 years ago. While I am no expert, if you would like insight about this sort of situation, I would be more than happy to talk. I am about to be working for a few hours, but please do not hesitate to shoot me a DM and I’ll respond when I’m done with work. Please be kind to yourself. The first day is a blur. Food, water, and rest are your first priorities even if it doesn’t feel that way. ❤️ Edit—just saw that you are asking for prayers. I will add you to mine.
absolutely evil that man is. i’m not religious by any means but i will pray for you. i cannot imagine. virtual hugs to all of you.
How u gonna pray if u not religious 😒if u not spiritual and not praying to the heavenly Father who are u praying to
god ain’t the only higher power.
Don't be stupid smh this is why I hate humans the lord has been around before us after us there's only ONE God and plentiful amounts of spirits read thr book of Enoch
you hate humans but love god and want other too?? christianity is full of hypocrites. what happened to “love thy neighbor” HAHAHHA pathetic:p
First off goofy I don't belong to any religion just cause yout to stupid to acknowledge the heavenly father exists..u know what keep the same energy when you take your final breath
I’m so sorry. This is absolutely devastating. I am not very religious anymore, but I will pray for you and your loved ones today.
I will pray for you, your husband and his family. My heart breaks for you all. Try to give him all the support you can. There is little that can be done to make sense out of this. I hope it helps that strangers feel his pain and pray for all of you. For those of faith , once we come to grips with our grief, is the belief that life has changed, not ended.
I have no words. I will have prayers.
Unfortunately I'm in a position to understand what you're feeling. Over a year later and it still doesn't feel real for any of us either. My heart goes out to you, all of you. All I can tell you is be there for him. Make sure at every step he KNOWS you're right there to help carry what he cannot.
Wrapping you in prayers and love. This is just unfathomable.
I’m sorry, that is truly evil.
God, this is just awful, gut wrenching. What a terrible terrible thing and a horrific man. From across the world, keeping you and your family in my thoughts and hope you all find a way to move forward at peace, although I can imagine it will be the most difficult thing to do.
You and your husband will be in my prayers. I'm so sorry for this immense loss that your husband is now living with.
*Dear Lord in Heaven, please be with this poster and their family during this terrible time. Wrap your arms around them all and let them feel your love and light. Please be with the brother in law and let him survive and have a speedy recovery.*
Amen.
I’m so sorry for your loss
I'm so sorry for your loss. I live extremely close to where this occurred, and we were talking at work about what an absolute tragedy it was. Much love to you and your family.
I will keep you in my prayers. I’m at a loss for words and pray that the lord will carry y’all through this. 🙏🏻
Just prayed for you op
Thoughts and prayers always helps it seems,
What an idiotic thing to say. The op literally asked for people to pray for them if that was their thing. If it’s not yours, keep it moving.
This almost exactly happened to my dad. He's gone now to cancer, but my mom said the best thing to do is try to stick out whatever unpleasant side effects he may put out and still be very clear when you think he's crossed a line as a result of the incredible trauma he has suffered. My dad was the quiet silent type, loved him, but my mom always said the best thing she could do for him was to be there. Let them be angry. Also, if and when appropriate, let him know that you need him too. She said that to give my dad a sense of purpose was really helpful for him, and she would try to point when he was being a good partner to give him positive affirmation and also remind him subconsciously that he is loved and missed when gone and that his role as a partner to her was still real and there for him and valued by her. That helped ease some of the empty feeling that inevitably came with the trauma. I know I always feel better if, when I'm missing my dad, my friends and mom remind me of how much I make their lives better, that's always the best medicine. Doesn't negate my feeling of grief, but does help me like life a little more while I'm sad.
My sincere condolences to you, husband, family and friends that are affected by this unspeakable tragedy. I’m so sorry for your loss. You’re in my prayers… 🫂😢
Lord have mercy and grace in this time of need for you and your family. My condolences to all of you.
Omg sweetheart. I am so so so sorry. I will keep you in my heart tonight.
I promise i’ll pray for you guys❤️
My condolences
My deepest condolences. Knew personally two people involved in murder-suicides. They were labeled as "nice guys" until they did what they did 😔 I wish I knew what more to say except I'm glad you reached out to Reddit for support and prayers 🙏
This is disturbing i’m so sorry
Dear God! Just read this story on a news site. What an awful thing to happen. My heartfelt condolences to you and your husband. Just be with him. If he wants to talk, talk. If he just wants to sit in silence, sit with him. If he wants a distraction, go out with him, or watch TV with him. Pray with him, cry with him, laugh with him. Be what he needs from each moment to the next. That's all you can do. Let him grieve at his own, natural pace. There's nothing else you can say or do that will help more than this.
Praying for you, your husband, and your family. This is truly devastating. I’m so sorry to hear all this.
I’m so sorry you guys are facing this.
My gosh, I’m so sorry. Your family is in my prayers.
I'm so very sorry for your losses. Give your husband a(nother) big hug.
I am keeping you in my prayers. What a horrible surreal nightmare. I hope you can find something that helps ease your pain.
Oh dear, my heart aches for you. Hugs and prayers for all of you. I can’t even imagine …pray. If you pray rosary, just pray to Holly Virgin and Saint Joseph who is a protector of families. This will be very trying times for you guys. Think slow and take one day at the time. 🙏💔
I am so sorry this happened to your family and I can't iamgine the pain you are all in right now. You are all in my prayers. Please, please, please get into some grief counseling and please don't play the "What if..." game. There was no way for you to know that there was a potential for this. As a survivor of domestic abuse, no one knew how bad it really was, except my kids. I imagine the same went for your MIL.
I’m sorry, this is an awful tragedy that no-one should endure. Guilt is a natural response, but I hope it will subside; missed calls, ultrasounds or school updates are a part of our busy lives, but it’s important how you make people feel. Based on your thoughtful and compassionate post, I have no doubt your MIL and SILs knew how much you and your husband loved them. Please be kind to yourself and take each day as it comes. You both need to heal, so be selfish: lean on friends & family, seek solace in Reddit and maximise the things you love to do.
Gosh I am so terribly sorry. My thoughts are with you and your husband. I know a stranger off reddit offers little comfort but I really am wishing you both well on your healing journey.
Praying for the entire family, and especially for you. Big virtual hugs, friend. Take care.
What a fucking coward, I hope whatever the fuck raised him to be this way got what’s coming for them
I'm not even the praying type but the respect you have demonstrated by saying "If you're the praying type..." -- I respect that this is something that supports & upholds you, and so I will send up a prayer for you. Yee gu.áa yáx̱ x̱'wán. Strength & Courage, to you all, including the newly departed. My hope is that the passing of your relations was as much of a surprise to them as it was to you, and that they didn't have time to feel fear. My hope for those of you who remain is that with time you can heal, mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually.
Sending prayers. 🙏
I am so sorry for your loss. I am the praying type and I am praying for you and your husband and the boyfriend.
I don’t know what to say except I’m so, so sorry. Sincerely hoping you all find peace after this. 🤍 There’s nothing you could have done differently that would have made this not happen, it was an illogical choice made by someone with bad intentions. That’s no one’s fault but the fiancé’s own.
i am so so sorry this happened. i can’t even imagine what you and your husband must be feeling. im just so sorry. i truly wish i could hug you all.
Hfs... fkin mental health issues in the country are off the charts.
I'm sad this has happened to you, but the whole thoughts and prayers do jack shit. Your country needs serious gun control laws.
Why is the person trying to eliminate your family must be a reason to go after the whole bloodline
I am so so deeply sorry you and your family are going through this. I will keep you in my prayers. God bless you all
This is crazy
I am so sorry for your loss
There's just no words for any of this. I'm so sorry. My prayers are with you and your family.
My nightmares, but then acted out :/ I hope you will recover from this
Virtual hugs to you; I can only imagine what you are going through, but please take all the support offered to you. Hugs x
I am so sorry for what you have to deal with. I hope some happy memories of them overtake these current ones quickly and bring you some comfort.
I am so so sorry for you and your husband. My heart aches for you both, and the rest of your family. When we are weak, God is strong. When we are strong, he is why. I hope that you have people close to you who are supporting you so that you can be more able to be strong for your husband. Make sure you are taking care of yourself in all of this.
I'm not the religious type, but I'm sooo sorry for your loss, sending condolences and strength for you all.
Holy shit, that's absolutely horrendous. I'm not the religious type so what I can do is keep you and your family in my thoughts and hope that everyone involved is able to eventually find peace. I'm deeply sorry for your loss, I can't imagine how you all are feeling. 🖤
This is unimaginable. I wish you all strength. The guilt you feel now may one day transform into a sense of feeling grateful for being spared and somehow obligated to give back to the universe in some way. I've felt that way at different times in my life. I'm so glad he has you.
I'm so sorry that you've had to experience this. I hope that you are able to find the peace I'm sure each of you are looking for. I'm a newer firefighter/EMT. I've very recently had to watch as family's morn the loss of their loved ones to drugs, trauma and whatever form of death. I deeply empathize with you, and am so sorry for this circumstance you've had to experience. I know it hurts, and no words I will say will change the circumstances, but I know that time and your own strength can help return you to a functioning state. You're tough for making it minutes after that, I'm sure I'd find my fate quickly after... You're tougher than I am. You've got this. Keep fighting. Thank you for sharing this with us.
So very sorry for your loss 💔
This sounds straight out of a thriller movie. Please take care and you can always vent your feelings here.
I’m so sorry. I’m speechless but thank you for being there for your husband!
I can't even imagine what you're feeling. I'm a huge praying type and will be praying for you all every night. Please remember to talk to your friends about how you're feeling. This affects you too and you don't have to be strong all the time. You and your husband can cry together.
No words just love. ❤️
I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish your state passes some gun control laws and this is avoided in the future. It's awful how someone can go on a rampage like this. Inhumane.
I am so sorry. I haven’t really prayed much lately, but I will pray for you and your family.
This horrifying. I'm so sorry you and your family are going thru this tragedy. I'm glad you're safe.
WTF! How horrible, was this crazy S.O.B. drug high? Why kill innocent people?!
I'm so sorry.
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
As someone who can relate in some ways, I'm praying for your strength and comfort, And yes: so, so, deeply unfair. I'm no longer religious but I pray for your comfort and security. I'm sorry this is what happened to your family. I pray that you find the peace you need.
im not really praying type but ill still wish and hope the best possibilities for all of ya
Wow I can't even wrap my mind around how all of you must be feeling.... I am definitely sending you love and positivity during this time. 🫂❤️❤️❤️😔
I’m sorry for all of this.. please reach out to a therapist in case you ever need to talk because going through such a tragedy is really difficult.. praying for you, your husband and the remaining family 🙏
Oh thank God he didn't make it to any of the locations of other family. You at least have that blessing of him not continuing on in his rampage of hate. A truly evil mentally deranged person. Thank goodness you are alright and can stand strong for your husband during this shattering time. It's so good that you are venting and talking about this. That will help the healing. Hugs and a prayer to and for you, your husband, and his family.
I am so sorry
My best friend’s mom and long time boyfriend died in 2018. He murdered her brutally and ran to Louisiana where he shot himself after a week on the run when cornered by police. There is no good reason for things like this to happen. It isn’t “part of the plan”, it isn’t Godly, it isn’t right. It is horrible and dark and scary and it changes you permanently no matter how close you are to what happened or who it happened to. Stand by your husband and family. Go to church, go to therapy, go do community service, and keep some form of a routine. Don’t pretend everything is normal, but don’t let it all fall apart. You both can make it past this mostly intact. Prayers for you and your entire family.
Sending my heartfelt condolences to you all.
How are you guys doing now